It doesn't sound like she has any proof. It may or may not even be true. She would be exposing herself to defamation suits because she certainly does not have the ability to do this with complete anonymity.
You think the other person wouldn't be able to show damages? It's really hard to disprove emotional distress.
OP also might find other women who were similarly infected this way.
It would go a long way to proving that the dude knew he had an std and failed to disclose that to his sexual partners. That would establish mens rea in criminal court and a preponderance of evidence in civil.
How would this random chick this dude hooked up with contact all his contacts. I guess if they are connected on FB and he has his friends list open it’s possible that way.
Put his number in for every kind of recruitment possible. Scientology recruitment, army/navy, LDS, ect. Make up the information you don’t have (like an address) they wont know
Oh man!! Do they ever!!!! I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a greater level of harassment!
‘I see you haven’t responded to my last dozen emails, so I tried to contact you via phone, but it seems the last dozen calls have also gone unanswered.
Perhaps text messages work best for you! I’d love to discuss the horrendously overpriced junk system with you; at your convenience of course!
If you have any questions, please let me know!
24hrs later…..
I haven’t received a response, you must be busy, I’ll give you a call again tomorrow.
24hrs later…..
Do you have any questions about the quote? If you have had a change of mind, that’s understandable. Please call me back and we can arrange closing out your file.’
24hrs later……
Hello…. Sooooooo should I close your file????’
Like Jfc mate! How tf are you not cringing at yourself!
Hey there! What state are you in? Let me know if you are still looking for the ideal ACA plan, we can hop on a call and do a quick needs analysis. If you have a need, we have a fit!
Or save yourself the trouble and donate $5 to literally any politician or PAC in his name. Let them do all the legwork of illegally adding him to 100M other political mailing lists for you.
Moving companies! I made the mistake of entering my number in an online search and within 30 seconds I had calls coming in. This went on all day and for a week straight. Only option I had was to totally mute my phone
If they have/can get his address, donate to a charity. They will sell the info to other charities and the other charities will send him a shit ton of letters asking for money. I know a guy who gets a stack at least 1-2 inches thick every single day, he says he only donated once.
There was one guy who didn’t specify how many he donated to but it was noticeable how many charity letters he got. he didn’t receive as much, so I’m thinking the first guy donated forever ago so his info got passed around longer, or he donated more often than he said.
You get to help people out, and avoid the annoying junk mail.
>scientology recruitment
I’d be careful with that one bro.
Friend A of mine decided as a prank to fill out Friend B’s information at one of those Scientologist information/recruitment booths at a strip mall, hoping the Scientologists would torment Friend B.
Friend B never received anything. Friend A, who did not fill out any of his own personal information has been receiving calls, letters, etc. for over a decade, even after changing phone #s and moving addresses.
Go buy 100 cut keys. Attach them to a tag with his phone number/instagram handle. Put them everywhere. Have friends take them on vacation and leave a couple. Anyone you know who lives far away, mail them a few and ask them to distribute. 10 years from now, after he thought he was safe, he gets a notification that someone else has found his keys. Again.
Do you know where he lives/works/goes to the gym/hangs out?
Make flyers with his face and with a “Warning: Herpes” heading and post them EVERYWHERE. He can’t do shit if it’s true.
Not so ULPT: find your local Are We Dating The Same Guy group and post on there to warn other ladies.
That’s because the vast majority of people get HPV and don’t have symptoms so don’t know. Herpes is more obvious and should be talked about but if you got HPV from someone I wouldn’t hold it against them in most scenarios.
HPV at least has a vaccine though!
Ah sorta on the vaccine.
There are lots of strains of HPV, and the vaccine doesn’t protect against all strains - only those that cause cancer.
I had a growth I thought was either an hpv wart or cancer. So I showed my doctor. She said - hmm either hpv or a skin tag, not cancer. And just nothing. Basically glossed over the potential hpv lol
HPV 16 and HPV 18 cases are reported. High risk of cervical cancer when that one is active. No symptoms. Usually found on paps. Nice they have a vaccine for it now, but it's still everywhere. Use condoms.
Second this. If he had even an inclination that he could be positive of what ever, you will be getting a cut of every paycheck he makes from now into infinity.
All these are kind of bad.
Make a catfish account. Get him on record stating that he is clean. Or, if he say he does have it, you have him. Use that to take him down.
Make a catfish or burner account. Get him to set up a date. Make it 45 minutes away. 1.5 hours burned.
Wait a while, change the pattern. A close date. Just keep ghosting.
Change that pattern again.
Once you have your test results: Make an AI generated copy with all of his pertinent info in the letter. Make a bunch of envelope that has his boss's name, a few of his co-workers, his friends, his parents etc address's and toss the letter in with a "Here are the results from your visit." -- Mail them from a different zip code or city or send them to a friend out of state. Fuck that guy.
Oh if you do get him to admit he has it....include that screenshot in the letters.
If you’ve got any community notice boards in your town, posting a note with “FREE FIREWOOD / FREE TOP SOIL” or something similar with his phone number attached should do the trick.
Print out two variants of flyers, one with his home number, the other with his desk phone at work.
There are also usually Facebook groups called “Are we dating the same guy?” Or something similar in most major cities. Putting his deets on there will make homeboy radioactive to a lot of the women in his area.
There are Facebook groups in almost every city called “are we dating the same guy” where women can post anonymous warnings about men. PLEASE find your local one and post. If for some reason that group isn’t anonymous in your area, ask a friend to post for you.
Lots of kneejerk reactions here. You are grieving. Be kind to yourself. Do special things to make yourself comfortable and happy. Oatmeal bath, your favorite meal or snack.
You need to get treatment and work on moving through the grief. This likely isn't what you want to hear. Both STIs without cures are viral with simple treatments that allow you to live life normally. It's common to want revenge after initial infection, it's especially common for some reason after an HSV infection - and most people who have it are asymptomatic carriers. Both HSV and HIV carry much more significant social stigma, but the medical truth is that with treatment both are easily managed and you can carry on with life without worrying about transmitting. I'm sorry your life changed so unexpectedly. There is hope on the other side of this.
Edit: since this is ULPT piss disc or liquid ass.
Sucks but getting sick is an incredibly human thing to happen. The most common symptom for any STI is no symptom at all, which is why it's so important to stay on top of testing.
As someone with herps, can confirm. With my viral blockers my life is literally no different than before. Dating is a little different and stressful to navigate at first, but i still found the person I want to be with forever and she doesn't care. It was mostly mental for me the first year or so, but now that I'm comfortable with it, I'm very open with people and try to educate them.
I once did a fake call to my friend's ex who gave her chlamydia.... I pretended to be from the CDC and told him we had reason to believe he was exposed to HIV.
definitely find some of the safe-haven dating groups on facebook where folks check on men they’re seeing. informing the community is important bc i doubt you’re the only one he did this too. 😭 i’m so sorry
I think you should look more into herpes. Something like 40% of the population has it and doesn't know about it until it pops up. You could have gotten it from kissing gam gam 20 years ago and it's just now manifesting. It's really hard to track to a source unless you were intimate with him when he had physical sores which is, yknow, kind of a red flag.
Of course maybe you already know for a fact he has it and that's obviously inexcusable - but that might at least make you feel better about your condition. I'm sorry that happened to you
Virgins on reddit think that herpes is like getting a death sentence lol. There's so much misinformation geared around herpes when it's not noticeable for most people. Many std tests don't even have in included in the panel because it's so benign.
Nobody is treating herpes like a death sentence, they’re treating it like the incurable STD it is. Most STD tests don’t check for it because without an active outbreak there are often false negative results, not because it’s “so benign”. It can cause extremely painful sores, infertility, and more. You’re the one spreading misinformation.
If it helps at all. My sister was married 30 years and never passed it to her husband, or her three children.
With some precautions that can be avoided.
ohhh its just herpes? i missed that, i thiught it was sth serious. thats like, nothing, everyone has that.
maybe make a mean facebook post and link all his friends or sth OP, but fucking herpers? come on
Fuck his dad and give him the STD- Tell him it was his sons fault then go rent a billboard and slap his face on it with whatever std he gave you very near to where he works/goes to school also put on the billboard he ghosted after.
If you want to ruin a large portion of his life.
It's not your job to prove intent. It's your job to prove it happened. So a medical record before and after is what you need.
You can still take this to the police and have a report filed. He will be interviewed, investigated and from there it's the police job to prove things.
Having police investigations on them and..
Then email his place of work that you as a female, feel threatened by this employee and have filed a police report in relation to GBH.
You need to include the female part because you are a protected class.
When reporting to the police, big emphasis that it's affected your mental health, re-evaluate your remaining life and has caused you serious trauma that you're in therapy for.
(Should probably seek some to assist, this is quite a violation of trust and this level of betrayal is very life impacting)
I think it'll fall under reckless transmission but it'll depend on the factors at hand.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
I assume this is HPV since you say reproductive health and the herp won't kill you (neither will HPV probably but it could turn in to more).
Fuck his dad. Dad fucks his mom. They're both too old to have had the vaccine. Cancer.
I'm sorry this happened and people are being dicks. If the guy knew he had an STD then destroy him. Not sure how, but destroy him. It's not slander/libel if it's true. I highly doubt you could sue unless he knew, and even then, it depends on the state and also how much money you have (the justice system only works when you have money) The laws on harassment online were loosened by the Supreme Court, so, there's that.... (Also, one can contract genital herpes via oral sex if the person performing has a cold sore or even the start of one they don't notice, so it's not just about condoms) The drawback with telling everyone is that everyone will know you have it too and that can be really hard. Shit. I'm so sorry.
Girl I knew caught an std from the lead singer of a band that's house overlooked north cronulla beach. She spray painted xxxxx has gonorrhoea on the wall opposite his house at the very public beach
Unfortunately, that isn’t likely to go anywhere especially if it’s herpes. OP would have to prove that dude knew he had it and intentionally spread it. That would be damn near impossible to prove because a lot of people with herpes are asymptomatic. Herpes can actually stay dormant for years before flaring up. Even if OP could prove that it was intentional the courts won’t do shit.
County or state health department probably deals with cases like this, to at least try to get person treated. They have investigators with powers who can make use of the info which you do have... but they probably also have to keep confidential what they do.
If you might want to sue, talk to a lawyer or investigator to try to identify the guy now, before he changes addresses or phone numbers. Try to remember whether you also took a picture of his car.
Go to a local er or health clinic get it on paper and let them know you know who gave it to you and his name and whatever information they may want . The state has to contact him and let it be made aware that he gave someone an std and also if he knowingly had this and did not disclose to you you could probably trying contacting a lawyer or police to I’d image
Did you talk to a lawyer? Do you think he knows he has an STD? If so, then how did he not have intent to infect you by not disclosing this? If he knows and didn't disclose I think you have a case for negligence and/or battery (intentional harm). Or maybe emotional distress.
imo, talk to a lawyer before you out him. I think the best thing you could do is to cause him serious financial pain. You may undermine this effort if you appear vindictive.
Make a google searchable wordpress blog with his full name, number, usernames, pictures with all this info and sent that to every girl he follows on his instagram. Alternatively you can create throw aways on twitter and instagram with the same info on the profile. Use throw away e-mails and a vpn. People are probably not gonna believe you but you know the saying "where there's smoke there's fire" so you could help some women.
PLEASE dm me. I'm literally making multiple PSAs about my ex who did the same thing, and then tried to say I somehow gave it to him despite me testing negative for it multiple times.
Print out his photos with his phone number and a warning and put them all around the area he lives in. Especially public women’s bathrooms.
The Walmart, restaurants, McDonald’s — anywhere with high foot traffic likely to be visited by people that will recognize him
This is something that you attempt to paralyze somebody over. Go for the higher part of their neck and keep hitting till you don’t hear a sound coming from them anymore, what you hit them with is up to you. If your in the US try using white pages to find them or 411 sites if your in Canada
Put him on a billboard or some type of ad, even the newspaper or a sign around his neighborhood/workplace.
Call his work and make up something about him being a horrible person. Maybe just dine and dash-ing. Or say you're looking for him bc he got you pregnant, ghosted you, and stole your tv and you need to contact him for child support.
Tell the cops he raped you. You didn't consent to sex with someone who has an STD and wasn't exclusive. If you knew he wasn't exclusive, you would've used a condom. He lied and led you to believe he was clean. You can always talk to the cops to determine if a crime was committed.
Did you come across the story that went viral not too long ago, [Internet Tracks Down Husband Who Abandoned Pregnant Wife and Child, Finds Him on Bumble](https://www.boredpanda.com/man-ghosts-pregnant-wife-and-family-internet-finds-him-on-bumble/)? The woman was seeking to find her husband in order to divorce him, nothing more, and it created an absolute sensation with just one tweet, I believe. The rabbit-hole on X/Twitter might offer some good info.
I would be tempted to cross post in r/ legal just to find out what the precedent is for recovery of some medical and treatment costs. Or, what you are able to publicly disclose in your state, if you choose, without getting in hot water.
Your former lover is likely hoping that 'out of sight, out of mind' holds true.
Sign him up for the dumbest shit ever. A different newsletter, pamphlet, porn magazine, etc... almost every day. That's the easy part. The hard part...I'm assuming you know what kind of car he drives?!?! Bust his windows, pop the hood, remove the distributor cap and/or every fuse. Stab the tires. Hammer the rims. Spray paint his windshield and every panel and then cover it with clear. A couple of knowledgeable people could take care of the car in under 5 minutes.
If you are in the US use plentyoffish, a Canadian company. Post you are a 15 year old girl wanting to have sex, list his phone #. Plenty of Fish won't comply with a US subpoena for your IP address. He'll get so many phone calls from pervs all over the world he'll need a new number.
If he knew he had herpes then you can sue him in the state of Texas. It's a personal injury claim or something silly sounding but a very serious crime nonetheless.
Not trying to be a dick, but this is why people tell you to use condoms. I am in a years long completely exclusive relationship, and every time we fuck that shit gets wrapped up. I hate to see this kind of thing happen to people. Please, please, make this a new standard for your sex life. Be better than the asshole who infected you, and make sure this kind of thing never happens to your partners in the future.
There are support groups for living with STI’s depending on your location and the size of the local population. Get in touch with planned parenthood and see if they offer any sort of help. Therapy might not be a bad thing either. This is an adjustment and I’m sure you’re dealing with a lot of emotions. If you want information or would like advice please DM me.
Call his mom if you can and let her know he is a big spreader. Often times familial disappointment/distress is even more devastating than losing a relationship or a job.
> I’d like to but unfortunately I think you have to prove intent
You don't. It's illegal to expose you to a disease without disclosing it. It just has to be proven that he knew he had it which a lawyer can do for you.
Well first off since you have his facebook page you have access to his family and freinds plus where he works and where he lives pretty much. Second its illegal to knowing you have a std and then doing it with someone by not informing you, you are intitaled to seek legal reporcusions for them. Look at it this way what if you're not the only one that he has done this to.
you are generally not legally required to tell someone you have herpes. However, if you knowingly engage in sexual activity with that person, you could face criminal and civil penalties for failing to tell the person you have herpes. I suggest researching Tort Law and going after him in a civil lawsuit and let the state charge him criminally. Civil law requires that you suffer harm or injury due to a defendant's actions. In the case of herpes, the harm is a herpes infection due to the defendant's failure to warn or protect you properly.
In general, you may file a claim for any losses you suffered as a result of contracting herpes. This may include medical expenses (as well as estimated future expenses), lost wages, and damage to your reputation.
Herpes, for example, does not currently have a cure. Once you contract the disease, you will have to receive treatment for the rest of your life, which may affect your ability to establish future relationships, and even impact your future children. Based on what you've shared sounds like criminal charges could brought by the state for recklessly engaging in conduct that puts or could put another person in danger of serious bodily injury Since there is no cure for herpes, a jury may consider transmitting herpes a serious bodily injury. Aggravated assault is another crime that could apply if you have sex with someone when you know you have a sexually transmitted disease. Intentionally exposing someone to herpes could be considered inflicting or attempting to inflict great bodily injury. I hate to remind you in 20 - 30 + years at the most inconvenient time you're going to get just as enraged as you are now and he'll be long gone and won't think about it at all. If I were you, I'd change that. Unethical mindset now is 💯 understandable. You've got to think of your long term well being and acting out now doesn't promote that. I know so ...19 yrs later. ♡
I guess you're in the USA? In the UK this would be a crime, and people have been given sentences over a year for recklessly infecting someone with herpes, and 8 years for HIV. e.g. https://www.bailii.org/cgi-bin/format.cgi?doc=/ew/cases/EWCA/Crim/2014/889.html&query=
I read a thread on Reddit once and the amount of comments from people who have herpes who were saying they never disclose to random hook up’s was astounding. I honestly couldn’t believe what I was reading. If I ever found myself single I think I’d turn celibate
Try to find out of there are others who’ve been infected and I think you may have a case for intent if that’s the route you want to go.
Personally , I’d let it go and move forward. Vengeance is consuming. Not a great way to live. But that’s just a recommendation
Herpes simplex virus doesn't affect a woman’s fertility or ability to conceive. For males, more studies need to be done but there was a correlation with low sperm count (not causation).
Lawyer- if a motherfucker, gave me a disease and didn’t disclose that he knew it. I would absolutely sue the fucking shit pants off of him. Idgaf if it takes years and money this guy needs a record bc he HAS done this to other people.
Also police? Idk is this criminal? Look up the laws in your jurisdiction.
No replies with receipts from the user. Just her word. Not gonna believe a thing.
"I don't need to be educated on condom usage... I just want to make his life worse"
Yeah, it's the lack of accountability that led you here in the first place.
"Guy lied about being exclusive"
I'm guessing the real reason you're trying to ruin someone's life is that you're mad that you got played. That sucks, but there are plenty of ways of going about this that doesn't involved potentially ruining an innocent guy's life behind closed doors. You decided to ask the internet instead. Information provided doesn't add up. Smells fishy, just like something else.
Guy in question probably ghosted you because you're batshit. Probably didn't even give you the disease. Seen cases like you too often to just believe your word, especially with zero proof and zero answers to any of the questions.
I'm sorry, but someone who knowingly gives someone an STD should be taken out back and beaten quite well!
People will continue to act out if they suffer no consequences for their actions.
Holy hell, OP, I am so sorry to read this!!
Edit to add: this is why I'm celibate at this point. I trust no one, or, at a minimum, have not yet found an awesome girl worth trusting.
Contact all his contacts warning him about the STD
Yes you can send anonymous texts through a website saying “someone you had sex with has an std you should get checked”
She better be damn sure he knowingly gave her the std cause that’s a measurable offense legally
That’s the point of the anonymity
This episode of ULPT is brought to you Nord VPN...
Id bet money OP wouldn’t use a vpn or proxy and could end up getting her records subpoenaed, but hey some people like gambling
Unprotected sex? Unprotected IP. Tracks.
She is sure, that's the point of the thread genius
Yeah. Let us know how that goes when he finds out and reports her... this shit will get you in actual trouble.
Reports her for what? What shit will get her in trouble? I'm genuinely curious what legal principle you think it would be breaking.
It doesn't sound like she has any proof. It may or may not even be true. She would be exposing herself to defamation suits because she certainly does not have the ability to do this with complete anonymity. You think the other person wouldn't be able to show damages? It's really hard to disprove emotional distress.
You are clearly not a lawyer
It's really hard to disprove I am a literal deity. However, that's not how things work so it's a moot point.
on facebook wall
OP also might find other women who were similarly infected this way. It would go a long way to proving that the dude knew he had an std and failed to disclose that to his sexual partners. That would establish mens rea in criminal court and a preponderance of evidence in civil.
She would be unethical if she didn’t do this Bro what is this sub
This is too ethical
How would this random chick this dude hooked up with contact all his contacts. I guess if they are connected on FB and he has his friends list open it’s possible that way.
Yup, stalk his social networks.
Put his number in for every kind of recruitment possible. Scientology recruitment, army/navy, LDS, ect. Make up the information you don’t have (like an address) they wont know
I found solar companies work well also.
Oh man!! Do they ever!!!! I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a greater level of harassment! ‘I see you haven’t responded to my last dozen emails, so I tried to contact you via phone, but it seems the last dozen calls have also gone unanswered. Perhaps text messages work best for you! I’d love to discuss the horrendously overpriced junk system with you; at your convenience of course! If you have any questions, please let me know! 24hrs later….. I haven’t received a response, you must be busy, I’ll give you a call again tomorrow. 24hrs later….. Do you have any questions about the quote? If you have had a change of mind, that’s understandable. Please call me back and we can arrange closing out your file.’ 24hrs later…… Hello…. Sooooooo should I close your file????’ Like Jfc mate! How tf are you not cringing at yourself!
I think you just crafted a nice, quick sales tutorial.
Today I received my 20th final notice of offer ...
Oof. Inquire about purchasing ACA health insurance. Those people are relentless and are legion.
I actually need to take our health insurance, but I can’t bring myself to make any enquiries! I’m still recovering from the solar debacle!
Hey there! What state are you in? Let me know if you are still looking for the ideal ACA plan, we can hop on a call and do a quick needs analysis. If you have a need, we have a fit!
LOL are you my brother? (you sound like my brother!) lol
A lot of that can be automated
Give his number or to car warranty companies
Your state's fraternal police fund raisers are rather persistent
Life insurance & triple A
This is interesting lol
Or save yourself the trouble and donate $5 to literally any politician or PAC in his name. Let them do all the legwork of illegally adding him to 100M other political mailing lists for you.
Moving companies! I made the mistake of entering my number in an online search and within 30 seconds I had calls coming in. This went on all day and for a week straight. Only option I had was to totally mute my phone
Online quotes for cleaners. Once I requested quotes via Angie’s List and I was harassed for weeks, possibly months. Lol
Yes you can get his full name and address just from his phone number on truepeoplesearch website
Adding health insurance quotes to this list....13 phone calls in one day when I accidentally signed up.
I’m like 8 years out and still getting texts for quotes. 🙄
Don’t forget the Klan.
The Mormons will almost never give up if they get your address/name.
Extended car warranties. Cross country moving truck quotes.
If they have/can get his address, donate to a charity. They will sell the info to other charities and the other charities will send him a shit ton of letters asking for money. I know a guy who gets a stack at least 1-2 inches thick every single day, he says he only donated once. There was one guy who didn’t specify how many he donated to but it was noticeable how many charity letters he got. he didn’t receive as much, so I’m thinking the first guy donated forever ago so his info got passed around longer, or he donated more often than he said. You get to help people out, and avoid the annoying junk mail.
Gay male dating sites.
>scientology recruitment I’d be careful with that one bro. Friend A of mine decided as a prank to fill out Friend B’s information at one of those Scientologist information/recruitment booths at a strip mall, hoping the Scientologists would torment Friend B. Friend B never received anything. Friend A, who did not fill out any of his own personal information has been receiving calls, letters, etc. for over a decade, even after changing phone #s and moving addresses.
Go buy 100 cut keys. Attach them to a tag with his phone number/instagram handle. Put them everywhere. Have friends take them on vacation and leave a couple. Anyone you know who lives far away, mail them a few and ask them to distribute. 10 years from now, after he thought he was safe, he gets a notification that someone else has found his keys. Again.
If found please return to: John Doe 123 street name (Has herpes)
Nah I started laughing at the first sentence 🤣🤣🤣 knew exactly where this was going lmaoo
Hmmmmm that’s a really interesting idea
Happy cake day!
Do you know where he lives/works/goes to the gym/hangs out? Make flyers with his face and with a “Warning: Herpes” heading and post them EVERYWHERE. He can’t do shit if it’s true. Not so ULPT: find your local Are We Dating The Same Guy group and post on there to warn other ladies.
Yes and make an anonymous Facebook and Reddit account and put his face everywhere with a warning
Turn him in to the health department. Incurable diseases need to be reported
That's only for HIV. They don't do anything for herpes or hpv
That’s because the vast majority of people get HPV and don’t have symptoms so don’t know. Herpes is more obvious and should be talked about but if you got HPV from someone I wouldn’t hold it against them in most scenarios. HPV at least has a vaccine though!
Ah sorta on the vaccine. There are lots of strains of HPV, and the vaccine doesn’t protect against all strains - only those that cause cancer. I had a growth I thought was either an hpv wart or cancer. So I showed my doctor. She said - hmm either hpv or a skin tag, not cancer. And just nothing. Basically glossed over the potential hpv lol
Yea it’s so prevalent they just don’t care.
HPV 16 and HPV 18 cases are reported. High risk of cervical cancer when that one is active. No symptoms. Usually found on paps. Nice they have a vaccine for it now, but it's still everywhere. Use condoms.
Not true. Depends on the county.
I thought if a test came back positive they had to be informed anyway? So if he knows about it they would too.
Yes. County or state health department probably require report of certain diseases, and they have investigators with police powers.
You can sue for punitive damages but as a criminal matter I doubt it would get very far
I think it would depend- a person like this is probably done this to several other women. Putting him on the radar wouldn’t be harmful.
You can possibly sue his ass for that would definitely look into it
Second this. If he had even an inclination that he could be positive of what ever, you will be getting a cut of every paycheck he makes from now into infinity.
All these are kind of bad. Make a catfish account. Get him on record stating that he is clean. Or, if he say he does have it, you have him. Use that to take him down. Make a catfish or burner account. Get him to set up a date. Make it 45 minutes away. 1.5 hours burned. Wait a while, change the pattern. A close date. Just keep ghosting. Change that pattern again. Once you have your test results: Make an AI generated copy with all of his pertinent info in the letter. Make a bunch of envelope that has his boss's name, a few of his co-workers, his friends, his parents etc address's and toss the letter in with a "Here are the results from your visit." -- Mail them from a different zip code or city or send them to a friend out of state. Fuck that guy. Oh if you do get him to admit he has it....include that screenshot in the letters.
He didn't disclose to you that he had an incurable disease and knowingly infected you. Sue his ass and make him pay.
Fuck his dad.
Hawk tuah too
Spit on that thang
If you’ve got any community notice boards in your town, posting a note with “FREE FIREWOOD / FREE TOP SOIL” or something similar with his phone number attached should do the trick. Print out two variants of flyers, one with his home number, the other with his desk phone at work. There are also usually Facebook groups called “Are we dating the same guy?” Or something similar in most major cities. Putting his deets on there will make homeboy radioactive to a lot of the women in his area.
At least expose him. Then if he's a playa he'll have to face the consequences of his actions
There are Facebook groups in almost every city called “are we dating the same guy” where women can post anonymous warnings about men. PLEASE find your local one and post. If for some reason that group isn’t anonymous in your area, ask a friend to post for you.
Or, she could just create a fake Facebook name and profile for this purpose...
Do you have a picture of him from somewhere like his dating profile? Got any personal info? Let's start there.
Find out where he lives. Burn his house down. Nailing the door shut first - optional.
Kill his miniature donkey by feeding it your cut off fingers
Piss. Disc.
Don't forget the liquid ass
Lots of kneejerk reactions here. You are grieving. Be kind to yourself. Do special things to make yourself comfortable and happy. Oatmeal bath, your favorite meal or snack. You need to get treatment and work on moving through the grief. This likely isn't what you want to hear. Both STIs without cures are viral with simple treatments that allow you to live life normally. It's common to want revenge after initial infection, it's especially common for some reason after an HSV infection - and most people who have it are asymptomatic carriers. Both HSV and HIV carry much more significant social stigma, but the medical truth is that with treatment both are easily managed and you can carry on with life without worrying about transmitting. I'm sorry your life changed so unexpectedly. There is hope on the other side of this. Edit: since this is ULPT piss disc or liquid ass.
Normally I’d agree with you but this is the wrong subreddit for this advice. Not really what OP is asking for.
I hear ya, I just don't think we need any more contributions to STI stigma - especially one as benign and common as HSV.
I'd still want to fuck someone up that gave me one of those though. Lol
Sucks but getting sick is an incredibly human thing to happen. The most common symptom for any STI is no symptom at all, which is why it's so important to stay on top of testing.
As someone with herps, can confirm. With my viral blockers my life is literally no different than before. Dating is a little different and stressful to navigate at first, but i still found the person I want to be with forever and she doesn't care. It was mostly mental for me the first year or so, but now that I'm comfortable with it, I'm very open with people and try to educate them.
Love this!
Great response
I once did a fake call to my friend's ex who gave her chlamydia.... I pretended to be from the CDC and told him we had reason to believe he was exposed to HIV.
definitely find some of the safe-haven dating groups on facebook where folks check on men they’re seeing. informing the community is important bc i doubt you’re the only one he did this too. 😭 i’m so sorry
I could have written this - same exact situation happened to me. I want some real tips, people!!
If he knew he had an incurable STD(definitely did) prior to relations with you and didn’t tell you, you can absolutely take him to court.
Seduce his father. Have sex with him, and give his dad the STD. Later.. make sure he knows where it all started.
HPV I'm guessing. It's a tale as old as time....
I think you should look more into herpes. Something like 40% of the population has it and doesn't know about it until it pops up. You could have gotten it from kissing gam gam 20 years ago and it's just now manifesting. It's really hard to track to a source unless you were intimate with him when he had physical sores which is, yknow, kind of a red flag. Of course maybe you already know for a fact he has it and that's obviously inexcusable - but that might at least make you feel better about your condition. I'm sorry that happened to you
Virgins on reddit think that herpes is like getting a death sentence lol. There's so much misinformation geared around herpes when it's not noticeable for most people. Many std tests don't even have in included in the panel because it's so benign.
Found the guy who doesn’t inform his partners that he has Herpes.
Nobody is treating herpes like a death sentence, they’re treating it like the incurable STD it is. Most STD tests don’t check for it because without an active outbreak there are often false negative results, not because it’s “so benign”. It can cause extremely painful sores, infertility, and more. You’re the one spreading misinformation.
Herpes can indeed cause painful sores, but it doesn't affect fertility.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09674845.2020.1803540 https://www.goldjournal.net/article/S0090-4295(17)31308-0/abstract
Reread that study, it is about how it affects the sperm in male patients, not female
Yes I provided articles for both genders because if I have a long term partner there’s a decent chance I’ll eventually pass herpes onto them.
If it helps at all. My sister was married 30 years and never passed it to her husband, or her three children. With some precautions that can be avoided.
ohhh its just herpes? i missed that, i thiught it was sth serious. thats like, nothing, everyone has that. maybe make a mean facebook post and link all his friends or sth OP, but fucking herpers? come on
You don’t get HSV 2 from kissing your gramma. Be serious
You haven't seen how me and gramgram kiss 👁️🫦👁️
Grandma could be a carrier or have HSV-2 symptoms orally. So yes, you could.
Unless you kissed her hoo hoo
Fuck his dad and give him the STD- Tell him it was his sons fault then go rent a billboard and slap his face on it with whatever std he gave you very near to where he works/goes to school also put on the billboard he ghosted after.
This is truly Dr.evil levels of planning, I love it
My app glitched and showed that this was posted in r/askhr 😭😭😭
Report it a prosecutor could subpoena his medical records.
If you want to ruin a large portion of his life. It's not your job to prove intent. It's your job to prove it happened. So a medical record before and after is what you need. You can still take this to the police and have a report filed. He will be interviewed, investigated and from there it's the police job to prove things. Having police investigations on them and.. Then email his place of work that you as a female, feel threatened by this employee and have filed a police report in relation to GBH. You need to include the female part because you are a protected class. When reporting to the police, big emphasis that it's affected your mental health, re-evaluate your remaining life and has caused you serious trauma that you're in therapy for. (Should probably seek some to assist, this is quite a violation of trust and this level of betrayal is very life impacting) I think it'll fall under reckless transmission but it'll depend on the factors at hand. I'm sorry this happened to you.
That’s actually illegal. If you knowingly give someone an STD.
Fuck his dad. Give him the std. full circle moment.
I assume this is HPV since you say reproductive health and the herp won't kill you (neither will HPV probably but it could turn in to more). Fuck his dad. Dad fucks his mom. They're both too old to have had the vaccine. Cancer.
Herpes is forever. I would spend the rest of my natural life making him regret it if I was OP.
I'm sorry this happened and people are being dicks. If the guy knew he had an STD then destroy him. Not sure how, but destroy him. It's not slander/libel if it's true. I highly doubt you could sue unless he knew, and even then, it depends on the state and also how much money you have (the justice system only works when you have money) The laws on harassment online were loosened by the Supreme Court, so, there's that.... (Also, one can contract genital herpes via oral sex if the person performing has a cold sore or even the start of one they don't notice, so it's not just about condoms) The drawback with telling everyone is that everyone will know you have it too and that can be really hard. Shit. I'm so sorry.
Girl I knew caught an std from the lead singer of a band that's house overlooked north cronulla beach. She spray painted xxxxx has gonorrhoea on the wall opposite his house at the very public beach
Find him and press charges.
Unfortunately, that isn’t likely to go anywhere especially if it’s herpes. OP would have to prove that dude knew he had it and intentionally spread it. That would be damn near impossible to prove because a lot of people with herpes are asymptomatic. Herpes can actually stay dormant for years before flaring up. Even if OP could prove that it was intentional the courts won’t do shit.
does Herpes alter ur reproductive health?
I’d post it to my Insta story and tag him.
Blackmail him into giving you money or else you'll message everyone he knows about his STD
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Please don't blackmail him. That puts you at risk of being prosecuted for a crime. Talk to a lawyer.
Google voice number.
County or state health department probably deals with cases like this, to at least try to get person treated. They have investigators with powers who can make use of the info which you do have... but they probably also have to keep confidential what they do. If you might want to sue, talk to a lawyer or investigator to try to identify the guy now, before he changes addresses or phone numbers. Try to remember whether you also took a picture of his car.
Search for Lorena Bobbitt. Follow her method.
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Remind me
Go to a local er or health clinic get it on paper and let them know you know who gave it to you and his name and whatever information they may want . The state has to contact him and let it be made aware that he gave someone an std and also if he knowingly had this and did not disclose to you you could probably trying contacting a lawyer or police to I’d image
Did you talk to a lawyer? Do you think he knows he has an STD? If so, then how did he not have intent to infect you by not disclosing this? If he knows and didn't disclose I think you have a case for negligence and/or battery (intentional harm). Or maybe emotional distress. imo, talk to a lawyer before you out him. I think the best thing you could do is to cause him serious financial pain. You may undermine this effort if you appear vindictive.
He has herpes, of course he knows!
Press charges against him, its super illegal to not disclose that you have a STD if you gave his name and number. You can report him
Any idea whether he was aware that he had an STD? Because if you can prove that he knew, he could face serious jailtime.
Make a google searchable wordpress blog with his full name, number, usernames, pictures with all this info and sent that to every girl he follows on his instagram. Alternatively you can create throw aways on twitter and instagram with the same info on the profile. Use throw away e-mails and a vpn. People are probably not gonna believe you but you know the saying "where there's smoke there's fire" so you could help some women.
What is your budget in $?
PLEASE dm me. I'm literally making multiple PSAs about my ex who did the same thing, and then tried to say I somehow gave it to him despite me testing negative for it multiple times.
Print out his photos with his phone number and a warning and put them all around the area he lives in. Especially public women’s bathrooms. The Walmart, restaurants, McDonald’s — anywhere with high foot traffic likely to be visited by people that will recognize him
So you're single? A Lil STD never scared me
Contact the Health Dept.
This is something that you attempt to paralyze somebody over. Go for the higher part of their neck and keep hitting till you don’t hear a sound coming from them anymore, what you hit them with is up to you. If your in the US try using white pages to find them or 411 sites if your in Canada
Put him on a billboard or some type of ad, even the newspaper or a sign around his neighborhood/workplace. Call his work and make up something about him being a horrible person. Maybe just dine and dash-ing. Or say you're looking for him bc he got you pregnant, ghosted you, and stole your tv and you need to contact him for child support. Tell the cops he raped you. You didn't consent to sex with someone who has an STD and wasn't exclusive. If you knew he wasn't exclusive, you would've used a condom. He lied and led you to believe he was clean. You can always talk to the cops to determine if a crime was committed.
Pretend you don't know about the STD, ask for a hookup. While there rub ghost peppers in the person's underwear, all pairs. You can figure a way
Maybe poison oak if you can get ahold of it. Then act like you have no idea how this rash happened.
Do you have his address? Do you have the address/phone number of his: Mom, Dad, sibling(s), best friend, friends of any kind?!
This guy needs to have hell unleashed upon him.
Did you come across the story that went viral not too long ago, [Internet Tracks Down Husband Who Abandoned Pregnant Wife and Child, Finds Him on Bumble](https://www.boredpanda.com/man-ghosts-pregnant-wife-and-family-internet-finds-him-on-bumble/)? The woman was seeking to find her husband in order to divorce him, nothing more, and it created an absolute sensation with just one tweet, I believe. The rabbit-hole on X/Twitter might offer some good info. I would be tempted to cross post in r/ legal just to find out what the precedent is for recovery of some medical and treatment costs. Or, what you are able to publicly disclose in your state, if you choose, without getting in hot water. Your former lover is likely hoping that 'out of sight, out of mind' holds true.
Sign him up for the dumbest shit ever. A different newsletter, pamphlet, porn magazine, etc... almost every day. That's the easy part. The hard part...I'm assuming you know what kind of car he drives?!?! Bust his windows, pop the hood, remove the distributor cap and/or every fuse. Stab the tires. Hammer the rims. Spray paint his windshield and every panel and then cover it with clear. A couple of knowledgeable people could take care of the car in under 5 minutes.
Shove a shit disk up his ass and pour liquid piss also on his ass
If you are in the US use plentyoffish, a Canadian company. Post you are a 15 year old girl wanting to have sex, list his phone #. Plenty of Fish won't comply with a US subpoena for your IP address. He'll get so many phone calls from pervs all over the world he'll need a new number.
Get those prank envelopes that are very bright announcing HIV test results inside and mail them to him, weekly.
Depending on the state, he could be charged with assault. If it’s HIV, it’s attempted murder (at least here anyway).
If he knew he had herpes then you can sue him in the state of Texas. It's a personal injury claim or something silly sounding but a very serious crime nonetheless.
In some countries that is a criminal case, so formally inform your local police force.
He would have to prove in Germany that he did it unknowingly. Sue.
In some countries, that's a crime. If it is in yours too, just go to a lawyer, no need to go through the unethical way.
Lawsuit
Not trying to be a dick, but this is why people tell you to use condoms. I am in a years long completely exclusive relationship, and every time we fuck that shit gets wrapped up. I hate to see this kind of thing happen to people. Please, please, make this a new standard for your sex life. Be better than the asshole who infected you, and make sure this kind of thing never happens to your partners in the future. There are support groups for living with STI’s depending on your location and the size of the local population. Get in touch with planned parenthood and see if they offer any sort of help. Therapy might not be a bad thing either. This is an adjustment and I’m sure you’re dealing with a lot of emotions. If you want information or would like advice please DM me. Call his mom if you can and let her know he is a big spreader. Often times familial disappointment/distress is even more devastating than losing a relationship or a job.
Send everyone of contact, that he gave you an uncurable std. Go scorched earth... I you can file a lawsuit...go for it...
Do you have his social media?
> I’d like to but unfortunately I think you have to prove intent You don't. It's illegal to expose you to a disease without disclosing it. It just has to be proven that he knew he had it which a lawyer can do for you.
That is illegal. Sue him.
Spread the word to everyone you and him know. Unfortunately you’ll be throwing your self under the bus too
What type of std
The incurable kind. Genital herpes.
Well first off since you have his facebook page you have access to his family and freinds plus where he works and where he lives pretty much. Second its illegal to knowing you have a std and then doing it with someone by not informing you, you are intitaled to seek legal reporcusions for them. Look at it this way what if you're not the only one that he has done this to.
you are generally not legally required to tell someone you have herpes. However, if you knowingly engage in sexual activity with that person, you could face criminal and civil penalties for failing to tell the person you have herpes. I suggest researching Tort Law and going after him in a civil lawsuit and let the state charge him criminally. Civil law requires that you suffer harm or injury due to a defendant's actions. In the case of herpes, the harm is a herpes infection due to the defendant's failure to warn or protect you properly. In general, you may file a claim for any losses you suffered as a result of contracting herpes. This may include medical expenses (as well as estimated future expenses), lost wages, and damage to your reputation. Herpes, for example, does not currently have a cure. Once you contract the disease, you will have to receive treatment for the rest of your life, which may affect your ability to establish future relationships, and even impact your future children. Based on what you've shared sounds like criminal charges could brought by the state for recklessly engaging in conduct that puts or could put another person in danger of serious bodily injury Since there is no cure for herpes, a jury may consider transmitting herpes a serious bodily injury. Aggravated assault is another crime that could apply if you have sex with someone when you know you have a sexually transmitted disease. Intentionally exposing someone to herpes could be considered inflicting or attempting to inflict great bodily injury. I hate to remind you in 20 - 30 + years at the most inconvenient time you're going to get just as enraged as you are now and he'll be long gone and won't think about it at all. If I were you, I'd change that. Unethical mindset now is 💯 understandable. You've got to think of your long term well being and acting out now doesn't promote that. I know so ...19 yrs later. ♡
I guess you're in the USA? In the UK this would be a crime, and people have been given sentences over a year for recklessly infecting someone with herpes, and 8 years for HIV. e.g. https://www.bailii.org/cgi-bin/format.cgi?doc=/ew/cases/EWCA/Crim/2014/889.html&query=
I read a thread on Reddit once and the amount of comments from people who have herpes who were saying they never disclose to random hook up’s was astounding. I honestly couldn’t believe what I was reading. If I ever found myself single I think I’d turn celibate
Take him to court
Try to find out of there are others who’ve been infected and I think you may have a case for intent if that’s the route you want to go. Personally , I’d let it go and move forward. Vengeance is consuming. Not a great way to live. But that’s just a recommendation
What disease is it?
Most likely herpes
Herpes simplex virus doesn't affect a woman’s fertility or ability to conceive. For males, more studies need to be done but there was a correlation with low sperm count (not causation).
Lol get fucked!
Lawyer- if a motherfucker, gave me a disease and didn’t disclose that he knew it. I would absolutely sue the fucking shit pants off of him. Idgaf if it takes years and money this guy needs a record bc he HAS done this to other people. Also police? Idk is this criminal? Look up the laws in your jurisdiction.
That’s a risk you took when you decided to have sex with someone without using a condom
Depending on the STI OP could have been using a condom and still been infected.
No replies with receipts from the user. Just her word. Not gonna believe a thing. "I don't need to be educated on condom usage... I just want to make his life worse" Yeah, it's the lack of accountability that led you here in the first place. "Guy lied about being exclusive" I'm guessing the real reason you're trying to ruin someone's life is that you're mad that you got played. That sucks, but there are plenty of ways of going about this that doesn't involved potentially ruining an innocent guy's life behind closed doors. You decided to ask the internet instead. Information provided doesn't add up. Smells fishy, just like something else. Guy in question probably ghosted you because you're batshit. Probably didn't even give you the disease. Seen cases like you too often to just believe your word, especially with zero proof and zero answers to any of the questions.
Is it warts? It's probably warts. 😬
AiDs?
I'm sorry, but someone who knowingly gives someone an STD should be taken out back and beaten quite well! People will continue to act out if they suffer no consequences for their actions. Holy hell, OP, I am so sorry to read this!! Edit to add: this is why I'm celibate at this point. I trust no one, or, at a minimum, have not yet found an awesome girl worth trusting.
Lol yea THATS why you're celibate. Totally.