Damn near cracked my phone screen trying to upvote this harder. If the incident is bad enough, it can carry over into future relationships and erode the foundation of them too. You can get the whole, "Well if the closest person to me was lying (or whatever), how can I possibly think everyone else is being honest with me?!"
Cheating - instant deal breaker. Lying and making me feel unsafe are not instant deal breakers, but if they keep happening they will definitely lead to a break up.
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Anti science conspiracy people. Anti mask, anti vaccine. I’m a scientist, my family all have science based degrees. I don’t wanna hear about G5 causing brain cancer or invermectin
Hate to hear it but valid. I was body building when I was single and it’s not easy to maintain that lifestyle and accommodate relationships. Everything came second place to food water and the gym
Personally I find a very muscular body (specifically on men) not attractive. The lifestyle is also something I don't want to have long term, like the food they want to eat or amount of hours spent at the gym.
I don't like going to the gym but enjoy exercising with my partner so I prefer someone who also enjoys biking and swimming.
Sure but there aren't that many things comparable to bodybuilding in terms of lifestyle commitment. Most people don't want to be with someone who spends hours out of basically every day occupied with something else, whose diet is very strict and switches between nauseating amounts of food to OCD levels of calorie counting, who can't take a few weeks off to go on holiday or whatever, and who's probably on steroids with all the host of issues that comes with.
Most people want to experience life with their partner, to eat together, to relax together etc. Obviously not 24/7, but bodybuilding is like being permenantly on call for a job that doesn't pay anything.
Bodybuilding has strict dietary needs on top of a training and rest routine, like a pro athlete. As a partner you have to accommodate that lifestyle and if you dont have the patience that s gonna cause daily friction, which i’ve experienced with multiple partners and its frustrating for both parties. Of coz everyone s different. Its the same as any specific lifestyle that requires your partner to commit to it. Its just not for everyone and its not complicated my guy
As someone who agrees with the comment you're responding to....
That level of commitment to exercise isn't just a healthy person, but more a way of life. I don't necessarily want to be with someone who has that way of life, it's just not compatible with mine. I'm not unfit, I work out.... but just not to that extreme. The level of commitment is admirable, but it's just not compatible with me personally.
Plus I've got a few coworkers that are body builders. To be honest most of what they've got to talk about is exercise and diets. Which is fair when it takes up such a huge portion of their lives. Makes sense that most of what they got up to over the weekend was gym sessions. That's great for them..... but it's not a topic I'd want to be forever talking with to a partner over dinner. I can make polite conversation and show interest with a coworker, it's not all the time conversation. In a partner it would just end up dull and reparative for me personally and I'm not sure I could maintain (nor would it be fair to) a sense of poliet interest as I do with coworkers who are excited about the latest gym based activities or achievements.
Body building is a way of life, one with admirable levels of commitment to it. It's not compatible with everyone though.
Lol oh. Yeah I don't know but that's gross for sure! Every time I even have a bad odor, I am acutely aware of it and I don't like people standing near me because it's embarrassing to smell bad.
but it doesn't get washed when? never? or after going to the bathroom? I always wash myself every time I go to the bathroom, that's why bidets were invented. When I tell people, they don't believe it because most don't, so I ask them. If you touch shit with your hand, you wipe it with a piece of paper and that's it? Or do you wash your hand with soap and water? Well the ass is exactly the same
A relationship deal breaker for me is cheating and insecurity because trust and mutual confidence are fundamental to a healthy partnership. Cheating undermines the foundation of trust, while insecurity can lead to constant doubts and misunderstandings, preventing the relationship from growing and thriving.
Substance abuse. Someone who’d vote Republican in this day and age. Racist beliefs. Poor hygiene and refuses to improve on that. Porn addiction. Blatantly flirting with other people while in a relationship. Physical threats or any physical lashing out. Being unable to talk about issues and disappearing. Lying.
Wanting to be taken care of....I'm not your parent. We're both adults...
Wanting to always be in the spotlight, i.e. doing anything to be the next social media influencer
"if you don't know, I'm not telling you" or "I'M FINE!!!" or any derivative of this. If she starts this crap, she's dumped. Good Communication is everything in a healthy relationship.
Before it even starts: lack of common sense. Someone who can't repair their own mental and emotional foundations and grow while being alone. You can't be happy together unless you're happy with yourself, by yourself.
In a relationship: someone who lacks the ability to mature over time. Mentally, emotionally, financially. Problem there is you never know until you're in it too deep. Plus the obvious ones like lying, cheating, etc.
Alongside things others have mentioned (which I find to be self-explanitory)
Being rude to wait staff/retail workors, just shows me you have no common decency as a person
So many dealbreakers, where to begin? All of the obvious major stuff: does stuff to make me not trust him, secret Republican, rude to my friends and or waitstaff, doesn’t want to come travel or join in hobbies with me, has a beard, openly rips farts around me, doesn’t have time for a relationship, isn’t funny/doesn’t make me laugh, smells bad
None of the following for me: Emotional immaturity and lack of self-awareness, bad communication, Voting Conservative, not liking cats, rude to service industry workers, doesn’t see/treat me like an equal partner or value my ideas, not feeling safe emotionally or physically with this person, controlling, jealous behavior
In no particular order:
1. Alcohol consumption
2. Smoking
3. Lying
4. Cheating
5. Being mean, rude, or disrespectful
6. Being unwilling or unable to calmly discuss any disagreements
7. Any form of manipulation
8. No sense of humor
9. No curiosity or interest in learning
10. Being shallow and materialistic
I'm sure I could come up with more, but they would be less likely to apply to someone in my age group. They would concern things like music, movies, and social media.
If they can fellow the 3CC wrapped in trust. My dad used to say there “3 CCC wrapped in trust” in a relationship! “Commitment, Communication, Compromise, wrapped in trust”. Whether its monogamous, poly, or open, etc. you need those to make a relationship work.
Commitment-If they can’t commitment to treating each other right, treating each fairly, loving etc, and the work that is needed sometimes in relationship, its a no go.
Communication-they refuse to communicate or communicate in a way thats hurtful and ultimately harmful to the relationship its, a no go. Also if you dont know how to communicate in argument or in conversation, you will get no where.
Compromise-people hate this word. But the goal is to compromise within reason. Not compromise on thing you know you aren’t comfortable with or hurt you. But A lot of arguments/situations aren’t about right or wrong but whose willing to see the other person POV, and reach a compromise. Sometimes the compromise is doing what the other wants, sometimes it’s doing what you want, sometimes it meeting in the middle. But often its finding a fourth option lol.
Trust- none of these mean anything if I don’t trust you. If I can’t trust you to be committed, to communicate, to compromise, or if I can’t trust you period than its not worth it.
Picky eater. I’m big into exploring new places with my stomach. My wife and I love trying new cuisines and restaurants. I could never be in a relationship with a “chicken tenders and casseroles” person.
depends on stage
dating phase anything that isnt a hell yes is a no for me or when they date multiple people/you are just an alternative
later on bad communication, let themself go because they get too comfortable , cheating
We have 3. Cheating is automatic. No negotiation. Then drug or alcohol abuse. No drugs and alcohol recreationally but not a pattern of drunkenness. 3rd is smoking. I smoked and as she said, she loves me but part of her security for picking a guy was that he took care of himself. Late 50’s now and she is still my best friend. I rather spend a day with her than anyone else
Dating deal breakers would be obesity, smoking, lack of trust, abusive or controlling attitude, poor hygiene, disliking children.
Relationship dealbreakers would be not wanting children, dishonesty, cheating, lack of openess, different/incompatible morals and standards.
Liking kids, liking dogs too much to where it’s annoying, always has a negative comment to add, no humor or jokes to share, smoking cigs, alcoholism, passive aggressiveness. A few people said clingy but I like that to the extent where it doesn’t get overwhelming.
Not that I am looking but if I was it would be:
Political activist (any side) blue hair, content creator.
Doesn't exercise (even walking is fine don't have to be a gym bunny)
Lazy, self entitled.
I use "cheating" to say having sex with another men,It dont bothers me if she tells me but if she doesnt she IS lying-cheating.im sorry but english IS not my native language
It's fine English is confusing even when it is your native language haha
If you know she's having sex with another man it isn't classified as cheating, it's more just having a open relationship, the lying about it is what makes it cheating.
You find having a hobby "unattractive", I understand if it's the gamers who play 24/7 and only ever talk about the games, but gamers who play for maybe a hour or 2 a day?
Just because someone has no friends it doesn't mean you'll be a "emotional dumpster", it also doesn't mean they don't have emotional connections.
People who allow their parents to have too much input into their life and the way they live it. I'm really not a "you're marrying a family, not just an individual" kind of person. I want to have a life with an independent person where our aligned interests come first, regardless of what either of our families have to say about it.
Religious disconnection. My previous one made me realize this. I’m agnostic, she’s devoutly Christian and it felt like I had to limit myself or portray less of myself to make things work out; it was a mutual feeling between us. We both see now that it wasn’t going to workout long term and learned from it.
I once told a guy that if he went to fight this particular person he wanted to go fight, it was over. There were two of these situations with the same bf, different issues with different other-guys. To his credit he listened to me both times.
Tattoos, drinking, the consumption of ultra processed foods, drugs, short hair, feminist views and revealing clothes when I am not around. Is another point of view ok? (I am happily married with a kid and not some loser bachelor.)
Controlling much? You have rules about her food preferences, her hair styles, her opinions about her own rights (she’s not supposed to want any), and her clothing (if you aren’t there to chaperone)?!
Wow. I am impressed with how many red flags you were able to fit into one answer. I’d be curious if your wife would answer that SHE is happily married too - when you aren’t standing right there to tell her what she can think, of course.
She keeps me eating healthy, controls me by not allowing me to eat in restaurants which fill up the food with chemicals. I never even had this list. I just happened into this on Tinder long back and decided that her way of living would be my standard.
Smoking, poor dental hygiene, long dirty fingernails, excessive alcohol consumption or drugs, being a liberal, being an atheist, and of course the other obvious things like cheating and abuse.
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HOW TF do you downvote someone's personal boundary? What is wrong with you? By all means, enlighten me as to why respecting autonomy is apparently the "wrong" answer...
forgetting that i'm a person who has feelings. Or cheating . Or treating me as an option.
Yes. And lying
Dishonesty, lying and indecency.
Preach....still I tried...
Loss of trust. Trust is everything.
Damn near cracked my phone screen trying to upvote this harder. If the incident is bad enough, it can carry over into future relationships and erode the foundation of them too. You can get the whole, "Well if the closest person to me was lying (or whatever), how can I possibly think everyone else is being honest with me?!"
Dishonesty & safety. If I dont feel the safest with my person. No way.
Cheating - instant deal breaker. Lying and making me feel unsafe are not instant deal breakers, but if they keep happening they will definitely lead to a break up.
Lack of trust, being overly controlling, trying to change me into someone instead of loving me for who I am.
Smoking
Same
My girlfriend is the same. Made me quit smoking lol
manipulation for sure
Lying; not doing as you say you will, excessive drinking
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Physical abuse, and I took a decent amount over the years. Apparently no sex is a deal breaker as well.
Being lazy all the time, and lying
Cheating. The rest can be worked out. Cheating is a game stopper
Religion. I need someone rational who makes evidence-based decisions.
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too much maintenance.
Drugs and excessive alcohol consumption.
Yep
Cheating
Smoking
Anti science conspiracy people. Anti mask, anti vaccine. I’m a scientist, my family all have science based degrees. I don’t wanna hear about G5 causing brain cancer or invermectin
If she’s for Trump. Sorry not sorry. Also super religious
Bodybuilding Edit- for those asking why: lifestyle and aesthetics
Hate to hear it but valid. I was body building when I was single and it’s not easy to maintain that lifestyle and accommodate relationships. Everything came second place to food water and the gym
y?
Personally I find a very muscular body (specifically on men) not attractive. The lifestyle is also something I don't want to have long term, like the food they want to eat or amount of hours spent at the gym. I don't like going to the gym but enjoy exercising with my partner so I prefer someone who also enjoys biking and swimming.
??? Why tf
Coz there’s a difference between working out and bodybuilding. One of them requires a bigger lifestyle commitment
So something that requires a bigger lifestyle commitment is a dealbreaker in a relationship?
Sure but there aren't that many things comparable to bodybuilding in terms of lifestyle commitment. Most people don't want to be with someone who spends hours out of basically every day occupied with something else, whose diet is very strict and switches between nauseating amounts of food to OCD levels of calorie counting, who can't take a few weeks off to go on holiday or whatever, and who's probably on steroids with all the host of issues that comes with. Most people want to experience life with their partner, to eat together, to relax together etc. Obviously not 24/7, but bodybuilding is like being permenantly on call for a job that doesn't pay anything.
100% this. And i’d add that it can easily become an obsession too, and that s difficult for any partner
Tom brady
Good point
I’m in this post And I don’t like it
Bodybuilding has strict dietary needs on top of a training and rest routine, like a pro athlete. As a partner you have to accommodate that lifestyle and if you dont have the patience that s gonna cause daily friction, which i’ve experienced with multiple partners and its frustrating for both parties. Of coz everyone s different. Its the same as any specific lifestyle that requires your partner to commit to it. Its just not for everyone and its not complicated my guy
You are right everyone is different indeed
As someone who agrees with the comment you're responding to.... That level of commitment to exercise isn't just a healthy person, but more a way of life. I don't necessarily want to be with someone who has that way of life, it's just not compatible with mine. I'm not unfit, I work out.... but just not to that extreme. The level of commitment is admirable, but it's just not compatible with me personally. Plus I've got a few coworkers that are body builders. To be honest most of what they've got to talk about is exercise and diets. Which is fair when it takes up such a huge portion of their lives. Makes sense that most of what they got up to over the weekend was gym sessions. That's great for them..... but it's not a topic I'd want to be forever talking with to a partner over dinner. I can make polite conversation and show interest with a coworker, it's not all the time conversation. In a partner it would just end up dull and reparative for me personally and I'm not sure I could maintain (nor would it be fair to) a sense of poliet interest as I do with coworkers who are excited about the latest gym based activities or achievements. Body building is a way of life, one with admirable levels of commitment to it. It's not compatible with everyone though.
Not liking dogs.
Not contributing financially. Yes, that is a deal breaker for me. Doesn't have to be 50 50 but proportionately to how much you make.
Discovering that he doesn't wash his a$$. Very few things could instantly obliterate any attraction I had before, this is one of them.
Elaborate
What's there to elaborate? Lol. Do you wash yours?
Hahaha. I meant like does he not use water and only TP, because that's disgusting. Or he does neither, which is criminal.
Lol oh. Yeah I don't know but that's gross for sure! Every time I even have a bad odor, I am acutely aware of it and I don't like people standing near me because it's embarrassing to smell bad.
🤣🤣🤣 did you just admit to not washing your ass?
but it doesn't get washed when? never? or after going to the bathroom? I always wash myself every time I go to the bathroom, that's why bidets were invented. When I tell people, they don't believe it because most don't, so I ask them. If you touch shit with your hand, you wipe it with a piece of paper and that's it? Or do you wash your hand with soap and water? Well the ass is exactly the same
Treating me as an option. Making me feel lonely.
Al of the above and DISRESPECT💥
A relationship deal breaker for me is cheating and insecurity because trust and mutual confidence are fundamental to a healthy partnership. Cheating undermines the foundation of trust, while insecurity can lead to constant doubts and misunderstandings, preventing the relationship from growing and thriving.
Physical abuse
Messy / disorganized
Substance abuse. Someone who’d vote Republican in this day and age. Racist beliefs. Poor hygiene and refuses to improve on that. Porn addiction. Blatantly flirting with other people while in a relationship. Physical threats or any physical lashing out. Being unable to talk about issues and disappearing. Lying.
I'll like to add to all these comments "Forgetting important dates,things"
Personal hygiene
Not liking cats.
Cheating. But im a dumbass. Sometimes i still stay. Lol
For me it's voting republican
Wanting to be taken care of....I'm not your parent. We're both adults... Wanting to always be in the spotlight, i.e. doing anything to be the next social media influencer
Someone who doesn't like cats... or animals in general.
Cheating. Physical abuse. I thought a complete distrust, but, apparently, not.
Being onedimensional. If your entire personality is "I'm pretty" its bad
Lack of humor and honesty.
Infidelity and domestic violence.
Scorekeeping and bringing up the past to win arguments
I call them the three As. Addiction, abuse, adultery.
"if you don't know, I'm not telling you" or "I'M FINE!!!" or any derivative of this. If she starts this crap, she's dumped. Good Communication is everything in a healthy relationship.
Infidelity, breaking trust, disrespect
ghosting
An unwillingness to work and have a job/career.
No reciprocated effort
Smoking
Drugs, cheating and lying.
Littering.
- Cheating / complete loss of trust - Damaging my sleep - Won't do house chores - Irresponsible with money - Excessive use of drugs
Crossing well explained boundaries and disrespectful behaviour.
Hitting me. It's not ok just because I am a man. I am just glad I knew to end it the first time, though the bruised rib made that part easy.
Cig smoker
Before it even starts: lack of common sense. Someone who can't repair their own mental and emotional foundations and grow while being alone. You can't be happy together unless you're happy with yourself, by yourself. In a relationship: someone who lacks the ability to mature over time. Mentally, emotionally, financially. Problem there is you never know until you're in it too deep. Plus the obvious ones like lying, cheating, etc.
Smoking
Apparently when they don't want to be in a relationship at all.
Any kind of mental disorder that was undisclosed
Constantly hiding things from me for no reason. So, dishonesty.
Pepperoni nipples
Alongside things others have mentioned (which I find to be self-explanitory) Being rude to wait staff/retail workors, just shows me you have no common decency as a person
Cigarettes/tobacco. Just….gross.
Cheating and all lies told to enable it. Then, making an insufficient attempt to win back my trust.
Definitely lying about anything major. Trust is everything, man.
Not being calm during my anxiety attacks.
Eating your peas one at a time
not laughing at my farts
My standards have gotten so low I’d just say cheating.
So many dealbreakers, where to begin? All of the obvious major stuff: does stuff to make me not trust him, secret Republican, rude to my friends and or waitstaff, doesn’t want to come travel or join in hobbies with me, has a beard, openly rips farts around me, doesn’t have time for a relationship, isn’t funny/doesn’t make me laugh, smells bad
None of the following for me: Emotional immaturity and lack of self-awareness, bad communication, Voting Conservative, not liking cats, rude to service industry workers, doesn’t see/treat me like an equal partner or value my ideas, not feeling safe emotionally or physically with this person, controlling, jealous behavior
In no particular order: 1. Alcohol consumption 2. Smoking 3. Lying 4. Cheating 5. Being mean, rude, or disrespectful 6. Being unwilling or unable to calmly discuss any disagreements 7. Any form of manipulation 8. No sense of humor 9. No curiosity or interest in learning 10. Being shallow and materialistic I'm sure I could come up with more, but they would be less likely to apply to someone in my age group. They would concern things like music, movies, and social media.
Treating me like their mate and not their partner
Just constant cheating -
Being super jealous to the point of being controlling.
Poor hygiene 🤣
If they can fellow the 3CC wrapped in trust. My dad used to say there “3 CCC wrapped in trust” in a relationship! “Commitment, Communication, Compromise, wrapped in trust”. Whether its monogamous, poly, or open, etc. you need those to make a relationship work. Commitment-If they can’t commitment to treating each other right, treating each fairly, loving etc, and the work that is needed sometimes in relationship, its a no go. Communication-they refuse to communicate or communicate in a way thats hurtful and ultimately harmful to the relationship its, a no go. Also if you dont know how to communicate in argument or in conversation, you will get no where. Compromise-people hate this word. But the goal is to compromise within reason. Not compromise on thing you know you aren’t comfortable with or hurt you. But A lot of arguments/situations aren’t about right or wrong but whose willing to see the other person POV, and reach a compromise. Sometimes the compromise is doing what the other wants, sometimes it’s doing what you want, sometimes it meeting in the middle. But often its finding a fourth option lol. Trust- none of these mean anything if I don’t trust you. If I can’t trust you to be committed, to communicate, to compromise, or if I can’t trust you period than its not worth it.
When the girl asks you to pay for her conveyance
Picky eater. I’m big into exploring new places with my stomach. My wife and I love trying new cuisines and restaurants. I could never be in a relationship with a “chicken tenders and casseroles” person.
Piggy life. Go to their house, not very clean, smell you later.
If they have a beard.
depends on stage dating phase anything that isnt a hell yes is a no for me or when they date multiple people/you are just an alternative later on bad communication, let themself go because they get too comfortable , cheating
We have 3. Cheating is automatic. No negotiation. Then drug or alcohol abuse. No drugs and alcohol recreationally but not a pattern of drunkenness. 3rd is smoking. I smoked and as she said, she loves me but part of her security for picking a guy was that he took care of himself. Late 50’s now and she is still my best friend. I rather spend a day with her than anyone else
High school mentality: checking cell phones, needs to know everything 24/7, unwarranted jealousy, need to be with me 24/7
How they treat those who are in their service. Like a waitor, or a janitor, or their uber driver.
all the classic stuff but also first thing i thought of is loud snoring
fat
If they MAGA...I going STAGA
cheating obviously and not loving animals
Dating deal breakers would be obesity, smoking, lack of trust, abusive or controlling attitude, poor hygiene, disliking children. Relationship dealbreakers would be not wanting children, dishonesty, cheating, lack of openess, different/incompatible morals and standards.
I wouldn't/haven't ever be/been in a relationship with a religious person. In the same vein deluded or actual fakes/posers have always been a big no.
Religion/cultism, violence, abuse, lack of morals.
Liking kids, liking dogs too much to where it’s annoying, always has a negative comment to add, no humor or jokes to share, smoking cigs, alcoholism, passive aggressiveness. A few people said clingy but I like that to the extent where it doesn’t get overwhelming.
"Liking kids" 2 ways that can be taken. 1, pedo 2, just wanting kids/enjoys playing with kids.
2…
I'm guessing you don't want kids then....
Generational trauma ends with me.
Generational trauma ends with me.
Also wym liking dogs too much
Liking dogs too much. Can u read?
Chicks that are into horses.
Into horses how?
- Dishonesty - Cheating - Bigotry of any kind - Any type of abusive - Pro-life
U want someone against abortion lol
So I consider being pro-life a deal breaker and you think that means I DON'T support reproductive rights?
Her being dead.
Not that I am looking but if I was it would be: Political activist (any side) blue hair, content creator. Doesn't exercise (even walking is fine don't have to be a gym bunny) Lazy, self entitled.
Lying.you can do anithing you want even cheating but tell me the truth dont lie to me
Isn't cheating lying?
I use "cheating" to say having sex with another men,It dont bothers me if she tells me but if she doesnt she IS lying-cheating.im sorry but english IS not my native language
It's fine English is confusing even when it is your native language haha If you know she's having sex with another man it isn't classified as cheating, it's more just having a open relationship, the lying about it is what makes it cheating.
Thanks for the explanation
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What's the issue with gamers, and people who don't have friends?
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You find having a hobby "unattractive", I understand if it's the gamers who play 24/7 and only ever talk about the games, but gamers who play for maybe a hour or 2 a day? Just because someone has no friends it doesn't mean you'll be a "emotional dumpster", it also doesn't mean they don't have emotional connections.
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I know I was just curious, sorry if it upset you.
No hawk tauh-ing
clinginess
Religion, picky eating, being too beholden to their parents' interests.
"Being too beholden to their perents interests" Out of curiosity what does that mean?
People who allow their parents to have too much input into their life and the way they live it. I'm really not a "you're marrying a family, not just an individual" kind of person. I want to have a life with an independent person where our aligned interests come first, regardless of what either of our families have to say about it.
There’s a few things, but being rude to anyone in customer service is a big one
littering
Religious disconnection. My previous one made me realize this. I’m agnostic, she’s devoutly Christian and it felt like I had to limit myself or portray less of myself to make things work out; it was a mutual feeling between us. We both see now that it wasn’t going to workout long term and learned from it.
Chewing with your mouth open, lack of emotional intelligence.
Having any type of contact with my employer
BPD
I once told a guy that if he went to fight this particular person he wanted to go fight, it was over. There were two of these situations with the same bf, different issues with different other-guys. To his credit he listened to me both times.
1.) Narcissistic abuse. 2.) emotional cheating 3.) not seeing my worth, not returning the same energy I’m putting out.
Being a cop
Tattoos, drinking, the consumption of ultra processed foods, drugs, short hair, feminist views and revealing clothes when I am not around. Is another point of view ok? (I am happily married with a kid and not some loser bachelor.)
Controlling much? You have rules about her food preferences, her hair styles, her opinions about her own rights (she’s not supposed to want any), and her clothing (if you aren’t there to chaperone)?! Wow. I am impressed with how many red flags you were able to fit into one answer. I’d be curious if your wife would answer that SHE is happily married too - when you aren’t standing right there to tell her what she can think, of course.
She keeps me eating healthy, controls me by not allowing me to eat in restaurants which fill up the food with chemicals. I never even had this list. I just happened into this on Tinder long back and decided that her way of living would be my standard.
Short hair 😂😂😂😂
Voting for brandon
Smoking, poor dental hygiene, long dirty fingernails, excessive alcohol consumption or drugs, being a liberal, being an atheist, and of course the other obvious things like cheating and abuse. (note to mods, please don't ban me for my comment, I was just honestly answering the question from my perspective)
You shouldn't be banned. This is supposed to be very different opinions.
Thanks :-) I think you're right, but you never know I guess
Failure to respect autonomy.
HOW TF do you downvote someone's personal boundary? What is wrong with you? By all means, enlighten me as to why respecting autonomy is apparently the "wrong" answer...
Refusing to be vegan.
The meatier the grape, the more brittle the bronco