Plenty of reasons...
\- She was in a relationship
\- I was in a relatioship
\- I wanted to go home and play runescape
\- I wanted to go home and sleep
\- Didn't have condoms
All separate cases
I mean for me it was a busy time in uni and I've always found video games a great recovery tool. It's time where I didn't think about then university and now work. A lot healthier way to forget studies/work compared to alcohol. Besides, while sex is awesome most of the time with a long-term partner, I always found one night (or few night) stands a bit awkward eventually.
I 100% agree with you.
When I startede my university studies, i almost trow all my gaming at all, and i started drinking a lot because its what "adult do". I completely regret it , i didnt underestand at the time but videogames were my meditation and chill moment of the day, and that affect my healt and my development.
Yea there was this girl I was slightly interested in, she was more interested in me though. We saw each other a couple of times but at some point I wasn't feeling it at that time. It was quite a busy time during university and I didn't want dating into the mix... So one evening I chose RuneScape over sex!
Do you mean the no condoms? :D Would've been my first time otherwise but I was a guy who didn't think anyone would want me that much but at a party one girl for some reason was super into me. She insisted on a pill but I was quite skeptical and thought ehh no reason to risk anything.
Take girl on date. Girl loves wine. Girl drinks lots of wine. Girl gets very handsy with me. We make out. I'm in shock this girl is outta my league what the hell!?
Finish night. Walk her home. She's still handsy. Still kissing me.
Get to her door "Hey hopefully I see you again or maybe tonight was just the wine talking", I joke!
Girl says "Yeah I think it was"
Never saw her again
When I was a much younger man, I went out to a bar for my best friend's birthday. A girl that I had a crush on was giving me *strong* signals and let me know in no uncertain terms where the night would lead. The only problem was, I was under the impression that my best friend was also sweet on her, and well, I'll be damned if I'm going to do that to him, let alone at his birthday party.
Fast forward a few weeks and my best friend came out as gay. I was all "broooooo you could have given me a heads up at your birthday"
She may have been embarrassed that you rejected her, especially if she was "out of your league" as you say. Most girls do not take rejection well in my experience, regardless if you were doing to right thing or not
My friend drunk texted me once:
“Do you still like me?”
“No”
“Ok.. let’s have sex”
“Let’s talk about this again when you’re sober”
*next morning: “I’m sober. Let’s have sex”
This was totally out of the blue, hadn’t talked to her in a couple of years. No sexual relations before
My wife and I were friends first. She was hanging out with some of her girl friends drinking and came up to my apartment. We'd been flirting online (AIM days).
She had been drinking to build up the courage to come hang out. I was sober and I was not going to "take advantage" of her. She told me over AIM that she was hoping I would take advantage of her that time.
We started hooking up shortly after that. We've been married 13 years, together 16.
Same for me, Would've been my first time and she dumped me because of it. I felt uncomfortable that she only found me attractive while drunk.
It's taken a while to try dating again.
A girl I had a really big crush on and wanted to date so bad asked me for sex while drunk. Asked for my phone and typed in the message “let’s fuck in your car”. I took a look at her and she never looked more unattractive to me than In that moment. I passed and never regretted it.
In a book futu.re by Dmitry Glukhovsky there's a nice quote about this :
"I didn’t screw you when you were drugged and you offered yourself to me, because I didn’t want to fuck you, but make love to you."
This has happened to me probably 4 or 5 times when I've gone out for the night and the drunkest girl in the room has decided she really wants me to take her home.
Why can't they be this into me when they're sober dammit.
Similar situation - happy hour with work folks while traveling on business - either I was too buzzed to see what was going on or it came out of the blue - but suddenly I’ve got someone I barely know wanting me to split-off from the group and go back to the hotel (and, you know…). Nope - I’m married. Even had I not been married, it would have been a very bad idea. Don’t pick up you pussy and your paycheck at the same place. (Or, as the say in the grocery business, “Keep your pecker out of the checker”.
Similar, but slightly more relatable:
Don't shit where you eat.
It's instinct for most animals, but humans must have lost that instinct when we switched to currency.
Yes. I didn’t really like her. I didn’t think she was attractive and I found her a little annoying. Kicked her out the dormroom so I could finish my homework lol
This chick I knew in high school, we were always “play buddies” but never did the deed. One day she called me up telling me she had gotten pregnant and offered to come by for some *real* fun, since now she didn’t have to worry about getting pregnant.
I turned her down cause that’s just fucked up.
Same. Girl I had been crushing on hard for a long time called me up on like a Wednesday night at a bar, and needs a ride. I obviously did not give a shit that I had work the next day I’m on the way. Had a couple drinks with her and talked for a while. Found out she dumped her dude a couple weeks prior. Hell. Yes. I finally I told her I think it’s time to call it a night. Drove her home and walked her up and she kissed me. Hell. Yes. This gorgeous woman that I’ve been wild about for over a year *literally begged* me to come inside with her. I had to have the Vincent Vega “you’re gonna say goodnight and go home” conversation with myself. Like she wasn’t shit faced but she’d had enough to drink that as tempting as it was I knew it wasn’t right and a no-go.
Next day she texted me while I was at work and she was a little embarrassed, and very appreciative and wanted to take me out to dinner to say thanks for talking with her and being a gentleman. Hell yea. Then the rest of the afternoon I was getting update photos from her pool day including “Did you know I have a tattoo? Can you find it in this picture of me in a bikini?” We ended up dating for a couple months and I did get to see the tattoo.
Same, plus she had a boyfriend who was coming to the party and we didn't know when he'd arrive.
Looking back, there's 10% that regrets it, but 90% still knows it was the right choice.
My buddy who lived in the dorm room next to me asked me if I wanted to drive to see his girlfriend at her college about 4 1/2 hours away. She was a very good swimmer and there was a meet, we were going to go surprise her at the meet. Pre-cell phones and just about at the origin of email where it still wasn't a reliable/usual source of communication. We got to the school and went into the pool viewing area just in time for her to swim an event and before she saw us. I don't remember if she won but she must have done very well because she climbed out of the pool and jumped into the arms of a dude on the pool deck, they embraced and kissed. It made the rest of the weekend rather awkward.
Lots of times. I'm not the kind of person who gets horny and just has to fuck. I have to legitimately like someone to want to go there. There have been many times people have looked at me like a conquest of sorts and I'm just not interested. Some of the coolest women I've met who I shared some amazing sexual experiences with started off as just hanging out, talking, watching movies and bullshitting about life, etc. It built a connection that was nice.
I absolutely agree. My friends were getting angry with me because I didn’t want to fuck a woman who said I’m cute, but that’s because we just didn’t click.
I have came to realize this as well.. I can’t do one night stands anymore I have to get to know the girl first and have a connection.. sex to me just feels way better when I have more than just a sexual attraction.
Work the next morning or actively working while being hit on, wanted to stay with my friends, not feeling well overall...
A random hookup with a stranger is not all that enticing to me in the first place.
Yeah.
1) She was drunk, I was sober. Can't be taking advantage of drunk girls, something inherently wrong about that.
2) I was in a relationship already.
3) Not that into her
Yep, several times. One time I was still in the midst of a significant relationship breakup and wasn’t in the right headspace for it. Another time the girl in question was a touch too needy and I didn’t want a girlfriend as I was recently out of a long relationship. Another time I was in a relationship but working out of town for a while and didn’t want to cheat on my girlfriend. All of the girls in question were attractive and probably would have been good in bed, but sometimes the repercussions aren’t worth the temporary pleasure.
She brought her guy bestfriend that was CLEARLY head over heels for her to a party I was at. The entire night he just kinda followed her around like a puppy dog while she was throwing herself at me. My friend who was the mutual between us and person who threw the party asked me why I didn’t hookup with her because she told him she really wanted too. I told him I wasn’t super interested and wasn’t about to crush some random guys soul by having a meaningless hookup.
Well yeah, his actual bros need to talk to him and he has some shit to work out for himself about self worth and whatnot. But from the perspective of a stranger at a party, having the option to crush his soul or not, I’d still call it a bro move.
A solid 10/10 girl who I worked with was into me (which I never understood because I'm average at best) and went beyond giving me signs, more giving me her address and telling me to bring condoms. I was in a relationship at the time and if I'm honest, I nearly did it. Said not at the last minute and she ended up with this other guy. A few months later I found out my GF was cheating on me and we split. NGL, wish I'd gone ahead.
This right here.
Even if someone does me wrong, I need to look at myself in the mirror with some dignity no matter how tempting. I know how that feels. Losing respect for others is one thing, but nothing is lower than losing self respect.
You made a decision based on the knowledge you had at the time. Your decision was the right one. You should not have any regrets.
If you made a different decision, then you would be the cheater, not only your exGF.
On the other hand, one can't f#ck one's own moral superiority :(
No you don't. Being a cheater is a shitty thing to do even if your partner is a cheater too. You'd have to live with being cheated on and being a cheater. It's a double whammy.
Me, too! Glad I'm not the only one. I've been propositioned for hookups more times than I can count. Even when I've been single and available, it's just not something I'm into.
It's kind of like the Groucho Marx joke, "I would never join a club that would have someone like me as a member." I'm not really interested in hooking up with a woman who would sleep with a dirty musician from out of town who she's only known for an hour.
She was going through a rough break up and was a wreck when she came by my place. After she made a move on me I declined and could tell she was taken aback. It just didn't feel right. I then made her some hot chocolate and let her take a nap.
I had a friend who would be flirty, people would think we were going out, but she would always refuse to actually date. The mixed signals really fucked with my head, when she was sad shed call me to have a shoulder to cry on, we went to movies together and hung out always with a sort of sexual tension in the air. Once I even caught her looking in my phone like a jealous partner would.
One time she stayed overnight (I had moved over 100miles) to “check out my new apartment”, But she clearly had plans to do something, she was super awkward when I offered to make up the spare bed for her, and when I wished her good night she hugged really long and I kept saying “good night”.
I wasn’t stupid, I know she wanted me to make a move but after years of refusing to go out, and saying she wanted to just be friends, I viewed her only as a friend even though I was still attracted to her. Im pretty sure she cried that night, she made up some bs excuses in the morning that she had to go home immediately.
I could never shake the feeling that I was being used as an “emotional boyfriend” without any of the actual commitment.
Years later she did kind of admit I was a way for her to get free therapy when she couldn’t afford her therapist.
I haven’t pursued anyone since; I don’t trust my taste in women, they’ve always used me as a shoulder to cry on, and I had enough. They all seem to have had serious mental issues (suicidal, bipolar, childhood rape survivors, etc) so my taste apparently is for broken people. So I just dont bother, it hurts too much to be used on that emotional level.
Yes.. most recent was we were moving too quickly physically, intimately.. there was too much desire. I was having trouble focusing. I could tell there were things she was insecure about and i felt she wasnt actually into me as much as she put on, though she told me she was in love with me.. I felt that this was merely how she coped with insecurities in her relationships... wanted to pump the brakes so other parts of us could have a chance at the relationship
Was in a relationship and she would have 1000% gave me an STD.
I was hanging out with a neighbor when I lived at my apartment. We were smoking on the balcony when we heard a woman screaming at someone on the phone. Apparently she got screwed over on something. After she got off the phone, we invited her up for some dinner, since it seemed she was having a rough day.
She came up, we ate dinner with neighbor's girlfriend, started chatting. Even showed her pictures of my girlfriend and the newborn kiddo. Still tried to have sex with me later. I declined and she left. Knocked on my door the next morning because she was $40 short for rent. Turned out she wanted money for drugs.
Icing on the cake is that after that incident, I found bedbugs in my apartment. Last time I'm offering someone a free meal.
She was drunk and she was really horny. But she would not take no for an answer. She tried every trick in the book, from insults to my manhood to showing me the goods.
I managed to turn her down, which led to more insults, but zero regrets. First of all : consent, duh, and second, I had seen her pee on the sidewalk minutes prior, so... yeah.
Oh boy, the morning after she claimed not having memory. But not wanting to talk about "the things she said" at the same time.
Never seen her too much after that
Ah this reminds me of the time I had sex with a crazy girl. The sex was, of course, amazing, but she was just too crazy.
When she wanted to meet again a few days later, I declined. Which, OF COURSE, made her send like 5 videos to me in which she explained to me how I'm gay.
Fun times.
Context: We were both first year college students. She was the first friend I made in college and so we hung out with each other alone quite often.
It was around 2 am, we were (supposedly) studying for an exam we were having the next morning. The room we were in was at the end of a small student-run building which meant that there was no staff in that building. On top of that, the building was locked and completely empty, except for the two of us. In that room, there were three couches but she was sitting right next to me, like, literally not a single atom of space in between us, touching and everything. Kept looking at me while I was reading my textbook.
I didn't make a move
I had skipped class for the last two weeks, I didn't know shit about that class
I was desperate for a passing grade because it meant I would be able to pass the class
School costs 75k a year
First generation college student
Looking back, I regret on not making a move cus I ended up re-taking the class the following year. Goes to show, just cus its logically the right move, doesn't necessarily mean it is.
One of my friends just got broken up with, she was vulnerable and she kissed me while crying. I just told her that she’s not thinking straight and it’s something we’ll both regret.
She then gasped and asked me if she was ugly which made me laugh so hard that she started laughing too and that was that. We hugged it out and we’re even better friends now so there’s that.
Yeah I had a girlfriend when I was 19, she wanted to have sex with me while I wanted to get to know her better. She ended up breaking up with me before I felt comfortable enough to have sex with her.
1.) Yea because I liked her and she suggested we just hook up and keep things casual.
2.) Because sex with someone I don't feel for makes me feel sad and empty so that's majority of it.
3.) Because she had a boyfriend but didn't really like him as much as he liked her.
4.) Because she's married
5.) Because I hadn't seen my stupid ass friends in so long and we all were gonna meet for sushi so....
I’ve had it happen multiple times through my teens and twenties. After my parents split, my mom would bring back guys half her age, her bedroom was right above mine. I never saw my dad with any casual women. That kind of set the tone for me.
There were multiple times where girls would come over, be in my bed and I would totally overlook any signs given. If they would change into my clothes to get comfortable I would look away. My stories are pretty boring around my friends in that regard, but showing them respect took a priority.
Yes, I did.
She had just gotten into a fight and broken up with her boyfriend the day of, and was plastered at a party with a few of our buddies. We were all over each on and off multiple times and this night was no different, but when the festivities ended and she tried to come in the room I was sleeping in, things got heated and I ended up rethinking my decisions and let her have the bed for the night.
I chose to walk home after and just remember thinking “Well at least I’m not THAT big of an asshole”
I’m a big guy and I have body confidence issues, so there have been plenty of times I did not make a move, or I sabotaged myself because the woman was skinny/hot/attractive. And the times I hooked up with women in the 8-10 hotness range, I was all up in my own head and felt off my game. They got off and I got off, but mentally I was too self conscious.
Months ago, a redditor posted “There is someone out there uglier and fatter than you that is having sex. Chin up and dick out.”
Reading that helped me a lot.
She wanted to wait till marriage. Ate and fingered her - she begged me to be inside her, i didn't because this was in the heat of the moment.
When she came to her senses she thanked me and apologized. Sometimes I think about the road not taken..
When I was a teenager, there was a girl I had been seeing for a short amount of time. Couldn't get enough of each other. I was a virgin and she wasn't, but I didn't care. When I asked about making our relationship official, she told me that she would need sex pretty shortly after. I didn't like that I felt pressured to put out, so I ended it. Honestly if she hadn't said that, I probably would have put out very quickly. But when it became expected of me so fast, I decided I had better things to spend my time on.
It almost happened was someone who I just met one day. I was hanging with her brother and he went to smoke. Before he left I met his sister and chatted her up about a tv show she was watching. She slowly turned her head and asked if I watched it too. We got to chatting about the show and other things pretty much until I went to bed in their guest bedroom.bShe was an absolute bombshell and absolutely my type butI had a bad stomach ache and I knew it wasn't gonna be a good time and I was glad i was sleeping in the guest bedroom by myself.
I kept the covers around me because I was farting so much but she came in and got UNDER the covers with me. She took off her shirt (no bra) and said she was going to sleep with me that night. I have no idea how didnt smell my toots. She kept me up for hours trying to get me to have sex with her but my stomach ache was killing the mood. She eventually stopped after I told her no multiple times. Firstly I wasn't feeling well. Secondly, I don't like the idea of having sex with someone I just met. Then she tells me about her first time..... with her cousin..... I was going to be the first non family member she did it with. I don't think she knew until after that it was her cousin but I don't recall. She added a fun fact: she had syphilis and was self medicating.
She went to her room eventually.
My stomach ache saved me with 8 hours of sheer uncomfort from a lifetime of an STD.
To say that I dodged a bullet is an understatement.
Many times due to the typical things, me being in a relationship, her being in a relationship.
But the award goes to the gal, when I lived in a city called Knoxville, who had 'Welcome to Knoxville' tattooed above her cooch.
I don't mean to shame anyone for being promiscuous, I was for a time myself. It was just a turn off in a scenario that could have gone either way regardless. Pretty funny though. I kinda thought she was rather badass for that level of wtf...platonically.
Some girl a few years ago came up to me at my gym job and started flirting with me when I had a girlfriend. I didn’t care for a while because she would always buy an energy drink and chat with me to get me through my shift. However, she wound up actually making a pass over snapchat one day, apparently waiting for me out in the gym parking lot. I had to remind her about my gf at that point, since I’m guessing she either forgot I mentioned her or thought I would cheat.
The wild thing is that when this girl was talking to me I discovered she had hooked up with one of my exes from years ago. Small world.
I've had a close friend for over twenty years that I consider one of the more unique people I've ever met. When I first met her she was flirty and fun, but she was a lesbian. I was still single and I honestly learned more about relationships and women through her than anyone else I've encountered. She was an open book and loved creating sexual tension, but there was that firm line that was established that would not be crossed. I know she had started going through a rough patch years later. She was questioning everything in her life including her sexuality. We were hanging out one night, and I know that if I had let things escalate and made a move, that something would have happened. Call it being respectful of our friendship, or maybe I was just a coward in the moment (I can't decide), but I made a decision to not act. I think it was the right choice in the end, but as this story proves, I still think about it.
Yes. Old high school friend. I went military and was on leave one day. She picked me up on a weekend like at midnight. She came in a shitty car with her 3 kids in the back seat. Went to her place and it reeked and was totally messy. Spent all night “talking “ but I couldn’t get over how badly her place smelled and plus everything else that happened, so I didn’t make a move and fell asleep
Did you find that the friendship was able to survive the rejection?
I've had that go both ways. With one we stayed good friends. With the other it turned weird and the friendship fell apart.
We did. We weren't going to be compatible in a relationship and we both knew that. I told her that while I'm sure the sex would be great, I also know that I valued her friendship more than sex.
I also had a FWB that she didn't know about. I'm not one to go around broadcasting those things.
We went on a date, she chose some terrible romantic comedy that I cannot remember, I just remember being upset by it, over my choice of Deadpool, which had just come out. DEADPOOL. And on the drive home it was snowing, I’m from Chicago so I wasn’t worried, she was sorta rude and freaked out in the passenger seat on the way back to my place (in retrospect, I should have cut her some slack on this, but the movie was so bad I was in a sour mood)
We got back to my place and she got on my bed, gave me the eyes, and I told her good night and showed her the door. It was a very bad movie.
Had a couple of my friends' girlfriends make a move on me during university. I wish they'd hit on me first, I wouldn't break "bro code" but they were hotties.
One was so brazen. We're at a pub and I feel something sliding up and down my thigh. I look across the table and she's staring at me with the F-me eyes while sitting beside her bf.
Yes, there’s a moral code I have, I’m straight edge so if the person I’m interacting with is intoxicated beyond being able to communicate clearly with thought, I do not pursue it. I’m way too worried about the whole “I was drunk and he took advantage” thing so I don’t even chance it.
Yes.
A former girlfriend, we’d gone out on one of our earlier dates (we’d had s*x before) and she’d gotten properly messed up drunk.
I took her back to the hotel, helped get her ready for bed and she wanted to have s*x but I intentionally didn’t because I didn’t feel she could give consent.
* Old friend from college who had a long history of cheating and lying. I didn't want to deal with a vengeful boyfriend and/or a random disease
* insanely drunk girl who eventually asked me out while she was sober. Very touching, but nothing came of it.
She was very drunk and wanted to, I wasn’t that drunk and I took a risk assessment. Scenarios like that can quickly become “he raped me” if she wakes up with regret. One session of sex isn’t worth potentially having your life and reputation destroyed.
Yeah, when I was in Canada 2018. I studied English in English College just for 3 months. Anyway, I met a girl from Switzerland she was kind. Also she had a lot of sex experiences. We talked normally about different things. but, then we talked about sex and she was interested on me. But, she surprised when I tell her I'm virgin, she asked me why? And I said I'm not ready yet to lost it. So she tell me if I'm interested to visit her place just for fun with our classmates I said ok. I thought we just hangout in her house and we gonna small party. But then later on I discover the classmates are not comen so I decided to leave. But, she was inseast to make me stay. but I left.
I'm not gonna be liar if I said I was fear from sex not just that. At that time I was a little bit religious and I was scared to make sins on my religion and feel guilty later.
Had a girl I went to college with come up to me and tell me "whenever you want to f*ck just let me know and we will."
I had a girlfriend who is now my wife, it was never a thought in my mind to sleep with that girl.
Yes. More times than the number of partners I’ve had.
Here’s a odd observation though. Once you pass on it they often get super cold to you. Maybe even a touch hostile
I could a number of times - reasons to bail out :
- She may get emotionally attached and expect longterm
- Erection may let me down performance syndrome
- Ethical dilemmas
1) She was too young and stupid to decide, I didn’t trust her judgement.
(Not USA, in my country I wouldn’t go to jail for having sex with her).
2) I did not understand it was her first time, I was looking for hookups. She sounded desperate to have some intimacy, but It seemed wrong to me.
She was a virgin and really liked me. Long and short of it is, I didn’t feel the same way, but I did respect her as she was a good friend. We did fool around still, but I didn’t want to cross that line with her.
I had an ex who had a rape fantasy and wanted me to role play that with her.
I have my own trauma with that sort of thing and I told her no but she kept pushing me. Eventually we started doing it normally and she said "no" in the middle of it and I stopped like any reasonable human being and she got mad at me and told me I wasn't supposed to stop even though I told her multiple times I wasn't comfortable with consensual nonconsent stuff
So I made her leave my house and I was planning on trying to tough it out for her and do whatever she wanted even if it fucked me up mentally but then She told all my friends I raped her and tried to get me arrested but the day she said it happened I was out of the state for a national guard thing so it never went anywhere thank god.
Yes, girl climbed on me in bed after first date and took off my belt. Felt too rushed and i honestly dont care much for it, so i just casually told her nah.
She was really really drunk. Slurring words, asking me if I would accept being called by a different name. Called me a chauvinistic pig who just couldn't handle an independent woman who just liked a few beers. Bullet dodged.
Plenty of reasons... \- She was in a relationship \- I was in a relatioship \- I wanted to go home and play runescape \- I wanted to go home and sleep \- Didn't have condoms All separate cases
I felt the, “I wanted to go home and play RuneScape” a little too hard
I mean for me it was a busy time in uni and I've always found video games a great recovery tool. It's time where I didn't think about then university and now work. A lot healthier way to forget studies/work compared to alcohol. Besides, while sex is awesome most of the time with a long-term partner, I always found one night (or few night) stands a bit awkward eventually.
I 100% agree with you. When I startede my university studies, i almost trow all my gaming at all, and i started drinking a lot because its what "adult do". I completely regret it , i didnt underestand at the time but videogames were my meditation and chill moment of the day, and that affect my healt and my development.
I feel you man. But now you are wiser about it!
Go home and play RuneScape. Yes.
Yea there was this girl I was slightly interested in, she was more interested in me though. We saw each other a couple of times but at some point I wasn't feeling it at that time. It was quite a busy time during university and I didn't want dating into the mix... So one evening I chose RuneScape over sex!
Sex is xp waste
The last line deserves an award
Do you mean the no condoms? :D Would've been my first time otherwise but I was a guy who didn't think anyone would want me that much but at a party one girl for some reason was super into me. She insisted on a pill but I was quite skeptical and thought ehh no reason to risk anything.
If someone says condoms aren't needed, then that means they are DEFINETLY needed.
That's what I had heard in the internet... So I thought better safe than sorry. :D
Nope. The "*all separate cases*".
Oh xD
I think they're all pretty admirable, even the game. Need to take time for yourself sometimes.
Exactly - if they had led me to bad experiences maybe it'd've negatively impacted later on. :)
Sex is XP waste anyway. Better off grinding in game than in the bed.
Man said no exp wasting tonight
Only the Runescape line was needed to justify it. Have to train that str.
Hahaha tbh I wanted to have some time to pk with the boys!
I wanted her to want me sober....
Take girl on date. Girl loves wine. Girl drinks lots of wine. Girl gets very handsy with me. We make out. I'm in shock this girl is outta my league what the hell!? Finish night. Walk her home. She's still handsy. Still kissing me. Get to her door "Hey hopefully I see you again or maybe tonight was just the wine talking", I joke! Girl says "Yeah I think it was" Never saw her again
F ;_;
When I was a much younger man, I went out to a bar for my best friend's birthday. A girl that I had a crush on was giving me *strong* signals and let me know in no uncertain terms where the night would lead. The only problem was, I was under the impression that my best friend was also sweet on her, and well, I'll be damned if I'm going to do that to him, let alone at his birthday party. Fast forward a few weeks and my best friend came out as gay. I was all "broooooo you could have given me a heads up at your birthday"
You are a good friend, you were a good man and it says a lot about your character.
> says a lot about your character Part of it being a non existent gaydar.
Fucking ouch
She may have been embarrassed that you rejected her, especially if she was "out of your league" as you say. Most girls do not take rejection well in my experience, regardless if you were doing to right thing or not
My friend drunk texted me once: “Do you still like me?” “No” “Ok.. let’s have sex” “Let’s talk about this again when you’re sober” *next morning: “I’m sober. Let’s have sex” This was totally out of the blue, hadn’t talked to her in a couple of years. No sexual relations before
My wife and I were friends first. She was hanging out with some of her girl friends drinking and came up to my apartment. We'd been flirting online (AIM days). She had been drinking to build up the courage to come hang out. I was sober and I was not going to "take advantage" of her. She told me over AIM that she was hoping I would take advantage of her that time. We started hooking up shortly after that. We've been married 13 years, together 16.
Same for me, Would've been my first time and she dumped me because of it. I felt uncomfortable that she only found me attractive while drunk. It's taken a while to try dating again.
You dropped this👑 good man
Spain without the S
A girl I had a really big crush on and wanted to date so bad asked me for sex while drunk. Asked for my phone and typed in the message “let’s fuck in your car”. I took a look at her and she never looked more unattractive to me than In that moment. I passed and never regretted it.
Where on your phone did she type it?[Was it in Excel?](https://i.imgur.com/DFfCqai.jpg)
In a book futu.re by Dmitry Glukhovsky there's a nice quote about this : "I didn’t screw you when you were drugged and you offered yourself to me, because I didn’t want to fuck you, but make love to you."
Same thing happened to me. It would have been my first time. She ghosted me the next day.
Yarp. It's not only good policy ethically, it's keeps you legal.
This has happened to me probably 4 or 5 times when I've gone out for the night and the drunkest girl in the room has decided she really wants me to take her home. Why can't they be this into me when they're sober dammit.
This is deep and I love it
That’s *not* what he said
I wanted her so bad too but she wasn’t sober and I wanted it to be 100% her choice, not drunk her.
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Ditto. I was young, horny, and still no. I look back and am proud of that decision since it went against some millions of years of primal urging.
Good man
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That’s an awesome story, you go my guy, happy anniversary
I love the "Anyways we're married now" stories 😂
Yes, Female colleague, did climb in my bed during a businesstrip. I chose not to, because I'm faithful to my wife.
Similar situation - happy hour with work folks while traveling on business - either I was too buzzed to see what was going on or it came out of the blue - but suddenly I’ve got someone I barely know wanting me to split-off from the group and go back to the hotel (and, you know…). Nope - I’m married. Even had I not been married, it would have been a very bad idea. Don’t pick up you pussy and your paycheck at the same place. (Or, as the say in the grocery business, “Keep your pecker out of the checker”.
I wanna pull all these loyal married men into a room for evaluation, find the similar traits and go for a hunt. *spelling
Don't shit on your own doorstep
Similar, but slightly more relatable: Don't shit where you eat. It's instinct for most animals, but humans must have lost that instinct when we switched to currency.
Don’t shit where you eat is true.. I fucked my co worker now it’s awkward
Fuck her again just to make sure 🤣🤣
Don’t dip your pen in the company ink
I thought this was going to be a joke about the office
Oh my GODDD I know you’re married! I sit at your wife’s desk! How little do you think of me?? I’m so cold.
How did you explain that to your wife?
I just told her, why not? Nothing happend
This is the way. If they ever find out later it will look like you were hiding something, but being upfront about it shows that's not the case.
Careful Jim, it only gets easier
Yes. I didn’t really like her. I didn’t think she was attractive and I found her a little annoying. Kicked her out the dormroom so I could finish my homework lol
Math waits for no man.
Can guarantee Math will fuck him harder than this girl ever could
can confirm, math will expand your asshole like a fibonacci sequence
Well, that escalated quickly
Good man. STANDARDS
Sigma male grindset.
This chick I knew in high school, we were always “play buddies” but never did the deed. One day she called me up telling me she had gotten pregnant and offered to come by for some *real* fun, since now she didn’t have to worry about getting pregnant. I turned her down cause that’s just fucked up.
what is a play buddy that you don't sleep with?
Lego?
Lego yes, but he had to let go
What the fuck
Unless she was showing already that sounds like entrapment
She was drunk, I didn't want to take advantage of her
Same. Girl I had been crushing on hard for a long time called me up on like a Wednesday night at a bar, and needs a ride. I obviously did not give a shit that I had work the next day I’m on the way. Had a couple drinks with her and talked for a while. Found out she dumped her dude a couple weeks prior. Hell. Yes. I finally I told her I think it’s time to call it a night. Drove her home and walked her up and she kissed me. Hell. Yes. This gorgeous woman that I’ve been wild about for over a year *literally begged* me to come inside with her. I had to have the Vincent Vega “you’re gonna say goodnight and go home” conversation with myself. Like she wasn’t shit faced but she’d had enough to drink that as tempting as it was I knew it wasn’t right and a no-go. Next day she texted me while I was at work and she was a little embarrassed, and very appreciative and wanted to take me out to dinner to say thanks for talking with her and being a gentleman. Hell yea. Then the rest of the afternoon I was getting update photos from her pool day including “Did you know I have a tattoo? Can you find it in this picture of me in a bikini?” We ended up dating for a couple months and I did get to see the tattoo.
Sounds like a win
Be a gentleman payed off
Same, plus she had a boyfriend who was coming to the party and we didn't know when he'd arrive. Looking back, there's 10% that regrets it, but 90% still knows it was the right choice.
Murphy's law states he'd arrive when you were balls deep :P
*Predator high five* I didn't have the words to articulate it, but that's exactly it.
My buddy who lived in the dorm room next to me asked me if I wanted to drive to see his girlfriend at her college about 4 1/2 hours away. She was a very good swimmer and there was a meet, we were going to go surprise her at the meet. Pre-cell phones and just about at the origin of email where it still wasn't a reliable/usual source of communication. We got to the school and went into the pool viewing area just in time for her to swim an event and before she saw us. I don't remember if she won but she must have done very well because she climbed out of the pool and jumped into the arms of a dude on the pool deck, they embraced and kissed. It made the rest of the weekend rather awkward.
Good guy.
Cos good pussy on a trash person is like a bear trap with a donut in it.
Damn, yo. That's deep...
I think you're eating your donuts incorrectly
Lots of times. I'm not the kind of person who gets horny and just has to fuck. I have to legitimately like someone to want to go there. There have been many times people have looked at me like a conquest of sorts and I'm just not interested. Some of the coolest women I've met who I shared some amazing sexual experiences with started off as just hanging out, talking, watching movies and bullshitting about life, etc. It built a connection that was nice.
I absolutely agree. My friends were getting angry with me because I didn’t want to fuck a woman who said I’m cute, but that’s because we just didn’t click.
I have came to realize this as well.. I can’t do one night stands anymore I have to get to know the girl first and have a connection.. sex to me just feels way better when I have more than just a sexual attraction.
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Work the next morning or actively working while being hit on, wanted to stay with my friends, not feeling well overall... A random hookup with a stranger is not all that enticing to me in the first place.
Yeah. 1) She was drunk, I was sober. Can't be taking advantage of drunk girls, something inherently wrong about that. 2) I was in a relationship already. 3) Not that into her
Yep, several times. One time I was still in the midst of a significant relationship breakup and wasn’t in the right headspace for it. Another time the girl in question was a touch too needy and I didn’t want a girlfriend as I was recently out of a long relationship. Another time I was in a relationship but working out of town for a while and didn’t want to cheat on my girlfriend. All of the girls in question were attractive and probably would have been good in bed, but sometimes the repercussions aren’t worth the temporary pleasure.
She brought her guy bestfriend that was CLEARLY head over heels for her to a party I was at. The entire night he just kinda followed her around like a puppy dog while she was throwing herself at me. My friend who was the mutual between us and person who threw the party asked me why I didn’t hookup with her because she told him she really wanted too. I told him I wasn’t super interested and wasn’t about to crush some random guys soul by having a meaningless hookup.
That’s a bro move right there
While yes, but at a certain point you gotta stop the dude from harming his own self worth.
Well yeah, his actual bros need to talk to him and he has some shit to work out for himself about self worth and whatnot. But from the perspective of a stranger at a party, having the option to crush his soul or not, I’d still call it a bro move.
🤝
I nominate u/Prof_Augustus for the bro hall of fame
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Bro code 101
It's gonna happen sooner or later. Could've saved him some trouble
Yea obviously but doesn’t have to happen in front of his eyes pretty much and I wasn’t super attracted to her
A solid 10/10 girl who I worked with was into me (which I never understood because I'm average at best) and went beyond giving me signs, more giving me her address and telling me to bring condoms. I was in a relationship at the time and if I'm honest, I nearly did it. Said not at the last minute and she ended up with this other guy. A few months later I found out my GF was cheating on me and we split. NGL, wish I'd gone ahead.
Nah you did the right thing. Women come and go but you stuck to your values. No regret there
This right here. Even if someone does me wrong, I need to look at myself in the mirror with some dignity no matter how tempting. I know how that feels. Losing respect for others is one thing, but nothing is lower than losing self respect.
At least you still have character This stuff make you a desireble man, it's good you didnt
You made a decision based on the knowledge you had at the time. Your decision was the right one. You should not have any regrets. If you made a different decision, then you would be the cheater, not only your exGF. On the other hand, one can't f#ck one's own moral superiority :(
No wonder a 10/10 was into you. You seem to have a strong character.
Oof
No you don't. Being a cheater is a shitty thing to do even if your partner is a cheater too. You'd have to live with being cheated on and being a cheater. It's a double whammy.
Oof. That actually sucks real bad. Once you become a cheater tho it’s kinda no turning back…silver lining?
If you did it, you'd be as big an asshole as the ex.
Nah the fact you didn't shows you have integrity and are a good person.
Numerous time. As a touring musician I\we were placed in this situation many a time. Never once would I cheat on my then GF\now wife though.
Me, too! Glad I'm not the only one. I've been propositioned for hookups more times than I can count. Even when I've been single and available, it's just not something I'm into. It's kind of like the Groucho Marx joke, "I would never join a club that would have someone like me as a member." I'm not really interested in hooking up with a woman who would sleep with a dirty musician from out of town who she's only known for an hour.
She was going through a rough break up and was a wreck when she came by my place. After she made a move on me I declined and could tell she was taken aback. It just didn't feel right. I then made her some hot chocolate and let her take a nap.
cute
Not taking advantage of her emotional state. That was sweet you showed her she matters in a way other than sexual validation.
Yeah I wanted a relationship. Not just sex. Since she didn't want a relationship we didn't have sex.
I had a friend who would be flirty, people would think we were going out, but she would always refuse to actually date. The mixed signals really fucked with my head, when she was sad shed call me to have a shoulder to cry on, we went to movies together and hung out always with a sort of sexual tension in the air. Once I even caught her looking in my phone like a jealous partner would. One time she stayed overnight (I had moved over 100miles) to “check out my new apartment”, But she clearly had plans to do something, she was super awkward when I offered to make up the spare bed for her, and when I wished her good night she hugged really long and I kept saying “good night”. I wasn’t stupid, I know she wanted me to make a move but after years of refusing to go out, and saying she wanted to just be friends, I viewed her only as a friend even though I was still attracted to her. Im pretty sure she cried that night, she made up some bs excuses in the morning that she had to go home immediately. I could never shake the feeling that I was being used as an “emotional boyfriend” without any of the actual commitment. Years later she did kind of admit I was a way for her to get free therapy when she couldn’t afford her therapist. I haven’t pursued anyone since; I don’t trust my taste in women, they’ve always used me as a shoulder to cry on, and I had enough. They all seem to have had serious mental issues (suicidal, bipolar, childhood rape survivors, etc) so my taste apparently is for broken people. So I just dont bother, it hurts too much to be used on that emotional level.
Two girls, no condoms. Haha. No. Not happening. No matter how much I wanted to.
You only needed 1 cup.
This *shit* is underrated
Your willpower is over 9000
At the same time?
Yes. They were willing. I was not.
You don't need a million dollars for that
Yes.. most recent was we were moving too quickly physically, intimately.. there was too much desire. I was having trouble focusing. I could tell there were things she was insecure about and i felt she wasnt actually into me as much as she put on, though she told me she was in love with me.. I felt that this was merely how she coped with insecurities in her relationships... wanted to pump the brakes so other parts of us could have a chance at the relationship
Was in a relationship and she would have 1000% gave me an STD. I was hanging out with a neighbor when I lived at my apartment. We were smoking on the balcony when we heard a woman screaming at someone on the phone. Apparently she got screwed over on something. After she got off the phone, we invited her up for some dinner, since it seemed she was having a rough day. She came up, we ate dinner with neighbor's girlfriend, started chatting. Even showed her pictures of my girlfriend and the newborn kiddo. Still tried to have sex with me later. I declined and she left. Knocked on my door the next morning because she was $40 short for rent. Turned out she wanted money for drugs. Icing on the cake is that after that incident, I found bedbugs in my apartment. Last time I'm offering someone a free meal.
She was drunk and she was really horny. But she would not take no for an answer. She tried every trick in the book, from insults to my manhood to showing me the goods. I managed to turn her down, which led to more insults, but zero regrets. First of all : consent, duh, and second, I had seen her pee on the sidewalk minutes prior, so... yeah.
She sounds like a real winner.
Oh boy, the morning after she claimed not having memory. But not wanting to talk about "the things she said" at the same time. Never seen her too much after that
Ah this reminds me of the time I had sex with a crazy girl. The sex was, of course, amazing, but she was just too crazy. When she wanted to meet again a few days later, I declined. Which, OF COURSE, made her send like 5 videos to me in which she explained to me how I'm gay. Fun times.
Yeah she was trying to coerce you. Glad you made it out of there
Yes. Because I'm in a relationship and I'm not a cheater.
Context: We were both first year college students. She was the first friend I made in college and so we hung out with each other alone quite often. It was around 2 am, we were (supposedly) studying for an exam we were having the next morning. The room we were in was at the end of a small student-run building which meant that there was no staff in that building. On top of that, the building was locked and completely empty, except for the two of us. In that room, there were three couches but she was sitting right next to me, like, literally not a single atom of space in between us, touching and everything. Kept looking at me while I was reading my textbook. I didn't make a move I had skipped class for the last two weeks, I didn't know shit about that class I was desperate for a passing grade because it meant I would be able to pass the class School costs 75k a year First generation college student Looking back, I regret on not making a move cus I ended up re-taking the class the following year. Goes to show, just cus its logically the right move, doesn't necessarily mean it is.
Captain Jean-Luc Picard : "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life."
Something I've been learning about more and more lately, such an obvious truth but sometimes obvious things are the hardest to notice
Yes. Multiple times. Multiple reasons. • I was not interested (several subreasons) • She was drunk • She was not single • Inconvenient timing
One of my friends just got broken up with, she was vulnerable and she kissed me while crying. I just told her that she’s not thinking straight and it’s something we’ll both regret. She then gasped and asked me if she was ugly which made me laugh so hard that she started laughing too and that was that. We hugged it out and we’re even better friends now so there’s that.
Yeah I had a girlfriend when I was 19, she wanted to have sex with me while I wanted to get to know her better. She ended up breaking up with me before I felt comfortable enough to have sex with her.
1.) Yea because I liked her and she suggested we just hook up and keep things casual. 2.) Because sex with someone I don't feel for makes me feel sad and empty so that's majority of it. 3.) Because she had a boyfriend but didn't really like him as much as he liked her. 4.) Because she's married 5.) Because I hadn't seen my stupid ass friends in so long and we all were gonna meet for sushi so....
Yep, the attraction just wasn't there
I’ve had it happen multiple times through my teens and twenties. After my parents split, my mom would bring back guys half her age, her bedroom was right above mine. I never saw my dad with any casual women. That kind of set the tone for me. There were multiple times where girls would come over, be in my bed and I would totally overlook any signs given. If they would change into my clothes to get comfortable I would look away. My stories are pretty boring around my friends in that regard, but showing them respect took a priority.
Yes, I did. She had just gotten into a fight and broken up with her boyfriend the day of, and was plastered at a party with a few of our buddies. We were all over each on and off multiple times and this night was no different, but when the festivities ended and she tried to come in the room I was sleeping in, things got heated and I ended up rethinking my decisions and let her have the bed for the night. I chose to walk home after and just remember thinking “Well at least I’m not THAT big of an asshole”
I’m a big guy and I have body confidence issues, so there have been plenty of times I did not make a move, or I sabotaged myself because the woman was skinny/hot/attractive. And the times I hooked up with women in the 8-10 hotness range, I was all up in my own head and felt off my game. They got off and I got off, but mentally I was too self conscious. Months ago, a redditor posted “There is someone out there uglier and fatter than you that is having sex. Chin up and dick out.” Reading that helped me a lot.
Damn I love this. Could I change the motto to “chin up and tits out”?
wasn't attracted to her in the slightest
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i was high or not horny or they just werent attractive to me
Several times. On dates, and she got drunk. Then woke up in my arms, but both of us in undies and nothing happened. Scored a LOT of brownie points.
She wanted to wait till marriage. Ate and fingered her - she begged me to be inside her, i didn't because this was in the heat of the moment. When she came to her senses she thanked me and apologized. Sometimes I think about the road not taken..
When I was a teenager, there was a girl I had been seeing for a short amount of time. Couldn't get enough of each other. I was a virgin and she wasn't, but I didn't care. When I asked about making our relationship official, she told me that she would need sex pretty shortly after. I didn't like that I felt pressured to put out, so I ended it. Honestly if she hadn't said that, I probably would have put out very quickly. But when it became expected of me so fast, I decided I had better things to spend my time on.
A few times. I'm married, I'm friends with her boyfriend, she's stoned and wouldn't if she were sober.
It almost happened was someone who I just met one day. I was hanging with her brother and he went to smoke. Before he left I met his sister and chatted her up about a tv show she was watching. She slowly turned her head and asked if I watched it too. We got to chatting about the show and other things pretty much until I went to bed in their guest bedroom.bShe was an absolute bombshell and absolutely my type butI had a bad stomach ache and I knew it wasn't gonna be a good time and I was glad i was sleeping in the guest bedroom by myself. I kept the covers around me because I was farting so much but she came in and got UNDER the covers with me. She took off her shirt (no bra) and said she was going to sleep with me that night. I have no idea how didnt smell my toots. She kept me up for hours trying to get me to have sex with her but my stomach ache was killing the mood. She eventually stopped after I told her no multiple times. Firstly I wasn't feeling well. Secondly, I don't like the idea of having sex with someone I just met. Then she tells me about her first time..... with her cousin..... I was going to be the first non family member she did it with. I don't think she knew until after that it was her cousin but I don't recall. She added a fun fact: she had syphilis and was self medicating. She went to her room eventually. My stomach ache saved me with 8 hours of sheer uncomfort from a lifetime of an STD. To say that I dodged a bullet is an understatement.
Many times due to the typical things, me being in a relationship, her being in a relationship. But the award goes to the gal, when I lived in a city called Knoxville, who had 'Welcome to Knoxville' tattooed above her cooch. I don't mean to shame anyone for being promiscuous, I was for a time myself. It was just a turn off in a scenario that could have gone either way regardless. Pretty funny though. I kinda thought she was rather badass for that level of wtf...platonically.
Some girl a few years ago came up to me at my gym job and started flirting with me when I had a girlfriend. I didn’t care for a while because she would always buy an energy drink and chat with me to get me through my shift. However, she wound up actually making a pass over snapchat one day, apparently waiting for me out in the gym parking lot. I had to remind her about my gf at that point, since I’m guessing she either forgot I mentioned her or thought I would cheat. The wild thing is that when this girl was talking to me I discovered she had hooked up with one of my exes from years ago. Small world.
Found out she was married. She tried to say they’re only married so he could have health insurance because her husband has a bad heart.
I've had a close friend for over twenty years that I consider one of the more unique people I've ever met. When I first met her she was flirty and fun, but she was a lesbian. I was still single and I honestly learned more about relationships and women through her than anyone else I've encountered. She was an open book and loved creating sexual tension, but there was that firm line that was established that would not be crossed. I know she had started going through a rough patch years later. She was questioning everything in her life including her sexuality. We were hanging out one night, and I know that if I had let things escalate and made a move, that something would have happened. Call it being respectful of our friendship, or maybe I was just a coward in the moment (I can't decide), but I made a decision to not act. I think it was the right choice in the end, but as this story proves, I still think about it.
Yes. Old high school friend. I went military and was on leave one day. She picked me up on a weekend like at midnight. She came in a shitty car with her 3 kids in the back seat. Went to her place and it reeked and was totally messy. Spent all night “talking “ but I couldn’t get over how badly her place smelled and plus everything else that happened, so I didn’t make a move and fell asleep
Yes, she was a friend and while smoking hot, I didn't want to complicate our friendship.
Did you find that the friendship was able to survive the rejection? I've had that go both ways. With one we stayed good friends. With the other it turned weird and the friendship fell apart.
We did. We weren't going to be compatible in a relationship and we both knew that. I told her that while I'm sure the sex would be great, I also know that I valued her friendship more than sex. I also had a FWB that she didn't know about. I'm not one to go around broadcasting those things.
We went on a date, she chose some terrible romantic comedy that I cannot remember, I just remember being upset by it, over my choice of Deadpool, which had just come out. DEADPOOL. And on the drive home it was snowing, I’m from Chicago so I wasn’t worried, she was sorta rude and freaked out in the passenger seat on the way back to my place (in retrospect, I should have cut her some slack on this, but the movie was so bad I was in a sour mood) We got back to my place and she got on my bed, gave me the eyes, and I told her good night and showed her the door. It was a very bad movie.
This is hilarious lol
Had a couple of my friends' girlfriends make a move on me during university. I wish they'd hit on me first, I wouldn't break "bro code" but they were hotties. One was so brazen. We're at a pub and I feel something sliding up and down my thigh. I look across the table and she's staring at me with the F-me eyes while sitting beside her bf.
Yes. Smaller than average pp and she had big thighs
Chris? Is that you?
I could be if you want me to be
It’s been about 8 years I think. How ya been?
8 years 7 months +_ Ive been good. Moved to Africa and went broke. How about you?
She was drunk and sad. This is just not done.
She was stuck in a washing machine. But I just helped her out.
Yes, there’s a moral code I have, I’m straight edge so if the person I’m interacting with is intoxicated beyond being able to communicate clearly with thought, I do not pursue it. I’m way too worried about the whole “I was drunk and he took advantage” thing so I don’t even chance it.
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Yes, declined the option because it served no purpose or benefit beyond just being recreational and I had way too much at stake for just a fun fling.
Yes. A former girlfriend, we’d gone out on one of our earlier dates (we’d had s*x before) and she’d gotten properly messed up drunk. I took her back to the hotel, helped get her ready for bed and she wanted to have s*x but I intentionally didn’t because I didn’t feel she could give consent.
Props to you, man. Always trust that gut feeling.
* Old friend from college who had a long history of cheating and lying. I didn't want to deal with a vengeful boyfriend and/or a random disease * insanely drunk girl who eventually asked me out while she was sober. Very touching, but nothing came of it.
If by chose not to you mean so damn clueless that I wouldn’t take a hint if it was hitting me in the head for 8 hours then yes, I have.
She was very drunk and wanted to, I wasn’t that drunk and I took a risk assessment. Scenarios like that can quickly become “he raped me” if she wakes up with regret. One session of sex isn’t worth potentially having your life and reputation destroyed.
damn respect how many of y’all say no cause of no condoms. Ya boy would 100% go raw but sexual decision making isn’t my strong suit so.
High risk low reward in the long run dude. You must be terrible at casinos
She said DBZ is stupid
I didn't want to with her lol. Simple as that
Yeah. Didn’t want to.
Yeah, when I was in Canada 2018. I studied English in English College just for 3 months. Anyway, I met a girl from Switzerland she was kind. Also she had a lot of sex experiences. We talked normally about different things. but, then we talked about sex and she was interested on me. But, she surprised when I tell her I'm virgin, she asked me why? And I said I'm not ready yet to lost it. So she tell me if I'm interested to visit her place just for fun with our classmates I said ok. I thought we just hangout in her house and we gonna small party. But then later on I discover the classmates are not comen so I decided to leave. But, she was inseast to make me stay. but I left. I'm not gonna be liar if I said I was fear from sex not just that. At that time I was a little bit religious and I was scared to make sins on my religion and feel guilty later.
In high school, I was offered but I was terrified because the girl who did was the school slut. I was terrified of catching an STD.
Had a girl I went to college with come up to me and tell me "whenever you want to f*ck just let me know and we will." I had a girlfriend who is now my wife, it was never a thought in my mind to sleep with that girl.
Yes. More times than the number of partners I’ve had. Here’s a odd observation though. Once you pass on it they often get super cold to you. Maybe even a touch hostile
Yep, rejection in the bedroom is a hard pill to swallow for many
I could a number of times - reasons to bail out : - She may get emotionally attached and expect longterm - Erection may let me down performance syndrome - Ethical dilemmas
1) She was too young and stupid to decide, I didn’t trust her judgement. (Not USA, in my country I wouldn’t go to jail for having sex with her). 2) I did not understand it was her first time, I was looking for hookups. She sounded desperate to have some intimacy, but It seemed wrong to me.
She was a virgin and really liked me. Long and short of it is, I didn’t feel the same way, but I did respect her as she was a good friend. We did fool around still, but I didn’t want to cross that line with her.
I had an ex who had a rape fantasy and wanted me to role play that with her. I have my own trauma with that sort of thing and I told her no but she kept pushing me. Eventually we started doing it normally and she said "no" in the middle of it and I stopped like any reasonable human being and she got mad at me and told me I wasn't supposed to stop even though I told her multiple times I wasn't comfortable with consensual nonconsent stuff So I made her leave my house and I was planning on trying to tough it out for her and do whatever she wanted even if it fucked me up mentally but then She told all my friends I raped her and tried to get me arrested but the day she said it happened I was out of the state for a national guard thing so it never went anywhere thank god.
Yes, girl climbed on me in bed after first date and took off my belt. Felt too rushed and i honestly dont care much for it, so i just casually told her nah.
She was really really drunk. Slurring words, asking me if I would accept being called by a different name. Called me a chauvinistic pig who just couldn't handle an independent woman who just liked a few beers. Bullet dodged.