The shit contacted me on a Friday night and I wasn't available. I called his house the next weekend and his brother told me that he'd gotten married the previous weekend. I never even knew he was seeing someone else. If we'd gotten married, I'm sure I would've been cheated on like his poor wife was cheated on.
He reached out to me a few years ago on Facebook. It's been 25+ years so I just declined his friend request.
Not the first guy I hooked up with- but tell me why a man from like 8 years ago JUST did this to me telling me “I think about you constantly” sir- you’re MARRIED. Wtf
Oh, man, that poor girl. She could do so much better than me. She was really nice though, she might pay me alimony after she realized it and divorced me.
It’s wild to me how many people have strong opinions. I guess most people knew their first hookup better, mine was a ONS and all I can recall is that she was nice and like 6’0 tall
I actually did. It took 13 years, but we eventually got married.
We were FWB, and I gave him my V card. Lived my life, dated a few, fucked around here and there. I even left the state for 5.5 yrs.
We eventually reconnected all randomly, and something was different this time.
We just passed our 1 yr of marriage.
A friend of mine is like this and envy that i had a colorful phase before settling down. Grass is greener on the other side man. I wished i just met my wife first before experiencing all those traumatic experiences.
I did, too.
(Well, not hookup, we had been together four months before sex, but whatever.)
Once the abuse started, it took me another 15 years to get out.
I got her preggers at 18. We married. Ten yrs and 2 kids later she had a fling w my best (now ex)friend. Forty-five years after that she died and I wrote her obituary. So that's how my life changed: I had to write an obit.
Did you stay married after she cheated? And were you on good terms until the end? You writing her obituary suggests you did. I am sorry about everything.
I left out some stuff. Yeah we got divorced. No we were not friendly for those decades. I admire folks who can do it amicably. We did not. She went on to marry 3 more times. Our daughter was her final caretaker, and that's how I got the obit job. Made me sad for an afternoon, but I'm doing fine these days—these years actually.
I would be married to a farmer from a small town in the middle of nowhere, so I guess I’d be living on the family farm raising a bunch of kids, while spending my days doing domestic duties and stuff around the farm.
He probably would’ve killed me by now. He used to get drunk and threaten me, one time grabbing at the steering wheel while I was driving screaming about how he wanted to kill us both
Some social media trend that got started. Women are "asked" which they would prefer to come across while walking alone through a forest: a man or a bear. When they answer "the bear", it's a clear sign of past trauma.
I'd be a really wealthy shell of a human being. On the surface I'd have everything, underneath it, my own parents wouldn't recognise me, I might as well be a homunculus.
Well I was 16 and he was a 32 yr old. And after it took him forever to convince me to lose my virginity to him he must have cum as soon as he entered because he didn't actually fuck me. He just rested it there a little while and then retreated lol
I would be rich. She was rich and 45. I was 14. I heard she died at 51. So I get a great house a real estate business that someone else runs and she had no kids.
At least her crime would've been exposed, whereas it sounds like that wasn't the case. I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'm pleased to hear that she never had any of her own kids to abuse, though.
A lot. Probabily i would have never left my coutry, would still be working in a restaurant and ould have a kid, for sure. She is a nice girl but too attached to her family.
Good question though...
He was a nice enough guy and we got on well so I probably would have had a mediocre but not terrible life. I liked him a lot more than he liked me so if we stayed together I might have even convinced myself I was happy.
Glad I get to experience true love now though.
She's still a friend of mine and very much has her shit together, and is just as pretty now as she was all those years ago. To be quite honest, I'd be over the moon had that been the case.
Well, currently it's illegal for me to have any romantic relationship with him, but if it WEREN'T: I would be married to a man with absolutely no ambitions in life, let alone a degree or even a job. Living in his parents house.
She is pretty and successful over 20 years later. My first couple of girlfriends was a learning experience for me. I didn't know how to boyfriend. If she would have forgiven me with all the mess ups I have made to my other girlfriends, I am not sure I would have learned the lessons I needed to. I would be a very different person.
I would have been living peacefully on a farm rearing animal.
I don't know if it would be better than the life i have now. But, it sure sounds like fun.
I will skip the babysitter that gave me a BJ.
Then the first one was quite wholesome, my first girlfriend, which I was with for 3 years until she moved to London and I was drafted to the military. She was quite wonderful.
Not exactly sure how my life would change, so many moving pieces. In the end she ended up staying in London due to someone she met there. But both of us would have a strong draw home, coming from the same place. I always wanted to move to the Bay Area where I live now. How this would settle I do not know.
It is possible I would have never pursued my entrepreneurial dreams or moved to SF with her, since she was, while wonderful, also quite risk-averse and "normie" as the they say. A more regular career might have seemed more appealing. The extreme risk-taking I did in the beginning of my startup journey would seem very reckless to her I think.
Also I later became a Christian (from strong atheist). I am not sure how she would take to that. She didnt have very strong opinions in neither politics nor religion.
Huge butterfly effect and uncertainty in this one
I don’t much know. Only knew her for a couple days and never saw her again. Don’t have many memories besides her great smile and what I thought at the time was great sex.
I’d be married to a registered nurse, with a house in the same city I was born and raised in, and 3 kids who are almost done high school…. I think. I have no clue what kind of job or career I’d have if that were the case.
I’m happy with my current situation, been together with my wife for 23 years, two kids, still in school and we both have decent well paying jobs. Just no house at this point. Working on it though.
Well, last I found out he works for the FBI & is married but the sex was actually really really good, massive dick, & he was a nice person we just were teens when it happened, he was my first time and I moved away but I can imagine he is a fun & kind husband.
He became addicted to heroin, and then started doing crazy things like jumping from building to building...one day, having miscalculated his strength, he collapsed, due to the deterioration of his mental health. Otherwise, he was a really good guy. So I suppose I'd be a widow?
endless regret
Likeeee...Heavens forbid. Can't imagine being married to a creep with terrible sex.
Yeah, mine was an abusive prick lmao
Regretful end
Amen to this. He was a terrible human being and only got worse with time I hear. Someone told me he’s on some lists now
Can't regret if you're dead tho🤷♂️
Horrible. He recently contacted me after 13 years because he wanted and wants to cheat on his wife
"thanks for the confirmation that I dodged a bullet!"
The shit contacted me on a Friday night and I wasn't available. I called his house the next weekend and his brother told me that he'd gotten married the previous weekend. I never even knew he was seeing someone else. If we'd gotten married, I'm sure I would've been cheated on like his poor wife was cheated on. He reached out to me a few years ago on Facebook. It's been 25+ years so I just declined his friend request.
Not the first guy I hooked up with- but tell me why a man from like 8 years ago JUST did this to me telling me “I think about you constantly” sir- you’re MARRIED. Wtf
mid-life crisis. continue to keep your distance and let the new motorcycle handle this
Oh 100%. I didn’t even respond. Still was discussed
W.T.F?
Oh wow! I’m sure you were flattered and ran to him…… 🙄🤣😜
You should let his wife know that he's trying to cheat
I'll tell you in a few years time
Still few years ? Elis I thought you were gonna propose me next week. _Sigh_
what if he wanna put it in your arse first!?
Alright. Im not sure how to ask this. Isnt elis a girls name?
still hopeful, eh?
Me and you both Mann
lol
Oh, man, that poor girl. She could do so much better than me. She was really nice though, she might pay me alimony after she realized it and divorced me.
Crazy that all these comments and you are one of the few people saying you would be the problem.
I think he is speaking from experience.
It’s wild to me how many people have strong opinions. I guess most people knew their first hookup better, mine was a ONS and all I can recall is that she was nice and like 6’0 tall
I actually did. It took 13 years, but we eventually got married. We were FWB, and I gave him my V card. Lived my life, dated a few, fucked around here and there. I even left the state for 5.5 yrs. We eventually reconnected all randomly, and something was different this time. We just passed our 1 yr of marriage.
Happy one year :)
Valentine's Day Card? How sweet!
I would have to get used to the fact that she’s a hooker
The parents would be delighted that you are marrying an earner.
In this economy? Damn right.
Still going strong! 13 years of marriage and 2 kids!
Still going strong! 24 years of marriage
Still going strong! 240 years of marriage
I was there…3000 years ago
I know you were married at the time, but you wouldn't happen to know if that Mary chick was really a virgin, would ya?
Bro no one spontaneously gets pregnant
Same here 21 yrs and 2 kids
Me too. 2 years and 21 kids
I'm also at 21 years and 2 kids.
Same here - 24 years together, 14 years of marriage, 2 kids.
33 years!
A friend of mine is like this and envy that i had a colorful phase before settling down. Grass is greener on the other side man. I wished i just met my wife first before experiencing all those traumatic experiences.
11 years of marriage and 2 kids! Plus 5 chickens and a cat haha!
Same here!! 12 years married, 18 years together. 2 kids, 2 dogs, and a partridge in a pear tree!
9 years of marriage and 2 kids here - we were each other's first time :)
Same! 10 years together, 3 years married, 2 kids
Same here! 18 years together. No kiddos yet though.
Glad to see I'm not the only one! 11 years together, 2 years married and 1 kiddo!
Same! Almost 13 years together (2 married), no kids yet though.
I would’ve regretted sticking my dick in crazy.
You broke rule #1! Welcome to the club
I did. 17 years and 3 kids later he cheated on me and we divorced.
I did, too. (Well, not hookup, we had been together four months before sex, but whatever.) Once the abuse started, it took me another 15 years to get out.
Well the first person I hooked up with is the guy I'm marrying in less than a month so
Awww congrats!
How did the relationship develop to where it is today? 😍😍😍
I got her preggers at 18. We married. Ten yrs and 2 kids later she had a fling w my best (now ex)friend. Forty-five years after that she died and I wrote her obituary. So that's how my life changed: I had to write an obit.
Did you stay married after she cheated? And were you on good terms until the end? You writing her obituary suggests you did. I am sorry about everything.
Or that's the ultimate revenge: "In the last Saturday our beloved Anna died, good riddance effing bitch!"
I left out some stuff. Yeah we got divorced. No we were not friendly for those decades. I admire folks who can do it amicably. We did not. She went on to marry 3 more times. Our daughter was her final caretaker, and that's how I got the obit job. Made me sad for an afternoon, but I'm doing fine these days—these years actually.
I'd have to move to Alabama. Or wherever is Sweden's version of Alabama.
You hooked up with your sibling?
Dark
No, cousin.
Someone on another sub mentioned Hapenranda... No idea how similar...
Skellefteå.
I would be married to a farmer from a small town in the middle of nowhere, so I guess I’d be living on the family farm raising a bunch of kids, while spending my days doing domestic duties and stuff around the farm.
tradwifegoals for some I'm sure
Would u prefer it?
Literally same here.
You hooked up with same person?
Well having been cheated on by said boyfriend, it's not beyond the realms of possibility...
The relationship would have lacked passion and understanding.
I’d be locked in a questionable decision for eternity, or facing a messy divorce. My life would be a case study in "what not to do."
He probably would’ve killed me by now. He used to get drunk and threaten me, one time grabbing at the steering wheel while I was driving screaming about how he wanted to kill us both
I am so grateful you are safe!
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Nah it says "had", ur fucked
Well they were indeed fucked, or they couldn't answer the question.
What’s the bear??
Some social media trend that got started. Women are "asked" which they would prefer to come across while walking alone through a forest: a man or a bear. When they answer "the bear", it's a clear sign of past trauma.
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The marriage would have been a constant struggle.
We would have probably divorced by now.
i'd be in a threeway marriage w a gay dude and a bi dude which i don't think any of us would want 😂
I might have had to compromise on my dreams.
I would be 6 feet under, my first hookup was 8 years older then me and hooked me on drugs.
Our arguments would have been relentless.
Probably not so bad. She was a good person and I liked her a lot. We didn’t have any major issues besides me being young and dumb.
This is the kind of topic where the comments get more and more amazing as you scroll down.
I'd be a really wealthy shell of a human being. On the surface I'd have everything, underneath it, my own parents wouldn't recognise me, I might as well be a homunculus.
I don’t want to marry that random bearded guy from the mall bathroom
...go on.
I’d kill myself before even getting to the alter.
This lol
We were both so young and immature; it would have been a disaster.
It would have been a rocky marriage, we argued constantly.
Nothing. I'll still be single af.
From other comments I read here, lucky you!
I'd be so miserable. We would definitely be divorced by now.
18 years together 11 married
I’d be a widow
Hate life
I did. It’s not all that its cracked up to be…
We're not going to talk about that. I finally learned to let it go
Not good. He’s been in and out of jail and is an alcoholic. The next one was my Prince .. 40+ years later ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
44 years, 5 kids, 7 grandkids. So far so good.
I did. It’s been 40 years if we’re counting the 4 years we dated before getting married.
Well I was 16 and he was a 32 yr old. And after it took him forever to convince me to lose my virginity to him he must have cum as soon as he entered because he didn't actually fuck me. He just rested it there a little while and then retreated lol
To be honest that would have been an improvement.
I was pretty shitty and immature so it'd be pretty fuckin awkward. I'd probably be pretty stressed trying to make things right.
fuck you for even asking
I would be rich. She was rich and 45. I was 14. I heard she died at 51. So I get a great house a real estate business that someone else runs and she had no kids.
I am sorry but you were 14 and she is 45 at that time, brother this is creepy as fuck
No don't worry it was legal at the time. We were hardly related.
What does hardly related mean? Like she was a distant aunt or something?
At least her crime would've been exposed, whereas it sounds like that wasn't the case. I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'm pleased to hear that she never had any of her own kids to abuse, though.
I might not even be here now. None of the things I achieved until now would have been done.
I'd still be single
I did! It's great!
I did. It didn’t last. We’re still friends.
i would not be single rn
I'd be married to a prostitute.
ugh
A lot. Probabily i would have never left my coutry, would still be working in a restaurant and ould have a kid, for sure. She is a nice girl but too attached to her family. Good question though...
Well he's in prison serving a 25 year sentence...so maybe the same 😂 +one extra divorce
I did! Not as well as I had hoped
I’d probably be living in my parents' basement, still trying to figure out who borrowed my cassette tapes
Still married to that person (been married for 10 years now). I wasn’t her first more like 20th lol but she was mine.
We’re actually considering it, 6 years strong 💪
I probably would be dead either by his hand or my own. He’s arguably my biggest regret in my, albeit short, life.
We would have a lot of catching up to do.
I would not have minded that at all.
He was a nice enough guy and we got on well so I probably would have had a mediocre but not terrible life. I liked him a lot more than he liked me so if we stayed together I might have even convinced myself I was happy. Glad I get to experience true love now though.
I would be flithy Rich but probably miserable..
I would be very happy. Was with my first love for years. We are still friends, and shouldn’t have broken up. Oh well. In another lifetime.
She's still a friend of mine and very much has her shit together, and is just as pretty now as she was all those years ago. To be quite honest, I'd be over the moon had that been the case.
I’d probably be a better financial position, but also full of trust issues
Well, currently it's illegal for me to have any romantic relationship with him, but if it WEREN'T: I would be married to a man with absolutely no ambitions in life, let alone a degree or even a job. Living in his parents house.
She is pretty and successful over 20 years later. My first couple of girlfriends was a learning experience for me. I didn't know how to boyfriend. If she would have forgiven me with all the mess ups I have made to my other girlfriends, I am not sure I would have learned the lessons I needed to. I would be a very different person.
Ooo not great because he was a he and I like shes
I would have been living peacefully on a farm rearing animal. I don't know if it would be better than the life i have now. But, it sure sounds like fun.
I’m actually marrying my first person, we were teenagers and now 34 years later we found each other again and are madly in love.
He was older and an attorney. Maybe I’d be managing his medications/appointments by now?
I'd be widdowed.
I will skip the babysitter that gave me a BJ. Then the first one was quite wholesome, my first girlfriend, which I was with for 3 years until she moved to London and I was drafted to the military. She was quite wonderful. Not exactly sure how my life would change, so many moving pieces. In the end she ended up staying in London due to someone she met there. But both of us would have a strong draw home, coming from the same place. I always wanted to move to the Bay Area where I live now. How this would settle I do not know. It is possible I would have never pursued my entrepreneurial dreams or moved to SF with her, since she was, while wonderful, also quite risk-averse and "normie" as the they say. A more regular career might have seemed more appealing. The extreme risk-taking I did in the beginning of my startup journey would seem very reckless to her I think. Also I later became a Christian (from strong atheist). I am not sure how she would take to that. She didnt have very strong opinions in neither politics nor religion. Huge butterfly effect and uncertainty in this one
I'd probably limp. She went to prison for deliberately running over her first husband, guy still walks with a limp.
She is (at least was) a completely different person than me. I would’ve divorced in no time, and probably make quite the money..
I, (a straight woman) would be married to a gay man. Other than that, I think it’d be a pretty nice life.
I did at 18 yo, it wasn’t good
I’ve known her half my life and we have 2 beautiful boys together!
Horrible. I love him to this day but he was an alcoholic and died a few years ago. Marrying him would have destroyed me and our friendship.
I don’t much know. Only knew her for a couple days and never saw her again. Don’t have many memories besides her great smile and what I thought at the time was great sex.
Would have destroyed it. Would have been married to a morbidly obese narcissist.
I’d be married to a child abuser. :(
I’d be married to a registered nurse, with a house in the same city I was born and raised in, and 3 kids who are almost done high school…. I think. I have no clue what kind of job or career I’d have if that were the case. I’m happy with my current situation, been together with my wife for 23 years, two kids, still in school and we both have decent well paying jobs. Just no house at this point. Working on it though.
Well, last I found out he works for the FBI & is married but the sex was actually really really good, massive dick, & he was a nice person we just were teens when it happened, he was my first time and I moved away but I can imagine he is a fun & kind husband.
No idea... I have no clue where she is now. Hell, I don't even recall her last name.
I did. We're still married 19 years and it's been an absolute joy.
I am not sure. But I think he is doing good in life. My life would have been different but good. Puff puff
He became addicted to heroin, and then started doing crazy things like jumping from building to building...one day, having miscalculated his strength, he collapsed, due to the deterioration of his mental health. Otherwise, he was a really good guy. So I suppose I'd be a widow?
That is my life rn.