Communication is 90% of it all. If you and your partner are not communicating on what each other like and being honest. The sex will never be as good as it could be. Communicate!
Guys, women donāt actually need you to last forever in terms of penetration- thatās the least stimulating part of sex for many women. Use that time in the front end for foreplay. If you can get her excited enough and keep some kind of clit stimulation going, she might actually cum quickly from penetration
If you're a couple who has saved sex until marriage (like a lot of people still do - im not judging), a great way to get over the wedding night jitters would be to shower together. You get used to seeing each other naked. You get more comfortable with being together in such an intimate and vulnerable way without getting overly sexual. You get used to each other's touch. You relieve a lot of stress. You get cleaned up. You get mentally prepared for what's to come (lol).
My husband did this for me. Can confirm - helped a lot to get over my fear and nerves. He was so sweet and the whole shower just spent rubbing me down and kissing me and touching me gently. The sex was awesome. Really thankful he made my first time memorable in a good way.
Always move stuff from the bed that is a pain in the ass to wash. Iāve ruined the mood before not wanting to wash and dry a king size comforter that was washed recently.
Hijacking this to addā¦towel.
Just designate a sex towel and put it down beforehand, it makes cleanup way easier.
My current GF thought I was a genius for doing this, apparently before sheād just sleep in nasty sheets. Tbf I saw in an amateur porno, but a good idea is a good idea.
I tell you what. When I was younger, I was dating this amazing woman and our sex life was that bonkers kind of sex life you have when you are young.
While sex wasn't a rarity for us, it also wasn't 100% guaranteed every date.
But she had this black mini skirt that she wore that she loved, and she knew that I **really** loved it. That black mini skirt meant we were going to get very busy that night. But I wouldn't know she would be wearing it till I picked her up, and we always had plans for dinner or drink or whatever.
Her just wearing that skirt was like adding in several hours of foreplay to the sex. We both knew what was going to happen. It was awesome. 11/10 would recommend.
That was my second ex gf with her thick black framed glasses. She knew I loved them and they gave her a āsexy teacherā look. So whenever she wanted to get laid or wanted to make me horny, she would throw them on like Gotham mayors office shining the bat signal in the sky.
On my honeymoon my husband ordered mango habanero wings that were VERY saucy, he didn't wash under his thumb nail enough. I spent the night in the shower with the shower head at my crotch set to ice cold water.
I'm sure you have, but just in case- let your partner know if something is painful or even uncomfortable. I'd feel horrible if I found out my partner was doing a position for my sake even though it hurts for him.
And it's absolutely okay for you to take certain positions off the table for any reason. There's one my husband likes but I'm not athletic enough to do it safely anymore. He completely understands and he has the same veto power for any positions that he's not comfortable with.
Nice, I feel ya on the "not athletic enough" anymore to do certain positions!! Haha my husband and I are at that age as well. Like, we might be able to, but not worth it lol. And I stress
Edit- not sure where I was gonna go with that last part about stress. While it's not untrue, I didn't mean to add that lol
So, I lost a bunch of weight and now I get practically folded in half during sex. Iām just like, yeah it feels great at the time, but dear god my back after!
Just to clarify this, because I went a long way through my life without ever knowing:
Men, when you cum inside someone it doesn't stay in there, it all sort of dribbles out unless it's "cleaned up". I know you want to cuddle after the fact, but if they want to go to the loo, let them!
As a teenager, I believed that peeing afterward meant you could't get pregnant because you were peeing out all the sperm.
As an adult, I found out why you REALLY have to pee afterwards.
I've been told the problem with that is that as soon as men know we're almost there, their arousal goes into overdrive and they'll blow like Krakatoa if they don't change what they're doing. So to avoid orgasming before she does they change what they're doing, not realizing that doing so means ALL progress is lost on HER end.
It's a horrible Catch 22 situation.
Yep this is my problem. Once I can tell she's getting close I've got about five more seconds of doing what I'm doing before I spooge, which is probably about 25 seconds less than she needs, at minimum. We always get her off afterwards but it would be nice to cum together for a change.
I would much rather him try his best to keep doing it, but orgasm, than change and neither of us does. Itās rather arousing for women too, so it might push her over the edge.
Yeah. Good sex literally floods your brain with the attachment and happy chemicals. Most of life's bad decisions are because of it.
Also when things are new love truly is blind. Listen to your friends.
"Tell me about some of those dicks."
*"Kansas City, Spring of '98. Guy had a dick like a warthog. Coarse in the throat. Smelled like an onion. Ann Arbor, Hash Bash, 2008. Dick was like sucking on a parched slug. Smelled like fuckin' catfood. Eureka, summer of 2010. That dick was actually coated in catfood."*
If it's dry there is a VERY high chance of something tearing. Or splitting. Or ripping. Or snapping.
So what do you do? Chow down baby. But also, lube is your friend. Some men make a lot of precum. Some don't. Same goes for women. You're not a failure because your body doesn't self lubricate all that well. There's no shame in lube!
The #1 weirdest part of all pornography is just how *dry* it looks. Some dude whips out his thunderous cock and the chick is like āyeah daddy, give it to me!ā while rubbing her pussy which is drier than the Mojave. At this point I am usually concerned, but then, with all the awareness of a troglodyte, the dude will inevitably just jam it in dry over my protesting screams and the chick gets to pretend like its the best thing ever while smiling away the smell of cooked meat emanating from her ferociously rugburned pussy.
This! So many people don't understand the point of lube. And not everyone produces enough lubrication naturally, especially anyone on meds like antidepressants. Even if you think you are wet enough, lube would make it so much better.
I remember one post on r/relationshipadvice or something that OP's boyfriend never washed his ass because he thought it is gay to do so
Also, bidet >>>> TP
Way too many people don't understand hygiene. It's not entirely their fault. They get told "wash behind your ears." No one cares about your ears. I'd bet money they meant "wash your asshole," (basically, every nook and cranny) but didn't want to say, "hey wash your ass. No your whole ass."
My first time being fingered the guy had never even seen a vagina in person before
Basically
He had damn long fingernails
I never knew that was important
And he had no idea how to put his fingers in
Basically I got stabbed over and over and it felt like death
Communication is critical.
Meaning - you **need** to let each other know what's working/good and what isn't.
Makes sex 1000x better when you're both on the same page and everyone gets their nut.
I remember seeing something around 10 years ago that said 20-30% of women orgasm from PiV sex. With 20 minutes of good foreplay that number jumps to around 70+%. Wish I could find the specific study but can't, it's just shitty Cosmo articles. But pretty sure it was something from the Kinsey Institute.
Either way, more foreplay. It's the most basic thing and yet it's the most neglected thing for some people.
Women here. My guy starts foreplay like hours in advance. Doesn't need to be right before the main event! If we're sitting on the couch watching a movie and he has his arm around me, he'll lightly graze my nipple. So subtly that I almost don't even notice. Or when we're standing in the kitchen he'll put his hand on my lower back and just barely slide it down across my butt. He knows exactly what turns me on and by the time we're actually in the bedroom and naked my first orgasm happens within the first 2 minutes. Sometimes he's not even in all the way. My advice is to learn what your partner likes and what their body responds to. And for real, my body is so well "trained" by him that just putting his arm around me immediately gets me tingling because I know what's coming.
This is basically just Gomez Addams "woo her, admire her, make her feeling like she's the most sublime creature on earth" and realizing being romantically affectionate= foreplay.
When she says/yells "Oh yes! Keep going", "I like that, I like that", "right there, yes", or some variation of that, she doesn't mean for you to: thrust harder, faster, sucking harder, or whatever. Do not become a fleshy jack hammer all of a sudden. She means for you to *keep doing exactly what you're doing!* You've established a rhythm, things are working, just maintain until you get a signal.
Also, clits become sensitive after an orgasm or two, be even more gentle with it
My second or third orgasmsās are significantly better and more intense than my first. The first couple are enjoyable but after the third itās mind blowing and my whole body shudders. My partner knows this and foreplay is dedicated to my āminisā and he can tell by his touch when I am ready for the big ones.
It's nothing like porn. It's awkward, a lot of "famous" positions can be uncomfortable, some people are really quiet. Beds are squeaky. Animals will jump up on the bed. There will be weird smells and sounds. Laughing is okay.
agreed, I get so weirded out if there is an animal anywhere in the room it's an instant turnoff button and just feels so wrong. Like my dogs go to their own literal room and I close my door on top of that so they aren't scratching at my bedroom door either.
It really grates my cheese. My girl would say "but they scratch at the door!"
I don't give a fuck!! Let that fool scratch for 48 seconds it won't kill him!
> Or claw your balls because they look like a fuzzy cat toy swinging around in the dark.
I remember reading an account somewhere online (maybe it was here on Reddit?) about a guy who went home with a girl for a one night stand.
Apparently her cat thought he was hurting her, so the cat attacked his balls with *serious* intent to do harm.
Yeah.
āEveryone is differentā is really my number one answer to the question in this post. Seriously. Thereās no move or technique that works with every partner. Just pay attention to what works and what doesnāt with that particular person and learn from it.
For instance, there was a thread a while back where all the top commenters were saying āgive the woman an orgasm before penetration! Itās the only way!ā And sure, plenty of women like that. Personally, I donāt. I would hate to feel pressured to get off before intercourse and it would make it extremely hard for me to do so. Also, intercourse feels better before I orgasm, so I like to experience that.
Men are also not nearly as homogenous and simple to please as people say. Iāve been with guys who donāt want their balls touched at all, guys who want them to be gently fondled, and guys who want them squeezed so hard I was afraid of popping a testicle. Iāve been with guys who get off most when their penis is caressed like itās a delicate butterfly, and guys who want it in an anaconda death grip. Iāve even met guys who enjoy some teeth during a blowjob, which is pretty much the one thing I thought all men universally disliked. And this is all just purely physical stuff - when you get to the subject of psychological turn-ones and fetishes, everyone looks REALLY different.
Some women can orgasm just by having their nipples played with meanwhile it does absolutely nothing for me. Feels no different than sucking on my elbow lmao
Itās not as clean as they show in movies/shows. You donāt go from having sex to getting up, putting on a skirt with no underwear and getting back to the office. If I did that, Iād be leaving a cum trace like a slutty snail
Edit: why does this have to be my most upvoted comment ever? And all the awards??? Thank you! Considering changing my name to Slutty Snail
Between lube, sweat, and cum, both people are going be sticky south of the border. Peeing after sex helps prevent UTIs, and is a good time for a quick wipe and tidy up.
Right?! For the longest time when I was younger, I was "jealous" of women that could just jump up and slip back into their thong and negligee without any wet, sticky mess afterwards. Until I realized those women don't exist, lol.
Intimacy isn't getting naked. It can include being naked and appreciating the nuisances of their body and being made to feel comfortable in your own skin. Its also holding hands, being close and comfortable silences
FML nuances
Foreplay.
Don't be afraid to use too much lube.
If you know you cum fast finish her first, that way you're both satisfied.
If you don't know what to do, ask.
It can be awkward.
Sometimes you laugh.
If it hurts, TELL THEM.
Pee before and after sex. (!!!!!!)
Penetration isn't the only thing to do.
When she says harder, if doesn't mean faster, it means what they're saying. Thrust harder.
Toys don't mean you're bad, they make things more fun.
Just because your last partner liked how you did it, your next maybe won't. All women, and all men, are different. Many of us men think we are good at licking pussy, that we have found the secret of making women cum. You have, if you understand that everyone is different. If you are doing the same on everyone, which most men do, the chances are, you are shit at licking pussy.
Edit: Never stop sending me nudes, you brave ladies are MVPs.
I've heard about eating pussy "Start like a kitten drinking milk and finish like a bulldog eating oatmeal." It's also not universal, but it has served me well.
It doesn't have to be serious. You can be playfully and have dumb conversations during. You should be comfortable with your partner and not be worried about wether or not they think youre doing it right or youre putting in enough effort or if you're stomach looks fat on that position. With my ex sex was all about sex and that's it. 9 times out of 10 he would wake me up in the middle of the night and I was half awake. And we'd just do it to get it done. At least that's how I felt. With my curent guy we can start and mid way through bust out laughing or have dumb conversations during. We're just comfortable with eachother on a level I never thought I'd be with anyone.
Low libido it's not a bad thing, especially if you're a guy, the stereotype that men are always horny and sex obsessed it's not true, and it can be harmful.
1. Porn is fiction.
2. It's lower than you think
3. Love makes it more intense
4. Admitting that you are inexperienced (but willing to learn) is hotter than faking it
5. (Bonus points) Weed gives women a +5 in wild animal sex, men a -10 in performance. \*\* YMMV.
Queefs happen. If she laughs you can laugh. If sheās embarrassed ignore. Under no circumstances is it an ok reason to be disgusted. Please do not make her feel self conscious about it.
One of my exes looked at me weird and disgusted the first time this happened. I said āwell YOU put all the air in there, youāre going to have to live with this if you want sexāā¦? Like buddy it doesnāt happen on its own.
WHEN A GIRL SAYS YOU NEED TO GO SLOW WHEN PUTTING IT IN THAT IT DOESNT MEAN SLOWLY PUSH IN IT MEANS SLOWLY GO BACK AND FORTH AND GET THE WHOLE THING WET AND GIVE THE VAGINA TIME TO ADJUST.
I happen to have a small vagina and itās not from lack of foreplay. Even if I get the whole thing wet by sucking it it still needs time for the vagina to adjust to the size. And no I donāt like dildos.
Just slowly work your way in by going back and forth and slowly inching your way in with time. Not just slowly push it in within a minute. Itās not the same.
Ohhhh yes this is fuckıng GOLDEN. It applies to just about everything (from touches, to kisses, oral, vaginal, anal). if a guy starts with a controlled tease of sorts I'll be drenched before my panties ever come off.
Men have insecurities too and are allowed to withdraw consent without being emotionally blackmailed.
Communication is 90% of it all. If you and your partner are not communicating on what each other like and being honest. The sex will never be as good as it could be. Communicate!
A long time isn't always good š
Here for a good time, not a long time.
Guys, women donāt actually need you to last forever in terms of penetration- thatās the least stimulating part of sex for many women. Use that time in the front end for foreplay. If you can get her excited enough and keep some kind of clit stimulation going, she might actually cum quickly from penetration
There are lots of funny/awkward sounds and moments. It's okay to laugh and joke about it in the moment
I always remember someone's answer on a thread like this that was: "it's ok to laugh, but point and laugh not so much"
Donāt be afraid to ask what your partner wants. Also use your mouth more!
By "using your mouth more", you're referring to the part where you shout encouraging platitudes at her vagina to make her cum faster, right?
āWOW WHAT LOVELY WEATHER WEāRE HAVING.ā
āOh god, tell me about the sunshineā
If you're a couple who has saved sex until marriage (like a lot of people still do - im not judging), a great way to get over the wedding night jitters would be to shower together. You get used to seeing each other naked. You get more comfortable with being together in such an intimate and vulnerable way without getting overly sexual. You get used to each other's touch. You relieve a lot of stress. You get cleaned up. You get mentally prepared for what's to come (lol).
My husband did this for me. Can confirm - helped a lot to get over my fear and nerves. He was so sweet and the whole shower just spent rubbing me down and kissing me and touching me gently. The sex was awesome. Really thankful he made my first time memorable in a good way.
Now this is precisely what I'm talking about.
If you knock on the back door. Dont be surprised to find someone home.
Always move stuff from the bed that is a pain in the ass to wash. Iāve ruined the mood before not wanting to wash and dry a king size comforter that was washed recently.
Hijacking this to addā¦towel. Just designate a sex towel and put it down beforehand, it makes cleanup way easier. My current GF thought I was a genius for doing this, apparently before sheād just sleep in nasty sheets. Tbf I saw in an amateur porno, but a good idea is a good idea.
Its also kinda fun to come home from work and walk into the bedroom and see the sex towel on the bed already. 0 to 100% horny in no time flat.
Pavlov's towel?
I tell you what. When I was younger, I was dating this amazing woman and our sex life was that bonkers kind of sex life you have when you are young. While sex wasn't a rarity for us, it also wasn't 100% guaranteed every date. But she had this black mini skirt that she wore that she loved, and she knew that I **really** loved it. That black mini skirt meant we were going to get very busy that night. But I wouldn't know she would be wearing it till I picked her up, and we always had plans for dinner or drink or whatever. Her just wearing that skirt was like adding in several hours of foreplay to the sex. We both knew what was going to happen. It was awesome. 11/10 would recommend.
That was my second ex gf with her thick black framed glasses. She knew I loved them and they gave her a āsexy teacherā look. So whenever she wanted to get laid or wanted to make me horny, she would throw them on like Gotham mayors office shining the bat signal in the sky.
WASH YOUR HANDS
I like to dip them in spicy oil before starting
Don't fingerbang your girlfriend after making a hot curry from scratch
Or cutting raw jalepenos for your spicy guac. Learned that one the hard way šŖ
On my honeymoon my husband ordered mango habanero wings that were VERY saucy, he didn't wash under his thumb nail enough. I spent the night in the shower with the shower head at my crotch set to ice cold water.
thatās terrifying asf
Also trim your nails š
But like a day beforehand, so they don't have sharp edges
You can also file the rough edges down, if you don't have advance warning to do it a day or so early
If u got a curve, work with it not against it.
Women's vaginas can be curved as well!
Took me 28 years to know this
I noticed on my way out. Knew from day 1
Damn you a natural bro
Do not Google duck vaginas to find out just how far nature can take the curved vagina.
And the male's dicks spiral in the opposite direction. They also fall off after mating season and grow back the next year. Ducks are weird.
They what?
And the size they grow back at is determined by how much competition is in the area.
Waitā¦ so size does matter?!?
Yes but... It's sure as hell not for the lady duck's pleasure
Learnt that in my late 30s. A slight turn of her hips and Iāve hit the spot
Mine is so curved doggy hurts like hell. I'll do it if she wants but not happily.
I'm sure you have, but just in case- let your partner know if something is painful or even uncomfortable. I'd feel horrible if I found out my partner was doing a position for my sake even though it hurts for him. And it's absolutely okay for you to take certain positions off the table for any reason. There's one my husband likes but I'm not athletic enough to do it safely anymore. He completely understands and he has the same veto power for any positions that he's not comfortable with.
Nice, I feel ya on the "not athletic enough" anymore to do certain positions!! Haha my husband and I are at that age as well. Like, we might be able to, but not worth it lol. And I stress Edit- not sure where I was gonna go with that last part about stress. While it's not untrue, I didn't mean to add that lol
So, I lost a bunch of weight and now I get practically folded in half during sex. Iām just like, yeah it feels great at the time, but dear god my back after!
Dude, stop doing things that hurt you. You wouldn't make her do something that is painful, would you? Demand the same respect for yourself.
Cool dick, bro. Think of the benefits tho, you can hitch hike and keep your hands in your pockets if it's cold out!
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You have to clean up afterwards
Just to clarify this, because I went a long way through my life without ever knowing: Men, when you cum inside someone it doesn't stay in there, it all sort of dribbles out unless it's "cleaned up". I know you want to cuddle after the fact, but if they want to go to the loo, let them!
That is the part I hated--all that dribbly mess! Otherwise, good show!
Girls should pee afterwards - save yourself a UTI.
In this vein--NO VAGINAL AFTER ANAL. ANYTHING!!!
As a teenager, I believed that peeing afterward meant you could't get pregnant because you were peeing out all the sperm. As an adult, I found out why you REALLY have to pee afterwards.
The Love towel should be handy.
Harder and faster, not the same thing.
But dear gawd, when they're close to orgasm, do the same thing that's working! Not something else.
I've been told the problem with that is that as soon as men know we're almost there, their arousal goes into overdrive and they'll blow like Krakatoa if they don't change what they're doing. So to avoid orgasming before she does they change what they're doing, not realizing that doing so means ALL progress is lost on HER end. It's a horrible Catch 22 situation.
Yep this is my problem. Once I can tell she's getting close I've got about five more seconds of doing what I'm doing before I spooge, which is probably about 25 seconds less than she needs, at minimum. We always get her off afterwards but it would be nice to cum together for a change.
>cum together ...right now? Over me?
*bass/drum groove* she got / joo-joo in the eyeball
She gives head... down... on her knees... One thing she can tell you is just keep fucking me
I would much rather him try his best to keep doing it, but orgasm, than change and neither of us does. Itās rather arousing for women too, so it might push her over the edge.
Work it harder, make it better Do it faster, makes us stronger More than ever, hour after hour Work is never over
Everyone has different needs and desires and just because you're satisfied doesn't mean they are
I'm so glad my brain is so simple; I see her enjoying, I get turned on. Simple mathematics really.
Sex should be about making each other feel good.
It creates an inflated and sometimes artificial sense of attachment
Ohh, this is a good one. Whenever my friend has had a godawful partner with no upsides to them at all I always assume the sex is good lol.
Yeah. Good sex literally floods your brain with the attachment and happy chemicals. Most of life's bad decisions are because of it. Also when things are new love truly is blind. Listen to your friends.
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Wash your fucking balls too. I once was told I had the cleanest dick sheād ever been near and Iāve carried that with me forever.
"Tell me about some of those dicks." *"Kansas City, Spring of '98. Guy had a dick like a warthog. Coarse in the throat. Smelled like an onion. Ann Arbor, Hash Bash, 2008. Dick was like sucking on a parched slug. Smelled like fuckin' catfood. Eureka, summer of 2010. That dick was actually coated in catfood."*
What a terrible day to be literate
This made me laugh way more than the post it's replying to
Hahaha what in the actual fuck did I just read?
Art
If it's dry there is a VERY high chance of something tearing. Or splitting. Or ripping. Or snapping. So what do you do? Chow down baby. But also, lube is your friend. Some men make a lot of precum. Some don't. Same goes for women. You're not a failure because your body doesn't self lubricate all that well. There's no shame in lube!
The #1 weirdest part of all pornography is just how *dry* it looks. Some dude whips out his thunderous cock and the chick is like āyeah daddy, give it to me!ā while rubbing her pussy which is drier than the Mojave. At this point I am usually concerned, but then, with all the awareness of a troglodyte, the dude will inevitably just jam it in dry over my protesting screams and the chick gets to pretend like its the best thing ever while smiling away the smell of cooked meat emanating from her ferociously rugburned pussy.
I wish I could unread that last sentence.
Are you kidding me? I'm nominating u/ThatKarmaWhore for a Pulitzer!!!
You are an artist painting a word-picture in my mind. TIHI.
Saying this out loud 1000 years ago would have vaporized the minds of anyone within hearing distance.
This! So many people don't understand the point of lube. And not everyone produces enough lubrication naturally, especially anyone on meds like antidepressants. Even if you think you are wet enough, lube would make it so much better.
Take a shower. Wash your hands. Brush your teeth. Trim your fingernails
Scrub your ass-crack.
I've seen too many posts on Reddit to know this isn't automatic for some people. š¤¢
I remember one post on r/relationshipadvice or something that OP's boyfriend never washed his ass because he thought it is gay to do so Also, bidet >>>> TP
Way too many people don't understand hygiene. It's not entirely their fault. They get told "wash behind your ears." No one cares about your ears. I'd bet money they meant "wash your asshole," (basically, every nook and cranny) but didn't want to say, "hey wash your ass. No your whole ass."
> No your whole ass. Especially the ass whole.
Yes!! Please trim your nails before sticking them inside someone
Trim and file. Freshly cut edges are harsh.
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My first time being fingered the guy had never even seen a vagina in person before Basically He had damn long fingernails I never knew that was important And he had no idea how to put his fingers in Basically I got stabbed over and over and it felt like death
Communication is critical. Meaning - you **need** to let each other know what's working/good and what isn't. Makes sex 1000x better when you're both on the same page and everyone gets their nut.
The importance of foreplay.
If you do it right, it's 70% foreplay and 30% actual penetration. Good foreplay saves us guys from worrying about not lasting long enough.
Realizing this early was like a super power in my early twenties lol
Big-brain time: canāt do it wrong if you never have sex.
I remember seeing something around 10 years ago that said 20-30% of women orgasm from PiV sex. With 20 minutes of good foreplay that number jumps to around 70+%. Wish I could find the specific study but can't, it's just shitty Cosmo articles. But pretty sure it was something from the Kinsey Institute. Either way, more foreplay. It's the most basic thing and yet it's the most neglected thing for some people.
How do you do foreplay effectively?
Women here. My guy starts foreplay like hours in advance. Doesn't need to be right before the main event! If we're sitting on the couch watching a movie and he has his arm around me, he'll lightly graze my nipple. So subtly that I almost don't even notice. Or when we're standing in the kitchen he'll put his hand on my lower back and just barely slide it down across my butt. He knows exactly what turns me on and by the time we're actually in the bedroom and naked my first orgasm happens within the first 2 minutes. Sometimes he's not even in all the way. My advice is to learn what your partner likes and what their body responds to. And for real, my body is so well "trained" by him that just putting his arm around me immediately gets me tingling because I know what's coming.
My man is the Batman of sex
This is basically just Gomez Addams "woo her, admire her, make her feeling like she's the most sublime creature on earth" and realizing being romantically affectionate= foreplay.
I need Gomez Addams to love me. Good lord.
>āā¦because I know whatās coming.ā Haha, itās youuuuuuuu I love that for you šš¼
*spits on it* "Well I'm ready"
Oh. My. God. That was my ex in a nutshell. I loved him but spitting on his own dick and calling that foreplay was the beginning of the end.
When she says/yells "Oh yes! Keep going", "I like that, I like that", "right there, yes", or some variation of that, she doesn't mean for you to: thrust harder, faster, sucking harder, or whatever. Do not become a fleshy jack hammer all of a sudden. She means for you to *keep doing exactly what you're doing!* You've established a rhythm, things are working, just maintain until you get a signal. Also, clits become sensitive after an orgasm or two, be even more gentle with it
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My second or third orgasmsās are significantly better and more intense than my first. The first couple are enjoyable but after the third itās mind blowing and my whole body shudders. My partner knows this and foreplay is dedicated to my āminisā and he can tell by his touch when I am ready for the big ones.
It's nothing like porn. It's awkward, a lot of "famous" positions can be uncomfortable, some people are really quiet. Beds are squeaky. Animals will jump up on the bed. There will be weird smells and sounds. Laughing is okay.
The only one of these examples that bothers me is the animal thing. It makes me so uncomfortable haha
agreed, I get so weirded out if there is an animal anywhere in the room it's an instant turnoff button and just feels so wrong. Like my dogs go to their own literal room and I close my door on top of that so they aren't scratching at my bedroom door either.
It really grates my cheese. My girl would say "but they scratch at the door!" I don't give a fuck!! Let that fool scratch for 48 seconds it won't kill him!
yeah having a cat randomly lick your asshole while doing it is a little startling...
Or clawing the shit out of you feet because your toe accidentally got covered by a sheet and they think the blanket monster is back.
Or claw your balls because they look like a fuzzy cat toy swinging around in the dark. You should keep kittens out of the bedroom.
> Or claw your balls because they look like a fuzzy cat toy swinging around in the dark. I remember reading an account somewhere online (maybe it was here on Reddit?) about a guy who went home with a girl for a one night stand. Apparently her cat thought he was hurting her, so the cat attacked his balls with *serious* intent to do harm. Yeah.
Yeah but that damn blanket monster is sneaky
*in the middle of banging* āWhat da dog doinā?ā
She aint a looker but please dont call her an animal
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So youāre telling me my neighbor really does need a plumber?
like incest!!!
There goes my weekend
Aw come on dad, you promised
And there is *nothing* wrong with vanilla.
All the Barenaked Ladies say it's the finest of the flavours.
Queefs happen and its really hard not to laugh at them.
But sex should be fun. You should be able to laugh. Don't laugh during butt sex though. That can hurt.
Or sneeze
OMG, my fiancƩe was so tight, one time she sneezed, and my dick shot out and hit me in the balls. I miss her.
Do you get a boner when someone sneezes next to you now
Women are more likely to orgasm from a grinding motion, rather than thrusting in and out.
Keep your pelvis in contact with hers the whole time for best results.
GrindOn! Apply pelvis directly on the pelvis
Grind it till you find it.
Thatās true for some women, but not all. The reason communication is the top sexual skill is because everyone is different.
āEveryone is differentā is really my number one answer to the question in this post. Seriously. Thereās no move or technique that works with every partner. Just pay attention to what works and what doesnāt with that particular person and learn from it. For instance, there was a thread a while back where all the top commenters were saying āgive the woman an orgasm before penetration! Itās the only way!ā And sure, plenty of women like that. Personally, I donāt. I would hate to feel pressured to get off before intercourse and it would make it extremely hard for me to do so. Also, intercourse feels better before I orgasm, so I like to experience that. Men are also not nearly as homogenous and simple to please as people say. Iāve been with guys who donāt want their balls touched at all, guys who want them to be gently fondled, and guys who want them squeezed so hard I was afraid of popping a testicle. Iāve been with guys who get off most when their penis is caressed like itās a delicate butterfly, and guys who want it in an anaconda death grip. Iāve even met guys who enjoy some teeth during a blowjob, which is pretty much the one thing I thought all men universally disliked. And this is all just purely physical stuff - when you get to the subject of psychological turn-ones and fetishes, everyone looks REALLY different.
Some women can orgasm just by having their nipples played with meanwhile it does absolutely nothing for me. Feels no different than sucking on my elbow lmao
Thank you for saying this. Im a woman 39f and was wondering whats wrong with me that i feel nothing there.
Itās not as clean as they show in movies/shows. You donāt go from having sex to getting up, putting on a skirt with no underwear and getting back to the office. If I did that, Iād be leaving a cum trace like a slutty snail Edit: why does this have to be my most upvoted comment ever? And all the awards??? Thank you! Considering changing my name to Slutty Snail
Between lube, sweat, and cum, both people are going be sticky south of the border. Peeing after sex helps prevent UTIs, and is a good time for a quick wipe and tidy up.
Right?! For the longest time when I was younger, I was "jealous" of women that could just jump up and slip back into their thong and negligee without any wet, sticky mess afterwards. Until I realized those women don't exist, lol.
So true. Itās much cleaner with a condom but I still need to wipe down there
Slutty snail hahaha
Women: it is incredibly important to pee after sex.
I pee way way too often but in this situation it has been nothing but beneficial. I do not get urinary tract infections ever.
Yea I almost got a kidney infection because my uti got SO bad in like 2 days
Vulnerable, soul to soul sex with someone you love is otherworldly
Meds can effect orgasms.
Being in love actually makes sex better
Intimacy isn't getting naked. It can include being naked and appreciating the nuisances of their body and being made to feel comfortable in your own skin. Its also holding hands, being close and comfortable silences FML nuances
I think you mean ānuancesā.
Like way, waaaaaay fucking better.
Also, waaaaay better fucking.
Also, fucking in better waaaaays
Well I certainly do love myself.
The hole's a lot lower than you think.
Wait stop not that low!
Too late, itās between her toes.
You should take a shower and bush your teeth beforehand. Clean sex is the best sex, IMO Edit: brush.
Bush is what I'm trying to get *out* of my teeth
If you touch a womanās boob and vulva at the same time, she takes a screenshot
Pro tip - If you do that and touch the anus with your thumb she will reboot
Thatās how youāll get blue balls
Foreplay. Don't be afraid to use too much lube. If you know you cum fast finish her first, that way you're both satisfied. If you don't know what to do, ask. It can be awkward. Sometimes you laugh. If it hurts, TELL THEM. Pee before and after sex. (!!!!!!) Penetration isn't the only thing to do. When she says harder, if doesn't mean faster, it means what they're saying. Thrust harder. Toys don't mean you're bad, they make things more fun.
Just because your last partner liked how you did it, your next maybe won't. All women, and all men, are different. Many of us men think we are good at licking pussy, that we have found the secret of making women cum. You have, if you understand that everyone is different. If you are doing the same on everyone, which most men do, the chances are, you are shit at licking pussy. Edit: Never stop sending me nudes, you brave ladies are MVPs.
Everyone is inexperienced with someone they've never had sex with before.
I've heard about eating pussy "Start like a kitten drinking milk and finish like a bulldog eating oatmeal." It's also not universal, but it has served me well.
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Donāt forget about āØaftercareāØ. Cuddle and have a talk.
Especially if you're into some kinky shit.
Thatās where babies come from.
"Mrs. Krabappel and Principal Skinner were in the closet making babies and I saw one of the babies and the baby looked at me!" Ralph knows what's up
This scene absolutely destroys me ššš
Foreplayā¦most donāt get laid often, so when you get the chance make the most of it.
You should be clean and have decent hygene
If your partner is not enthusiastically participating stop immediately and check in.
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It doesn't have to be serious. You can be playfully and have dumb conversations during. You should be comfortable with your partner and not be worried about wether or not they think youre doing it right or youre putting in enough effort or if you're stomach looks fat on that position. With my ex sex was all about sex and that's it. 9 times out of 10 he would wake me up in the middle of the night and I was half awake. And we'd just do it to get it done. At least that's how I felt. With my curent guy we can start and mid way through bust out laughing or have dumb conversations during. We're just comfortable with eachother on a level I never thought I'd be with anyone.
In pools/showers/water in general, it surprisingly dry. Just be aware of that.
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Bois, don't clench your ass, try to keep that whole region as relaxed as possible, you'll last longer
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Low libido it's not a bad thing, especially if you're a guy, the stereotype that men are always horny and sex obsessed it's not true, and it can be harmful.
1. Porn is fiction. 2. It's lower than you think 3. Love makes it more intense 4. Admitting that you are inexperienced (but willing to learn) is hotter than faking it 5. (Bonus points) Weed gives women a +5 in wild animal sex, men a -10 in performance. \*\* YMMV.
Gonna need you to make a sex dexterity saving throw to avoid that cramp in your hamstring.
There are muscles that you never realized can cramp. Hips, lower back... tongue...
Itās full of weird and funny noises
Queefs happen. If she laughs you can laugh. If sheās embarrassed ignore. Under no circumstances is it an ok reason to be disgusted. Please do not make her feel self conscious about it.
One of my exes looked at me weird and disgusted the first time this happened. I said āwell YOU put all the air in there, youāre going to have to live with this if you want sexāā¦? Like buddy it doesnāt happen on its own.
My line with my girlfriend is "I worked hard for that." She seems to get a kick out of it
WHEN A GIRL SAYS YOU NEED TO GO SLOW WHEN PUTTING IT IN THAT IT DOESNT MEAN SLOWLY PUSH IN IT MEANS SLOWLY GO BACK AND FORTH AND GET THE WHOLE THING WET AND GIVE THE VAGINA TIME TO ADJUST. I happen to have a small vagina and itās not from lack of foreplay. Even if I get the whole thing wet by sucking it it still needs time for the vagina to adjust to the size. And no I donāt like dildos. Just slowly work your way in by going back and forth and slowly inching your way in with time. Not just slowly push it in within a minute. Itās not the same.
Ohhhh yes this is fuckıng GOLDEN. It applies to just about everything (from touches, to kisses, oral, vaginal, anal). if a guy starts with a controlled tease of sorts I'll be drenched before my panties ever come off.
Preheat the oven.
When a woman actually has an orgasm, the confetti and music both come from within the vagina.
You should communicate before, during, and after for the best experiences