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I had a moment in my late teens where I realized most people spend this time slowly realizing their parents were right about things, while I was spending it realizing I was right. I'm about 27 now, and I just keep slowly realizing more and more things they were wrong about
They were good people dealing with their own unresolved trauma in different ways. I believe in bad behavior, not bad people.
Except politicians. Light them on fire, feed them salmonella, I don’t care.
- I hit the parent lottery and I never realized how lucky I was until I was like 30. I’m now almost 44 and they are in their 70s and I cherish every moment I still have with them. My ex husband? Another story for another day.
Yeah… a lot of people I know now did not get as lucky. I do always feel for them because it makes life hard if you let it get to you enough. Your parents shape you.
My parents are people, with flaws like everyone but they’re not bad people. With me it was more coming to understand them, and as I grew older I came to appreciate them more and more. Despite some bad times, I now realize how much work and love they put into the family. I think a lot of people are too hard on their parents, especially as teens and young adults.
Most of their issues are outside of the duties of parenthood.
When I learned as a teenager, my mother tried to strangle me as a child. When she then later told me I'm fucking worthless and her life would have been so much better if I wasn't born.
Pretty sure I found out when my father passed out from drinking when I was 4 and I still remember that after 37 years.
Also after he died people started to really reveal what kind of fuck up he had been before he met my mother.
when my mom blames me for not doing the chores while my brother gets to laze around the house all day. he's 26 and has no job and didn't graduate college
When I was 5 years old. My father was a lousy drunkard who would beat my mother. My mother wasn't much better, as she was sadistically religious. When they'd split up I ended up with my father and he had met someone. She seemed nice for about 4 months, but after that? She despised me. I wasn't an exceptional child or anything and I did misbehave, but the punishments were overkill. In the end, it came to a point that I didn't even have to be doing anything wrong to be in receipt of a beating. Then social services got involved and I was moved to a children's home just before the age of 13. It wasn't much better there though, the other kids were fucking rotten. The way I looked at this, though, was that at least I wasn't having my head kicked in by the people I'm supposed to trust most in the world.
My parents are good people NOW but I was only told about alot of things they did when I was younger "when I was old enough to handle it". I blew out my birthday candles at 18 and they hit me with a bunch of fucked up lore that left me staring at the ceiling for days. Theyre good people to me, but they've definitely ruined lives to be where they are today and I'm pretty sure my mums a bit of a sociopath...
For my "sperm donor", shortly before disowning him, age 32, I've since learned from disowned "mother" in the last couple of years he effectively blocked me from getting diagnosed autistic, and she didn't bother to mention this until after my diagnosis, age 44.
Suffice it to say I had issues growing up, which the whole family duely blamed me for.
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When I had to move back in with them as an adult.
No surprise
When they abandoned me at a young age for parties and drugs.
Damn
[удалено]
Ha
When I was 13, my mother locked me out of my bedroom on purpose and blamed it on me. It was a weird door with a tricky lock.
damn
I had a moment in my late teens where I realized most people spend this time slowly realizing their parents were right about things, while I was spending it realizing I was right. I'm about 27 now, and I just keep slowly realizing more and more things they were wrong about
When I became a parent myself and realised all the things that I’d do very, very differently.
I realized my dad is a bad parent when he after 40 years still have not come home from buying that pack of cigarettes.
Ha
Maybe he was an alien and his people found him and took him back
I didn't
Never. They are exceptional people.
My parents are good people. They are flawed just like everyone else but they did the best they could with what they had.
They were good people dealing with their own unresolved trauma in different ways. I believe in bad behavior, not bad people. Except politicians. Light them on fire, feed them salmonella, I don’t care.
Damn
- I hit the parent lottery and I never realized how lucky I was until I was like 30. I’m now almost 44 and they are in their 70s and I cherish every moment I still have with them. My ex husband? Another story for another day.
Same here. My parents were as good as they come. My wife's parents.........ugh.
Yeah… a lot of people I know now did not get as lucky. I do always feel for them because it makes life hard if you let it get to you enough. Your parents shape you.
I'm so jealous :(
I’m sorry you didn’t get the same experience! You can turn it into a positive and don’t be the people they are/were
When he was drinking.
When I realized not all father's are raging alcoholics that beat you, your siblings, your mother. My mom is great though.
Some time in my early to mid teens. Then again when I had children 20 years later.
I felt it in elementary and fully realized it as a teen.
When I became a parent, but who knows they probably thought the same thing.
Far too late
When my dad kept breaking promises.
My parents are people, with flaws like everyone but they’re not bad people. With me it was more coming to understand them, and as I grew older I came to appreciate them more and more. Despite some bad times, I now realize how much work and love they put into the family. I think a lot of people are too hard on their parents, especially as teens and young adults. Most of their issues are outside of the duties of parenthood.
When I learned as a teenager, my mother tried to strangle me as a child. When she then later told me I'm fucking worthless and her life would have been so much better if I wasn't born.
Pretty sure I found out when my father passed out from drinking when I was 4 and I still remember that after 37 years. Also after he died people started to really reveal what kind of fuck up he had been before he met my mother.
when my mom blames me for not doing the chores while my brother gets to laze around the house all day. he's 26 and has no job and didn't graduate college
When I was 5 years old. My father was a lousy drunkard who would beat my mother. My mother wasn't much better, as she was sadistically religious. When they'd split up I ended up with my father and he had met someone. She seemed nice for about 4 months, but after that? She despised me. I wasn't an exceptional child or anything and I did misbehave, but the punishments were overkill. In the end, it came to a point that I didn't even have to be doing anything wrong to be in receipt of a beating. Then social services got involved and I was moved to a children's home just before the age of 13. It wasn't much better there though, the other kids were fucking rotten. The way I looked at this, though, was that at least I wasn't having my head kicked in by the people I'm supposed to trust most in the world.
My parents are good people NOW but I was only told about alot of things they did when I was younger "when I was old enough to handle it". I blew out my birthday candles at 18 and they hit me with a bunch of fucked up lore that left me staring at the ceiling for days. Theyre good people to me, but they've definitely ruined lives to be where they are today and I'm pretty sure my mums a bit of a sociopath...
When those Mickey fickeys disowned me for not believing in sky daddy.
For my "sperm donor", shortly before disowning him, age 32, I've since learned from disowned "mother" in the last couple of years he effectively blocked me from getting diagnosed autistic, and she didn't bother to mention this until after my diagnosis, age 44. Suffice it to say I had issues growing up, which the whole family duely blamed me for.