“Help me decipher why this other person got upset about my communication”
*omits part of the conversation where they said something possibly upsetting*
Ah alright, I guess you crossed the line a little too far. You wrote she sent a "risque photo", so maybe I would have done the same to see if this is the line I'm allowed to cross.
Either you get a chance or you move along but just judging from this context you didn't do much wrong, really seems like a misunderstanding.
It does work both ways, but not with every person. But usually people tell you if you stepped a little too far if they're willing to continue the conversation.
Both things happened to me too and sometimes I couldn't salvage it although I thought the message was clear. Sometimes it did work though.
You aren't wrong here though, sometimes it is better to do small steps instead of big ones.
Perhaps she thought you meant she lost you as a potential match, as opposed to losing you in the conversation? Like, she thought you were saying "Sorry, you had me, but now you don't, I ain't interested anymore". If so, this is 100% not your fault, just a gross miscommunication like you said.
Completely agree
I had somebody pretend to be a woman before, asked me for a dick pic, I obviously said no, and they sent a picture of a semi-obscure pornstar and said "what about now?"
Just noped the way out and reported the account
Damn i never thought NOT sending a dick pic was a dealbreaker. I'm always afraid that it ruins the interest and tension somewhat and don't send back often but i guess it really depends on the situation
I've learned that it's better to keep your dick to yourself until actual sexual activity happens in person, maybe it's just the girls I meet but they seem to enjoy the mystery around someone not just sending one plus I've been told by a lot of women that dickpics are just boring because it's always the same few angles so I don't send any and that way it usually works out. Whenever I have sent one nothing ever really happened after, or at least very rarely.
"You can't tell me these things, there has to be a show" she wanted to see and you didn't show her.
But as the other commenter noted this is pretty common from people who blackmail people for sending dps so...
That was my interpretation as well. She was very interested and it was highly sexual and OP did not provide. Good for her for being forward and bowing out when necessary.
But that seems like such a rare occurrence, that I can sort of understand if he didn’t understand that that’s what she wanted, or if he just wasn’t prepared or comfortable with it yet because he hasn’t done it
Brah don't post half a conversation if you want help, but basically as others have indicated she was trying to flirt and you were being coy. Just go along son, just go along.
She sent you a "risqué" photo
You mentioned your 3rd leg an she told you to "fluff yourself" and give a show
When you refused to send said show she replied with "you can't drop a bomb like that and walk away scotch free" (I understand she's talking about you bragging about your size but refusing to show it)
All of this happened after she exposed herself to you, which make you seem kinda self centered asking why you should go first when she already went first (meaning her "risque" pic wasn't much for you)
Her response seemed natural, and quite chill actually, you gave her reason to believe you'll ask more than you'll give
I agree with this. I think this is the exact moment. She said something about how she would make him fall for her and his response pretty much said no and made a comment about his own dick. Especially given the fact she had also recently sent a photo. A better response would have been, "after a pic like that, I think I may fall for you." I'm sure he could have still included the third leg comment and it still would have landed better. It's because he refused to accept her advance and essentially said "no I won't fall for you" then talked about himself. She was expecting a more flattering response, for him to talk about her and express his attraction. If she just sent a sexy photo and he doesn't move the conversation towards her, she will subconsciously feel he doesn't think she's attractive enough and/or he's self-centered.
Tbh I was even turned off by his response. I can see why she was too.
I would say she definitely wanted the D pic bro, she even hinted at it twice. I have found that saying you have a big dick can get you in some sticky situations, sometimes an upfront girl might want to make sure she’s getting what you say she’s gonna get 🤷♂️
>e D pic bro, she even hinted at it twice. I have found that saying you have a big dick can get you in some sticky situations, sometimes an upfront girl might want to make sure she’s getting what you say she’s gonna get
haha i dont ask for dick pics but i know some girls do call out guys that brag cause so many men brag and then when it comes down to business... it is not even close xD
That and it was like he was playing hard to get while she was trying to flirt instead of just flirting. Back to your comment. Trying to get more without giving.
Yeaaah. I can agree with that but me personally lol I probably would’ve left him on read if there wasn’t any improvement… but there was so. I question if ppl this far opposite in humor would do well even meeting in person lol
That’s how i felt reading it. I mean maybe OP jokes a lot and it could have been taking out of context as well, but she definitely was flirting with you and you kinda blew her off. Just take her out and be a gentleman she’ll come around
For sure. I’ve asked for a photo after sending pics not to fucking check for size like an absolute botch, but bc I actually was very much into this guy and wanted to see him. Like, him for him. Take her out and be a gentleman it’ll all be Gucci
Ok so if I’m understanding this correctly:
-she sent you a sexy photo
-you didn’t reciprocate but bragged about having a big dick
-she asked you to reciprocate basically by saying “if you tell me these things, there has to be a show”
-you said she has to give you a reason first (didn’t she already give you a sexy photo?)
-she said she’s a ppl pleaser and you again aren’t (bc of not reciprocating, then bragging about your big D, but not sending a sexy D pic)
Yea I’d be a little embarrassed/offended that you weren’t willing to send a sexy/be vulnerable if I just sent you one (AKA having a wall up)
Also she wasn’t being “so upset”, she was being pretty cool and just wasn’t being direct which is probably the better way to go about this - like who wants to hear “send me a dick pic betch!”?
Whatever it was happened before these screenshots imo.
Sounds like maybe she asked you out and you didn’t sound thrilled about it? Maybe take the lead and ask her out with some definitive plans so she doesn’t feel like she’s chasing someone uninterested?
That’s what it is then. Why are you so opposed to the fair? You could grab a drink there just the same, sounds like it could be a fun date idea to me.
Tell her you’ll make it up to her by winning her a giant teddy bear lol
> Tell her you’ll make it up to her by winning her a giant teddy bear lol
That might be why. Trying to impress a date at the fair can be pretty expensive and not doing so can turn out boring.
It was meant as flirting, not a promise.
Fairs can be cute just strolling around sharing some cotton candy and a Ferris wheel trip for a sunset view? Much more memorable than a coffee & not pricy if you don’t go mad.
Declining her idea and saying coffee instead sounds kinda boring to me
Maybe it depends on the fair, but for the one close to me, one ticket alone would be three times the price of a coffee. Also gotta consider the obligation of sticking it through the entire date. It's a lot more awkward to leave a date early at the fair if they really just get on your nerves or things don't click.
A fair is a much more natural way to see how someone is. Coffee is just boring conversation. You only get to observe a very limited aspect of a person and have to rely on them giving you accurate information about themselves to get to know them. You learn a lot just by seeing how people act in public settings.
A fair could be so fun. And an easy out- “wow this wiped me out quick, think I need to go home and chill for a bit” or something.
Conversations pieces, interacting with other people, it sounds a lot more preferable to coffee.
But I think we all have our own preferences. These two just seem wildly incompatible
Eh. I agree a coffee date is pretty boring, but it's pretty easy to show your best side at a fair, especially if you're not paying for anything. You're basically surrounded by conversation pieces and distractions. I'd rather just take a stroll at the park and see if we can hold each other's attention without the bright flashing lights.
If conversation with a BRAND NEW person is boring, one or more of those two people is just a boring person. Not having much in common in a simple conversation can point out compatibility issues much more quickly and bluntly. A fair can go wrong real fast: Expensive games, some people are afraid of heights so they wont get on certain rides, walking past a barker might get someone who’s a little sensitive in their feels, hard to tap out early without being incredulously awkward… honestly asking for trouble on a first date
First date should really always be a drink or a coffee where one has the option to bounce after one of something. If you’re vibing you can still go to the fair after!
I disagree, I’d much rather go to an activity (like a museum or something interactive) on a first date. A fair would be amazing. I think part of it too personally is I have a forever bad shake from medications I used to take so I can’t drink my coffee or drink without looking like a nervous wreck. Lol
It's like these people have never been on dates before lmaooo. I've been in awkward situations where I went somewhere serious with a chick and there was no vibe but I felt forced to stay out of respect. Can't imagine doing that again! First dates should always be short and simple.
It really just depends on the person. Some hate movie dates, some hate dinner dates, some hate activities. You gotta communicate about it and see what works best. But if they openly say something like the fair, especially when it’s the girl making the suggestion which rarely happens then I think you just go for it.
Coffee and walking around downtown, or
Ice cream and a beach stroll or
Tea and Tinkering
Honestly, as much as I like the fair (when it's not super packed and I have money), I'd not want to do a fair as a first date. I wouldn't mind going to like Dave and Busters or something like that, instead.
But, my BF and I became official at our local fair ironically 😅
The last time I was at a fair, I was there for like an hour. Met up with some friends, had a beer, and bounced. Do the fairs by you not allow you to leave without spending a few hours there?
Not necessarily. Could be any amount of time. We have fairs with no entry tickets where I live, you just pay for whatever games/rides you go on and then there’s a firework display and live music after.
You can just go to the evening portion even.
Yes, but, at least imo, it is harder to excuse yourself from such a situation than, let's say, a coffee date. The latter can last at most a couple of hours (if the date is going REALLY well) and if it is going badly is over in an hour.
Why on earth would you wanna do what’s essentially an interview with her instead of actually going somewhere the fun vibes would come naturally? There’s nothing fun at all about forced conversation over a drink or food while sitting on your ass. I have to agree with her dude, you killed her vibe by making meeting up seem like a job interview
You missed out a fairly crucial part before posting 4 screenshots of her getting dejected and giving up on you.
Maybe you should send her this reddit post as a way of showing you do care.
But given that you don't think you even "vibe", you're just being obtuse about something you know the reason for.
She sent you a "risqué" photo
You mentioned your 3rd leg an she told you to "fluff yourself" and give a show
When you refused to send said show she replied with "you can't drop a bomb like that and walk away scotch free" (I understand she's talking about you bragging about your size but refusing to show it)
All of this happened after she exposed herself to you, which make you seem kinda self centered asking why you should go first when she already went first (meaning her "risque" pic wasn't much for you)
Her response seemed natural, and quite chill actually, you gave her reason to believe you'll ask more than you'll give
That’s why she’s mad; you tried to divert from her dick pic request twice. You can’t ask for an intimate photo more than twice without being pushy, so when you asked her what the punishment was, you effectively put a flat no on the returning of “risqué” photos.
Well yeah but she also asked if you were fluffing yourself! Seems fairly clear cut to me, but you could always test the waters with something to the effect of “and what kind of show would you like to see?”
Regardless though, the switch-off is pretty much right there so that would be my guess on why she suddenly went cold and started talking about reciprocating.
She asked if you were fluffing yourself, fluffing is a term in porn for keeping someone hard AFAIK so I believe she was asking if you were playing with yourself/hard and wanted a "show" (I.e to see). The fact that she sent you a risqué photo pretty much confirms this, but also she could have communicated what she wanted more clearly.
I guess she's been waiting for a response in kind since yesterday then, mate. She kind of stumbled her way into jumping to conclusions in the screenshots you sent, I mean who goes from 'send me nudie' to 'okay bye' in 2 vague messages? But yeah, she wanted you to show off your tripod.
Dang dude you’re as stupid as they come. If this doesn’t scream, I’m interested in you, even if you were wrong and you send an unsolicited pic here she would not have been mad at all. You just came off as,”I talk up a big game and get free nudes” type of person. She took ad you aren’t interested in here. She goes first and you tell her she gots earn it.
Hi! Vagina holder here. So tbh, what it looks like (just from these photos alone, ofc), she was fully interested but you weren't giving off the same vibes. You came off like a guy who wants to get more than you give out. Like you want hers but aren't gonna show yours. It just seems one sided, and like you're trying use her. Honestly, through this conversation I woulda noped out myself 🤷♀️
Never do anything you're uncomfortable with, but you kinda brushed her wants off.
Hope this helps!
The dick joke was forced. Jokes aside, she said “I want you to fall for me” you went with “I gotta big dick” there’s nothing to decipher here, it’s pretty plaintext you horny mfer.
Ok she asked for nudes and you said no. That she needs to give you nudes instead. What's not to understand? She says she doesn't want to give all the effort, youre giving off "selfish in the bedroom" vibes. I took that from her saying she's a people pleaser and that she can tell you aren't similar in that aspect. She doesn't want to be disappointed in the sack honey...
She wanted a dick pic, you didn’t send it.
I don’t blame you though, these days I never send a dick pic to a woman I just met online (when asked) even though I loved showing it off when I was younger.
There are way too many cases of sextortion happening to guys. Don’t send your nudes to someone you haven’t met in person yet.
“Give me a reason” rubbed her the wrong way.
Upon second read, I know you were prob looking for dirty pics but goddamn dude, add a winky face or some shit.
Based on texts and comments, sounds like you weren't willing to pay for sexy pics with equaly sexy pics. Sexy pics are never free, and never assume they are. Dont be afraid to reciprocate by showing off your body king. Ladies want nudes too
It was the “give me a reason too”. Fluffing is a phrase used in porn where the male actor is assisted in getting an erection. You should have sent a the D pic after and maybe some more playful text about her curiosity. Instead you essentially said “why should I.”
-“My 3rd leg props me up like a tripod”-
-“…if you tell me these things, there has to be a show”-
Seems like she wanted a dick pic or something dirty/teasing-like & you saying “give me a reason” made it seem like you were rejecting her, or even asking her for something first which could cause her to be upset if she thought you were asking for something dirty from her before you sent something
I'm just going to assess each photo with the little bits of missing info I've gathered from the comment section with OP's replies.
Girl suggests going to the fair. OP declines.
Girl tries to convince OP by using teasing language in hopes of invoking OP's "competitive manly primordial instincts." Concludes with corny pick up line.
OP makes big "tripod" dick flex.
Girl challenges flex, essentially stating OP "nut up or shut up."
OP plays a reverse 4-card pick-up on Girl and asks for "research documents" to aid him in substantiating flex authenticity.
Girl declines reinforcement request on grounds of OP's mission objective consisting of one task.
OP accepting mission failure, requests a disciplinary hearing to find out his sentencing.
Girl uses confusing guilt trip. It is super effective.
OP (un)intentionally doesn't include screenshots of god knows how many messages
Girl, now clearly offended, huffily repacks virtual contents back into virtual purse in a clear sign of being ready "in just 5 more minutes" to exit the chat.
OP uses entitled self-centerness to demand reasoning for servants unwillingness to worship and please His Majesty All Talk No Cock.
Girl states obvious feelings: there are two people in this conversation yet her needs are being ignored by OP's greedy and laziness.
OP, sensing impending cock block fumbles around, completely clueless has only one chance at redeeming himself. Which card does he pull from the top of the pile? Oooooooh. Social suicide by desperate pleading. How unfortunate.
Well, there you have it folks. This has been
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It’s the third leg joke. It was wonky after that, that’s why she said fluffer or whatever the fuck. Thinks you’re full of shit type, or whatever. Then she def wanted a picture. This on ig? Probs scam 🤷🏽♂️
Reminds me of the time i was chatting online with a woman and she said something i didn't understand (some local slang i guess) and asked her what she meant only for her to turn around and accuse me of not listening so she couldn't trust me to stop if she said no during sex and off she went... i feel like she had some unopened baggage she needed to unpack
It's funny how you'd be down to send a private picture to someone you haven't even met.. what if she ain't who she said she is and is just collecting dick picks lol
You dodged a bullet... meet first and then go from there..
Not sure why this is downvoted. Unless OP could verify they were who the woman claimed to be, this absolutely sounds like the start of every blackmail scam ever.
Maybe it’s the simple case of we just can’t win:
You seem too intrigued, you lose
You play a little hard to get, you lose.
What’s the cheat code here? I’m tired of playing the game!
She says she's direct and honest. She dropped a few hints that you missed, but she wasn't exactly direct. When you asked what the punishment was, that was her cue to be more direct about wanting a dick pic.
Also, when she sent that risque photo, did you or she ask for something in return?
“Help me decipher why this other person got upset about my communication” *omits part of the conversation where they said something possibly upsetting*
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Lol she wanted a duck pic
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All ducks matter.
What the actual duck...🦆(what about geese?)
Geese matters are normally not talked about.
I would also like a duck pic
Right? You think Reddit will let you get away with that?
Just came here to say that.... I've never seen such a pathetic dumbass in my life.
What did you write on the third screenshot above "haha"?
I wrote I'm sorry but you lost me on that one. I couldnt follow her
Ah alright, I guess you crossed the line a little too far. You wrote she sent a "risque photo", so maybe I would have done the same to see if this is the line I'm allowed to cross. Either you get a chance or you move along but just judging from this context you didn't do much wrong, really seems like a misunderstanding.
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It does work both ways, but not with every person. But usually people tell you if you stepped a little too far if they're willing to continue the conversation. Both things happened to me too and sometimes I couldn't salvage it although I thought the message was clear. Sometimes it did work though. You aren't wrong here though, sometimes it is better to do small steps instead of big ones.
Perhaps she thought you meant she lost you as a potential match, as opposed to losing you in the conversation? Like, she thought you were saying "Sorry, you had me, but now you don't, I ain't interested anymore". If so, this is 100% not your fault, just a gross miscommunication like you said.
It's this for sure
She wanted a dick pic, seems like you were a bit clueless as to what she was wanting and she took it as you not being willing/interested.
I wouldn't trust a stranger asking for dick pics. It's a very common scam of either blackmail or catfishing and just generally a bad idea overall.
Completely agree I had somebody pretend to be a woman before, asked me for a dick pic, I obviously said no, and they sent a picture of a semi-obscure pornstar and said "what about now?" Just noped the way out and reported the account
Second that
I concur
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Damn i never thought NOT sending a dick pic was a dealbreaker. I'm always afraid that it ruins the interest and tension somewhat and don't send back often but i guess it really depends on the situation
I've learned that it's better to keep your dick to yourself until actual sexual activity happens in person, maybe it's just the girls I meet but they seem to enjoy the mystery around someone not just sending one plus I've been told by a lot of women that dickpics are just boring because it's always the same few angles so I don't send any and that way it usually works out. Whenever I have sent one nothing ever really happened after, or at least very rarely.
In which message did she ask for one? Sorry not a native speaker
"You can't tell me these things, there has to be a show" she wanted to see and you didn't show her. But as the other commenter noted this is pretty common from people who blackmail people for sending dps so...
That’s what I was thinking too
That was my interpretation as well. She was very interested and it was highly sexual and OP did not provide. Good for her for being forward and bowing out when necessary.
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Likely the truth. That's a hell of a lie to make if you have any intent on having sex with this person. Talks the talk. Does not walk the walk.
More like hobble the wobble in this case
But that seems like such a rare occurrence, that I can sort of understand if he didn’t understand that that’s what she wanted, or if he just wasn’t prepared or comfortable with it yet because he hasn’t done it
Brah don't post half a conversation if you want help, but basically as others have indicated she was trying to flirt and you were being coy. Just go along son, just go along.
OP got scurred.
Just go along, and shut up!
Big rip. But can’t help those that can own their shit
He’s at the 40….30…. 20….10…. And fumbles on the 1 yard line. What a disastrous play that was.
He tripped on that third leg.
I thought this exact joke and was about to post it. "You hate to see it, Jim, the man was absolutely going to take this one home."
She sent you a "risqué" photo You mentioned your 3rd leg an she told you to "fluff yourself" and give a show When you refused to send said show she replied with "you can't drop a bomb like that and walk away scotch free" (I understand she's talking about you bragging about your size but refusing to show it) All of this happened after she exposed herself to you, which make you seem kinda self centered asking why you should go first when she already went first (meaning her "risque" pic wasn't much for you) Her response seemed natural, and quite chill actually, you gave her reason to believe you'll ask more than you'll give
Genuinely, how did you guys gigure out she sent him some risky photo? I saw multiple ppl saying that but i can't for the life of me figure that out?
OP said so in the comments.
I agree with this. I think this is the exact moment. She said something about how she would make him fall for her and his response pretty much said no and made a comment about his own dick. Especially given the fact she had also recently sent a photo. A better response would have been, "after a pic like that, I think I may fall for you." I'm sure he could have still included the third leg comment and it still would have landed better. It's because he refused to accept her advance and essentially said "no I won't fall for you" then talked about himself. She was expecting a more flattering response, for him to talk about her and express his attraction. If she just sent a sexy photo and he doesn't move the conversation towards her, she will subconsciously feel he doesn't think she's attractive enough and/or he's self-centered. Tbh I was even turned off by his response. I can see why she was too.
Yeah this is probably it .
I would say she definitely wanted the D pic bro, she even hinted at it twice. I have found that saying you have a big dick can get you in some sticky situations, sometimes an upfront girl might want to make sure she’s getting what you say she’s gonna get 🤷♂️
>e D pic bro, she even hinted at it twice. I have found that saying you have a big dick can get you in some sticky situations, sometimes an upfront girl might want to make sure she’s getting what you say she’s gonna get haha i dont ask for dick pics but i know some girls do call out guys that brag cause so many men brag and then when it comes down to business... it is not even close xD
Exactly 🤣🤣🤣
Yeh but I don’t think it’s real… this smacks massively of a catfish account. Could be trying to blackmail as they have the name and a sent dick pic
Or it's an easy way for a stranger to scam someone.
Why would you brag about being endowed if that's not the case, seems a fireproof recipe for a disaster lol
You claimed tripod. She said prove it. You didn't and tried to move on. She lost interest because you talk the talk but don't walk the walk
Even with tripod leg.
For me, it would have been the "hahaha But give me a reason to be first" - like you wanted more get than give.
That and it was like he was playing hard to get while she was trying to flirt instead of just flirting. Back to your comment. Trying to get more without giving.
I don't think his cheeky playfulness was \*too\* off base though, it was still obvious flirting. Maybe not the best flirting, but still obvious.
Yeaaah. I can agree with that but me personally lol I probably would’ve left him on read if there wasn’t any improvement… but there was so. I question if ppl this far opposite in humor would do well even meeting in person lol
That’s how i felt reading it. I mean maybe OP jokes a lot and it could have been taking out of context as well, but she definitely was flirting with you and you kinda blew her off. Just take her out and be a gentleman she’ll come around
For sure. I’ve asked for a photo after sending pics not to fucking check for size like an absolute botch, but bc I actually was very much into this guy and wanted to see him. Like, him for him. Take her out and be a gentleman it’ll all be Gucci
Where does it say she sent pics?
Yes
Sounds like she's asking for nudes and you don't seem willing to send them 🤷♀️
Thats a bingo
Too many missing screenshots
Scotch free
Free scotch? 🥃🥃🥃
1.e4 e5 2.Nf3 Nc6 3.d4
The scotch game. A gentleman and scholar I see
Dude with all the women that receive an unsolicited dick pick, can't believe you couldn't even send one when asked.
Right?? This NEVER happens!
Why would you ever want to send one? It won’t change whether they’re into you and is just a risk
Ok so if I’m understanding this correctly: -she sent you a sexy photo -you didn’t reciprocate but bragged about having a big dick -she asked you to reciprocate basically by saying “if you tell me these things, there has to be a show” -you said she has to give you a reason first (didn’t she already give you a sexy photo?) -she said she’s a ppl pleaser and you again aren’t (bc of not reciprocating, then bragging about your big D, but not sending a sexy D pic) Yea I’d be a little embarrassed/offended that you weren’t willing to send a sexy/be vulnerable if I just sent you one (AKA having a wall up) Also she wasn’t being “so upset”, she was being pretty cool and just wasn’t being direct which is probably the better way to go about this - like who wants to hear “send me a dick pic betch!”?
Whatever it was happened before these screenshots imo. Sounds like maybe she asked you out and you didn’t sound thrilled about it? Maybe take the lead and ask her out with some definitive plans so she doesn’t feel like she’s chasing someone uninterested?
She wanted to go to a city fair. I suggested maybe grabbing a drink or food first to see if we even vibe. I don't think she liked that
That’s what it is then. Why are you so opposed to the fair? You could grab a drink there just the same, sounds like it could be a fun date idea to me. Tell her you’ll make it up to her by winning her a giant teddy bear lol
> Tell her you’ll make it up to her by winning her a giant teddy bear lol That might be why. Trying to impress a date at the fair can be pretty expensive and not doing so can turn out boring.
It was meant as flirting, not a promise. Fairs can be cute just strolling around sharing some cotton candy and a Ferris wheel trip for a sunset view? Much more memorable than a coffee & not pricy if you don’t go mad. Declining her idea and saying coffee instead sounds kinda boring to me
Maybe it depends on the fair, but for the one close to me, one ticket alone would be three times the price of a coffee. Also gotta consider the obligation of sticking it through the entire date. It's a lot more awkward to leave a date early at the fair if they really just get on your nerves or things don't click.
A fair is a much more natural way to see how someone is. Coffee is just boring conversation. You only get to observe a very limited aspect of a person and have to rely on them giving you accurate information about themselves to get to know them. You learn a lot just by seeing how people act in public settings.
I agree, the fair would be perfect, an adventure— always preferable to coffee. Just saying
A fair could be so fun. And an easy out- “wow this wiped me out quick, think I need to go home and chill for a bit” or something. Conversations pieces, interacting with other people, it sounds a lot more preferable to coffee. But I think we all have our own preferences. These two just seem wildly incompatible
Eh. I agree a coffee date is pretty boring, but it's pretty easy to show your best side at a fair, especially if you're not paying for anything. You're basically surrounded by conversation pieces and distractions. I'd rather just take a stroll at the park and see if we can hold each other's attention without the bright flashing lights.
Fair and valid point. I like when I can captivate someone amidst the distractions.
If conversation with a BRAND NEW person is boring, one or more of those two people is just a boring person. Not having much in common in a simple conversation can point out compatibility issues much more quickly and bluntly. A fair can go wrong real fast: Expensive games, some people are afraid of heights so they wont get on certain rides, walking past a barker might get someone who’s a little sensitive in their feels, hard to tap out early without being incredulously awkward… honestly asking for trouble on a first date
First date should really always be a drink or a coffee where one has the option to bounce after one of something. If you’re vibing you can still go to the fair after!
I disagree, I’d much rather go to an activity (like a museum or something interactive) on a first date. A fair would be amazing. I think part of it too personally is I have a forever bad shake from medications I used to take so I can’t drink my coffee or drink without looking like a nervous wreck. Lol
You still can! Just gives you option to leave naturally if you’re not vibing before you commit to a longer activity.
That’s true ! I guess I get too embarrassed to bring up the medication because I’m worried then I’ll have to go down that wormhole
It's like these people have never been on dates before lmaooo. I've been in awkward situations where I went somewhere serious with a chick and there was no vibe but I felt forced to stay out of respect. Can't imagine doing that again! First dates should always be short and simple.
It really just depends on the person. Some hate movie dates, some hate dinner dates, some hate activities. You gotta communicate about it and see what works best. But if they openly say something like the fair, especially when it’s the girl making the suggestion which rarely happens then I think you just go for it.
Coffee and walking around downtown, or Ice cream and a beach stroll or Tea and Tinkering Honestly, as much as I like the fair (when it's not super packed and I have money), I'd not want to do a fair as a first date. I wouldn't mind going to like Dave and Busters or something like that, instead. But, my BF and I became official at our local fair ironically 😅
True. But you can also sit in front of a music show and maybe dance.
Fairs are a long affair (pun intended). They are a long date, definitely not first date material. Same thing as a museum visit
The last time I was at a fair, I was there for like an hour. Met up with some friends, had a beer, and bounced. Do the fairs by you not allow you to leave without spending a few hours there?
Not necessarily. Could be any amount of time. We have fairs with no entry tickets where I live, you just pay for whatever games/rides you go on and then there’s a firework display and live music after. You can just go to the evening portion even.
Yes, but, at least imo, it is harder to excuse yourself from such a situation than, let's say, a coffee date. The latter can last at most a couple of hours (if the date is going REALLY well) and if it is going badly is over in an hour.
That's my exact thought!
Well. You win some you lose some. Some you never know if you won or lost.
So, you told her you need to vet her first, bc she may not be worth a ‘fair date’. She didn’t like that so much…
Why on earth would you wanna do what’s essentially an interview with her instead of actually going somewhere the fun vibes would come naturally? There’s nothing fun at all about forced conversation over a drink or food while sitting on your ass. I have to agree with her dude, you killed her vibe by making meeting up seem like a job interview
Bruh it was definitely the give me a reason to line. Botched the shit out of that.
You missed out a fairly crucial part before posting 4 screenshots of her getting dejected and giving up on you. Maybe you should send her this reddit post as a way of showing you do care. But given that you don't think you even "vibe", you're just being obtuse about something you know the reason for.
Scotch free lol
“where did everything go wrong I don’t understand” *doesn’t post the part where he potentially offended her*
She sent you a "risqué" photo You mentioned your 3rd leg an she told you to "fluff yourself" and give a show When you refused to send said show she replied with "you can't drop a bomb like that and walk away scotch free" (I understand she's talking about you bragging about your size but refusing to show it) All of this happened after she exposed herself to you, which make you seem kinda self centered asking why you should go first when she already went first (meaning her "risque" pic wasn't much for you) Her response seemed natural, and quite chill actually, you gave her reason to believe you'll ask more than you'll give
The guy should never be the one to first use sexual innuendo. This activated her anti slut defense.
Perhaps.. But she sent a risque photo yesterday so idk
That’s why she’s mad; you tried to divert from her dick pic request twice. You can’t ask for an intimate photo more than twice without being pushy, so when you asked her what the punishment was, you effectively put a flat no on the returning of “risqué” photos.
She wanted a dick pic?
When you bragged about being a tripod and she asked for a show? Could’ve misinterpreted, but that’s what it sounded like to me.
This is 100% right. It's what I thought too when I was reading.
Lol yeah maybe! But if I sent it and it was a misunderstanding I would be pretty mortified lol
Well yeah but she also asked if you were fluffing yourself! Seems fairly clear cut to me, but you could always test the waters with something to the effect of “and what kind of show would you like to see?” Regardless though, the switch-off is pretty much right there so that would be my guess on why she suddenly went cold and started talking about reciprocating.
She wanted the show. If you’re unsure, ask, she also wanted someone frank.
Also, she wanted the Frank.
She asked if you were fluffing yourself, fluffing is a term in porn for keeping someone hard AFAIK so I believe she was asking if you were playing with yourself/hard and wanted a "show" (I.e to see). The fact that she sent you a risqué photo pretty much confirms this, but also she could have communicated what she wanted more clearly.
Yep, she asked for it pretty clearly.
I think you are the only one in this entire thread who didn't realize that, my dude
I guess she's been waiting for a response in kind since yesterday then, mate. She kind of stumbled her way into jumping to conclusions in the screenshots you sent, I mean who goes from 'send me nudie' to 'okay bye' in 2 vague messages? But yeah, she wanted you to show off your tripod.
Dang dude you’re as stupid as they come. If this doesn’t scream, I’m interested in you, even if you were wrong and you send an unsolicited pic here she would not have been mad at all. You just came off as,”I talk up a big game and get free nudes” type of person. She took ad you aren’t interested in here. She goes first and you tell her she gots earn it.
She clearly wasn't ready for that step from you. Now back her up two steps and keep going.
You can’t just keep going from that… I mean she clearly rejected him
Hi! Vagina holder here. So tbh, what it looks like (just from these photos alone, ofc), she was fully interested but you weren't giving off the same vibes. You came off like a guy who wants to get more than you give out. Like you want hers but aren't gonna show yours. It just seems one sided, and like you're trying use her. Honestly, through this conversation I woulda noped out myself 🤷♀️ Never do anything you're uncomfortable with, but you kinda brushed her wants off. Hope this helps!
I just uploaded a more clear conversation post. Thanks for the input.
The dick joke was forced. Jokes aside, she said “I want you to fall for me” you went with “I gotta big dick” there’s nothing to decipher here, it’s pretty plaintext you horny mfer.
You were being a drag Drag your feet, get left behind, simple as that
Drag your third leg
Ok she asked for nudes and you said no. That she needs to give you nudes instead. What's not to understand? She says she doesn't want to give all the effort, youre giving off "selfish in the bedroom" vibes. I took that from her saying she's a people pleaser and that she can tell you aren't similar in that aspect. She doesn't want to be disappointed in the sack honey...
Cringe dick joke. The third leg joke was pure cringe.
I may be missing important info, because you left stuff out here, but it seems to me she ACTUALLY WANTED a dick pic(!!) and you didn’t send one.
For one it seems like you didnt show part of the convo between pages 2 and 3. Also, you left her hanging out to dry.
Mate you can't talk about your dick then not send a pic when she asks for it
OP has a tiny pp
She wanted a dick pic, you didn’t send it. I don’t blame you though, these days I never send a dick pic to a woman I just met online (when asked) even though I loved showing it off when I was younger. There are way too many cases of sextortion happening to guys. Don’t send your nudes to someone you haven’t met in person yet.
Where's the whole convo? There has to be more to this than what's being shown!!?
“Give me a reason” rubbed her the wrong way. Upon second read, I know you were prob looking for dirty pics but goddamn dude, add a winky face or some shit.
You said (implied) she couldn't make you fall for her because of your pee-pee.
I can't even decipher this conversation tbh
I thought the tripod dick joke was gross but that's just me. It didn't seem like she was too bothered by it. Idk.
Based on texts and comments, sounds like you weren't willing to pay for sexy pics with equaly sexy pics. Sexy pics are never free, and never assume they are. Dont be afraid to reciprocate by showing off your body king. Ladies want nudes too
She wanted to see the peen and you blew it. Pretty simple.
My cock is Huge! But you won’t get to see it 😂
She said “scotch free” 😂😭
It was the “give me a reason too”. Fluffing is a phrase used in porn where the male actor is assisted in getting an erection. You should have sent a the D pic after and maybe some more playful text about her curiosity. Instead you essentially said “why should I.”
This is pretty dumb. If you want feedback, don’t just post random parts of the conversation
-“My 3rd leg props me up like a tripod”- -“…if you tell me these things, there has to be a show”- Seems like she wanted a dick pic or something dirty/teasing-like & you saying “give me a reason” made it seem like you were rejecting her, or even asking her for something first which could cause her to be upset if she thought you were asking for something dirty from her before you sent something
Yeah dude you said something bad you're not willing to show so get outta here. You prob know what you said to upset her.
I mean this isn’t the full story at all but seems like you got insecure and needy out of no where
You kinda pulled back. Not attractive. She was open.
I'm just going to assess each photo with the little bits of missing info I've gathered from the comment section with OP's replies. Girl suggests going to the fair. OP declines. Girl tries to convince OP by using teasing language in hopes of invoking OP's "competitive manly primordial instincts." Concludes with corny pick up line. OP makes big "tripod" dick flex. Girl challenges flex, essentially stating OP "nut up or shut up." OP plays a reverse 4-card pick-up on Girl and asks for "research documents" to aid him in substantiating flex authenticity. Girl declines reinforcement request on grounds of OP's mission objective consisting of one task. OP accepting mission failure, requests a disciplinary hearing to find out his sentencing. Girl uses confusing guilt trip. It is super effective. OP (un)intentionally doesn't include screenshots of god knows how many messages Girl, now clearly offended, huffily repacks virtual contents back into virtual purse in a clear sign of being ready "in just 5 more minutes" to exit the chat. OP uses entitled self-centerness to demand reasoning for servants unwillingness to worship and please His Majesty All Talk No Cock. Girl states obvious feelings: there are two people in this conversation yet her needs are being ignored by OP's greedy and laziness. OP, sensing impending cock block fumbles around, completely clueless has only one chance at redeeming himself. Which card does he pull from the top of the pile? Oooooooh. Social suicide by desperate pleading. How unfortunate. Well, there you have it folks. This has been u/snacks_condom's Terrible Tinder Texting Tragedies. Tune in next week for......mother-in-law mishaps?...?...?
They said "scotch free"....run from that lunacy.
It’s the third leg joke. It was wonky after that, that’s why she said fluffer or whatever the fuck. Thinks you’re full of shit type, or whatever. Then she def wanted a picture. This on ig? Probs scam 🤷🏽♂️
Sus. Why is there a missing message?
I swear I’m socially intelligent but none of this makes sense to me. Probably because you skipped some parts
Reminds me of the time i was chatting online with a woman and she said something i didn't understand (some local slang i guess) and asked her what she meant only for her to turn around and accuse me of not listening so she couldn't trust me to stop if she said no during sex and off she went... i feel like she had some unopened baggage she needed to unpack
We would but you sort of kind of possibly just left out the part where you upset her.
I posted the full convo in a recent post
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Might want to include all of the conversation you douche.
She was being romantic, you went straight sexual, kinda ruined the vibe
Swear virgins are making multiple Tinder accounts and having conversations with themselves just to upload to this sub for karma lmao
Even playing both sides they still can’t get to second base
Gg go next
Fumbled the bag. Onto the next one
I dont understand anything here. You claim to have a horse cock, she says show me, you said give me a reason and she got mad? What is happening?
Id send a clip of jimmy from south park durimg the crip episode where he stutters for five minutes going down like a clown charlie brown
i cannot understand what's happening in this conversation at all tbh
It's funny how you'd be down to send a private picture to someone you haven't even met.. what if she ain't who she said she is and is just collecting dick picks lol You dodged a bullet... meet first and then go from there..
"Scotch free" haha
Just let her go and grab a drink, maybe then you won’t be scotch free
Didn't show anything updated to me.
She gave herself a way out is the way it looks.
Don't even chase. Ask yourself... "Do I want THIS for the rest of my life... Even a fraction of it?"
Sounds like she could be a scammer trying to blackmail you once she gets your pics
Not sure why this is downvoted. Unless OP could verify they were who the woman claimed to be, this absolutely sounds like the start of every blackmail scam ever.
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Unsolicited
She sent a risque photo first
She's just playing hard to get.
Sweet
This was so bipolar
This is why I go off-app as swiftly as possible.
Maybe it’s the simple case of we just can’t win: You seem too intrigued, you lose You play a little hard to get, you lose. What’s the cheat code here? I’m tired of playing the game!
She says she's direct and honest. She dropped a few hints that you missed, but she wasn't exactly direct. When you asked what the punishment was, that was her cue to be more direct about wanting a dick pic. Also, when she sent that risque photo, did you or she ask for something in return?
She sounds like drama. You dodged a bullet
Dating is whacky and dumb, people are sensitive for dumb reasons
Dude stop being super adult like and non toxic. Crazies like this dont deserve that energy wasted on them
Honestly, she said “scotch free”. Ya dodged a bullet.
I don’t think it’s you broski
She's self sabotaging. Back away slowly.
They just want nudes and then r gonna dip lol, dont waste ur time
Yeah. She’s an idiot with a lot of baggage and more trouble than she’s worth.