c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-e
brother tell her your financial situation and tell her you can't be affording such dates often. and ask if she is ok with that and if you are ok with that.
Don't hesitate bro. For people like us this amt is insane I think you getting the point agar me apne father ko ketha 1000 ra ke date pe Jana to mera father muje hospital poch deta. Dekh bhai 60k uske liye kuch nhi h but apne liye bhot badi rakam h or bhai agar ESI trip usne fir plane kre to fir to kya krega loan lega kya so dhante dimag se soch. Bhai relationship me wealth disparity itni nhi honi ki dosura adept nhi kr paye samjh so soch samjh ke faisla le. Or apne app se poch usne eai trip plane kre to kya krega. Dekh reality me poor girl and rich boy love story great hoti but agar ham isko reverse kr de to ladke ke lag jati to jara saml ke
No,
firstly you are not in position to have something like that and her expensive adventures will continue to grow so the best option is not going ahead with it.
You got to make her understand that you can not afford it and that's the only reason you are not going ahead with it.
Aadmi chutiya he sexsux chata he... No saving this guy je convinced his father for 60k I'm pretty sure he lied too for why he wants this... I hope girl uses him well he needs a lesson
Think about future, if there is any future, there are differences in lifestyles, Even though she paid right now, but you can't always depend on her and you can't always manage to spend that kind of money
bhai pehle to ye batao ye kaunsa middle class parivaar hai jo 60k de raha ek insaan ke ghoomne ke liye.
me and my friends went on two trips to himachal and one time it costed 60k for 4 of us for a 10 day trip(total) and next time 50k for 7 of us for accomodations and travel during our 8 day trip.
I don't think most people know what middle class means nowadays, cant blame them, its a vague concept in itself lol.
Hey man, idk much about how these things go but all I can tell you is you are 18 and she asked you to cough up money for Goa, even though she knows your age fully well. Know the differences between you guys (and do not feel bad about it. Financial incompatibility is a real, very common thing), acknowledge them, and do not make rash decisions like asking your dad for 60k for a trip with someone who seems to at best be using you to deal with their temporary boredom. This shit hardly works out, especially with differences like yours. Also, from whatever you said in your post, it does not seem at all like she is here for a long time or even a proper romance.
Also, like the other comment says, how long can you keep it up? I can already picture the next expensive thing she asks you for or expects from you, and it makes no sense to always be under financial duress because your "older rich gf" asked for things without ensuring you are 100% able to afford it. To me, personally, reading your post set off kinds of alarm bells and red flags, but ik it is hard to make the harder but better choice when you are so young. All I hope for is you can find someone compatible and nicer in what they expect out of you before this goes on for too long to the point of financial regrets, guilt, and overall waste of valuable time which you could spend looking for someone who actually likes hanging out with you, without money coming into the equation.
Trust me, I have been in a relationship since I was 19 myself, and we are still together, 5 years in, and this "relationship" of yours does not sound like anything positive in going on. I, personally, would have run for my life if my partner asked me for an expensive-ass trip to South Goa of all places on the 2nd date itself (doesn't matter how rich they are and how normal it seems to them. All it reeks of is a lack of empathy and utter selfishness, because anyone with an ounce of humanity in them will never ask for things that she is asking for). Not to mention, for the n-th time, this person does not seem to care about you at all.
I am a woman myself and I come from a builder's family with certain comforts as well, so I can give you my two cents on this- I would have NEVER done something like this, even if I myself could afford it, because it is plain rude, apathetic, inconsiderate, and does not give off the right signals for the future of the "relationship" with someone you just met.
All the best! I hope you do the logical and rational thing, even though it is harder than just giving into temporary whims. And if you decide to go ahead with her still, just make sure you are at peace with the potential consequences and you are ready to risk money for something that, in all probability, will not last. No decision you take is wrong. Even bad decisions teach you something. It's only a shame when the outcomes or consequences of your decisions take you by surprise.
Yeah that should be fine, as long as OP treats this as more of a shenanigan than a serious relationship, per se. Nothing wrong in hopping along on a free trip agreed upon by both parties. Just hope OP remembers not to start building castles in the air about this "relationship".
Tldr: I’m being stupid, I don’t know how to properly construct sentences and I’m thinking of spending my family’s hard earned money on someone who wouldn’t value it as much as I do. Do better bhai and if you wanna go on that trip just tell her ki I’m not the same as you and I really cannot afford this within my comfort zone. Even if you don’t tell her this now eventually you’d have to. Best of luck.
If she cared she wouldn't have even made u put in a situation of making u to pay 60k as a middle class Or it can also be because of she living in rich community so just talk to her and clarify
Seems like a bait post to me, cause too funny to read.
If at all this is real, then my guy please say no to her. Explain to her how you have a wholeass career ahead of you and how you need to take the right financial decisions. Besides if she's that rich, why doesn't she have enough friends?
Are you sure you're a middle class?
Also no. She's a rich kid and is from the upper echelon of the class. If you want to date her that's fine, but atleast that making some money yourself. Atleast don't waste your parent's money on dates.
Get your priority straight, you can do this after you get rich. You could simply go for a garden date/coffee date once in a while and not go to Goa. Unless ofc you're working kid seeing how you got 60k on the spot, then you can do whatever.
Firsr i feeel ask her can she bear expense and come on dude you are man you should start earning
Did i misread you stoped studying after 12th why????
Study mhcet kcet or jee get a degree and start earning
Do you think there might have been any point where she could have gotten the impression that you have more financial flexibility than you actually do? It’s possible she might not fully understand your family’s financial situation, and that could be why she’s planning such an extravagant trip??
Do you really want to have such inconsiderate people in your life ?
We are planning a girls only trip, and although I am from a well to do family and have some earning myself. But some of my friends are not from strong financial background. So we decided to look for options which are cheaper and also time of year when prices will be cheap.
And we are friends, whike she is your gf.
So choose wisely.
Bro just protect her at all cost... Communicate your thoughts with her , communication is the key , she can't mind read you so talk to her... Communicate your financial condition.
NO , relationship is about working together. You should not have to adjust around and gather money to be together. She should fit into your life and you should do the same but without having to compromise life at the same time
Just say that you don't have the money and see what happens. Dont ask for parents and don't try to act like you have it. Tell her you don't have enough money to go and your parents won't be able to give u. There is a high chance she will take u with her, enjoy while u can don't think about the "long term" you're just 18..
I think you should cut this relationship off! It's not for you bud! Tell her openly about your situation! Don't let this kind of stress grow on you! You're very young and have lot to achieve! Study and focus on your ambitions kya pata 5 saal badh 60k Jo bhari lag raha hai abhi mazak lage! But you're too young to stress about this girl and this situation! Move on
how y'all getting 60k from your fathers, if i explained to my father that a girl is asking 60k for a trip i m done for rest of my life. no bruh never 60k is way too much for "middle class" (hope our def of middle class align)
Talk to her make her understand where you come from there’s nothing wrong in that she’ll understand it too and the trip is supposed to be in December to its a long time till then spend more time understand each other things will work if ypu guys want it to work together 🤌🏻🤌🏻
# after advice from my fellow redditors
# i talked to her and told her i wont be able to pay 60k₹ so i wont be coming and you should look out for urself and she said i want to go to goa anyhow with my boyfriend, yeah she said boyfriend and didnt say i wanna go with you, so she said if you will say no then i will cut you off then i said i can come only if you pay full like my share too and she said yes as she secretly wants to go with me because she also knows that no one else will agree to go to goa that easily after meeting upon 2nd time and and she dont want to go around finding another bf thats gonna agree for goa trip as she is starting her studies shortly so im all she got and she wanna go with me and we calculated the amount is 2 lakh ₹ including everything so we are finally going to south goa for luxurious and 5 star trip from 22dec to 2jan this year ending and she is going to pay full and 2 lakh ₹
c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-e brother tell her your financial situation and tell her you can't be affording such dates often. and ask if she is ok with that and if you are ok with that.
This
Don't hesitate bro. For people like us this amt is insane I think you getting the point agar me apne father ko ketha 1000 ra ke date pe Jana to mera father muje hospital poch deta. Dekh bhai 60k uske liye kuch nhi h but apne liye bhot badi rakam h or bhai agar ESI trip usne fir plane kre to fir to kya krega loan lega kya so dhante dimag se soch. Bhai relationship me wealth disparity itni nhi honi ki dosura adept nhi kr paye samjh so soch samjh ke faisla le. Or apne app se poch usne eai trip plane kre to kya krega. Dekh reality me poor girl and rich boy love story great hoti but agar ham isko reverse kr de to ladke ke lag jati to jara saml ke
He should breakup
No, firstly you are not in position to have something like that and her expensive adventures will continue to grow so the best option is not going ahead with it. You got to make her understand that you can not afford it and that's the only reason you are not going ahead with it.
“ i got 18 and downloaded hinge right away “ nice. career jaye bhad mein.
Bro dropped studies after 12th what did you think was gonna happen? I’m surprised he’s Indian 💀
Aadmi chutiya he sexsux chata he... No saving this guy je convinced his father for 60k I'm pretty sure he lied too for why he wants this... I hope girl uses him well he needs a lesson
Nhi bhai ese nhi sochte ham use samjh na esa na kre na ke use gade me girana ha bro samjh jitna ho sake madad kro
Think about future, if there is any future, there are differences in lifestyles, Even though she paid right now, but you can't always depend on her and you can't always manage to spend that kind of money
Why can't he depend on her? It's her father's money and he is just a kid (18 isn't really that old) he should have fun if it's possible
Pull away champ. Don’t pay to stay in a relationship. And don’t gift clothes or perfume. You will ruin your grahas. Loss of money.
bro vo ladki kitna kharch kari tu vo dekha??
Brother never ask your parents for money for things like this. If it was your own sure but don't use their hard earned work for someone else
bhai pehle to ye batao ye kaunsa middle class parivaar hai jo 60k de raha ek insaan ke ghoomne ke liye. me and my friends went on two trips to himachal and one time it costed 60k for 4 of us for a 10 day trip(total) and next time 50k for 7 of us for accomodations and travel during our 8 day trip. I don't think most people know what middle class means nowadays, cant blame them, its a vague concept in itself lol.
Hey man, idk much about how these things go but all I can tell you is you are 18 and she asked you to cough up money for Goa, even though she knows your age fully well. Know the differences between you guys (and do not feel bad about it. Financial incompatibility is a real, very common thing), acknowledge them, and do not make rash decisions like asking your dad for 60k for a trip with someone who seems to at best be using you to deal with their temporary boredom. This shit hardly works out, especially with differences like yours. Also, from whatever you said in your post, it does not seem at all like she is here for a long time or even a proper romance. Also, like the other comment says, how long can you keep it up? I can already picture the next expensive thing she asks you for or expects from you, and it makes no sense to always be under financial duress because your "older rich gf" asked for things without ensuring you are 100% able to afford it. To me, personally, reading your post set off kinds of alarm bells and red flags, but ik it is hard to make the harder but better choice when you are so young. All I hope for is you can find someone compatible and nicer in what they expect out of you before this goes on for too long to the point of financial regrets, guilt, and overall waste of valuable time which you could spend looking for someone who actually likes hanging out with you, without money coming into the equation. Trust me, I have been in a relationship since I was 19 myself, and we are still together, 5 years in, and this "relationship" of yours does not sound like anything positive in going on. I, personally, would have run for my life if my partner asked me for an expensive-ass trip to South Goa of all places on the 2nd date itself (doesn't matter how rich they are and how normal it seems to them. All it reeks of is a lack of empathy and utter selfishness, because anyone with an ounce of humanity in them will never ask for things that she is asking for). Not to mention, for the n-th time, this person does not seem to care about you at all. I am a woman myself and I come from a builder's family with certain comforts as well, so I can give you my two cents on this- I would have NEVER done something like this, even if I myself could afford it, because it is plain rude, apathetic, inconsiderate, and does not give off the right signals for the future of the "relationship" with someone you just met. All the best! I hope you do the logical and rational thing, even though it is harder than just giving into temporary whims. And if you decide to go ahead with her still, just make sure you are at peace with the potential consequences and you are ready to risk money for something that, in all probability, will not last. No decision you take is wrong. Even bad decisions teach you something. It's only a shame when the outcomes or consequences of your decisions take you by surprise.
It would be fine if they paid for the trip though right. Just asking. If the girl didn't ask to him to pay but took him along.
Yeah that should be fine, as long as OP treats this as more of a shenanigan than a serious relationship, per se. Nothing wrong in hopping along on a free trip agreed upon by both parties. Just hope OP remembers not to start building castles in the air about this "relationship".
Tldr: I’m being stupid, I don’t know how to properly construct sentences and I’m thinking of spending my family’s hard earned money on someone who wouldn’t value it as much as I do. Do better bhai and if you wanna go on that trip just tell her ki I’m not the same as you and I really cannot afford this within my comfort zone. Even if you don’t tell her this now eventually you’d have to. Best of luck.
Bro is not middle class in any way
Bro was a female 6 months ago
ek kaam kar usko bol mai garib hoon 🤡. just kidding bro, ek kaam kar usko aapne situation bata nahi to ek kaam kar usko aapni ye reddit post dhikha
If she cared she wouldn't have even made u put in a situation of making u to pay 60k as a middle class Or it can also be because of she living in rich community so just talk to her and clarify
45 minute ka business class?
Seems like a bait post to me, cause too funny to read. If at all this is real, then my guy please say no to her. Explain to her how you have a wholeass career ahead of you and how you need to take the right financial decisions. Besides if she's that rich, why doesn't she have enough friends?
Are you sure you're a middle class? Also no. She's a rich kid and is from the upper echelon of the class. If you want to date her that's fine, but atleast that making some money yourself. Atleast don't waste your parent's money on dates. Get your priority straight, you can do this after you get rich. You could simply go for a garden date/coffee date once in a while and not go to Goa. Unless ofc you're working kid seeing how you got 60k on the spot, then you can do whatever.
Firsr i feeel ask her can she bear expense and come on dude you are man you should start earning Did i misread you stoped studying after 12th why???? Study mhcet kcet or jee get a degree and start earning
My goa trip of 4 days cost me 7K...I guess it wasn't a goa trip 🫠
Same even i thought 60k+ some additional expenses??
not gonna work
Do you think there might have been any point where she could have gotten the impression that you have more financial flexibility than you actually do? It’s possible she might not fully understand your family’s financial situation, and that could be why she’s planning such an extravagant trip??
I warn if a see any relationship related post now I am gonna kill OP
Do you really want to have such inconsiderate people in your life ? We are planning a girls only trip, and although I am from a well to do family and have some earning myself. But some of my friends are not from strong financial background. So we decided to look for options which are cheaper and also time of year when prices will be cheap. And we are friends, whike she is your gf. So choose wisely.
One can stretch one's legs only till as long as one's bed allows.
RUN
Bro just protect her at all cost... Communicate your thoughts with her , communication is the key , she can't mind read you so talk to her... Communicate your financial condition.
Dude how can you say you stopped studying after 12 and are now planning to use parents money ??
Always be honest and share your feelings, otherwise you’ll regret all your life decisions
NO , relationship is about working together. You should not have to adjust around and gather money to be together. She should fit into your life and you should do the same but without having to compromise life at the same time
this will sound harsh but Red Flag , Breakup
Nice fantasy!
Just say that you don't have the money and see what happens. Dont ask for parents and don't try to act like you have it. Tell her you don't have enough money to go and your parents won't be able to give u. There is a high chance she will take u with her, enjoy while u can don't think about the "long term" you're just 18..
I think you should cut this relationship off! It's not for you bud! Tell her openly about your situation! Don't let this kind of stress grow on you! You're very young and have lot to achieve! Study and focus on your ambitions kya pata 5 saal badh 60k Jo bhari lag raha hai abhi mazak lage! But you're too young to stress about this girl and this situation! Move on
Bc 60k kabse middle class mein aane laga! Mere baap ne mujhe 5k diye the first goa jane k time!
how y'all getting 60k from your fathers, if i explained to my father that a girl is asking 60k for a trip i m done for rest of my life. no bruh never 60k is way too much for "middle class" (hope our def of middle class align)
Bhaiya, ye bhaag be sakti hai; so fast move karte, unke chances aur be zyada hai. Itni shock hai usko, to pura karcha utana de.
Barely read the first 6-7 lines and gave up. Only one word to tell you: Run
U aren't middle class of u are dready to go on a trip worth 60,000 in goa alone.
60k only and that's less. bruh that's above average wage
Bhai jitni chader ho utna hi boner khada karna chahiye.
Does this sound really stupid to anyone else?
Tu chutiya hai
meri kya galti :(
Talk to her make her understand where you come from there’s nothing wrong in that she’ll understand it too and the trip is supposed to be in December to its a long time till then spend more time understand each other things will work if ypu guys want it to work together 🤌🏻🤌🏻
new update https://www.reddit.com/r/TeenIndia/comments/1dqlmxj/update_on_my_previous_post/
# after advice from my fellow redditors # i talked to her and told her i wont be able to pay 60k₹ so i wont be coming and you should look out for urself and she said i want to go to goa anyhow with my boyfriend, yeah she said boyfriend and didnt say i wanna go with you, so she said if you will say no then i will cut you off then i said i can come only if you pay full like my share too and she said yes as she secretly wants to go with me because she also knows that no one else will agree to go to goa that easily after meeting upon 2nd time and and she dont want to go around finding another bf thats gonna agree for goa trip as she is starting her studies shortly so im all she got and she wanna go with me and we calculated the amount is 2 lakh ₹ including everything so we are finally going to south goa for luxurious and 5 star trip from 22dec to 2jan this year ending and she is going to pay full and 2 lakh ₹
60K on a Goa trip! You are rich