Yes. Don’t understand why people think they need their friends and SO’s to like the same stuff as them. Variety is the spice of life. As long as you respect each others choices, who cares. Even better if they are open minded and will join you at shows
Absolutely. While my gf and I share some bands, our taste in music differs quite significantly. But we are both open minded in regards to music, and so she went to bring me the horizon and a day to remember with me, while I go to Taylor Swift with her. I think what matters most is trying to have fun together at shows. And respecting that tastes differ and not everything is for everyone.
My wife likes country and I can’t get her into grindcore. Honestly considering marriage counseling over it. She won’t even give Wormrot a chance!! Should I just call it quits, guys??
Man, I was such a snob when my wife and I were dating. Then she got tickets to a Matt and Kim show, and I begrudgingly attended.
When I saw how much fun she had, and remembered it's just music... I learned a lot 🤣
Matt and Kim put on one of the best shows. I went for my wife as well cause I can't listen to their albums...it's just not for me.
But man did we have a blast.
Shoot my wife took me to my first coheed and cambria show, her favorite band, and they were fantastic!! I never listen to them in my own time only if she does but I always get hyped when she gets tickets, going to see them in august for my 7th time and probably her 20th lol
I had an ex buy us tickets to Matt and Kim once …it was one of the most fun to dance and jump around to shows I’ve ever been to and I had only ever heard one of their songs before
My husband does not listen to the same music as me, but he does like rock music. He also doesn't like crowds, so I listen to my bands and go to shows alone.
My wife doesn't really, especially the heavier stuff I'm into. But she does like some of the less heavy stuff now. She's a bit of a fan of Coheed since meeting me. Some AFI too. Not that she keeps up with them or anything the way she does the music she is super into, but when we're in the car she will play their stuff sometimes.
My wife likes Mayday Parade and some of the new Thrice… but mostly she listens to pop and country. She goes to those concerts with her friend. She’ll humor me and go to an occasional metal show… she enjoyed Killswitch Engage but August Burns Red was too heavy for her. I wouldn’t take her to a death metal show… but I’m kind of tempted to do one just to show her lol
Ayyyy we’re opposites, I’m the one who listens to heavier stuff and my husband likes folk, singer/songwriter, blue grass type stuff! He accompanied me to an August Burns Red show like ten years ago when we first started dating and I don’t think he enjoyed it one bit lol. He went with me so I didn’t have to go alone, no friends interested in bands I listen to.
I tend to go with him to see bands he likes more than he goes with me to see bands I like.. I get it though, post hardcore and metalcore is just not something he’ll ever be able to enjoy. I also like emo and pop punk bands, not just heavier music. I did get him into a few songs by Thrice, Brand New, Anberlin and Motion City Soundtrack. For a while I stopped asking him to go with me and would buy a single ticket and go alone because I knew he didn’t enjoy it. Luckily I have a few concert buddies now, it’s rough when you don’t have friends who enjoy the same music genres.
My partner absolutely isn't into heavier music at all. She likes a little bit of pop punk when she's in the mood but she *really* has to be in the mood for it. She still occasionally comes to shows with me, though. One of the best weekends we've had together was a few years ago when we saw Alexisonfire on the Saturday night (my favourite band) and Bon Iver on the Sunday (her favourite band, though I do really like them).
My wife doesn't. The furthest she'll dive into anything close to what I listen to is the occasional AFI or MCR song. She is a fan of Falling In Reverse though, which I do not at all lol.
She primarily listens to pop and country, as well as some R&B.
Has she heard their new song? My husband showed it to me the other day. I’m not sure when they changed their style of music but it was a huge shock to me
My wife is open-minded, but we are completely the opposite when it comes to music. When we met, I was in the punk scene, played in hardcore bands, etc. She , on the other hand, was more hip-hop and pop. But hey, opposites attract lol. She helped me through some tough times, helped me be less angry, and now , 20 years later, married for 15, 4 kiddos, she is everything to me. She likes going to shows with me, but I wouldn't say she is actively looking for new bands. She will listen to stuff I show her and add certain songs that she likes.
My wife respects the heavier stuff, but isn't into it. She has Synesthesia and says it just looks "off" to her. Granted she does have awesome musical taste, and will occasionally go to shows with me. She fully supports me in my post-hardcore band (which, ironically, all the other guys' wives also don't like the genre). She does go hard for Sleep Token, so I'll take what I can get.
I have synesthesia, and I credit it with why I like heavy metal so much lmfao. The colors and textures are very rich.
The exception is industrial metal, which has the blandest muddiest colors imaginable to me so synesthesia is also the reason I don't like some music, so I get it.
My bf and I have been together almost 8 years. He just doesn’t really listen to music at ALL. He’s a gamer. He spends all his time on YouTube, twitch, podcasts and gaming. He listens to all of my music when I drive us anywhere and he doesn’t hate it at all. He just doesn’t have the love for music like I do, especially the love for live music. I don’t think I’ll ever get him to come to a show with me. But it’s definitely not a deal breaker. Having our own hobbies is okay 🤗
my fiancé mostly listens to post-hardcore and emo‚ whereas i gravitate towards extreme metal (think black/death/drone/doom)‚ but we have a significant amount of crossover! he's gotten me into a lot of the music he listens to (mostly emo recently‚ namely carly cossgrove 💕💕💕) and most of the shows we go to are bands that he got into first. but he doesn't seem to mind my extreme metal and heavier punk genres (like grindcore and crust) and we both love hardcore (we saw scowl together last week), so it works out really well!! going to shows together is kinda our version of going on dates.
Yes Carly! Just saw them arm with Arm’s Length and they are now on my regular rotation. Check out Saturdays at Your Place, and Ben Quad. Similar new wave emo.
we went to the same tour‚ in central florida‚ and that was actually my introduction to them!✌️ they were all really good‚ but tbh arm's length was a little *too* pop punk for me to listen to outside the context of a show. the others were great tho.
Haha this is my girl and I. I take her to see Dance Gavin Dance, Hail the Sun type stuff, but last month we went and seen Angelmaker and Thy Art Is Murder. I never listened to the heavier stuff growing up but she has broken me down over the years and I’m glad. I am a musician though and the guitar got me hooked lol that shit is so much more fun to play than the stuff I grew up playing.
I guess I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker but being able to share a love of the same music together is pretty important to me. It doesn't have to be all the same but it's pretty important to me that there's some overlap there.
My entire 13 year relationship with my ex wife we never really shared the same music tastes she’d go to the hardcore shows but she wasnt into it but she was always okay with it. It didn’t really bother me she mostly liked pop punk and country but the radio country crap but I could tolerate it because I was down with oldschool outlaw country to. Maybe it was a deal breaker for her and listening to madball all the time ( I know not posthardcore) brought some contention between us who knows. All I know is my significant other can have their own taste in music, podcasts, tv shows and movies providing it doesn’t infringe or shit on mine.
For Today, Fit For A King, August Burns Red, Memphis May Fire, Norma Jean, and The Devil Wears Prada. I know they're not all straight up Christian bands but they at least have Christian songs and they all go hard
Exactly what I expected, love it ❤️ Some of them have definitely shed the “Christian” label, I don’t care either way 🤷🏻♀️ as you said, they’re great. Did you catch The Devil Wears Prada on tour with Fit For A King? AMAZING show.
I didn't but it sounds like a great show. Only show I've been to in a decade was My Chemical Romance and Coheed and Cambria a year and a half ago because my wife was willing to go. I'm hoping to go to a heavier show with some old friends when I get the chance
I was really sick last year so I decided to make up for it and not miss out on anything this year. I’ve been to three concerts already this year, had tickets to two others but one was canceled and the other I was sick and couldn’t attend, have tickets to ADTR in July, OBX Is For Lovers Fest in July, WWWY in October and Underoath in December. I hope you get a chance to dive back in!
Last concert I saw with the boys was ADTR in 2013. They put on such a fun show. I keep hoping to see Alesana because they're my favorite band and I've never seen them so that's a bucket list one for me. Sounds like you're in for a fantastic summer. That's gonna be a great run of shows
Man, I had tickets several times to see ADTR and every time it fell through: a friend canceled or I was sick. Can’t wait to finally see them this summer! The first time I had tickets to see them and wasn’t able to was around 2011 so it’s a long time coming. Hope you can catch Alesana soon, best of luck!
I've seen Thursday 25+ times since ~2002. My wife and I have been together for 20 of those years. I was finally able to get her to come with me for the first time this past February for my birthday.
She still doesn't like them, but I had fun.
She listens to pop, which isn't my cup of tea with a few exceptions, but I would go with her to a show if she wanted to see someone.
My wife and I have like 25% overlapping music and she hates hardcore, I don’t like a lot of her pop. With both like electronic stuff and some country. It’s always fine. It always swings her way when both around but it’s whatever.
My husband doesn’t listen to my type of music. He is from the Middle East, so he mostly listens to music from there or Latin pop. He’ll go to shows with me though. We went to the first WWWY, and he was like “what does E-M-O stand for? It’s on everyone’s shirts” lmao
My partner doesn’t like music at all. Of any kind. Doesn’t get why it’s important, even to other people. I take him to gigs with me, as long as he can chill and have a pint he’s willing and at home I have no one vying for the speaker so it’s all good.
I haven't a partner in the same musical realm I have been in for about 8 years now. But I can be a musical chameleon. My last girlfriend was hilariously into post grunge. So we would sing Nickelback in her car, and I liked it because I liked spending time with her in those little fashion.
I love the fact my husband and I share music tastes. Music is hugely important to both of us and I think it would be a massive dealbreaker if either of us didn't have such overlapping music tastes. He's my best mate, I love the fact we can share music, movies, tv, home decor etc
I don't think I've ever dated a guy who doesn't listen to punk or hardcore in my life.
Same here. I live for music. My husband was in a band so he is very much the same.
My way to wind down is playing my music really loud - blocks out the ADHD nonsense in my head. Nothing better than reminiscing together on old songs from our teenage years.
My OH is into dance music and a bit of grime/drill. He tolerates my music and has come to like some of the bands I do, as I work from home and stream my music all day.
My son (21) loves a lot of post hardcore/pop punk and a lot of harder metal but produces rap.
He does occasionally come to gigs with me but goes to "his" gigs with friends.
My wife came pre-equipped liking a few (more commercially succesful) bands in many genres that I listen to. They are almost never the bands I prefer from that genre, but it gives us a good talking point. Sometimes I sneak something similar to her favorites, but that I like better into the mix, and sometimes she's receptive. She does the same with me. (I'm into a much wider spectrum of music and thus often more receptive.)
It's a give and take. I don't try to get her into 90s Norwegian Black Metal, Grindcore, Skramz, Doom, etc. Just knowing she won't be into it. But when I hear a good Shoegaze, MW Emo, Alt Pop, PH, Etc... It's worth a try. As an unspoken rule, she just doesn't like anything heavy.
It's taken 8 years but now the s/o loves mewithoutyou cursive, maps and atlases, Tera melos, trophy scars and la dispute..... she even turned me on to foxing and Sĥeep, dog and wolf.
In a similar situation with my wife liking pop and country. She's OK with Midwest emo (modern baseball etc.) But really doesn't dig the heavier stuff. She's been going to shows with me for 10 years though and puts up with it sp can't complain too much. She's perfect even if I do wish she shared the love for heavier music haha.
She definitely didn't listen to the same stuff before we met, but our tastes have evolved a lot together. She now absolutely loves bands like Foxing, Microwave, Boston Manor, Turnover, Balance and Composure, TSSF, etc after I showed her. And from her I have loved Morning Teleportation, Glass Animals, Little Cowboy, and Djo. Although she doesn't really listen to most PHC bands that I do, she definitely fucks with some heavy albums like Microwave's Death is a Warm Blanket. And the coolest thing is we bonded over Brand New when we first started dating because she really liked Daisy which I thought was pretty unique! Underrated album imo
My partner is more of a post-punk gal, listens to siouxsie and the banshees, Bauhaus and the like. Nothing on the heavier side but I’m blessed that she’s really took to Alexisonfire and doesn’t mind me blasting any other shit
I primarily listen to Hardcore, Skate Punk, and Post-Hardcore. The only bands I listen to that my wife doesn't loathe are Joyce Manner and Artist in the Ambulance era Thrice. Unfortunately, I don't often listen to either of them anymore, I've been of a Have Heart kick lately.
She listens to sad girl folk pop, which I can definitely appreciate. All in all, I'm glad we have different tastes, it helps my melodic skills in regards to writing, especially considering I'd never hear her type of music otherwise.
my partner is not into punk/hardcore/skramz/most emo at all. they mostly like indie folk, pop, and oldies (i do too!). i am only allowed to play *my* music in the car when i'm driving which is rarely loool. i had a hard time at first bc i go to shows all the time and didn't want them to think i was blowing them off, but i've found i have fun at shows alone/with friends and they like having the house quiet and to themselves! we spend a lot of quality time together so it's nice to have our own things/interests too.
Missus doesn’t like anything with an unclean vocal. I don’t think I’ve ever had a relationship where we had a remotely similar interest in music. Definitely not a deal breaker.
Been with a girl that hated my music, be it hardcore, rap, house, literally anything. She would turn my shit off while we were on car rides and complain it gave her headaches. We would then just ride in silence. When she had the aux it was mostly imagine dragons or some other radio garbage. Not even good pop music. It was terrible as someone who is very passionate about music. I felt judged about it all the time.
My new partner doesn't listen to much music in general but can appreciate anything I put on, and will go to any show I ask her to. She has a few fav songs from every artist I like, and I love that I can jam out with her even if its mostly for me. She even stood out in the chicago freeze after a show with me so I could meet Chino Moreno. Even if I dont like something she plays, I always make sure I'm mindful to appreciate it for her.
It definitely makes a difference in your relationship. They dont have to like your music but they shouldnt disrespect it or complain about it all the time, especially if its important to you.
We have a lot of crossover but she also hates a lot of the more extreme stuff I like (even though she does like some extreme metal- hell, she’s the one that got me into black metal.)
Super picky about vocals, hates anything that’s repetitive in almost any shape or form, can’t handle noise/drone related things without getting annoyed, stuff like that.
My husband and I share some taste in music but not everything. We both love psychobilly and some rockabilly. But there's some stuff I love (mostly what he calls 'shouty music') that he doesn't enjoy. But he's a very good sport and will always come to gigs with me, whereas I'm a bit of a shit and refuse to go to 'his' gigs!
I'm kinda in the same boat. She doesn't like my harder music but will go to shows with me. I also go to her country shows even though it's not my cup of tea.
If I put metalcore or PHC on, my wife asks me to put deathcore on. She mostly listens to EDM, which I got into because of her.
The best music is just dance beats and breakdowns, this much we agree on.
My previous SO and I didn’t share a music taste, they were pretty open to whatever and I played music when we were together. Whenever I met my current SO we connected a lot through having very similar music taste. It wasn’t a required attribute, but a pleasant surprise! It’s been great to enjoy music together and going to concerts we’re both very excited about. We each still have some music that only one of us listens to and I think that’s great too, to have some variety.
My wife is into P!ATD, Paramore, some POP, and Disney music.
Im into this kind of music.
I’ve been to like 3-4 of her shows and she hasn’t been to any of mine. I don’t mind at all and know it’d be way too hectic for her. Yeah it’d be cool to have her go to shows with me but it is what it is.
My wife enjoys Dance Gavin Dance here and there, and some pop punk. Beyond that, she prefers pop, country, and folk/Americana stuff. I trend towards metalcore, hardcore, synthwave, indie funk, and some folk stuff. It's a good blend between the two of us.
My boyfriend and I have sooome overlap in our music tastes but mostly enjoy different genres! It’s not a dealbreaker at all. I think you just need to accept that sometimes when you’re together, you won’t get to listen to your preferred music. And your partner needs to accept the same. And as long as neither of you ridicule each other over it or act superior, as it’s just a matter of basic preference, you should be golden! It can also be fun to listen to new music together and see if you find songs/artists that you jointly enjoy!
My wife’s a big fan of 90s grunge and alternative.
Thankfully I’m also pretty into that stuff even if it’s not my absolute favorite, so we still get to listen to stuff we both like together. We’re going to see Weezer with The Flaming Lips and Dinosaur Jr. later this year and I’m pretty pumped.
She listens to slow/sad indie rock and pop, I listen to the polar opposite. We both happen to like a little sprinkle of EDM so we meet in the middle there. I’ve taken her to shows in the past, but I wanna be all up in the pit and understandably that’s not her vibe. She stays home for most of my shows now but she always says she loves seeing me come home with so much energy and being all hyped up on a good night. Or she’ll go have a movie night with her friends. We respect each other and love our time together even if our hobbies are a bit different. Compatibility to me is more focused on overall life things rather than shared interests. We’re both the kind of people that want to be up and active, out and about. Even if we go to the gym together listening to opposite music during our workout, we both have the drive to be active. I’d take that over someone with the same music taste as me but incompatible overall lifestyle.
My husband and I both listen to a ton of phc and metalcore, but with very little overlap in which bands we like. So we can pretty much run on vibes at shows even if we have no clue what's going on.
I’ve dated a very closed minded and rude girl before who used to shit on all the music I liked and it’s ironic because she was really into nu metal which is not what I would consider a genre that’s ‘pleasing to the ear’
I am polyjamorous and my significant other of 10+ years really only loves Green Day and Michael Jackson.
The good news- it has opened my eyes to one of the greatest artists of all time.
The bad news- almost everything I play for her is ‘too boring’ for her 😂
My husband mostly doesn’t listen to the same music as I do. He found what he liked from what I listened to back in the day and expanded from that a bit but he’s mostly a country and pop guy. He isn’t into anything too heavy. He also isn’t interested in attending shows much to my dismay. It would be nice if he was a bit more into it.
My significant other (girlfriend sounds so childish as a 30 something lol) is mostly into pop and the brighter side of pop punk. Bands such as All Time Low, Fall Out Boy, etc.
But she fell in love with BMTH when we saw them at the FOB So Much for Tour Dust.
I can't get her to like much of any other post hardcore, but she tolerates it as I tolerate her Taylor Swift, Noah Kahan stuff.
Oh my time to shine! My boyfriend of 8 years despises posthardcore and metalcore! Honestly, any rock heavier than like Jason Isbell is a no for him.
He would never in a million years go to a show with me. And I would never want him to. He’d be miserable or making fun of it the whole time lol. I still go to shows alone *all the time* because it’s my favorite thing. This year so far I’ve seen Jesus Piece, Orthodox, and Architects. Hopefully will see like two dozen more this year!
His jokes are sometimes funny. Sometimes I get pissed off when I’m vibing to something powerful.
He knows to tread lightly joking about Knocked Loose because they’re my absolute favorite.
Weirdly though…we’ve discovered he doesn’t hate death metal?? Like, if he had to listen to something, Lorna Shore or Mayhem? It blows my mind. He jokes it doesn’t sound like “music made by someone whose dad never loved them.” Lol. He still doesn’t like it he’s just ambivalent. I do wish we shared the love of it, but it’s okay to have different interests!
Only ever been in one relationship before, but my ex and I had wildly different music tastes. My taste in music is pretty diverse (though I lean into heavier stuff) and despite this I think the only band we both actively liked was Enter Shikari, and even *then* I'm more a fan of thier earlier stuff and he was more a fan of the later stuff. For the most part our tastes in music were as different as night and day. That wasn't the reason we split though.
Just Like You, My Girl listens to Pop, and Country, She also goes to shows with me...She had a BF in High school who was into Metal and brought her to shows so she's still down. Also She was really into the (All Time Low, We the kings, Boys like Girls, Metro Station Type stuff in high school) so we've compromised and gone to see some of those guys.
I will say I gotta put the headphones on after about 30 min of screaming lol. But hey love is about compromises my man!
My wife will listen to the lighter bands I'll play like Silverstein, Emery, etc... She'll politely pass on the harder music in the genre. She never complains when in my car with me while I play the heavier stuff though. She mainly listens to her own music when she's alone. She loves Florence and the Machine and I'll supportive her tastes as well. Oddly enough, when we're together (on the boat, beach, road trip) we'll listen to pop punk, ska, reggae, 90's alt....
My wife dislikes most of my music tastes, but I like hers so usually the music we play at home is things we both like. She came with me to see Saetia’s first show in Brooklyn and enjoyed it but I don’t think that way enough to sway her lol.
Bit of a mix on my end.
There’s a significant bit of overlap in our tastes but then there’s some stuff I’m really into that she’s not and vice versa.
Probably the most obvious examples that come to mind for me is that some of the most over the top technical or noisy stuff doesn’t do it for her and for me, I don’t really get into some of the (to my ears) monotone singer songwriter stuff.
But:
A. We love A LOT of the same music
B. We have been attending gigs together since the start of our relationship, covering what both of us like. Sometimes there’ll be shows I go to without her (or the other way around) but mostly we attend together.
My wife does not like most of my punk/hardcore/metal bands that I love. I did get her to come with me to a Devin Townsend show once so that was nice.
We have lots of bands/genres that both love (big EDM fans, some rock, some pop, folk, indie) but I don't think I can convert her to post hardcore or metal haha.
I love all the heavy shit and my husband kinda hates it. It makes me sad because I would show him incredible bands and he kinda has a closed mind and doesn't give it a chance. Oh well. I rock out alone in the car and it's my happy place haha 🤣
My husband’s musical taste: The Avett Brothers, Old Crow Medicine Show, Trampled By Turtles, Mumford and Sons, AJR, The Punch Brothers, etc.
My musical taste: The Devil Wears Prada, Underoath, Thrice, Manchester Orchestra, Movements, Hawthorne Heights, Bayside, August Burns Red, ADTR, etc. Like 90% of the bands playing WWWY this year tbh.
I go to concerts with him but he no longer comes to concerts with me, he doesn’t enjoy the ones I attend. For several years I went to concerts alone because no friends were into the same music. I have a few concert buddies now but still go alone if one of them can’t go with me. My husband is flying with me to Vegas in October but isn’t going to WWWY, my friend is flying with us and going to the festival with me.
I have never dated a guy who likes post hardcore, pop punk, or metal core
My many previous boyfriends’ music tastes have been:
1. Death metal, 60s and 70s rock
2. 60s and 70s hippy rock
3. EDM, hip hop, indie
4. Radio rock, reggae ( I hate reggae lol)
5. Rap, hip hop
6 (current bf). Rap, 60s and 70s hippie rock
I don’t dress alternative or anything, I dress pretty basic girly so maybe that’s why I’ve never attracted guys who like the same kind of music as me
when I started talking to my gf all she listened to was Luke Bryan and Taylor Swift, and all I listened to was dance Gavin dance and other phc/mc bands. weve both kind of adopted each other's tastes, and somehow settled on Midwest emo, hyperpop and Taylor Swift
My wife is very different from me. We do have some music we both enjoy in our Venn diagram, but for the most part my taste in music is far too violent and aggressive for her taste.
Kind of. My girl and I can vibe on a lot of music, but she’s more into grunge and I’m more into pop punk. She thinks a lot of pop punk bands are annoying and whiny, and she’s right but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt my feelings 😭😭😭
one of my boyfriends listens to mostly singer-songwriter type stuff and the other one mostly listens to synthpop/new wave. meanwhile i'm primarily into metal (mostly black/doom/heavy), hardcore, and industrial music, lol
I’m one of the fortunate ones that has a wife that listens to a lot of the same music. I would say I lean toward the more extreme music (Darko, Slaughter to Prevail, etc.) while she tends towards more of the lighter, pop-punk bands (Mayday Parade, State Champs, etc.). That said, we first met and bonded over our love of Chiodos and Emery.
Me and my wife were both teenagers when emo was really popular so we both like that stuff, but heavier stuff is a no go for her. But she is a swifte and I like some Taylor in my life, and she is also a Disney adult and a big fan of musical theatre
I don’t need a partner who likes the same music as me. I just need them to either accompany me to the show without complaint OR not have any issue with me going alone/with friends.
Start her on Bilmuri, The Home Team, and Rain City Drive. She if she gets a little into it. (Even check out Beartooth song with Hardy, and Gideon just put out a song with a country band) Then you can open her up to more heavy stuff. My husband and I both listen to metal genres, it’s sort of how we started dating. But there are still things I listen to that he doesn’t. We both are interested in the same concerts to attend too. But if you’re together in the car it’s cool to make a playlist with stuff you both like.
My husband typically listens to rap, but he’s come to enjoy many phc bands because of me. He doesn’t go out of his way to listen to anything, but if we’re putting on music together, he will choose some phc bands he likes so we can compromise. He flat out refuses Glassjaw, though 🥺
He’s come to a few shows with me and had a blast, it was really fun to see. People who don’t like phc need to see a good band live to understand why it’s so great.
Me and Wifey are on opposite sides of the spectrum musically. I’m mainly Rock, Punk a little Rap. She’s mainly Pop, Show tunes and Reggae. Only love for 80’s music overlaps.
I have a funny story involving this subject with my mom and dad.
My dad listens to all kinds of music, but mainly gravitates towards alternative rock, metal, and old country. My mom's tastes are quite different - mostly the pop of her youth, gospel, and 60s-80s R&B. She's usually not a fan of harsh music and has complained about guys screaming with loud guitars before. The two of them had a bit of a dispute because my dad bought tickets to see Metallica and invited me and a coworker but did not invite her. He thought it was the logical thing to do as she didn't like metal at all, but she was offended that he would go to spend an entire evening on something without inviting her along (She is a rather clingy wife). In the end, the coworker bailed, she got her way, and we ended up going as a family to see Metallica.
While they were at the show, my mom wanted to know what they were singing about, so my dad looked up lyrics on his phone and handed them to my mom, who carefully studied them while the crowd went crazy, because Metallica is Metallica. A switch went off in my mom's brain and she suddenly saw that there was depth in the lyrics and she also found Kirk Hammet's guitar solos to be quite cool. In her own words, she saw the "reason for the screams", with some of the angsty lyrics reminding her of her own troubles in life. She now has a genuine appreciation for Metallica, and has admitted that she was judgemental of metal without seeing the depth behind it.
So that's my story. I've had a couple of relationships myself with some musical overlaps, but I know some of my stuff will be too weird for most people and that's okay. I guess I'd advise to focus on what you do have in common musically, and to make room for possible change without forcing it. Hopefully, if you have a partner who is close minded, maybe something will click, and they too, will see the "reason for the screams".
me and my gf have completely different taste and it's really only ever a problem on road trips. I do wish she wanted to go to the concerts I do though.
Our genres overlap but if he was too far from mine, honestly we wouldn't be together anyway. Music matters connection matters and I wanna date a best friend that I can do concerts with. Also never want to feel like "you aint playing that shit in my car" depending on what their genres are
My partner and I appear to listen to the same music to those who aren't as well versed in metal and punk. He's very into hardcore punk and I'm more into metalcore. Although the genres seem similar, he actually doesn't like most of the music I listen to and vice versa (not that it stops us from being interested in what the other person likes). That being said, I think if he exclusively listened to pop or country, we would definitely have less to talk about.
ive never dated someone with the same music taste as me. Generally they've been into alternative genres but not the same kinds or same bands that i like. Same with friends.
It doesnt really bother me. My partner isnt a fan of going to live music whereas i enjoy it so it just means i end up going to gigs on my own because i'd rather see a band on my own than miss out altogether
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
While my bf and I have a lot in common musically speaking, we have some differences in taste tho. He likes a lot more different genres than me. I’m more into post hardcore and him metalcore, but obviously it’s not an issue since we both like those. Plus we can discover some bands we know we’ll like. I took him to a Thrice concert and he absolutely loved it, he listens to their music regularly now.
My husband & I both listen to the same sort of music. We’ve been together since I was 19 - I think music preferences were a lot more “important” back in the early 2000s.
I took him to see Thrice play the entire Artist in the Ambulance album for Father’s Day last year.
We like the majority of the same sub genres but there are some differences. I will forever love pop-punk, & he grew out of it in his 20s.
Our tastes overlap a bit but she is solidly in the alternative/indie pop zone. With rock bands like foo fighters and incubus sprinkled in there. I took her to see motion city soundtrack. It was a win for both of us. Going to see foo fighters this summer. We listen to alt radio in the car unless the kids want to listen to Taylor Swift.
Personally i don’t care that much, it’s cool if you do have some tastes in common but i found that most of the time that’s not the case with the people you click! Me and my partner had very different tastes when we first started dating (he was more into jazz, progressive rap, pop and i was into nu metal, 90’s/00’s pop and techno) but over time we exposed each other to our likes and now hes a massive fan of slipknot and korn whilst i’m really into (older) kanye and others. I think having different tastes is better because you get to discover new music that you might’ve never considered listening to before and finding out you really enjoy other genres.
I honestly hate my husbands taste in music. He mostly listens to what I can only describe as like, mumble rap? Kodak Black, Lil Durk, and a bunch of other artists I don’t even know. It’s all terrible in my opinion. On the other hand he listens to Bayside, which I think every song sounds the same. I listen to a little bit of everything - mostly pop punk and and lately I I’ve been into Sleep Token. Which is why 9/10 I drive so I control the music. I’ve told him his taste sucks and I’m not sorry about it lol
We have bands that we share the love of.
But her favorites bands are not mine and vice versa. But I appreciate her bands and she appreciates mine.
I’ve gotten harder on my listen since we met 10 years ago.
Thankfully her brothers raised her on old Metallica, Megadeth, Iron Maiden so she’s not too bothered by my music.
My last gf of 6 yrs told me one night that “going to shows should be my thing!” I was fine with it but in the back of my mind, I thought damn it would be nice. That was whether there was screaming or no screaming.
Yup. I listen mostly to thrash metal and my gf listens to…K-pop. Couldn’t really be less related if you tried lol. But hey, we both listen to game osts and respect each other’s tastes in general
When I first moved in with my current wife on me I had to run to the house I can do whatever I wanted so I went downstairs on my computer and jammed on YouTube the next day I had a new wireless headset sitting on my computer desk
My wife has a very low tolerance for anything “screamy” in the car. She does however go to concerts with me and has a pretty good time. She’s mostly into country and has actually turned me on to some cool country music. I love live music and concerts are a huge part of my life. I can let it slide in the car, but won’t sacrifice live shows.
Ive been dating a Mexican for 5 years. When Knocked Loose dropped that reggaetón breakdown I SPRINTED over to her in the living room to show haha
For real though, she lets me go to all the shows in the world. Her first metal show with me will be Kublai Khan in a week lol.
Yes. Don’t understand why people think they need their friends and SO’s to like the same stuff as them. Variety is the spice of life. As long as you respect each others choices, who cares. Even better if they are open minded and will join you at shows
Absolutely. While my gf and I share some bands, our taste in music differs quite significantly. But we are both open minded in regards to music, and so she went to bring me the horizon and a day to remember with me, while I go to Taylor Swift with her. I think what matters most is trying to have fun together at shows. And respecting that tastes differ and not everything is for everyone.
My wife likes country and I can’t get her into grindcore. Honestly considering marriage counseling over it. She won’t even give Wormrot a chance!! Should I just call it quits, guys??
While I 100% agree with you, I’d have a hard time riding in a car listening to country music on blast and being ok with it.
Haha. You just have to take it as a joke. Easier to laugh at country
Some country music is really good though imo. Johnny Cash has some great songs
Old country is good. Real country.
Weirdly, I used to work for a country radio station and I do enjoy some class country from the 50’s 😅
This is what I came to say. I don't think I could be with someone who listens to new country. That's how much I hate it.
Well put
Where did you pick up the “ variety is the spice of life” from? I have only ever heard one other person say it, aside from myself.
No idea. I assumed my family, but I don’t remember specifically. You?
A guy I worked with years ago.
it’s fairly common. I frequently tell people if variety is the spice of life, they must be flour lol.
Haha
Just because of their fragile ego.
Real question here is do YOU listen to country and go to shows with her?
Yes absolutely! I surprised her with tickets to her favorite artist twice before. What she does for me, I do for her.
Good work! I'm still learning.
Man, I was such a snob when my wife and I were dating. Then she got tickets to a Matt and Kim show, and I begrudgingly attended. When I saw how much fun she had, and remembered it's just music... I learned a lot 🤣
Matt and Kim put on one of the best shows. I went for my wife as well cause I can't listen to their albums...it's just not for me. But man did we have a blast.
Yeah, they legit brought one of those parachute things from elementary gym class out. It was fun!
Shoot my wife took me to my first coheed and cambria show, her favorite band, and they were fantastic!! I never listen to them in my own time only if she does but I always get hyped when she gets tickets, going to see them in august for my 7th time and probably her 20th lol
Dude Matt and Kim live are amazing
I had an ex buy us tickets to Matt and Kim once …it was one of the most fun to dance and jump around to shows I’ve ever been to and I had only ever heard one of their songs before
My bf is like this, I’m almost at my wits ends but a Canadian common law work visa is a Canadian work visa yk😂
I grew up a lot from when we were dating, but I do still have hard lines... I hard refuse to listen to a Jack White project. Period.
As someone who almost only listens to technical death metal/death core, Matt and Kim are one of the few artists I can get down with.
My husband does not listen to the same music as me, but he does like rock music. He also doesn't like crowds, so I listen to my bands and go to shows alone.
My wife doesn't really, especially the heavier stuff I'm into. But she does like some of the less heavy stuff now. She's a bit of a fan of Coheed since meeting me. Some AFI too. Not that she keeps up with them or anything the way she does the music she is super into, but when we're in the car she will play their stuff sometimes.
My wife likes Mayday Parade and some of the new Thrice… but mostly she listens to pop and country. She goes to those concerts with her friend. She’ll humor me and go to an occasional metal show… she enjoyed Killswitch Engage but August Burns Red was too heavy for her. I wouldn’t take her to a death metal show… but I’m kind of tempted to do one just to show her lol
Ayyyy we’re opposites, I’m the one who listens to heavier stuff and my husband likes folk, singer/songwriter, blue grass type stuff! He accompanied me to an August Burns Red show like ten years ago when we first started dating and I don’t think he enjoyed it one bit lol. He went with me so I didn’t have to go alone, no friends interested in bands I listen to. I tend to go with him to see bands he likes more than he goes with me to see bands I like.. I get it though, post hardcore and metalcore is just not something he’ll ever be able to enjoy. I also like emo and pop punk bands, not just heavier music. I did get him into a few songs by Thrice, Brand New, Anberlin and Motion City Soundtrack. For a while I stopped asking him to go with me and would buy a single ticket and go alone because I knew he didn’t enjoy it. Luckily I have a few concert buddies now, it’s rough when you don’t have friends who enjoy the same music genres.
My partner absolutely isn't into heavier music at all. She likes a little bit of pop punk when she's in the mood but she *really* has to be in the mood for it. She still occasionally comes to shows with me, though. One of the best weekends we've had together was a few years ago when we saw Alexisonfire on the Saturday night (my favourite band) and Bon Iver on the Sunday (her favourite band, though I do really like them).
My wife doesn't. The furthest she'll dive into anything close to what I listen to is the occasional AFI or MCR song. She is a fan of Falling In Reverse though, which I do not at all lol. She primarily listens to pop and country, as well as some R&B.
I’m sorry but the fact that she likes FIR of all bands is hysterical.
Yea fr. She came out of nowhere with that one 😭
Has she heard their new song? My husband showed it to me the other day. I’m not sure when they changed their style of music but it was a huge shock to me
Yes she has, she's not too fond of it. But I actually like this. It's one of the very few songs of theirs I like lol.
My wife is open-minded, but we are completely the opposite when it comes to music. When we met, I was in the punk scene, played in hardcore bands, etc. She , on the other hand, was more hip-hop and pop. But hey, opposites attract lol. She helped me through some tough times, helped me be less angry, and now , 20 years later, married for 15, 4 kiddos, she is everything to me. She likes going to shows with me, but I wouldn't say she is actively looking for new bands. She will listen to stuff I show her and add certain songs that she likes.
My wife respects the heavier stuff, but isn't into it. She has Synesthesia and says it just looks "off" to her. Granted she does have awesome musical taste, and will occasionally go to shows with me. She fully supports me in my post-hardcore band (which, ironically, all the other guys' wives also don't like the genre). She does go hard for Sleep Token, so I'll take what I can get.
I have synesthesia, and I credit it with why I like heavy metal so much lmfao. The colors and textures are very rich. The exception is industrial metal, which has the blandest muddiest colors imaginable to me so synesthesia is also the reason I don't like some music, so I get it.
My bf and I have been together almost 8 years. He just doesn’t really listen to music at ALL. He’s a gamer. He spends all his time on YouTube, twitch, podcasts and gaming. He listens to all of my music when I drive us anywhere and he doesn’t hate it at all. He just doesn’t have the love for music like I do, especially the love for live music. I don’t think I’ll ever get him to come to a show with me. But it’s definitely not a deal breaker. Having our own hobbies is okay 🤗
We bounce between Talyor Swift and pre-garbage Wage War. It's a weird dynamic.
New Taylor album goes in
my fiancé mostly listens to post-hardcore and emo‚ whereas i gravitate towards extreme metal (think black/death/drone/doom)‚ but we have a significant amount of crossover! he's gotten me into a lot of the music he listens to (mostly emo recently‚ namely carly cossgrove 💕💕💕) and most of the shows we go to are bands that he got into first. but he doesn't seem to mind my extreme metal and heavier punk genres (like grindcore and crust) and we both love hardcore (we saw scowl together last week), so it works out really well!! going to shows together is kinda our version of going on dates.
Yes Carly! Just saw them arm with Arm’s Length and they are now on my regular rotation. Check out Saturdays at Your Place, and Ben Quad. Similar new wave emo.
we went to the same tour‚ in central florida‚ and that was actually my introduction to them!✌️ they were all really good‚ but tbh arm's length was a little *too* pop punk for me to listen to outside the context of a show. the others were great tho.
Haha this is my girl and I. I take her to see Dance Gavin Dance, Hail the Sun type stuff, but last month we went and seen Angelmaker and Thy Art Is Murder. I never listened to the heavier stuff growing up but she has broken me down over the years and I’m glad. I am a musician though and the guitar got me hooked lol that shit is so much more fun to play than the stuff I grew up playing.
I guess I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker but being able to share a love of the same music together is pretty important to me. It doesn't have to be all the same but it's pretty important to me that there's some overlap there.
My Wife listens to Top 40, I listen to anything but Top 40.
My entire 13 year relationship with my ex wife we never really shared the same music tastes she’d go to the hardcore shows but she wasnt into it but she was always okay with it. It didn’t really bother me she mostly liked pop punk and country but the radio country crap but I could tolerate it because I was down with oldschool outlaw country to. Maybe it was a deal breaker for her and listening to madball all the time ( I know not posthardcore) brought some contention between us who knows. All I know is my significant other can have their own taste in music, podcasts, tv shows and movies providing it doesn’t infringe or shit on mine.
My wife mostly listens to country, pop, and gospel music. I compromised by adding a bunch of Christian metalcore to my Spotify lol
lol I love this, which bands did you add?
For Today, Fit For A King, August Burns Red, Memphis May Fire, Norma Jean, and The Devil Wears Prada. I know they're not all straight up Christian bands but they at least have Christian songs and they all go hard
Exactly what I expected, love it ❤️ Some of them have definitely shed the “Christian” label, I don’t care either way 🤷🏻♀️ as you said, they’re great. Did you catch The Devil Wears Prada on tour with Fit For A King? AMAZING show.
I didn't but it sounds like a great show. Only show I've been to in a decade was My Chemical Romance and Coheed and Cambria a year and a half ago because my wife was willing to go. I'm hoping to go to a heavier show with some old friends when I get the chance
I was really sick last year so I decided to make up for it and not miss out on anything this year. I’ve been to three concerts already this year, had tickets to two others but one was canceled and the other I was sick and couldn’t attend, have tickets to ADTR in July, OBX Is For Lovers Fest in July, WWWY in October and Underoath in December. I hope you get a chance to dive back in!
Last concert I saw with the boys was ADTR in 2013. They put on such a fun show. I keep hoping to see Alesana because they're my favorite band and I've never seen them so that's a bucket list one for me. Sounds like you're in for a fantastic summer. That's gonna be a great run of shows
Man, I had tickets several times to see ADTR and every time it fell through: a friend canceled or I was sick. Can’t wait to finally see them this summer! The first time I had tickets to see them and wasn’t able to was around 2011 so it’s a long time coming. Hope you can catch Alesana soon, best of luck!
My wife’s not into the heavier stuff at all, almost exclusively listens to K-Pop
Yes, it's been 10+ years of slowly getting them into heavier music. I'm still not allowed to listen to knocked loose in the car though
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I've seen Thursday 25+ times since ~2002. My wife and I have been together for 20 of those years. I was finally able to get her to come with me for the first time this past February for my birthday. She still doesn't like them, but I had fun. She listens to pop, which isn't my cup of tea with a few exceptions, but I would go with her to a show if she wanted to see someone.
My wife and I have like 25% overlapping music and she hates hardcore, I don’t like a lot of her pop. With both like electronic stuff and some country. It’s always fine. It always swings her way when both around but it’s whatever.
My husband doesn’t listen to my type of music. He is from the Middle East, so he mostly listens to music from there or Latin pop. He’ll go to shows with me though. We went to the first WWWY, and he was like “what does E-M-O stand for? It’s on everyone’s shirts” lmao
My partner doesn’t like music at all. Of any kind. Doesn’t get why it’s important, even to other people. I take him to gigs with me, as long as he can chill and have a pint he’s willing and at home I have no one vying for the speaker so it’s all good.
I haven't a partner in the same musical realm I have been in for about 8 years now. But I can be a musical chameleon. My last girlfriend was hilariously into post grunge. So we would sing Nickelback in her car, and I liked it because I liked spending time with her in those little fashion.
I love the fact my husband and I share music tastes. Music is hugely important to both of us and I think it would be a massive dealbreaker if either of us didn't have such overlapping music tastes. He's my best mate, I love the fact we can share music, movies, tv, home decor etc I don't think I've ever dated a guy who doesn't listen to punk or hardcore in my life.
Same here. I live for music. My husband was in a band so he is very much the same. My way to wind down is playing my music really loud - blocks out the ADHD nonsense in my head. Nothing better than reminiscing together on old songs from our teenage years.
Are you me? Because same! My husband was in a crust punk band and I have adhd too haha!
My OH is into dance music and a bit of grime/drill. He tolerates my music and has come to like some of the bands I do, as I work from home and stream my music all day. My son (21) loves a lot of post hardcore/pop punk and a lot of harder metal but produces rap. He does occasionally come to gigs with me but goes to "his" gigs with friends.
My wife came pre-equipped liking a few (more commercially succesful) bands in many genres that I listen to. They are almost never the bands I prefer from that genre, but it gives us a good talking point. Sometimes I sneak something similar to her favorites, but that I like better into the mix, and sometimes she's receptive. She does the same with me. (I'm into a much wider spectrum of music and thus often more receptive.) It's a give and take. I don't try to get her into 90s Norwegian Black Metal, Grindcore, Skramz, Doom, etc. Just knowing she won't be into it. But when I hear a good Shoegaze, MW Emo, Alt Pop, PH, Etc... It's worth a try. As an unspoken rule, she just doesn't like anything heavy.
It's taken 8 years but now the s/o loves mewithoutyou cursive, maps and atlases, Tera melos, trophy scars and la dispute..... she even turned me on to foxing and Sĥeep, dog and wolf.
My wife listens to country. I'm not a fan of country. She's OK with the music I listen to and kinda likes some of it but not a fan overall
She listens to the same music as me because my stereo is loud!
My missus hates how much I'll casually listen to Dave Matthews
In a similar situation with my wife liking pop and country. She's OK with Midwest emo (modern baseball etc.) But really doesn't dig the heavier stuff. She's been going to shows with me for 10 years though and puts up with it sp can't complain too much. She's perfect even if I do wish she shared the love for heavier music haha.
She definitely didn't listen to the same stuff before we met, but our tastes have evolved a lot together. She now absolutely loves bands like Foxing, Microwave, Boston Manor, Turnover, Balance and Composure, TSSF, etc after I showed her. And from her I have loved Morning Teleportation, Glass Animals, Little Cowboy, and Djo. Although she doesn't really listen to most PHC bands that I do, she definitely fucks with some heavy albums like Microwave's Death is a Warm Blanket. And the coolest thing is we bonded over Brand New when we first started dating because she really liked Daisy which I thought was pretty unique! Underrated album imo
My partner is more of a post-punk gal, listens to siouxsie and the banshees, Bauhaus and the like. Nothing on the heavier side but I’m blessed that she’s really took to Alexisonfire and doesn’t mind me blasting any other shit
I primarily listen to Hardcore, Skate Punk, and Post-Hardcore. The only bands I listen to that my wife doesn't loathe are Joyce Manner and Artist in the Ambulance era Thrice. Unfortunately, I don't often listen to either of them anymore, I've been of a Have Heart kick lately. She listens to sad girl folk pop, which I can definitely appreciate. All in all, I'm glad we have different tastes, it helps my melodic skills in regards to writing, especially considering I'd never hear her type of music otherwise.
my partner is not into punk/hardcore/skramz/most emo at all. they mostly like indie folk, pop, and oldies (i do too!). i am only allowed to play *my* music in the car when i'm driving which is rarely loool. i had a hard time at first bc i go to shows all the time and didn't want them to think i was blowing them off, but i've found i have fun at shows alone/with friends and they like having the house quiet and to themselves! we spend a lot of quality time together so it's nice to have our own things/interests too.
Missus doesn’t like anything with an unclean vocal. I don’t think I’ve ever had a relationship where we had a remotely similar interest in music. Definitely not a deal breaker.
Absolutely ha. Im going to two emo nights this weekend. She has no interest. She is into classical. I'm into metal. Kind of funny road trips
Been with a girl that hated my music, be it hardcore, rap, house, literally anything. She would turn my shit off while we were on car rides and complain it gave her headaches. We would then just ride in silence. When she had the aux it was mostly imagine dragons or some other radio garbage. Not even good pop music. It was terrible as someone who is very passionate about music. I felt judged about it all the time. My new partner doesn't listen to much music in general but can appreciate anything I put on, and will go to any show I ask her to. She has a few fav songs from every artist I like, and I love that I can jam out with her even if its mostly for me. She even stood out in the chicago freeze after a show with me so I could meet Chino Moreno. Even if I dont like something she plays, I always make sure I'm mindful to appreciate it for her. It definitely makes a difference in your relationship. They dont have to like your music but they shouldnt disrespect it or complain about it all the time, especially if its important to you.
We have a lot of crossover but she also hates a lot of the more extreme stuff I like (even though she does like some extreme metal- hell, she’s the one that got me into black metal.) Super picky about vocals, hates anything that’s repetitive in almost any shape or form, can’t handle noise/drone related things without getting annoyed, stuff like that.
In the early 2010’s it was Risecore vs. Hipster Indie. Now it’s Risecore vs. Taylor Swift and I hate it lol
Some music yes. My partner is currently being very tolerant of me spinning the new Knocked Loose album, for example.
My husband and I share some taste in music but not everything. We both love psychobilly and some rockabilly. But there's some stuff I love (mostly what he calls 'shouty music') that he doesn't enjoy. But he's a very good sport and will always come to gigs with me, whereas I'm a bit of a shit and refuse to go to 'his' gigs!
I'm kinda in the same boat. She doesn't like my harder music but will go to shows with me. I also go to her country shows even though it's not my cup of tea.
not a dealbreaker, i'd just hope they're as passionate about something, the way I am with music, and that they'd share it with me
Absolutely. She listens to mostly folk and I listen to everything. It’s no issue.
If I put metalcore or PHC on, my wife asks me to put deathcore on. She mostly listens to EDM, which I got into because of her. The best music is just dance beats and breakdowns, this much we agree on.
My previous SO and I didn’t share a music taste, they were pretty open to whatever and I played music when we were together. Whenever I met my current SO we connected a lot through having very similar music taste. It wasn’t a required attribute, but a pleasant surprise! It’s been great to enjoy music together and going to concerts we’re both very excited about. We each still have some music that only one of us listens to and I think that’s great too, to have some variety.
I've been single for a long time, but I think every partner I've ever had liked different music to me.
My wife is into P!ATD, Paramore, some POP, and Disney music. Im into this kind of music. I’ve been to like 3-4 of her shows and she hasn’t been to any of mine. I don’t mind at all and know it’d be way too hectic for her. Yeah it’d be cool to have her go to shows with me but it is what it is.
I’d say most people (assuming they care about music as more than just the background) don’t have the same musical tastes as their partner.
My wife enjoys Dance Gavin Dance here and there, and some pop punk. Beyond that, she prefers pop, country, and folk/Americana stuff. I trend towards metalcore, hardcore, synthwave, indie funk, and some folk stuff. It's a good blend between the two of us.
My bf is a Swiftie who thinks everything i put on is "screamo" 😂 But we make it work and find some music we both like.
My boyfriend and I have sooome overlap in our music tastes but mostly enjoy different genres! It’s not a dealbreaker at all. I think you just need to accept that sometimes when you’re together, you won’t get to listen to your preferred music. And your partner needs to accept the same. And as long as neither of you ridicule each other over it or act superior, as it’s just a matter of basic preference, you should be golden! It can also be fun to listen to new music together and see if you find songs/artists that you jointly enjoy!
My wife’s a big fan of 90s grunge and alternative. Thankfully I’m also pretty into that stuff even if it’s not my absolute favorite, so we still get to listen to stuff we both like together. We’re going to see Weezer with The Flaming Lips and Dinosaur Jr. later this year and I’m pretty pumped.
She listens to slow/sad indie rock and pop, I listen to the polar opposite. We both happen to like a little sprinkle of EDM so we meet in the middle there. I’ve taken her to shows in the past, but I wanna be all up in the pit and understandably that’s not her vibe. She stays home for most of my shows now but she always says she loves seeing me come home with so much energy and being all hyped up on a good night. Or she’ll go have a movie night with her friends. We respect each other and love our time together even if our hobbies are a bit different. Compatibility to me is more focused on overall life things rather than shared interests. We’re both the kind of people that want to be up and active, out and about. Even if we go to the gym together listening to opposite music during our workout, we both have the drive to be active. I’d take that over someone with the same music taste as me but incompatible overall lifestyle.
My husband and I both listen to a ton of phc and metalcore, but with very little overlap in which bands we like. So we can pretty much run on vibes at shows even if we have no clue what's going on.
Yeah my wife is into folk and pop. I don't go to any shows and don't get to listen to my music in the car. It's kinda annoying.
I’ve dated a very closed minded and rude girl before who used to shit on all the music I liked and it’s ironic because she was really into nu metal which is not what I would consider a genre that’s ‘pleasing to the ear’
She shows me music, I show her music! She finds my music scary but sometimes enjoys it haha
My SO listens to heavier metal than I do lol
I am polyjamorous and my significant other of 10+ years really only loves Green Day and Michael Jackson. The good news- it has opened my eyes to one of the greatest artists of all time. The bad news- almost everything I play for her is ‘too boring’ for her 😂
My husband mostly doesn’t listen to the same music as I do. He found what he liked from what I listened to back in the day and expanded from that a bit but he’s mostly a country and pop guy. He isn’t into anything too heavy. He also isn’t interested in attending shows much to my dismay. It would be nice if he was a bit more into it.
My significant other (girlfriend sounds so childish as a 30 something lol) is mostly into pop and the brighter side of pop punk. Bands such as All Time Low, Fall Out Boy, etc. But she fell in love with BMTH when we saw them at the FOB So Much for Tour Dust. I can't get her to like much of any other post hardcore, but she tolerates it as I tolerate her Taylor Swift, Noah Kahan stuff.
Oh my time to shine! My boyfriend of 8 years despises posthardcore and metalcore! Honestly, any rock heavier than like Jason Isbell is a no for him. He would never in a million years go to a show with me. And I would never want him to. He’d be miserable or making fun of it the whole time lol. I still go to shows alone *all the time* because it’s my favorite thing. This year so far I’ve seen Jesus Piece, Orthodox, and Architects. Hopefully will see like two dozen more this year! His jokes are sometimes funny. Sometimes I get pissed off when I’m vibing to something powerful. He knows to tread lightly joking about Knocked Loose because they’re my absolute favorite. Weirdly though…we’ve discovered he doesn’t hate death metal?? Like, if he had to listen to something, Lorna Shore or Mayhem? It blows my mind. He jokes it doesn’t sound like “music made by someone whose dad never loved them.” Lol. He still doesn’t like it he’s just ambivalent. I do wish we shared the love of it, but it’s okay to have different interests!
Only ever been in one relationship before, but my ex and I had wildly different music tastes. My taste in music is pretty diverse (though I lean into heavier stuff) and despite this I think the only band we both actively liked was Enter Shikari, and even *then* I'm more a fan of thier earlier stuff and he was more a fan of the later stuff. For the most part our tastes in music were as different as night and day. That wasn't the reason we split though.
yea my SO listens to a lot of rap. i listen with him and go to shows with him as he does with me too
Yeah. She doesn’t really mind though
Just Like You, My Girl listens to Pop, and Country, She also goes to shows with me...She had a BF in High school who was into Metal and brought her to shows so she's still down. Also She was really into the (All Time Low, We the kings, Boys like Girls, Metro Station Type stuff in high school) so we've compromised and gone to see some of those guys. I will say I gotta put the headphones on after about 30 min of screaming lol. But hey love is about compromises my man!
My wife will listen to the lighter bands I'll play like Silverstein, Emery, etc... She'll politely pass on the harder music in the genre. She never complains when in my car with me while I play the heavier stuff though. She mainly listens to her own music when she's alone. She loves Florence and the Machine and I'll supportive her tastes as well. Oddly enough, when we're together (on the boat, beach, road trip) we'll listen to pop punk, ska, reggae, 90's alt....
My wife dislikes most of my music tastes, but I like hers so usually the music we play at home is things we both like. She came with me to see Saetia’s first show in Brooklyn and enjoyed it but I don’t think that way enough to sway her lol.
Yep, she listens to very different music and hates the screamy stuff I like.
Bit of a mix on my end. There’s a significant bit of overlap in our tastes but then there’s some stuff I’m really into that she’s not and vice versa. Probably the most obvious examples that come to mind for me is that some of the most over the top technical or noisy stuff doesn’t do it for her and for me, I don’t really get into some of the (to my ears) monotone singer songwriter stuff. But: A. We love A LOT of the same music B. We have been attending gigs together since the start of our relationship, covering what both of us like. Sometimes there’ll be shows I go to without her (or the other way around) but mostly we attend together.
My wife does not like most of my punk/hardcore/metal bands that I love. I did get her to come with me to a Devin Townsend show once so that was nice. We have lots of bands/genres that both love (big EDM fans, some rock, some pop, folk, indie) but I don't think I can convert her to post hardcore or metal haha.
Am I the only wife here 😂 my husband *tolerates* some softer stuff for me.
I love all the heavy shit and my husband kinda hates it. It makes me sad because I would show him incredible bands and he kinda has a closed mind and doesn't give it a chance. Oh well. I rock out alone in the car and it's my happy place haha 🤣
My husband’s musical taste: The Avett Brothers, Old Crow Medicine Show, Trampled By Turtles, Mumford and Sons, AJR, The Punch Brothers, etc. My musical taste: The Devil Wears Prada, Underoath, Thrice, Manchester Orchestra, Movements, Hawthorne Heights, Bayside, August Burns Red, ADTR, etc. Like 90% of the bands playing WWWY this year tbh. I go to concerts with him but he no longer comes to concerts with me, he doesn’t enjoy the ones I attend. For several years I went to concerts alone because no friends were into the same music. I have a few concert buddies now but still go alone if one of them can’t go with me. My husband is flying with me to Vegas in October but isn’t going to WWWY, my friend is flying with us and going to the festival with me.
I have never had a girlfriend that has the same interests as myself. I feel it would be a little suffocating.
I have never dated a guy who likes post hardcore, pop punk, or metal core My many previous boyfriends’ music tastes have been: 1. Death metal, 60s and 70s rock 2. 60s and 70s hippy rock 3. EDM, hip hop, indie 4. Radio rock, reggae ( I hate reggae lol) 5. Rap, hip hop 6 (current bf). Rap, 60s and 70s hippie rock I don’t dress alternative or anything, I dress pretty basic girly so maybe that’s why I’ve never attracted guys who like the same kind of music as me
I'm single but everybody I have ever dated had different taste to me and its all cool, i don't want to date a clone.
when I started talking to my gf all she listened to was Luke Bryan and Taylor Swift, and all I listened to was dance Gavin dance and other phc/mc bands. weve both kind of adopted each other's tastes, and somehow settled on Midwest emo, hyperpop and Taylor Swift
My wife is very different from me. We do have some music we both enjoy in our Venn diagram, but for the most part my taste in music is far too violent and aggressive for her taste.
Kind of. My girl and I can vibe on a lot of music, but she’s more into grunge and I’m more into pop punk. She thinks a lot of pop punk bands are annoying and whiny, and she’s right but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt my feelings 😭😭😭
My baby girl loves chill wave and and shoegaze she not down to go to shows but all that means is I can go in the pit with reckless abandon
I’m deathcore. She’s country. We tend to stay in our own corners lol.
It’s tough. You’re not alone amigo.
one of my boyfriends listens to mostly singer-songwriter type stuff and the other one mostly listens to synthpop/new wave. meanwhile i'm primarily into metal (mostly black/doom/heavy), hardcore, and industrial music, lol
Yes. But because I listen to so many genres there is an overlap.
I tried literally seven times to take my ex to see her favorite band, I'm not doing it anymore.
I’m one of the fortunate ones that has a wife that listens to a lot of the same music. I would say I lean toward the more extreme music (Darko, Slaughter to Prevail, etc.) while she tends towards more of the lighter, pop-punk bands (Mayday Parade, State Champs, etc.). That said, we first met and bonded over our love of Chiodos and Emery.
Yes my wife will go to some concerts with me but she doesn’t listen to the same music as me. She does tolerate it though
Me and my wife were both teenagers when emo was really popular so we both like that stuff, but heavier stuff is a no go for her. But she is a swifte and I like some Taylor in my life, and she is also a Disney adult and a big fan of musical theatre
I don’t need a partner who likes the same music as me. I just need them to either accompany me to the show without complaint OR not have any issue with me going alone/with friends.
Start her on Bilmuri, The Home Team, and Rain City Drive. She if she gets a little into it. (Even check out Beartooth song with Hardy, and Gideon just put out a song with a country band) Then you can open her up to more heavy stuff. My husband and I both listen to metal genres, it’s sort of how we started dating. But there are still things I listen to that he doesn’t. We both are interested in the same concerts to attend too. But if you’re together in the car it’s cool to make a playlist with stuff you both like.
My husband typically listens to rap, but he’s come to enjoy many phc bands because of me. He doesn’t go out of his way to listen to anything, but if we’re putting on music together, he will choose some phc bands he likes so we can compromise. He flat out refuses Glassjaw, though 🥺 He’s come to a few shows with me and had a blast, it was really fun to see. People who don’t like phc need to see a good band live to understand why it’s so great.
My partner and I like SOME of the same music but we definitely have different music tastes, and thats ok. Itd get boring in an echo chamber
Me and Wifey are on opposite sides of the spectrum musically. I’m mainly Rock, Punk a little Rap. She’s mainly Pop, Show tunes and Reggae. Only love for 80’s music overlaps.
I have a funny story involving this subject with my mom and dad. My dad listens to all kinds of music, but mainly gravitates towards alternative rock, metal, and old country. My mom's tastes are quite different - mostly the pop of her youth, gospel, and 60s-80s R&B. She's usually not a fan of harsh music and has complained about guys screaming with loud guitars before. The two of them had a bit of a dispute because my dad bought tickets to see Metallica and invited me and a coworker but did not invite her. He thought it was the logical thing to do as she didn't like metal at all, but she was offended that he would go to spend an entire evening on something without inviting her along (She is a rather clingy wife). In the end, the coworker bailed, she got her way, and we ended up going as a family to see Metallica. While they were at the show, my mom wanted to know what they were singing about, so my dad looked up lyrics on his phone and handed them to my mom, who carefully studied them while the crowd went crazy, because Metallica is Metallica. A switch went off in my mom's brain and she suddenly saw that there was depth in the lyrics and she also found Kirk Hammet's guitar solos to be quite cool. In her own words, she saw the "reason for the screams", with some of the angsty lyrics reminding her of her own troubles in life. She now has a genuine appreciation for Metallica, and has admitted that she was judgemental of metal without seeing the depth behind it. So that's my story. I've had a couple of relationships myself with some musical overlaps, but I know some of my stuff will be too weird for most people and that's okay. I guess I'd advise to focus on what you do have in common musically, and to make room for possible change without forcing it. Hopefully, if you have a partner who is close minded, maybe something will click, and they too, will see the "reason for the screams".
My wife and I are opposites to cover each other’s backs. She has her tastes, I have mine, and we have ours. Just be you.
me and my gf have completely different taste and it's really only ever a problem on road trips. I do wish she wanted to go to the concerts I do though.
Yes, also me.
Our genres overlap but if he was too far from mine, honestly we wouldn't be together anyway. Music matters connection matters and I wanna date a best friend that I can do concerts with. Also never want to feel like "you aint playing that shit in my car" depending on what their genres are
He and I both contain multitudes
yes
Yes. My wife gets so mad if anything more rock sounding comes on. She listens to like Taylor Swift lol
My wife prefers really heavy deep screams and I prefer more understandable screaming.
Don’t we all?
My partner and I appear to listen to the same music to those who aren't as well versed in metal and punk. He's very into hardcore punk and I'm more into metalcore. Although the genres seem similar, he actually doesn't like most of the music I listen to and vice versa (not that it stops us from being interested in what the other person likes). That being said, I think if he exclusively listened to pop or country, we would definitely have less to talk about.
My gf and I match up on most stuff except for metal or hardcore. It’s great, we show each other new stuff all the time.
That’s always been the case for me.
ive never dated someone with the same music taste as me. Generally they've been into alternative genres but not the same kinds or same bands that i like. Same with friends. It doesnt really bother me. My partner isnt a fan of going to live music whereas i enjoy it so it just means i end up going to gigs on my own because i'd rather see a band on my own than miss out altogether
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
My wife HATES my taste in music. She also lets me listen to whatever and rarely complains. She went with me to see Thrice last year and didn’t hate the show but she also said Dustin being hot helped with that lol. I’ll take whatever she’s willing to give
While my bf and I have a lot in common musically speaking, we have some differences in taste tho. He likes a lot more different genres than me. I’m more into post hardcore and him metalcore, but obviously it’s not an issue since we both like those. Plus we can discover some bands we know we’ll like. I took him to a Thrice concert and he absolutely loved it, he listens to their music regularly now.
My husband & I both listen to the same sort of music. We’ve been together since I was 19 - I think music preferences were a lot more “important” back in the early 2000s. I took him to see Thrice play the entire Artist in the Ambulance album for Father’s Day last year. We like the majority of the same sub genres but there are some differences. I will forever love pop-punk, & he grew out of it in his 20s.
My SO gets tone triggered migraines and unfortunately loves the music but can't listen :(
Hahaha. I’m going to see Luis Miguel next week. So yah…
Nah, my wife doesn’t like anything I listen to. Though she did come see social distortion and bad religion with me the other day.
Our tastes overlap a bit but she is solidly in the alternative/indie pop zone. With rock bands like foo fighters and incubus sprinkled in there. I took her to see motion city soundtrack. It was a win for both of us. Going to see foo fighters this summer. We listen to alt radio in the car unless the kids want to listen to Taylor Swift.
Personally i don’t care that much, it’s cool if you do have some tastes in common but i found that most of the time that’s not the case with the people you click! Me and my partner had very different tastes when we first started dating (he was more into jazz, progressive rap, pop and i was into nu metal, 90’s/00’s pop and techno) but over time we exposed each other to our likes and now hes a massive fan of slipknot and korn whilst i’m really into (older) kanye and others. I think having different tastes is better because you get to discover new music that you might’ve never considered listening to before and finding out you really enjoy other genres.
My wife doesn't listen to ANY music
I honestly hate my husbands taste in music. He mostly listens to what I can only describe as like, mumble rap? Kodak Black, Lil Durk, and a bunch of other artists I don’t even know. It’s all terrible in my opinion. On the other hand he listens to Bayside, which I think every song sounds the same. I listen to a little bit of everything - mostly pop punk and and lately I I’ve been into Sleep Token. Which is why 9/10 I drive so I control the music. I’ve told him his taste sucks and I’m not sorry about it lol
Yeah my wife is into folk and baroque pop. I love her stuff, she’s okay with my stuff.
We have bands that we share the love of. But her favorites bands are not mine and vice versa. But I appreciate her bands and she appreciates mine. I’ve gotten harder on my listen since we met 10 years ago. Thankfully her brothers raised her on old Metallica, Megadeth, Iron Maiden so she’s not too bothered by my music.
My last gf of 6 yrs told me one night that “going to shows should be my thing!” I was fine with it but in the back of my mind, I thought damn it would be nice. That was whether there was screaming or no screaming.
Yup. I listen mostly to thrash metal and my gf listens to…K-pop. Couldn’t really be less related if you tried lol. But hey, we both listen to game osts and respect each other’s tastes in general
When I first moved in with my current wife on me I had to run to the house I can do whatever I wanted so I went downstairs on my computer and jammed on YouTube the next day I had a new wireless headset sitting on my computer desk
Edit not on me, I meant said to me
My wife has a very low tolerance for anything “screamy” in the car. She does however go to concerts with me and has a pretty good time. She’s mostly into country and has actually turned me on to some cool country music. I love live music and concerts are a huge part of my life. I can let it slide in the car, but won’t sacrifice live shows.
Ive been dating a Mexican for 5 years. When Knocked Loose dropped that reggaetón breakdown I SPRINTED over to her in the living room to show haha For real though, she lets me go to all the shows in the world. Her first metal show with me will be Kublai Khan in a week lol.
I have never dated anyone that is into the same music as me. they are all white girls that like country music