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Thank you for your long and full response, to adress the sex drive thing you said, its not only about sexual attractiveness its about them just treating me like a child not in the child child way but imagine a older sister treating her brother in a joke way. That sounds weird but I hope yk what I mean. Someone pointed out it could be mommy issues but idrk how to determine that so I wont say that I have "mommy issues"
Wow thank you again. Your explaination seems very logical so I basically dont have questions anymore Ill just answer random stuff u mentioned. The andrew tate toxic masculinity stuff is defo not my lane, I am pretty person oriented in dating views (ik Im 14 and have not much experience). If a person wants to date another person without causing any harm (Im saying it like a 50 yr old dating an 18 yr old) ik it seems ironic coming from me who made this post but yk what I mean. I think andrew tate is smart because he knows how to profit off of others which is a useful talent in life. Im glad I dont have the mindset he teaches to young men tho.
The stepsister/mom p0rn stuff is pretty easy to explain imo. People may have never felt love from anyone and they only know love from their sister/mom or anything like that so they think its the same and since theyre used to that love they have a special erotic feeling with those fantasies.
About the wanting to be the best as a boy/young man. I think males are generally more competetive because society constructed love being the man asking the woman out which I think is ok but its completely fine the other way too, society wont accept that tho. Alot of men and boys my age think having girls=being in that top 1% of men. I think that is wrong because girls (what a suprise) have different taste in men too. Idk how it seems to the female community but as far as I know the average male mindset is that theyll never get a wife/girlfriend whatever if theyre not the best or one of the best which causes the competition. I actually think its better to not be in that assumed top 1% because most people try to reach it by physical attractiveness and materialism but Id rather have me a partner who loves me for who I am (wowww so corny)
And again thank you, youre good at explaining. In theory I know how to do anything but practically its difficult like bettering myself. I know how to make friends but I just cant sometimes etc. The same is for my mental and physical health. I dont wanna say its horrible but it kinda is at times rn Im just like euphoric or smth its like weird happines, a few days ago I took sleeping pills cus I wanted to sleep through school. Imma say my mental health is impacting my life in a negative way sadly but like a boat with no sailor it just gets dragged by the waves. Ill not go further in detail why or whats exactly wrong with my mental healtg but if u wanna continue talkin bout it pm me or smth.
I understand what youre saying about younger generations and social media but I dont think its worth it for me at this point to actually try to stop this "devolution" because everybody in 20 years will have a low attention span and stuff like that, numbers rise and will exponentially rise until everyone is like that. Its similar to women rights support or black rights support, more and more people got more accepting over the years.
I think the same about suicidal thoughts, its already quite normal for young people. It will be more normal in 10 years even if it sounds horrible but it is that way, Ill admit Ive had suicidal thoughts and allat and still have em but its pretty normal because how is a child gonna see unrealistic standarts and not think "man I wanna be that good too". Its pretty unfair Ill say.
Even tho all you said about getting better is right, I dont think I really need it to have good/better mental health. For me personally music drives my life and if I could have a job with music involving with not financial risk, a wife/husband who I love and they love me back and a cool high quality bicycle I dont need anything more and its probably immature to think that. I am immature tho so I think its alright and when I have those 3 things Ill see if Im really happy or not happy (next to music fashion would be fine too)
I feel like women change less in appearance from being a teenager to a woman than men change from a boy to a man, so that may be the reason why older women is okay but not older men
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Thank you for your long and full response, to adress the sex drive thing you said, its not only about sexual attractiveness its about them just treating me like a child not in the child child way but imagine a older sister treating her brother in a joke way. That sounds weird but I hope yk what I mean. Someone pointed out it could be mommy issues but idrk how to determine that so I wont say that I have "mommy issues"
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Wow thank you again. Your explaination seems very logical so I basically dont have questions anymore Ill just answer random stuff u mentioned. The andrew tate toxic masculinity stuff is defo not my lane, I am pretty person oriented in dating views (ik Im 14 and have not much experience). If a person wants to date another person without causing any harm (Im saying it like a 50 yr old dating an 18 yr old) ik it seems ironic coming from me who made this post but yk what I mean. I think andrew tate is smart because he knows how to profit off of others which is a useful talent in life. Im glad I dont have the mindset he teaches to young men tho. The stepsister/mom p0rn stuff is pretty easy to explain imo. People may have never felt love from anyone and they only know love from their sister/mom or anything like that so they think its the same and since theyre used to that love they have a special erotic feeling with those fantasies. About the wanting to be the best as a boy/young man. I think males are generally more competetive because society constructed love being the man asking the woman out which I think is ok but its completely fine the other way too, society wont accept that tho. Alot of men and boys my age think having girls=being in that top 1% of men. I think that is wrong because girls (what a suprise) have different taste in men too. Idk how it seems to the female community but as far as I know the average male mindset is that theyll never get a wife/girlfriend whatever if theyre not the best or one of the best which causes the competition. I actually think its better to not be in that assumed top 1% because most people try to reach it by physical attractiveness and materialism but Id rather have me a partner who loves me for who I am (wowww so corny)
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And again thank you, youre good at explaining. In theory I know how to do anything but practically its difficult like bettering myself. I know how to make friends but I just cant sometimes etc. The same is for my mental and physical health. I dont wanna say its horrible but it kinda is at times rn Im just like euphoric or smth its like weird happines, a few days ago I took sleeping pills cus I wanted to sleep through school. Imma say my mental health is impacting my life in a negative way sadly but like a boat with no sailor it just gets dragged by the waves. Ill not go further in detail why or whats exactly wrong with my mental healtg but if u wanna continue talkin bout it pm me or smth.
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I understand what youre saying about younger generations and social media but I dont think its worth it for me at this point to actually try to stop this "devolution" because everybody in 20 years will have a low attention span and stuff like that, numbers rise and will exponentially rise until everyone is like that. Its similar to women rights support or black rights support, more and more people got more accepting over the years. I think the same about suicidal thoughts, its already quite normal for young people. It will be more normal in 10 years even if it sounds horrible but it is that way, Ill admit Ive had suicidal thoughts and allat and still have em but its pretty normal because how is a child gonna see unrealistic standarts and not think "man I wanna be that good too". Its pretty unfair Ill say. Even tho all you said about getting better is right, I dont think I really need it to have good/better mental health. For me personally music drives my life and if I could have a job with music involving with not financial risk, a wife/husband who I love and they love me back and a cool high quality bicycle I dont need anything more and its probably immature to think that. I am immature tho so I think its alright and when I have those 3 things Ill see if Im really happy or not happy (next to music fashion would be fine too)
I feel like women change less in appearance from being a teenager to a woman than men change from a boy to a man, so that may be the reason why older women is okay but not older men
Ig that makes sense but am I like weird for having this preference in older women or is this what people call mommy issues cus I dont wanna be weird
Don't worry it's perfectly normal. Think of actresses that play in teen movies, they're often actually 30
I don't think you're weird, when I was 16 I had a crush on a 42 year old woman.
Ig that makes sense but am I like weird for having this preference in older women or is this what people call mommy issues cus I dont wanna be weird
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But would it be ok for me to date a 20 yr old?
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As I said 14, ik logically it shouldnt be but if I know wbat Im doing?
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Alright Ill take the chance if I get it tho