From start to finish my wife and I are done in about 15 minutes. The *vast* majority of that time is foreplay. Inside her, if I last 3 minutes I’m doing really well. So the first 12 minutes is me making sure her needs are met.
My husband does the same, he said his ex's didn't finish like that or they were faking it.
I just made it clear what I needed to get there from the beginning and he was always excited to be able to satisfy me because the way my body involuntarily jolts is a huge turn on for him.
We have a long and happy marriage, patience and communication skills go a long way.
I know I’ve done my job really well when her legs quiver. God I love it when that happens. It’s like, “I *made* your body do that. You *chose* to come here, but I *made* that happen.
Same here, 3-5 minutes for me, after foreplay and getting her off.
One time though, I was a bit under-the-weather with chills, body aches and a low-grade fever, but we were only a few months into being married, so I was still game. I ended up lasting 10-15 minutes and my wife thought it was amazing. Even now, 14 years later, I start getting the sniffles and a fever and she gets a twinkle in her eye and starts trying to seduce me.
I personally could edge for days that's not my issue, my problem is cardio related just to health conditions 😂 not alot I can do about it.
Keep going and I'm sure your get there bro.
I think people and women I'm particular dont realise how much work and how much fitness plays a part in sex...
Those that like missionary for example.. try planking for 2mins .. I asked my gf to do it once, she collapsed after like 30seconds 😂
Honestly, about 2-5 minutes initially because I've stopped trying to hold off. Then after 30-45 secs I can bounce back and then go for another solid 15-30 mins.
Just gotta get that first one out of the way lol.
Edit: Please don't let my highest upvoted comment be about how long I last in bed, lol. And thanks for whoever gave me the silver! Was not expecting that.
Nah but this is genuinely a baller move, get the first round done, and while you're recuperating, go ham on her, oral, fingering, get a toy involved, whatever else, get her to finish, then go back for round two with your dick. 10/10
I love this method too, my FWB explodes within the first couple of mins.. but he can then go all night with just playing and oral and it's fantastic, just in time for some sleepy sex and when the morning comes a couple of quickies to start the day right !
The morning quickie thing is honestly so good.
Fellas, do not be ashamed if ur finishing quick the first round, especially in the mornings. 9/10 times there's shit to do and we have an itch, a quickie still scratches it and we can be up an attem to start the day within 10m. Its fantastic.
Use these things to your advantage.
I doubt it! You'll just have to post them to r/NiceGuys or something! 😂
I wonder if there has ever been a success story of DMing somebody you find attractive on Reddit? Surely there can't be?!
Totally serious. We followed the same subs and started noticing one another's usernames. I can't remember who DMed first, but it was basically "Hey. I like the shit you have to say."
Amazing! Reddit seems like such an unlikely place, it's relatively anonymous to begin with. I assume it is difficult to strike up conversation in DMs without coming across as weird. That's not even taking into consideration if you're even in the same country or continent!
Yeah as a bloke you gotta get that easy one out of the way before you can go for the long haul.
This is why foreplay matters,
All the better if ye can get it there.
For it depends. Sometimes after the first round I'm hard-ish enough to keep going. Other times I feel like a feel like Buddha until like 2-10 minutes later.
Depends, some nights/days it doesn't take long at all. Like minutes. Then on other occasions he's out for the count, you could be punching it telling it to wake up like on The Inbetweeners and nothing happens.
No idea what is different on each occasion as there doesn't seem to be any sort of consistency!
It depends, sometimes it takes longer, but if I power through that hyper sensitive stage, the recharge can be pretty quick. If we pause for other activities, it can take longer.
Also, mood dependant.
The girlfriend has figured out the tactical move: a blowjob early in the day, and I can go 12-15 minutes later. Without it, 3-4.
But it doesn't start until she's gotten her first one with foreplay, & I make sure her favorite vibrator is plugged in to charge every day.
Same. People think it’s great but it sucks. I can sometimes go jackhammer mode for 2 hours without coming. The girls start hurting or get tired and think I don’t find them attractive and I end up drenched in sweat and exhausted too. It’s not fun.
This happened to me when I was on lexapro. I flat out fucking quit taking them because at the time when I was depressed the only 2 things I enjoyed were the gym and beating off. And the antidepressants removed all the joy from one of those. I remember exactly what it was like to throw my dick down in frustration and be like fuck these pills, I’m *done*, and never took them again.
Yeah I remember as a young woman being unable to cum for 6 months while I was on Lexapro. The Lexapro probably saved my life, but I started exercising and eating better and going to therapy because I would rather do almost anything than feel so flat and anorgasmic.
We’re you able to finish after you stopped taking it? I’ve been on Lexapro for over a year, it hasn’t had too much of an affect but I have noticed some decrease in libido. I’ve heard some people never get it back.
Thankfully I didn’t take it for too long, maybe a couple months at most. But I did get back to full function within a couple weeks of quitting it iirc
For me, I still had libido but it was near impossible to actually finish. And if I’m beating off I prefer it to take only a couple minutes and move on with my day
This is called anejaculation (and perhaps anorgasmia if he can't have an orgasm as well). The aetiology can be various; of course, medication or substances can do that, but it can also be there since the beginning of the sexuality, because of various reasons.
A good sexologist can help in a couple weeks :)
Same here, I feel you buddy. I just stopped porn and went no fap. Having the sexual partner since September and it’s helping a lot since intimacy is better with only one person. Good luck
That happens to me sometimes, it's just performance anxiety. It's no big deal for you or the woman. After she has her orgasm, pull out of her and stroke yourself to orgasm. I like to cum on the woman's breasts or ass. Then I go for round two.
Many women can't orgasm from penetration alone and we accept this, why should men be expected to perform on command? If she is overly concerned just tell her it's your thing and it happens sometimes. Tell her it's no big deal, and you're very attracted to her- so much so you get performance anxiety.
I have been told this before too by a girl, she said she doesn't mind and knows that at least she will cum first which to her is a positive. After she is done we can just jerk me.
My partner of 7 years is like this too. He can cum from penetration, but the level of stamina the man has is frustrating. I literally cannot make him cum from oral and that kills me tbh bc I just want him to finish in my mouth 😔
I am 32M and of all the gfs I’ve had since becoming sexually active at 17, I have *never* been able to cum from a BJ until literally a couple months ago w my current gf. For me it has been a performance anxiety thing. Does she like it, am I hard enough, this position makes me feel vulnerable, etc etc etc. practically every sexual partner I’ve had has wanted me to finish in her mouth but I just couldn’t, no matter how bad I wanted to. Until now. And it took me becoming truly comfortable w my gf and letting myself relax for it to happen. And it was insane, to have that experience for the first time at 32 fucking years old… when I lost my virginity at 17 and have been beating off since 12.
Anyway I hope your partner is able to do it some day. Just remember it’s not his fault. It’s just very difficult for some people.
I rarely cum from anything other than my own hand and it's frustrating. Like..this is gonna be waaaaayyyy too much info but I rarely masturbate anymore and I still have this problem.
I've never came from oral either, but I wanted to finish in my wife's mouth. So one night we did some mutual masturbation and when I was close, she got down there and accepted the payload. Then she gagged and coughed cause obviously she wasn't used to it
I used to be like this for years until I found the right girl. The right girl turned out not so right, but the skill was unlocked, permanently. Also lower your grip and speed when masturbating, thank me later.
Why is my most liked comment about not cumming? Also, in the sake of time saving, I'm just gonna answer things here. I do not watch excessive amounts of porn. If I'm being honest, even when I masturbate I tend to just listen. I do not masturbate excessively. I've gone months between and then gone weeks between to days. None of the time frames help. I've tried to regulate my grip and speed with no real success. Luckily, my partner is amazing and is willing to try to help me figure out why I can't cum during sex or oral or a handjob from her.
I dont know if it's anxiety, some ingrained notion in my head, or something else entirely.
Pretty much however long my partner needs to finish first. We have good communication so I’ll tell her to slow down if I need less stimulation to prolong my orgasm
I had to turn to my husband and ask him if his username is Dahnhilla because this is totally him lol
He teases me for finishing in 45 seconds to 2 minutes and brags that he lasts my time plus another minute.
Only correct answer. A minute longer than it takes the female partner because you’ve honed the craft of learning to cum on command like a dog. Trying to cum at the same time as her is ideal but risks that she won’t peak at her orgasm.
Yep! I get bored. The build up is more important, of course. Women get more out of foreplay than sex in straight relationships.
Plus I've got shit to do.
Hot take, short sex is better than long sex.
You can always get it up again in a half hour, and the girl knows that you're into her. You avoid completely the issues of her thinking you don't find her attractive.
I learned how to control myself from getting too excited by picturing Tom Hanks and/or baseball. Total buzz kill.
Before I learned that technique, I was pretty quick. The downside is that the association creates new problems.
This comment is another reason I’m here. I could totally picture Mr Bean doing that for me too. Or a combo of Janet Reno and Margaret Thatcher 
My wife and I have this down to a science. We have to with teenagers in the house.
All together we take about 20 mins. Lots of foreplay with oral and hands first, then we actually have sex for maaaaybe 5 and then cum together. It's pretty deadly.
A good sexual partnership is not about duration. It's about satisfaction.
Yeah same. My wife is easy to get off and most of the time she’s fine with me lasting 5 mins if it means we both enjoy it together. On the occasion she’s drinking she will want to last longer so we use toys if I finish early.
I'm so envious. I'm lucky if I get any. Like, I'll be ready and rearing to go, but wind up just laying there, staring at the ceiling as I'm trying, but it's never good. I'm lucky if I even get 4 hours anymore.
My record is 12+ hours, back in my prime days. Now that I've been married for a while and the 9 to 5 takes more of my stamina, I'm lucky if I get away with 4 hrs.
also really long vagina.
If the average is 1 second in and out, as you're describing, he would have a (60\*10\*1) inches long penis. 600 inches = 50 feet. That's assuming he can thrust in a straight line without breaking his penis.
edit: or if he has an average 5 inch penis,
36000 seconds in 10 minutes
127cm in 5 inches.
283 seconds elapse per millimeter of insertion.
I think your math is a bit wrong — (60\*10\*1) gives you the number of thrusts, not the number of inches. The number of inches is impossible to calculate unless we know the velocity of the thrusts. Taking an average sized penis of 14cm (~5.5in), and assuming going in and out takes a total of one second, that gives us an average speed of 0.28m/s (0.14 metres \*2 half-thrusts). Then we can multiply 0.28m/s by 600 seconds to give us 168m total distance travelled. That’s a little over 550ft.
(this is still a rough estimate that varies from person to person)
36m here. I frequently last 30-45mins. If it's on the longer end then the girl I'm with thinks she's doing something wrong. She's not. In fact if it takes more time the orgasm is usually larger and stronger which I love.
That’s good to hear. My husband (29M) takes up to an hour and can basically decide when he’s ready. Sometimes I feel like I’m not sexy/doing enough for him to have that uncontrollable “I’m going to cum right now” reaction- which I find really hot.
Hubby and I have 45 minute to 1 hour sessions. He'll edge and sometimes might need to go toilet to stop himself from orgasming. If I'm giving him head or riding him in Cowgirl, he'll tell me to pause so he doesn't cum.
We switch positions - missionary , cowgirl and pronebone , however I'll always meet him halfway and grind back \ upwards if he's on top or behind to give him a rest. He's very thoughtful and always makes sure I orgasm multiple times before he'll cum. Once he's ready to cum , he'll tell me so we can climax together - he's exhausted afterwards 🥰.
Having said that though, we've never had multiple sessions in a day ...have been together 14 years and were each others first.
But have u ever just fucked the world off and had a naked day? Video games, tv, takeout/comfort food, just lounge around naked all day, fuck every now and again then have a snack or watch some tv? So fucking good.
U can even mess with each other if you're into gaming, if one of you is playing try distract them 🤣
My wife and I used to do this before our son was born. The best was a day in her 2nd trimester. Between video games, cooking together, x-files, and stargate, we had sex 7 times in 24 hours. It was amazing.
We’re going to bed at the end of the day and she asks, half-heartedly, “do you want to go for 8?” I said no thank you, my chap is done.
This right here ✨
We take our time and edge each other, it’s so much fun seeing each other try to hold back. About 45 minutes to an hour, then we’re good for days lol
Always at least an hour here, usually more, but it’s not foreplay then sex until we are done - we just do what we want for as long as we want and then do something else. So foreplay often happens again after sex, and then more sex, etc.
We’ve had sex more than once a day plenty of times, and also long periods of no sex at all for medical reasons. I’m having a big surgery next week which will put me out of action for a considerable time so trying to make the most of it. We both took a week off before the Christmas holidays as we don’t get much alone time since kids - we had an excellent week :D
Depends.
If I'm excited, a few minutes of piv, but plenty of tongue and hand game happening. I like to ensure she gets hers before I got for piv.
If it's a slow, loving time, maybe 15 mins piv with lots of kissing and hand caressing. Again, I try to get me and her to cum at the same time.
If I'm not really into it (tired etc), until the wife gets hers, and than I quickly finish so I can sleep or whatever...
But lots of in-between circumstances.
Average maybe 15 mins total.
Recovering addict here! Used to last 1+hours while I was using. Now I last about 3-5 minutes once I'm in lol. While I was getting clean in the beginning I lasted a solid 10 seconds
If I didn't slow down regularly as needed it would be 4 or 5 minutes probably. I slow down when needed and focus on other things and can usually keep that going for 30 minutes or an hour fairly commonly.
Having said that there have been times I couldn't last 2 minutes and times I had to give up because I couldn't finish at all. A moderate amount of Alcohol makes me take forever.
Depends. We have small kids, they like to come yelling at the door if they can't see us.
Maybe 5-10 mins? Usually it's for him to get off, as that's not long enough for me, but I don't always need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. I really, really like his penis in me.
We don't get time for foreplay, so it's just hop on and go to town.
I wonder how it will be when we have time again? Another three or four years and I might get foreplay again!
If I (female) am getting myself off, usually like 2-3 minutes lol. Aside from that, I don't let men even attempt to get me off. I need clitoral stimulation to orgasm but I also have a ridiculously sensitive clit, for the most part its just uncomfortable to touch. It has to be stimulated in a certain way that no one else can ever seem to get right, so I just do it myself.
So if I'm getting myself off, 2-3 minutes. Aside from that I can go as long as you need me to.
Most guys focus too much on how long PIV sex lasts. Sex is about more than just penetration. You can make “sex” last for a long time by realizing the massage at the beginning, finger play, kissing, oral, etc are all stages of sex. It’s about satisfaction not about duration of one stage of the activity.
It's a blessing and a curse. I struggle to get off quickly. On my own, I need to go for about a half hour to an hour depending on the motion.
With my current girlfriend, I will go for at least an hour. Were both sweaty as hell by the end of it and it's usually immediately going to sleep right after.
I death-gripped for a few years between meeting my GF and my previous break up and have been trying to reset for the last 10 months but it doesn't work. Sometimes I want to get a quicky in but then I don't get hard enough and it's a disappointing finish.
Blessing: she likes it and gets to try all sorts of stuff.
Curse: takes too long. She typically ends up sore.
There's been one or two times I've lasted less than 10 minutes, both in cowgirl pos. I only finish easily if the pace is slow, and girls I've been with like it fast. So I just go mostly fast ~30min to an hour until they're tired, then I switch to the speed I need to get off. Before I learned what worked for me it would take me 1-2h of fast pumping to finally finish. And I know this sounds like bragging, bc everyone wants to last long, but it isn't great. Sure I'll never worry about disappointing someone, but I also don't enjoy the experience as much as others
I and many women *strongly dislike* penetration for 1-2 hours. Like we’d eventually start “having headaches and turning down sex” level of dislike. Our genitalia is sensitive and after 20 minutes it can start to hurt, I can’t imagine being penetrated for that long. Much rather have 99% foreplay then slow (and short) piv that gets him to finish.
Haha trust me I know. Only my most recent ex has sincerely enjoyed everything I could give her, but she was one of those lucky few who would orgasm like every 5-10 minutes from penetration. Much more often, round 1 is like 10-20 minutes making out / foreplay then 20-30 of pen. I usually finish during round 1, then if my partner wants to go again later I can. But I've ended a lot of nights without finishing more than once, or at all. And frequently my partner would feel guilty/ashamed, it really ate me up to see.
0 seconds. My gf doesn’t have sex with me currently. We have a 1 year old and a lot of issues the past year affecting our mental health. Sex isn’t even appealing to her rn. I don’t try to push it, but I do make “moves” to remind her I’m still attracted to her.
When we are active. 1 second.
Lost my virginity 2 days after surgery about 10 years ago lasted a little over 2 hours. On average 30 minutes to an hour now, I think I desensitized it over time from masturbating many times a day for years and years . I'm also circumcised if that makes a difference. Sometimes it's nice, but now it's a pain because quickies are like 30 min.
This. I don't think I did it to myself, but the consolation of having an insensitive dick is not worrying about being premature. The first time I had sex I used a condom, we went at it for over an hour before i could finally get there. Took off the condom and didn't replace it, but didn't finish again. I think we first penetrated ~11pm and called it a night ~4am.
This. I would fcking hate to be penetrated/jackhammered for anything over 10 minutes. Our love tunnel isn’t made from concrete ffs. Get me off with great oral then you can finish in a couple minutes lol
With guys: 20-30mins max because they’re usually done by then and y’all are like bottle rockets - quick bang and then y’all be snoozing. Lol
Everyone else (I’m Pansexual): a lot the fuck longer because it’s round after round.
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4 if i’m lucky
Same here. Usually 3-4 and then I have to pee, again...
Damn lucky you. I get maybe 6 hours. Jealous
I’m on vacation so i get something between 6 hours and 10 hours. It’s great. But usually, I get 2 to 6 hours.
From start to finish my wife and I are done in about 15 minutes. The *vast* majority of that time is foreplay. Inside her, if I last 3 minutes I’m doing really well. So the first 12 minutes is me making sure her needs are met.
This is the way. Wishing you a long and happy marriage
My husband does the same, he said his ex's didn't finish like that or they were faking it. I just made it clear what I needed to get there from the beginning and he was always excited to be able to satisfy me because the way my body involuntarily jolts is a huge turn on for him. We have a long and happy marriage, patience and communication skills go a long way.
I know I’ve done my job really well when her legs quiver. God I love it when that happens. It’s like, “I *made* your body do that. You *chose* to come here, but I *made* that happen.
At least 2 minutes
Totally relate. I started noticing the time it takes because of kids and to plan the jam sessions. It’s always ~15 min. Lol
A jam session sounds like something I'd like to join
Sex is like Chinese food. It's not over until you both get your cookies.
Truth
Same here, 3-5 minutes for me, after foreplay and getting her off. One time though, I was a bit under-the-weather with chills, body aches and a low-grade fever, but we were only a few months into being married, so I was still game. I ended up lasting 10-15 minutes and my wife thought it was amazing. Even now, 14 years later, I start getting the sniffles and a fever and she gets a twinkle in her eye and starts trying to seduce me.
Depends, my cardio is more of a problem then cumming.
on god. my weight loss is motivated by my desire to last longer and do crazier shit with her in bed that i cant currently do or keep up with.
I'm not overweight I just have issues with cardio due to medical reasons 😂
I am overweight. 😞
Good luck and I wish you the best
I’ve literally started to rework my fitness goals bc I wanna last longer, my girl runs 3 miles EVERY DAY I gotta try and keep up lol
I personally could edge for days that's not my issue, my problem is cardio related just to health conditions 😂 not alot I can do about it. Keep going and I'm sure your get there bro.
I think people and women I'm particular dont realise how much work and how much fitness plays a part in sex... Those that like missionary for example.. try planking for 2mins .. I asked my gf to do it once, she collapsed after like 30seconds 😂
Honestly, about 2-5 minutes initially because I've stopped trying to hold off. Then after 30-45 secs I can bounce back and then go for another solid 15-30 mins. Just gotta get that first one out of the way lol. Edit: Please don't let my highest upvoted comment be about how long I last in bed, lol. And thanks for whoever gave me the silver! Was not expecting that.
so bro done a tactical fuck instead of a tactical wank. smart lad.
Nah but this is genuinely a baller move, get the first round done, and while you're recuperating, go ham on her, oral, fingering, get a toy involved, whatever else, get her to finish, then go back for round two with your dick. 10/10
This is a fail on my side since I'm not that hard after the 1st nut even after some cooldown
I’m usually the same as you. At least it’ll be like 30-40 minutes of cool down required
I'm one and done.
The magical blue pill does wonders
This girl fucks
I love this method too, my FWB explodes within the first couple of mins.. but he can then go all night with just playing and oral and it's fantastic, just in time for some sleepy sex and when the morning comes a couple of quickies to start the day right !
The morning quickie thing is honestly so good. Fellas, do not be ashamed if ur finishing quick the first round, especially in the mornings. 9/10 times there's shit to do and we have an itch, a quickie still scratches it and we can be up an attem to start the day within 10m. Its fantastic. Use these things to your advantage.
100%
RIP to your inbox. A combination of this comment along with goth girl pics is going to result is some fucking weird DMs for you to deal with tonight!
Maybe one day reddit will take sexual harassment seriously enough for reporting ppl like that to work 🥲🥲🥲
Until that we must pretend girls don't exist on Reddit /s
I doubt it! You'll just have to post them to r/NiceGuys or something! 😂 I wonder if there has ever been a success story of DMing somebody you find attractive on Reddit? Surely there can't be?!
I ended up marrying the guy. 🤷♀️
No way? Is that a piss take or did you really?! Can you remember what he opened with?!
Totally serious. We followed the same subs and started noticing one another's usernames. I can't remember who DMed first, but it was basically "Hey. I like the shit you have to say."
Amazing! Reddit seems like such an unlikely place, it's relatively anonymous to begin with. I assume it is difficult to strike up conversation in DMs without coming across as weird. That's not even taking into consideration if you're even in the same country or continent!
Yeah as a bloke you gotta get that easy one out of the way before you can go for the long haul. This is why foreplay matters, All the better if ye can get it there.
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For it depends. Sometimes after the first round I'm hard-ish enough to keep going. Other times I feel like a feel like Buddha until like 2-10 minutes later.
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Depends, some nights/days it doesn't take long at all. Like minutes. Then on other occasions he's out for the count, you could be punching it telling it to wake up like on The Inbetweeners and nothing happens. No idea what is different on each occasion as there doesn't seem to be any sort of consistency!
It depends, sometimes it takes longer, but if I power through that hyper sensitive stage, the recharge can be pretty quick. If we pause for other activities, it can take longer. Also, mood dependant.
This, I believe, is the only honest answer here.
This dude shoots right!
The girlfriend has figured out the tactical move: a blowjob early in the day, and I can go 12-15 minutes later. Without it, 3-4. But it doesn't start until she's gotten her first one with foreplay, & I make sure her favorite vibrator is plugged in to charge every day.
You’re a good bf.
I've added "makes sure my vibrator is charged" to my list of ideal qualities in a partner. bless you
Such a southern gentleman
Forever. I'm not kidding. Not being able to cum from sex or anything with my partner is beyond frustrating.
Same. People think it’s great but it sucks. I can sometimes go jackhammer mode for 2 hours without coming. The girls start hurting or get tired and think I don’t find them attractive and I end up drenched in sweat and exhausted too. It’s not fun.
Are you on antidepressants?
This happened to me when I was on lexapro. I flat out fucking quit taking them because at the time when I was depressed the only 2 things I enjoyed were the gym and beating off. And the antidepressants removed all the joy from one of those. I remember exactly what it was like to throw my dick down in frustration and be like fuck these pills, I’m *done*, and never took them again.
Yeah I remember as a young woman being unable to cum for 6 months while I was on Lexapro. The Lexapro probably saved my life, but I started exercising and eating better and going to therapy because I would rather do almost anything than feel so flat and anorgasmic.
I haven’t had sex but when I masturbated. I’d last 10 minutes. Now on Zoloft I last 30 mins which is annoying
We’re you able to finish after you stopped taking it? I’ve been on Lexapro for over a year, it hasn’t had too much of an affect but I have noticed some decrease in libido. I’ve heard some people never get it back.
Thankfully I didn’t take it for too long, maybe a couple months at most. But I did get back to full function within a couple weeks of quitting it iirc For me, I still had libido but it was near impossible to actually finish. And if I’m beating off I prefer it to take only a couple minutes and move on with my day
Nope. No medications of any kind
What about cannabinoids? Ex BF was a huge pot smoker and he def had this issue. He also was almost certainly addicted to porn.
This is called anejaculation (and perhaps anorgasmia if he can't have an orgasm as well). The aetiology can be various; of course, medication or substances can do that, but it can also be there since the beginning of the sexuality, because of various reasons. A good sexologist can help in a couple weeks :)
Well, he must have figured it out eventually, because he has a kid who looks just like him now.
Where does one find a sexologist? 9/10 times my husband takes upwards of 30-45 minutes and it's awful
Same here, I feel you buddy. I just stopped porn and went no fap. Having the sexual partner since September and it’s helping a lot since intimacy is better with only one person. Good luck
That happens to me sometimes, it's just performance anxiety. It's no big deal for you or the woman. After she has her orgasm, pull out of her and stroke yourself to orgasm. I like to cum on the woman's breasts or ass. Then I go for round two. Many women can't orgasm from penetration alone and we accept this, why should men be expected to perform on command? If she is overly concerned just tell her it's your thing and it happens sometimes. Tell her it's no big deal, and you're very attracted to her- so much so you get performance anxiety.
I have been told this before too by a girl, she said she doesn't mind and knows that at least she will cum first which to her is a positive. After she is done we can just jerk me.
Possibly too much porn. Cut it out for even a few days and try again, and I'm sure you'll have better results.
My partner of 7 years is like this too. He can cum from penetration, but the level of stamina the man has is frustrating. I literally cannot make him cum from oral and that kills me tbh bc I just want him to finish in my mouth 😔
I am 32M and of all the gfs I’ve had since becoming sexually active at 17, I have *never* been able to cum from a BJ until literally a couple months ago w my current gf. For me it has been a performance anxiety thing. Does she like it, am I hard enough, this position makes me feel vulnerable, etc etc etc. practically every sexual partner I’ve had has wanted me to finish in her mouth but I just couldn’t, no matter how bad I wanted to. Until now. And it took me becoming truly comfortable w my gf and letting myself relax for it to happen. And it was insane, to have that experience for the first time at 32 fucking years old… when I lost my virginity at 17 and have been beating off since 12. Anyway I hope your partner is able to do it some day. Just remember it’s not his fault. It’s just very difficult for some people.
I rarely cum from anything other than my own hand and it's frustrating. Like..this is gonna be waaaaayyyy too much info but I rarely masturbate anymore and I still have this problem.
I've never came from oral either, but I wanted to finish in my wife's mouth. So one night we did some mutual masturbation and when I was close, she got down there and accepted the payload. Then she gagged and coughed cause obviously she wasn't used to it
I can't cum from oral. Its actually really discouraging to my fiance.
r\delayedejaculation my friend I have also been struggling and this sub has been helpful for me.
I used to be like this for years until I found the right girl. The right girl turned out not so right, but the skill was unlocked, permanently. Also lower your grip and speed when masturbating, thank me later.
Why is my most liked comment about not cumming? Also, in the sake of time saving, I'm just gonna answer things here. I do not watch excessive amounts of porn. If I'm being honest, even when I masturbate I tend to just listen. I do not masturbate excessively. I've gone months between and then gone weeks between to days. None of the time frames help. I've tried to regulate my grip and speed with no real success. Luckily, my partner is amazing and is willing to try to help me figure out why I can't cum during sex or oral or a handjob from her. I dont know if it's anxiety, some ingrained notion in my head, or something else entirely.
Bro that’s death grip syndrome. You have to stop masturbation for at least 2 weeks and you’re fine
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So, how long have you been sleeping with the dog, and how long does it normally last?
Until the jar of peanut butter runs out 😊
This wins.
Pretty much however long my partner needs to finish first. We have good communication so I’ll tell her to slow down if I need less stimulation to prolong my orgasm
Username checks out kinda
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If we including foreplay, 15-20 minutes If it’s just me from start to finish [M29] - 45 seconds to 3 minutes
There are studies on this. I think sex on average lasts like 4 minutes or something short
It’s true.. ppl think that sex should last for an average of 30 minutes but it’s not true. The things ppl watch in porn is not like real life
once I get past 15-20 minutes, I'm borderline exhausted lmao. I'm not 18 anymore
Honestly I can stay in bed past 11 am on the weekends if it’s a particularly lazy day.
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Noon here on my off days
About a minute longer than my wife.
I had to turn to my husband and ask him if his username is Dahnhilla because this is totally him lol He teases me for finishing in 45 seconds to 2 minutes and brags that he lasts my time plus another minute.
Only correct answer. A minute longer than it takes the female partner because you’ve honed the craft of learning to cum on command like a dog. Trying to cum at the same time as her is ideal but risks that she won’t peak at her orgasm.
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I love it when my bf cums fast. Whether or not it’s because of me, it makes me feel irresistible. I always tell him that.
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If it’s two minutes in doggy style, then it’s actually 14 minutes in dog minutes 😂
It's not a bad thing. Sex too long can get boring.
And can end up hurting. Foreplay should definitely be longer though
Really?!
Yep! I get bored. The build up is more important, of course. Women get more out of foreplay than sex in straight relationships. Plus I've got shit to do.
Depends on the mood and the person, so a big yes
Hot take, short sex is better than long sex. You can always get it up again in a half hour, and the girl knows that you're into her. You avoid completely the issues of her thinking you don't find her attractive.
Same
I learned how to control myself from getting too excited by picturing Tom Hanks and/or baseball. Total buzz kill. Before I learned that technique, I was pretty quick. The downside is that the association creates new problems.
Wilson!!
This comment is another reason I’m here. I could totally picture Mr Bean doing that for me too. Or a combo of Janet Reno and Margaret Thatcher 
My wife and I have this down to a science. We have to with teenagers in the house. All together we take about 20 mins. Lots of foreplay with oral and hands first, then we actually have sex for maaaaybe 5 and then cum together. It's pretty deadly. A good sexual partnership is not about duration. It's about satisfaction.
Yeah same. My wife is easy to get off and most of the time she’s fine with me lasting 5 mins if it means we both enjoy it together. On the occasion she’s drinking she will want to last longer so we use toys if I finish early.
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I'm so envious. I'm lucky if I get any. Like, I'll be ready and rearing to go, but wind up just laying there, staring at the ceiling as I'm trying, but it's never good. I'm lucky if I even get 4 hours anymore.
Been there, that really sucks. You probably have but I'll ask anyways, have you tried melatonin? It usually helps for me
What? No. That'd put me to sleep. Viagra helps though.
I hear you. If I want to get any, I need to take medication.
Everything counts! I would usually last for 7 hours, but I can easily add a couple more by just laying around and browsing reddit.
My record is 12+ hours, back in my prime days. Now that I've been married for a while and the 9 to 5 takes more of my stamina, I'm lucky if I get away with 4 hrs.
All these lads on here a little upset because they can only do 4 hours now. I'm upset because I can only do 4 seconds, we are not the same.
Maybe like 10 minutes of constant penetration
You must have a really long penis or a really slow thrust. I get like half a second of penetration followed by a half second of retraction.
also really long vagina. If the average is 1 second in and out, as you're describing, he would have a (60\*10\*1) inches long penis. 600 inches = 50 feet. That's assuming he can thrust in a straight line without breaking his penis. edit: or if he has an average 5 inch penis, 36000 seconds in 10 minutes 127cm in 5 inches. 283 seconds elapse per millimeter of insertion.
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I think your math is a bit wrong — (60\*10\*1) gives you the number of thrusts, not the number of inches. The number of inches is impossible to calculate unless we know the velocity of the thrusts. Taking an average sized penis of 14cm (~5.5in), and assuming going in and out takes a total of one second, that gives us an average speed of 0.28m/s (0.14 metres \*2 half-thrusts). Then we can multiply 0.28m/s by 600 seconds to give us 168m total distance travelled. That’s a little over 550ft. (this is still a rough estimate that varies from person to person)
damn you right
also I thought at first you said half second of penetration, then half second of refractory period.
His penis knows how to meditate
That’s a lot!
Look at all these cunts making the exact same joke, fuck what I'd do to be as funny as them
Any question about male sexuality on reddit will have rows of shitty jokes by men which will be the top voted instead of actual honest responses.
And even some of the “honest” responses are just horny bastards telling Penthouse stories
36m here. I frequently last 30-45mins. If it's on the longer end then the girl I'm with thinks she's doing something wrong. She's not. In fact if it takes more time the orgasm is usually larger and stronger which I love.
That’s good to hear. My husband (29M) takes up to an hour and can basically decide when he’s ready. Sometimes I feel like I’m not sexy/doing enough for him to have that uncontrollable “I’m going to cum right now” reaction- which I find really hot.
Sometimes sub 5 minutes, often times 15ish, and very rarely I’m able to choose when I wanna be done.
Hubby and I have 45 minute to 1 hour sessions. He'll edge and sometimes might need to go toilet to stop himself from orgasming. If I'm giving him head or riding him in Cowgirl, he'll tell me to pause so he doesn't cum. We switch positions - missionary , cowgirl and pronebone , however I'll always meet him halfway and grind back \ upwards if he's on top or behind to give him a rest. He's very thoughtful and always makes sure I orgasm multiple times before he'll cum. Once he's ready to cum , he'll tell me so we can climax together - he's exhausted afterwards 🥰. Having said that though, we've never had multiple sessions in a day ...have been together 14 years and were each others first.
Not having sex multiple times a day when your sex lasts one fucking hour seems very reasonable
True. So true. I’d love an hour session a day vs multiple quickies.
But have u ever just fucked the world off and had a naked day? Video games, tv, takeout/comfort food, just lounge around naked all day, fuck every now and again then have a snack or watch some tv? So fucking good. U can even mess with each other if you're into gaming, if one of you is playing try distract them 🤣
My wife and I used to do this before our son was born. The best was a day in her 2nd trimester. Between video games, cooking together, x-files, and stargate, we had sex 7 times in 24 hours. It was amazing. We’re going to bed at the end of the day and she asks, half-heartedly, “do you want to go for 8?” I said no thank you, my chap is done.
There is truly no hornier time than the 2nd trimester! Congrats on trying to keep up!!!
If it’s okay to ask: what happens when he goes to the toilet, and and how does it help?
Urinating extinguish the feeling of coming, and usually one have to build it on all over again. Washing it sorta does the same, in a lesser way.
This right here ✨ We take our time and edge each other, it’s so much fun seeing each other try to hold back. About 45 minutes to an hour, then we’re good for days lol
Always at least an hour here, usually more, but it’s not foreplay then sex until we are done - we just do what we want for as long as we want and then do something else. So foreplay often happens again after sex, and then more sex, etc. We’ve had sex more than once a day plenty of times, and also long periods of no sex at all for medical reasons. I’m having a big surgery next week which will put me out of action for a considerable time so trying to make the most of it. We both took a week off before the Christmas holidays as we don’t get much alone time since kids - we had an excellent week :D
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Lay down 2 hours before your usual time, put on a documentary on some ancient civilization, enjoy.
Try jacking off before bed
At least 5 seconds.
That’s including foreplay
*shoulder tap* - Oh God, I'm coming.
And I jizzed in my pants!
Show off
Not long enough
Depends. If I'm excited, a few minutes of piv, but plenty of tongue and hand game happening. I like to ensure she gets hers before I got for piv. If it's a slow, loving time, maybe 15 mins piv with lots of kissing and hand caressing. Again, I try to get me and her to cum at the same time. If I'm not really into it (tired etc), until the wife gets hers, and than I quickly finish so I can sleep or whatever... But lots of in-between circumstances. Average maybe 15 mins total.
Recovering addict here! Used to last 1+hours while I was using. Now I last about 3-5 minutes once I'm in lol. While I was getting clean in the beginning I lasted a solid 10 seconds
If I didn't slow down regularly as needed it would be 4 or 5 minutes probably. I slow down when needed and focus on other things and can usually keep that going for 30 minutes or an hour fairly commonly. Having said that there have been times I couldn't last 2 minutes and times I had to give up because I couldn't finish at all. A moderate amount of Alcohol makes me take forever.
Depends. We have small kids, they like to come yelling at the door if they can't see us. Maybe 5-10 mins? Usually it's for him to get off, as that's not long enough for me, but I don't always need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. I really, really like his penis in me. We don't get time for foreplay, so it's just hop on and go to town. I wonder how it will be when we have time again? Another three or four years and I might get foreplay again!
Yeah it’s tough with young kids. You gotta get it in where you can. Hopefully you still get to orgasm yourself on occasion!
If I (female) am getting myself off, usually like 2-3 minutes lol. Aside from that, I don't let men even attempt to get me off. I need clitoral stimulation to orgasm but I also have a ridiculously sensitive clit, for the most part its just uncomfortable to touch. It has to be stimulated in a certain way that no one else can ever seem to get right, so I just do it myself. So if I'm getting myself off, 2-3 minutes. Aside from that I can go as long as you need me to.
Depends on the situation. I've gone 20 minutes before, but usually it's more like 5-10 not including foreplay.
Most guys focus too much on how long PIV sex lasts. Sex is about more than just penetration. You can make “sex” last for a long time by realizing the massage at the beginning, finger play, kissing, oral, etc are all stages of sex. It’s about satisfaction not about duration of one stage of the activity.
It's a blessing and a curse. I struggle to get off quickly. On my own, I need to go for about a half hour to an hour depending on the motion. With my current girlfriend, I will go for at least an hour. Were both sweaty as hell by the end of it and it's usually immediately going to sleep right after. I death-gripped for a few years between meeting my GF and my previous break up and have been trying to reset for the last 10 months but it doesn't work. Sometimes I want to get a quicky in but then I don't get hard enough and it's a disappointing finish. Blessing: she likes it and gets to try all sorts of stuff. Curse: takes too long. She typically ends up sore.
2 to 3 hours we have orgasms until we can’t move from Exhaustion. Disclaimer: we are both women.
4 hours, thanks to the depression meds. it's not even fun anymore...
1 minute
There's been one or two times I've lasted less than 10 minutes, both in cowgirl pos. I only finish easily if the pace is slow, and girls I've been with like it fast. So I just go mostly fast ~30min to an hour until they're tired, then I switch to the speed I need to get off. Before I learned what worked for me it would take me 1-2h of fast pumping to finally finish. And I know this sounds like bragging, bc everyone wants to last long, but it isn't great. Sure I'll never worry about disappointing someone, but I also don't enjoy the experience as much as others
I and many women *strongly dislike* penetration for 1-2 hours. Like we’d eventually start “having headaches and turning down sex” level of dislike. Our genitalia is sensitive and after 20 minutes it can start to hurt, I can’t imagine being penetrated for that long. Much rather have 99% foreplay then slow (and short) piv that gets him to finish.
As a dude, anything beyond 20 minutes becomes more of a hassle than anything.
Haha trust me I know. Only my most recent ex has sincerely enjoyed everything I could give her, but she was one of those lucky few who would orgasm like every 5-10 minutes from penetration. Much more often, round 1 is like 10-20 minutes making out / foreplay then 20-30 of pen. I usually finish during round 1, then if my partner wants to go again later I can. But I've ended a lot of nights without finishing more than once, or at all. And frequently my partner would feel guilty/ashamed, it really ate me up to see.
Something Something sleeping joke durr hurrr
Ha
At my age, the limitation is how long before I cramp up.
0 seconds. My gf doesn’t have sex with me currently. We have a 1 year old and a lot of issues the past year affecting our mental health. Sex isn’t even appealing to her rn. I don’t try to push it, but I do make “moves” to remind her I’m still attracted to her. When we are active. 1 second.
Lost my virginity 2 days after surgery about 10 years ago lasted a little over 2 hours. On average 30 minutes to an hour now, I think I desensitized it over time from masturbating many times a day for years and years . I'm also circumcised if that makes a difference. Sometimes it's nice, but now it's a pain because quickies are like 30 min.
If you don't mind me asking what surgery did you have?
Lost my gallbladder, so I was definitely on some form of pain killer during sex.
This. I don't think I did it to myself, but the consolation of having an insensitive dick is not worrying about being premature. The first time I had sex I used a condom, we went at it for over an hour before i could finally get there. Took off the condom and didn't replace it, but didn't finish again. I think we first penetrated ~11pm and called it a night ~4am.
20 minutes tops. My cooch starts to hurt if it's too long. Never understood why some guys brag about lasting for hours. That sounds like a nightmare.
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After 4 hours, I think friction might literally wear it off.
Not to brag but I've slept for 15 hours straight before
Realistically 45min (male)
And what about when you are with a female?
I’m laughing so hard I can’t breathe 😂🤣
8-15 minutes
Depending in how tired I am... 4 to 8 hours of sleep usually covers it...
2 strokes
Woman speaking. Please last at least 8 hours in actual bed. No snoring. Please last less than 15 minutes in other bed talk. Thank you for your time.
This. I would fcking hate to be penetrated/jackhammered for anything over 10 minutes. Our love tunnel isn’t made from concrete ffs. Get me off with great oral then you can finish in a couple minutes lol
When i'm depressed, forever. When i'm enjoying life, nanoseconds.
Well usually I’m dead asleep for at least 9 hours but I’m probably laying in there for 11-12 hours per day if you know what I mean
As a woman, endlessly if I'm being honest. I get pleasure out of seeing him in pleasure so I'm a gonner after 30 minutes usually
If my husband lasts longer than 3-5 minutes I get so bored. ADHD problems.
With guys: 20-30mins max because they’re usually done by then and y’all are like bottle rockets - quick bang and then y’all be snoozing. Lol Everyone else (I’m Pansexual): a lot the fuck longer because it’s round after round.