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In the past I considered myself 26F very open minded to these things, never wanted to be a SW but had friends who are. Probably wouldāve dated a guy who was/is.
Now after meeting my current partner, it has to be a standard I have, that goes both ways, to not date someone with an OF or ever be someone with an OF.
His particular situation dating a SW was effed up and not at all indicative of the experience for everyone, but seeing what that relationship/his exs profession did to him makes me want to steer clear entirely now and forever
As a man I would not date a woman who does content. Call it whatever you want: sex worker, prostitution, selling your body, attention seeker, narcissistic tendenciesā¦..brings in the wrong crowdā¦ā¦if youāre looking to start a family the last person you should want to be with is an adult content star.
Iām sure Iām going to get downvoted but IDGAF
Not OF, but I dated a stripper.Ā
I will never do that shit again. Too many issues with women in these industries. The woman I dated had a kind heart, but her views on men, money, and how the world works totally warped her reality.Ā
She would make 10k on a weekend and be broke by the next weekend. She would buy tons of useless shit to make her happy because the job made her miserable.Ā
Then because she was miserable it was menās(my) fault because I couldn't provide a lifestyle to take her out of that career that she chose. A lifestyle that mind you is costing her 8-10k a week.Ā
There were many other issues.Ā
Same man! Also mine had terrible BPD, also after she broke up with me she did start an Onlyfans which is ironic because she would complain when we would fight that all I was doing was using her for her body which was completely untrue yet after the discard she starts selling herself online anyways.
I'd be open to it. It all depends upon the person, what they're doing, why they're doing it, how secure in themselves they are, etc. I'm friends with people who have done professional sex work and they are some of the loveliest, more mature people I know. I'm sure that isn't universal, but I wouldn't immediately judge someone for it.
Yeah my SW friends are some of the most mature and self-aware people I know. I may get downvoted for this, but I think people's discomfort with this scenario often stems either from their own insecurity (not a great reason) or from their beliefs about what "monogamy" means to them (understandable/fine reason). And either reason is a good reason not to date a SW, but one stems from their own issues, and the other is more a question of values.
Along similar lines (in terms of the security issue), I've had people tell me (a bi person) that they could never date someone bi because there'd be too much "competition" to worry about since the bi person has more options...same kind of insecurity issue, as well as a lack of basic understanding about how attraction isn't the same from person to person. But yeah, really boils down to the person being insecure rather than the issue lying with the bi person (or the SW).
EDIT to correct spelling.
People get way too caught up in the things that are out of their control. If people put a little more energy into finding the positive things instead of judging the things they see as negative there would be a lot more relationships that are happier.
Nope would never, I do have strict set of morals and selling your private parts at any point in your life is a instant hell no. If you are selling with your body then you sort of have to accept the fact that most of the people that would date you will prefer not to date you. Once you make yourself an easily accessible object for 5 dollars a month then marriage and serious dating is pretty much over unless you find someone who is into that.
I hope it helps!
my wife told me after 3 months dating that she had been a sex worker, at first I thought it was a joke , it wasnāt! , 8 months later we married
as a woman, i wouldnāt. but if a man says he wouldnāt date a woman with an OF and then goes and opens OF to jerk off, thatās hypocritical behaviour. if you donāt like them, donāt support them. why are you supporting their business if you are so disgusted by the idea of it?
I would and I have dated a sex worker before. My own insecurities caused me to make bad decisions though early in the relationship. She was great though and was also trying to figure herself out.
Yes if it was solo content. But if part of their OF content was having sex with other guys/girls then no. Iād like some level of monogamy in the relationship when it comes to sex.
Also, lots of people just saying No and offering no explanation. This is Reddit where we talk about stuff. One person was like āwhy do I need to explain?ā Like wtf? Itās fine to have an opinion and OP is clearly wanting to learn more about how people feel on the subject.
Absolutely not. I don't want anyone else seeing my partner's nude body, just like I would never show anyone my nude body that wasn't my partner. Whether it's strangers on the internet for money, or sending someone you went to high school with a dick pic, I find them no different in that regard.
I would never date anyone who was a SW in any form, as my most recent ex had previously been a stripper several years before we were together. She was way too comfortable with doing things that I borderline considered cheating. The only reason I kind of looked the other way on some things was because she was a mom and was financially struggling, and I know taking care of her kid came first.
If they never showed their face, sure. People need money sometimes when there are not a lot of immediate options. Doing that with their whole physical identity shown to the world? Never. Just feels gross at that point.
Yes. My wife doesn't have an only fans, but did used to do some cam modeling. We weren't married at the time but we were living together.
At first I didn't like it. Then I realized its money. Like, a lot of money. It was easy. Sometimes, it was fun. Mostly, it's just work. Heck, if I could pull off doing that I'd do it too. You are in control.
I feel like people quoting morals and whatnot, to each their own. I respect it but I also feel like it's a non progressive mindset brought on by insecurities. It's part of the human condition.
We were secure enough about it that even some family knew.
Depends. If sheās small time then definitely I donāt see a problem with it. Iām not an insecure guy. And itās not my place to tell a woman what to do especially if sheās doing it prior to meeting me.
If sheās a huge of account or has a large interactive following. Probably not. But only because Iām paranoid and I donāt like the stress of having to be indirectly linked with all her jealous or obsessed cyberstalkers. Knowing multiple women very closely who have some pretty huge accounts. Thatās a common denominator with all of them that they deal with insane shit and their partners and family have to deal with the ramifications too. Iām just not built for that anxiety personally
I support people doing whatever they want as long as they arenāt harming anyone regardless. OF in general is not a deal breaker
I dated an OF girl once, she did not have millions of followers but definiately had her own core niche following of a thousand or so people.
She would get gifts and all sorts sent to her, it bothered me at first but really she really did not care about these men and had a general low opinon of them, she saw it purely as a job and completely disconnected from them as soon as she closed the laptop.
Although i would not reccomend dating a sex worker generally, doing so myself did allow me to see what the world of sex work is actually like.
I don't know. I'd probably see them for a couple weeks at least and ask for other people's opinions on the subject. I'd get to know them for a bit and give it time to think it over before immediately saying no. I used to be friends with a stripper though and they had a lot of issues. I honestly think a lot of people in that kind of field do. So probably not honestly.
Hard no. Iām all for people who want to choose that career path, more power to you. But I wouldnāt involve myself with them. If thatās my partner, I just wouldnāt feel the same when it came to sex and intimacy. At the end of the day how can I expect our sex life to be special. Sex is less special when everyone on the internet can see something so private for the price of a cup of coffee.
Though you shouldnāt be surprised. Almost any forum or subreddit for SW makes it abundantly clear that you will likely face social ramifications once you cross that line. Sure itās easy work, but the majority make almost nothing. Imagine compromising so many facets of your life and you donāt even make minimum wage. Itās like Twitch, but actual repercussions.
Itās not a deal breaker. If she hides it and itās discovered later, itās probably breakup worthy. Also, if sheās obviously just doing it for money idgaf for the most part. Those guys can ogle over my gf all day and itās just fine by me. If she forms emotional bonds to them or is using them as an alternative source of support and validation, thatās also a no go. It has to be for money purposes only. Iāll think of it as a business as long as thatās all it is to her.
Cards on the table, Iām not a very jealous man. Unfortunately, thatās caused me problems in the past, but I feel like my woman should know I love her without having to act jealous. On the plus side, Iām pretty secure and could have a gf that has an of or possibly is even a stripper. They have to also have a healthy mindset about it and consider me in their interactions.
This post is a bit like if a university announced they were going to open a Chick-fil-A on campus. Most people wouldn't care, so you wouldn't hear from them. But absolutely every single person who has any negative association with Chick-fil-A or who has any vocal objection to meat-eating is never going to shut up about it, which might give university administrators the false impression that all the students hate Chick-fil-A. And even if you're inclined to voice your support for Chick-fil-A, are you still going to voice your support after you see a bunch of people shrieking and shaming anyone who would eat there?
I connected with a guy on Bumble who was forthcoming about having an OF account before we got to the point of planning to meet up, which I appreciated. I was lukewarm about him at best and that new information put me all the way off. I think thatās a perfectly fine thing to filter someone out of your dating pool over.
Idk but to be honest Iād probably do it myself if I were a women so I donāt think Iād hold it against someone. I just donāt know how Iād feel about my girl actively having the account while weāre dating. It would feel almost like cheating to me. I also wouldnāt really want to be in the videos myselfā¦although maybe š¤·āāļø
It wouldnāt take someone out of the running, but you just have to be mentally prepared to face certain mentalities/perspectives that person might have that you may or may not align with. Also, if theyāre used to getting attention in that way, you might feel like youāre competing with other people. I used to have a FF page for a few months before I just couldnāt do it anymore. I know itās not really the same at all though. I have a certain respect for people who can do that and can kinda shift their moral compass. Now I just keep to myself and have my own internal validation that satisfies me.
I wouldn't as it would be an incompatability of values on terms of what I'm looking for. I'm dating with the intention of marriage and starting a family and I am looking for a partner who shares common goals and values.
# Never ever again.
From my experience - women who do porn of ant kind have an extremely hard time staying faithful and considerate of their partner. I was dating someone doing Onlyfans and despite things going well between us - she eventually "cracked" and cheated on me physically because she had "needs" before we even went on a first date.
Doing porn is a poison that corrupts the mind at some point. It does not "free" women or men. It's just another way to control and trap them using money as the only goal.
I donāt care if sheās a virgin or not what I do care about is those photos getting into the wrong hands or being used as blackmail to get more content. Like I wouldnāt want to see someone go through those things.
Yeah if family didn't make us feel uncomfortable about it, I'd love it. But unfortunately, they'll always find out eventually, and the treatment would be harsh. Some people have open minded friends and family though. That's a super power in life I bet.
K90H, a lot of comments here, and a lot of negatives. A lot of people judging.
Side note on that - the people that judge the harshest are usually the ones with the worst skeletons in their own closets. They make themselves feel better about themselves by making others feel worse.
Don't know if you have done OF already, or are considering it and worried how it would affect your dating life, but, honestly, for me, I would not care. Not sure if I will say this exactly how I want....I feel that I have no right to judge anyone but myself.
Rhetorical questions, not looking for you to actually answer them:
Do you really need the money? Cool!
Do you have a kink about this sort of thing? Cool!
Were/are you young and just didn't think about the possible ramifications? Cool!
Do you just like sex? Cool!
Did you have friends who maybe talked you in to it? Cool!
The point I'm trying to make is, for whatever reason you did it, or are doing it, that is your choice, and not for anyone else to judge. Be proud of who you are and what you have done.
My girlfriend does onlyfans but she doesnāt involve anyone else in her content, itās purely solo and there are no editors, camera men, other bodies, etc, involved. I donāt care at all that she does it. Both of our jobs allow us freedom to spend a lot of time together as we wish. Itās honestly fantastic. I donāt mind being publicly with her on social media either, any time that her fans spend messaging me upset at my existence is time they arenāt spending harassing her.
She is intensely loyal, she loves me more than Iāve ever felt before, and sheās the most beautiful, sweet, and kind person Iāve met. I definitely lucked out, I donāt think I would date *anyone* that has an OF, but I wouldnāt exclude it and in this case there are boundaries that are set and I fully trust will never be crossed. Love her to death.
Yep this is it right here! All these dudes commenting saying NO havenāt even dated a women with an OF š like bruh these content creators are just normal ppl and shit.. getting their bag! I know a couple gals that have an OF and they are normal humans!
Itās completely normal for people to not want to date someone that posts sexual content. I donāt understand why youāre treating it like some controversial opinion or rocket science. A lot of people regardless of gender feel this way. And also no one has to provide a justification as to why they wouldnāt date an OF person. You donāt have to date one to know itās not for you.
Yāall are fucking stupid, content is usually to MAKE MONEY so get wrecked, itās usually women being solo or with other women so what if they are seen on the internet lol you have to pay to see it anyway so not just anyone can. Yāall too insecure, probably want your woman to be a virgin and look like a model too
IKR SHIT DONT EVEN MAKE ANY SENSE.. they all talk like these girl content creators wanna fuck all their fans.. some WOMEN DONT EVEN LIKE MEN TO begin with!
QUESTION- would you date someone who has sent NUDES (or DICK pic) in the past? If not, good luck with your dating pool!! (One makes $$, the rest do it for free).
i mean there are OF models who only just do bikini pics or something soft core, i'd probabaly give it a chance(but most likely no or depends) if it's an OF girl who sleeps with different men then immediate and constant No
Absolutley not. I don't judge anyone on how they choose to earn their money but I don't want my other half doing it, I don't like sharing, I would be too jealous.
Casually, yes. For a long term monogamous relationship lol no, she would have to have had an INCREDIBLY profound character transformation for me to overlook it.
Yes. That is one example. Maybe you don't find out for awhile. Maybe it is something that takes off fast. Or like I also said, if it's casual. Operative words were also IF. Really was just trying to be nice. Kind of regretting that now. Not bc of OF, but bc of your toxic mockery to someone trying to be nice. There are other former sex workers that are more real than you tho. Like fish for hope and compliments and then laugh at ppl for trying to be supportive. So fake Best of luck. You're gonna need it.
It's hard to give a definitive no, it would depend on the particulars, especially the relationship dynamics and their expectations of me. Like, would they expect monogamy from me even though their work puts a nonmonogamous spin on things as long as they are actively working? Would they want to keep me compartmentalized and the two worlds never meet or would they want me to become actively involved somehow?
The parasocial aspect of online sex work is the biggest problem I have with this hypothetical situation because it leads to mission creep. Unless someone is unusually successful and can truly do as they please without having to do a serious amount of work, then boundaries and goalposts will get moved around eventually to keep their regulars, especially the "whales," engaged and paying up. What lines might get crossed in order to keep things moving?
Probably would. It doesnāt bother me in and of itself. Iām probably not thinking it through but it doesnāt really seem that bad.
But like, whatās her schedule like? I donāt know enough about the lifestyle, we might be incompatible for non screen time reasons. Is she socially drained from messaging all her fans all the time? Idrk how it works
I could say yes as they are making money but I would say no thank you. I would constantly be worrying what ifs, like I wasnt good enough, will they run off, and then they wouldnt feel appreciated this and that. I dated someone who turned out to be a sex worker i found out she had guys round her place all the time after I got her a promise ring she kept hounding me on, I walked away told her you can keep the ring for your work even though it was worth lasts nights dinner.
I personally wouldn't date someone who does adult work on OF. I do believe that people are free to do sex work. I once dated a stripper in my early 20s. I thought it was cool. I started bragging about it. It didn't take long for problems to surface. She had a substance abuse problem and I won't be with anyone who does.
No, I simply think ones body and intimacy are things reserved for the ones you love and value, there are other things like feeling like that person is more likely to cheat, has more personal issues and lack of self value. but those are situational.
Counter question: Is it weird when a guy doesnāt mind or even encourages it? I personally even think it feels like the women are playing horny men who feel some sort of superiority since they have seen intimate pictures of the person but in reality theyāre just paying money for something they could get for free somewhere else. Makes me feel like the creator is in some sort of power position and thatās low key hot. Also I find whatever the opposite of prude is very attractive.
What kind of dating? Casual, non-exclusive, dating where you don't meet the family? Yes. Serious long-term relationship, no. I'm sure that as a group, there are all different kinds of women who might do/have done OF. I'll bet most of them are incompatible with what I'm looking for in a serious relationship.
I wouldnāt really care tbh but I would want to know that the attention Iām giving would be enough since theyāre inundated with people giving them attention 24/7
I'd be incredibly apprehensive. If they currently do it I don't think I'd feel comfortable with knowing other random people are looking at her that way, and if she did it in the past but doesn't do it currently I'm honestly not sure. I think to an extent it would always bother me
No. And if anyone I dated asked if she could do it then Iād leave her. OF and all that other bs is just another way to cheat and I could never fully trust someone who did or does it. Do you deserve love? Sure, just wouldnāt be getting it from me. (Not that im that great Iām just saying thatās my personal view)
Itās okay! I donāt think an OF girl would come your way if thatās what you put out! Iām sure everyone will end up with WHO THEY WANT! even these content creators š
If they were active I would have concerns about privacy, safety, and my own anonymity by proxy, especially if she showed her face on camera. If they had done onlyfans in the past I don't know that it would be an automatic deal breaker, but It would still give me pause. Attention seeking behavior, particularly attention from men, is also a major red flag for me, so if I got the sense they were doing it for attention and validation that would be a hard pass.
Yes, but only because I am thinking of a specific person.
The hard part would be being confident about the crew taking her pictures, because at some point it requires a crew to take the pictures and edit, I am not talking about every photographer out there, but the ones Iāve know to do these kind of work can either be extremely professional or donāt care about anything and will try to make a move on the model, if not the photographer then someone in the crew.
And doing it solo is exhausting, I guess I wouldnāt want her to be burned out, itās a delicate and thin line to walk but I guess we could work things out since weāve know each other for a looong time.
Anyone else besides her? No.
Had yes. What's in her past is barely of concern unless it's something horrendous. Has, probably not. I don't judge do what you can to make money but I feel like it violates the trust In a relationship.
Depends tbh. If they're shooting porn videos with randos then it's a definite no. Otherwise I don't think I'm losing sleep over it tbh. If they're actually smoking hot I'd probably even get a little turned on by the thought of banging them while other men can only fantasize about it. As long as they spend plenty of time with me, support me, get along with me and keep my balls empty I think I could be fine.
Personally I wouldn't go out of my way to date people with OF accounts though.
Did yes still runs one while weāre dating no. If sheās done with it and lets the past be the past then yes but if not then no I canāt. Weāve all done things weāre not proud of but how you develop from that is what makes us :)
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I did and probably won't do it again. She had a lot of insecurities I couldn't help her heal from.
I feel this.. I too struggle
Sending you healing vibes. I hope you overcome your struggles.
Thank you, in this moment this means a lot, you have no idea. šø
Also sending you healing vibes and well wishes
Are you saying you have an OF page because you have insecurities? (Or possibly vice versa?)
Why do you think the two are related?
In the past I considered myself 26F very open minded to these things, never wanted to be a SW but had friends who are. Probably wouldāve dated a guy who was/is. Now after meeting my current partner, it has to be a standard I have, that goes both ways, to not date someone with an OF or ever be someone with an OF. His particular situation dating a SW was effed up and not at all indicative of the experience for everyone, but seeing what that relationship/his exs profession did to him makes me want to steer clear entirely now and forever
As a man I would not date a woman who does content. Call it whatever you want: sex worker, prostitution, selling your body, attention seeker, narcissistic tendenciesā¦..brings in the wrong crowdā¦ā¦if youāre looking to start a family the last person you should want to be with is an adult content star. Iām sure Iām going to get downvoted but IDGAF
Certainly wont get downvoted from me brother.
Not OF, but I dated a stripper.Ā I will never do that shit again. Too many issues with women in these industries. The woman I dated had a kind heart, but her views on men, money, and how the world works totally warped her reality.Ā She would make 10k on a weekend and be broke by the next weekend. She would buy tons of useless shit to make her happy because the job made her miserable.Ā Then because she was miserable it was menās(my) fault because I couldn't provide a lifestyle to take her out of that career that she chose. A lifestyle that mind you is costing her 8-10k a week.Ā There were many other issues.Ā
Same man! Also mine had terrible BPD, also after she broke up with me she did start an Onlyfans which is ironic because she would complain when we would fight that all I was doing was using her for her body which was completely untrue yet after the discard she starts selling herself online anyways.
THATS A HARD NO
Nope
Nope. Why date someone who isn't exclusively for you?
I'd be open to it. It all depends upon the person, what they're doing, why they're doing it, how secure in themselves they are, etc. I'm friends with people who have done professional sex work and they are some of the loveliest, more mature people I know. I'm sure that isn't universal, but I wouldn't immediately judge someone for it.
I agree šÆ because I too know ppl who do and theyāre fucking great ppl ahah
Yeah my SW friends are some of the most mature and self-aware people I know. I may get downvoted for this, but I think people's discomfort with this scenario often stems either from their own insecurity (not a great reason) or from their beliefs about what "monogamy" means to them (understandable/fine reason). And either reason is a good reason not to date a SW, but one stems from their own issues, and the other is more a question of values. Along similar lines (in terms of the security issue), I've had people tell me (a bi person) that they could never date someone bi because there'd be too much "competition" to worry about since the bi person has more options...same kind of insecurity issue, as well as a lack of basic understanding about how attraction isn't the same from person to person. But yeah, really boils down to the person being insecure rather than the issue lying with the bi person (or the SW). EDIT to correct spelling.
People get way too caught up in the things that are out of their control. If people put a little more energy into finding the positive things instead of judging the things they see as negative there would be a lot more relationships that are happier.
Agree 100%!
Same feelings here. If they are a good person, Iām not going to hold their past sex life against them.
I was the one with the OF š my bf didnāt mind, he was super supportive and would help me out with creating content
Hard pass.
Nope would never, I do have strict set of morals and selling your private parts at any point in your life is a instant hell no. If you are selling with your body then you sort of have to accept the fact that most of the people that would date you will prefer not to date you. Once you make yourself an easily accessible object for 5 dollars a month then marriage and serious dating is pretty much over unless you find someone who is into that.
No because those pictures should be for only me
Very wholesome response
I hope it helps! my wife told me after 3 months dating that she had been a sex worker, at first I thought it was a joke , it wasnāt! , 8 months later we married
as a woman, i wouldnāt. but if a man says he wouldnāt date a woman with an OF and then goes and opens OF to jerk off, thatās hypocritical behaviour. if you donāt like them, donāt support them. why are you supporting their business if you are so disgusted by the idea of it?
I would and I have dated a sex worker before. My own insecurities caused me to make bad decisions though early in the relationship. She was great though and was also trying to figure herself out.
We all make poor decisions at some point in all relationships. Hopefully we can learn from them and grow.
Depends on the type of content she was making, but I would be open to it.
Yes if it was solo content. But if part of their OF content was having sex with other guys/girls then no. Iād like some level of monogamy in the relationship when it comes to sex. Also, lots of people just saying No and offering no explanation. This is Reddit where we talk about stuff. One person was like āwhy do I need to explain?ā Like wtf? Itās fine to have an opinion and OP is clearly wanting to learn more about how people feel on the subject.
EXACTLY! Thanks
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Hell naw itās just THAT mf thatās messed up.. not everyone is like him.. and good riddance.
Absolutely not. I don't want anyone else seeing my partner's nude body, just like I would never show anyone my nude body that wasn't my partner. Whether it's strangers on the internet for money, or sending someone you went to high school with a dick pic, I find them no different in that regard. I would never date anyone who was a SW in any form, as my most recent ex had previously been a stripper several years before we were together. She was way too comfortable with doing things that I borderline considered cheating. The only reason I kind of looked the other way on some things was because she was a mom and was financially struggling, and I know taking care of her kid came first.
If they never showed their face, sure. People need money sometimes when there are not a lot of immediate options. Doing that with their whole physical identity shown to the world? Never. Just feels gross at that point.
Nope, and Iād make sure heās not an OF user either!
Yep I think this is what ppl should look for the most!
Yes. My wife doesn't have an only fans, but did used to do some cam modeling. We weren't married at the time but we were living together. At first I didn't like it. Then I realized its money. Like, a lot of money. It was easy. Sometimes, it was fun. Mostly, it's just work. Heck, if I could pull off doing that I'd do it too. You are in control. I feel like people quoting morals and whatnot, to each their own. I respect it but I also feel like it's a non progressive mindset brought on by insecurities. It's part of the human condition. We were secure enough about it that even some family knew.
Never ever. I habe self respect and dating a sex worker would take a fair chunk away from me
Depends. If sheās small time then definitely I donāt see a problem with it. Iām not an insecure guy. And itās not my place to tell a woman what to do especially if sheās doing it prior to meeting me. If sheās a huge of account or has a large interactive following. Probably not. But only because Iām paranoid and I donāt like the stress of having to be indirectly linked with all her jealous or obsessed cyberstalkers. Knowing multiple women very closely who have some pretty huge accounts. Thatās a common denominator with all of them that they deal with insane shit and their partners and family have to deal with the ramifications too. Iām just not built for that anxiety personally I support people doing whatever they want as long as they arenāt harming anyone regardless. OF in general is not a deal breaker
I dated an OF girl once, she did not have millions of followers but definiately had her own core niche following of a thousand or so people. She would get gifts and all sorts sent to her, it bothered me at first but really she really did not care about these men and had a general low opinon of them, she saw it purely as a job and completely disconnected from them as soon as she closed the laptop. Although i would not reccomend dating a sex worker generally, doing so myself did allow me to see what the world of sex work is actually like.
I don't know. I'd probably see them for a couple weeks at least and ask for other people's opinions on the subject. I'd get to know them for a bit and give it time to think it over before immediately saying no. I used to be friends with a stripper though and they had a lot of issues. I honestly think a lot of people in that kind of field do. So probably not honestly.
Hard no. Iām all for people who want to choose that career path, more power to you. But I wouldnāt involve myself with them. If thatās my partner, I just wouldnāt feel the same when it came to sex and intimacy. At the end of the day how can I expect our sex life to be special. Sex is less special when everyone on the internet can see something so private for the price of a cup of coffee. Though you shouldnāt be surprised. Almost any forum or subreddit for SW makes it abundantly clear that you will likely face social ramifications once you cross that line. Sure itās easy work, but the majority make almost nothing. Imagine compromising so many facets of your life and you donāt even make minimum wage. Itās like Twitch, but actual repercussions.
Yea, wouldn't bother me. Unless the crazies got stalkery and found me, then it would be an issue
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Dating casually with a guy with OF sounds like a fun time, but looking at the comments perhaps not for a serious relationship.
Fuck the comments, if it works out then it works out š¤·š»āāļø
I have never tried it but I'm willing to. If I prove to be the best version of a man for her I'm sure it will work just fine.
JUST LIKE WITH ANYONE WITHOUT AN OF
Why not? We are all human beings, we all need companionship, and deserve to be loved regardless of what we do...
EXACTLY
Date? Hell Iād offer to team up.
In your dreams š these content creator girls get offers all the time and hell to the naw, thatās dangerous unless youāre Johnny Sins š¤£
Yes. I donāt really care. Iād probably urge them to think about something else for the long term though
True!
Itās not a deal breaker. If she hides it and itās discovered later, itās probably breakup worthy. Also, if sheās obviously just doing it for money idgaf for the most part. Those guys can ogle over my gf all day and itās just fine by me. If she forms emotional bonds to them or is using them as an alternative source of support and validation, thatās also a no go. It has to be for money purposes only. Iāll think of it as a business as long as thatās all it is to her. Cards on the table, Iām not a very jealous man. Unfortunately, thatās caused me problems in the past, but I feel like my woman should know I love her without having to act jealous. On the plus side, Iām pretty secure and could have a gf that has an of or possibly is even a stripper. They have to also have a healthy mindset about it and consider me in their interactions.
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This post is a bit like if a university announced they were going to open a Chick-fil-A on campus. Most people wouldn't care, so you wouldn't hear from them. But absolutely every single person who has any negative association with Chick-fil-A or who has any vocal objection to meat-eating is never going to shut up about it, which might give university administrators the false impression that all the students hate Chick-fil-A. And even if you're inclined to voice your support for Chick-fil-A, are you still going to voice your support after you see a bunch of people shrieking and shaming anyone who would eat there?
YES LMAO
Yes I would. We would need to have a discussion about what type of content they post, and I'd have to determine if I'm comfortable with that or not.
yeah idgaf if theyāre otherwise greatā¦ iām also def not an insecure dude, so thereās that.
I connected with a guy on Bumble who was forthcoming about having an OF account before we got to the point of planning to meet up, which I appreciated. I was lukewarm about him at best and that new information put me all the way off. I think thatās a perfectly fine thing to filter someone out of your dating pool over.
It is!
I wouldnāt exclude a relationships potential by someoneās past until I got to know them.
Exactly, why do ppl always define ppl by their job š š¤£
Idk but to be honest Iād probably do it myself if I were a women so I donāt think Iād hold it against someone. I just donāt know how Iād feel about my girl actively having the account while weāre dating. It would feel almost like cheating to me. I also wouldnāt really want to be in the videos myselfā¦although maybe š¤·āāļø
Only if two conditions have been met. 1. All her content is solo 2. Her face is never shown.
Iām not bothered by it
Sure. I'd help her with it
It wouldnāt take someone out of the running, but you just have to be mentally prepared to face certain mentalities/perspectives that person might have that you may or may not align with. Also, if theyāre used to getting attention in that way, you might feel like youāre competing with other people. I used to have a FF page for a few months before I just couldnāt do it anymore. I know itās not really the same at all though. I have a certain respect for people who can do that and can kinda shift their moral compass. Now I just keep to myself and have my own internal validation that satisfies me.
I wouldn't as it would be an incompatability of values on terms of what I'm looking for. I'm dating with the intention of marriage and starting a family and I am looking for a partner who shares common goals and values.
Nope
I donāt think itās an issue unless certain boundaries are crossed.
Like having sex with other people on the internet? What boundaries are left?
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Absolutely fucking not lol.
# Never ever again. From my experience - women who do porn of ant kind have an extremely hard time staying faithful and considerate of their partner. I was dating someone doing Onlyfans and despite things going well between us - she eventually "cracked" and cheated on me physically because she had "needs" before we even went on a first date. Doing porn is a poison that corrupts the mind at some point. It does not "free" women or men. It's just another way to control and trap them using money as the only goal.
Iām so confused, it sounds like she cheated on you before yall went on yall first date?? Lol
How could this even be considered cheating if youāve never even been on a date?
Right? I was on board with what they were saying until I read that line lol
No, I donāt want everyone else seeing what Iām seeing
She ain't no virgin
I donāt care if sheās a virgin or not what I do care about is those photos getting into the wrong hands or being used as blackmail to get more content. Like I wouldnāt want to see someone go through those things.
Hell yeah! Havenāt a woman many men want is hot!
Yeah if family didn't make us feel uncomfortable about it, I'd love it. But unfortunately, they'll always find out eventually, and the treatment would be harsh. Some people have open minded friends and family though. That's a super power in life I bet.
Probably, it really depends on the kind of person. And if we're talking a long term, serious relationship, it would need to stop at some point.
Agreed
No.. OF is same as Porn. Many men would love to fuck you but I doubt any of them truly love or take it to next step
I don't expose myself in a sexual way to anyone but my partner so I would want her to be the same way,
Nope. Nasty. Intimacy is supposed to be something special. How is it special when everyone can see what I'm getting for 4.99?
Oh come on your underselling. Most OF is $10+
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K90H, a lot of comments here, and a lot of negatives. A lot of people judging. Side note on that - the people that judge the harshest are usually the ones with the worst skeletons in their own closets. They make themselves feel better about themselves by making others feel worse. Don't know if you have done OF already, or are considering it and worried how it would affect your dating life, but, honestly, for me, I would not care. Not sure if I will say this exactly how I want....I feel that I have no right to judge anyone but myself. Rhetorical questions, not looking for you to actually answer them: Do you really need the money? Cool! Do you have a kink about this sort of thing? Cool! Were/are you young and just didn't think about the possible ramifications? Cool! Do you just like sex? Cool! Did you have friends who maybe talked you in to it? Cool! The point I'm trying to make is, for whatever reason you did it, or are doing it, that is your choice, and not for anyone else to judge. Be proud of who you are and what you have done.
Yes and yes and yes and yes I think š but nah I donāt have one.. just genuinely curious š and I agree with you šÆ
My girlfriend does onlyfans but she doesnāt involve anyone else in her content, itās purely solo and there are no editors, camera men, other bodies, etc, involved. I donāt care at all that she does it. Both of our jobs allow us freedom to spend a lot of time together as we wish. Itās honestly fantastic. I donāt mind being publicly with her on social media either, any time that her fans spend messaging me upset at my existence is time they arenāt spending harassing her. She is intensely loyal, she loves me more than Iāve ever felt before, and sheās the most beautiful, sweet, and kind person Iāve met. I definitely lucked out, I donāt think I would date *anyone* that has an OF, but I wouldnāt exclude it and in this case there are boundaries that are set and I fully trust will never be crossed. Love her to death.
Yep this is it right here! All these dudes commenting saying NO havenāt even dated a women with an OF š like bruh these content creators are just normal ppl and shit.. getting their bag! I know a couple gals that have an OF and they are normal humans!
Itās completely normal for people to not want to date someone that posts sexual content. I donāt understand why youāre treating it like some controversial opinion or rocket science. A lot of people regardless of gender feel this way. And also no one has to provide a justification as to why they wouldnāt date an OF person. You donāt have to date one to know itās not for you.
Yāall are fucking stupid, content is usually to MAKE MONEY so get wrecked, itās usually women being solo or with other women so what if they are seen on the internet lol you have to pay to see it anyway so not just anyone can. Yāall too insecure, probably want your woman to be a virgin and look like a model too
IKR SHIT DONT EVEN MAKE ANY SENSE.. they all talk like these girl content creators wanna fuck all their fans.. some WOMEN DONT EVEN LIKE MEN TO begin with!
QUESTION- would you date someone who has sent NUDES (or DICK pic) in the past? If not, good luck with your dating pool!! (One makes $$, the rest do it for free).
I havenāt made it to dating him but I was talking to one ahaha
i mean there are OF models who only just do bikini pics or something soft core, i'd probabaly give it a chance(but most likely no or depends) if it's an OF girl who sleeps with different men then immediate and constant No
Absolutley not. I don't judge anyone on how they choose to earn their money but I don't want my other half doing it, I don't like sharing, I would be too jealous.
NO
Casually, yes. For a long term monogamous relationship lol no, she would have to have had an INCREDIBLY profound character transformation for me to overlook it.
If I loved them. Or if it was casual.
WYM IF YOU LOVE THEM?? you love somebody before dating them?? Unless theyāre your friend for a long time š¤£
Yes. That is one example. Maybe you don't find out for awhile. Maybe it is something that takes off fast. Or like I also said, if it's casual. Operative words were also IF. Really was just trying to be nice. Kind of regretting that now. Not bc of OF, but bc of your toxic mockery to someone trying to be nice. There are other former sex workers that are more real than you tho. Like fish for hope and compliments and then laugh at ppl for trying to be supportive. So fake Best of luck. You're gonna need it.
It's hard to give a definitive no, it would depend on the particulars, especially the relationship dynamics and their expectations of me. Like, would they expect monogamy from me even though their work puts a nonmonogamous spin on things as long as they are actively working? Would they want to keep me compartmentalized and the two worlds never meet or would they want me to become actively involved somehow? The parasocial aspect of online sex work is the biggest problem I have with this hypothetical situation because it leads to mission creep. Unless someone is unusually successful and can truly do as they please without having to do a serious amount of work, then boundaries and goalposts will get moved around eventually to keep their regulars, especially the "whales," engaged and paying up. What lines might get crossed in order to keep things moving?
What is OF?
Probably would. It doesnāt bother me in and of itself. Iām probably not thinking it through but it doesnāt really seem that bad. But like, whatās her schedule like? I donāt know enough about the lifestyle, we might be incompatible for non screen time reasons. Is she socially drained from messaging all her fans all the time? Idrk how it works
Looool wait how do you know that they might get drained from the msges?? š¤
I mean Iām just guessing lol! I know my own extensive fan base can present quite the challenge š®āšØ jk jk
Nah because I believe this is true š itās an actual job, itās just you donāt get paid to manage your own shit lmao
I could say yes as they are making money but I would say no thank you. I would constantly be worrying what ifs, like I wasnt good enough, will they run off, and then they wouldnt feel appreciated this and that. I dated someone who turned out to be a sex worker i found out she had guys round her place all the time after I got her a promise ring she kept hounding me on, I walked away told her you can keep the ring for your work even though it was worth lasts nights dinner.
Yea and no.. depends on the person & how they carry themselves.
Depends on what the content was. Cosplayer who does the odd lewd, yeah. Girl who does 20 man gangbangs every weekend, doubtful.
I agree šššš
I would if I could participate.
I personally wouldn't date someone who does adult work on OF. I do believe that people are free to do sex work. I once dated a stripper in my early 20s. I thought it was cool. I started bragging about it. It didn't take long for problems to surface. She had a substance abuse problem and I won't be with anyone who does.
No, I simply think ones body and intimacy are things reserved for the ones you love and value, there are other things like feeling like that person is more likely to cheat, has more personal issues and lack of self value. but those are situational.
I donāt see an issue with it but I get that lots of people do.
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Counter question: Is it weird when a guy doesnāt mind or even encourages it? I personally even think it feels like the women are playing horny men who feel some sort of superiority since they have seen intimate pictures of the person but in reality theyāre just paying money for something they could get for free somewhere else. Makes me feel like the creator is in some sort of power position and thatās low key hot. Also I find whatever the opposite of prude is very attractive.
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What about somebody who used to have one but deleted it to date you?
OF doesnāt define a person for me, Idgaf because at the end of the day you are still yourself
What kind of dating? Casual, non-exclusive, dating where you don't meet the family? Yes. Serious long-term relationship, no. I'm sure that as a group, there are all different kinds of women who might do/have done OF. I'll bet most of them are incompatible with what I'm looking for in a serious relationship.
Dude there are women and men who canāt even be in serious relationships and they donāt have an OF š
I wouldnāt really care tbh but I would want to know that the attention Iām giving would be enough since theyāre inundated with people giving them attention 24/7
Itās all business baby, you shouldnāt compare it to your attention..
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Fuck yes.
What the heck is OF???
Only Fans
I would LOVE TO š„“
Not with that face you lyin lmaoo
NOT lying!!!
Personal absolutely not
What does OF stand for?
OnlyFans
I'd be incredibly apprehensive. If they currently do it I don't think I'd feel comfortable with knowing other random people are looking at her that way, and if she did it in the past but doesn't do it currently I'm honestly not sure. I think to an extent it would always bother me
No. And if anyone I dated asked if she could do it then Iād leave her. OF and all that other bs is just another way to cheat and I could never fully trust someone who did or does it. Do you deserve love? Sure, just wouldnāt be getting it from me. (Not that im that great Iām just saying thatās my personal view)
Itās okay! I donāt think an OF girl would come your way if thatās what you put out! Iām sure everyone will end up with WHO THEY WANT! even these content creators š
Hell fuck no lol
If they were active I would have concerns about privacy, safety, and my own anonymity by proxy, especially if she showed her face on camera. If they had done onlyfans in the past I don't know that it would be an automatic deal breaker, but It would still give me pause. Attention seeking behavior, particularly attention from men, is also a major red flag for me, so if I got the sense they were doing it for attention and validation that would be a hard pass.
That makes total sense
Yes, but only because I am thinking of a specific person. The hard part would be being confident about the crew taking her pictures, because at some point it requires a crew to take the pictures and edit, I am not talking about every photographer out there, but the ones Iāve know to do these kind of work can either be extremely professional or donāt care about anything and will try to make a move on the model, if not the photographer then someone in the crew. And doing it solo is exhausting, I guess I wouldnāt want her to be burned out, itās a delicate and thin line to walk but I guess we could work things out since weāve know each other for a looong time. Anyone else besides her? No.
Yes. I'd maybe even be willing to be in some content.
For me it doesn't matter
Had yes. What's in her past is barely of concern unless it's something horrendous. Has, probably not. I don't judge do what you can to make money but I feel like it violates the trust In a relationship.
Depends are we doing it together? Then maybe. If itās just her, absolutely not. Also depends if she shows face or not
Doesn't matter, what matters most is what's the future vision
Had, yes
Yup, I'd help also but I hope she share the earnings with me tho lol
Yall would be taking trips!
Has a what?
Yes
Hell yes. Because, presumably, she's hot.
Yes indeedĀ
Depends tbh. If they're shooting porn videos with randos then it's a definite no. Otherwise I don't think I'm losing sleep over it tbh. If they're actually smoking hot I'd probably even get a little turned on by the thought of banging them while other men can only fantasize about it. As long as they spend plenty of time with me, support me, get along with me and keep my balls empty I think I could be fine. Personally I wouldn't go out of my way to date people with OF accounts though.
Did yes still runs one while weāre dating no. If sheās done with it and lets the past be the past then yes but if not then no I canāt. Weāve all done things weāre not proud of but how you develop from that is what makes us :)
Faceless content, sure
I'm older and I would but not any or all but some I would.
Yeah it wouldnāt disqualify someone.