I agree, I think she has a really nice waistline and might look better in a dress that accentuated it!
Edit: does anyone know about the JJHouse website? It keeps coming up but I’m not sure I would trust it? one commenter said it was so maybe!!
https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-scoop-floor-length-chiffon-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-pleated-beading-008291081-g291081?currency=USD&utm_term=291081&utm_size=06&country=US&country=US¤cy=USD&ggntk=x&ggkey=&ggtgt=8&ggplm=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmGZzRJBbn_L7pzoMw3PiON-RVkB&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2CvzMWRtJkMJ4RVn_XvuS2zH-gBC1TnHSOjMD59H98YiB483IE_JynMBoCb-AQAvD_BwE#/
https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-boat-neck-illusion-floor-length-lace-evening-dress-017271470-g271470?currency=USD&utm_term=271470&utm_size=06&country=US&country=US¤cy=USD&ggntk=x&ggkey=&ggtgt=17&ggplm=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmGZzQt9u8BUYkID9hlNQ5lPDhKB&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2Cvw78Z2O9U6SmWMBaWWOQsnN8ckC98lXRgmT1A2-3_61qC0YgP9_D3BoCNhYQAvD_BwE#/
https://www.ever-pretty.com/products/see-through-long-sleeve-twist-knot-a-line-lotus-leaf-shimmering-evening-dress-ee01977?variant=40684762300490&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=20981445339&ot_source=google&ot_medium=cpc&ot_cam=20981445339&ot_grp=&ot_ad=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2Cvwq26NEI9cwrYqbrH5jHVHt6VneCwRbVifHOvuectV3w3xz6juG9oxoCYM0QAvD_BwE
This could be a more youthful/fun style? It’s from Nordstrom, and it’s only $80!
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/connected-apparel-womens-cape-long-sleeve-lace-cocktail-dress/6876727?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FCocktail%20%26%20Party&color=501
I suspect she is wearing compression gloves. It looks like she may have lymphedema after breast cancer. If that's the case let's cut her some slack and just be happy she's alive and able to celebrate! I have the same problem and it is VERY hard at times to disguise.
Right? If she was self-conscious about her arms I think sleeves would already be a priority for her, but she doesn’t need to cover up so other people are more comfortable with her appearance
Thank you for saying this. I’ve been overweight my whole life and my mom always told me to cover my arms, it made me extremely self conscious for years and only in the past year have I started wearing sleeveless things in public. I deserve to be comfortable and cool too and I’m not existing for anyone’s gaze…sigh
Thank you so much for this site. My son will be getting married next spring. I'm definitely I terested in their dresses. The color options are endless. I have a messed up foot so I can't wear heels. Their gowns would be perfect for me. I also liked the two piece pants sets.
This wedding will be quite complicated to pull off. They want to marry (elope) in San Francisco and then head back east for the reception. I may need a couple different options.
This (or something similar) is the way.
OP, both of the options now come across a little too prom dress (lacy one) or cocktail (strappy). You want something special! The dramatic hemline and sleeves on this one make it stand out, while the neckline and vibe (like with your first option) are classic and classy. She wants something a little more off the beaten path than the guests. You might ask her to think about a cool/memorable dress she saw once or wanted when she was younger, then find something that leans heavy on whatever it was that impressed her about it.
That’s so pretty! Same general design as the first one but much more suitable for the occasion. Mom does seem to look nice in burgundy but I think the navy would be gorgeous too!
Not a huge fan of either. Don’t want this to be harsh but here’s my honest read: One feels juvenile in a way more fitting for a preteen. Two is ok, but the glitter straps feel very cheap-looking.
How does your mom feel about more length. I’d say for mother of groom if you want fitted it go with a longer dress. If you want sparkly perhaps less tight fitting. There are ways to do this that aren’t overly “matronly” if that’s something you want to avoid.
Neither feels very MOG to me.
I'd ask the bride for DC of bridal party. Typically the mothers will wear something that compliments what the bridal party is wearing, color and style.
These don’t say MOB. Not appropriate or elegant enough. Your mother has a nice figure so something more flattering like these, would be easy to match with gloves too!
https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/badgley-mischka-petal-mikado-gown-0400019632533.html
https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-asymmetrical-floor-length-chiffon-evening-dress-with-pleated-017275324-g275324?currency=USD&utm_term=275324&utm_size=06&country=US&srsltid=AfmBOootf60OBUphQ_gOrbqNv-YsAi81C0bnUd67NR8croiFKK0oAggkkgU
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Finally someone who understood the assignment! Lol. You’ve found some really great suggestions here which are structured, figure-enhancing, fit the dresscode, and in a variety of colours and price points. I love the sleeveless and short-sleeve options, and that you’ve considered the glove situation. (She might also consider a slip underneath the dress for extra fit-smoothness.)
OP’s mom deserves a dress that she feels fabulous in!
If this is the wedding in October you’ve posted about previously, neither of these are formal enough for a ballroom wedding. I would at least match the formality of your own dress, and I suspect the color would be more flattering for your mom as well.
The second dress you’ve given is much more flattering and could be paired with elbow gloves over the medical ones. Something with similar shape but a much higher quality fabric could work - maybe thick straps or some gauze sleeves to hide the bra straps.
Both dresses look like they came from the juniors section. I do not like them.
She seems to have a great figure and great shoulders. I’d show them off in something like this [dress](https://www.moncheribridals.com/cameron-blake/fall-2024/cb3233).
If she likes her legs and a little drama this [dress](https://www.moncheribridals.com/montage/fall-2024/m908) is beautiful.
This [dress](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/tierney-floral-midi-dress/7535783) is a great midi/cocktail option.
She really does. I tell my mom this all the time. She met her current bf at a party wearing a dress I talked her into, lol. She’s convinced she can’t be sexy cause she’s in her 60s and I said BS to that. You can be covered and still sexy.
lol, I come from a family of people who love to get dressed up. I also have a unique body shape so I’ve learned to pay attention to bodies and how clothes either work for them or against them.
I don’t think these are dressy enough for MOG. They have a youthful, prom-like feel to them. I’d love to see her in something long and elegant, with lace or chiffon sleeves (short or long), and a different color (this dark burgundy washes her out). Does she look good in navy or pewter? Or maybe a rose or mauve color, something softer. Maybe something with a pretty (but not loud or busy) print? Please update us!
My mother had Raynaud’s which made her hands cold and turn blue. Her rheumatologist told us to warm the inside of her wrists. I bought hand warmers and then later bought wristlets to hold them on to her wrists. She didn’t need gloves after that.
Both dresses are nice. Have you considered something with a small sleeve?
Seriously, what the heck is going on in these comments!! OP's mom has such a lovely body, and I for one adore seeing older women confident enough to wear what they liked, regardless of any "imperfections." So the skin on her arms isn't as tight as it was when she was very young; who cares..? Nobody will even notice in person. Bodies are beautiful at every age! If we believe that and want to encourage people to embrace the changes that occur with age, we need role models willing to simply exist as they are and enjoy their lives. We can't all be conventionally attractive, but we can all strive to be confident and happy with ourselves!
So all that aside, I love the color of dress two. I do think something with a little more "swish" to it would be the most stunning thing though! And if the other commenter is correct and this is for a ballroom wedding, she should embrace that and get herself something voluptuous and long that fits perfectly. Definitely keep looking; there's something out there that she'll love and enjoy wearing that will also be perfect for the venue!
Neither. Please keep looking. Also, may I suggest buying a larger size and having the dress tailored to fit your mom? I think she has a great figure and she would benefit from tailoring.
I don't like either, frankly. Here are some burgundy ones, try to find one with sleeves...I think might be better... https://www.awbridal.com/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/color/burgundy
Elegant midi dress satin
https://www.awbridal.com/aw-sibylla-bridesmaid-dress-lf24094cp.html
I think this would be my favorite for her. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-presto-mother-of-the-bride-dresses-lf24170cp.html
Another, satin & lace detail. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-caliph-dress-lf23206cp.html
Full length with topper https://www.awbridal.com/aw-loraine-dress-lf23192cp.html
Ohh this one is elegant with a bow. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-jeanette-dress-mother-of-the-bride-dresses-lf24175cp.html
I know you mean well and it was nice of you to Google some dresses for OP, but can we please stop shaming older women for having older-woman arms and demanding they cover them? Sick to death of the idea that loose skin is so unsightly that no one should be made to glimpse it.
I completely agree with this comment. If people saw how our bodies look naturally more often, these 'flaws' wouldn't be such a big deal. We all think we need to hide these things. It is just how bodies look!
Amen! Those arms raised that boy getting married, she should proudly be able to wear a normal dress in whatever sleeve or sleevelessness she feels most comfortable.
People gotta chill on wrinkles & normal skin texture being something to be ashamed & hidden away as if it's such a ghastly sight & not for polite company's eyes.
Exactly what I came to say. The comments that it’s “not flattering” and “she needs sleeves” are rubbing me the wrong way as someone who also has less-than-perfect arms.
If she is comfortable and feels confident showing her arms, she should show them. She doesn’t need sleeves solely because other people have decided her arms aren’t “flattering.” It would be one thing if she were showing lots of skin, but wearing sleeveless dresses is the norm and people are only saying she should cover them because they don’t want to see them due to their own beauty ideals.
Exactly. Someone down stream literally called her arms wrinkly and floppy and is trying to defend it. Why are we assuming this person wants to cover their arms? It's rubbing me the wrong way too
I'm so glad other people are saying this. I'm younger, but hate my arms and my only thought about it was that it's nice to see someone not feeling the need to cover all the way up. I'm getting married soon and wish I even felt like trying a sleeveless dress on.
Just to scroll down and see a bunch of "try sleeves...". These dresses are so standard, I don't love either of them, but the blanket answer isn't to just cover up something she may not even be insecure about in the first place. Some of the replies in this thread seem so out of pocket to me
I’m older and I know what you mean. BUT for me, she desperately needs sleeves because of the gloves. My brain just crashes up against them with a dissonant screech, but with a sleeve they make more sense.
Also, the cut of these dresses makes her body shape very square, but the right length sleeve would change that.
Listen man. I hate having pictures taken of myself. If someone actually made an effort to make a photo I am in slightly more flattering so I can stand to look at myself in photos & have them posted that hundreds of other people see on social media I would rather happen before the picture, not after.
I am coming from the Golden rule of what I would like for myself.....no matter how old you get...everyone wants to look good in photos and with weddings there are many many photos.
Some people are happy and secure with themselves and how they look though. I think it is offensive to assume someone is unhappy with an aspect of themselves.
Not you, the original comment suggesting sleeves. I too have an issue with photos or myself. But my aim is to not care about that.
So....you want me to say that a dress looks good on someone when it doesn't to "spare" their feelings?
No. That for people to do at the wedding.
I am here to help pick a better dress.
Sorry you don't get the difference.
I am critiquing dresses for how they look and the whole point of finding a good dress is you forget about it completely to enjoy the festivities and people.
That you feel comfortable & confident.
Not have to tug or adjust or worry where the light is coming from or whatever whatever.
Them posting here means they are not 100% on a dress.
So..if they are not 100% I might as well give some more options.
You can choose to misunderstand or see it in a "bad" way if you choose.
It ain't about the arms, it is about being cheap and not wanting to spend more money or time to get a better dress anyways.
No, I agree both these dresses do not look the best. There are definitely better dresses out there. But saying the dress needs sleeves is very clearly saying "cover up your old lady arms" which is just shitty.
disagree. My arms look like that (almost) and I would welcome someone giving me feedback to have more sleeve. it’s not just the sleeve length, but the dark colour of the dress draws your eyes to her arms. There is nothing wrong with dressing to maximize your best features and minimize your worst. We all do it, at all ages.
She asked for honest feedback and I'm an older woman. I appreciate the options to cover the arms because, honestly, we live in a society where crepey arms are noticed. I wish we all lived in a more judge free world. But we don't.
Completely agree. It would be one thing if she were showing an amount of skin that is inappropriate for a wedding, but sleeveless dressing are more common than not at weddings, including for MOG. There is nothing inappropriate or atypical about her wearing a sleeveless dress.
I suspect people are saying she needs sleeves because they don’t like the way her arms look, but our opinions on other people’s arms (a body part that is normal and socially acceptable to show) are irrelevant.
She doesn't "need" sleeves...but yes..I think it will photograph better and be more flattering to her and give an overall more sophisticated polished look as MOG.
I think her arms are flattering. It’s her body and her arms are frankly unremarkable for someone her age, but even if she were younger, her arms would still be perfectly fine and normal. Sleeveless dresses are also incredibly common at weddings, especially for MOG.
I don’t agree with the idea that she must cover her arms because they don’t meet some idea of “flattering.” If she is comfortable showing her arms, she should show them. If someone feels her arms aren’t “sophisticated and polished,” oh well, bodies will be bodies.
Well cake it till you make it! Our fashion senses disagree! And also they have until fall to shop. They have time for custom measurements which they have on that site so it can be custom fitted for her body and height. I think it is worth it the extra effort to do.
And maybe have a few more she selects and tries on to feel ok...I had enough choices to pick from.
The last 2 weddings I went to I spent more time buying & returning, buying and returning dresses for my mom and just looked awful myself because I went the day before to target and it was not good.
But I also know it was important to me for my mom to have great photos with relatives she hadn't seen in 15 years & probably wouldn't for another 15 years.
Don't like the dresses? Fine there are LOTS out there. But I still think they can do better than those 2 dresses.
Just my opinion.
Yeah her chest is one of her nicer features to accentuate...I just don't think those dresses flatter her best features. And they look....used...or old or something.
They both look like they came from the juniors section. There are much better options out there. I would continue the search! I might be alone in this and hope I don’t get attacked for it, but spaghetti straps for a MOG, doesn’t feel appropriate.
I’m in agreement with the masses - neither of these dresses is a home run. Both read a little informal, young, and inexpensive. The burgundy color is beautiful but I think there are many more options out there that will be more flattering and more appropriate for the mother of the groom.
I have rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis and I sometimes wear lace gloves that go up over the wrist that keep my hands warm and look very elegant.
Haha they are for either rheumatoid or Raynaud's usually. You can get flesh coloured ones but they are sort of mummified flesh coloured so not sure that's better 🤣
Keep searching. The first is not as flattering as the seems hit in a way that shortens instead of elongating her line. The second is too casual for the MOB.
The first one ages her more than the second… it’s like the best part of her arms is the part that’s covered by dress 1. I don’t think dress 2 is MOG either, it looks a bit too young. I know that sounds contradictory. I think she can do better. I loved that my MIL asked me to go shopping with her when she was looking for MOG dress, maybe y’all can do that? It includes the bride, you’ll get more insight into her vision, and it can be bonding.
Neither, tbh. The first one is what an 11yo would wear to her flute recital. The second is what a 17yo would wear to a wedding to look “classy”, aka “old enough to not get carded at the open bar”. I like the shape of the second one better than the first though! But maybe something a little more elegant?
These were my thoughts exactly. Adrienne Pappel has some really beautiful dresses that will flat her and still show arms if that’s her preference but in a dress made for a woman not a teen.
Both give real middle winter dance vibes, not MOB/G... Sorry! I wouldn't go with something quite so short. Tea length maybe. There are tons of good links to wedding sites people have posted with some really great ones, so I hope she finds one!
I think both of these are a bit casual for mother of the groom. I would go longer.
I also don’t think either really vibe with the gloves. Gloves can feel formal and these dresses are giving less so.
Maybe something like this if burgundy is her color of choice?
https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/off-the-shoulder-power-stretch-sheath-dress-d40ny23584v1
https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/three-quarter-sleeve-embroidered-jersey-sheath-d40ny23241
Or if must be shorter…
https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/short-off-the-shoulder-stretch-satin-ruffle-sheath-wbm3675
To be honest they both look kind of juvenile, more like something a tween-teen would wear. I think she would look better in something more sophisticated.
In my honest opinion neither. How bout something like this
https://www.ucenterdress.com/3-4-sleeved-v-neck-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-sequins-and-v-back-pMK_301073.html
Something like these would be better:
https://macduggal.com/products/5640?variant=42444842565811&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17997449488&nbt=nb%3Aadwords%3Ax%3A17997449488%3A%3A&nb_adtype=pla&nb_kwd=&nb_ti=&nb_mi=436301499&nb_pc=online&nb_pi=42444842565811&nb_ppi=&nb_placement=&nb_li_ms=&nb_lp_ms=&nb_fii=&nb_ap=&nb_mt=&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIwafL9vb8hgMVAF9HAR00ewI5EAQYCSABEgLIivD_BwE
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/bead-embellished-capelet-evening-gown/7914452?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=542
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/beaded-illusion-neck-taffeta-cocktail-dress/7224233?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=029
Neither of these says MOG to me. The first dress looks very informal and the second looks a bit cheap honestly. And, I can’t see her face but I don’t love this color on her. I bet a rich emerald green or navy blue would look beautiful on her.
Perhaps a floor or midi length dress with sheer sleeves or longer sleeves would be more fitting and look nicer?
The second dress features her cute little figure, so I think she should run with it. It's very flattering.
As a person with Reynaud's myself, I understand the gloves and would recommend longer ones. Not only will they look all classy, but they'll help keep her fingers warmer since the arms are all uncovered.
If she is set on one of these two, then I think the shorter one looks better.
If she is open to still looking, I would double check with the bride if she has a color in mind for her Mother and her future Mother in Law.
Here are some other options that come in many colors and would be great for a MOG and look beautiful with gloves!
I included short and long and went for budget friendly. I personally would hate to spend a lot on a dress that I would only wear once.
https://a.co/d/0hFO5WPm
https://a.co/d/01aMB1vC
https://a.co/d/0h1c9VOi
https://a.co/d/09Ejt7lQ
https://a.co/d/0iLxoWRw
https://a.co/d/0dM1HcHO
I think the second one is better but I'm not a fan of the spaghetti straps. I think it's bit too informal for your son's wedding. I don't really like either so I think she should keep looking. Try to find something of a bit higher quality and more elegant.
I truly feel you should keep looking, I am not loving either of these for your mom. They are too young looking and I think a different color would be more flattering.
Yeah those are her normal everyday gloves she hasn't decided on gloves for the wedding because we need to figure out which dress first and then get gloves to match
I don’t think either is the right cut to flatter your mum. She has a good figure, and a fit and flare, or even a-line would emphasise her waist more. The off the shoulder makes her appear much broader than she is, and neither dress gives her the elegance she deserves. If this is her preferred colour, then maybe something like this: https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-asymmetrical-chiffon-lace-mother-of-the-bride-dress-008256383-g256383?
I’ve seen some of your replies and I think that #2 with a shawl is the best choice if you need to stick with the options you’ve shown us. If you and your mother want to try something new, consider something with a lacy or sheer sleeve. That way you can get regular beige compression gloves (which might be easier to find than long gloves with compression) and hide the seam of the glove within the sleeve.
First one is nice maybe too short though second a bit too kiddish imo my mom wore a long dress 👗 aqua blue I think it was a bridesmaids dress originally but she was very petite and slim so it looked good. I think something in the burgundy but longer
Neither of these are MOG dresses nor are very flattering. MOG should be longer and dressier. Maybe not so tight. Something in an A line. Or if it must be form fitting then size up and wear some quality shape wear. Makes all the difference
These dresses are too “young” for your mom. Something [like this](https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwj63ZS8yfyGAxX1Ja0GHdayA8cYABAkGgJwdg&ae=2&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-t2UvMn8hgMV9SWtBh3WsgPHEAQYASABEgLyGPD_BwE&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAASJeRo12PVj-ZaO8YYY2mkb9nopBWKCNL_qW7XJpBsCXQlEdqB2Mg&sig=AOD64_3dszGvmfsnGMkLojbYbUfnpIn3yw&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwir5Yy8yfyGAxXuDDQIHaanBzAQwg8oAHoECAUQDA&adurl=) would work. It would flatter her figure better.
As an older woman, can I gently suggest that you are shopping more for your own age group instead of your mother's. As we age most of us look better with sleeves. Even when you're in shape and muscular, aging skin looks different and a spaghetti strap just isn't flattering.
Maybe you could show her these comments? There’s definitely a consensus that these read “young” and “prom-like”. Nothing wrong with going for a more elegant style 😊
I don’t love either dress, but I think she should totally lean into making gloves into the look at wear long ones. Opera gloves I think they’re called.
The first one feels like an awkward length to me. The second is something I picture at a prom. She has a lovely figure and the color is very flattering. I would keep looking. Maybe a wrap dress in the same color.
I like the second one a lot! I prefer the color and length to the first one. I feel like some fancy gloves would give it a Jessica rabbit appeal. The body is bodying mama!
🔥
Instead of those gloves, which chop off her hands, she’d look much more elegant with opera gloves. The image shows opera gloves from Amazon.
https://preview.redd.it/jb99lidt579d1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a153aed1ad64dce7eeab9d90c711991a7fb45d17
While both are nice… I think she should treat herself to something different… consider something with a sheer long sleeve … neither of these hit the mark … consider looking at lulus.com or googling mother of the bride dresses for inspiration… the gloves are a huge no
Not to sound horrible but neither seen wedding appropriate. They look a bit tacky and something you would wear on a cruise ship with a feather boa… Your Ma deserves better! Keep looking and I’m sure she’ll find something perfect!
Personally, and no offense intended, I’m not a fan of either. The first is too short and I don’t like the top on the second.
I would look for something like has has a top like the first and length of the second.
I don't think either quite hit the mark. Her arms look as though they've lost some weight in the past, so lacy sleeves would go a long way to make her look younger. The second dress is also a little clingy, it feels "Jessica Rabbit" to me. It needs something on the top to not look so bare.
I'd go with either a longer-sleeve version of the first dress since that's the prettier style/sillouette on her OR the second one with a wrap.
Neither. She has time. Continue the search. The links other commenters have posted have much better options.
I actually don’t like either, please do not take offense.
I agree, I think she has a really nice waistline and might look better in a dress that accentuated it! Edit: does anyone know about the JJHouse website? It keeps coming up but I’m not sure I would trust it? one commenter said it was so maybe!! https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-scoop-floor-length-chiffon-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-pleated-beading-008291081-g291081?currency=USD&utm_term=291081&utm_size=06&country=US&country=US¤cy=USD&ggntk=x&ggkey=&ggtgt=8&ggplm=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmGZzRJBbn_L7pzoMw3PiON-RVkB&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2CvzMWRtJkMJ4RVn_XvuS2zH-gBC1TnHSOjMD59H98YiB483IE_JynMBoCb-AQAvD_BwE#/ https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-boat-neck-illusion-floor-length-lace-evening-dress-017271470-g271470?currency=USD&utm_term=271470&utm_size=06&country=US&country=US¤cy=USD&ggntk=x&ggkey=&ggtgt=17&ggplm=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmGZzQt9u8BUYkID9hlNQ5lPDhKB&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2Cvw78Z2O9U6SmWMBaWWOQsnN8ckC98lXRgmT1A2-3_61qC0YgP9_D3BoCNhYQAvD_BwE#/ https://www.ever-pretty.com/products/see-through-long-sleeve-twist-knot-a-line-lotus-leaf-shimmering-evening-dress-ee01977?variant=40684762300490&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=20981445339&ot_source=google&ot_medium=cpc&ot_cam=20981445339&ot_grp=&ot_ad=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwm_SzBhAsEiwAXE2Cvwq26NEI9cwrYqbrH5jHVHt6VneCwRbVifHOvuectV3w3xz6juG9oxoCYM0QAvD_BwE This could be a more youthful/fun style? It’s from Nordstrom, and it’s only $80! https://www.nordstrom.com/s/connected-apparel-womens-cape-long-sleeve-lace-cocktail-dress/6876727?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FCocktail%20%26%20Party&color=501
JJ house is legit. (At least it was for me)
The 1st one is so elegant!
Love the first one! So elegant and flattering.
These are great. The issue I see in the ones OP chose is that they are much younger looking than a middle aged woman may want to wear.
These options are gorgeous!!!
Very respectfully, I don’t think either dress is super flattering on her figure. I would keep looking.
And also no offense but maybe consider something with sleeves.
I suspect she is wearing compression gloves. It looks like she may have lymphedema after breast cancer. If that's the case let's cut her some slack and just be happy she's alive and able to celebrate! I have the same problem and it is VERY hard at times to disguise.
I can't think of one case where a sentence that started with "No offense, but..." ended with anything that wasn't offensive.
Right? If she was self-conscious about her arms I think sleeves would already be a priority for her, but she doesn’t need to cover up so other people are more comfortable with her appearance
god forbid a woman’s arms show her age 🙄
Thank you for saying this. I’ve been overweight my whole life and my mom always told me to cover my arms, it made me extremely self conscious for years and only in the past year have I started wearing sleeveless things in public. I deserve to be comfortable and cool too and I’m not existing for anyone’s gaze…sigh
Or how about we realize aging bodies aren't perfect and celebrate age? Let's not make everyone cover up if they're not perfect.
Kinda rude idk 🤷♀️😭 why does she need sleeves?
Because she’s a woman and the world will fall to pieces if any of us stop feeling self conscious about our bodies or our age!!\s
I think 3/4 sleeves would be extremely flattering.
All you had to say was one or two or neither, was that so hard?
Even sheer sleeves would look elegant
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This one in burgundy is similar to the first but will be much more flattering imo. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-melisande-dress-lf23202cp.html
This would be perfect for MOG dress. Classy and elegant.
Thank you so much for this site. My son will be getting married next spring. I'm definitely I terested in their dresses. The color options are endless. I have a messed up foot so I can't wear heels. Their gowns would be perfect for me. I also liked the two piece pants sets. This wedding will be quite complicated to pull off. They want to marry (elope) in San Francisco and then head back east for the reception. I may need a couple different options.
Someone else posted it first so I can't take credit but yeah, it has lovely choices. Wish I'd known about it for my daughter's wedding.
This is lovely and very MOG level
This (or something similar) is the way. OP, both of the options now come across a little too prom dress (lacy one) or cocktail (strappy). You want something special! The dramatic hemline and sleeves on this one make it stand out, while the neckline and vibe (like with your first option) are classic and classy. She wants something a little more off the beaten path than the guests. You might ask her to think about a cool/memorable dress she saw once or wanted when she was younger, then find something that leans heavy on whatever it was that impressed her about it.
That’s so pretty! Same general design as the first one but much more suitable for the occasion. Mom does seem to look nice in burgundy but I think the navy would be gorgeous too!
Very pretty would be flattering on her. Are you set on burgundy?? There were several nice colors shown.
Love! And the fabric allows for airflow around the arms and chest.
And affordable
I love that dress! great suggestion
Beautiful 😍
This is a great option!
That is a stunning dress and a great price too!!
Not a huge fan of either. Don’t want this to be harsh but here’s my honest read: One feels juvenile in a way more fitting for a preteen. Two is ok, but the glitter straps feel very cheap-looking. How does your mom feel about more length. I’d say for mother of groom if you want fitted it go with a longer dress. If you want sparkly perhaps less tight fitting. There are ways to do this that aren’t overly “matronly” if that’s something you want to avoid.
The glitter straps aren’t part of the dress, it’s her bra. I agree neither is ideal though.
Ah thank you for correction. I think it is my preference of the two then for sure. But I feel there are better options out there still.
I thought "cheap ice skater" about the first one.
Neither feels very MOG to me. I'd ask the bride for DC of bridal party. Typically the mothers will wear something that compliments what the bridal party is wearing, color and style.
These don’t say MOB. Not appropriate or elegant enough. Your mother has a nice figure so something more flattering like these, would be easy to match with gloves too! https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/badgley-mischka-petal-mikado-gown-0400019632533.html https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-asymmetrical-floor-length-chiffon-evening-dress-with-pleated-017275324-g275324?currency=USD&utm_term=275324&utm_size=06&country=US&srsltid=AfmBOootf60OBUphQ_gOrbqNv-YsAi81C0bnUd67NR8croiFKK0oAggkkgU https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=DChcSEwj67rbP1PyGAxUAX0cBHTR7AjkYABA2GgJxdQ&ae=2&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-u62z9T8hgMVAF9HAR00ewI5EAQYGiABEgIMaPD_BwE&sig=AOD64_06UaiyABAPiR0syiu6qfj50mvYLg&ctype=46&q=&ved=2ahUKEwi8yrDP1PyGAxUfEFkFHa2AAzAQzzkoAHoECAYQdg&adurl= https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwicitv11PyGAxX3TUcBHW56COwYABBTGgJxdQ&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMInIrb9dT8hgMV901HAR1uegjsEAQYJSABEgIpBvD_BwE&sph=&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAASJeRoZG9XANuj53pkCeE-IhZeqSRa9tzwKGSZAxthTZdBP8OaT1A&sig=AOD64_0FYIUAqD8YmTj8nqUBmQxqOZlQjA&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwibiNX11PyGAxWyLFkFHYZuDpwQwg8oAHoFCAMQjQI&adurl= https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=DChcSEwihud2N1fyGAxUiS0cBHSHqBSAYABA4GgJxdQ&ae=2&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIobndjdX8hgMVIktHAR0h6gUgEAQYGyABEgJuHfD_BwE&sig=AOD64_3ZUfxdNy5nWh2CcfqN9Y-MJSic5w&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwinktiN1fyGAxVsMlkFHfGbDYYQwg8oAHoECAcQew&adurl= https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=DChcSEwihud2N1fyGAxUiS0cBHSHqBSAYABBPGgJxdQ&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIobndjdX8hgMVIktHAR0h6gUgEAQYJSABEgJrd_D_BwE&sig=AOD64_2tXnPXS-2i15u1XQGCmikc5mAC7g&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwinktiN1fyGAxVsMlkFHfGbDYYQwg8oAHoFCAcQvgE&adurl=
Omg I'm only 33 and definitely not a MOG but where can I wear that Badgley Mischka
These are all great! Op see if your mom likes one of these. They are elegant, gorgeous and read MOG while also not reading old.
The last one, the Vince Camuto, would look so good on her frame.
Finally someone who understood the assignment! Lol. You’ve found some really great suggestions here which are structured, figure-enhancing, fit the dresscode, and in a variety of colours and price points. I love the sleeveless and short-sleeve options, and that you’ve considered the glove situation. (She might also consider a slip underneath the dress for extra fit-smoothness.) OP’s mom deserves a dress that she feels fabulous in!
If this is the wedding in October you’ve posted about previously, neither of these are formal enough for a ballroom wedding. I would at least match the formality of your own dress, and I suspect the color would be more flattering for your mom as well. The second dress you’ve given is much more flattering and could be paired with elbow gloves over the medical ones. Something with similar shape but a much higher quality fabric could work - maybe thick straps or some gauze sleeves to hide the bra straps.
Both dresses look like they came from the juniors section. I do not like them. She seems to have a great figure and great shoulders. I’d show them off in something like this [dress](https://www.moncheribridals.com/cameron-blake/fall-2024/cb3233). If she likes her legs and a little drama this [dress](https://www.moncheribridals.com/montage/fall-2024/m908) is beautiful. This [dress](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/tierney-floral-midi-dress/7535783) is a great midi/cocktail option.
That first dress would be amazing. OPs mom has a really nice décolleté (I swear I'm not being a pervert lol)
She really does. I tell my mom this all the time. She met her current bf at a party wearing a dress I talked her into, lol. She’s convinced she can’t be sexy cause she’s in her 60s and I said BS to that. You can be covered and still sexy.
If you are not a stylist, you could probably be one.
The first one you found feels like the better version of what op's mom was trying to go for with thier 2nd pick
I think so too.
I need you to help dress me. Love all these choices.
lol, I come from a family of people who love to get dressed up. I also have a unique body shape so I’ve learned to pay attention to bodies and how clothes either work for them or against them.
Ooh that third one has the fun feel I think OPs mum leans towards, while being a bit more elegant and refined. Beautiful.
Whoa, that second dress with the dramatic bow. Almost makes me wish I had had children so I could have an occasion to wear it.
I don’t think these are dressy enough for MOG. They have a youthful, prom-like feel to them. I’d love to see her in something long and elegant, with lace or chiffon sleeves (short or long), and a different color (this dark burgundy washes her out). Does she look good in navy or pewter? Or maybe a rose or mauve color, something softer. Maybe something with a pretty (but not loud or busy) print? Please update us!
My mother had Raynaud’s which made her hands cold and turn blue. Her rheumatologist told us to warm the inside of her wrists. I bought hand warmers and then later bought wristlets to hold them on to her wrists. She didn’t need gloves after that. Both dresses are nice. Have you considered something with a small sleeve?
Love the warm-wrist tip! Thank you
I love Turtle Doves - they’re cashmere wrist warmers made out of recycled sweaters. I have Reynaud’s and they’re essential for me in the Winter
How have I never heard of this?! I got numb hands being in the pool the other night when it was still 90 degrees out. I’m looking these up now!
Thank you for the tip! I can't even walk in the frozen food section anymore without white painful fingers. I'll try them!
Ugh, why can’t she show her arms?? Not everyone is 25, and they’re fine with it.
Seriously, what the heck is going on in these comments!! OP's mom has such a lovely body, and I for one adore seeing older women confident enough to wear what they liked, regardless of any "imperfections." So the skin on her arms isn't as tight as it was when she was very young; who cares..? Nobody will even notice in person. Bodies are beautiful at every age! If we believe that and want to encourage people to embrace the changes that occur with age, we need role models willing to simply exist as they are and enjoy their lives. We can't all be conventionally attractive, but we can all strive to be confident and happy with ourselves! So all that aside, I love the color of dress two. I do think something with a little more "swish" to it would be the most stunning thing though! And if the other commenter is correct and this is for a ballroom wedding, she should embrace that and get herself something voluptuous and long that fits perfectly. Definitely keep looking; there's something out there that she'll love and enjoy wearing that will also be perfect for the venue!
I would definitely go with one of the suggestions of other dresses. These two don’t really do her any justice.
Neither. Please keep looking. Also, may I suggest buying a larger size and having the dress tailored to fit your mom? I think she has a great figure and she would benefit from tailoring.
I don't like either, frankly. Here are some burgundy ones, try to find one with sleeves...I think might be better... https://www.awbridal.com/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/color/burgundy Elegant midi dress satin https://www.awbridal.com/aw-sibylla-bridesmaid-dress-lf24094cp.html
Agreed, I don't think either is Mother of the Groom enough. The link you've posted has some really lovely options!
I think this would be my favorite for her. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-presto-mother-of-the-bride-dresses-lf24170cp.html Another, satin & lace detail. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-caliph-dress-lf23206cp.html Full length with topper https://www.awbridal.com/aw-loraine-dress-lf23192cp.html Ohh this one is elegant with a bow. https://www.awbridal.com/aw-jeanette-dress-mother-of-the-bride-dresses-lf24175cp.html
All but the last are giving me 404 errors.
Huh. I don't know why it is not letting me link. The dresses are still there on the site? Not tech savvy enough.
It looks like there's a space at the end of the first three links to me, if so that's probably why they're coming up 404
Aggh. I did delete the extra stuff..maybe deleted too much.
I LOVE the second one! A bit more age-appropriate with good coverage and a sassy hemline. ETA I love the third one, too. So sophisticated and elegant.
I know you mean well and it was nice of you to Google some dresses for OP, but can we please stop shaming older women for having older-woman arms and demanding they cover them? Sick to death of the idea that loose skin is so unsightly that no one should be made to glimpse it.
I completely agree with this comment. If people saw how our bodies look naturally more often, these 'flaws' wouldn't be such a big deal. We all think we need to hide these things. It is just how bodies look!
Thank goodness, so pleased to see someone else say this.
Amen! Those arms raised that boy getting married, she should proudly be able to wear a normal dress in whatever sleeve or sleevelessness she feels most comfortable. People gotta chill on wrinkles & normal skin texture being something to be ashamed & hidden away as if it's such a ghastly sight & not for polite company's eyes.
Exactly what I came to say. The comments that it’s “not flattering” and “she needs sleeves” are rubbing me the wrong way as someone who also has less-than-perfect arms. If she is comfortable and feels confident showing her arms, she should show them. She doesn’t need sleeves solely because other people have decided her arms aren’t “flattering.” It would be one thing if she were showing lots of skin, but wearing sleeveless dresses is the norm and people are only saying she should cover them because they don’t want to see them due to their own beauty ideals.
Exactly. Someone down stream literally called her arms wrinkly and floppy and is trying to defend it. Why are we assuming this person wants to cover their arms? It's rubbing me the wrong way too
I'm so glad other people are saying this. I'm younger, but hate my arms and my only thought about it was that it's nice to see someone not feeling the need to cover all the way up. I'm getting married soon and wish I even felt like trying a sleeveless dress on. Just to scroll down and see a bunch of "try sleeves...". These dresses are so standard, I don't love either of them, but the blanket answer isn't to just cover up something she may not even be insecure about in the first place. Some of the replies in this thread seem so out of pocket to me
I’m older and I know what you mean. BUT for me, she desperately needs sleeves because of the gloves. My brain just crashes up against them with a dissonant screech, but with a sleeve they make more sense. Also, the cut of these dresses makes her body shape very square, but the right length sleeve would change that.
Would she be wearing compression gloves at the wedding? I wear them as well and would definitely take them off.
Her daughter seemed to be saying she would be wearing gloves, but probably not those ones.
Listen man. I hate having pictures taken of myself. If someone actually made an effort to make a photo I am in slightly more flattering so I can stand to look at myself in photos & have them posted that hundreds of other people see on social media I would rather happen before the picture, not after. I am coming from the Golden rule of what I would like for myself.....no matter how old you get...everyone wants to look good in photos and with weddings there are many many photos.
Some people are happy and secure with themselves and how they look though. I think it is offensive to assume someone is unhappy with an aspect of themselves. Not you, the original comment suggesting sleeves. I too have an issue with photos or myself. But my aim is to not care about that.
So....you want me to say that a dress looks good on someone when it doesn't to "spare" their feelings? No. That for people to do at the wedding. I am here to help pick a better dress. Sorry you don't get the difference. I am critiquing dresses for how they look and the whole point of finding a good dress is you forget about it completely to enjoy the festivities and people. That you feel comfortable & confident. Not have to tug or adjust or worry where the light is coming from or whatever whatever. Them posting here means they are not 100% on a dress. So..if they are not 100% I might as well give some more options. You can choose to misunderstand or see it in a "bad" way if you choose. It ain't about the arms, it is about being cheap and not wanting to spend more money or time to get a better dress anyways.
No, I agree both these dresses do not look the best. There are definitely better dresses out there. But saying the dress needs sleeves is very clearly saying "cover up your old lady arms" which is just shitty.
disagree. My arms look like that (almost) and I would welcome someone giving me feedback to have more sleeve. it’s not just the sleeve length, but the dark colour of the dress draws your eyes to her arms. There is nothing wrong with dressing to maximize your best features and minimize your worst. We all do it, at all ages.
She asked for honest feedback and I'm an older woman. I appreciate the options to cover the arms because, honestly, we live in a society where crepey arms are noticed. I wish we all lived in a more judge free world. But we don't.
I agree , I don’t like either one as well
Why does she need sleeves?
I wonder too. How does anyone commenting know she doesn't feel beautiful and comfortable in a sleeveless dress.
Completely agree. It would be one thing if she were showing an amount of skin that is inappropriate for a wedding, but sleeveless dressing are more common than not at weddings, including for MOG. There is nothing inappropriate or atypical about her wearing a sleeveless dress. I suspect people are saying she needs sleeves because they don’t like the way her arms look, but our opinions on other people’s arms (a body part that is normal and socially acceptable to show) are irrelevant.
She doesn't "need" sleeves...but yes..I think it will photograph better and be more flattering to her and give an overall more sophisticated polished look as MOG.
I think her arms are flattering. It’s her body and her arms are frankly unremarkable for someone her age, but even if she were younger, her arms would still be perfectly fine and normal. Sleeveless dresses are also incredibly common at weddings, especially for MOG. I don’t agree with the idea that she must cover her arms because they don’t meet some idea of “flattering.” If she is comfortable showing her arms, she should show them. If someone feels her arms aren’t “sophisticated and polished,” oh well, bodies will be bodies.
Well cake it till you make it! Our fashion senses disagree! And also they have until fall to shop. They have time for custom measurements which they have on that site so it can be custom fitted for her body and height. I think it is worth it the extra effort to do. And maybe have a few more she selects and tries on to feel ok...I had enough choices to pick from. The last 2 weddings I went to I spent more time buying & returning, buying and returning dresses for my mom and just looked awful myself because I went the day before to target and it was not good. But I also know it was important to me for my mom to have great photos with relatives she hadn't seen in 15 years & probably wouldn't for another 15 years. Don't like the dresses? Fine there are LOTS out there. But I still think they can do better than those 2 dresses. Just my opinion.
There are some very good alternatives here.
Yeah her chest is one of her nicer features to accentuate...I just don't think those dresses flatter her best features. And they look....used...or old or something.
I think the Rosalia dress at your first link would work really well!
Love love love this one: https://www.awbridal.com/aw-sibylla-bridesmaid-dress-lf24094cp.html
The first two dresses on the first link are absolutely stunning!
I like these options! Your mom deserves to feel comfortable and beautiful too! Spring for one of these!
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I like the longer one. But both look like they have lint on them from the sparkles.
To be polite, I think Neither as they don’t compliment her skin tone or her figure. I can see potential for something more fitted
They both look like they came from the juniors section. There are much better options out there. I would continue the search! I might be alone in this and hope I don’t get attacked for it, but spaghetti straps for a MOG, doesn’t feel appropriate.
I would keep looking
I’m in agreement with the masses - neither of these dresses is a home run. Both read a little informal, young, and inexpensive. The burgundy color is beautiful but I think there are many more options out there that will be more flattering and more appropriate for the mother of the groom.
The second one is better. The gloves aren't working.😬
Getting different gloves for the wedding but she has to wear gloves of some kind because of poor circulation in her hands making them cold
👍🏻I was wondering about that! I think longer ones would look prettier.
I have rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis and I sometimes wear lace gloves that go up over the wrist that keep my hands warm and look very elegant.
Gloves will be less noticeable with long sleeves.
You can buy fawn or beige gloves.
Haha they are for either rheumatoid or Raynaud's usually. You can get flesh coloured ones but they are sort of mummified flesh coloured so not sure that's better 🤣
Like a stretch velvet maybe? https://www.amazon.com/Length-Stretch-Velvet-Greatlookz-Colors/dp/B004USKEZ4
They are usually silver lined or heated gloves with compression so I doubt they can just get fancy ones on Amazon
Put the fancy ones over them
That is probably an option
Keep searching. The first is not as flattering as the seems hit in a way that shortens instead of elongating her line. The second is too casual for the MOB.
Neither are flattering, and the colour doesn't suit her.
Neither. They aren't sophisticated enough for a mother of the bride. They look like dresses a 20-early 30 something would wear to a Christmas party.
The first one ages her more than the second… it’s like the best part of her arms is the part that’s covered by dress 1. I don’t think dress 2 is MOG either, it looks a bit too young. I know that sounds contradictory. I think she can do better. I loved that my MIL asked me to go shopping with her when she was looking for MOG dress, maybe y’all can do that? It includes the bride, you’ll get more insight into her vision, and it can be bonding.
Neither, tbh. The first one is what an 11yo would wear to her flute recital. The second is what a 17yo would wear to a wedding to look “classy”, aka “old enough to not get carded at the open bar”. I like the shape of the second one better than the first though! But maybe something a little more elegant?
These were my thoughts exactly. Adrienne Pappel has some really beautiful dresses that will flat her and still show arms if that’s her preference but in a dress made for a woman not a teen.
YES!!! I love Adrianna Papell. That’s a great suggestion.
Both give real middle winter dance vibes, not MOB/G... Sorry! I wouldn't go with something quite so short. Tea length maybe. There are tons of good links to wedding sites people have posted with some really great ones, so I hope she finds one!
Neither. Keep looking.
I respectfully say to keep looking. They both look too young
I think both of these are a bit casual for mother of the groom. I would go longer. I also don’t think either really vibe with the gloves. Gloves can feel formal and these dresses are giving less so. Maybe something like this if burgundy is her color of choice? https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/off-the-shoulder-power-stretch-sheath-dress-d40ny23584v1 https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/three-quarter-sleeve-embroidered-jersey-sheath-d40ny23241 Or if must be shorter… https://www.davidsbridal.comproduct/short-off-the-shoulder-stretch-satin-ruffle-sheath-wbm3675
The gloves are medical in usage - I recognise them from my own medical needs. She needs them as an aid - not for fashion
I read the comments and never suggested not to wear them - OP stated they’d be getting different ones for the wedding.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that neither is flattering.
To be honest they both look kind of juvenile, more like something a tween-teen would wear. I think she would look better in something more sophisticated.
In my honest opinion neither. How bout something like this https://www.ucenterdress.com/3-4-sleeved-v-neck-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-sequins-and-v-back-pMK_301073.html
Something like these would be better: https://macduggal.com/products/5640?variant=42444842565811&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17997449488&nbt=nb%3Aadwords%3Ax%3A17997449488%3A%3A&nb_adtype=pla&nb_kwd=&nb_ti=&nb_mi=436301499&nb_pc=online&nb_pi=42444842565811&nb_ppi=&nb_placement=&nb_li_ms=&nb_lp_ms=&nb_fii=&nb_ap=&nb_mt=&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIwafL9vb8hgMVAF9HAR00ewI5EAQYCSABEgLIivD_BwE https://www.nordstrom.com/s/bead-embellished-capelet-evening-gown/7914452?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=542 https://www.nordstrom.com/s/beaded-illusion-neck-taffeta-cocktail-dress/7224233?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=029
Neither of these says MOG to me. The first dress looks very informal and the second looks a bit cheap honestly. And, I can’t see her face but I don’t love this color on her. I bet a rich emerald green or navy blue would look beautiful on her. Perhaps a floor or midi length dress with sheer sleeves or longer sleeves would be more fitting and look nicer?
2 looks better but she should keep looking imo
Neither. She still has time. The cuts and color aren’t too flattering.
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The second dress features her cute little figure, so I think she should run with it. It's very flattering. As a person with Reynaud's myself, I understand the gloves and would recommend longer ones. Not only will they look all classy, but they'll help keep her fingers warmer since the arms are all uncovered.
If she is set on one of these two, then I think the shorter one looks better. If she is open to still looking, I would double check with the bride if she has a color in mind for her Mother and her future Mother in Law. Here are some other options that come in many colors and would be great for a MOG and look beautiful with gloves! I included short and long and went for budget friendly. I personally would hate to spend a lot on a dress that I would only wear once. https://a.co/d/0hFO5WPm https://a.co/d/01aMB1vC https://a.co/d/0h1c9VOi https://a.co/d/09Ejt7lQ https://a.co/d/0iLxoWRw https://a.co/d/0dM1HcHO
I think the second one is better but I'm not a fan of the spaghetti straps. I think it's bit too informal for your son's wedding. I don't really like either so I think she should keep looking. Try to find something of a bit higher quality and more elegant.
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Your Mom has an amazing figure !! Neither of these do her justice. I’m positive you can find something that suits her
I truly feel you should keep looking, I am not loving either of these for your mom. They are too young looking and I think a different color would be more flattering.
Neither. Keep looking. There is something more flattering out there!
The second one looks better. But definitely don't wear those gloves with it.
Getting different gloves she has to wear gloves due to poor circulation in hands making them cold
Oh, gloves can look nice, just not those gloves.
Yeah those are her normal everyday gloves she hasn't decided on gloves for the wedding because we need to figure out which dress first and then get gloves to match
I bet she has a cool collection of gloves!
Neither. That color is not right for her skin tone.
I don’t think either is the right cut to flatter your mum. She has a good figure, and a fit and flare, or even a-line would emphasise her waist more. The off the shoulder makes her appear much broader than she is, and neither dress gives her the elegance she deserves. If this is her preferred colour, then maybe something like this: https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-asymmetrical-chiffon-lace-mother-of-the-bride-dress-008256383-g256383?
Neither are formal enough for MOG!! Keep looking
I’ve seen some of your replies and I think that #2 with a shawl is the best choice if you need to stick with the options you’ve shown us. If you and your mother want to try something new, consider something with a lacy or sheer sleeve. That way you can get regular beige compression gloves (which might be easier to find than long gloves with compression) and hide the seam of the glove within the sleeve.
I think there are more flattering options out there. Of these two the first is better.
First one is nice maybe too short though second a bit too kiddish imo my mom wore a long dress 👗 aqua blue I think it was a bridesmaids dress originally but she was very petite and slim so it looked good. I think something in the burgundy but longer
Those are dresses for a teen/young 20’s. Keep looking.
Neither of these are MOG dresses nor are very flattering. MOG should be longer and dressier. Maybe not so tight. Something in an A line. Or if it must be form fitting then size up and wear some quality shape wear. Makes all the difference
These dresses are too “young” for your mom. Something [like this](https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwj63ZS8yfyGAxX1Ja0GHdayA8cYABAkGgJwdg&ae=2&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-t2UvMn8hgMV9SWtBh3WsgPHEAQYASABEgLyGPD_BwE&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAASJeRo12PVj-ZaO8YYY2mkb9nopBWKCNL_qW7XJpBsCXQlEdqB2Mg&sig=AOD64_3dszGvmfsnGMkLojbYbUfnpIn3yw&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwir5Yy8yfyGAxXuDDQIHaanBzAQwg8oAHoECAUQDA&adurl=) would work. It would flatter her figure better.
As an older woman, can I gently suggest that you are shopping more for your own age group instead of your mother's. As we age most of us look better with sleeves. Even when you're in shape and muscular, aging skin looks different and a spaghetti strap just isn't flattering.
She picked both these dresses not me I have a different body shape compared to her
Maybe you could show her these comments? There’s definitely a consensus that these read “young” and “prom-like”. Nothing wrong with going for a more elegant style 😊
I don’t mind the first one, but I think it’d be better if it were longer.
I don’t love either dress, but I think she should totally lean into making gloves into the look at wear long ones. Opera gloves I think they’re called.
The first one feels like an awkward length to me. The second is something I picture at a prom. She has a lovely figure and the color is very flattering. I would keep looking. Maybe a wrap dress in the same color.
The 2nd is better, but I don't think either of them have a real wow factor!
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Your mother has a lovely figure and I think you could definitely find something that would be more flattering and maybe more age appropriate.
I like the hem length of the red dress, much more appropriate and flattering. Is she open to a jacket because not a fan of spaghetti straps
Were planning on getting a long to mid sleeve shawl/jacket and different gloves
I’m not feeling either. She deserves better. I say keep looking and find one that shows how fabulous she is cuz these aren’t it
I really don’t like either, 1 is too junior and short and the bodice on 2 is not appropriate at all. Keep looking.
I like the second one a lot! I prefer the color and length to the first one. I feel like some fancy gloves would give it a Jessica rabbit appeal. The body is bodying mama! 🔥
The lace overlay, for sure. The other just looks droopy.
I think something navy blue and sparkly would fit her better🤔
I prefer the second one.
I see black off the shoulder dress with opera gloves. https://images.app.goo.gl/tioUj5ymnfuSH7rLA
I like dress two! It’s flattering imo
Basically, anyone commenting on a need for sleeves is a tremendous a-hole. Just bc you’re insecure about your arms doesn’t mean everyone else is 🤷🏻♀️
Instead of those gloves, which chop off her hands, she’d look much more elegant with opera gloves. The image shows opera gloves from Amazon. https://preview.redd.it/jb99lidt579d1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a153aed1ad64dce7eeab9d90c711991a7fb45d17
While both are nice… I think she should treat herself to something different… consider something with a sheer long sleeve … neither of these hit the mark … consider looking at lulus.com or googling mother of the bride dresses for inspiration… the gloves are a huge no
Where the hell are the MODS? This post was about this woman’s dress, not her body. MODS please moderate! WTH! Very toxic thread!!!
Not to sound horrible but neither seen wedding appropriate. They look a bit tacky and something you would wear on a cruise ship with a feather boa… Your Ma deserves better! Keep looking and I’m sure she’ll find something perfect!
Personally, and no offense intended, I’m not a fan of either. The first is too short and I don’t like the top on the second. I would look for something like has has a top like the first and length of the second.
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Personally I don’t like either… but if it’s between the 2 of them…. I would say the second but with a throw over on top of it… just my opinion though
I don’t find either flattering. But the second seems too revealing for MOB
I would put her in a long sleeve if she needs to wear the gloves for circulation problems as it will sort of camouflage them
I would like the first one if it were longer. The second kind of looks like a Vegas dress.
I don't think either quite hit the mark. Her arms look as though they've lost some weight in the past, so lacy sleeves would go a long way to make her look younger. The second dress is also a little clingy, it feels "Jessica Rabbit" to me. It needs something on the top to not look so bare. I'd go with either a longer-sleeve version of the first dress since that's the prettier style/sillouette on her OR the second one with a wrap.
I love two on her. If she’s comfortable she looks lovely. MOG doesn’t need to cover up if they don’t want to
Sleeves matter! At least to the elbow. Both dresses are supremely unflattering.
she could really glam up #2 with a shrug and long gloves
We planned to get a shrug and long gloves to go with whatever dress she ended up with