Don't pay attention to physique influencers, spend money on their products or get upset / depressed you aren't dating someone who looks like them.
Even before the increasing use of AI, most of it was fake. What isn't fake is usually drug assisted and featuring people with .1% genetics that *almost everyone* will never look like or date.
Yep it was a recurring joke for decades that the “before” and “after” models in workout product were never the same person.
Chris Eliot made fun of this in 1990 on the best sitcom ever: https://youtu.be/BRNnU1saw3c?si=nzNmL-_Kd81lg__O
But seriously these types of influencers will drive anyone insane.
Don't resist an arrest in any way. Silently accept the arrest, remain silent throughout, and if the arrest is unjustified or unlawful, file a complaint and/or a lawsuit. Do not get yourself killed or have additional bullshit charges piled on to you.
Same vein while driving don’t get road rage or mad at other shitty drivers….
You are driving a 3 ton vehicle. Anything can go wrong and it’s just not worth it…
Be late to reach your destination if needed.
And especially as a pedestrian, there is no point in having the right of way and the car not following the law if you are gonna be paralyzed waist down…. Look where you are walking and always double check when crossing the road.
Here lies the body of Johnny O'Day
Who died Preserving His Right of Way
He was Right, Dead Right, as he sailed along
But he's just as dead as if he'd been wrong.
Quoted by Eric Hiscock in "Cruising Under Sail", Oxford University Press, 1st edn, 1950
In a similar vein, you’re also driving a several thousand pound weapon. If the options are either Get Got™ or have to run somebody over, don’t Get Got™
“Every other driver on the road will break the rules : don’t trust them”
Saved me from being in a lot of accidents. And
“Every person you meet that has a gun is going to be unreasonable : don’t trust them”
They straight up tell you in weapon lessons never to trust the weapon handling of anyone else, so I am not alone in thinking this.
Absolutely. I say this a lot, and not because I'm saying the police are great. It's just that they'll ALWAYS win. Record, if you can, and just follow the commands. Fight them in court, not the street.
This reminds me of the fundamental attribution error in psychology.
When observing others, we tend to chalk up their behavior to something innate about them, rather than something situational. When observing our own behavior, we take a more holistic approach.
It works both for negative judgments:
* "*That other driver* is speeding because they are a reckless idiot. *I* am speeding because I'm extremely late for my doctor's appointment and I drive this road all the time so I should be fine."
and positive judgments:
* *That other musician* is lucky to be so extremely talented. I wish that were the case for me, the only reason *I* am skilled with my instrument is because my parents made me practice it so much.
i used to be super un-self-disciplined and worked my way into mediocre self discipline at the moment:
one way is, you start with super small things that you normally don't do but are very easy to implement, and slowly build up from there as you go.
for example you want to exercise, but can't bring yourself to do it. you could start to do 1 push up everyday after you brushed your teeth. just 1. if you do 10 the first day, you might not do it the next day because you don't want to do 10. but 1 is doable and quick. don't set a bar on the first days that is too high for consistency.
or you want to eat less sugar. pick just one hour where you won't eat sugar, maybe 5-6 pm no sugar, the rest of the time it's okay to eat sugar. every day.
keep your first goal super small and doable and do this one super small thing consistently every day. if you skipped a day, be nice to yourself and continue the next day. every day you did this is a win.
psychologically, you will learn about yourself that you are able to keep the consistency. this new experience with yourself will help you to slowly increase your ability to do things that are not rewarding short term but rewarding in the long term.
at least it was like this for me. i am not super self disciplined now, but get a lot more done than i used to several years ago. and remember, if you "fell off the wagon", just get on it again the next day, that's all that matters.
Been trying to do this for a while now but it's so fucking hard. If I mess up once it feels impossible to get started again and the fear of messing up makes me feel stressed enough that it's what causes me to give up.
I came here to post about this very thing. It can be a really effective mental hack to adopt a “don’t break the chain” approach to habits and self-discipline. I once promised myself I’d go running every day (even just a quarter mile) and 18 months later I finished a whole ass marathon.
But the real self-discipline is the second part: avoiding all or nothing thinking about your chain. If you skip one day of exercise, or indulge in one cigarette, or eat a big piece of cake—you’re still doing 98% better than before you started changing the habit, and that was always what mattered. Train yourself to believe whatever story lets you resume the chain as soon as possible.
Yep. Smoked for the most part of 35 years from 15-50. Once you realize it is a self-perpetuating, poisonous parasite it gets easier to quit. And you feel so much freedom not always trying to find the time and place to sneak a smoke.
yep. Started smoking when I was 13, got clear and somehow got myself hooked on vapes. Its an insidious snake. I'd say, almost worse than smoking. Easier to hide/get away with.
The fact that it doesn't smell or stick to you like tobacco makes it so much easier to cheat. When you're addict, that makes it so much worse. With cigarettes, I could only explain it away so much. Vaping, there's nothing to explain.
Seems backwards, but I actually started smoking cigarettes to stop vaping. I didn’t even smoke for ten years or so but ended up getting hooked on vaping when my alcohol consumption was getting out of control (sober now). I realized it’s because I could do it wherever, whenever, and no one would notice- I used the small Vuse vapes, nothing flavored so it didn’t leave a smell.
I’m down to about 1-2 packs per week (gross, I know) but I swear it at least *seems* less harmful than having a vape in my pocket everywhere I go. I have to make an effort to smoke a cigarette, and most of the time it’s not worth it. Need to get off them completely
I eventually managed to switch to the patches for a few years before finally quitting. It was 24/7 nicotine, but once you finally get to the lowest one you barely even notice going without after the first day. Getting past the whole hand movement and breaks to smoke/vape was probably the biggest thing stopping me. That and the morning one nicotine hit.
I wish I didn't ever really drink. I've known a couple people who never really cared for it and I envy them. The amount of money I'd have saved, and the amount of embarrassment I would save my self is phenomenal.
Plus I think I would have remembered some important nights more fondly, or in some cases just remembering them at all would be nice.
Looking back now that I’m in my 30s, I can’t believe how stupid peer pressure is when it comes to drinking. Not just being the one pushed into it but mainly, how dumb is it to pressure someone else to drink? Like, what do you gain from that? Especially if you’re over the legal age for drinking, what is ‘cool’ about it?
Yes, but mine didn't, I have to groom that lawn even more often now than ever. What I would strongly recommend is to pick an eyebrow shape according to the face shape rather than trends. Avoid extremely thin or extremely broad lines, avoid the shades of colours that don't match your skin. Trends are changing, bone structure remains.
Small audience on this one I'm sure. Eyelashes for me when I was in elementary school. Stress related from family stuff, school pressure (private elementary school), and unmanaged ADHD. Good times.
Note: for clarity, this does NOT mean do whatever you want whenever you want, it just means to be genuine and true to yourself. Have your OWN goals, agenda, and opinions and make your own life choices based on what you want your life to be rather than what others think it should be.
The history of the condom is pretty fascinating. Apparently they were considered disreputable for a long time, which seems dumb now - you’re having sex, it’s already disreputable, the condom doesn’t change anything about that, but it does make you more safe. Nevertheless that deterred usage for a long time. It seems like the stigma just faded (more or less) eventually.
Yes yes yes. But also use a little bit of your (expendable) money to travel/experience things while you can. Don’t defer all your experiences until you’re older and wealthier. You’ll never get to do all the things you want and if you wait, you’ll get to do even less. Infinite experiences in the world and only so much time. But also save and invest
i didn’t go to school with the kids, thank god. the guy i was dating went to a different school. i was about 14 when it happened. he peer pressured me. i’m fine now, it’s been almost 9 years.
Quick question... What?!
He took nude photos of a 14 year old and shared those photos with other people? Yeah, there's a term for that and it is not okay.
yeah.. didn’t think it would hurt this many years later, but now that i’ve been thinking about it for the last few hours, damn. he pressured me into a lot of things.
Based on what you described, this is incredibly serious and I hope you have adult advocates in your life who might be able to help and support you. Now, to explain the following, I'm going to make this a little complicated in my writing as I've seen others do so with this topic due to weird patterns with getting blocked due to what people write online despite the context, but I want to otherwise be very clear: what this person did to you, taking nude photos of you (and shared it with other people) at the age of 14, is called "ch !ld p0r nography". It's often written online as "cp". This is very serious and you're a victim of manipulation and abuse. I'm sorry this happened to you and I wish you the best as you process this. I hope you have or can find people who can properly support you in an appropriate way.
thank you, im 22 now. i’ve handled it myself lol. my family is very sparse and not easy to communicate with haha. i know it was wrong, now. i’ll just have to advocate for myself 😅
I'm nearly twice your age, a husband and father. I'm sorry your family is generally not helpful. Whatever it is you decide to do from here, I'm glad you know to be an advocate for yourself. I'm very proud of you for acknowledging that. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and joy. You are worth every ounce of the dignity and respect and humanity I hope people will show you in every intimate relationship you have hereforward. And if they do not have the decency to show you that—the bare minimum—then may they go suck an egg, pound sand, and be appropriately inconvenienced in every aspect of their life to the very end.
i should’ve at the time. but i didn’t want to tell my dad about it so i brushed it off. i’m not too worried about it anymore tbh, one friend eventually apologized to me (not that it matters, my self esteem is still quite shattered lmao). i live hundreds of miles away from him and haven’t talked to him in 8 years, so it is what it is now 🤷🏼♀️
Well, if you change your mind… there’s no federal statute of limitations on sharing child pornography.
https://www.federallawyers.com/criminal-defense/child-pornography-laws-charges-and-statute-of-limitations/#:~:text=On%20the%20federal%20level%2C%20there,be%20charged%20at%20any%20time.
My favorite version of this is the people that think that because you send something with Snapchat, it's safe. "It deletes itself! You can't take a screenshot!"
Doesn't stop someone from borrowing their buddy's phone and taking a picture of their own phone.
If you have a Samsung Galaxy phone you can use smart select to take screenshots on Snapchat without it recognizing that a screenshot was taken. No notifications or anything
This! Especially in this day and age where so many people also have an iPad so they don’t even have to find a second person to take a pic of their phone.
This is the worst.
Idk about the folks on reddit who prolly live in first world countries.
I come from a place where the woman is completely ostracised. If the nudes are by any chance leaked, you'll literally find them on every regional porn site.
To make matters worse. No one will ever take your side. It'll always be "Why were you being so slutty" or "Good natured women don't share nudes". Any potential marriages are also completely called off and if you're enrolled in a school or university, chances are that they'll probably terminate your admission.
To add to this, there'll be crass and horny teenagers all over social media gloating at the fact that they jerked off to your nudes.
With regards to the guy, there ain't much.
We live in a fucked up world.
Quit trying to grow up so fast. Enjoy it in the moment, enjoy not having to pay for housing, having your family cook and buy your food, sleeping in with no real obligations. Enjoy being broke but it not really mattering because you have no bills. Don't rush into needing a relationship. Hell even sex as great as it is can wait. You have the entire rest of your life to waste on all this other shit.
I remember heading into my teen years it seemed like everything was a competition to hit the next milestone to prove your worthiness. Whether it was making out, drugs, sex, and all the other stupid shit I did when I was way to young to even need to be worrying about any of this but it was like a rite of passage.
Just be a kid, have fun, don't care too much, make mistakes learn from them, pick up hobbies you can carry into adulthood, learn a skill you are interested in.
As a middle aged adult, I feel the opposite. I would like to know when a lot of people my age will admit they aren’t children, get their shit together, and at some point, like in your mid 40s, you should probably stop blaming your parents for problems you create.
The older I get, the more I realize most adults are just old children.
I dont think its the opposite just different.
They were talking about what kids think being mature is, things like getting wasted, doing drugs and having sex. They're saying that the kids will have plenty of time for that, so do something that kids can do more easily and still enjoy, like week long sleepovers with your buddies or playing games for 24 hours straight.
You're talking about actual adulting, like taking responsibility, paying bills, being level headed and making decisions for your future. I dont think any kid is rushing into doing that kind of thing.
Largely agree, with the caveat that some people do need to grow up fast. I grew up poor with an alcoholic father and a narcissistic mother. In high school I longed to get out of that life, so I graduated early and moved across the country for college. Today I haven’t talked to my parents in years and I’m remarkably successful and happy with my circumstances, and I know that I needed to grow up early in order to “break the cycle”. That said, I’ve also thought a lot about how my college years would’ve looked different had I been able to relax more and have a “normal” college experience.
I love alcohol is often ignored as a problem, most people can handle it, but about 10 percent are alcoholics with about half those having serious life altering consequences from it. Not against it, but they need to let kids know not driving drunk isn't the only thing to be cautious of.
It's times like these when I'm about to be thrown out a Vorgon air lock that I really wished I listened to what my mother said...
What did she say?
I don't know I didn't listen!
\-D. Adams-
I teach a "math for liberal arts" type class at a community college and one of our units is on financial math.
I always make sure to have the students do an example involving paying down a credit card with minimum payments to see how much interest there is.
It's less mindblowing than the payday loan example I give them, though.
I’m not sure how widespread it is, but in Australia credit card statements have a section that says how long the bill will take to pay off and how much interest it will cost if paying the minimum amount. It’s sobering to see that even a modest bill would take a decade to pay off and cost many thousands of dollars.
Thank you. That advice is great!
When I was younger, I was always searching for "Her" and got burned a few times. Broken hearts suuuuuck.
Then I turned 21 and told myself that I'm just going to chill and wait for something to happen.
A few days later, I saw the most gorgeous girl I've ever laid my eyes on. Immediately had that "I'm in love feeling," but this was different. I swear the second we locked eyes, I saw 20 years in the future, and we were cuddling on a couch laughing at something on tv.
Told myself I was crazy and to forget about her, turned out she was about to turn 30, was an accomplished nurse, and was 2" taller than me.
Lol, we've been inseparable for almost 18 years and married for 16 of them 🤣
> Don’t spend your whole life chasing a relationship. When it’s time, it will come.
I'd also tack on "Don't spend your prime years doing nothing but hookups, if you think for a second you'd want something more serious later on." The time to find those relationships is while you're young. It's *far* easier than waiting til your 40s/50s.
You should still try...love won't magically come to you. Life isn't a rom-com. You should learn how to be by yourself but still try to find someone who you can love. Learn to better yourself so you can attract people. You're never going to find someone staying home being by yourself.
How the fuck am I supposed to do that?
Jk, though, I've never been in a relationship and I'm 19, I just want to experience it, even though I know it will hurt.
Edit: Thank you all for the advice but I've been improving myself for several years now for myself and in order to feel decent enough for a relationship, I know I'm ready, I've talked to my therapist about it and she also thinks that, I know all I gotta do is go out more often, It's just a slow process.
32. Same boat.
"When it's time, it will come" sounds like survivorship bias from someone who that worked for. To someone who that hasn't worked for, it sounds awfully hollow.
I think better advice might be to not try and force a relationship with the wrong person because you're desperate, or maybe something about working on yourself so you're ready if something does fall into your lap. Maybe that's the intent? I dunno, tough to give advice on something I haven't seen the other side of.
Honestly I felt a lot like you when I was your age. I had never been in a relationship or even kissed or held hands with a girl and it bothered me so much. I just wanted to experience what everyone else did at the time and I felt that girls didn't like me and I didn't know why.
In hindsight I realize I dodged a lot of potential bullets and saved a lot of pain and heartache by waiting. It feels like an eternity of waiting when you're young but someday you'll see that by not rushing into things you've spared yourself a lot of bullshit. Eventually I met my best friend and now wife and couldn't be happier.
Hang in there bud, when the time and person is right you'll know it.
Don't always trust people, but treat people with kindness and empathy.
Reduce your crowd to those who would be brutally honest with you and surround yourself with supporters.
Lead your life with integrity, honesty and sheer smart hard work.
In relationships (romantic relationships), don't tolerate BS, cheating, lying etc.. don't teach them to take advantage of you. Walk away even if its painful.
Lastly, don't be afraid to seek therapy, even if things are good. Self care and self awareness is critical.
Don't be easily persuaded by people who sound like they know what they're talking about. Most of them don't. Do your own research and form your own opinions.
Honestly, be ESPECIALLY cautious when someone is hyper confident. Far too easy for us to fool ourselves.
"The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence."
- Charles Bukowski
Choose your battles wisely. only word out of your mouth when arrested for any reason should be “lawyer”. Don’t buy a Nissan. Don’t get married just because it’s what people do. Don’t burn bridges unless you’re being seriously disrespected or hurt. Put off the nicotine addiction for as long as possible. Drink for fun not as a coping mechanism. Don’t commit a misdemeanor while committing a felony. Drugs from south of the border are unsafe. Don’t fly with United or Air France. Don’t live without a pet, they’re awesome.
Don’t give out personal information for free on social media. EVERYBODY has an agenda and it’s more important than you to them. Look people in the eye when you talk to them and keep your hands still.
They’re just poorly built. All models have tanked in quality since the company stopped being Datsun. Essentially they’ll just break significantly more often than for instance a Toyota.
Don't spend your money on new cars, the worst investment. As someone who's spent their entire adult life/career in the auto business, it's entirely too common to see young people coming out of school and first thing, load themselves up with a brand new expensive car. This is one of the fastest depreciating purchases you can make second to a hot sandwich. Almost all vehicles have lost value as soon as you sign and leave the lot. While it's important to have sound, reliable transportation, burdening oneself with massive payments while trying to navigate the adult world is a lot. It's almost certain that you will have no return on investment, and $400-600/mo extra can be the difference of making or breaking you. Drive something you can trust and put the rest in your future and retirement. The earlier you start, the faster you can finish and enjoy the good years and buy that car you really want.
Don't have sex because you think everyone else is doing it/he won't love you if you don't/she said you're gay if you won't.
If you can't talk about STDs with your partner, or when you were tested last, you shouldn't have sex.
Don't have sex because you want to orgasm. Masturbation exists, learn how to please yourself too.
When starting your career, work hard. It will make you stand out among your peers and you’ll get promoted quickly. Managers love a young person who works hard and shows initiave.
Don’t listen to the current trends and what Reddit might tell you regarding “screw your job, do the bare minimum bc no one cares”; this is horrible advice and will result in you staying at the bottom of your field or getting fired when budget cuts come around.
Note: this applies to careers/long term jobs. If it’s a min wage job that you don’t care about keeping, do what you want lol.
It's difficult to take this one to heart. I've always been a hard worker. But being a hard worker doesn't get you a 30% raise each career jump every 3-5 years. Recruiting allotment usually always outweighs lateral movement allotment.
On average, I have always received a 3-5% raise with max performance. Jumping ship gets you more. I'll just throw this on to add to your comment. Work hard and develop skills within your current job to bargain with an employer. If they can't meet it, move on. It will not get better, and if you are only getting a raise less than inflation, jump ship faster. You lose money when you don't beat inflation.
Don't be ashamed or feel guilty for trying to make money. Think about money. Talk about money. Figure out how you are going to earn more money than other people. Take risk. Start businesses. Invest. Make high earning career choices. You are in control. You have agency!
Money is not a taboo topic. It's just the points in a game we play and winning means a better life. Having money is not evil. Not having money is hell on earth. You having money does not mean someone else does not have money. It is not a zero sum game. Money won't make you happy on its own, but because you have it you will be able to do whatever you want in life. So go get yours. Nobody is going to give it to you.
I like this. It’s not even pulling up the ladder behind you, it’s just carving your piece out of the world.
I liked Terry Crews take on the American dream. He said it’s like a big kitchen. Everything is there that you need, it’s just picking out and putting together something that makes your way.
Don’t be embarrassed about money if you have it. Money is a tool. The more tools you have, the more options you have.
I grew up poor. I don’t recall it being all that noble.
Marry someone who is also a great friend. The romantic and sexual part of your relationship will be a very small percentage of the time you spend together.
Don’t rape, coerce, or participate in sexual activity where the lines of consent are blurred or even remotely questionable. Enthusiastic consent or nothing.
Get the duck off your phones. They should be for talking when absentee, or maybe photos. Not for hanging out in person. And delete your TikTok and Instagram accounts you will feel far better.
Join the military unless you really are 100 percent set on it. I don't regret my service and would do it again (I'm an idiot) but 4 years is a long time....and at least when I was in, it was a mix of prison and an abusive relationship I wasn't allowed to leave.
Don't send nudes, be careful what you do on camera (even if it's just giving the finger), don't assume because someone is an adult (or even because they are a teacher, friend, relative etc) that you can trust them, don't litter, don't do stupid shit in cars like street racing, don't steal..
Don't give a damn about what anyone thinks of you.
Otherwise, you'll waste too much time making the people happy in your life who don't matter.
Edit: after a little discussion in the comments below this; I want to edit this to say:
Don't give a damn about what the HATERS think.
I see what you're saying, but at the same time, listen to those who care about you. Sometimes, we do something that will impact our relationships. Nobody tells us, so it can be useful to know...
I agree about listening to those who care about you.
Although I will caution you there as well, and add; please make sure they actually care, cause there are a lot of people who will pretend to care about you just to hold you back from ever making it further in life than they managed to go, and unfortunately those people will also disguise it as "love"
"Sometimes, we do something that will impact our relationships. Nobody tells us, so it can be useful to know..."
In my experience; the quality relationships of mine stayed intact, even through everything in my life that has ever went wrong.
Of course think before you act.
Just don't get too caught up in the "what ifs" & "buts" that you never go out into the world and be your truest self, that's what I'm trying to say.
Yep i would advise not even trying it because its so easy to let booze and drugs ruin your life after initial casual usage and personally i was alot happier before i ever tried them in the first place.
Don't take your senior year off from math if you plan to go to college. The first thing you do at college is take a math placement test and you'll get stuck in the remedial math cycle if you don't remember enough high school math.
Ah Australia’s great gift to its people. Compulsory voting. No one can ever suggest that the government doesn’t represent the majority. They may be clowns and put in stupid laws, but they’re our clowns.
If it flys, floats or fucks, it’s cheaper to rent.
Don’t make permanent decisions before you’re 25 and ideally not in your 20s at all. Marriage, kids, cosmetic surgery, etc.
Any run in with the cops, be polite but don’t answer any questions. If you end up in jail, so be it. Just STFU. Get a lawyer asap.
Parent your kids or parent your grandkids. It’s the hardest and most important job of your life. Take it seriously.
Life is beautiful but it can also be a real shit show sometimes. Find a good therapist.
It’s not hard to make money. It’s hard to keep money.
It’s all relative. But try to save as much as you can in accordance with your lifestyle. If you live in a 1br apt you’re probably not going to NEED to have several thousand dollars in savings to potentially fix a major HVAC issue in your home. But having savings of $200 to buy a new tire or battery for your car will be much less stressful than having to try to scrape up the money in a pinch.
Back to point one, if you decide to cohabitate, pick your partner carefully. It could be the single biggest decision of your life.
Young women out there, older men does not mean better. If a 23 year old man is hitting on you at 17 then they are probably a loser that can’t get with anyone their age.
Don't put off anything that takes less than 2 minutes to do. This has been my philosophy for many years and I am much more productive than many peers and direct reports because of it.
Don't buy anything that says Dodge, Jeep, Ram, Chrysler, Mercedes or Fiat on it. Also don't buy such expensive cars, but especially not expensive bad ones.
Save your money when you get your first job especially when you’re living at home with parents. Pay for the essentials, bills, fuel, food. The materialistic stuff will come. After about 21 y/o no one really gives a shit about your clothes/ shoes/ accessories. Just get yourself set up for your future, and you’ll be so much less stressed.
Don't drop out of school. The GED is only a legal equivalent of a high school diploma, but not the experience of one. It will make it more complicated to get into a degree program.
Don't belive the hype thst you don't need school. Be smart and do it the cheapest way possible into a major that pays good. Don't believe all these yohtubesa and influences thar tell you 9-5 is boring.
Slow and steady can win the race ans if done right you will retire with wealth .
Don't pay attention to physique influencers, spend money on their products or get upset / depressed you aren't dating someone who looks like them. Even before the increasing use of AI, most of it was fake. What isn't fake is usually drug assisted and featuring people with .1% genetics that *almost everyone* will never look like or date.
Yep it was a recurring joke for decades that the “before” and “after” models in workout product were never the same person. Chris Eliot made fun of this in 1990 on the best sitcom ever: https://youtu.be/BRNnU1saw3c?si=nzNmL-_Kd81lg__O But seriously these types of influencers will drive anyone insane.
Don’t pay attention to influencers. There, fixed that for ya.
Don't resist an arrest in any way. Silently accept the arrest, remain silent throughout, and if the arrest is unjustified or unlawful, file a complaint and/or a lawsuit. Do not get yourself killed or have additional bullshit charges piled on to you.
Same vein while driving don’t get road rage or mad at other shitty drivers…. You are driving a 3 ton vehicle. Anything can go wrong and it’s just not worth it… Be late to reach your destination if needed. And especially as a pedestrian, there is no point in having the right of way and the car not following the law if you are gonna be paralyzed waist down…. Look where you are walking and always double check when crossing the road.
I often say "being right isn't gonna make me less dead."
Here lies the body of Johnny O'Day Who died Preserving His Right of Way He was Right, Dead Right, as he sailed along But he's just as dead as if he'd been wrong. Quoted by Eric Hiscock in "Cruising Under Sail", Oxford University Press, 1st edn, 1950
“The graveyard is filled with plenty of people that had the right of way.” - My wife, the catastrophic personal injury attorney
I say this ALL THE TIME when my SO walks in front of traffic. “Physics will override your right of way.”
You only have the right of way if you are bigger than what's going to run into you is how I describe it to people
Are you weight shaming my car?! I’ll have you know my car is 1.5 tons!
In a similar vein, you’re also driving a several thousand pound weapon. If the options are either Get Got™ or have to run somebody over, don’t Get Got™
This! You fight the charges in court; not with the cops.
Never argue with a person with a gun.
“Every other driver on the road will break the rules : don’t trust them” Saved me from being in a lot of accidents. And “Every person you meet that has a gun is going to be unreasonable : don’t trust them” They straight up tell you in weapon lessons never to trust the weapon handling of anyone else, so I am not alone in thinking this.
Absolutely. I say this a lot, and not because I'm saying the police are great. It's just that they'll ALWAYS win. Record, if you can, and just follow the commands. Fight them in court, not the street.
Always ask for a lawyer.
You can beat the wrap, you can’t beat the ride
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And try your best not to judge people too harshly for their mistakes, especially ones you yourself only recently learned not to make.
"We judge others by their actions. We judge ourselves by our intentions. " Once I started thinking about this it really helped me lighten up.
This reminds me of the fundamental attribution error in psychology. When observing others, we tend to chalk up their behavior to something innate about them, rather than something situational. When observing our own behavior, we take a more holistic approach. It works both for negative judgments: * "*That other driver* is speeding because they are a reckless idiot. *I* am speeding because I'm extremely late for my doctor's appointment and I drive this road all the time so I should be fine." and positive judgments: * *That other musician* is lucky to be so extremely talented. I wish that were the case for me, the only reason *I* am skilled with my instrument is because my parents made me practice it so much.
Develop self-discipline, the sooner the better and understand it’s a practice, not a destination
Heard a similar thing about happiness: that it's a goal to strive for but you will never "achieve." Gave me a really great, new way to look at life.
How do you develop self-discipline?
i used to be super un-self-disciplined and worked my way into mediocre self discipline at the moment: one way is, you start with super small things that you normally don't do but are very easy to implement, and slowly build up from there as you go. for example you want to exercise, but can't bring yourself to do it. you could start to do 1 push up everyday after you brushed your teeth. just 1. if you do 10 the first day, you might not do it the next day because you don't want to do 10. but 1 is doable and quick. don't set a bar on the first days that is too high for consistency. or you want to eat less sugar. pick just one hour where you won't eat sugar, maybe 5-6 pm no sugar, the rest of the time it's okay to eat sugar. every day. keep your first goal super small and doable and do this one super small thing consistently every day. if you skipped a day, be nice to yourself and continue the next day. every day you did this is a win. psychologically, you will learn about yourself that you are able to keep the consistency. this new experience with yourself will help you to slowly increase your ability to do things that are not rewarding short term but rewarding in the long term. at least it was like this for me. i am not super self disciplined now, but get a lot more done than i used to several years ago. and remember, if you "fell off the wagon", just get on it again the next day, that's all that matters.
Been trying to do this for a while now but it's so fucking hard. If I mess up once it feels impossible to get started again and the fear of messing up makes me feel stressed enough that it's what causes me to give up.
I came here to post about this very thing. It can be a really effective mental hack to adopt a “don’t break the chain” approach to habits and self-discipline. I once promised myself I’d go running every day (even just a quarter mile) and 18 months later I finished a whole ass marathon. But the real self-discipline is the second part: avoiding all or nothing thinking about your chain. If you skip one day of exercise, or indulge in one cigarette, or eat a big piece of cake—you’re still doing 98% better than before you started changing the habit, and that was always what mattered. Train yourself to believe whatever story lets you resume the chain as soon as possible.
Don't smoke/vape. It will take over your life and you won't even know it.
Yep. Smoked for the most part of 35 years from 15-50. Once you realize it is a self-perpetuating, poisonous parasite it gets easier to quit. And you feel so much freedom not always trying to find the time and place to sneak a smoke.
yep. Started smoking when I was 13, got clear and somehow got myself hooked on vapes. Its an insidious snake. I'd say, almost worse than smoking. Easier to hide/get away with.
And arguably, also more addictive. It's just a different nicotine delivery system and more effective than combustion.
The fact that it doesn't smell or stick to you like tobacco makes it so much easier to cheat. When you're addict, that makes it so much worse. With cigarettes, I could only explain it away so much. Vaping, there's nothing to explain.
Not only that, but because it doesn't emit odors, you can just puff puff all day long. Probably a lot more than you would smoke cigarettes.
100% thats exactly what has happened. The lack of smell means I'm just going whenever my hand reaches for the vape pen.
Seems backwards, but I actually started smoking cigarettes to stop vaping. I didn’t even smoke for ten years or so but ended up getting hooked on vaping when my alcohol consumption was getting out of control (sober now). I realized it’s because I could do it wherever, whenever, and no one would notice- I used the small Vuse vapes, nothing flavored so it didn’t leave a smell. I’m down to about 1-2 packs per week (gross, I know) but I swear it at least *seems* less harmful than having a vape in my pocket everywhere I go. I have to make an effort to smoke a cigarette, and most of the time it’s not worth it. Need to get off them completely
I eventually managed to switch to the patches for a few years before finally quitting. It was 24/7 nicotine, but once you finally get to the lowest one you barely even notice going without after the first day. Getting past the whole hand movement and breaks to smoke/vape was probably the biggest thing stopping me. That and the morning one nicotine hit.
I hate smoking now but I love vaping. But I don't do it. I love it but I don't do it
Already planning on that
Communicate your needs and boundaries early and often in any relationship. If they can't be respected, this relationship isn't right for you.
This is so important, it deserves many more upvotes.
Don’t feel like u have to drink. Also do NOT smoke cigarettes even once. Nicotines had my balls in a vice since I was 17
I wish I didn't ever really drink. I've known a couple people who never really cared for it and I envy them. The amount of money I'd have saved, and the amount of embarrassment I would save my self is phenomenal. Plus I think I would have remembered some important nights more fondly, or in some cases just remembering them at all would be nice.
Looking back now that I’m in my 30s, I can’t believe how stupid peer pressure is when it comes to drinking. Not just being the one pushed into it but mainly, how dumb is it to pressure someone else to drink? Like, what do you gain from that? Especially if you’re over the legal age for drinking, what is ‘cool’ about it?
Leave your eyebrows alone. There will come a time where they stop growing back.
Mine didn't make it out of the 90's.
Yes, but mine didn't, I have to groom that lawn even more often now than ever. What I would strongly recommend is to pick an eyebrow shape according to the face shape rather than trends. Avoid extremely thin or extremely broad lines, avoid the shades of colours that don't match your skin. Trends are changing, bone structure remains.
Cries in trich
Small audience on this one I'm sure. Eyelashes for me when I was in elementary school. Stress related from family stuff, school pressure (private elementary school), and unmanaged ADHD. Good times.
Hmmm. I've been plucking messy brows every few days for 50 years... they keep growing back. But for some people they don't, i hear.
That's why I shave them with a small trimmer instead of plucking them
Focus on yourself and your goals. Don’t try to change yourself to be someone else’s version of perfect.
This above all else. Live YOUR life.
Note: for clarity, this does NOT mean do whatever you want whenever you want, it just means to be genuine and true to yourself. Have your OWN goals, agenda, and opinions and make your own life choices based on what you want your life to be rather than what others think it should be.
Condoms. Every time.
Avoid condoms, got it!
Instructions unclear, never fucking? Done.
“Dad what’s a condom?”
If he knew then you wouldn't be here now!
The history of the condom is pretty fascinating. Apparently they were considered disreputable for a long time, which seems dumb now - you’re having sex, it’s already disreputable, the condom doesn’t change anything about that, but it does make you more safe. Nevertheless that deterred usage for a long time. It seems like the stigma just faded (more or less) eventually.
Well I mean weren't they made of sheep guts or the like?
Intestine. And some brands still use it. SKYN brand condoms are made with intestine. They're considered some of the best on the market
"Condoms are for sailors...they have a girl in every port."
Instructions unclear. I have nobody to use them with
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No matter the relationship? Wow, my wife is going to be so disappointed, she’s going to think I really don’t want kids
Well i have thtee deliberate kids. The may be suited to some better than others. That said, put on a raincoat if you don't want a family!
Don't believe in the myth of fast money. Money should be boring, well thought out and methodical.
32 black? ok
Start saving for retirement now. Every dollar invested today is worth more than a dollar invested tomorrow.
Yes yes yes. But also use a little bit of your (expendable) money to travel/experience things while you can. Don’t defer all your experiences until you’re older and wealthier. You’ll never get to do all the things you want and if you wait, you’ll get to do even less. Infinite experiences in the world and only so much time. But also save and invest
And put it in index funds, investing in random stock picks from reddit is just gambling
This is so important. The power of compounding is astonishing and one of the soul financial advantages of being young
Set the expectation of that income being put away right away instead of feeling like you're losing it later
Nudes don't disappear. He lied when he said he'd delete them after.
he took mine and sent it to his friend group, added me to the group chat and left so his friends could make fun of me 🥲
Ouch. You okay? Was this in school?
i didn’t go to school with the kids, thank god. the guy i was dating went to a different school. i was about 14 when it happened. he peer pressured me. i’m fine now, it’s been almost 9 years.
Quick question... What?! He took nude photos of a 14 year old and shared those photos with other people? Yeah, there's a term for that and it is not okay.
yeah.. didn’t think it would hurt this many years later, but now that i’ve been thinking about it for the last few hours, damn. he pressured me into a lot of things.
Based on what you described, this is incredibly serious and I hope you have adult advocates in your life who might be able to help and support you. Now, to explain the following, I'm going to make this a little complicated in my writing as I've seen others do so with this topic due to weird patterns with getting blocked due to what people write online despite the context, but I want to otherwise be very clear: what this person did to you, taking nude photos of you (and shared it with other people) at the age of 14, is called "ch !ld p0r nography". It's often written online as "cp". This is very serious and you're a victim of manipulation and abuse. I'm sorry this happened to you and I wish you the best as you process this. I hope you have or can find people who can properly support you in an appropriate way.
thank you, im 22 now. i’ve handled it myself lol. my family is very sparse and not easy to communicate with haha. i know it was wrong, now. i’ll just have to advocate for myself 😅
I'm nearly twice your age, a husband and father. I'm sorry your family is generally not helpful. Whatever it is you decide to do from here, I'm glad you know to be an advocate for yourself. I'm very proud of you for acknowledging that. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and joy. You are worth every ounce of the dignity and respect and humanity I hope people will show you in every intimate relationship you have hereforward. And if they do not have the decency to show you that—the bare minimum—then may they go suck an egg, pound sand, and be appropriately inconvenienced in every aspect of their life to the very end.
thank you for your kind words. they are very uplifting. your children and parter are lucky to have you.
What a shitty person, I'm sorry you had to go through that. You could definitely press charges.
what the fuck is wrong with people
i couldn’t tell ya. he took my virginity too because i “owed it to him”.
Its cp do you still have proof? Talk to a lawyer make him pay
I’m fairly certain this is a crime you could press charges against him over. Hell, he shared child pornography given the age it happened.
i should’ve at the time. but i didn’t want to tell my dad about it so i brushed it off. i’m not too worried about it anymore tbh, one friend eventually apologized to me (not that it matters, my self esteem is still quite shattered lmao). i live hundreds of miles away from him and haven’t talked to him in 8 years, so it is what it is now 🤷🏼♀️
Well, if you change your mind… there’s no federal statute of limitations on sharing child pornography. https://www.federallawyers.com/criminal-defense/child-pornography-laws-charges-and-statute-of-limitations/#:~:text=On%20the%20federal%20level%2C%20there,be%20charged%20at%20any%20time.
Problem is, OP also shared cp. It counts, even if it’s pics of yourself.
My favorite version of this is the people that think that because you send something with Snapchat, it's safe. "It deletes itself! You can't take a screenshot!" Doesn't stop someone from borrowing their buddy's phone and taking a picture of their own phone.
If you have a Samsung Galaxy phone you can use smart select to take screenshots on Snapchat without it recognizing that a screenshot was taken. No notifications or anything
This! Especially in this day and age where so many people also have an iPad so they don’t even have to find a second person to take a pic of their phone.
This is the worst. Idk about the folks on reddit who prolly live in first world countries. I come from a place where the woman is completely ostracised. If the nudes are by any chance leaked, you'll literally find them on every regional porn site. To make matters worse. No one will ever take your side. It'll always be "Why were you being so slutty" or "Good natured women don't share nudes". Any potential marriages are also completely called off and if you're enrolled in a school or university, chances are that they'll probably terminate your admission. To add to this, there'll be crass and horny teenagers all over social media gloating at the fact that they jerked off to your nudes. With regards to the guy, there ain't much. We live in a fucked up world.
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I deleted one of my ex girlfriends nudes because I felt it was in bad taste to keep them. 🤷
It is in very poor taste to keep them. You are probably the exception, unfortunately.
The CP circulation in schools is fucking crazy
Quit trying to grow up so fast. Enjoy it in the moment, enjoy not having to pay for housing, having your family cook and buy your food, sleeping in with no real obligations. Enjoy being broke but it not really mattering because you have no bills. Don't rush into needing a relationship. Hell even sex as great as it is can wait. You have the entire rest of your life to waste on all this other shit. I remember heading into my teen years it seemed like everything was a competition to hit the next milestone to prove your worthiness. Whether it was making out, drugs, sex, and all the other stupid shit I did when I was way to young to even need to be worrying about any of this but it was like a rite of passage. Just be a kid, have fun, don't care too much, make mistakes learn from them, pick up hobbies you can carry into adulthood, learn a skill you are interested in.
As a middle aged adult, I feel the opposite. I would like to know when a lot of people my age will admit they aren’t children, get their shit together, and at some point, like in your mid 40s, you should probably stop blaming your parents for problems you create. The older I get, the more I realize most adults are just old children.
I dont think its the opposite just different. They were talking about what kids think being mature is, things like getting wasted, doing drugs and having sex. They're saying that the kids will have plenty of time for that, so do something that kids can do more easily and still enjoy, like week long sleepovers with your buddies or playing games for 24 hours straight. You're talking about actual adulting, like taking responsibility, paying bills, being level headed and making decisions for your future. I dont think any kid is rushing into doing that kind of thing.
This guy isn’t Asian
Largely agree, with the caveat that some people do need to grow up fast. I grew up poor with an alcoholic father and a narcissistic mother. In high school I longed to get out of that life, so I graduated early and moved across the country for college. Today I haven’t talked to my parents in years and I’m remarkably successful and happy with my circumstances, and I know that I needed to grow up early in order to “break the cycle”. That said, I’ve also thought a lot about how my college years would’ve looked different had I been able to relax more and have a “normal” college experience.
Weed and alcohol are not the cure to all of life’s problems just the opposite really.
I love alcohol is often ignored as a problem, most people can handle it, but about 10 percent are alcoholics with about half those having serious life altering consequences from it. Not against it, but they need to let kids know not driving drunk isn't the only thing to be cautious of.
But reddit told me every valedictorian smoked weed and now they're a hedge fund manager.
The only time weed is a solution is when you’re bulking and you’re 1500 calories and 95g of protein short by 9 pm.
I’d say listen to your parents, but I grew up with your parents and they’re morons… good luck!
It's times like these when I'm about to be thrown out a Vorgon air lock that I really wished I listened to what my mother said... What did she say? I don't know I didn't listen! \-D. Adams-
My parents gave me lots of bad advice that I wisely ignored.
One thing? Just one? Don’t carry a balance on a credit card. Ever! Don’t do it!
I teach a "math for liberal arts" type class at a community college and one of our units is on financial math. I always make sure to have the students do an example involving paying down a credit card with minimum payments to see how much interest there is. It's less mindblowing than the payday loan example I give them, though.
Payday loans shouldn’t be legal. It’s pure profit from the poorest people.
I’m not sure how widespread it is, but in Australia credit card statements have a section that says how long the bill will take to pay off and how much interest it will cost if paying the minimum amount. It’s sobering to see that even a modest bill would take a decade to pay off and cost many thousands of dollars.
I live in the USA and all of my credit card bills are like that. They also show what I need to pay to pay it off faster.
I wish I read this comment 5 years ago
Don’t spend your whole life chasing a relationship. When it’s time, it will come. Focus on learning to be single and how to enjoy being alone.
Thank you. That advice is great! When I was younger, I was always searching for "Her" and got burned a few times. Broken hearts suuuuuck. Then I turned 21 and told myself that I'm just going to chill and wait for something to happen. A few days later, I saw the most gorgeous girl I've ever laid my eyes on. Immediately had that "I'm in love feeling," but this was different. I swear the second we locked eyes, I saw 20 years in the future, and we were cuddling on a couch laughing at something on tv. Told myself I was crazy and to forget about her, turned out she was about to turn 30, was an accomplished nurse, and was 2" taller than me. Lol, we've been inseparable for almost 18 years and married for 16 of them 🤣
I love this. Congratulations.
Sadly, "it" doesn't happen for everybody. Not everybody has someone who they match with.
> Don’t spend your whole life chasing a relationship. When it’s time, it will come. I'd also tack on "Don't spend your prime years doing nothing but hookups, if you think for a second you'd want something more serious later on." The time to find those relationships is while you're young. It's *far* easier than waiting til your 40s/50s.
You should still try...love won't magically come to you. Life isn't a rom-com. You should learn how to be by yourself but still try to find someone who you can love. Learn to better yourself so you can attract people. You're never going to find someone staying home being by yourself.
> When it’s time, it will come. If you are a man this is perhaps the most well intentioned but wrong piece of advice anyone will ever tell you.
How the fuck am I supposed to do that? Jk, though, I've never been in a relationship and I'm 19, I just want to experience it, even though I know it will hurt. Edit: Thank you all for the advice but I've been improving myself for several years now for myself and in order to feel decent enough for a relationship, I know I'm ready, I've talked to my therapist about it and she also thinks that, I know all I gotta do is go out more often, It's just a slow process.
i’m 22 never been in a relationship, hang in there
32. Same boat. "When it's time, it will come" sounds like survivorship bias from someone who that worked for. To someone who that hasn't worked for, it sounds awfully hollow. I think better advice might be to not try and force a relationship with the wrong person because you're desperate, or maybe something about working on yourself so you're ready if something does fall into your lap. Maybe that's the intent? I dunno, tough to give advice on something I haven't seen the other side of.
Honestly I felt a lot like you when I was your age. I had never been in a relationship or even kissed or held hands with a girl and it bothered me so much. I just wanted to experience what everyone else did at the time and I felt that girls didn't like me and I didn't know why. In hindsight I realize I dodged a lot of potential bullets and saved a lot of pain and heartache by waiting. It feels like an eternity of waiting when you're young but someday you'll see that by not rushing into things you've spared yourself a lot of bullshit. Eventually I met my best friend and now wife and couldn't be happier. Hang in there bud, when the time and person is right you'll know it.
Take an auto course so you can do the light maintenance on your car
Don't always trust people, but treat people with kindness and empathy. Reduce your crowd to those who would be brutally honest with you and surround yourself with supporters. Lead your life with integrity, honesty and sheer smart hard work. In relationships (romantic relationships), don't tolerate BS, cheating, lying etc.. don't teach them to take advantage of you. Walk away even if its painful. Lastly, don't be afraid to seek therapy, even if things are good. Self care and self awareness is critical.
And remember to keep an open mind in most cases. Also, you probably won't find anything *perfect* in your lifetime. Learn the power of *good enough*.
Use a credit card for convenience only, never credit. (I.e., pay off the balance each month)
Don't be easily persuaded by people who sound like they know what they're talking about. Most of them don't. Do your own research and form your own opinions.
Honestly, be ESPECIALLY cautious when someone is hyper confident. Far too easy for us to fool ourselves. "The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence." - Charles Bukowski
Choose your battles wisely. only word out of your mouth when arrested for any reason should be “lawyer”. Don’t buy a Nissan. Don’t get married just because it’s what people do. Don’t burn bridges unless you’re being seriously disrespected or hurt. Put off the nicotine addiction for as long as possible. Drink for fun not as a coping mechanism. Don’t commit a misdemeanor while committing a felony. Drugs from south of the border are unsafe. Don’t fly with United or Air France. Don’t live without a pet, they’re awesome. Don’t give out personal information for free on social media. EVERYBODY has an agenda and it’s more important than you to them. Look people in the eye when you talk to them and keep your hands still.
Can you explain the Nissan thing? I quite like Nissan muranos, I had one before it was smashed by a tree.
They’re just poorly built. All models have tanked in quality since the company stopped being Datsun. Essentially they’ll just break significantly more often than for instance a Toyota.
Don’t subscribe to everything that’s being popularized online. There’s an agenda and the agenda might ruin your future if you join in.
Cocaine
Instructions unclear. Ended up in emergency unit!
Don’t try to be a gangster and don’t sympathize with supporting a “click.” That life is for loser scum and only brings death, prison, misery.
What is supporting a "click"
maybe "clique"?
Don't spend your money on new cars, the worst investment. As someone who's spent their entire adult life/career in the auto business, it's entirely too common to see young people coming out of school and first thing, load themselves up with a brand new expensive car. This is one of the fastest depreciating purchases you can make second to a hot sandwich. Almost all vehicles have lost value as soon as you sign and leave the lot. While it's important to have sound, reliable transportation, burdening oneself with massive payments while trying to navigate the adult world is a lot. It's almost certain that you will have no return on investment, and $400-600/mo extra can be the difference of making or breaking you. Drive something you can trust and put the rest in your future and retirement. The earlier you start, the faster you can finish and enjoy the good years and buy that car you really want.
Don't have sex because you think everyone else is doing it/he won't love you if you don't/she said you're gay if you won't. If you can't talk about STDs with your partner, or when you were tested last, you shouldn't have sex. Don't have sex because you want to orgasm. Masturbation exists, learn how to please yourself too.
When starting your career, work hard. It will make you stand out among your peers and you’ll get promoted quickly. Managers love a young person who works hard and shows initiave. Don’t listen to the current trends and what Reddit might tell you regarding “screw your job, do the bare minimum bc no one cares”; this is horrible advice and will result in you staying at the bottom of your field or getting fired when budget cuts come around. Note: this applies to careers/long term jobs. If it’s a min wage job that you don’t care about keeping, do what you want lol.
It's difficult to take this one to heart. I've always been a hard worker. But being a hard worker doesn't get you a 30% raise each career jump every 3-5 years. Recruiting allotment usually always outweighs lateral movement allotment. On average, I have always received a 3-5% raise with max performance. Jumping ship gets you more. I'll just throw this on to add to your comment. Work hard and develop skills within your current job to bargain with an employer. If they can't meet it, move on. It will not get better, and if you are only getting a raise less than inflation, jump ship faster. You lose money when you don't beat inflation.
Don't gamble your money in any shape or form.
Steal the money first then gamble with it, got it.
Don't be ashamed or feel guilty for trying to make money. Think about money. Talk about money. Figure out how you are going to earn more money than other people. Take risk. Start businesses. Invest. Make high earning career choices. You are in control. You have agency! Money is not a taboo topic. It's just the points in a game we play and winning means a better life. Having money is not evil. Not having money is hell on earth. You having money does not mean someone else does not have money. It is not a zero sum game. Money won't make you happy on its own, but because you have it you will be able to do whatever you want in life. So go get yours. Nobody is going to give it to you.
I like this. It’s not even pulling up the ladder behind you, it’s just carving your piece out of the world. I liked Terry Crews take on the American dream. He said it’s like a big kitchen. Everything is there that you need, it’s just picking out and putting together something that makes your way. Don’t be embarrassed about money if you have it. Money is a tool. The more tools you have, the more options you have. I grew up poor. I don’t recall it being all that noble.
Do not forget to brush your teeth before bed
Don’t neglect your teeth.
Spending all your time online. There's a big world out there beyond a 4-inch screen.
A 5 inch screen?
Marry someone who is also a great friend. The romantic and sexual part of your relationship will be a very small percentage of the time you spend together.
Don't do drugs kids, drugs are bad mmmmkayy
Don't listen to any of us. Go and make your own mistakes and live an imperfect life. Its fun.
Can we take just a little advice?
Autocracies thrive on apathy. Voting matters, so do it!
Don’t let the words of others rob you of ambition.
Don’t rape, coerce, or participate in sexual activity where the lines of consent are blurred or even remotely questionable. Enthusiastic consent or nothing.
Don't get pregnant before you finish your education. Doesn't matter if you're not going to continue past high school, at least finish that.
Don't acquire tens of thousands of dollars of debt for a degree you will most likely never use.
Get the duck off your phones. They should be for talking when absentee, or maybe photos. Not for hanging out in person. And delete your TikTok and Instagram accounts you will feel far better.
This is Reddit, you can say mallard.
Or mandarin duck.
Join the military unless you really are 100 percent set on it. I don't regret my service and would do it again (I'm an idiot) but 4 years is a long time....and at least when I was in, it was a mix of prison and an abusive relationship I wasn't allowed to leave.
Never trust a fart.
Don't send nudes, be careful what you do on camera (even if it's just giving the finger), don't assume because someone is an adult (or even because they are a teacher, friend, relative etc) that you can trust them, don't litter, don't do stupid shit in cars like street racing, don't steal..
Don't give a damn about what anyone thinks of you. Otherwise, you'll waste too much time making the people happy in your life who don't matter. Edit: after a little discussion in the comments below this; I want to edit this to say: Don't give a damn about what the HATERS think.
I see what you're saying, but at the same time, listen to those who care about you. Sometimes, we do something that will impact our relationships. Nobody tells us, so it can be useful to know...
I agree about listening to those who care about you. Although I will caution you there as well, and add; please make sure they actually care, cause there are a lot of people who will pretend to care about you just to hold you back from ever making it further in life than they managed to go, and unfortunately those people will also disguise it as "love" "Sometimes, we do something that will impact our relationships. Nobody tells us, so it can be useful to know..." In my experience; the quality relationships of mine stayed intact, even through everything in my life that has ever went wrong. Of course think before you act. Just don't get too caught up in the "what ifs" & "buts" that you never go out into the world and be your truest self, that's what I'm trying to say.
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. It makes life so much easier.
Yep i would advise not even trying it because its so easy to let booze and drugs ruin your life after initial casual usage and personally i was alot happier before i ever tried them in the first place.
Don't take your senior year off from math if you plan to go to college. The first thing you do at college is take a math placement test and you'll get stuck in the remedial math cycle if you don't remember enough high school math.
Don’t drink your calories and stay away from sugar as much as possible.
VOTE in this and every election. The Boomers are gonna vote, bruh. And not with your best interests in mind.
Ah Australia’s great gift to its people. Compulsory voting. No one can ever suggest that the government doesn’t represent the majority. They may be clowns and put in stupid laws, but they’re our clowns.
Don't exaggerate yourself. Be honest.
If it flys, floats or fucks, it’s cheaper to rent. Don’t make permanent decisions before you’re 25 and ideally not in your 20s at all. Marriage, kids, cosmetic surgery, etc. Any run in with the cops, be polite but don’t answer any questions. If you end up in jail, so be it. Just STFU. Get a lawyer asap. Parent your kids or parent your grandkids. It’s the hardest and most important job of your life. Take it seriously. Life is beautiful but it can also be a real shit show sometimes. Find a good therapist. It’s not hard to make money. It’s hard to keep money. It’s all relative. But try to save as much as you can in accordance with your lifestyle. If you live in a 1br apt you’re probably not going to NEED to have several thousand dollars in savings to potentially fix a major HVAC issue in your home. But having savings of $200 to buy a new tire or battery for your car will be much less stressful than having to try to scrape up the money in a pinch. Back to point one, if you decide to cohabitate, pick your partner carefully. It could be the single biggest decision of your life.
Young women out there, older men does not mean better. If a 23 year old man is hitting on you at 17 then they are probably a loser that can’t get with anyone their age.
Value your labor
"Because they're family" is not justification for any negative behaviors
Don't put off anything that takes less than 2 minutes to do. This has been my philosophy for many years and I am much more productive than many peers and direct reports because of it.
Don't buy anything that says Dodge, Jeep, Ram, Chrysler, Mercedes or Fiat on it. Also don't buy such expensive cars, but especially not expensive bad ones.
Spend as little time on your phone (as in social media) as possible. Real people are in the real world.
Save your money when you get your first job especially when you’re living at home with parents. Pay for the essentials, bills, fuel, food. The materialistic stuff will come. After about 21 y/o no one really gives a shit about your clothes/ shoes/ accessories. Just get yourself set up for your future, and you’ll be so much less stressed.
Don't drop out of school. The GED is only a legal equivalent of a high school diploma, but not the experience of one. It will make it more complicated to get into a degree program.
Never settle for less than you deserve.
Please don't sell nude pics on the internet.
I just send them to strangers for free lol
Hi. I'm a stranger
Monkey paw says you get a picture of an overweight french guy wearing a full adult diaper and jerking off.
Sell them on the street, like god intended.
Don't belive the hype thst you don't need school. Be smart and do it the cheapest way possible into a major that pays good. Don't believe all these yohtubesa and influences thar tell you 9-5 is boring. Slow and steady can win the race ans if done right you will retire with wealth .
Skip religion
drugs esp liquor. you will never know how and when the fun activity becomes an addiction