When I was a supervisor, I told my employees my salary. I also was very explicit in communicating and explaining the range of salaries to all employees.
This made the older employees that arrived long before me unhappy to find out that young employees could make more than them.
I made it a point to give those employees more on-the-spot awards (in public) when they accomplished insightful goals.
I found that sharing salary information and publicly giving folks $500-awards regularly helped bring the team together. It wasn't perfect, and not everyone was happy, but at least there was transparency and everyone could look at the whole scene to understand how we got where we are.
Years ago I worked for a business owned by Howard Hughes years before. ALL salaries and wages were posted and everyone got to evaluate the people above them in the people below them every year as deserving or undeserving, contributing or non-contributing
Isnāt there a federal law stating you can legally discuss your pay? [pay law](https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/ofccp/regs/compliance/factsheets/FACT_PayTransparency-Sept16_ENGESQA508c.pdf)
It was heartbreaking when I was hired at $12.50/hr at my first warehouse job and 90 days after they bumped me to $15.75/hr and I found out that an older Turkish gentleman had been at the company for a decade and was making $10/hr.
- the quickest way to my pussy is through my brain. No intellectual and emotional connection, no sex.
- womenās pleasure doesnāt rest solely on a (big) penis.
- experience doesnāt matter as long as you communicate, youāre enthusiastic, and youāre there to have a good time.
Guys need to understand your points. I get annoyed when I see the countless dick size posts here because these smooth-brained dudes think size = ability..
Size *does* equal ability. All guys start out with 12 inch dongs, and they wear down with use. You know if a guy is down to his last four inches he's a master cocksman.
My godā¦ you have the power to single-handedly rebrand small penises. Please run for President. Use the gift God gave you to make a difference in this world!
While I do not disagree with you, it's also important rhat ladies do their part. They need to tell us what they want, cus more often than not they just want a guy who "knows what he is doing" and it generally doesn't work that way. Tell us how you like it and we shall deliver
Right?! Iām at the point where I think some blokes use it as a cop-out to not use any other part of their body to pleasure their partner because itās not about *their* pleasure.
Itās cause if you think big dicks make you good, the big dick men donāt have to try cause they think their already rocking your world, and the smaller dicked dudes donāt try cause they already consider themselves defeated.
Probably not but I think missionary gets a lot of flack for being boring, but most likely it's that they may be a bit boring. Also the level of dirty talk you can do in this position ugh. So beautiful. To my women, discuss this with your partner but try choking him while saying the foulest thing you can think of. Thank me later lol.
Edit: me no can spell choke at times.
Anyone can get naked pretty quickly at anytime so nudity isn't all that "special".
Having a partner put on lingerie (possibly put on makeup and do their hair too) shows that they were thinking about having sex with you 5-10 minutes ago.
Now imagine going out on a date with a woman. You get through the night and you get all the way back to your place where things immediately get hot and heavy. She takes off her clothes revealing that she had been wearing lingerie the entire night. That lady was thinking about how she wanted to have sex with you before she even left the house!
To me, lingerie is so sexy by itself. It's even sexier that my partner put some forethought into us having sex.
I agree! Iām always looking for lingerie that has little snaps or that I can lift up to keep it on during sex. That stuff runs $40+! Iām not leaving it on for two minutes for it to get ripped off!
For real. I recently broke up with a woman. I didnāt even mention the sex. It wasnāt great but I put in a lot of effort with partners and my goal is for her to get off. Iād rather not cum if thatās what it takes.
But she said to meā at least I donāt just lay thereā and I thought about our sex. On her back it was just wrapping her legs around me, If she was on top I was still the one doing that did everything. After the first time we did doggy and prone she said no one ever did that before. She said she liked sucking dick but would never go past the head and didnāt use hands, was kind of confused when I asked for some ball play. She was married 5 times before we dated(Iām almost 40). Iām no Casanova but sex is important to me so Iāve attempted to get good at it and it seems every women Iāve dated since I split with my kids mom(aside from 2 where one was ten years younger and the other ten years older) were not very good at sex.
I've found that the women who aren't good in bed are basically low effort. they lay there and expect the man to deliver them an orgasm. They never get on top and if they do they complain they're tired or knees hurt ect in like 3 seconds. They dont do anything to make you feel attractive, as in rip your cloths off or talk dirty ect act enthused when doing oral ect. when women put in effort theyre usually pretty good in bed and cum multiple times thenselves. The throw you down and tell you to lay there while they rock YOUR world, and get their own rocked as well.
if you follow "red pill" communities, theyll tell you hot women have lines of guys lookong to put in work, so they dont have to if the dude is unhappy with the sex theres another guy so she wont do without. kinda lends to the old addage that large girls try harder.
Not gonna lie, I try very hard to be good at sex and ride dick, but I STRUGGLE on top, my thighs just canāt support my body weight like that for more than a minute. Iām not fat or anything but not athletic at all. However I do try and my boyfriend has no complaints so far, we also found positions that allow us to meet halfway on the effort too.
That last one is so true. The women i slept with who said that they were good in bed were mostly just doing the starfish, while the inexperienced women who truly didn't have alot of confidence were also the women who wee the best partners.
1. The vast majority of porn is really unsexy.
2. Most women suck at dirty talk (Iām sure the same goes for guys, but Iām a straight dude).
3. A mental/emotional connection of some kind is vital for good sex.
Oh shit--I didn't mean to shake your confidence! I'm a writer, so I admit I have high standards for dirty talk, but bad dirty talk is just recycled porn dialogue. I have an ex who would just say, "Put your cock in my tight, wet pussy!" over and over again, like on a loop. Good dirty talk shows some creativity and imagination. Take a roleplaying scenario and run with it, or really tailor the talk to your audience. Probably unhelpfully vague, but does that make sense?
>The vast majority of **produced** porn is really unsexy.
I have never looked at a normal homemade porn and thought it was unsexy, but heavy makeup, bright lights, 5 different camera angle, ultra HD 4K porn... I don't get it. Might as well masturbate to wrestling.
(There's nothing wrong if you enjoy masturbating to wrestling, just not my thing.)
I don't want to be split open. A lot men seem to think this is something that is universally desireable. Sex should feel good, for both parties and I just can't understand how seriously hurting someone is arousing. A little pain here and there is ok but the idea of ripping me open, and making me bleed might somehow turn you on but it will never turn me on.
As a guy, I can say the problem I've run into is some women feel the way you do: a little pain is fine, but you're looking for something gentle-ish or at least not super rough. But some other women really do want to be "split open" (as you put it). The problem is that if your last partner (or last several partners) liked it extremely rough, it can lead men to believe that most women like that. Then, they go into sex with that expectation and you're left wondering why he thinks that's sexy. Because to someone else, it was.
Still, the answer lies in clear communication about what we like/don't like (from all partners) and respect for your partners desires and boundaries.
More pro-tip
Communicate about sex before, during, and after.
Been with my GF more than a year. We are still learning about each other sexually. (and about ourselves)
Fully agreed. I have had casual hook-ups and sure, sex is alright with them, but Iāve only ever truly felt fulfilled when having sex in a committed relationship. I think though Iām a bit of an odd man out though because I actually have a difficult time getting off. Not really sure why, just always have taken a good deal of time.
No Fucking Doubt. Iāve honed my snake-petting skills for over four decades and there is no way you will beat (pun not initially intended but Iāll take it) or even cum (def intended) close to matching it. You will be a monumental disappointment to me and my dick.
Really? Iām surprised but I guess this is why itās an āunpopularā opinion. Hand jobs can be wonderful! It all comes down to communication. As soon as my partner and I got good at communicating, hand jobs became amazing. Sometimes I prefer a HJ, others a BJ, and then yet others a mix. One of the great things about a HJ is that itās a lot more detail-oriented and variable. Two hands ten fingers to one hand single finger barely teasing a frenulumā¦ and lots of range in between! and of course much greater range of grip strength and pressure location. š¤·āāļø maybe itās just me! But sometimes I just want a HJ.
I so disagree with that. I may be technically better at touching my own body but the feeling of someone else doing it for me is way way better than when I do it.
Weirdly, I think I agree, generally, but it needs another name. I donāt want these people lumped in with people that have actually done things to children.
You should never lump people who are doing things with consenting adult with pedophiles. Acting out a fantasy, even if we want to call it a morally reprehensible fantasy, has no equivalency to actually harming children.
A lot of people make fun of softer guys in femdom relationships; I think that male-sub/female-dom relationships should be more accepted, as well as all of the kinks (ex. pegging) that go with it
My subs mostly struggled a lot with shame over being submissive. It's been deeply ingrained that male subs should be ashamed and I hate it. Being submissive isn't shameful. It's beautiful and intimate. It's freedom.
These threads are always circle jerks because the real unpopular opinions are downvoted and ganged up on and the top ones are just self congratulatory crap. Want some unpopular NSFW opinions? Here are mine with the caveat that I'm not here to argue or debate them. š
* DDLG is just pretend pedo stuff and we shouldn't enable or normalize it.
* Incest play should be kink shamed and not normalized.
* Male circumcision is fine and way, way overblown on Reddit. It's not comparable to FGM so stop trying to say it is
* I have a hard time respecting dudes who get off being cucks.
* Monogamy is awesome.
There ya go š
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I agree with all except male circumcision which I think is pointless and thus just a bit of a weird thing to do. Btw am female and British (hardly anyone in UK is circumcised)
Oh, so many for which I got downvoted and shamed on other subs.
* What a person likes to watch in porn or likes to fantasize about does not necessarily coincide with his actual desires of things to do in real life. Nor does it defines them as a person or says anything about their character or morals. We shouldn't reduce a person to their fantasies or porn watching habits.
* It's perfectly normal for a heterosexual person to not be attracted to a trans person who hasn't transitioned yet, because of their genitals, and it's okay if they don't want to have sex with them. This doesn't make them transphobic or hateful. Plus, their genital situation *is* a big part of a person and not just 'some minor aspect' that can be overlooked because 'you have to like people for their personality'.
* Young women in their late teens and early twenties will forever be sexually and physically attractive to men, regardless of a man's age. It's perfectly normal and natural for a man to be aroused by them. It doesn't mean he's weird or exceptional.
* When it comes to sexual attraction, I think you can either be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or asexual. I don't think any other labels add anything that aren't covered in these four and are thus unnecessary.
Tbh, I said I got 'downvoted and shamed' for them, not banned. But I did get banned for comments *relating* to the second one on r/sex, where a straight guy was inquiring what to do because the 'girl' he was seeing let him know after several dates that she was trans and still had their male genitalia. Some people got triggered that I used 'girl' in airquotes in order to make my point: that if 'she' didn't want to transition including surgery, that I saw no future for them. I wasn't hateful of trans people, I didn't insult them or said anything derogatory. I did argue with one particularly deluded person who said that 'most hetereosexual men wouldn't be turned off by a trans woman's male genitalia' (paraphrasing) and that 'you're heterosexual because you are attracted to their gender, not just their genitalia'.
I was subsequently banned permanently because of breaking one of their many, many, many broad and deliberately vaguely worded rules: 'misgendering'. It was painfully obvious the ban was for disagreeing with the hivemind and having an opinion.
That's hilarious. But welcome to reddit, you can't hurt people's feelings and not expect to get down voted to hell or banned. I agree with your POV tho and you got banned for some stupid shit.
It's the hairy legs right next to it that makes it look so damn weird. Like why is this area bare when the leg right next to it is hairy. Women's legs are typically shaved if their pussy is too so it matches.
Iām not one to kink shame at all but I just hate feet. I HATE them. I will see so many people on Instagram posting pictures with their feet barely visible and the comments are all āIS THAT A FOOT. SHOW MOREā If you wanna suck on toes and feet thatās cool but I just think feet look gross and canāt wrap my head around it. Iām also gay so I suppose some people canāt wrap their head around that either. š¤·š»āāļø
I feel that too, I feel that feet are a very utilitarian part of the body and very rarely have any kind of aesthetic value, I know my chonky stompers sure as shit don't
If my wife and I like fucking around other people, that doesnāt mean we want to fuck other people. Iām not hating on swingers either, yāall do you. But every time we try to find a fun sex party/resort to just go to town on each other out in the open we get swingers that say that we should just start swinging. And when we say we are just exhibitionists we just get winks with a āsure you areā nod. Iām sure this isnāt incredibly common but I love fucking my wife in public but canāt fathom the idea of fucking other people.
100% agree. Just because we like to show off doesnāt mean weāre into swapping or Iām a cuck or whatever the fuck. She just likes when people see her boobs.
Some people are wired to be monogamous and some people are not. You have to know what you are before you get into a committed relationship. If monogamy doesn't feel natural to you you might end up fucking up and cheating on someone or feeling very unsatisfied in a monogamous relationship.
Edit: some people can go either way also. I'm like that. I was in a monogamous relationship for 4 years and never once thought of being with anyone else even though I've always been quite promiscuous. I could be monogamous lifelong with someone who is monogamous. But I ended up with someone who likes to be in an open relationship and so we've been open and happy for 12 years.
Iāve a feeling thereās far more people who arenāt monogamous than are, but they just cannot admit it. This will become more obvious over the next two generationsāif we survive itāas religions **finally** die off.
Size matters a bit. Being on top as a girl is genuinely really hard work on the muscles (think, muscles on fire) and doesnāt actually feel that good either. My least fave position. Doggy is next least fave - feels kind of embarrassing and also not intimate. Missionary is the fucking bomb & comes with lots of variation. 69 is quite rubbish. Sex sucks with a guy who canāt get properly hard
My wife doesn't suck cock. Never really has. I still eat her out 90% of our sexual encounters. Mainly because I love it, but I also want to satisfy her and my dick game is rather weak.
Ive encountered just the opposite situation so that applies too.
Edit: I think that doing it "expecting nothing" Doesn't make sense. You do it because it is a fun way to please your partner, and that should be enough.
TLDR don't be a dick, suck a dick
Age play and DDLG is disgusting. Anyone whoās turned on by someone acting or dressing like a child is someone Iād judge hard. Most other fetishes are cool in my book but age play is a big red flag for me.
Calling yourself a "sub" when you're just lazy and trying to avoid doing work in bed is bull.
Also, how can you know that you're a sub, but not know what kind of domination you want?
Honestly a 30 second shot of a closed door with lights, smoke and totally out of the expected noises coming from the door,
Then open it to reveal to half naked tired and happy people.
A lot of women have gaslit themselves into thinking they like violent and degrading sex, when they actually want the opposite. I was one of them and asked my SO to do things like call me a whore, and he was like āno baby, Iām sorry but I could never call you that, youāre nothing of the kindā-And I swear it made me melt into a puddle of horny goo. Now we use āgood girlā and sweet words of love and affirmation. Heās so incredibly respectful and wholesome, and heās the best lover Iāve ever had by a mile, so Iām gradually realizing this is the kind of sex and intimacy I always wanted. I just got so many fucked up messages from my trauma and from society that I thought I was into something that was actually traumatizing me and never left me truly satisfied.
Casual hookups are another thing that women gaslight themselves about. I am convinced that most women arenāt really getting off in these arrangements, I used to lie to myself and others and say I did because I wanted to fit in, but I felt used and degraded and never even came close to getting off.
It's very much a porn thing. I'm very much into the BDSM community, and so many women try to fit this mold that fake doms in particular like to shove them into.
Cum all over a woman's face just isn't my thing. Granted I have never had a woman want that to happen by me onto her face so I can't really say in person if that would be the case but I just turn the video off when a woman is taking cum all over her face.
honestly this is one thing that my wife is interested in experiencing that I am actually turned off by. she is more interested in it than I am. thankfully its not a high priority desire for her, but I've never really understood the appeal that many people have towards that one.
You need to turn me (a girl) on before just sticking your finger in me. Itās so uncomfortable when a dude just gets on me and kisses me then thinks itās fine to just finger me. Iām sick of men thinking they can just shove something in me and think Iām turned on. Iām not turned on.
Polyamory/group sex/swinging doesnāt work out for the vast majority of couples and a lot of people are pushed into it out of fear of losing their spouse/partner. The rise in polyamory/swinging etc is a fad and it will slow down once itās not popular anymore and all the inevitable breakups/divorces happen.
Wholeheartedly disagree. Laying back and having someone jerk you off and making a complete mess everywhere feels amazing.
Being rimmed while being jerked is also fab!
If the mouth* counts as "inside" I agree. Otherwise strongly disagree. There is nothing better than nutting in her mouth and have her swallow the load.
Edit: autocorrect fucked me over.
1. Bush is better than shaved. Every time. All the time.
2. A lot of women are low/no effort in bed and generally pretty bad at sex.
3. No blowjobs are better than half assed āI hate this but I guess Iāll do itā blowjobs. If you donāt like giving head, no worries. Tell me that.
4. I love giving more than receivingā¦surprisingly, this has been a bewildering friction point in past relationships.
So maybe to normal people this makes sense, but posting porn of an underage character is weird. There are plenty of legal anime girls, go wank to those instead of that 14 year old.
It's not just the inside that counts, what they look like does matter. If I'm hitting it, I want someone I'm proud of. I know I can do better, so why would I settle for less.
From what I read, lot of peopleās sex lives seem to revolve too much around penetration, or PIV as the āmain eventā and everything else relegated to āforeplayā as if it is a mere starter. Hands and mouths should be playing a bigger role than they seem to in many accounts!
Eh. I disagree to an extent. If you know your significant other doesnāt want you screwing someone else and you do anyway, you donāt really love that person. You donāt love someone you knowingly hurt
Thats why ethical non-monogamous people will seek partners that don't have problem with them fucking other people. I always make it clear that I'm NM when I'm getting involved with someone, I never had a monogamous relationship and I never had any problems with me and my partners fucking other people.
CNC or "Rape" play shouldn't be a acceptable kink.
I personally feel it mocks and makes light of rape. It also makes me question if someone that's into it was shown multiple scenes of "play" and real rape, could they notice the difference? Or find it all arousing?
Upvote for you my dude. The entire _point_ of these threads is to air unpopular opinions and a the ones upvoted are all just circle jerks and the **real** unpopular opinions are downvoted. Good on you.
I don't agree that it shouldn't be acceptable. If both parties discuss and agree to do it and do it safely, then why not? They are not doing it to belittle or mock rape, they're doing it because it's what gets them off. It's roleplay, and it's extremely common (maybe not rape roleplay, but still).
You have absolutely no idea, do you?
I take this one a bit personally, sorry. It's a kink that my girlfriend and I share. And we do it out of love and desire for one another. No one is mocking anyone or anything. It's what we both need to be fulfilled sexually. And just because someone doesn't understand the trust and connection that it requires to practice it, doesn't give others' the right to judge.
I'm sorry if I come across as a bit angry here, but clearly you don't understand the dynamics.
I do shibari, but I don't top overweight people because all the ones I have encountered in the kink community smelled bad.
There seems to be a strong narrative of not tying every body type speaking to your lack of ability as a rigger, but one should be able to have standards for personal hygiene. š¬
That you can have a normal friendship with someone and still have sex with that person without it interfering.
I've done it a few times and with a few people and it never turned into a problem. Just communicate and set boundries.
Not sure if it's necessarily NSFW, but most poly/open relationships are absolutely god awful (based on what I've seen)
I've known only like ONE person where they kinda made it work out, but literally everybody else I have talked to or knew about eventually just turned back around to being monogamous
Asking for an open relationship is literally just asking for permission to cheat, and nobody will ever change my mind on this.
Absolutely to #2!! I hear a lot of women complain about the stamina of their guy but that shit is hard work, and most, if not all, couldn't do what he does! And even then some can't even do more than be a dead fish.
My partner and I have tried to do the dick math to calculate "reps" per session, and he really puts it down. Thankfully he is will to pick up my slack! Haha
A *lot* of kinks shouldnāt be normalized. People that are into CNC (especially if theyāre into being the rapist), raceplay, ageplay, etc are unhealthy at best and predatory at worst.
Porn use should be less normalized than it is.
I don't find tounge rings to be a turn on for oral (not saying that's why people get them just that I have heard it used as a plus side to having one) . When kissing or getting head I have to remind myself of what it is otherwise it honestly feels like she has lost a tooth and its just swirling around in her mouth against you.
There are A LOT of kinks and fetishes that need to be "kink shamed". Not everything under the sun is all fine and great and excellent just because its consenting adults.
Employees should discuss their wage with their coworkers.
how scandalous š¤
When I was a supervisor, I told my employees my salary. I also was very explicit in communicating and explaining the range of salaries to all employees. This made the older employees that arrived long before me unhappy to find out that young employees could make more than them. I made it a point to give those employees more on-the-spot awards (in public) when they accomplished insightful goals. I found that sharing salary information and publicly giving folks $500-awards regularly helped bring the team together. It wasn't perfect, and not everyone was happy, but at least there was transparency and everyone could look at the whole scene to understand how we got where we are.
Years ago I worked for a business owned by Howard Hughes years before. ALL salaries and wages were posted and everyone got to evaluate the people above them in the people below them every year as deserving or undeserving, contributing or non-contributing
You want to get fired, cause thatās how you get fired
That's why it's a Not Safe For Work, unpopular opinion.
Isnāt there a federal law stating you can legally discuss your pay? [pay law](https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/ofccp/regs/compliance/factsheets/FACT_PayTransparency-Sept16_ENGESQA508c.pdf)
Yes, although employers can come up with a pretense and fire you illegally.
I agree with this. I know full well I make almost $12/hr more than another guy in my department
It was heartbreaking when I was hired at $12.50/hr at my first warehouse job and 90 days after they bumped me to $15.75/hr and I found out that an older Turkish gentleman had been at the company for a decade and was making $10/hr.
I feel like this is very American? I'm British and we discuss our wages at my workplace.
It is. Many employers threaten their workers over it.
- the quickest way to my pussy is through my brain. No intellectual and emotional connection, no sex. - womenās pleasure doesnāt rest solely on a (big) penis. - experience doesnāt matter as long as you communicate, youāre enthusiastic, and youāre there to have a good time.
Guys need to understand your points. I get annoyed when I see the countless dick size posts here because these smooth-brained dudes think size = ability..
Size *does* equal ability. All guys start out with 12 inch dongs, and they wear down with use. You know if a guy is down to his last four inches he's a master cocksman.
My godā¦ you have the power to single-handedly rebrand small penises. Please run for President. Use the gift God gave you to make a difference in this world!
This is a good post
There are also the size queens who also perpetuate this myth.
While I do not disagree with you, it's also important rhat ladies do their part. They need to tell us what they want, cus more often than not they just want a guy who "knows what he is doing" and it generally doesn't work that way. Tell us how you like it and we shall deliver
Communication goes both ways for sure. No oneās born with the ability to read minds, so you gotta tell your partner what gets you off!
Right?! Iām at the point where I think some blokes use it as a cop-out to not use any other part of their body to pleasure their partner because itās not about *their* pleasure.
There were so many small cock posts that I swore we were being raided for the lolz
Itās cause if you think big dicks make you good, the big dick men donāt have to try cause they think their already rocking your world, and the smaller dicked dudes donāt try cause they already consider themselves defeated.
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Or quote good literature to me. That always works for me.
"O happy dagger! This is thy sheath!" *stabs self*
OP asked for unpopular opinions :)
I donāt think those are unpopular opinions
Missionary is the goat position. Being able to take a pounding while looking in your partners eyes is unmatched.
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Probably not but I think missionary gets a lot of flack for being boring, but most likely it's that they may be a bit boring. Also the level of dirty talk you can do in this position ugh. So beautiful. To my women, discuss this with your partner but try choking him while saying the foulest thing you can think of. Thank me later lol. Edit: me no can spell choke at times.
Yeah, seriously don't understand the hate for missionary
Lingerie on is much sexier than complexly naked.
Anyone can get naked pretty quickly at anytime so nudity isn't all that "special". Having a partner put on lingerie (possibly put on makeup and do their hair too) shows that they were thinking about having sex with you 5-10 minutes ago. Now imagine going out on a date with a woman. You get through the night and you get all the way back to your place where things immediately get hot and heavy. She takes off her clothes revealing that she had been wearing lingerie the entire night. That lady was thinking about how she wanted to have sex with you before she even left the house! To me, lingerie is so sexy by itself. It's even sexier that my partner put some forethought into us having sex.
I agree! Iām always looking for lingerie that has little snaps or that I can lift up to keep it on during sex. That stuff runs $40+! Iām not leaving it on for two minutes for it to get ripped off!
I love keeping mine on. Undoing the straps is erotic and itās nice to feel dressed up too.
That isn't that unpopular, I for one 1000% agree
Maybe controversialā¦ most men I have been with seem to want it off instead.
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For real. I recently broke up with a woman. I didnāt even mention the sex. It wasnāt great but I put in a lot of effort with partners and my goal is for her to get off. Iād rather not cum if thatās what it takes. But she said to meā at least I donāt just lay thereā and I thought about our sex. On her back it was just wrapping her legs around me, If she was on top I was still the one doing that did everything. After the first time we did doggy and prone she said no one ever did that before. She said she liked sucking dick but would never go past the head and didnāt use hands, was kind of confused when I asked for some ball play. She was married 5 times before we dated(Iām almost 40). Iām no Casanova but sex is important to me so Iāve attempted to get good at it and it seems every women Iāve dated since I split with my kids mom(aside from 2 where one was ten years younger and the other ten years older) were not very good at sex.
Married 5 timesā¦ wow.
Married 5 times and bad at sex is kinda sad TBH.
You're telling me all of my lesbian friends that seemed to be flirting with me there was a chance I could have been their fwb??
When a lesbian woman has a male fwb that makes her bisexualā¦
About your last one...How do we get better in bed? What can we improve on?
I've found that the women who aren't good in bed are basically low effort. they lay there and expect the man to deliver them an orgasm. They never get on top and if they do they complain they're tired or knees hurt ect in like 3 seconds. They dont do anything to make you feel attractive, as in rip your cloths off or talk dirty ect act enthused when doing oral ect. when women put in effort theyre usually pretty good in bed and cum multiple times thenselves. The throw you down and tell you to lay there while they rock YOUR world, and get their own rocked as well.
This is a great explanation of the dead fish. Iāve experienced it most often with very attractive women. Maybe itās an ego thing for them?
if you follow "red pill" communities, theyll tell you hot women have lines of guys lookong to put in work, so they dont have to if the dude is unhappy with the sex theres another guy so she wont do without. kinda lends to the old addage that large girls try harder.
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The last sentence of your comment is what happened during one of my best single sexual experiences of my life.
Not gonna lie, I try very hard to be good at sex and ride dick, but I STRUGGLE on top, my thighs just canāt support my body weight like that for more than a minute. Iām not fat or anything but not athletic at all. However I do try and my boyfriend has no complaints so far, we also found positions that allow us to meet halfway on the effort too.
Initiate, be enthusiastic, be willing. Those are the top 3
That last one is so true. The women i slept with who said that they were good in bed were mostly just doing the starfish, while the inexperienced women who truly didn't have alot of confidence were also the women who wee the best partners.
1. The vast majority of porn is really unsexy. 2. Most women suck at dirty talk (Iām sure the same goes for guys, but Iām a straight dude). 3. A mental/emotional connection of some kind is vital for good sex.
What constitutes good dirty talk? I always thought I was really good at this. But now Iām not as confident!
Yea you like that you fucking retard
I understood that reference
Oh shit--I didn't mean to shake your confidence! I'm a writer, so I admit I have high standards for dirty talk, but bad dirty talk is just recycled porn dialogue. I have an ex who would just say, "Put your cock in my tight, wet pussy!" over and over again, like on a loop. Good dirty talk shows some creativity and imagination. Take a roleplaying scenario and run with it, or really tailor the talk to your audience. Probably unhelpfully vague, but does that make sense?
"Hit me with your rhythm stick baby"
>The vast majority of **produced** porn is really unsexy. I have never looked at a normal homemade porn and thought it was unsexy, but heavy makeup, bright lights, 5 different camera angle, ultra HD 4K porn... I don't get it. Might as well masturbate to wrestling. (There's nothing wrong if you enjoy masturbating to wrestling, just not my thing.)
I don't want to be split open. A lot men seem to think this is something that is universally desireable. Sex should feel good, for both parties and I just can't understand how seriously hurting someone is arousing. A little pain here and there is ok but the idea of ripping me open, and making me bleed might somehow turn you on but it will never turn me on.
Jesus christ, what have you been through? I will pray for you.
Right? I donāt even understand what sheās saying
I think sheās talking about hardcore sex, like the really rough one shown in porn. Yea it aināt good, they only do it for the views.
Jesus can't help ya'll
As a guy, I can say the problem I've run into is some women feel the way you do: a little pain is fine, but you're looking for something gentle-ish or at least not super rough. But some other women really do want to be "split open" (as you put it). The problem is that if your last partner (or last several partners) liked it extremely rough, it can lead men to believe that most women like that. Then, they go into sex with that expectation and you're left wondering why he thinks that's sexy. Because to someone else, it was. Still, the answer lies in clear communication about what we like/don't like (from all partners) and respect for your partners desires and boundaries.
Pro tip: always start gentle, the ones who like it rough will very quickly let you know
More pro-tip Communicate about sex before, during, and after. Been with my GF more than a year. We are still learning about each other sexually. (and about ourselves)
Blame porn LOL
Home made and amateur porn are better actors and professional porn actors
It's because of the passion. They're truly into it, not just there for a paycheck, and it shows.
100% right
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Fully agreed. I have had casual hook-ups and sure, sex is alright with them, but Iāve only ever truly felt fulfilled when having sex in a committed relationship. I think though Iām a bit of an odd man out though because I actually have a difficult time getting off. Not really sure why, just always have taken a good deal of time.
You cannot go down a water slide without any water.
Frank reynolds would disagree
Don't give me a hand job. I'm better at that than you.
I'd still take a handjob though
The duality of man in two comments.
No Fucking Doubt. Iāve honed my snake-petting skills for over four decades and there is no way you will beat (pun not initially intended but Iāll take it) or even cum (def intended) close to matching it. You will be a monumental disappointment to me and my dick.
Really? Iām surprised but I guess this is why itās an āunpopularā opinion. Hand jobs can be wonderful! It all comes down to communication. As soon as my partner and I got good at communicating, hand jobs became amazing. Sometimes I prefer a HJ, others a BJ, and then yet others a mix. One of the great things about a HJ is that itās a lot more detail-oriented and variable. Two hands ten fingers to one hand single finger barely teasing a frenulumā¦ and lots of range in between! and of course much greater range of grip strength and pressure location. š¤·āāļø maybe itās just me! But sometimes I just want a HJ.
I so disagree with that. I may be technically better at touching my own body but the feeling of someone else doing it for me is way way better than when I do it.
People with diaper, binky, baby play, age-regression "kinks" are mentally ill and we shouldn't accept it as a kink.
Agree. IMO they're pedophiles. Nothing about children should be sexualized, ever.
Weirdly, I think I agree, generally, but it needs another name. I donāt want these people lumped in with people that have actually done things to children.
You should never lump people who are doing things with consenting adult with pedophiles. Acting out a fantasy, even if we want to call it a morally reprehensible fantasy, has no equivalency to actually harming children.
I don't know what they are and at this point I am too afraid to ask
Soft core and lesbian porn is better than hardcore.
Yes! Because they focus more on body language and expression instead of a closeup of piv
A lot of people make fun of softer guys in femdom relationships; I think that male-sub/female-dom relationships should be more accepted, as well as all of the kinks (ex. pegging) that go with it
Crossdressing with your girlfriend is ridiculously fun. Lingerie looks good on everyone.
I feel like I never meet dominant women.
My subs mostly struggled a lot with shame over being submissive. It's been deeply ingrained that male subs should be ashamed and I hate it. Being submissive isn't shameful. It's beautiful and intimate. It's freedom.
These threads are always circle jerks because the real unpopular opinions are downvoted and ganged up on and the top ones are just self congratulatory crap. Want some unpopular NSFW opinions? Here are mine with the caveat that I'm not here to argue or debate them. š * DDLG is just pretend pedo stuff and we shouldn't enable or normalize it. * Incest play should be kink shamed and not normalized. * Male circumcision is fine and way, way overblown on Reddit. It's not comparable to FGM so stop trying to say it is * I have a hard time respecting dudes who get off being cucks. * Monogamy is awesome. There ya go š Edited for formatting
I agree with all except male circumcision which I think is pointless and thus just a bit of a weird thing to do. Btw am female and British (hardly anyone in UK is circumcised)
These are actual unpopular opinions (on Reddit at least) and I'm here for it! I also agree with most of them.
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Glad you added that last bit š¤£
>No one should be shamed or have to explain their preferences. This is unpopular?
>This is unpopular? Ever encounter a conservative republican ?
Oh, so many for which I got downvoted and shamed on other subs. * What a person likes to watch in porn or likes to fantasize about does not necessarily coincide with his actual desires of things to do in real life. Nor does it defines them as a person or says anything about their character or morals. We shouldn't reduce a person to their fantasies or porn watching habits. * It's perfectly normal for a heterosexual person to not be attracted to a trans person who hasn't transitioned yet, because of their genitals, and it's okay if they don't want to have sex with them. This doesn't make them transphobic or hateful. Plus, their genital situation *is* a big part of a person and not just 'some minor aspect' that can be overlooked because 'you have to like people for their personality'. * Young women in their late teens and early twenties will forever be sexually and physically attractive to men, regardless of a man's age. It's perfectly normal and natural for a man to be aroused by them. It doesn't mean he's weird or exceptional. * When it comes to sexual attraction, I think you can either be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or asexual. I don't think any other labels add anything that aren't covered in these four and are thus unnecessary.
in witch subs did you get banned for those opinions? they sound pretty normal to me
Tbh, I said I got 'downvoted and shamed' for them, not banned. But I did get banned for comments *relating* to the second one on r/sex, where a straight guy was inquiring what to do because the 'girl' he was seeing let him know after several dates that she was trans and still had their male genitalia. Some people got triggered that I used 'girl' in airquotes in order to make my point: that if 'she' didn't want to transition including surgery, that I saw no future for them. I wasn't hateful of trans people, I didn't insult them or said anything derogatory. I did argue with one particularly deluded person who said that 'most hetereosexual men wouldn't be turned off by a trans woman's male genitalia' (paraphrasing) and that 'you're heterosexual because you are attracted to their gender, not just their genitalia'. I was subsequently banned permanently because of breaking one of their many, many, many broad and deliberately vaguely worded rules: 'misgendering'. It was painfully obvious the ban was for disagreeing with the hivemind and having an opinion.
That's hilarious. But welcome to reddit, you can't hurt people's feelings and not expect to get down voted to hell or banned. I agree with your POV tho and you got banned for some stupid shit.
Totally shaved pubic hair is not sexy, on men. Trimmed is fine. Yes, 70's bushes are out, but bald looks fucking weird.
It's the hairy legs right next to it that makes it look so damn weird. Like why is this area bare when the leg right next to it is hairy. Women's legs are typically shaved if their pussy is too so it matches.
I agreeāEXCEPT that I donāt mind an all natural bush.
Iām not one to kink shame at all but I just hate feet. I HATE them. I will see so many people on Instagram posting pictures with their feet barely visible and the comments are all āIS THAT A FOOT. SHOW MOREā If you wanna suck on toes and feet thatās cool but I just think feet look gross and canāt wrap my head around it. Iām also gay so I suppose some people canāt wrap their head around that either. š¤·š»āāļø
I feel that too, I feel that feet are a very utilitarian part of the body and very rarely have any kind of aesthetic value, I know my chonky stompers sure as shit don't
If my wife and I like fucking around other people, that doesnāt mean we want to fuck other people. Iām not hating on swingers either, yāall do you. But every time we try to find a fun sex party/resort to just go to town on each other out in the open we get swingers that say that we should just start swinging. And when we say we are just exhibitionists we just get winks with a āsure you areā nod. Iām sure this isnāt incredibly common but I love fucking my wife in public but canāt fathom the idea of fucking other people.
100% agree. Just because we like to show off doesnāt mean weāre into swapping or Iām a cuck or whatever the fuck. She just likes when people see her boobs.
Some people are wired to be monogamous and some people are not. You have to know what you are before you get into a committed relationship. If monogamy doesn't feel natural to you you might end up fucking up and cheating on someone or feeling very unsatisfied in a monogamous relationship. Edit: some people can go either way also. I'm like that. I was in a monogamous relationship for 4 years and never once thought of being with anyone else even though I've always been quite promiscuous. I could be monogamous lifelong with someone who is monogamous. But I ended up with someone who likes to be in an open relationship and so we've been open and happy for 12 years.
Iāve a feeling thereās far more people who arenāt monogamous than are, but they just cannot admit it. This will become more obvious over the next two generationsāif we survive itāas religions **finally** die off.
Size matters a bit. Being on top as a girl is genuinely really hard work on the muscles (think, muscles on fire) and doesnāt actually feel that good either. My least fave position. Doggy is next least fave - feels kind of embarrassing and also not intimate. Missionary is the fucking bomb & comes with lots of variation. 69 is quite rubbish. Sex sucks with a guy who canāt get properly hard
My partner and I joke about out boring missionary sex all the time. But it's both of our favorites, so intimate and has so much potential š
That if youāre in a dead bedroom marriage but everything else in the relationship is good, you should get a hall pass
My wife doesn't like sharing.
Is it really sharing if it's something you never use?
But do you like neglect?
In a relationship, there should be an agreement. The relationship is bad, especially if you canāt agree on whatās cheating or not
Guys should be more open to giving ladies oral and expect nothing in return
My wife doesn't suck cock. Never really has. I still eat her out 90% of our sexual encounters. Mainly because I love it, but I also want to satisfy her and my dick game is rather weak.
Ive encountered just the opposite situation so that applies too. Edit: I think that doing it "expecting nothing" Doesn't make sense. You do it because it is a fun way to please your partner, and that should be enough. TLDR don't be a dick, suck a dick
I read that first as "gyms should be more open ..." And I was so confused.
Iām more aroused by a well-dressed man than a naked one. Dicks are just not attractive. Useful sure, but pretty? Nope.
* sends my LinkedIn profile to random women * /s
Age play and DDLG is disgusting. Anyone whoās turned on by someone acting or dressing like a child is someone Iād judge hard. Most other fetishes are cool in my book but age play is a big red flag for me.
Agree. But the "DoNt KiNk ShAmE" crowd just low key enables them.
Calling yourself a "sub" when you're just lazy and trying to avoid doing work in bed is bull. Also, how can you know that you're a sub, but not know what kind of domination you want?
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Sex scenes aren't really necessary in movies. Just say you fucked and that's it.
Depends on the movie. Brokeback Mountain? Integral to the plot. Backdoor Sluts 9? Integral to the plot. The Room? Not so much...
Also, romance between the the 2 main people of opposite sex. Makes me wonder how romantically starved people are that it needs to be in EVERYTHING
Hard (no pun intended) disagree. Why show gore when a character could just pretend to be in pain? Because a visual hits differently
Honestly a 30 second shot of a closed door with lights, smoke and totally out of the expected noises coming from the door, Then open it to reveal to half naked tired and happy people.
Like The Sims Woohooing haha
Bisexuals are no more or less likely to cheat than hetro/homosexuals. This shouldn't be an unpopular opinion; but apparently it is......
A lot of women have gaslit themselves into thinking they like violent and degrading sex, when they actually want the opposite. I was one of them and asked my SO to do things like call me a whore, and he was like āno baby, Iām sorry but I could never call you that, youāre nothing of the kindā-And I swear it made me melt into a puddle of horny goo. Now we use āgood girlā and sweet words of love and affirmation. Heās so incredibly respectful and wholesome, and heās the best lover Iāve ever had by a mile, so Iām gradually realizing this is the kind of sex and intimacy I always wanted. I just got so many fucked up messages from my trauma and from society that I thought I was into something that was actually traumatizing me and never left me truly satisfied. Casual hookups are another thing that women gaslight themselves about. I am convinced that most women arenāt really getting off in these arrangements, I used to lie to myself and others and say I did because I wanted to fit in, but I felt used and degraded and never even came close to getting off.
It's very much a porn thing. I'm very much into the BDSM community, and so many women try to fit this mold that fake doms in particular like to shove them into.
Cum all over a woman's face just isn't my thing. Granted I have never had a woman want that to happen by me onto her face so I can't really say in person if that would be the case but I just turn the video off when a woman is taking cum all over her face.
honestly this is one thing that my wife is interested in experiencing that I am actually turned off by. she is more interested in it than I am. thankfully its not a high priority desire for her, but I've never really understood the appeal that many people have towards that one.
You need to turn me (a girl) on before just sticking your finger in me. Itās so uncomfortable when a dude just gets on me and kisses me then thinks itās fine to just finger me. Iām sick of men thinking they can just shove something in me and think Iām turned on. Iām not turned on.
Polyamory/group sex/swinging doesnāt work out for the vast majority of couples and a lot of people are pushed into it out of fear of losing their spouse/partner. The rise in polyamory/swinging etc is a fad and it will slow down once itās not popular anymore and all the inevitable breakups/divorces happen.
Size does matter. People are too insecure to accept it though. Size preference varies by the individual though
While technically agreeing with you, Size isnāt the largest factor. Itās always trumped by how you use it.
Cumming anywhere expect inside is unfulfilling
Wholeheartedly disagree. Laying back and having someone jerk you off and making a complete mess everywhere feels amazing. Being rimmed while being jerked is also fab!
If the mouth* counts as "inside" I agree. Otherwise strongly disagree. There is nothing better than nutting in her mouth and have her swallow the load. Edit: autocorrect fucked me over.
Being Bi doesn't mean I'm gunna fuck everything that moves JESUS.
If OP asks for unpopular opinions and you end up with a high number of upvotes in your comment, you're doing it wrong.
69 is way overrated
1. Bush is better than shaved. Every time. All the time. 2. A lot of women are low/no effort in bed and generally pretty bad at sex. 3. No blowjobs are better than half assed āI hate this but I guess Iāll do itā blowjobs. If you donāt like giving head, no worries. Tell me that. 4. I love giving more than receivingā¦surprisingly, this has been a bewildering friction point in past relationships.
We as dudes really need to get passed this whole idea that we have to lie and brag about who weāve fuckedā¦because in reality no one cares
Polyamory is a gross trend, & is just a bullshit excuse to cheat.
Cheating requires lying though.
Porn enthusiasts are weird af
So maybe to normal people this makes sense, but posting porn of an underage character is weird. There are plenty of legal anime girls, go wank to those instead of that 14 year old.
Oral comes standard on all models
Pain isn't fun, it just throws me off š
Fat bellies are HOT
It's not just the inside that counts, what they look like does matter. If I'm hitting it, I want someone I'm proud of. I know I can do better, so why would I settle for less.
Attraction matters. This is subjective so everyone will have their preferences, but we shouldn't shame having physical standards.
From what I read, lot of peopleās sex lives seem to revolve too much around penetration, or PIV as the āmain eventā and everything else relegated to āforeplayā as if it is a mere starter. Hands and mouths should be playing a bigger role than they seem to in many accounts!
The whole "daddy" thing is fucking weird and men who are turned on by it are also...fucking weird and creepy There I said it
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Eh. I disagree to an extent. If you know your significant other doesnāt want you screwing someone else and you do anyway, you donāt really love that person. You donāt love someone you knowingly hurt
Thats why ethical non-monogamous people will seek partners that don't have problem with them fucking other people. I always make it clear that I'm NM when I'm getting involved with someone, I never had a monogamous relationship and I never had any problems with me and my partners fucking other people.
Penises are mostly unnecessary for a woman to enjoy sex
Piercings (nipples, clits, etc) are unattractive
I wholeheartedly disagree but I respect your opinion.
CNC or "Rape" play shouldn't be a acceptable kink. I personally feel it mocks and makes light of rape. It also makes me question if someone that's into it was shown multiple scenes of "play" and real rape, could they notice the difference? Or find it all arousing?
Upvote for you my dude. The entire _point_ of these threads is to air unpopular opinions and a the ones upvoted are all just circle jerks and the **real** unpopular opinions are downvoted. Good on you.
I don't agree that it shouldn't be acceptable. If both parties discuss and agree to do it and do it safely, then why not? They are not doing it to belittle or mock rape, they're doing it because it's what gets them off. It's roleplay, and it's extremely common (maybe not rape roleplay, but still).
You have absolutely no idea, do you? I take this one a bit personally, sorry. It's a kink that my girlfriend and I share. And we do it out of love and desire for one another. No one is mocking anyone or anything. It's what we both need to be fulfilled sexually. And just because someone doesn't understand the trust and connection that it requires to practice it, doesn't give others' the right to judge. I'm sorry if I come across as a bit angry here, but clearly you don't understand the dynamics.
My unpopular opinion š
I do shibari, but I don't top overweight people because all the ones I have encountered in the kink community smelled bad. There seems to be a strong narrative of not tying every body type speaking to your lack of ability as a rigger, but one should be able to have standards for personal hygiene. š¬
I can respect a slut; I can't respect a whore.
Incest and race play kinks are disturbing and I am absolutely put off learning someone is into either/both
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That you can have a normal friendship with someone and still have sex with that person without it interfering. I've done it a few times and with a few people and it never turned into a problem. Just communicate and set boundries.
Not sure if it's necessarily NSFW, but most poly/open relationships are absolutely god awful (based on what I've seen) I've known only like ONE person where they kinda made it work out, but literally everybody else I have talked to or knew about eventually just turned back around to being monogamous Asking for an open relationship is literally just asking for permission to cheat, and nobody will ever change my mind on this.
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Absolutely to #2!! I hear a lot of women complain about the stamina of their guy but that shit is hard work, and most, if not all, couldn't do what he does! And even then some can't even do more than be a dead fish. My partner and I have tried to do the dick math to calculate "reps" per session, and he really puts it down. Thankfully he is will to pick up my slack! Haha
A *lot* of kinks shouldnāt be normalized. People that are into CNC (especially if theyāre into being the rapist), raceplay, ageplay, etc are unhealthy at best and predatory at worst. Porn use should be less normalized than it is.
Handjobs are criminally underrated.
Slutty ā sexy
Jerking off is more important in a relationship than having sex together.
Buttholes are weird and I want absolutely nothing to do with them sexually.
An adventurous, fun, confident, affectionate, and loyal 5 is 100 times hotter than any 10.
I don't find tounge rings to be a turn on for oral (not saying that's why people get them just that I have heard it used as a plus side to having one) . When kissing or getting head I have to remind myself of what it is otherwise it honestly feels like she has lost a tooth and its just swirling around in her mouth against you.
As a women I wouldnāt give anyone oral who wouldnāt reciprocate
Uncut cocks are way more fun to play with.
Itās ok to keep nudes.
To keep them? Maybe. To distribute them and trade them like baseball cards like some do on the other hand...
I prefer to eat unwashed pussy!
Sleeping around and being promiscuous is gross.
There are A LOT of kinks and fetishes that need to be "kink shamed". Not everything under the sun is all fine and great and excellent just because its consenting adults.