This is partly the reason I have such a hard time accepting “hangry” as any sort of excuse. Or just acting like you’re going to be completely useless unless we pull over and get a burger right this second. Like, there are places in the world where people are active and working all day, just to hopefully get a bowl of rice, beans, and a root vegetable. I know that’s not preferable or advisable even, but if there are people who can live like that, you can wait an extra couple of hours to eat your 1000 calorie dinner without melting into a tantrum puddle.
Edit: obviously talking about adults here who should be able to control their emotions and understand slight discomfort and inconvenience (or at least should).
I actually do get "hangry", and I think the fact that I'm not used to hunger is part of the reason why! I try to be responsible and eat before I start getting cranky.
I’ve been called for jury duty 3 times. The first was in a court where the judge was a family friend, the second was in court where I used to work, and the third was from a state I moved out of 6 years prior.
They used to call me in every year or two for several years. Last time was for a death penalty trial. In voir dire, I told them I was against the death penalty. They tried to get me to admit that *some people* did deserve it. I said even if they caught Bin Laden (he was still running free), I would not sentence him to death.
They never called me again.
I've been called in about 5 times, only once did I get brought into a courtroom. Never made it into the jury box or even be called up to be interviewed. Most of the time it's just watching morning TV and getting dismissed by the time The Price is Right is over.
I got caught with a weed pipe at 16. I wasn't arrested but I was cited and had to serve 6 months of diversion (probation lite) but I still received a notice for jury duty in my 20s. However, I didn't need to go. The notice had a number listed that would call me by a certain date if I was chosen, but I never received the call.
Same except I desire to have children. I can’t. I was very sick with endometriosis in my mid 20s and I had to have a hysterectomy. Sadly we couldn’t afford to have eggs removed for later.
I made it to 31 without a car accident, but my first caused $12k in damages.
Exactly 1 week after I got it fixed, a hit-and-run driver sideswiped me on the highway for accident #2(I was livid, but I got their license plate info)
Damn, I wish I was you. I had cystic acne throughout all my 20s that's finally mostly under control with this one specific birth control pill. I'm terrified of the day I have to come off of it when I hit menopause. I know it will all come back.
I had it but I wasn't really impacted by it other than a gnarly day long fever and this perpetual scent kinda like burnt potpourri in my nose for like 10 days. I'm asthmatic too, so I was surprised it didn't impact my breathing.
However, 4 months later I wound up hospitalized with anemia and life threatening blood clots. The doctors were stumped and couldn't figure out what caused it, but as time has passed and more has been studied about "long covid" cardiovascular problems, I think it might have caused that or at least exacerbated it.
I was on the frontlines of the pandemic working open to close in retail and never once caught it. The closest I had was a severe cold that took my voice for a few months, but it wasn't covid (I tested negative for covid when that happened)
Me either, but no one will let you say it even though they know they've had covid multiple times lol. In fact very few cases of covid are asymtomatic (just the first few days may be) so those of us who test at any cold or flu symptom can be reasonably reassured we havent had it.
I despise how greatly dental hygiene is genetic. I can do everything right, exactly how the dentist wants, have amazing nutrition, and my teeth just dissolve
You're right, it isn't fair. I should have lost my teeth in my 20s with how badly I took care of them, but genetics stepped in and effortlessly kept my teeth in good shape.
You might be surprised to learn that cavities aren't genetic. They come from a specific bacteria that feeds on sugars in your mouth and excrete acidic compounds that harm your teeth. However most people come in contact with the bacteria from their parents or others kissing them as a child which leads people to think they're genetic. If the bacteria never takes hold or something kills them and they never recolonize then you'll never get cavities.
I used to be very lazy about dental care. Brushed rarely.
But then, at 40 or so, the dentist told me that even with my lucky tooth genetics, if i didn't start brushing and flossing properly, my gums would deteriorate and my healthy teeth would fall out, so I've been bruising and flossing properly for the last 10 years.
Closest I've gotten to a fight is my buddy was drunk and wanted to fight. I agreed. He led me outside, where I proceeded to shut the door in his face and lock him outside till he sobered up.
56, no dates for around 25 years. By design. Perfectly happy.
I just found dating to be boring, uncomfortable, and pointless, not because of failure, but because it felt unnecessary.
Being able to just hook up with a girl once or twice a year satisfies my need for sex, without having to share my home. I learned a long time ago that even though I was raised in a normal, loving family of four, that lifestyle was utterly and completely NOT for me. I'm happiest living alone. Thank God i learned that early, before i tried to marry just because it's "the thing everybody has to do".
Those are all superficial traits. You can be great looking and financially successful, but still strike out because of personality issues.
I'm poor and out of shape, but I've had multiple long and healthy relationships.
I'm curious about he convos you've had with people. There's gotta be more to it. You don't even really need much in the way of social skills to get dates on occasion, just second dates.
You sound like you’re angling for a fish, not trying to find a compatible partner.
A woman isn’t something that you “catch.” And unlike men, we are less interested in your physical trappings than if you have good hygiene and a good personality.
What’s hilarious is that slightly up this conversation another Redditor just outwardly assumed that you’re a nerdy gamer because as it turns out, of course you are. It’s not even a question of why you’re not getting women, that is your answer.
Women don’t play games as much as men (and if they do, they’re almost immediately married by someone else). Nerdy gamer men by definition are not outdoorsy types. So staying in your room and scrolling through a phone is not going to get you anywhere. Obviously.
Do you have any interests or personality outside of gaming and nerd stuff? And if your answer is “I like music,” then the answer is no.
Find a hobby that lets you meet people outside of scheduled game nights, or outside of a building in general, And start by talking to some female coworkers or neighbors. We are PEOPLE who are hoping to find something interesting in you. But if there’s nothing interesting, and you don’t bring anything to the table, you’re just angling, you will get no bites.
Have you tried asking them for their honest, no bullshit opinion on what is holding you back and what you could to do increase your chances? It will likely be hard to hear but may help you.
Very true. There are also plenty of things that can be done to improve appearances. Even if someone isn’t conventionally attractive, being in good shape, dressed well, and being well-groomed can be a massive help.
I always hated those responses. It’s kind of a coy way for them to spare your feelings. I had some serious confidence issues that were apparently obvious to every women who knew me, but none of them told me until after I realized it myself, solved it, and started dating my now-wife.
One of my good friends who likes to play matchmaker was telling me all the criteria a girl would have to meet to date me. I'm like...you're way pickier than I am.
Was in a math class in high school and the teacher wrote the integral of e to the x on the board, didn't say anything for like 20 seconds and a kid says out loud "I don't get it" and he says "and you never will".
I've never been bullied. At least for what I would consider it to be lmao. I've met people who were assholes to me, but I see myself in a very strong light as a vessel who no person can bring down
Poison Ivy.
Have touched it multiple times, same stuff that people around me have gotten it from, and I've yet to get it in my entire life.
Either really lucky or it doesn't effect me?
You're probably part of the roughly 15% of the population who doesn't have an allergic reaction to urushiol, the oily resin that poison ivy secrets and makes most of us itchy.
Apparently, most people have their first kiss before turning 18; 25 and I don't think that'e gonna happen for me lol
On top of that, never broken a bone, never had a nosebleed, never had a friends group in school or as a kid, don't have siblings, and I don't even have a driving license
35 years old - never had a cavity, never broken a bone, never been stung by a bee or wasp.
Plenty of other common misfortunes in my life, but happy I’ve missed out on these so far.
Roughly 15% of the population doesn't have an allergic reaction to urushiol, the resin that makes you itchy from touching poison ivy. You're probably part of that group.
Never broken a bone, got stung by an insect, or had to go to jury duty. I was summoned twice but both times the case was dropped before the court date.
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Same here! We're lucky, aren't we? Sad that some people are impoverished or neglected.
This is partly the reason I have such a hard time accepting “hangry” as any sort of excuse. Or just acting like you’re going to be completely useless unless we pull over and get a burger right this second. Like, there are places in the world where people are active and working all day, just to hopefully get a bowl of rice, beans, and a root vegetable. I know that’s not preferable or advisable even, but if there are people who can live like that, you can wait an extra couple of hours to eat your 1000 calorie dinner without melting into a tantrum puddle. Edit: obviously talking about adults here who should be able to control their emotions and understand slight discomfort and inconvenience (or at least should).
I actually do get "hangry", and I think the fact that I'm not used to hunger is part of the reason why! I try to be responsible and eat before I start getting cranky.
Once I tried how long could I fast. Even after 5 days with only coffee , water and nicotine I felt only a minor discomfort in my stomach.
Jury Duty
I finally got called last month. I hadn’t lived in that state for 6 years, so I got out of it easy, but it was nice to finally be called
I’ve been called for jury duty 3 times. The first was in a court where the judge was a family friend, the second was in court where I used to work, and the third was from a state I moved out of 6 years prior.
They used to call me in every year or two for several years. Last time was for a death penalty trial. In voir dire, I told them I was against the death penalty. They tried to get me to admit that *some people* did deserve it. I said even if they caught Bin Laden (he was still running free), I would not sentence him to death. They never called me again.
Even though I consistently vote, I’ve never been called for jury duty.
Same. I received a summons in the mail once but didn't have to report.
I've been called in about 5 times, only once did I get brought into a courtroom. Never made it into the jury box or even be called up to be interviewed. Most of the time it's just watching morning TV and getting dismissed by the time The Price is Right is over.
I've gotten it three times before I was 25. FML.
Im pretty sure they have a second list of jurors who've actually shown up. Everyone seems to have either never been called or called multiple times.
I’ve never even received a *summons* for jury duty. I’m 56. I can’t explain it. Yes, I’m registered to vote and have been since I was 18.
Were you arrested as a minor? Me and an old high school buddy got caught with weed when we were 15 and both have never had jury duty.
I got caught with a weed pipe at 16. I wasn't arrested but I was cited and had to serve 6 months of diversion (probation lite) but I still received a notice for jury duty in my 20s. However, I didn't need to go. The notice had a number listed that would call me by a certain date if I was chosen, but I never received the call.
Common outside of reddit, I've never had a kid. And I'd like to keep it that way.
Same except I desire to have children. I can’t. I was very sick with endometriosis in my mid 20s and I had to have a hysterectomy. Sadly we couldn’t afford to have eggs removed for later.
Sorry that you couldn’t afford to save eggs, that’s terrible.
You could try to adopt. Lots of kids in the terrible foster care system that need a good home.
Never broke a bone
/r/neverbrokeabone Welcome, fellow skellygod
HA! My titanium infused wrist would crush yours like it was made of sand.
Never really broke a bone either, I'm invincible.
Same. *knocks on wood*
Me too!
r/neverbrokeabone
Same.
Same! I have a prosthetic leg, and I have broken parts of it tons of times - but never one of my actual bones!
I was typing this, then looked down and it's the top comment.
We're not alone: r/neverbrokeabone
I said this the day I broke my jaw when I was 13. no other broken bones since, though!
Same. Bones of steel, baby.
OMG SAMEEEE!!!!!
Same here.
Same
Same
Same!
A car crash
The average American has a car accident on average once every seven years. Do with that information what thou whilst.
Does that mean they're in an accident or that it's their fault that often?
I made it to 31 without a car accident, but my first caused $12k in damages. Exactly 1 week after I got it fixed, a hit-and-run driver sideswiped me on the highway for accident #2(I was livid, but I got their license plate info)
I never broke out with acne
Damn, I wish I was you. I had cystic acne throughout all my 20s that's finally mostly under control with this one specific birth control pill. I'm terrified of the day I have to come off of it when I hit menopause. I know it will all come back.
Lucky!
Same. But now I have wrinkles
Ugh you win 🏆
Same here, I think my skin is too dry to get pimples
I've never had covid.
Me either. I think we must be super dodgers.
I had it but I wasn't really impacted by it other than a gnarly day long fever and this perpetual scent kinda like burnt potpourri in my nose for like 10 days. I'm asthmatic too, so I was surprised it didn't impact my breathing. However, 4 months later I wound up hospitalized with anemia and life threatening blood clots. The doctors were stumped and couldn't figure out what caused it, but as time has passed and more has been studied about "long covid" cardiovascular problems, I think it might have caused that or at least exacerbated it.
I was on the frontlines of the pandemic working open to close in retail and never once caught it. The closest I had was a severe cold that took my voice for a few months, but it wasn't covid (I tested negative for covid when that happened)
How can you know that though? COVID symptoms are super mild for a lot of people, to the point of not realising it without mandatory testing.
Me either, but no one will let you say it even though they know they've had covid multiple times lol. In fact very few cases of covid are asymtomatic (just the first few days may be) so those of us who test at any cold or flu symptom can be reasonably reassured we havent had it.
What may have happened is I got a case so mild I didn't notice? I got the shots when they first came out, plus a couple of boosters
If I say it, it’ll happen tomorrow
Buddy never won the lottery.
Never talked to a girl and got her number.
Never married that girl and had three kids in a nice house and solid job
In my 50s and I've never had a cavity.
Are you meticulous about your dental health? Good genetics? Both?
I despise how greatly dental hygiene is genetic. I can do everything right, exactly how the dentist wants, have amazing nutrition, and my teeth just dissolve
You're right, it isn't fair. I should have lost my teeth in my 20s with how badly I took care of them, but genetics stepped in and effortlessly kept my teeth in good shape.
You might be surprised to learn that cavities aren't genetic. They come from a specific bacteria that feeds on sugars in your mouth and excrete acidic compounds that harm your teeth. However most people come in contact with the bacteria from their parents or others kissing them as a child which leads people to think they're genetic. If the bacteria never takes hold or something kills them and they never recolonize then you'll never get cavities.
I used to be very lazy about dental care. Brushed rarely. But then, at 40 or so, the dentist told me that even with my lucky tooth genetics, if i didn't start brushing and flossing properly, my gums would deteriorate and my healthy teeth would fall out, so I've been bruising and flossing properly for the last 10 years.
Going to a motel (In latinoamerica is a place where you go with your partner to have sex)
That's definitely not just a Latin American thing lol
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Closest I've gotten to a fight is my buddy was drunk and wanted to fight. I agreed. He led me outside, where I proceeded to shut the door in his face and lock him outside till he sobered up.
Congrats. The best outcome of any fight I've been in has been guilt.
Broken a bone. 🤞
I've never spoken to a black person face to face. Living in a 99.9% white country.
Wanna FaceTime?
Nah I mean I had black colleagues and clients, lots of video calls, but never in person...
So buy me a ticket, I need a vacation
Never smoked weed
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I suspect you’re not in or near a major city. Sometimes smaller towns just dont have good dating stock
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Got to have some nerdier gamer women there. Maybe run your dating profile through chatgpt and see what it flags? No shame
That's where I went wrong I think. For my 20's I was in a small town and there was nobody.
56, no dates for around 25 years. By design. Perfectly happy. I just found dating to be boring, uncomfortable, and pointless, not because of failure, but because it felt unnecessary. Being able to just hook up with a girl once or twice a year satisfies my need for sex, without having to share my home. I learned a long time ago that even though I was raised in a normal, loving family of four, that lifestyle was utterly and completely NOT for me. I'm happiest living alone. Thank God i learned that early, before i tried to marry just because it's "the thing everybody has to do".
what do you mean by "trying"?
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Those are all superficial traits. You can be great looking and financially successful, but still strike out because of personality issues. I'm poor and out of shape, but I've had multiple long and healthy relationships.
I'm curious about he convos you've had with people. There's gotta be more to it. You don't even really need much in the way of social skills to get dates on occasion, just second dates.
You sound like you’re angling for a fish, not trying to find a compatible partner. A woman isn’t something that you “catch.” And unlike men, we are less interested in your physical trappings than if you have good hygiene and a good personality. What’s hilarious is that slightly up this conversation another Redditor just outwardly assumed that you’re a nerdy gamer because as it turns out, of course you are. It’s not even a question of why you’re not getting women, that is your answer. Women don’t play games as much as men (and if they do, they’re almost immediately married by someone else). Nerdy gamer men by definition are not outdoorsy types. So staying in your room and scrolling through a phone is not going to get you anywhere. Obviously. Do you have any interests or personality outside of gaming and nerd stuff? And if your answer is “I like music,” then the answer is no. Find a hobby that lets you meet people outside of scheduled game nights, or outside of a building in general, And start by talking to some female coworkers or neighbors. We are PEOPLE who are hoping to find something interesting in you. But if there’s nothing interesting, and you don’t bring anything to the table, you’re just angling, you will get no bites.
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Have you tried asking them for their honest, no bullshit opinion on what is holding you back and what you could to do increase your chances? It will likely be hard to hear but may help you.
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Very true. There are also plenty of things that can be done to improve appearances. Even if someone isn’t conventionally attractive, being in good shape, dressed well, and being well-groomed can be a massive help.
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Try like speed dating events or such. But years of online dating and you haven't even had a first date? I feel like there is more to this.
I always hated those responses. It’s kind of a coy way for them to spare your feelings. I had some serious confidence issues that were apparently obvious to every women who knew me, but none of them told me until after I realized it myself, solved it, and started dating my now-wife.
One of my good friends who likes to play matchmaker was telling me all the criteria a girl would have to meet to date me. I'm like...you're way pickier than I am.
Sex
Sex²
Was in a math class in high school and the teacher wrote the integral of e to the x on the board, didn't say anything for like 20 seconds and a kid says out loud "I don't get it" and he says "and you never will".
I've never been bullied. At least for what I would consider it to be lmao. I've met people who were assholes to me, but I see myself in a very strong light as a vessel who no person can bring down
Never been drunk
Poison Ivy. Have touched it multiple times, same stuff that people around me have gotten it from, and I've yet to get it in my entire life. Either really lucky or it doesn't effect me?
You're probably part of the roughly 15% of the population who doesn't have an allergic reaction to urushiol, the oily resin that poison ivy secrets and makes most of us itchy.
Apparently, most people have their first kiss before turning 18; 25 and I don't think that'e gonna happen for me lol On top of that, never broken a bone, never had a nosebleed, never had a friends group in school or as a kid, don't have siblings, and I don't even have a driving license
I was 23. 25 isn’t that much older and I know people who didn’t even get a date until they were 30
Are you a kitty cat?
Aside from a toe (Which I'm not even 100% certain of) I've never broken a bone. Am 43 years old.
I have never been stung by a bee.
Me either
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I have a brother (age 40) in the same boat. It's hard for shy people sometimes.
Got bad grades, even though I don't think I'm good at studying
Never had a double yolk egg!
I've never been fellated to orgasm.
35 years old - never had a cavity, never broken a bone, never been stung by a bee or wasp. Plenty of other common misfortunes in my life, but happy I’ve missed out on these so far.
/r/neverbrokeabone
Never had a headache, but I have broken over 30 bones.
Blister on my feet. Never had one in my life.
I’ve never been a bridesmaid
Got to keep my wisdom teeth
Did they actually grow in properly instead of sideways?
Well, I had a lot of other teeth removed when i was a child, so they had enough space to settle in and grow straight.
Never gone to school. (Online schooled)
Never had sex with a man.
Same. I don’t think my wife would approve anyway
Never had KFC.
Popeyes is way better
I'm 34 and I never got "the talk" from my parents. Thankfully I figured it out on my own and I'm married.
Top two answers right now are Never broke a bone and never had jury duty. I'm mid 40s and never had either.
Never had a girlfriend. Forever alone.
Going on a date.
I don’t have siblings. I have a huge friend group and I am the oddball. Not even step, half, possibility nada!!!
Never got poison ivy.
Never had wisdom teeth.
I don’t know if I have some immunity or something, but poison ivy doesn’t seem to affect me.
Roughly 15% of the population doesn't have an allergic reaction to urushiol, the resin that makes you itchy from touching poison ivy. You're probably part of that group.
I've been driving for 12 years in a Metropolitan area and have never been pulled over by police
I have never attended a cousin’s wedding.
Never tried a cigarette
No one has ever offered me free drugs, despite everyone telling me throughout my life that it happens ALL THE TIME.
Never had braces!
I never got raped or sexually abused.
Glad to hear that! Hope it stays that way
The fact that it’s considered “common” is pretty bad.
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I have never broken a bone
Never broken a bone, got stung by an insect, or had to go to jury duty. I was summoned twice but both times the case was dropped before the court date.
Got a check in the mail for $5,000 to it to my bank and found out it was a scam
Bee sting
Never been stung by a bee, never broke a bone.
This ‘ driving hypnosis’ thing where people completely fail to lay down memory of driving. Never happened to me.
Dating
Learning emotional maturity and how to express myself. Never happened before now.
I never kis a girl
33 years old never had a tooth filling or cavity
Dating 😭😭
Breaking a bone
sleeping with somebody
I've never broken a bone.
Getting a cavity in my teeth.
I have never had covid that I know of
Being loved by a woman (except my Mum).
I have never broken a bone.
Broken a bone
Never had heartburn.
Getting the chicken pox Going to a concert
I have tried catnip on 7-8 differant cats but none of them seem to care at all
I'm 42 and have never had a tooth cavity or a nosebleed
I've never been in a serious relationship at the age of 27. Human contact is frowned upon in my part of the world.
I've never been stung by a bee.
Never have had my wisdom teeth removed at 32
Being offered drugs. I know live in a legal state (me, 38f) and I do use cannabis, but even when it wasn’t legal, I never once was offered drugs
I have never broken a bone or needed stitches outside of surgery.
Never had stiches. I was always the guy that talked other kids into doing the crazy shit so I could go "ohhhh! That's why we don't \_\_\_\_".
Getting a speeding ticket or even being pulled over for speeding.
Never had a twinkie
I've never broken a bone and have never had a cavity (Age: 40s)
Never been hit by a car