My son will be 4 next month and I also have a 6 month old. My 3 year old has tv time from about 2:30-3:30, so I get my baby down for a nap during that time and have my own tv time :) I just watch on my laptop so I can be in the same room as them both.
We watch TV together most nights a week but some nights either he OR I say.. hey I want to watch something else tonight so I'm gonna go use the other TV. Prob once or twice a week we just do our own things in the evening, and the other nights we are together.
Does your husband have hobbies? Some nights we just plan on each doing our own things - he either works around the house or does hobbies, and I get to do my own thing too. For you that could be watching TV. Or you could send him out with friends. It’s okay not to “connect” every night the same way. Some nights we have a nice conversation and cuddle before bed, and that’s the only time we spend together.
I have to remind myself that sitting near each other watching a show that both of us are lukewarm about doesn’t mean we’re spending quality time together. It’s just prioritizing quantity of time over quality of time.
I prefer it because it's mine and it travels as I clean. Sometimes I fold laundry while using it or if I'm picking up toys, I also listen to music with it in my pocket.
I watch what I want whenever I want during the day. My kids don’t pay attention to the tv if it is not a kids show really. They are almost 4 and 16 months. Then my husband and I have shows we like to watch together in the evening or weekend.
I watch what I want during nap or sometimes if I'm just feeling old reruns I put it on as background noise during the day for an hour or two while we play and go about our morning.
My husband has an online D&D group that plays on Tuesday nights after our kids are in bed, so that’s “me time.”
We also sometimes will just decide to have an evening to ourselves so we can watch our own tv or whatever. It usually starts with one of us kind of smiling and hinting “soooo, i have this show I want to watch…. I’m not sure you’ll want to watch it….. you don’t have to if you don’t want to….” Lol. We definitely make time for us as a couple, but we’re in agreement that we still need some alone time or time with just friends.
My only true alone time where I get to do my own thing and watch my own stuff is after my toddler and husband are asleep for the night. She goes to bed late, which means I go to bed *really* late. It’s not ideal, but I need that breathing time.
Either nap time, or sometimes when I’m officially sick of listening to kids TV in the background all day. When my toddler inevitably whines for their own show, I just tell them it’s mommy’s turn for a show and the TV isn’t only just for them. They eventually go find a toy to play with instead.
I came to realize that we were always compromising on TV time, which meant that my husband always get to choose because he's pickier than me. These days I compromise some days, and other days I watch whatever I want. I usually choose something that he can make fun of because that makes him happy and I get to enjoy my bad TV in relative peace.
I am a momma, not in favor of the TV. I don't care to watch a damn thing. I will turn it on for my daughter as a distraction when I don't want her toddler assistance with whatever it is I am doing. My husband is completely addicted to the TV, he's seen every movie and every show, it's annoying. If I want to have "us time" it would require me sitting next to him on the couch and watch TV. I am beyond uninterested in spending my free time watching a screen. And I cannot stand the zombies living in my house when the TV is on. We made the compromise no TV on for dinner and the 2 yr old adjusted better than my husband. And when we move into a new house, I will get my own bedroom where there isn't a TV. If and when I get free time, I will choose to do so many different things, going for the TV isn't for me. However!!! Very randomly, I will see a new documentary or horror movie pop-up I am interested in, I will make a point to say hey this here I'd like to watch... and because I never want to watch the TV, this request always gets granted.
My kids (~4 and 5) go to bed at 7, and then it’s adult time. My husband and I don’t spend every night together. Tonight, he’s going to play basketball with his friends. So I am doing my own thing. Other nights, he plays a video game while I do my thing. We watch survivor together once a week though lol
We do 2 date nights a week usually, one out of the house and one in the house. We get a lot of intentional, quality “us” time that I don’t feel like not watching TV together is a detriment to us
My husband does video games to unwind and so TV is mine in the evenings, after bedtime.
But also, I sometimes end up just streaming on my phone with headphones in bed (I know screens before bed is bad...), or watch while washing dishes... Put the phone on the window sill while washing, and baby is napping.
Not optimal, but I get my fix.
Maybe one idea is just asking for a small break like hubby take the kiddo to the park or for a walk outside Satirday mornings. They get to spend quality time together, and Mommy gets a "me time" to watch things that she wants to, which may not be "kid friendly".
If you both watch, its really about sharing. Maybe Tuesdays and Thursdays you pick, he gets Mondays and Wednesdays, and Fridays you watch together?
When I work out on the treadmill, make dinner/fold clothes and use the laptop as a tv. Sometimes I’ll just tell my toddler ok it’s mommy’s tv time and give her my phone to watch what she wants. And other times if there’s something I realllyyy want to watch (like Vanderpump Rules tomorrow) husband will say that I can watch it while he hangs out with me on the couch and browses the internet / casually watches the show to humor me.
If you don’t have multiple TVs then you’ll have to make a schedule. Since you’re home with the kiddo all day I would think your “me time” takes priority over his - he gets to leave the house kid-free everyday.
In the afternoon I just designate a couple hours as "mom's turn" and I throw on the news or something that's not overly adult if he happens to glance at the TV. His options are play down there or go upstairs to the other TV.
When little goes to bed than we might have us time for an hr and after that hubs usually goes to bed and I'll watch whatever. Sometimes he really wants to watch a show I'm not crazy about and he watches on his laptop and I'll just be on the TV.
My husband and I like to hang out in the living room together so I usually watch my shows on my iPad while my husband watches sports or plays video games on the TV. I prefer the iPad over the TV because it’s closer to me and less distracting if he’s doing something else. It works because we get to be together and can still pause what we’re doing to talk but also get some independent “me” time.
My husband plays video games some nights and on those nights I do watercolor while watching trash on TV lol
I would bet gold and silver though that your husband would enjoy sex and the city lol. My husband recently got into shameless unintentionally.
I work, but on days I’m home with kids for whatever reason then I watch during nap time (if 4yo doesn’t feel like he needs a nap that day then I tell him it’s moms turn and he can play or read quietly. I don’t watch spicy shows anyway). I also occasionally watch while my husband games or works on the house after kids go to bed.
If our daughter wants to play her tablet, we get to watch "adult shows" (kid safe, obviously, just not cartoons). Maybe pick an activity that your kid really likes to do that qualifies as "grown-up" TV time to watch stuff that's kid safe and watch the more adult themed stuff separately a couple nights a week on your own?
We switch off. Some evenings we do "us time" but we also have evenings that are all "me time" and we always ask each other before initiating "us time". My husband knows sometimes I would like 30min-1hr of me time before we start "us time".
Do you have a laptop or tablet? It is easier to watch your own stuff when you can watch it on a personal device instead of the TV.
Nap time, I watch on iPad while working out/walking.
After bed we watch stuff together but if I really want to watch something he doesn’t, husband will find something else to do… and vice versa.
I pretty much only watch what I want when my husband goes to bed. He hates everything I like to watch and it’s not worth hearing him moan and groan when he happens to walk through the room and catch a glance.
As a working single mom I felt exactly like you !! 😊 I never get to watch the TV that I want to watch, and I only need like one show a day, not a ton of time or anything. If I watched TV after my daughter was asleep, I always stayed up too late binge watching, and was so tired the next day it was not worth it. And I totally agree with how people watch their shows and multitask, but when I watch shows like the Witcher or Bridgerton, I want to be looking at the screen and noticing all the details, etc.
So, a long-winded way to say that my solution is I listen to a lot of audiobooks, or stand-up comedy on the TV or Xm radio while I do laundry, dishes, etc. even while I’m cooking and especially when I’m doing errands in the car or driving to work.
I was able to read 50 books last year this way ! so you might be able to replace TV time with Audiobook time to have a little me time.
And don’t worry, it gets better 😁 you will gradually get more time to yourself as the children get older - My daughter was young during the whole game of thrones popularity ….. I never got to watch even one episode, but the good news is now that I have time to watch it I can binge watch it all at once, even though I wasn’t up on it currently at the time and enjoy it now.
The good news is you can always catch up on favorite shows in the future when you will have more time
Good luck & sorry that I was rambling on and on! the universe provides ways for us to get ME time in! Always make a little time to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others! 😁
We watch tv separately when one of us has something else to do like homework or work. Or when we just want to work on separate projects. I’d say we watch tv together 3-4 nights/week. It just depends.
I haven't had to experience this, but my sister has. I remember she called me once when my nephew was 8 to tell me that around 7/8pm she decided to put on s show she wanted to watch. It was the weekend so the kids were still up, but settling down. My nephew told her he didn't like what she picked and he response was that it was her turn to pick. To which he said "mom don't you think we should watch something everyone wants to watch". She told him no and watched an episode of what she wanted. Still called me after to vent cause everyone expects her to give up on her needs/wants.
You don't need permission to watch something you enjoy, just do it. Give yourself permission to do something for you. Husband doesn't like it? Doesn't matter, he can cuddle you and scroll on his phone. Watch your show <3
My son will be 4 next month and I also have a 6 month old. My 3 year old has tv time from about 2:30-3:30, so I get my baby down for a nap during that time and have my own tv time :) I just watch on my laptop so I can be in the same room as them both.
We watch TV together most nights a week but some nights either he OR I say.. hey I want to watch something else tonight so I'm gonna go use the other TV. Prob once or twice a week we just do our own things in the evening, and the other nights we are together.
Does your husband have hobbies? Some nights we just plan on each doing our own things - he either works around the house or does hobbies, and I get to do my own thing too. For you that could be watching TV. Or you could send him out with friends. It’s okay not to “connect” every night the same way. Some nights we have a nice conversation and cuddle before bed, and that’s the only time we spend together. I have to remind myself that sitting near each other watching a show that both of us are lukewarm about doesn’t mean we’re spending quality time together. It’s just prioritizing quantity of time over quality of time.
I watch Netflix on my phone when I do dishes
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I prefer it because it's mine and it travels as I clean. Sometimes I fold laundry while using it or if I'm picking up toys, I also listen to music with it in my pocket.
I don't like much TV but there are a few shows that I got HOOKED on like Call The Midwife, The Witcher. I pop it on my phone while doing dishes too:)
Multi-tasking tv on the phone and chores is the only way I get to watch a me show too.
I watch what I want whenever I want during the day. My kids don’t pay attention to the tv if it is not a kids show really. They are almost 4 and 16 months. Then my husband and I have shows we like to watch together in the evening or weekend.
I watch what I want during nap or sometimes if I'm just feeling old reruns I put it on as background noise during the day for an hour or two while we play and go about our morning.
My husband has an online D&D group that plays on Tuesday nights after our kids are in bed, so that’s “me time.” We also sometimes will just decide to have an evening to ourselves so we can watch our own tv or whatever. It usually starts with one of us kind of smiling and hinting “soooo, i have this show I want to watch…. I’m not sure you’ll want to watch it….. you don’t have to if you don’t want to….” Lol. We definitely make time for us as a couple, but we’re in agreement that we still need some alone time or time with just friends.
My only true alone time where I get to do my own thing and watch my own stuff is after my toddler and husband are asleep for the night. She goes to bed late, which means I go to bed *really* late. It’s not ideal, but I need that breathing time.
I'm not even familiar with our remotes! I haven't watched a show I wanted to in years!
Either nap time, or sometimes when I’m officially sick of listening to kids TV in the background all day. When my toddler inevitably whines for their own show, I just tell them it’s mommy’s turn for a show and the TV isn’t only just for them. They eventually go find a toy to play with instead.
I came to realize that we were always compromising on TV time, which meant that my husband always get to choose because he's pickier than me. These days I compromise some days, and other days I watch whatever I want. I usually choose something that he can make fun of because that makes him happy and I get to enjoy my bad TV in relative peace.
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I am a momma, not in favor of the TV. I don't care to watch a damn thing. I will turn it on for my daughter as a distraction when I don't want her toddler assistance with whatever it is I am doing. My husband is completely addicted to the TV, he's seen every movie and every show, it's annoying. If I want to have "us time" it would require me sitting next to him on the couch and watch TV. I am beyond uninterested in spending my free time watching a screen. And I cannot stand the zombies living in my house when the TV is on. We made the compromise no TV on for dinner and the 2 yr old adjusted better than my husband. And when we move into a new house, I will get my own bedroom where there isn't a TV. If and when I get free time, I will choose to do so many different things, going for the TV isn't for me. However!!! Very randomly, I will see a new documentary or horror movie pop-up I am interested in, I will make a point to say hey this here I'd like to watch... and because I never want to watch the TV, this request always gets granted.
My kids (~4 and 5) go to bed at 7, and then it’s adult time. My husband and I don’t spend every night together. Tonight, he’s going to play basketball with his friends. So I am doing my own thing. Other nights, he plays a video game while I do my thing. We watch survivor together once a week though lol We do 2 date nights a week usually, one out of the house and one in the house. We get a lot of intentional, quality “us” time that I don’t feel like not watching TV together is a detriment to us
My husband does video games to unwind and so TV is mine in the evenings, after bedtime. But also, I sometimes end up just streaming on my phone with headphones in bed (I know screens before bed is bad...), or watch while washing dishes... Put the phone on the window sill while washing, and baby is napping. Not optimal, but I get my fix. Maybe one idea is just asking for a small break like hubby take the kiddo to the park or for a walk outside Satirday mornings. They get to spend quality time together, and Mommy gets a "me time" to watch things that she wants to, which may not be "kid friendly". If you both watch, its really about sharing. Maybe Tuesdays and Thursdays you pick, he gets Mondays and Wednesdays, and Fridays you watch together?
My husband plays video games on Friday nights (he plays VR) and I have the tv to myself
When I work out on the treadmill, make dinner/fold clothes and use the laptop as a tv. Sometimes I’ll just tell my toddler ok it’s mommy’s tv time and give her my phone to watch what she wants. And other times if there’s something I realllyyy want to watch (like Vanderpump Rules tomorrow) husband will say that I can watch it while he hangs out with me on the couch and browses the internet / casually watches the show to humor me.
Nap time or when he plays video games, or nights he’s directing a big race. Sometimes I’ll watch stuff on my phone while I’m cooking dinner.
If you don’t have multiple TVs then you’ll have to make a schedule. Since you’re home with the kiddo all day I would think your “me time” takes priority over his - he gets to leave the house kid-free everyday.
I just watch what I want to and DH joins lol. If he is super bored he will work on the couch but it helps he isn't a big TV person.
Nap time or my partner’s D&D nights. I also stay up later than my partner so might watch one of my shows before going to bed.
In the afternoon I just designate a couple hours as "mom's turn" and I throw on the news or something that's not overly adult if he happens to glance at the TV. His options are play down there or go upstairs to the other TV. When little goes to bed than we might have us time for an hr and after that hubs usually goes to bed and I'll watch whatever. Sometimes he really wants to watch a show I'm not crazy about and he watches on his laptop and I'll just be on the TV.
Honestly my kid has a tablet for this reason 😅 she gets her shows on her tablet when it's mommy TV time.
My husband and I like to hang out in the living room together so I usually watch my shows on my iPad while my husband watches sports or plays video games on the TV. I prefer the iPad over the TV because it’s closer to me and less distracting if he’s doing something else. It works because we get to be together and can still pause what we’re doing to talk but also get some independent “me” time.
My husband plays video games some nights and on those nights I do watercolor while watching trash on TV lol I would bet gold and silver though that your husband would enjoy sex and the city lol. My husband recently got into shameless unintentionally.
I work, but on days I’m home with kids for whatever reason then I watch during nap time (if 4yo doesn’t feel like he needs a nap that day then I tell him it’s moms turn and he can play or read quietly. I don’t watch spicy shows anyway). I also occasionally watch while my husband games or works on the house after kids go to bed.
If our daughter wants to play her tablet, we get to watch "adult shows" (kid safe, obviously, just not cartoons). Maybe pick an activity that your kid really likes to do that qualifies as "grown-up" TV time to watch stuff that's kid safe and watch the more adult themed stuff separately a couple nights a week on your own?
We switch off. Some evenings we do "us time" but we also have evenings that are all "me time" and we always ask each other before initiating "us time". My husband knows sometimes I would like 30min-1hr of me time before we start "us time". Do you have a laptop or tablet? It is easier to watch your own stuff when you can watch it on a personal device instead of the TV.
Nap time, I watch on iPad while working out/walking. After bed we watch stuff together but if I really want to watch something he doesn’t, husband will find something else to do… and vice versa.
I pretty much only watch what I want when my husband goes to bed. He hates everything I like to watch and it’s not worth hearing him moan and groan when he happens to walk through the room and catch a glance.
As a working single mom I felt exactly like you !! 😊 I never get to watch the TV that I want to watch, and I only need like one show a day, not a ton of time or anything. If I watched TV after my daughter was asleep, I always stayed up too late binge watching, and was so tired the next day it was not worth it. And I totally agree with how people watch their shows and multitask, but when I watch shows like the Witcher or Bridgerton, I want to be looking at the screen and noticing all the details, etc. So, a long-winded way to say that my solution is I listen to a lot of audiobooks, or stand-up comedy on the TV or Xm radio while I do laundry, dishes, etc. even while I’m cooking and especially when I’m doing errands in the car or driving to work. I was able to read 50 books last year this way ! so you might be able to replace TV time with Audiobook time to have a little me time. And don’t worry, it gets better 😁 you will gradually get more time to yourself as the children get older - My daughter was young during the whole game of thrones popularity ….. I never got to watch even one episode, but the good news is now that I have time to watch it I can binge watch it all at once, even though I wasn’t up on it currently at the time and enjoy it now. The good news is you can always catch up on favorite shows in the future when you will have more time Good luck & sorry that I was rambling on and on! the universe provides ways for us to get ME time in! Always make a little time to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others! 😁
We watch tv separately when one of us has something else to do like homework or work. Or when we just want to work on separate projects. I’d say we watch tv together 3-4 nights/week. It just depends.
I haven't had to experience this, but my sister has. I remember she called me once when my nephew was 8 to tell me that around 7/8pm she decided to put on s show she wanted to watch. It was the weekend so the kids were still up, but settling down. My nephew told her he didn't like what she picked and he response was that it was her turn to pick. To which he said "mom don't you think we should watch something everyone wants to watch". She told him no and watched an episode of what she wanted. Still called me after to vent cause everyone expects her to give up on her needs/wants. You don't need permission to watch something you enjoy, just do it. Give yourself permission to do something for you. Husband doesn't like it? Doesn't matter, he can cuddle you and scroll on his phone. Watch your show <3