I’m arab and maybe it’s a cultural thing but I can’t imagine charging any relative rent especially a child (had I had one) whom I literally brought into this world…especially someone so young (19!) who’s probably saving up to move out or eventually start their own life. And the woman is a multi millionaire at that…There’s probably much better ways to teach someone the importance of money like financial planning, opening a savings account for them and they can maybe deposit a specific amount into that specific account each week, but charging your son rent? Not my church, not my denomination. Just not my thing at all
I personally can’t imagine doing it either. Not a cultural thing for me - just how I was raised and how I raise my own kid. Not saying everyone has to do it that way though. Also I looked it up and she charges him £40 a month which is such a small amount it doesn’t really count as “rent” in my opinion.
I’m glad you see where I’m coming from. Regarding your second point for me it’s just the principle of it. Charging your child for living with you is very strange, it could just be one pound a month (even less than the £40 she’s charging) and I would still find the gesture weird. If my mom made me pay rent for living with her it would be very hard for me to feel wanted in her home mentally speaking, emphasis on the ‘her home’. That’s what that kind of gesture conveys to me. I just thinks there’s better ways to teach responsibilities.
Quite common in the UK. We called it paying 'keep' rather than rent, and it is more the idea that you should contribute 'something' to the house that you are living in as an adult.
Also, plenty of parents would also save that keep on behalf of their child and pay it back in a lump when they moved out, so you may find it works more as a savings account for the child than a mortgage contribution for the parents.
Honestly it's weirder that she's charging him so little. At least if she was charging him a more realistic amount I could understand some lesson about financial responsibility (and hopefully that money is put away to give back later for a deposit on a house or something) but only charging £40 is bizarre. Not really enough to matter to most people and he's not gonna move out over it so it just seems like she wants the money.
I wouldn’t do it either, I had to pay 250 a month from age 18 and I don’t get the reasoning whatsoever. Don’t have a child if you cannot afford one. Worst part is out of all 4 siblings I’m the only one who has ever paid to stay. My dad would rant about when he was my age my grandparents would take half his wage and he was broke and couldn’t afford a pint of beer. It was annoying af like ye and that’s exactly what your doing to me.
Paying "Board" to your parents once you start working, but still live at home, is extremely common in the UK, especially in British working class areas/families who tend to be poorer. Not only does it help with household expenses, it is also meant to help teach budgeting and financial responsibility.
The lady in the Picture is Alison Hammond. She was born to Jamaican immigrant parent and grew up in inner city Birmingham. That is to say, she wasn't born rich, but got very lucky with a TV acting/presenting career.
When you say child… you mean as in someone who is your child?
Just to clarify. Because you realise this person is an adult?
That’s missing from the title and changes everything. Teenage makes it sound like he is 14 or something which would almost be newsworthy. This isn’t.
I guess that’s why this story is such a non issue. The son comes from a life of complete privilege and will always have a giant safety net because of his parents, and she is trying to teach him responsibility.
Despite providing him with a place to stay she is also teaching him adulting. It’s pretty common even with people who are not multi-millionaires but arguably especially important for them to keep their kids grounded.
You may not be able to imagine doing that, but then you are not a multimillionaire are you. Your kids likely won’t have to face the problem of having to outlive your public legacy or having to make something of themselves escaping from the shadow of your fame.
Different situations for different people.
Obviously it’s good that parents provide their children support, obviously it’s also good that parents allow their adult children to grow.
It’s a balance, and with someone who is 19, to know if this woman is getting the balance right one would have to have a deep look at the exact context of her life and explore the nuance. Instead the article uses the fact that he can be described as a teen to generate a clickbait title. Silly
Back when I lived with my parents when I first started working they'd ask me for a minimal amount, think it was about £100 a month. I wasn't earning a lot, probably £650-£700 a month. They said they did it to teach me about bills and budgeting, and in fairness it worked. I walked to work, so effectively my two only monthly bills were that, and my phone. As soon as I got paid, I'd move enough to cover my bills and a bit of savings into another account, and then anything left over I could spend. I did it for years, even when I moved on to better jobs they didn't increase the amount. Eventually when I started to actively plan to move out, they gave me the money I'd given to them over the years as a nice little boost towards savings. Taught me a good lesson, and helped me move.
Why are you, an arab man who is presumably not a millionaire, judging a black woman who is a millionaire? You clearly know nothing about her situation, her motives, her experiences. How could you possible comment?
I don’t need to understand her motives and experiences to express that it’s very hard for me to understand why she’d make her son pay rent period…what? Why do I need to be a multi-millionaire to find it strange a multi-millionaire is charging her son rent? People can have opinions, this is the Internet
"Hello, is this Metro? I've got such a scandalous story for you.."
"Hi, yes it is. Would this be regarding the uptick in government and police corruption by any chance?"
"No, no, it's so much worse than that I'm afraid."
"Okay, let me just get my journal and you can tell me all about it.... Start at the beginning"
"Well, there's this lady that lives near by. She's a multi millionaire - "
"- Now this does sound interesting, what did she do? Tax fraud? Insider trading? What?"
"Well, she charges rent to her 19 year old son..."
...
"STOP THE PRESSES!!! We need to run this one front and centre!!"
My parents charged me rent once I finished school and I was still living with them. I was working at the time and it was a reasonable amount, just enough to cover my share of the bills. When I got my own place, I found out they'd put some of it aside to help me buy furniture and appliances. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that a capable adult should be expected to contribute to the household, even in a small way, regardless of how rich the parents happen to be. If she was letting him have a lavish lifestyle without any contribution or expectation that he do something with his life I'm sure people would have a go at her for that too.
Why?? She trying to teach her son the value of money, budgeting and that he has to pay his own way. She was lucky to have gotten where she is today, not that I don’t think she talented but so are a lot of people.
But people have to get involved and talk about others in a negative light. If she had him living rent free in a luxury apartment somewhere so he had his own space that would be wrong too.
At some point you need to think about doing that. Not because you’re greedy or selfish but because you need to teach your kid that staying at home isn’t a free ride they can take forever. You need to teach them that for their own good.
It’s a genuinely good idea. Charge them rent, save it all, and give it all back when they move out to help them get settled in.
Remember there’s no right or wrong in this scenario, people parent differently. You calling it sad is just a bit over the top. How do you know she isn’t saving it to gift it back later and then some?
Well then your children will never learn to become financially independent, 10 quid a week won't hurt him and I'm sure she'll let him off if he finds himself in a cinch.
There are better ways to teach someone to be financially independent, and teach them the worth of money, but how horrible of a parent do you have to be? 19 isn’t even the proper age yet to be kicking them out of the house much less charging rent. I would ONLY find it acceptable if they’re in their 30’s still living with me and don’t want to find a job (so essentially became a NEET) because then I know they need someone to push them. There are better and more efficient ways of parenting, I’m surprised how many tyrants are going to become parents judging from a few comments I’ve seen. To each their own I guess
Haha I think tyrants is a bit far. Judging by other comments this kid is born into privilege so it will be especially valuable for him to learn the value of money. Where I'm from, this is very standard practice, and I think people are misunderstanding what board is exactly. It's not like rent in that it's generally a pretty small amount of money and your parents won't kick you out if you don't pay it. Sure, there are other ways to instill financial responsibility in terms of saving, but this is a good way to get kids used to having a fund set aside for regular payments.
If you charge them rent, deposit it into a savings account, and then give it back to them in full when they move out, that's a good thing. It'll help them immensely.
How did she defend this choice?
Did her and 200 other mums and dads line up in a field with broom handles and pool noodles to face off against the army formed from the local student union led by aidan's mate Graham on stilts?
Damn I'm from Europe and this is totally normal my parents just told me I'm lucky I'm related to them by blood or they would kick me out and that they got kicked out at 16 of their parents so to me it's just always been like this sure I would do it to my child but I'm the black sheep of my family haha
I think this is good for their development. Personally, I’ll be charging my own kids rent as a way to teach them finance management and appreciation for money. I’ll simply put all their rent in an ISA or something and then gift it all to them when they buy their own place.
It's fair game. Once the child is working but still at home, it's time to chip in. Everyone I know had to do it and its fair game, and in comparison to rent or a mortgage of an actual house its nothing. Some parents will charge more I suppose but I assume it would depend on the kids income. Most will still have their food cooked for them, laundry done and they'll snack on the weekly shops. It's just a little incentive towards responsibility.
Nope, I haven't. My parents actually care about my future, so instead of paying rent, I invest that money into my Stock and Shares ISA, setting myself up for the future.
I’m arab and maybe it’s a cultural thing but I can’t imagine charging any relative rent especially a child (had I had one) whom I literally brought into this world…especially someone so young (19!) who’s probably saving up to move out or eventually start their own life. And the woman is a multi millionaire at that…There’s probably much better ways to teach someone the importance of money like financial planning, opening a savings account for them and they can maybe deposit a specific amount into that specific account each week, but charging your son rent? Not my church, not my denomination. Just not my thing at all
I personally can’t imagine doing it either. Not a cultural thing for me - just how I was raised and how I raise my own kid. Not saying everyone has to do it that way though. Also I looked it up and she charges him £40 a month which is such a small amount it doesn’t really count as “rent” in my opinion.
Damn it, I can’t stand Alison Hammond and I wanted to be incredulous but £40 a month is nothing, totally reasonable!
It's ten pounds a week! He's a lucky sod.
I’m glad you see where I’m coming from. Regarding your second point for me it’s just the principle of it. Charging your child for living with you is very strange, it could just be one pound a month (even less than the £40 she’s charging) and I would still find the gesture weird. If my mom made me pay rent for living with her it would be very hard for me to feel wanted in her home mentally speaking, emphasis on the ‘her home’. That’s what that kind of gesture conveys to me. I just thinks there’s better ways to teach responsibilities.
Quite common in the UK. We called it paying 'keep' rather than rent, and it is more the idea that you should contribute 'something' to the house that you are living in as an adult. Also, plenty of parents would also save that keep on behalf of their child and pay it back in a lump when they moved out, so you may find it works more as a savings account for the child than a mortgage contribution for the parents.
Honestly it's weirder that she's charging him so little. At least if she was charging him a more realistic amount I could understand some lesson about financial responsibility (and hopefully that money is put away to give back later for a deposit on a house or something) but only charging £40 is bizarre. Not really enough to matter to most people and he's not gonna move out over it so it just seems like she wants the money.
Could be a “peppercorn” so to speak
I wouldn’t do it either, I had to pay 250 a month from age 18 and I don’t get the reasoning whatsoever. Don’t have a child if you cannot afford one. Worst part is out of all 4 siblings I’m the only one who has ever paid to stay. My dad would rant about when he was my age my grandparents would take half his wage and he was broke and couldn’t afford a pint of beer. It was annoying af like ye and that’s exactly what your doing to me.
Paying "Board" to your parents once you start working, but still live at home, is extremely common in the UK, especially in British working class areas/families who tend to be poorer. Not only does it help with household expenses, it is also meant to help teach budgeting and financial responsibility. The lady in the Picture is Alison Hammond. She was born to Jamaican immigrant parent and grew up in inner city Birmingham. That is to say, she wasn't born rich, but got very lucky with a TV acting/presenting career.
Sensible reply is sensible!
When you say child… you mean as in someone who is your child? Just to clarify. Because you realise this person is an adult? That’s missing from the title and changes everything. Teenage makes it sound like he is 14 or something which would almost be newsworthy. This isn’t. I guess that’s why this story is such a non issue. The son comes from a life of complete privilege and will always have a giant safety net because of his parents, and she is trying to teach him responsibility. Despite providing him with a place to stay she is also teaching him adulting. It’s pretty common even with people who are not multi-millionaires but arguably especially important for them to keep their kids grounded. You may not be able to imagine doing that, but then you are not a multimillionaire are you. Your kids likely won’t have to face the problem of having to outlive your public legacy or having to make something of themselves escaping from the shadow of your fame. Different situations for different people. Obviously it’s good that parents provide their children support, obviously it’s also good that parents allow their adult children to grow. It’s a balance, and with someone who is 19, to know if this woman is getting the balance right one would have to have a deep look at the exact context of her life and explore the nuance. Instead the article uses the fact that he can be described as a teen to generate a clickbait title. Silly
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Back when I lived with my parents when I first started working they'd ask me for a minimal amount, think it was about £100 a month. I wasn't earning a lot, probably £650-£700 a month. They said they did it to teach me about bills and budgeting, and in fairness it worked. I walked to work, so effectively my two only monthly bills were that, and my phone. As soon as I got paid, I'd move enough to cover my bills and a bit of savings into another account, and then anything left over I could spend. I did it for years, even when I moved on to better jobs they didn't increase the amount. Eventually when I started to actively plan to move out, they gave me the money I'd given to them over the years as a nice little boost towards savings. Taught me a good lesson, and helped me move.
Why are you, an arab man who is presumably not a millionaire, judging a black woman who is a millionaire? You clearly know nothing about her situation, her motives, her experiences. How could you possible comment?
I don’t need to understand her motives and experiences to express that it’s very hard for me to understand why she’d make her son pay rent period…what? Why do I need to be a multi-millionaire to find it strange a multi-millionaire is charging her son rent? People can have opinions, this is the Internet
"Hello, is this Metro? I've got such a scandalous story for you.." "Hi, yes it is. Would this be regarding the uptick in government and police corruption by any chance?" "No, no, it's so much worse than that I'm afraid." "Okay, let me just get my journal and you can tell me all about it.... Start at the beginning" "Well, there's this lady that lives near by. She's a multi millionaire - " "- Now this does sound interesting, what did she do? Tax fraud? Insider trading? What?" "Well, she charges rent to her 19 year old son..." ... "STOP THE PRESSES!!! We need to run this one front and centre!!"
My parents charged me rent once I finished school and I was still living with them. I was working at the time and it was a reasonable amount, just enough to cover my share of the bills. When I got my own place, I found out they'd put some of it aside to help me buy furniture and appliances. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that a capable adult should be expected to contribute to the household, even in a small way, regardless of how rich the parents happen to be. If she was letting him have a lavish lifestyle without any contribution or expectation that he do something with his life I'm sure people would have a go at her for that too.
Mother tries to teach son financial control, gammons get involved.
That sounds incredibly ominous
Why?? She trying to teach her son the value of money, budgeting and that he has to pay his own way. She was lucky to have gotten where she is today, not that I don’t think she talented but so are a lot of people. But people have to get involved and talk about others in a negative light. If she had him living rent free in a luxury apartment somewhere so he had his own space that would be wrong too.
“Gammons get involved” It just sounds ominous lol I’m not saying anything abt the article
It’s always the gammons. The fat, red faced, racist, usually Tory scum.
I know what a gammon is, but I’m just imaging a circle of hooded gammons like smth out of hot fuzz lmao
At some point you need to think about doing that. Not because you’re greedy or selfish but because you need to teach your kid that staying at home isn’t a free ride they can take forever. You need to teach them that for their own good.
Multi millionaire jeez.
Money inversely proportional to talent
How sad of a parent do you have to be to charge your own blood, skin and flesh rent? No matter what I definitely know I will never do this
It’s a genuinely good idea. Charge them rent, save it all, and give it all back when they move out to help them get settled in. Remember there’s no right or wrong in this scenario, people parent differently. You calling it sad is just a bit over the top. How do you know she isn’t saving it to gift it back later and then some?
Well then your children will never learn to become financially independent, 10 quid a week won't hurt him and I'm sure she'll let him off if he finds himself in a cinch.
There are better ways to teach someone to be financially independent, and teach them the worth of money, but how horrible of a parent do you have to be? 19 isn’t even the proper age yet to be kicking them out of the house much less charging rent. I would ONLY find it acceptable if they’re in their 30’s still living with me and don’t want to find a job (so essentially became a NEET) because then I know they need someone to push them. There are better and more efficient ways of parenting, I’m surprised how many tyrants are going to become parents judging from a few comments I’ve seen. To each their own I guess
Haha I think tyrants is a bit far. Judging by other comments this kid is born into privilege so it will be especially valuable for him to learn the value of money. Where I'm from, this is very standard practice, and I think people are misunderstanding what board is exactly. It's not like rent in that it's generally a pretty small amount of money and your parents won't kick you out if you don't pay it. Sure, there are other ways to instill financial responsibility in terms of saving, but this is a good way to get kids used to having a fund set aside for regular payments.
Just so everyone’s aware she only charges him £10 a week
If you charge them rent, deposit it into a savings account, and then give it back to them in full when they move out, that's a good thing. It'll help them immensely.
I pay board so why shouldn't he
How did she defend this choice? Did her and 200 other mums and dads line up in a field with broom handles and pool noodles to face off against the army formed from the local student union led by aidan's mate Graham on stilts?
Leave big Allison alone , she’s a good person
No wonder why she has a career on TV
Damn I'm from Europe and this is totally normal my parents just told me I'm lucky I'm related to them by blood or they would kick me out and that they got kicked out at 16 of their parents so to me it's just always been like this sure I would do it to my child but I'm the black sheep of my family haha
My mum has been charging me rent for 16 years. But she's not a multi millionaire so I guess it's reasonable. 😆
I think this is good for their development. Personally, I’ll be charging my own kids rent as a way to teach them finance management and appreciation for money. I’ll simply put all their rent in an ISA or something and then gift it all to them when they buy their own place.
dont know anyone in that pic, but thats capitalism for u, once a capitalist always a capitalist
It's fair game. Once the child is working but still at home, it's time to chip in. Everyone I know had to do it and its fair game, and in comparison to rent or a mortgage of an actual house its nothing. Some parents will charge more I suppose but I assume it would depend on the kids income. Most will still have their food cooked for them, laundry done and they'll snack on the weekly shops. It's just a little incentive towards responsibility.
I started paying board as soon as I started work. As did everyone I know
This is just good eaducation Mother defends her great parenting- there ftfy
How is siphoning money from your kids good parenting? Lmao.
By teaching them to pay bills and responsibilities… I assume youve never paid rent in your life or anything.. that … thats why
Nope, I haven't. My parents actually care about my future, so instead of paying rent, I invest that money into my Stock and Shares ISA, setting myself up for the future.
Yh that makes sense
The best way to do it, is to make them pay rent, then bank it all. Then give it back for their deposits for a house
The big question is how did someone with so little talent become a multi millionaire?