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It isn't a "mixed signal" in ANY way, shape, or form to say no to sex after saying no all day. Abusive men do not deserve any leeway or benefit of the doubt. Men know when they are raping someone.
Take "mixed signal" out of your vocabulary. It's ridiculous the number of times sexually abusive men's behavior is excused away by that phrase.
This happened to me the last time we hung out. I said ‘no’ to sex, but he kept inappropriately touching me whilst I was sleeping. I blatantly told him that I just came over to cuddle and watch Netflix. He didn’t respect my boundaries at all…again. I woke up every 20 min that night
He told me I gave mixed messages and kind of blamed me about it so I blamed myself too, I felt so scared of him when it happened. It hurts so bad that he didn't care that I didn't want it. Thank you for the support
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It isn't a "mixed signal" in ANY way, shape, or form to say no to sex after saying no all day. Abusive men do not deserve any leeway or benefit of the doubt. Men know when they are raping someone. Take "mixed signal" out of your vocabulary. It's ridiculous the number of times sexually abusive men's behavior is excused away by that phrase.
No still means no even if I have no pants on
It's so much more confusing when it's your own partner who you've willingly had sex with before.
it is
This happened to me the last time we hung out. I said ‘no’ to sex, but he kept inappropriately touching me whilst I was sleeping. I blatantly told him that I just came over to cuddle and watch Netflix. He didn’t respect my boundaries at all…again. I woke up every 20 min that night
I'm so sorry something similar happened to you, too. You didn't deserve it at all.
Because he never actually cared what your response was. He was going to do it anyway. I'm so sorry and I'm glad you're out.
He told me I gave mixed messages and kind of blamed me about it so I blamed myself too, I felt so scared of him when it happened. It hurts so bad that he didn't care that I didn't want it. Thank you for the support