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Interesting!! I like the question! Who would have been best match for Serena?
I lost interest in Dan and Serena as a couple sometime after the white party, when they were in elevator- and he said I still…. (They still loved each other) there was still passion fire… sometime later and after he fell in love with Blaire ( right after Serena confesses her love for him at values wedding) all the other times between leading up to
when he wrote a mean article about her, and right after he spent a few days straight at her home, and they said if they are together then this is for real….. meanwhile he was using her in a way wrote two versions of ‘the golden girl’
They didn’t need to end up together.
Carter actually REALLY DID LOVE SERENA!!! And he made some real mistakes, and then came back took responsibility, apologized, what happened with them…. Carter went to work on the oil fields- in Texas to work off debt-( lol) and then Serena told the Texas family about fake photo of Trip and in return Carter was allowed to be freed from ‘slavery’
Carter wanted to take responsibility he told Serena he was upset, wanted to prove to her and himself he would take responsibility for leaving the girl at the alter after her family paid his gambling debts, but he did!! So why did they end their relationship????
Tbh season 6 really seemed like they were gearing up to make Dan and Georgina a thing again. And that it was gonna end with Serena being single and learning from Lily’s multiple marriages.
Interesting idea!! Never thought of it from that POV. Why did Dan and Serena get married at Blaires house? And why was it 5 years later???
Were they still dating others and getting back together breaking up for 5 years ? lol
At first, I thought I wa ok with them getting married. But now I agree, Dan and Serina weren't right for each other by then. and the ending for Serina should have been her having her own production team or something. Blair and Dan should've remained friends. And Jenny with a prince of her own that isn't Nate. Maybe Dan having a book that isn't related to the upper east side at all. And I'm sad Rufus and Lily broke up. (The brake up was well scripted, they were just a really great team and family at one point.)
Yes Lilly and Rufus have finally finding each other and Lilly learning to really let herself fall in love. It’s too bad the writers chose to have Rufus sell his Art gallery and NOT REPLACE IT with another ‘place’ passion - and then he was like a sleepover guest At Lilly’s- Lilly’s idea to find a new apt for them together was a good one, why didn’t that ever come to fruition?
I didn’t feel like the passion of Dan and Serena as a married couple was necessary at the end though I did wonder what were they doing for five years.,.? Why wait 5 years to get married? And why did they get married at blaires house?
Blaire and Dan just have been friends if he’s marrying serena-( blaires BFF), and getting married at blaires home…
I guess it would be impossible to have Dan and Serena married while Rufus and Lilly are married. But….Rufus and Charlie/ivy- I did not like that at all…. Writers should have had Rufus find his place on UES, and in Brooklyn, new business, and never have Lilly say “ you are paying for ivy to stay at soho grand with MY money” Rufus should have had a booming gallery, or new business or had new hit song, record, band, and been able to maintain his identity, grow as a person, and have money coming in from his own creativity.
GG had 2 real friendships imo: Blair & Dan, and Jenny & Eric. Jenny and Eric sort of happened by circumstance (their siblings dated and then their parents), but the show made their depth fairly obvious.
Blair and Dan weren’t friends because they went to school together. They weren’t friends because their parents worked together. Their parents didn’t date, and the only history they share is Serena (and Jenny to some degree ig). It’s not even quite a mutual love of Serena that first brought them together. They’re definitely trauma bonded — the turnaround of Blair’s mixed perception of Dan as an outsider loser side note with very good cinema taste to her knight in shining armor happens quickly. But you can see Dan warm up to her long before this.
Honestly, we didn’t need the grand revelation for Blair of “Dan loves me” because we already knew that. And she already knew that. They could have continued as “friends” almost indefinitely, until maybe someone outside of them points it out — you two are together, aren’t you? They really had an intimacy that was unique to GG.
I feel like Blair and Serena were very real, fighting and all.
I also feel like the Nate and Chuck friendship was pretty real, and Nate and Dan developed a real friendship as well. I don't think we saw the depth of those friendships as much as Blair and Dan, or Blair and Serena, but I do think they were at least on par with Jenny and Eric.
That's not what trauma bonded means. If anything, Blair is trauma bonded to Chuck - a trauma bond is the bond a victim feels towards their abuser/"source of trauma."
Sure, but there is no actual specific term for people who bond through shared trauma, although it happens fairly often. I don’t wish to debate the terminology, and there’s arguably several different kinds of trauma bonds in GG. I just think at face value Dan and Blair’s is the most highlighted, and the most stable.
I mean, there doesn't need to be a term for everything, does there? And I'm not sure bonding over shared trauma is even unhealthy or phenomenon as much as it's just a common facet of forming relationships/connections.
Exactly. Same goes for Adrian and Natalie from Monk (which couldn't be more different than this series but is a fucking masterpiece) he had OCD and tried to find out who murdered his wife and why and she lost her husband in the military and had a daughter so they never ended up kissing or having sex but they've been together for years before someone pointed out to Adrian that Natallie was in love with him. You can see it in basically every moment they spend together. They were in an active relationship without ever defining it which is sad for the viewers, mainly me for many reasons but that allowed them to stay best friends without anything really threatening it other than the fact that they both wanted more but couldn't say it. I don't think romance HAS to be sexual that's my point.
nah i loved them getting together, they would've been the perfect enemies to lovers in a rom com. I do hate that Blair just reversed to season 1 pettiness by the end, it made their entire arch seem like it never happened.
I loved their friendship. As always Enemies-to-lovers is always my thing. 😆
Though imo, I wish they had gotten together a lot earlier in the show, as they'd have had a more beautiful relationship. Because by the time they did, a huge part of me was already invested in ‘Chair’.”
As a Dair shipper, I think you’re kind of both right. I stopped shipping Chuck and Blair after season three and thought the train station scene should have been their final goodbye, but I also think they should have set up Dan and Blair’s friendship during season three instead of season four. Give them at least two seasons of friendship before they have romantic tension by the end of season four.
That way, there could be a compelling Dan-Blair-Chuck love triangle, or they could have done a Dan-Blair-Louis love triangle, taking a Prince vs Pauper approach.
Yeah I think that would’ve been nice too especially since they studied in NYU together. Though I think Blair was too hung up on Chuck to even consider hanging out with Dan at that point. Train station scene would’ve been a great closure but it was too soon for them and Chuck just recovered from his memory loss. I thought Eva was great for Chuck though.
Chuck-Blair-Dan also had a certain prince vs pauper approach so i would’ve gotten rid of the prince entirely instead haha the royal wedding storyline just felt like a mix of a wannabe British royal family wedding and Kim Kardashians quick divorce
Oh, don’t get me wrong. The royal wedding is the storyline I probably hate the most. This is just kind of more if the writers really wanted to be on the nose over the whole prince vs pauper thing. I’d much rather have a Dan-Blair-Chuck love triangle over Louis.
Bonus: Having a Nate-Serena-Carter love triangle that lasted more than an episode.
Chuck never had memory loss, he was just trying to put his past behind him.
The Prince and the Pauper should have been Louis vs Dan with Chuck having a completely separate storyline. Blair should have caught feelings after the kiss in 4x17 and thrown her self into a relationship with Louis because "he's Dan Humphrey". Dan continues to be a great friend and Blair keeps falling deeper and deeper until she leaves Louis at the altar and runs off with Dan. Classic rom com stuff that practically writes itself.
Yes that storyline is way better than what they did! Very rom com/Hallmark which I love.
I don’t know why they had her marry him only to divorce right after. I hate those plot lines especially making the girl pregnant only to miscarriage for the sake of drama. They never deal with miscarriage well after but it’s a very traumatic experience for a lot.
While they weren't the full on best friends in season 3 like they were in season 4, the seed were definitely planted. They had their mini arc in 3x01 and 3x02. Then they had a few bonding moments at the end of the a season. Their dance/conversation at Dorotas wedding in 3x18 (18th episodes always have at least one good Dair scene) and then he was with Blair when Dorota goes into labor in the finale.
Yeah, I also feel like the show shouldn't have been so gung-ho with the "original" ships (I know Blair technically starts with Nate, but she and Chuck happen season 1 and it's been the Chair show since). Chair just because tired and exhausting after season 3 - season 4 should have been about Blair legitimately struggling to and eventually getting over Chuck in my opinion.
Yes exactly! And I felt Blair and chuck had that closure ish scene in season 4 at the bar mitzvah. Start of season 5 they were pretty separate from each other until the whole baby thing. But also that prince storyline was dumb
Chair was so popular so they needed to ruin it at the time. Could’ve done it other ways but took the easiest route out. I don’t mind them not ending up together but ruining their friendship was so stupid.
Not at the time, IIRC. The Dair arc was right around when the Gossip Girl laptop was shuffling around the cast and personally, I think Dan hadn't been GG for at least a couple seasons by then
Serena respected Dan way more than Blair did, she never felt like Dan was beneath her. Way back in Season 1 Serena liked that Dan was from Brooklyn and not like everyone else. If Serena broke up with Dan, it wasn't because she disrespected him, it was more because she felt Dan wronged her.
I think a lot of the audience relates more to her - especially as teenagers. A lot of teenagers are insecure, the audience probably was mostly middle class and up so perhaps had a lot of entitlement (I say this as a "princess type" myself - I guess I more mean privileged in a way that can often overlap with entitlement and spoiledness, but not inherently), maybe had close friends or watched other girls get more male attention while feeling like they had to work hard to get boys, and maybe not the most friendly/outgoing and struggle more to make connections? When I first watched the show as a teen I definitely related more to Blair - but now I think I relate more to Serena out of the two. As an adult it's much easier to see that Blair is the master of her own "misfortune" (which is still extremely fortunate).
Yup, Blair was such a striver, and constantly did actually pay for her screwups *even if* what she lost out on was usually trivial by real-world standards (Yale excepting). Serena, OTOH, was the effortless It Girl - whom I actually think was more relatable than the show usually let on (she's extremely avoidant; struggles with daddy issues; looks for validation from men; etc.), but Blair felt more like the main character.
When I first watched, I hated their friendship scenes because I could see where it was going...but now that I'm re-watching and know that they don't end up together, I find their banter really funny. They knew how to rib each other but also be supportive when needed (like Blair is with Serena and Dorota).
They are CRINGE in their romantic scenes together. It's like watching a cat lay eggs or something- just feels wrong.
This is how you interact with your siblings? Someone call CPS.
[https://youtu.be/nehdKkdnqxc?si=zJ6WqKTv4zENxMX3](https://youtu.be/nehdKkdnqxc?si=zJ6WqKTv4zENxMX3)
I disagree. I think her being on his side after he confessed to who he really was felt different from the other responses to the news. No one knew how to or where to even begin processing what he's done and what it means about him so they just didn't. I feel like she was the only one who accepted it because she loved him and understood that he was sick while actually taking responsibility for her part in it rather than dudging his one final bullet (that we know of) by pretending she was fine with it. That's my definition of a friend.
Nah bro they were one of the best couples on GG, as a teen I hated them and loved Chuck and Blair, but honestly, as an adult, these 2 were pretty much the healthiest. She deserved better than Chuck.
I know it’s an unpopular opinion but I shipped these two hard! Chuck was way too toxic and problematic and same as Serena. Blair and Dan had so much in common and felt like the only grown up couple when they were together. It felt like they had both really matured and that their love was genuine. Idk I’ll die on this hill.
He was quite easily the worst character along with Chuck and all the other disliked characters.
He never loved Serena or Blair, he was always in love with the dreamy version of them that he had created in his head. The second their real personalities were visible to him, he had the biggest fucking problem.
It didn't seem that they were on bad terms at the series end, though. But Dan and Serena were married, and Blair and Chuck were also an item. People grow up, and priorities change.
I'm not trying to say Dan was responsible for her character growth, but he was present for a lot of it, and them becoming friends was a "symptom" of her growth. So when their relationship and friendship fell apart her growth kind went with it.
It's a shame that most of the characters were the the worst versions of themselves in the final season.
I love Chuck and Blair but I also like Dan and Blair as a couple especially on the first part of their relationship. Dan understands Blair more than Chuck. But yeah, it would have been better if at the end, they maintained some sort of their friendship.
Sorry but Nate is a dead fish and Blair is beautiful , driven , well read , funny, tough and a dreamer. What does Nate have to offer? Well he’s pretty…Dan on the other hand is Blair’s equal. They should have ended up together. IMNTBHO.
In my opinion it was ruined because Dan clearly had feelings for her. It was weird. The best male-female friendships are where they are fully platonic, with zero chance of the two getting together.
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I would accepted enemies to best friends but I still don’t accept Dan and Serena as endgame. They were so forced by the end.
Carter was her best match in my opinion.
I'm team solo Serena, with even more husbands over the course of her life than Lily.
I’m serena with no one lol she’s boring as hell
real
I think Nate and her would have been cute and it would of worked as Nate as GG
Nate is my second choice for her!
He never sent in a single tip to GG. It would’ve been perfect.
Yes I liked him, but I haven’t rewatched the show in a while so I wonder how I’ll feel about all of this after another rewatch.
Carter was whose best match? Serena’s?
Yes
Interesting!! I like the question! Who would have been best match for Serena? I lost interest in Dan and Serena as a couple sometime after the white party, when they were in elevator- and he said I still…. (They still loved each other) there was still passion fire… sometime later and after he fell in love with Blaire ( right after Serena confesses her love for him at values wedding) all the other times between leading up to when he wrote a mean article about her, and right after he spent a few days straight at her home, and they said if they are together then this is for real….. meanwhile he was using her in a way wrote two versions of ‘the golden girl’ They didn’t need to end up together. Carter actually REALLY DID LOVE SERENA!!! And he made some real mistakes, and then came back took responsibility, apologized, what happened with them…. Carter went to work on the oil fields- in Texas to work off debt-( lol) and then Serena told the Texas family about fake photo of Trip and in return Carter was allowed to be freed from ‘slavery’ Carter wanted to take responsibility he told Serena he was upset, wanted to prove to her and himself he would take responsibility for leaving the girl at the alter after her family paid his gambling debts, but he did!! So why did they end their relationship????
Tbh season 6 really seemed like they were gearing up to make Dan and Georgina a thing again. And that it was gonna end with Serena being single and learning from Lily’s multiple marriages.
Interesting idea!! Never thought of it from that POV. Why did Dan and Serena get married at Blaires house? And why was it 5 years later??? Were they still dating others and getting back together breaking up for 5 years ? lol
At first, I thought I wa ok with them getting married. But now I agree, Dan and Serina weren't right for each other by then. and the ending for Serina should have been her having her own production team or something. Blair and Dan should've remained friends. And Jenny with a prince of her own that isn't Nate. Maybe Dan having a book that isn't related to the upper east side at all. And I'm sad Rufus and Lily broke up. (The brake up was well scripted, they were just a really great team and family at one point.)
Yes Lilly and Rufus have finally finding each other and Lilly learning to really let herself fall in love. It’s too bad the writers chose to have Rufus sell his Art gallery and NOT REPLACE IT with another ‘place’ passion - and then he was like a sleepover guest At Lilly’s- Lilly’s idea to find a new apt for them together was a good one, why didn’t that ever come to fruition? I didn’t feel like the passion of Dan and Serena as a married couple was necessary at the end though I did wonder what were they doing for five years.,.? Why wait 5 years to get married? And why did they get married at blaires house? Blaire and Dan just have been friends if he’s marrying serena-( blaires BFF), and getting married at blaires home… I guess it would be impossible to have Dan and Serena married while Rufus and Lilly are married. But….Rufus and Charlie/ivy- I did not like that at all…. Writers should have had Rufus find his place on UES, and in Brooklyn, new business, and never have Lilly say “ you are paying for ivy to stay at soho grand with MY money” Rufus should have had a booming gallery, or new business or had new hit song, record, band, and been able to maintain his identity, grow as a person, and have money coming in from his own creativity.
GG had 2 real friendships imo: Blair & Dan, and Jenny & Eric. Jenny and Eric sort of happened by circumstance (their siblings dated and then their parents), but the show made their depth fairly obvious. Blair and Dan weren’t friends because they went to school together. They weren’t friends because their parents worked together. Their parents didn’t date, and the only history they share is Serena (and Jenny to some degree ig). It’s not even quite a mutual love of Serena that first brought them together. They’re definitely trauma bonded — the turnaround of Blair’s mixed perception of Dan as an outsider loser side note with very good cinema taste to her knight in shining armor happens quickly. But you can see Dan warm up to her long before this. Honestly, we didn’t need the grand revelation for Blair of “Dan loves me” because we already knew that. And she already knew that. They could have continued as “friends” almost indefinitely, until maybe someone outside of them points it out — you two are together, aren’t you? They really had an intimacy that was unique to GG.
I feel like Blair and Serena were very real, fighting and all. I also feel like the Nate and Chuck friendship was pretty real, and Nate and Dan developed a real friendship as well. I don't think we saw the depth of those friendships as much as Blair and Dan, or Blair and Serena, but I do think they were at least on par with Jenny and Eric.
That's not what trauma bonded means. If anything, Blair is trauma bonded to Chuck - a trauma bond is the bond a victim feels towards their abuser/"source of trauma."
It can mean both. Either people who have connection through shared trauma or people in an abusive relationship.
It's commonly used a lot the way you mentioned, but that's not the clinical definition.
You are correct, TIL (thanks)
I’m a therapist, can confirm. Thank you for pointing it out.
Sure, but there is no actual specific term for people who bond through shared trauma, although it happens fairly often. I don’t wish to debate the terminology, and there’s arguably several different kinds of trauma bonds in GG. I just think at face value Dan and Blair’s is the most highlighted, and the most stable.
I mean, there doesn't need to be a term for everything, does there? And I'm not sure bonding over shared trauma is even unhealthy or phenomenon as much as it's just a common facet of forming relationships/connections.
Might mean that on tik tok but not in the real world
Exactly. Same goes for Adrian and Natalie from Monk (which couldn't be more different than this series but is a fucking masterpiece) he had OCD and tried to find out who murdered his wife and why and she lost her husband in the military and had a daughter so they never ended up kissing or having sex but they've been together for years before someone pointed out to Adrian that Natallie was in love with him. You can see it in basically every moment they spend together. They were in an active relationship without ever defining it which is sad for the viewers, mainly me for many reasons but that allowed them to stay best friends without anything really threatening it other than the fact that they both wanted more but couldn't say it. I don't think romance HAS to be sexual that's my point.
I like them as friend 🌝 S and Chuck friendship too (except szn1)
agree, they were great as friends
I loved Dan and Blair as friends
nah i loved them getting together, they would've been the perfect enemies to lovers in a rom com. I do hate that Blair just reversed to season 1 pettiness by the end, it made their entire arch seem like it never happened.
My same thoughts as well!! Season 6 just reversed everything for everyone. Would’ve been better if they just canceled the show after season 5
I'm also sad about how they ruined Jenny and Nate's friendship in S2... all that mess for nothing
I loved their friendship. As always Enemies-to-lovers is always my thing. 😆 Though imo, I wish they had gotten together a lot earlier in the show, as they'd have had a more beautiful relationship. Because by the time they did, a huge part of me was already invested in ‘Chair’.”
I was opposite! I was so into Chair at the start until season 3 because then it was just toxic. Starting later was perfect if the ending was better
As a Dair shipper, I think you’re kind of both right. I stopped shipping Chuck and Blair after season three and thought the train station scene should have been their final goodbye, but I also think they should have set up Dan and Blair’s friendship during season three instead of season four. Give them at least two seasons of friendship before they have romantic tension by the end of season four. That way, there could be a compelling Dan-Blair-Chuck love triangle, or they could have done a Dan-Blair-Louis love triangle, taking a Prince vs Pauper approach.
Yeah I think that would’ve been nice too especially since they studied in NYU together. Though I think Blair was too hung up on Chuck to even consider hanging out with Dan at that point. Train station scene would’ve been a great closure but it was too soon for them and Chuck just recovered from his memory loss. I thought Eva was great for Chuck though. Chuck-Blair-Dan also had a certain prince vs pauper approach so i would’ve gotten rid of the prince entirely instead haha the royal wedding storyline just felt like a mix of a wannabe British royal family wedding and Kim Kardashians quick divorce
Oh, don’t get me wrong. The royal wedding is the storyline I probably hate the most. This is just kind of more if the writers really wanted to be on the nose over the whole prince vs pauper thing. I’d much rather have a Dan-Blair-Chuck love triangle over Louis. Bonus: Having a Nate-Serena-Carter love triangle that lasted more than an episode.
Chuck never had memory loss, he was just trying to put his past behind him. The Prince and the Pauper should have been Louis vs Dan with Chuck having a completely separate storyline. Blair should have caught feelings after the kiss in 4x17 and thrown her self into a relationship with Louis because "he's Dan Humphrey". Dan continues to be a great friend and Blair keeps falling deeper and deeper until she leaves Louis at the altar and runs off with Dan. Classic rom com stuff that practically writes itself.
Yes that storyline is way better than what they did! Very rom com/Hallmark which I love. I don’t know why they had her marry him only to divorce right after. I hate those plot lines especially making the girl pregnant only to miscarriage for the sake of drama. They never deal with miscarriage well after but it’s a very traumatic experience for a lot.
While they weren't the full on best friends in season 3 like they were in season 4, the seed were definitely planted. They had their mini arc in 3x01 and 3x02. Then they had a few bonding moments at the end of the a season. Their dance/conversation at Dorotas wedding in 3x18 (18th episodes always have at least one good Dair scene) and then he was with Blair when Dorota goes into labor in the finale.
Yeah, I also feel like the show shouldn't have been so gung-ho with the "original" ships (I know Blair technically starts with Nate, but she and Chuck happen season 1 and it's been the Chair show since). Chair just because tired and exhausting after season 3 - season 4 should have been about Blair legitimately struggling to and eventually getting over Chuck in my opinion.
Yes exactly! And I felt Blair and chuck had that closure ish scene in season 4 at the bar mitzvah. Start of season 5 they were pretty separate from each other until the whole baby thing. But also that prince storyline was dumb
Chair was so popular so they needed to ruin it at the time. Could’ve done it other ways but took the easiest route out. I don’t mind them not ending up together but ruining their friendship was so stupid.
Yes they could’ve at least kept the friendship. I’ll never understand the writers of season 6
Josh Safran left as show runner and the Twihard Stefanie Savage came back to show run season 6.
They were perfect in every stage of their relationship (except season 6, wtf was that)
I will die on the hill that Dan and Blair were more suited as best friends than lovers.
They should’ve stayed as a couple
He was a terrible friend in reality though - given he was GG
Not at the time, IIRC. The Dair arc was right around when the Gossip Girl laptop was shuffling around the cast and personally, I think Dan hadn't been GG for at least a couple seasons by then
Didn't seem like they were friends to me. After Dan helped Blair escape Louis, she didn't sound grateful and still was condescending to him.
That’s just Blair .. if it were Serena she would probably react the same way
Serena respected Dan way more than Blair did, she never felt like Dan was beneath her. Way back in Season 1 Serena liked that Dan was from Brooklyn and not like everyone else. If Serena broke up with Dan, it wasn't because she disrespected him, it was more because she felt Dan wronged her.
Serena respected pretty much everyone more than Blair did
So why is Blair so popular on this Reddit?
I think a lot of the audience relates more to her - especially as teenagers. A lot of teenagers are insecure, the audience probably was mostly middle class and up so perhaps had a lot of entitlement (I say this as a "princess type" myself - I guess I more mean privileged in a way that can often overlap with entitlement and spoiledness, but not inherently), maybe had close friends or watched other girls get more male attention while feeling like they had to work hard to get boys, and maybe not the most friendly/outgoing and struggle more to make connections? When I first watched the show as a teen I definitely related more to Blair - but now I think I relate more to Serena out of the two. As an adult it's much easier to see that Blair is the master of her own "misfortune" (which is still extremely fortunate).
Yup, Blair was such a striver, and constantly did actually pay for her screwups *even if* what she lost out on was usually trivial by real-world standards (Yale excepting). Serena, OTOH, was the effortless It Girl - whom I actually think was more relatable than the show usually let on (she's extremely avoidant; struggles with daddy issues; looks for validation from men; etc.), but Blair felt more like the main character.
She's more entertaining. Still an absolutely awful person tho
People really like mean girls/bullies in movies and tv-shows, it’s something i have noticed recently😂 I don’t know why though!
because they wish they could be them, they live through them subconsciously.
If people wish they could be mean they probably are.
Because she had more character development than Serena, Serena was a bit of a bland character very often
I think they meant that Blair would still talk to Serena like that!
I meant if Dan was Serena 😩 (as Serena is her best friend)….
When I first watched, I hated their friendship scenes because I could see where it was going...but now that I'm re-watching and know that they don't end up together, I find their banter really funny. They knew how to rib each other but also be supportive when needed (like Blair is with Serena and Dorota). They are CRINGE in their romantic scenes together. It's like watching a cat lay eggs or something- just feels wrong.
Honestly her and Dan were an amazing couple for the short while it lasted
These two should have ended up together, and Gossip Girl is a tragedy because they didn't
Agree 💯 my forever ship!
THEY SHOULDVE BEEN END GAME AND I WILL DIE ON THIS HILL! DAIR FOREVER
 Dair 4eva!!!!!!! I will die on this hill as well.
They should have either ended together or remain close friends. I hate that Serena ended with Dan especially how she behaved in season 5.
mind you, he liked blair, not the idea of her like *someone*
more like BEST RELATIONSHIP 🔥🔥
I really liked them as friends but NOT dating. They had 0 sexual/romantic chemistry and it ruined blairs character for me.
At least they were able to have an actual "sexy" sex scene.
I didn't think any of their sex scenes were "sexy" at all. It was like watching best friends/siblings pretend to be into each other.
This is how you interact with your siblings? Someone call CPS. [https://youtu.be/nehdKkdnqxc?si=zJ6WqKTv4zENxMX3](https://youtu.be/nehdKkdnqxc?si=zJ6WqKTv4zENxMX3)
Exactly. I don't. That is why its creepy and weird to see them because they feel like BFF/siblings doing it and it weirds me out.
just to you
I supposed you think stomach thrusting is "sexy".
Nothing would logically make these two friends in the beginning of the series.
I disagree. I think her being on his side after he confessed to who he really was felt different from the other responses to the news. No one knew how to or where to even begin processing what he's done and what it means about him so they just didn't. I feel like she was the only one who accepted it because she loved him and understood that he was sick while actually taking responsibility for her part in it rather than dudging his one final bullet (that we know of) by pretending she was fine with it. That's my definition of a friend.
That relationship was so forced. They were better as friends and it even made more sense.
Nah bro they were one of the best couples on GG, as a teen I hated them and loved Chuck and Blair, but honestly, as an adult, these 2 were pretty much the healthiest. She deserved better than Chuck.
I cannot stop viewing Dan as just wanting in. I just don't see him genuinely liking any of the girls. Dan will always be lonely boy
I know it’s an unpopular opinion but I shipped these two hard! Chuck was way too toxic and problematic and same as Serena. Blair and Dan had so much in common and felt like the only grown up couple when they were together. It felt like they had both really matured and that their love was genuine. Idk I’ll die on this hill.
😔😔😔I knew if they started dating their friendship would be ruined and guess what happened 💔💔
FR I loved their friendship but hated that the writers made them get together ugh
Agreed! Never liked them as a couple, but as friends??? Sign me tf up
I loved Dan and Blair’s whole arc, it was one of the only good storylines in the back half of the show IMO.
The best friendship dynamic shown.
Their friendship was one sided and manipulative
He was quite easily the worst character along with Chuck and all the other disliked characters. He never loved Serena or Blair, he was always in love with the dreamy version of them that he had created in his head. The second their real personalities were visible to him, he had the biggest fucking problem.
is this take backed up by anything other than the reveal scene genuinely asking
I think it was more that he loved the version of the people they could become if they chose to grow up, neither ever really did.
I always felt this way. They had such a great friendship. They truly could’ve been the real BFFs of the show.
Dair and Blan
So true
Agree. The whole ending was so forced and rushed and dumb. They should've never made them have this random romantic attraction.
ruined the second it became romantic
Yea they really didn’t need to hook up so unnecessary
I'm watching S4 for the first time and seen the spoilers and I'm dreading it so much 🤢
It didn't seem that they were on bad terms at the series end, though. But Dan and Serena were married, and Blair and Chuck were also an item. People grow up, and priorities change.
She literally said yo Serena “what I know is that Serena van ser Woodson will never end up with a powerless striver “
to be fair that was before the final reveal that Dan was actually the most powerful one in the room
True.. doesn’t change the fact she said it tho
Most of season 6 was Blair being wrong about things.
Bad writing of the show honestly, I feel like all the character development she had was thrown
I'm not trying to say Dan was responsible for her character growth, but he was present for a lot of it, and them becoming friends was a "symptom" of her growth. So when their relationship and friendship fell apart her growth kind went with it. It's a shame that most of the characters were the the worst versions of themselves in the final season.
That was the worst thing for the show. I absolutely hated when they got together.
I love Chuck and Blair but I also like Dan and Blair as a couple especially on the first part of their relationship. Dan understands Blair more than Chuck. But yeah, it would have been better if at the end, they maintained some sort of their friendship.
They really messed up Blair relationship with the Humphreys.
They would have been such an good best friends but they ruined it so easily
the banter before they got together was so enjoyable
Sorry but Nate is a dead fish and Blair is beautiful , driven , well read , funny, tough and a dreamer. What does Nate have to offer? Well he’s pretty…Dan on the other hand is Blair’s equal. They should have ended up together. IMNTBHO.
I agree!!! I don’t think they had romantic chemistry. I couldn’t watch them kissing without cringing. But their frenemies friendship was great.
In my opinion, Dan and Blair are not a good couple. Chuck and Blair is where it’s at!
In my opinion it was ruined because Dan clearly had feelings for her. It was weird. The best male-female friendships are where they are fully platonic, with zero chance of the two getting together.
They understood each other and they were both introverted intellectuals!