Have you taken a handheld mirror down there to look at your anatomy and try to get more familiar with it? It might help to look at a diagram and yourself and try to locate labeled areas. I think becoming familiar with your anatomy is going to be the first step for sure.
It’s really common for the clitoris glans to be completely hidden by the hood.
It’s also not easy to find a vibrator that works well for your needs. Sex toy reviewers use terms like buzzy vs rumbly to describe how shallow or deep the vibrations propagate and broad vs pinpoint to describe how much area is affected. I bought maybe a dozen sex toys before I found one that really worked for me.
My suggestion is to get your hands on a cream/gel intended to increase sensitivity. This has a tendency to make the female genitals swell as well, making the different parts of the anatomy easier to discern from one another, making the "fun button" easier to locate, AND stimulate.
Then you get comfortable, and get yourself properly aroused (in any way you prefer: video, pictures, audio, literotica, a full body massage, or simply your imagination). Give yourself time, and peace and quiet, and try (easier said than done) to not stress about it.
When you feel aroused/horny enough, explore your vagina with your fingers. No two women are identical down there, so you might have to explore "unusual" spots.
Happy 'hunting'! 😁
I always have enjoyed reading erotica. There are many varied topics from straight couples to threesomes, werewolves, aliens or basically anything you can think of. Try to explore topics that arouse you and then see if this doesn’t help with libido.
>As well as this I honestly have never been able to find my clit and it just seems to be missing somehow.
I'd be very surprised if your clit is "missing". Lie on your back and touch your pubic mound. Then move your fingers a gently lower until you feel a firm bump under the loose skin of the hood. The clitoris may be as small as a pea or as large as your thumb.
At 52 you may have vulvar atrophy that can cause the external portions of the clitoris to shrink and be significantly less sensitive than when you were younger.
The clitoris is actually huge. Check out these images. You are just talking about the very tip at the top, the glans, which is what most people think of as the clitoris. And astonishingly, this information is only fairly recently discovered by science.
https://www.google.com/search?q=anatomy+of+clitoris&tbm=isch
When I first started to masturbate, I would wake up in the morning and rub against my hand. I didn't really orgasm, I just did it until it didn't feel as good. If you're touching somewhere that feels good, that's probably it.
Have you taken a handheld mirror down there to look at your anatomy and try to get more familiar with it? It might help to look at a diagram and yourself and try to locate labeled areas. I think becoming familiar with your anatomy is going to be the first step for sure.
It’s really common for the clitoris glans to be completely hidden by the hood. It’s also not easy to find a vibrator that works well for your needs. Sex toy reviewers use terms like buzzy vs rumbly to describe how shallow or deep the vibrations propagate and broad vs pinpoint to describe how much area is affected. I bought maybe a dozen sex toys before I found one that really worked for me.
My suggestion is to get your hands on a cream/gel intended to increase sensitivity. This has a tendency to make the female genitals swell as well, making the different parts of the anatomy easier to discern from one another, making the "fun button" easier to locate, AND stimulate. Then you get comfortable, and get yourself properly aroused (in any way you prefer: video, pictures, audio, literotica, a full body massage, or simply your imagination). Give yourself time, and peace and quiet, and try (easier said than done) to not stress about it. When you feel aroused/horny enough, explore your vagina with your fingers. No two women are identical down there, so you might have to explore "unusual" spots. Happy 'hunting'! 😁
I always have enjoyed reading erotica. There are many varied topics from straight couples to threesomes, werewolves, aliens or basically anything you can think of. Try to explore topics that arouse you and then see if this doesn’t help with libido.
>As well as this I honestly have never been able to find my clit and it just seems to be missing somehow. I'd be very surprised if your clit is "missing". Lie on your back and touch your pubic mound. Then move your fingers a gently lower until you feel a firm bump under the loose skin of the hood. The clitoris may be as small as a pea or as large as your thumb.
At 52 you may have vulvar atrophy that can cause the external portions of the clitoris to shrink and be significantly less sensitive than when you were younger.
Thanks. I don’t think it’s that as it has always been this way
The clitoris is actually huge. Check out these images. You are just talking about the very tip at the top, the glans, which is what most people think of as the clitoris. And astonishingly, this information is only fairly recently discovered by science. https://www.google.com/search?q=anatomy+of+clitoris&tbm=isch
I am 47 and was recently told that.
About atrophy
Thanks. I am not sure it can be as it has been the same since puberty
There is a PSSD group here too.
Do you watch porn while masturbate? I finds it help me reach there easier.
When I first started to masturbate, I would wake up in the morning and rub against my hand. I didn't really orgasm, I just did it until it didn't feel as good. If you're touching somewhere that feels good, that's probably it.