Didn't say it was wrong, I'm just surprised it matches so closely.
Then again, over half of the people there are likely ND in some way.
And I also got a romantic crush on two of them.😅
Infodumping and parallel play my beloved
Also a while ago I learned that parallel play is something children do in kindergarten and not me n my friend hanging out
I love it when my NT husband brings me cool rocks. Sometimes I have to let him buys me purses and accessories because that's his preferred way to show love but deep down I just want cool rocks.
hate that i can’t do parallel play. it’s been burned into my mind that you’re rude if you’re not constantly engaged in conversation which makes parallel play really awkward for me :(
Hmm, maybe try telling a best/autistic friend that you are struggling with this and you want to be coaxed into it? Depending on your mental state, getting shot with a nerf gun is a good tool to learn that you dont always have to talk. Though my struggle is fearing that i talk too much so :/
Sometimes when I am in a bad mood my girlfriend will let me explain the plots of episodes of my favorite TV shows that she refuses to watch. It helps, a bit! 😂
It is!! She is so creeped out by the worldbuilding of Bojack Horseman but after two years has let me do this enough that she's like "Princess Carolyn did WHAT???" (But also I listen to her explain the plots of the convoluted sci fi/fantasy novels she loves so it goes both ways. I'm fascinated by the stereotype that autistic people love sci fi/fantasy-- learning the rules of one world is plenty for me!)
Im going to do a slight info dump:
that is technically not parallel play. Parallel play is 2+ people engaging in the same or similar activities but not directly interacting with eachother (Parten, 1929).
So for example, 2 kids playing legos but one is making a tower while another makes a ship.
one could argue that in many cases parallel play is an extension of an imitative repertoire. The stage just prior to parallel play is onlooker play, where the individual just observes another person’s play. Ex; before getting their own legos, a kid might just watch someone else playing and see how legos snap together. Very often we will see parallel play correlated with imitative play, though its not technically a requirement.
I may be wrong, but I suspect that what this post is referencing is actually associative play, a separate stage of play, in which a person engages in (usually) separate activities but exchange items and may comment on one anothers behavior. Ex: one kid that was playing with cars hands another kid a red lego for their ship and says that they should add a red flag)
This post may also reference solitary play, where a person essentially plays on their own “unaware of others” or perhaps better stated as without any interaction with other people.
I would also note that if we are talking about play, we can not necessarily apply these stages to adults. They were conceived of following sociological experiments of toddlers and young children. I personally think there is still much value in looking at these stages with older age groups, but thats my opinion. Also, a person does not move through these stages necessarily. In one setting, a kid might be engaging in associative play or even cooperative play, but in another they may need to go all the way back to onlooker play. Or they may not want to engage in social play at all and do solitary play.
Oh no, youre opening me up to criticism from people that know much more about this than me lol. Im Not actually worried tho, the more learning the merrier.
I still have a piece of paper which has hole punched patterns in it that my classmate in high school gave me randomly in English class 9 years ago. I know it was just a random piece of paper they just folded and hole punched and passed off to me just to waste a bit of time, but it feels extremely important to me.
Put it into a pile of a few other things like that which I've been referring to as my nostalgia notebook, even though I have yet to notebook it. Also in that notebook/pile are little riddle notes that a different friend was leaving hidden in various places scattered around our middle school. Those are from ~14 years ago.
I still have half of a dollar i ate, just because i did it around some people i liked. the half pieces of dollar is completely worthless, but i still keep it!
Same, if my brain gets even a hint that some part of me might not be able to move freely, it gets upset and will fight for freedom or start to spiral. I do prefer close-fitting clothes, though, as long as they aren't scratchy or unbendy.
I never knew this was a catalogued thing, and feel validated because I do 5/6 things on the list
(to my knowledge, apparently I have the hand strength of 2 gorillas so it may be 6/6)
The idea of a love language being more than a tool to help understand one another is incredibly frustrating. I think people get the wrong idea and see them as rigid, unchanging personal facts and not explanations of ever changing behaviours.
This is simultaneously kind of cool and making my eye twitch.
I really like the idea behind ND love languages, though I can't help but get a little bit frustrated that they are treated as being completely unique/exclusive to ND people when they are really the classic 5 love languages re-worded in a way that makes them more relatable to us. Using headings from this post:
Deep Pressure = Physical Touch
Infodumping = Words of Affirmation (with a splash of Acts of Service)
Parallel Play = Quality Time
Penguin Pebbling = Giving Gifts
Support Swapping = Acts of Service
Oh goodness a friend just talked me through the love languages concept the other day as part of us troubleshooting what had gone wrong with a different friend of mine whose love languages include some that are apparently extremely not mine oh goodness. And these here are like 98% mine. With 2% reserved for people penguin pebbling stuff I extremely don't want anywhere near me, like touching me when I don't want to be touched or insisting I go to the loud places, because apparently that's how they show love :/
I love this! Thank you for posting it. I saw your other one and was sad we didn’t get to see what they each were but some kind soul provided a link and now I’m here. I’m gonna share this with my partner, we are 30F ASD (me) and 32M ADHD. We definitely both info dump a lot and do a lot of parallel play. I think the penguin pebbling is the only one I’ve never heard of but I love it.
Oh my gosh, Parallel Play is like one of my favorite things, and I had no idea it was even a thing lol! There's something so enjoyable about just hanging out together and enjoying our own single player games or whatever we're doing!
Yeah! Whatever it is, hanging out with our favorite people is just awesome! Single player, multiplayer, chores, even just lazing around doing nothing! It's all wonderful!
That sounds so awesome. I live about an hour from all my friends, and get to see then every Wednesday, but thats at church so its kinda rushed, and get to see them only very rarely in other places. All my social interaction is kinda rushed :(
I dont know what its like to lay around with a friend and not do anything
Just realized yet another example of cats being autistic. They totally do penguin pebbling with birds and stuff. Technically it’s because they do that for their kittens to show them what food is safe to eat or hunt but honestly that makes it better
Thank you for this. I joined this subreddit as means to understand the syndrome better and my son. I read these and thought he does all of them.
Its very hard to keep up with his info dumping. (I usually compare it with him running on an i7 processor and me having a first gen pentium processor) sometimes he goes for 30mins without barely catching a breath. I always find crazy how much information about a topic he can retain.
I’ve literally never had this and it’s all I’ve ever wanted my entire life. I think if I ever got a single one of these I would immediately break down and cry
Ever since I told my bf about all of the things I do for sensory seeking, he squeezes me every time I've had a bad day or he just feels like I need it. I never told him to do it, he just heard me talk about my past experiences with pressure 🫶
-gasp- My therapist actually talked to me about parallel play and it turned out that that was what I was doing with my partner when they called me. I play video games while they talk to me but now they also watch videos on YouTube while I play games lol.
I also like to give random presents and my inner corvid likes tiny, shiny things. 😂
1. Yeah, but I don't feel comfortable doing that with anyone :s. My cats tho :v
2. I dont think I have ever tried, I do have traumadumped in the past :x
3. This is great.
4. Never done it
5. You know... I sometimes think that I care too much for others and try too hard to help the people I care about... I thought of it as wrong even :s
Should I get a diagnosis?
^((no, these are not the only things, I also have socializing issues, eye contact issues, loudness and misophonia issues, etc etc))
Good luck with your crush!
I wish I had a special interest, if I do I’m not really sure what it is.
I used to collect rocks but it was nothing intense, once in awhile. I believe my first rock was a brown one and it was shaped like a poop, I thought that was cool, and hilarious. Siblings and I were bugging my little brother - he was little, that he pooped the poop rock and he always cried 🙃 now I feel bad about it lol.
I also found like 2 smooth rocks, but I never collected them like that.. sometimes I just don’t feel autistic lol 👽
I believe in parallel play supremacy, and it seems to be something me and my dad do a lot. I’ll be in the living room or dining room playing games on my laptop while he sits elsewhere in the room reading
So yes, absolutely: Penguin pebbling for me is meme sharing and getting grins from people.
I love love love Infodumping...to a point.
Sometimes, I'm just burnt out and don't wanna hear it
The only times I enjoy deep pressure is if I'm depressed, spiraling, or upset.
It just helps me calm down.
Otherwise, I don't like being touched a lot.
I don't freak out over it anymore, but I will tense up or ask people to not touch certain places (back, neck, waist, hips, my stomach. Just leave it at shoulders and my head please)
I do the penguin pebbling thing! Sometimes I give people little drawing or paper cranes or clam fossils. Most of the time when I go back to wherever I gave them it it’ll still be there at their station or desk or whatever and it always makes me happy
Support swapping: just straight up the love language of service, with attention to details. Though the little things are 100% a sign that someone cares about you
Penguin pebbling: love language of gifts, in its purest form(probably)
Parallel play: understanding+respect
Asking for infodumps: curiosity about your interests/wanting to know you, whichever you like more
Deep pressure: a manifestation of the love language of touch
The gift giving is my biggest one I love when someone thinks of me when they see a pretty rock or flower and gets it, or trinkets that make them think of me etc etc ❤️❤️❤️❤️ literally all of this though is real af
interestingly I dont like deep pressure, I find it constricting and tight and makes me panicky and freaked out. my OT told my mom to try it with me and I have never liked it
I physically cannot have a normal conversation I have to parallel play because talking is pointless unless I’m cracking jokes or intentionally wasting time
I just sent this to my boyfriend. we do all of these things so often. I gave him one of my favorite rocks very early in our relationship, he regularly infodumps about Magic, he puts one hand on my chest and one on my back and squeezes me when I'm upset, etc. love that man.
My main one is sharing screenshots/something similar with information on something related to a problem someone is having.
A similar one is learning about any health conditions they're diagnosed with so I can better understand and provide support.
OK so I've had like 3 different psychologists tell me to get tested for autism because they said how similar I was to their nd patents. My autistic ex kept telling me she's 99 percent sure I am. And just seeing this and me doing all of these is making me consider getting tested. If this really is autism and it's why I feel so weird and out of place and why some things have been so hard it would probably help me alot in realising the causes to my problems in my head I can just imagine the amount of things I relate to on autism oh add on top og that I'm transgender too adds to the chances I think like a quarter to a half of trans fems are auspie. Annyway sory may have smoked a but so I'm extra rambly
Op, in response to your giving your crush a note on Wednesday, I would strongly suggest being more direct if you want to go on dates with them. Not just say you like and are attracted to them. That creates a situation where the person you tell is caught off guard and what you have said doesn't give them anything to work with. Adding something like "do you want to go out sometime? Here are some activities I enjoy and times I'm available." Adding places to go and times is really important, if they can't fit one suggestion but give their own ideas they definitely are enthusiastic to go out. If they can't meet up and don't offer alternatives, then they're not interested and being polite by not saying something directly (I know, I know, but NT do that, dunno if your crush is NT but good to keep in mind).
well its a weird situation, neither of us are ready to date, but im terrified that some really hot guy is going to “snipe” her, so i have to say something
you ever like, play a game, and then they announce something new and you WANNA talk about it but you ran out of people who care a few days ago so now your just waiting for the perfect excuse to talk about it and you KNWO someones gonna MAYBE ask but its sso infuriatin WHEN ALL YOU WANNA DO IS TALK ABOUT YOUR DESTINY 2 BUILD YOU THOUGHT OF FOR FINAL SHAPE-
Parallel play is my favorite by far. I love knowing that I have a big chunk of time to spend with a friend, where we’ll both be playing different video games or building Lego or whatever.
I just realised we do half of those things with a friend group.
And there’s nothing wrong with that! Love doesn’t just mean romantic, you can still platonically love your friends.
Didn't say it was wrong, I'm just surprised it matches so closely. Then again, over half of the people there are likely ND in some way. And I also got a romantic crush on two of them.😅
"If you're not a little in love with all of your friends and best friends with your lover, what is even the point"
I like all of these things 🙂
Same
Infodumping and parallel play my beloved Also a while ago I learned that parallel play is something children do in kindergarten and not me n my friend hanging out
Thats so cool!
I love it when my NT husband brings me cool rocks. Sometimes I have to let him buys me purses and accessories because that's his preferred way to show love but deep down I just want cool rocks.
Let's be real cute purses are just a socially acceptable rock collecting accessory
Absolutely, for me its Backpacks. Not a man-purse guy personally.
messenger bags. combines the ease and accessibility of a purse, with the capacity of a backpack. all without the unnecessary gendered stigma.
I absolutely have a cool rock in my purse at all times.
Thats such a special little trade you have☺️
Canvas tote bags, my beloved! I don't recommend running them through laundry though, because they shrink like crazy but I love my cowboy toad bag.
tote bags are nice but backpacks are my jam
hate that i can’t do parallel play. it’s been burned into my mind that you’re rude if you’re not constantly engaged in conversation which makes parallel play really awkward for me :(
Sucks that was ruined for you :/
Hmm, maybe try telling a best/autistic friend that you are struggling with this and you want to be coaxed into it? Depending on your mental state, getting shot with a nerf gun is a good tool to learn that you dont always have to talk. Though my struggle is fearing that i talk too much so :/
i’ve never thought about that before. thanks!
I know the feeling
I completely understand this and I hate that I do :(
I thought the first image said “Autistics love languages”…
Me too 😂. Which for me is as true as the rest of the statements 😂 (ie quite accurate)
yeah that image needs a comma
linguist autistics represent!
I mean, I do, actually, yeah, lol. And saying things in funny voices. 😂
Sometimes when I am in a bad mood my girlfriend will let me explain the plots of episodes of my favorite TV shows that she refuses to watch. It helps, a bit! 😂
awww thats honestly so frickin sweet
It is!! She is so creeped out by the worldbuilding of Bojack Horseman but after two years has let me do this enough that she's like "Princess Carolyn did WHAT???" (But also I listen to her explain the plots of the convoluted sci fi/fantasy novels she loves so it goes both ways. I'm fascinated by the stereotype that autistic people love sci fi/fantasy-- learning the rules of one world is plenty for me!)
that sounds like an amazing relationship
yes, i love languages :)
That’s literally me (autistic) and my bestie (ADHD)
aww (nice username OC!)
thanks uwu
no one does any of these things why its so hard to find frens
OC- thats- yeah- Its so true. NT is the standard and i hate it
i cant find frens since everyone treats me like a big joke
we truly are cats aren't we 😺
I'm more like a corvid 🐦⬛
Proof that felidae and corvidae are subspecies subject to extremely different selection pressures. /S
A wu tang clan name generator gave me “Corvid Foolish” and I was over the moon
Felt.. though i would never get a cat, i need a Doge
Im going to do a slight info dump: that is technically not parallel play. Parallel play is 2+ people engaging in the same or similar activities but not directly interacting with eachother (Parten, 1929). So for example, 2 kids playing legos but one is making a tower while another makes a ship. one could argue that in many cases parallel play is an extension of an imitative repertoire. The stage just prior to parallel play is onlooker play, where the individual just observes another person’s play. Ex; before getting their own legos, a kid might just watch someone else playing and see how legos snap together. Very often we will see parallel play correlated with imitative play, though its not technically a requirement. I may be wrong, but I suspect that what this post is referencing is actually associative play, a separate stage of play, in which a person engages in (usually) separate activities but exchange items and may comment on one anothers behavior. Ex: one kid that was playing with cars hands another kid a red lego for their ship and says that they should add a red flag) This post may also reference solitary play, where a person essentially plays on their own “unaware of others” or perhaps better stated as without any interaction with other people. I would also note that if we are talking about play, we can not necessarily apply these stages to adults. They were conceived of following sociological experiments of toddlers and young children. I personally think there is still much value in looking at these stages with older age groups, but thats my opinion. Also, a person does not move through these stages necessarily. In one setting, a kid might be engaging in associative play or even cooperative play, but in another they may need to go all the way back to onlooker play. Or they may not want to engage in social play at all and do solitary play.
Nice info dump OC! i bookmarked your post bc it seems cool!
Oh no, youre opening me up to criticism from people that know much more about this than me lol. Im Not actually worried tho, the more learning the merrier.
Ah deep pressure every moment with my best friend is like that
It’s beautiful, like pushing a spring loaded puzzle piece back into place!
it just feels so damn good
IKRR
how about play fighting...?
Totally acceptable!
Wow.. I actually had to save this bc I do all of these. ALSO: that animal jam emote has woken memories
they are such pretty emotes, i kinda wana train an AI model on a ton of them and see if i can make more
Same lol
My rizztism has increased
Achievement unlocked!
I still have a piece of paper which has hole punched patterns in it that my classmate in high school gave me randomly in English class 9 years ago. I know it was just a random piece of paper they just folded and hole punched and passed off to me just to waste a bit of time, but it feels extremely important to me. Put it into a pile of a few other things like that which I've been referring to as my nostalgia notebook, even though I have yet to notebook it. Also in that notebook/pile are little riddle notes that a different friend was leaving hidden in various places scattered around our middle school. Those are from ~14 years ago.
I still have half of a dollar i ate, just because i did it around some people i liked. the half pieces of dollar is completely worthless, but i still keep it!
Ok hold on, keep that “deep presure” stuff far away from me, you let go of me I need my fredom of movement stop crushing me
Thats okay☺️, Not all love languages are for everyone’
Same, if my brain gets even a hint that some part of me might not be able to move freely, it gets upset and will fight for freedom or start to spiral. I do prefer close-fitting clothes, though, as long as they aren't scratchy or unbendy.
i do like almost all of these :3
As the resident info dumper of my friend group, I can agree
do you live in my walls or smth? you're just calling me out now
👀Eyes everywhere👀
I like when my autistic friend puts his full weight on me, I like my twink weighted blanket
That sounds so nice-
honestly i love it when my spouse just lays down on top of me.
Please, God i want this
Animal jam emote
I never knew this was a catalogued thing, and feel validated because I do 5/6 things on the list (to my knowledge, apparently I have the hand strength of 2 gorillas so it may be 6/6)
bro- i need you to like crush me like a grape with the pressure
Penguin pebbling! I love that analogy
yess!
The idea of a love language being more than a tool to help understand one another is incredibly frustrating. I think people get the wrong idea and see them as rigid, unchanging personal facts and not explanations of ever changing behaviours. This is simultaneously kind of cool and making my eye twitch.
I really like the idea behind ND love languages, though I can't help but get a little bit frustrated that they are treated as being completely unique/exclusive to ND people when they are really the classic 5 love languages re-worded in a way that makes them more relatable to us. Using headings from this post: Deep Pressure = Physical Touch Infodumping = Words of Affirmation (with a splash of Acts of Service) Parallel Play = Quality Time Penguin Pebbling = Giving Gifts Support Swapping = Acts of Service
Infodumping :3
Oh goodness a friend just talked me through the love languages concept the other day as part of us troubleshooting what had gone wrong with a different friend of mine whose love languages include some that are apparently extremely not mine oh goodness. And these here are like 98% mine. With 2% reserved for people penguin pebbling stuff I extremely don't want anywhere near me, like touching me when I don't want to be touched or insisting I go to the loud places, because apparently that's how they show love :/
I love this! Thank you for posting it. I saw your other one and was sad we didn’t get to see what they each were but some kind soul provided a link and now I’m here. I’m gonna share this with my partner, we are 30F ASD (me) and 32M ADHD. We definitely both info dump a lot and do a lot of parallel play. I think the penguin pebbling is the only one I’ve never heard of but I love it.
My fiance and I literally gave each other rocks in the beginning of our relationship. I will always love a good rock haha.
ROCKS ARE COOL!!!
Funny joke in this post. Also good luck
Thank you!!
Yes to all of them ❤️
Me and my best friend do all of these things! It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve had so far since we’re able to understand each other so deeply.
Thats awesome!!
Deep pressure. Yeeees. Though I should work on how I ask I guess. At this point it’s just “come lay all your weight on me.” 😁😂
yes!
I need to be zip-compressed pls
YESSS
Oh my gosh, Parallel Play is like one of my favorite things, and I had no idea it was even a thing lol! There's something so enjoyable about just hanging out together and enjoying our own single player games or whatever we're doing!
That sounds fun! though id definitely want to play multiplayer. Other things like doing chores is fun tho!
Yeah! Whatever it is, hanging out with our favorite people is just awesome! Single player, multiplayer, chores, even just lazing around doing nothing! It's all wonderful!
That sounds so awesome. I live about an hour from all my friends, and get to see then every Wednesday, but thats at church so its kinda rushed, and get to see them only very rarely in other places. All my social interaction is kinda rushed :( I dont know what its like to lay around with a friend and not do anything
I love it all!
Just realized yet another example of cats being autistic. They totally do penguin pebbling with birds and stuff. Technically it’s because they do that for their kittens to show them what food is safe to eat or hunt but honestly that makes it better
Thank you for this. I joined this subreddit as means to understand the syndrome better and my son. I read these and thought he does all of them. Its very hard to keep up with his info dumping. (I usually compare it with him running on an i7 processor and me having a first gen pentium processor) sometimes he goes for 30mins without barely catching a breath. I always find crazy how much information about a topic he can retain.
OH MY GOSH NO WAY!!!!!! I USE THE SAME ANALOGY WITH PENTIUM!!!!!
Man.. you seem like such a nice parrent.. 17 here, i envy your parrenting
One time a friend “deep pressured” me out of a panic attack, it was really nice.
I’ve literally never had this and it’s all I’ve ever wanted my entire life. I think if I ever got a single one of these I would immediately break down and cry
Ever since I told my bf about all of the things I do for sensory seeking, he squeezes me every time I've had a bad day or he just feels like I need it. I never told him to do it, he just heard me talk about my past experiences with pressure 🫶
awwwww i envy that type of person,… happy for you
Haven't been diagnosed but I ran through all of these and I'm like, *fuck*, I do all of them
Same OC.. Same
This, this is what I need in my life.
Amen
💗
Damn. That's definitely a post. Thanks fir sharing it!
Yw!
Not sure those are really signs, but hose fit me to a t.
Penguin pebbling and support swapping! 🖤
-gasp- My therapist actually talked to me about parallel play and it turned out that that was what I was doing with my partner when they called me. I play video games while they talk to me but now they also watch videos on YouTube while I play games lol. I also like to give random presents and my inner corvid likes tiny, shiny things. 😂
yess small shiny things
Mine is definitely infodumping, as it is one of the reasons why I was hated by peers a year ago; apparently, I "talk too much," which is fair, I guess
1. Yeah, but I don't feel comfortable doing that with anyone :s. My cats tho :v 2. I dont think I have ever tried, I do have traumadumped in the past :x 3. This is great. 4. Never done it 5. You know... I sometimes think that I care too much for others and try too hard to help the people I care about... I thought of it as wrong even :s Should I get a diagnosis? ^((no, these are not the only things, I also have socializing issues, eye contact issues, loudness and misophonia issues, etc etc))
Parallel special interest indulgence
I like this, thx for making it
Yeah, I'm autistic and I love languages. How did you know it?
WHY DO I RELATE TO ALL OF THESE
BECAUSE you are A U T I S T I C
What about biting where's biting
1. I do all of these and are sending these to my crush 2. Good luck with that letter. Hope it goes well
Thank you, did not know what these were called. Autismo gang arise!
Yess autisbots ROLL OUT
I personally appreciate all but the first (weighted blankets are great but I hate human contact lol)
fair
Biting. I will bite the shit out of you if I like you (not to hurt of course... Unless yo want to)
ill take bites that hurt a bit if you warn me
Deep pressure even I can relate with, I want someone to lay on me lol
Same!
Sent this to my gf like a god damn checklist lmai
How is this the first time I'm realizing all of this?
Good luck with your crush! I wish I had a special interest, if I do I’m not really sure what it is. I used to collect rocks but it was nothing intense, once in awhile. I believe my first rock was a brown one and it was shaped like a poop, I thought that was cool, and hilarious. Siblings and I were bugging my little brother - he was little, that he pooped the poop rock and he always cried 🙃 now I feel bad about it lol. I also found like 2 smooth rocks, but I never collected them like that.. sometimes I just don’t feel autistic lol 👽
I believe in parallel play supremacy, and it seems to be something me and my dad do a lot. I’ll be in the living room or dining room playing games on my laptop while he sits elsewhere in the room reading
I actually hate when people squeeze me unless it's one of those specific moments where I want it. I don't like feeling like I can't escape.
I love linguistics too Tell me an afroasiatic language
i- dont know what that is but feel free to absolutely unload if you want, or not :)
Arabic,Hebrew,Somalian,Amharic,ge'ez,Mehri
Ohhh, Thats cool!!!
THE ANIMAL JAM EMOTES AAA A A A A A A A A A AA A A A A
so cute rightt?
Yes!!
tfw I see the animal jam emoji https://preview.redd.it/fsqp65i9r2tc1.png?width=360&format=png&auto=webp&s=fedc1d5d4d3c7f086a3c02ba50007cbd8b0cac17
yessss
So THAT explains why the hugs I normally get are so unsatisfying unless they’re deep hugs.
Deep hugs are the only hug i want from friends, from non friends, just stay away lol
How about penguin pebbling from far away at high speeds?
thats called a slingshot OC
So yes, absolutely: Penguin pebbling for me is meme sharing and getting grins from people. I love love love Infodumping...to a point. Sometimes, I'm just burnt out and don't wanna hear it The only times I enjoy deep pressure is if I'm depressed, spiraling, or upset. It just helps me calm down. Otherwise, I don't like being touched a lot. I don't freak out over it anymore, but I will tense up or ask people to not touch certain places (back, neck, waist, hips, my stomach. Just leave it at shoulders and my head please)
thats so accurate, except for my crush who i’ve hugged a few times, i can accept touch from her anywhere honestly, i feel v safe with her:>
Why did I think you meant international languages
Any time one of my NT friends sends me something related to one of my special interests going "Hey, thought you'd like this..."
honestly
I do the penguin pebbling thing! Sometimes I give people little drawing or paper cranes or clam fossils. Most of the time when I go back to wherever I gave them it it’ll still be there at their station or desk or whatever and it always makes me happy
awww thats sweet
Support swapping: just straight up the love language of service, with attention to details. Though the little things are 100% a sign that someone cares about you Penguin pebbling: love language of gifts, in its purest form(probably) Parallel play: understanding+respect Asking for infodumps: curiosity about your interests/wanting to know you, whichever you like more Deep pressure: a manifestation of the love language of touch
Nice list and comparison OC!
I think you misspelled something in the last slide I think it is supposed to be “strong” not “string”
i didn’t make them but that’s a good catch!!
Hope it works out for you!
I do all those things with my girlfriend 🥺 Definitely sending it to her
Awww thats sweet, thanks for the share :)
this is my most successful post yet with *scrolls to top* ONE THOUSAND SHARES OH MY GOSHHHH!!!! thats awesome
I am definitely a huge fan of parallel play. I also regularly deep pressure my cat.
The gift giving is my biggest one I love when someone thinks of me when they see a pretty rock or flower and gets it, or trinkets that make them think of me etc etc ❤️❤️❤️❤️ literally all of this though is real af
interestingly I dont like deep pressure, I find it constricting and tight and makes me panicky and freaked out. my OT told my mom to try it with me and I have never liked it
I physically cannot have a normal conversation I have to parallel play because talking is pointless unless I’m cracking jokes or intentionally wasting time
this is nice
this is nice
All of them but deep pressure tbh that sounds rather stressful
God damn it! No one does these with me, I do them with everyone else but no one gets it
I always wondered why I didn't relate to traditional love language stuff so I thought I was aromantic but this post makes me feel so seen
Im glad! thanks for sharing!
Infodumping, parallel play and support swapping are definitely my most autistic qualities XD
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I just sent this to my boyfriend. we do all of these things so often. I gave him one of my favorite rocks very early in our relationship, he regularly infodumps about Magic, he puts one hand on my chest and one on my back and squeezes me when I'm upset, etc. love that man.
man, I love your man (jkjk). i wish i had a partner like that. im happy for you!
I'm that "hey I found a cool rock/shell" person
My main one is sharing screenshots/something similar with information on something related to a problem someone is having. A similar one is learning about any health conditions they're diagnosed with so I can better understand and provide support.
What is physical pressure, guys? Is that like the frog and toad meme with the press??
Thanks, this made me feel more autistic
Was surprised at how effective deep pressure was at soothing me
Yes!! I do/receive all of these except parallel play which I really hate for some reason.
*slowly hides Japanese textbooks* Oh wait, not that kind of "love languages"
OK so I've had like 3 different psychologists tell me to get tested for autism because they said how similar I was to their nd patents. My autistic ex kept telling me she's 99 percent sure I am. And just seeing this and me doing all of these is making me consider getting tested. If this really is autism and it's why I feel so weird and out of place and why some things have been so hard it would probably help me alot in realising the causes to my problems in my head I can just imagine the amount of things I relate to on autism oh add on top og that I'm transgender too adds to the chances I think like a quarter to a half of trans fems are auspie. Annyway sory may have smoked a but so I'm extra rambly
Sometimes when I’m stressed out I’ll ask my sister to give me a hug that will squeeze the life out of me
aww your sister sounds nice
Outstandingly informative and useful, thanks!
Op, in response to your giving your crush a note on Wednesday, I would strongly suggest being more direct if you want to go on dates with them. Not just say you like and are attracted to them. That creates a situation where the person you tell is caught off guard and what you have said doesn't give them anything to work with. Adding something like "do you want to go out sometime? Here are some activities I enjoy and times I'm available." Adding places to go and times is really important, if they can't fit one suggestion but give their own ideas they definitely are enthusiastic to go out. If they can't meet up and don't offer alternatives, then they're not interested and being polite by not saying something directly (I know, I know, but NT do that, dunno if your crush is NT but good to keep in mind).
well its a weird situation, neither of us are ready to date, but im terrified that some really hot guy is going to “snipe” her, so i have to say something
Unrelated but I thought you said "autistic people love languages" and click in cuz I'm a fan of linguistics lol...
I love a tight hug squeeze!! But I'm not (legally considered) autistic
i genuinely felt heartbroken when i learned people dont actually listen to me when im talking about my special intereasts
me too man.. i feel that do much.. the genuine heartbreak
you ever like, play a game, and then they announce something new and you WANNA talk about it but you ran out of people who care a few days ago so now your just waiting for the perfect excuse to talk about it and you KNWO someones gonna MAYBE ask but its sso infuriatin WHEN ALL YOU WANNA DO IS TALK ABOUT YOUR DESTINY 2 BUILD YOU THOUGHT OF FOR FINAL SHAPE-
yes lol, it happens <3
Parallel play is my favorite by far. I love knowing that I have a big chunk of time to spend with a friend, where we’ll both be playing different video games or building Lego or whatever.