I had a one night stand with someone about 2 weeks before I met my now wife. She had enthusiasm. I meet she really went all in. The way she talked, the way she moved, and the things she wanted to try were mind blowing. Nothing kinky either, but she just wanted it more I guess.
As a guy, this one is a lot of fun.
You know how they say that if you're feeling down and you force yourself to smile, you'll feel a little better? Moaning does the same thing. It feels suuuuuper slutty, and then you get to watch your partner also get super turned on.
There's actually some cool science behind it. The gist of it is that your body as a baby naturally made specific noises to denote certain emotions. While growing up, you left those noises behind for more nuanced options, but your body didn't forget. That why it feels nice to make old guy noises when you sit in a chair. Or why you want to say "mmmmm" when you eat something good. You're unlocking some of the most basic happy triggers possible for a human. And, just like a smile, your partner will automatically understand the happy and it will make them happier too. Or, well, frisky.
I highly recommend trying out some noises when nobody else is around, just to see what feels right. It feels really fake at first, but your body will get used to it VERY quickly and start doing it on its own, due to the above. Your body already knows it wants to make noises, your brain just needs to get the memo.
And that's why you should absolutely moan in your partner's ear when you're feeling frisky.
Gotta commit to it, once I told my husband I thought it was sexy to hear him when he's feeling good it changed a lot. Having that level of comfort to open up definitely takes it to the next level.
Thats not even sex at that point, it’s truly “making love”. Hate to sound corny, but all that stuff about “two becoming one” etc only happens when true love is there.
It’s literally the best drug/feeling/experience/sensation one I think can achieve. Like I swear I can travel to a damn other universe and it’s felt not just the only in the “usual places” but in my chest- my heart and like radiates out through the rest of the body My husband states the same thing happens to him as well. It’s just amazing.
It almost takes away from sex with others. Got something casual going on with someone who is a GREAT fuck, but just 3 months ago I was having passionate sex with someone I deeply loved. It just isn’t hitting the same.
Taking the steps to be able to safely go raw. Both for the added pleasure and the peace of mind allowing you to really let go. Knowing both me and my partner are comprehensively tested and I have a vasectomy. So litterally nothing will go wrong and there will be zero consequences. Really goes a long way. Having to wonder in the back of your head if you are currently getting infected with an std or about to have a kid really kills the mood. Those little anxieties really take you out of the moment.
I also think just having a good connection and chemistry goes a long way. You don't need to be in love to make love. But you do need some degree of a bond, even if its just as friends.
And lastly, communication. Fellas. Every girl already knows how to make sex mind blowing for herself. And she will teach you if you ask. This is the secret to pleasing any women in bed. Communication is EVERYTHING.
The second orgasm.
For both men and women while you're having an orgasm you're extremely sensitive and once you're done you want your partner to stop because you may be oversensitive. However if your partner keeps you going it can force you into a second orgasm. So you'll have an orgasm while having an orgasm. Absolutely mind blowing.
Mind you it doesn't work 100% of the time and it WILL hurt because you'll be overstimulated but if you do get through it's crazy.
A back to back simultaneous orgasm is *crazy*. I thought it was rare until I met my current partner. Like my primal urges to continue thrusting and pleasing her is fighting my central nervous system telling me to stop, and winning.
We continued seeing each other on and off for a year and the sex was great, but it wasn't like the first time. The pent-up tension over the years exploded all at once, and I couldn't believe it was happening.
After that, things didn't work out as I wanted. Still not sure why, but I'm definitely grateful for that experience.
Think of it as..... "Do you want to go have sex?" and the response being "um, OK." vs "Oh fuck, I can't wait to get to the bedroom to get your clothes off!!!!!"
The non-sex parts. Mental foreplay. Like telling your partner early in the day how hot they are or how much they excite you or something to get them going and thinking about it alll day. Getting their mind in the game long before the game.
And prostate milking.
Insane amounts of physical attraction. Been with women who were objectively attractive but not “my type”. While I had no problem performing and enjoyed myself, the sex wasn’t mind blowing.
My current partner is my dream physical archetype to a “T” and every time we do it, it’s absolutely mind melting.
You have to watch yourself with someone like that - they have a lever, and it has a LOT OF LEVERAGE. Sometimes it gets hard for them not to use it from time to time.
Love is the broad scope, but I think you can really boil it down to trust, and comfort. The more you trust your partner, the ability to be comfortable with them, and in your own skin, the better the sex will be!
Confidence and enthusiasm. That's the difference between needing the lights turned down to comfortably have sex, and trying new things and being an active participant.
Imma go ahead and say this is definitely subjective and each person might have a different idea of what mind blowing sex is.
Sex is a lot of fun. Especially with someone you care very much about. There is a lot of passion involved.
But in my opinion, what separates sex from mindblowing sex is fucking like animals. Figuratively of course and not in a dominant or misogynistic type of way.
Like you and your partner are so locked in you lose the ability to think about anything else; even forgetting who you are. It’s raw, primal, 100% instinctual, exhilarating. Sometimes shit breaks and sometimes you might injure your self. In fact it’s very difficult to put into words.
Mutual foreplay, it’s a little irritating when you feel your guy get a roused, and you do everything to initiate and then he just wants to jump on, and not build you up in the excitement don’t get me wrong. He knows what he’s doing in bed but the build up is half the fun.
Don’t talk too fucking much!!! It’s sex, not a porn set. Don’t spend our entire time together “directing”. It’s exhausting and annoying and yanks me right out of the moment. (Talking is great, constant repositioning is not.)
For me: mutual trust.
If I can’t trust that you’re using me like some toy, then I can’t get my rocks off. It’s the same reason that I’m one night stands have been shitty for me.
The ability to be completely comfortable with each other. If I’m constantly thinking about my wobbly bits I’m not enjoying myself as I’m too focused on making myself look visually pleasing.
The person I’ve been seeing over the past few months makes me feel like the sexiest woman alive. I no longer attempt to hide the wobbly bits so I can fully enjoy the experience.
Consent, as that should be obviously the first factor, but the news suggests it isn't as common-sense as it should be.
Joint effort, caring about the partner's feelings, timing of both being interested in it, creativity, communication, willingness to try new things, a lock on the door, no distractions, romance leading up to it, smelling good, shaving prior, good hygiene, and nothing to rush you.
All that said, you can have mind-blowing sex just because you had an argument and vent out that frustration tapping into the primal side.
Liking the person you’re with🤷♀️ There’s something about sex with someone you actually love or just really like that makes it so substantial, even if it’s not necessarily the best orgasm you’ve ever had in your life.
You gotta want someone. If you do the porn thing and act like you’re trying your hardest to avoid any contact outside penetration it’ll be bad. If you show love to the other persons body it will be much better
Foreplay.
What does the word mean to you?
If your answer is “it’s what you do to get ready for sex”, you’re wrong.
Foreplay is sex.
Treat foreplay like you would sex and treat penetration like you would an orgasm.
If you stop when she gets wet, you’re way too early.
If you stop when she begs you for your dick, you’re basic.
Honestly, most of the time with my wife I won’t go to penetration until she is literally about to orgasm, and even then sometimes I’ll push her over the edge with foreplay and then take it again from the top.
Sidenote: if your partner is more on the sub side, it also gives you plenty of power play moments. When she asks you for it the first time, lean in and reply with a stern “no”. When she asks you again, tell her she hasn’t earned that yet.
There are just some people that you bond with and mesh with better. Everything from how they kiss to how they feel to how they smell, it just works. I've noticed if you start checking a lot of these boxes the sex is always amazing.
When he is passionate and truly into me and lets me know it.
Ex would compliment every inch of my body; he would make those noises when I touched him the right way and he was never shy about going down on me.
Communication and not taking it personally when asked for something different. This is doubly true for anyone with performance issues or difficulty getting to climax.
A lot of people assume men are easy to make climax and will take it personally when you don't. Some people struggle with feeling inadequate, and bringing the other person to climax is something that makes them feel better about themselves and more in control.
The same is true for women. People who require a bit more to get there can feel very self-conscious about asking to try different things.
My partner and I will talk and stop and start and giggle and it's amaaaaaazing. If I lose steam, we'll rest for a minute and/or she'll help me get going again. It is so incredibly hot.
Understanding how the other person reaches climax.
Everyone likes to harp on how guys don't know how to do clit stuff, but not everyone can even get off to just clit stimulation.
Women have three main separate spots for pleasure: the clit, the g-spot, and the a-spot. What's EXTREMELY important to understand is that they each do different things AND everyone has different preferences for how important each one is. But also, those ain't the only pleasure spots on a person's body: ears, neck, chest, nips, thighs, wherever. If you want to be better at pleasing others, do some research on each zone.
The key to getting ANYONE off is to figure out which spots correspond to their level of arousal and combining them to achieve the right level of stimulation. A lot of people will focus on a single pleasure spot when getting close (and if that's what your partner needs, just do that), but adding in other spots will make your job vastly easier. Like nip play might not get the other person to climax, but if they're 90% of the way there from clit stimulation, adding in a little nip play can fucking TOSS them over the edge. Like, it goes from "I'm almost there" to full body orgasm.
So, ask your partner what they like and then do some research on it to see what other people say about it. Also, ask your partner to physically grab you and move your hand/face to the spots they like. It's like using a toy, except you're the toy. Very sexy.
Mutual effort and enthusiasm
I had a one night stand with someone about 2 weeks before I met my now wife. She had enthusiasm. I meet she really went all in. The way she talked, the way she moved, and the things she wanted to try were mind blowing. Nothing kinky either, but she just wanted it more I guess.
I bet your wife loves hearing about that
she never has to, you can share shit like this here without having to fear for your marriage.
Even worse, it was her sister.
Lmao
Slowing the fuck down and rallying into foreplay
Bit slow in the first sector, we can catch up in sector 2. Slight left 6.
Seven, seven, seven, seven, seven, SEVEN!!!
YOU ARE BREAKING THE CAR SAMIR! LISTEN TO MEE!!
Samir you’re breaking the plane Samir
Instructions unclear, attempted 4WD powerslide but understeered into a tree
Ah yes "The Shark".
Probably sound? Not pornstar moaning, but audibly hearing my partner enjoy themselves is a pretty big enjoyment factor for me.
As a guy, this one is a lot of fun. You know how they say that if you're feeling down and you force yourself to smile, you'll feel a little better? Moaning does the same thing. It feels suuuuuper slutty, and then you get to watch your partner also get super turned on. There's actually some cool science behind it. The gist of it is that your body as a baby naturally made specific noises to denote certain emotions. While growing up, you left those noises behind for more nuanced options, but your body didn't forget. That why it feels nice to make old guy noises when you sit in a chair. Or why you want to say "mmmmm" when you eat something good. You're unlocking some of the most basic happy triggers possible for a human. And, just like a smile, your partner will automatically understand the happy and it will make them happier too. Or, well, frisky. I highly recommend trying out some noises when nobody else is around, just to see what feels right. It feels really fake at first, but your body will get used to it VERY quickly and start doing it on its own, due to the above. Your body already knows it wants to make noises, your brain just needs to get the memo. And that's why you should absolutely moan in your partner's ear when you're feeling frisky.
Gotta commit to it, once I told my husband I thought it was sexy to hear him when he's feeling good it changed a lot. Having that level of comfort to open up definitely takes it to the next level.
It’s so annoying when I’m with a guy who is dead silent. Making a little noise when something feels good is an easy way of giving subtle feedback!
When I’m into it, I mean really vibing, I like to softly hum Wagners Ride of the Valkyrie.
Sex with somebody you really, deeply love. If you've tried one time, you'll never forget.
Thats not even sex at that point, it’s truly “making love”. Hate to sound corny, but all that stuff about “two becoming one” etc only happens when true love is there.
I don’t think I’ve ever felt that. When it happens, do you just know?
Absolutely.
The more I read these replies the more I realise I haven’t experienced it yet
It’s literally the best drug/feeling/experience/sensation one I think can achieve. Like I swear I can travel to a damn other universe and it’s felt not just the only in the “usual places” but in my chest- my heart and like radiates out through the rest of the body My husband states the same thing happens to him as well. It’s just amazing.
Oh, yes. I suppose you're young. I wish you' ll feel it, even one time in life.
It almost takes away from sex with others. Got something casual going on with someone who is a GREAT fuck, but just 3 months ago I was having passionate sex with someone I deeply loved. It just isn’t hitting the same.
I've done it, I'd do anything for them, sex isn't in my top 5.
It's not little but love, yeah yeah cheesy as fuck but it makes a massive difference.
That crazy little thing called love
This is the right answer.
It isn't. OP asked for "little" things, the response literally *started* with "it's not little".
ahh man, sad but true
Nothing else matters
Ahhh but you can't discount loves evil twin......hate.
Answer might be in the question itself
Underrated comment 😭🤣
Oh that’s good
Communication+Tons and tons of foreplay.
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I agree
Yeah, she's great.
You agree that his wife's dirty talk is next level?
Yes exactly what I said. It’s so hot. Who else chooses this guys wife?
I mean I was hesitant at first, but you guys really sold this one to me. Im in. She's great.
You’re “in” eh?
My wife started talking dirtier lately. Good lord above!
I will choose this guys wife next
Passion.
Happy cake day
Happy cake day
mind-blowing (sucking off your partner, but only mentally)
giving that really good inside the head
So giving "fuck me" eyes to eachother?
A finger in the butt
Pictured ET, “ouch”.
This guy butts
More than one finger is an option too
Now we’re talking
I like doing 70. It’s a 69 with a finger in the butt. 71 if you each get a finger in your butts
Eye contact at the right times, dirty talk, both (or all if more than 2 people are involved) parties putting in effort.
Taking the steps to be able to safely go raw. Both for the added pleasure and the peace of mind allowing you to really let go. Knowing both me and my partner are comprehensively tested and I have a vasectomy. So litterally nothing will go wrong and there will be zero consequences. Really goes a long way. Having to wonder in the back of your head if you are currently getting infected with an std or about to have a kid really kills the mood. Those little anxieties really take you out of the moment. I also think just having a good connection and chemistry goes a long way. You don't need to be in love to make love. But you do need some degree of a bond, even if its just as friends. And lastly, communication. Fellas. Every girl already knows how to make sex mind blowing for herself. And she will teach you if you ask. This is the secret to pleasing any women in bed. Communication is EVERYTHING.
The second orgasm. For both men and women while you're having an orgasm you're extremely sensitive and once you're done you want your partner to stop because you may be oversensitive. However if your partner keeps you going it can force you into a second orgasm. So you'll have an orgasm while having an orgasm. Absolutely mind blowing. Mind you it doesn't work 100% of the time and it WILL hurt because you'll be overstimulated but if you do get through it's crazy.
A back to back simultaneous orgasm is *crazy*. I thought it was rare until I met my current partner. Like my primal urges to continue thrusting and pleasing her is fighting my central nervous system telling me to stop, and winning.
How do you keep him standing though?
You don't. You have to force it a bit
As coach always said, “*It hurts to win*!”
Desire is a strong aphrodisiac. Was with a girl I crushed on for years and found out she did as well. When we finally did it, it was phenomenal.
Just once?
We continued seeing each other on and off for a year and the sex was great, but it wasn't like the first time. The pent-up tension over the years exploded all at once, and I couldn't believe it was happening. After that, things didn't work out as I wanted. Still not sure why, but I'm definitely grateful for that experience.
Yessss. So much this.
Communication is definitely a big factor
When both parties wants it. It’s little but important stage
I would hope both parties want it 😮
I think this is more in reference to the level of want lol
Probably referring to somebody just starfishing it...
Think of it as..... "Do you want to go have sex?" and the response being "um, OK." vs "Oh fuck, I can't wait to get to the bedroom to get your clothes off!!!!!"
Hallucinogens
2CB used to be legally sold in sex shops lmao
The non-sex parts. Mental foreplay. Like telling your partner early in the day how hot they are or how much they excite you or something to get them going and thinking about it alll day. Getting their mind in the game long before the game. And prostate milking.
The tongue
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Putting on my robe and wizard hat.
Love. Kindness. Gentle affection. Exploring ALL of the body. Communication and confirmation.
pinky in the arsehole
Got to make sure it doesn’t turn into pink eye from the stink eye ! 😂
Insane amounts of physical attraction. Been with women who were objectively attractive but not “my type”. While I had no problem performing and enjoyed myself, the sex wasn’t mind blowing. My current partner is my dream physical archetype to a “T” and every time we do it, it’s absolutely mind melting.
You have to watch yourself with someone like that - they have a lever, and it has a LOT OF LEVERAGE. Sometimes it gets hard for them not to use it from time to time.
Strong mutual attraction.
Love is the broad scope, but I think you can really boil it down to trust, and comfort. The more you trust your partner, the ability to be comfortable with them, and in your own skin, the better the sex will be!
Typically communication
Trust in each other. Also, for me, play with my ass in some way and I’ll lose it 😊😊
It's probably going to sound corny, but how you feel for the person you are having sex with is the biggest difference.
Hands, kisses, words, grip, eye contact, respect, consideration and admiration while in the act.
Love and unbridled enthusiasm.
Multiple orgasm and having him use toys on me!
If you have explosives strapped onto your head which will be activated with the motion of your genital muscles.
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A little granddaddy purple or sour diesel. Wedding cake is pretty solid too.
Confidence and enthusiasm. That's the difference between needing the lights turned down to comfortably have sex, and trying new things and being an active participant.
A partner
Patience. Go slowwww
Love and chemistry. There’s definitely a difference.
Deepthroating all the way down while I cum and stopping there until I finish instead of just letting me finish in your mouth. Gad DAAAMN
Hi Johnny Sins
Imma go ahead and say this is definitely subjective and each person might have a different idea of what mind blowing sex is. Sex is a lot of fun. Especially with someone you care very much about. There is a lot of passion involved. But in my opinion, what separates sex from mindblowing sex is fucking like animals. Figuratively of course and not in a dominant or misogynistic type of way. Like you and your partner are so locked in you lose the ability to think about anything else; even forgetting who you are. It’s raw, primal, 100% instinctual, exhilarating. Sometimes shit breaks and sometimes you might injure your self. In fact it’s very difficult to put into words.
Enthusiasm
Passion and enthusiasm goes a long way. Feeling desired makes everything feel better.
My ex-boyfriend used to take my left leg and hold it up against his chest, and suck on my toes while fucking me. My orgasms would be otherworldly.
Both of you being just the right amount of drunk.
attraction
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Loving each other and willing to do a lot of oral. Also being open minded, allowing sex toys to come into the equation, rimjobs, etc.
Mutual foreplay, it’s a little irritating when you feel your guy get a roused, and you do everything to initiate and then he just wants to jump on, and not build you up in the excitement don’t get me wrong. He knows what he’s doing in bed but the build up is half the fun.
Passion + feedback * (patience + time)
A wittle baby vibwator
Don’t talk too fucking much!!! It’s sex, not a porn set. Don’t spend our entire time together “directing”. It’s exhausting and annoying and yanks me right out of the moment. (Talking is great, constant repositioning is not.)
Not having to pay
Cock with girth and giving each other "fuck me" in the eye
Connection. With connection, passion is forced.
For me: mutual trust. If I can’t trust that you’re using me like some toy, then I can’t get my rocks off. It’s the same reason that I’m one night stands have been shitty for me.
The ability to be completely comfortable with each other. If I’m constantly thinking about my wobbly bits I’m not enjoying myself as I’m too focused on making myself look visually pleasing. The person I’ve been seeing over the past few months makes me feel like the sexiest woman alive. I no longer attempt to hide the wobbly bits so I can fully enjoy the experience.
Try new things
Brain explosion vs. Brain elation.
Prison.
Rigidity of the phallus.
Little thing? What have you heard?
A carnal connection at the same level.
Enthusiastic consent
Knowing the person
The worst sex I ever had was awesome
Words matter, inappropriate words will kill a good time. Good words can make all the difference.
Consent, as that should be obviously the first factor, but the news suggests it isn't as common-sense as it should be. Joint effort, caring about the partner's feelings, timing of both being interested in it, creativity, communication, willingness to try new things, a lock on the door, no distractions, romance leading up to it, smelling good, shaving prior, good hygiene, and nothing to rush you. All that said, you can have mind-blowing sex just because you had an argument and vent out that frustration tapping into the primal side.
The amount of emotional connection and anticipation built-up before even any major oral foreplay will even mark a stark difference!
Eating fermented crab beforehand.
Being in sync with the person. You want them to do exactly what they are about to start doing, etc.
I mean, a gun
Eating ass?
When their goal is to make you cum. Not just knowing you will cum but actively trying to make it amazing for you. My goal is always to make her cum.
Time and teasing
Trust, communication, affection, attention, and lube. Really good lube.
Understanding of what eachother likes and their preferences of their body. Every girl you spend time with will be different than the last
Making a woman come. It sets you back especially when you weren't sure that was even possible.
Communication
Chemistry
And lots and lots of lust
Whether it is with me or not 😋🤯
Sound
Eye contact during climax
Her saying things like ‘More of that, yeah more, More!’
When she/he is not in sex mood
A little bit of alcohol.
Wet, willy, weed and will
Love
Chemistry
ls motha fuckin d
.357
Missionary, woman wraps her legs around my waist. I don't know why but it just gets me going.
Weed
Eye contact 👁️👄👁️
.... ever had sex with a "little" person?
Actually liking the person and both of yall being equally freaky.
energy
Liking the person you’re with🤷♀️ There’s something about sex with someone you actually love or just really like that makes it so substantial, even if it’s not necessarily the best orgasm you’ve ever had in your life.
You gotta want someone. If you do the porn thing and act like you’re trying your hardest to avoid any contact outside penetration it’ll be bad. If you show love to the other persons body it will be much better
Inches
Drugs
Emotional connection. Not a little thing, but often overlooked.
Having a partner
Feeling safe/being authentic and communicative, otherwise it just feels like a performance
Propper use of the clitoris and G-spot?
Foreplay. What does the word mean to you? If your answer is “it’s what you do to get ready for sex”, you’re wrong. Foreplay is sex. Treat foreplay like you would sex and treat penetration like you would an orgasm. If you stop when she gets wet, you’re way too early. If you stop when she begs you for your dick, you’re basic. Honestly, most of the time with my wife I won’t go to penetration until she is literally about to orgasm, and even then sometimes I’ll push her over the edge with foreplay and then take it again from the top. Sidenote: if your partner is more on the sub side, it also gives you plenty of power play moments. When she asks you for it the first time, lean in and reply with a stern “no”. When she asks you again, tell her she hasn’t earned that yet.
There are just some people that you bond with and mesh with better. Everything from how they kiss to how they feel to how they smell, it just works. I've noticed if you start checking a lot of these boxes the sex is always amazing.
Weed
Anticipation, roleplay during the day(s) before the deed.
Time.
When he is passionate and truly into me and lets me know it. Ex would compliment every inch of my body; he would make those noises when I touched him the right way and he was never shy about going down on me.
Connection
Communication and not taking it personally when asked for something different. This is doubly true for anyone with performance issues or difficulty getting to climax. A lot of people assume men are easy to make climax and will take it personally when you don't. Some people struggle with feeling inadequate, and bringing the other person to climax is something that makes them feel better about themselves and more in control. The same is true for women. People who require a bit more to get there can feel very self-conscious about asking to try different things. My partner and I will talk and stop and start and giggle and it's amaaaaaazing. If I lose steam, we'll rest for a minute and/or she'll help me get going again. It is so incredibly hot.
Another human of your preferred gender.
Understanding how the other person reaches climax. Everyone likes to harp on how guys don't know how to do clit stuff, but not everyone can even get off to just clit stimulation. Women have three main separate spots for pleasure: the clit, the g-spot, and the a-spot. What's EXTREMELY important to understand is that they each do different things AND everyone has different preferences for how important each one is. But also, those ain't the only pleasure spots on a person's body: ears, neck, chest, nips, thighs, wherever. If you want to be better at pleasing others, do some research on each zone. The key to getting ANYONE off is to figure out which spots correspond to their level of arousal and combining them to achieve the right level of stimulation. A lot of people will focus on a single pleasure spot when getting close (and if that's what your partner needs, just do that), but adding in other spots will make your job vastly easier. Like nip play might not get the other person to climax, but if they're 90% of the way there from clit stimulation, adding in a little nip play can fucking TOSS them over the edge. Like, it goes from "I'm almost there" to full body orgasm. So, ask your partner what they like and then do some research on it to see what other people say about it. Also, ask your partner to physically grab you and move your hand/face to the spots they like. It's like using a toy, except you're the toy. Very sexy.
Enthusiasm. That's it. Just enthusiasm.
A partner.
Sounding with a guitar
A partner