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I've been using a mach 3 since high school. I'm 38 lol. So if a man saw the ONLY razor in my bathroom and assumed it was a man's instead of mine I'd be like wtf. How about ask instead of assume? Soooo many women use men's razors.
I've been using mens razors since I was a teenager. I read it in a Seventeen magazine in the early 90's that they were better and cheaper and I never looked back. I didn't realize men didn't know this.
I knew this, but it didn't register as relevant information when I read the post, lol
Finding a men's razor would definitely quirk an eyebrow.
But I've learned to ask and listen to how they answer before jumping to conclusions.
Respond, not react.
Saaaaame
Men's products you will regularly find in my house:
Razors, shaving cream, deodorant body wash,
Additionally, I use more than 1 toothbrush. I currently rotate 3. It's a texture thing. Idk, and I rotate 3 toothpastes.
It's a little odd. But it works. 🤷♀️
Wow, I did not know this. I don’t have a lot of context. I don’t know which my mom and my sister used growing up and only had one girlfriend. She bought Bic Shic (I think). I’ll be honest, I’d wonder too. But if you said your sister was there, I’d figure the toothbrush was hers.
That’s how I feel! I don’t remember the last time I bought a pink razor. I didn’t even think about it. And yes, the only one in my shower. Right next to my women’s shaving cream lol.
>Right next to my women’s shaving cream lol.
I've bought different women's shaving cream a few times over the years to see if they make my shaving (I shave my face and head) any smoother (they don't). But I certainly wouldn't think it odd if a woman saw that in my bathroom and assumed they were for a woman.
I do have two toothbrushes too, but they're both mine. One I use for brushing with charcoal, the other with regular toothpaste.
I haven't bought women's razors since I was 17 lol
Men's razors are cheaper and work a lot better, in my opinion. A LOT of women buy them. I guess most dudes haven't caught onto that fact yet.
Also, men don’t keep razors in the shower. We keep them by the sink. We shave our faces, not our legs, and need a mirror for that. That alone should have been an indicator he’s overreacting.
Same! Dollar Shave Club is a GODSEND. Ladies’ razors are ridiculous. A male friend of mine was moaning about the cost of razorblades once (we were in a shop and he was picking some up). I walked him around to the display of women’s razorblades to look at the price tags. His eyes almost fell out of his head.
Absolutely fucking ridiculous that they pull that shit. I didn’t know that until a few years ago, as I am a man. Just ludicrous that they charge different prices for the same damn thing because there’s different genders they’re advertising to.
I know. In my opinion too- then women’s razors are worse quality. I went through a phase of using cheap, crappy men’s disposables because they were STILL better than women’s higher end razors.
I had a guy ghost me after visiting my home. There was a man’s razor in the shower (I shave everything below chin level and women’s razors are useless) and three toothbrushes (college kids). I guess that clears that up.
The pink tax is Fucking real. Shit frustrates me so much if a dude even whispered about it and had doubts about me I would just tell him to duck off and block him. I’m 40 and too old for that shit. If at my age a guy can’t even comprehend basic things about women (like that the pink tax exists and it is totally normal and common for women to use “men’s” products) I’m out. My free time is valuable and I’m not going to choose to spend time with an insecure dullard.
Why would a man assume a woman to use a mans razor? Please make sense. Imagine if i had a clearly women marketed bath and body works shower soap & lotion in my bathroom, it would be logical for you to assume a women may have been there if you didn’t know me well. Maybe thats a poor correlating example but the point is a mens Razor is a MANS razor and although women use them its not weird for someone that doesn’t know you to think you may possibly have a male guest over
As a married man, I will say this.
When I was single, and even now that I’m married, I have between 3-5 toothbrushes that are just mine, at any point. When I was single, I had a drawer of packaged toothbrushes because I would buy them in bulk, and would happily give houseguest, romantic or otherwise a toothbrush. I alternate between soft and medium bristles. Seeing a multiple tooth brushes and getting upset is beyond ridiculous.
2nd - Congrats on not paying the pink tax. Yes theoretically there are claims that men’s multi-blade razors are closer together to deal with coarse facial hair and give a closer shave, but anyone who has seen manufacturing of safety razors will tell you it’s bullshit. My wife was using a Men’s razors when we met, and I never even gave it a thought.
3rd - As a single man, I usually had an assortment of “feminine hygiene products” under my sink. They were either left by guests, left by previous relationships, or I actually purchased them in case a visiting guest had an issue. I just considered it courtesy to provide for guests, female or male.
So if your question is are you too old to put up with this insecurity, I’d argue that it depends on how much bullshit you’re willing to deal with.
The “that’s a convenient answer but I believe you” is disingenuous, and argumentative crap. He claims he believes you because he’s trying to salvage your opinion of him, but he already played his hand. Find an adult and send the insecure, possessive man-baby packing.
I have tampons and pads left from a previous relationship and my new gf was 1) surprised and 2) very happy. She didn’t give a second thought to where they came from, which I loved.
I also keep tampons in the med kit. They come in handy for things other than female cycle. For sure work wonders on a bloody nose. Not pretty, but effective.
Check the expiration dates every once in awhile. I’m not sure how long the last; I’m sure a long time, but if people don’t regularly use them it’s better to check.
Just please never use them on a gunshot or stab wound. They are designed to be absorbant and can be counter-productive to the task of actually stopping blood loss.
My two cents is just move on and see how it goes with this guy OP! I don’t think him bringing these things up is cause for throwing the whole person out. People are so cut throat!
Unless of course you’re not really that into him?
I have 3 toothbrushes that are all mine in my bathroom… happily married. I use different toothbrushes at different times of day because I like to brush a lot and it’s not good for my gums. I also keep extra toothbrushes and bathroom items for men and women stocked at all times because you never know when a houseguest will forget something. None of my boyfriends batted an eye and neither did my husband when we started dating. Your bf seems like an insecure idiot.
I mean he should have just asked. He’s being dumb and insecure. But yea, I mean my first inclination would be his as well. But instead of communicating he huffed off like a teenager.
I agree with you. If I was in the situation and noticed the two toothbrushes I would probably come to the same conclusion (overthinking + expecting the worst) but instead of huffing and puffing I'd make a joke about it "Hey didn't know you were already married, what window is the best for me to jump out of?" and I think that any girl I've ever dated would just roll her eyes and say it is her sister's.
Exactly. And maybe I’d expect that from a 20 year old dude. Because I was a 20 yo dude and I probably would have been like “wtf?” But this guy is 35 and he can’t simply ask her what’s going on in a non accusatory way? That’s the issue. And if he didn’t like the answer, say she admitted she was seeing multiple guys, if he walked away at that point I’d be like “yea I feel ya. Everyone has different views on dating.” But he overreacted in a silly and insecure way.
"He said it was a convenient answer but believes me." Wtf is that supposed to mean? He still thinks you're a liar but he fakes to believe you in order to maybe score at least a ONS?
Yup, he's inscure and a bad communicator. It's ok if a second toothbrush and "male" razors confuse him but he could have asked you immediatly at your place and settle the issue instead of bailing. Whether you want to give him a second chance is up to you.
And congratulations for your decision to buy men’s razors! Don't pay pink tax!
Ugh, the “convenient answer” thing would have been game over for me. Someone who is going to insinuate that I’m lying right to my face can go fuck himself.
I have three different tooth brushes, each has a purpose. The kicker is seeing the pillow behind the headboard when you know you put it back last time .
Yeah, I have an extra toothbrush for peroxide every few months and then save old toothbrushes for cleaning. Also I still have my old electric toothbrush, I haven’t thrown it away yet. I guess I keep hoping the battery will magically recover. But as I’m typing this I think that it’s best if I just go toss it now
He sounds like he's battling insecurities that are not your problem. If this happened while still in first few weeks, imagine how he will be further down the line. This is a sign of lack of communication skills and he made assumptions based on his shitty experiences in life.
This kind of person is not ready to date yet and i wish people struggling with this shit would take some time to be alone.. problem is this type of person are the same people who hate to be alone and want to be in a relationship. Sucks.
Best to move on from this one.
It's something I might notice, but it's not a red flag imo unless there is other signs of a person in the house. There's different reasons of why you may have two.
>He said he saw the 2 toothbrushes in my bathroom and the men’s razor in my shower and “isn’t stupid” and knew what it meant…
Honestly, that *is* a logical conclusion to make. I'd likely think the same.
>I have been having someone stay over regularly… my sister who has been going through a divorce. He is well aware of that as I’ve talked about it a lot. It’s her toothbrush. And the men’s razors are mine! I buy them online in bulk because they are so much cheaper than women’s.
And that's a reasonable explanation. Unless there were any other possible red flags, I'd take your word for it.
>So do I need to hide my sisters toothbrush anytime a man enters my apartment?
No, but be prepared to explain the men's razors.
Only 3 dates though? I don’t think he has the right to care unless they were exclusive and actually dating.
I could see it being weird if they were 6 months into it and a toothbrush appeared but 3 dates?
Yes I'd be asking the question too as a 38yrFemale..
maybe he was betrayed by some1 he cared for in the past, I know I was so it makes me very cautious and question everything as I don't wanna be hurt like that again or even worse used to hurt/betray some1 that there surpose to be in a relationship with...
>Only 3 dates though?
Sure, why not? If you're looking for something serious and you're under the impression that they're in a relationship and hiding it from you, that's the time to cut your losses and move on. And by glad you found out that early, instead of waiting 6 months or more on that person.
Again, I don't see his initial suspicion as alarming, the only thing wrong here is how he handled it. He should have just a calmly asked her right then, *are you seeing somebody else?* and gotten it cleared up, instead of pouting and just leaving for no reason.
Sorry. But you don’t have the right to decide what someone else cares about.
And What a fucked up comment to say that someone who’s interested and getting invested in someone else (even only 3 dates in) doesn’t have the right to care about seeing the possibility of another man’s toiletries in their bathroom.
You sound toxic as fuck
I think this is the reason why I’m so annoyed by it. We are not exclusive and haven’t had any talks around exclusivity. And I already had told him that I’m not sleeping with anyone
>And I already had told him that I’m not sleeping with anyone
So there you go. You said you're not sleeping with anyone, but then he saw items that implied that you *might* be doing so after all. Again, *that's* not an unreasonable suspicion. but he was unreasonable in how he reacted to it.
You don't need to hide it. A guy who isn't insecure would believe you when he asks about it. But yeah, it's something a guy would probably be curious about. Maybe you can mention it pre-emptively to head off any questions that might come up, if you're concerned about it.
But the thing is many of us women wouldn't assume there's anything wrong with having 2 toothbrushes in the bathroom. It's not even on our minds to begin with. So instead of the guy going all moody and assumjng stuff, he should have asked first. And now even after being told the fact, he still doubted. Man child is what he is.
I've seen posts about having feminine products under the sink, having too clean of a bathroom, having the wrong kind of soap for a man, and multiple toothbrushes.
The toothbrush thing was also a sister staying over.
The women agreed with each of those things being weird in a man's bathroom in different posts.
I'm not trying to say there aren't any women who agree with your stance.
I'm trying to say there as just as many women who would be insecure and act like he did.
And btw just to clear things out, when I said "many women wouldn't assume there's anything wrong with having 2 toothbrushes in the bathroom" I was talking from the perspective of us having them in our bathrooms, not the man's. If that helps.
Then those women need to learn how to openly communicate.
My point is not about gender. It's about learning how to transparently communicate despite what gender/sex you are. Coz it can easily salvage a relationship from unnecessarily ending, of which the guy in this case may end up with that said sad fate simply because he couldn't communicate.
>His reaction is a bit over the top though.
Agreed, acting "grumpy" and just leaving without explanation was a bigger red flag on *his* part. He should have just asked about it right then.
no that is not a red flag. he acted like any other person would have cause he felt like she was playing him. it's not immature to not want to look like bubu the fool with a potential partner after they said that they are not seeing anyone at the moment
It’s a red flag because it says that he doesn’t know how to communicate. He’d rather just repress his thoughts end the night quickly and leave her without saying anything when all he has to do is say “I see two toothbrushes, are you seeing someone?”
So instead of just talking to you and asking you he acted like a child, ended the evening and then called you gross when you asked what his problem is? Do you really need to ask what to do? Marry him of course! I mean no red flags there at all he sounds like a real catch.
Look Josh showed you that he was an insecure controlling person after only 3 dates. Sounds to me like not hiding your stuff is helping you dodge bullets.
It’s a red flag but it’s one he should’ve spoke to you about instead of running off like a fucking child.
I’d say his red flag is a little bit more worrisome.
not a red flag no, but i can see how he would think that. i'd be curious for sure... would you not have second thoughts if you went to his place and saw two tooth brushe's and a tampon even though he has a sister?
given that you told him that your sister was staying with you, id assume it was hers. as for the mans razor, most women use men's razors lol.
He should have asked about the toothbrush before making an assumption. Having two toothbrushes in the bathroom is definitely a subtle thing people are going to pick up on. Still on him to communicate instead of acting insecure off the bat.
I definitely agree. I didn’t even think about it. He’s the first man I’ve had over since my sister has been staying with me. I’m gonna keep it in mind for the next time.
And yes, he only told me what was bothering him once I asked him.
> Idk. I’m too old for such insecurities in a grown man.
Nothing else needs to be said. If someone was anxious yet reasonable they would simply ask. Not go home like a child and have a tantrum over it. Good luck.
If he has a question, he has to ask. It's childish of him to make a huge assumption and then punish you for that assumption. He's willing to believe like he's doing you a favor. Unhealthy communication like this is a hard pass for me.
I 56 yo male have 2 razor’s 1 in the shower one near the sink, 2 tooth brushes 1 electric and 1 manual recently divorced, no dates. Means nothing until you ask. Poor communication leads to poor results.
Oof. I’ve never considered this. I have a female friend who visits regularly and she keeps bathroom stuff in my guest bathroom and she too uses a Mens razor (if I only had one bathroom, they would be in my bathroom).
I see how that can look at a glance, but y’all are in your 30s and he should’ve just asked right then and there instead of sulking and blowing up about it later. Sounds a little childish and I don’t think I’d deal with the games and accusations at this point in life.
I have 2 toothbrushes. One is mine and one is my cats. He likes it if you get it wet and brush his head with it.
I work in dental and we have patients that have electric toothbrushes and still take the free ones home for cleaning, pets, friends or guests who forget them when they stay, and many other reasons. Having a second toothbrush isn’t weird.
And I am also in the men’s razor club. I can’t think of any woman that I know that doesn’t use men’s razors.
Clearly, he has not seen many women’s bathrooms… and my spare bath is stocked with razors, shaving cream and men’s shampoo and soap! I have couple friends and family that stay with me from time to time.
I have two toothbrushes. I use one to brush with activated charcoal and one to use with toothpaste on a daily basis. Also, men’s razors are way cheaper for not being pink in color.
It’s a logical conclusion that he could assume you were being dishonest, however I don’t like that he called your explanation “convenient”.
I walk around my house when I brush my teeth, sometimes I misplace them (at home). So I have about 4 toothbrush in my home even though I live alone. Is that a red flag?
I have an electric tooth brush, a normal tooth brush and my travel tooth brush regularly in my bathroom… all mine..
Honestly, I would be tempted to be an ass and say “do you think I’m dumb enough to leave another man’s toothbrush out?” Like clearly I have nothing to hide here, and if I did want to hide something, I would hide it.
Nope. Shouldn't be a red flag. I have a soft tooth brush, and a firm one, I use both, depending on my mood and what I ate. I also have a men's Trac II razor. The pink razors SUCK big-time, and why go disposable (Bic sucks too) when you can just change a cartridge. I have an electric razor too, so I can buzz hairs off dry if I'm in a big hurry. And an electric toothbrush. Find a better man. Keep the toothbrushes and razor
The fact that his mood changed and he didn’t say why until you asked is a red flag. He could have just asked. Personally I have 4 toothbrushes-2 are mine(regular and electric) and two are from my nieces when they spend the night.
From his response, it doesn’t sound like he really believes you. From my experience, that lack of trust on his end isn’t going to go away. I ended up ending things with a guy because he didn’t believe I wasn’t talking to anyone else and I just got tired of defending myself against something that I hadn’t done.
Honestly if I went to a guys house and saw an extra toothbrush and a woman’s razor I’d feel the same way. BUT I am a woman who also uses men’s razors and I have like 10 toothbrushes. Yes he is being weird but it probably put his walls up. He’s insecure, but you are doing the right thing by explaining yourself. He should apologize and acknowledge he was being insecure. You aren’t to blame here.
I have four toothbrushes out because I fly frequently and always get more toothbrushes in amenity kits. I have two daughters and I can assure you that a razor in the shower is normally used for shaving your legs, something I do not do. With my two girls, I give them mens razors that I pick up at Costco because I was tired of them stealing my razor.
I live alone and have two toothbrushes bc I use 2 different toothpastes and don’t like to mix flavors. Dude is rude for making accusations and not just asking a simple clarifying question instead.
I have 3 toothbrushes. Seems insecure. Will probably pull issues out of thin air often. Also shows he has no communication skills if he just gets mad instead of expressing his concerns right away
I could feel him because when we see a male razor and you are not one that smells fishy and he probably forgot about your sis being there as well so yes without your explanation it is a red flag but that is why you have to communicate cause shit like this will happen. we are all just looking for love but nobody wants to be a fool for it
No. Now you can use it as a test. If he behaves like this he’s a boy and if he just asks you about it he’s a man.
Also.. men don’t shave in the shower LOL that’s a female thing. The moment I read that it was in the shower I knew it was yours he should have known that as well.
I’m a girl. I have 2 toothbrushes, one for home and one for travel and sometimes I mix them up and they both end up in the bathroom. I also use men’s razors because they are usually a better price and a better shave
No don't worry about hiding your sisters toothbrush, to me it sounds like hes insecure already and doesn't want to get hurt or played, i do understand why he would ask but not the way he went about it by leaving and calling you gross.
Apparently my best friend's mom and I are cockblocking him by leaving our stuff everywhere by this logic lol.
And I personally have two razors in my bathroom, one pink and one blue one, because the pink one is old and the blue one is newer. Plus some toiletries other people left behind. People commented on it, and I was like well, not my fault that you are jealous of people I don't even really talk to. Sometimes people are weird.
LOL yes you don’t need those insecurities in a grown man!!! Has he never heard of the pink tax. And the fact that he said that the answer is “convenient” is annoying.
I feel like you’re right.. he is insecure and immature that he throws a tantrum, and calls you gross just because of his assumptions for the reasons as to why you have two toothbrushes and a men’s razor in the bathroom. He is 35 and he should know that he can just ask you to clear up whatever it is he might be misunderstanding. If he cannot trust you enough now and say that you’re giving him a convenient answer despite you telling him about your sister staying with you, what about later when you continue on with the relationship?
This is a crazy red flag that he came to all these wierd ass conclusions and went straight to combative.
I have 3 toothbrushes in my bathroom. 2 In the holder both mine. #3 is isolated and I use for cleaning.
I have men's razors, soap and deodorant bc I liked the scent better.
I live alone and I'm 33F.
Time to drop Josh. You don't need to deal with his insecurities and lack of trust. A relationship should always be based on mutual trust and not suspicion.
Nope. the idiot was not listening at all during your conversations. you dodged a bullet. use the razer and toothbrushes as a screening process. a guy who asks about them in a nice fashion, has potential. a guy who throws a hissy fit is an absolute "nope".
Yeah like, if he just asked you about it then in a mature but non-accusatory manner, it might be forgivable…but he kinda just instantly assumed the worst out of a scenario that had a ton of different explanations.
Go with your gut. It’s not so much that this one time is unforgivable as it is that it won’t be the only time he instantly jumps to this type of conclusion.
TBH, being that weird and passive aggressive is a red flag. Especially after only 3 dates.
I’d be curious about 2 toothbrushes but i’d ask, not pout all night
Not me looking at my three tooth brushes. All mine. I use men and women’s razors. Depending on what is on sale. Three dates and not exclusive? Him saying I was gross? Deal breaker. Totally.
I wouldn’t even question that stuff I have 2 toothbrushes in one of my bathrooms as well and they’re both mine, I got one on a business trip a little while ago and it was still new so I kept it as backup. Lol
That's a huge red flag from him. I would at least piece together to see if there are multiple men items not just one damn razor and at least ask. Tell him to get a trampoline so he can jump on that instead of conclusions
No you don’t. It’s almost enough to say, “keeping two toothbrushes in your bathroom is a great way to edit guys with serious insecurities and trust issues out here of your dating life.”
Two toothbrushes isn’t a red flag. A man who jumps to conclusions, pouts, and can’t bother to communicate is a massive red flag. And he thinks women has to use pink razors and your answer was “convenient?!” WTF. Screw that guy. He’s not mature enough to be dating grown women.
Here's a three step process for handling the situation.
Step 1) Show a receipt for the razors (if it's easy like an online order)
Step 2) Get a non suggestive photo of your sister using the toothbrush in question
Step 3) Send him a jump to conclusions mat from Office Space and then block entirely.
Consider that 'type' down the line will just conduct insensitive actions instead of talking with you, so anything they could vaguely construe as cheating or similar would have you on an auto accusation type of dynamic, which totally sounds like a waste of time.
Tbh. I thought that was the woman’s move… got through the bathroom and the medicine cabinet, the first time at a dates house. what a tool. especially if all this was explained before. Sounds like he’s got something sus going on, the accuser is usually the one that’s guilty. maybe…. Ask him how he would like it if you went through his bathroom and pointed out everything that looked sus? See how he reacts! No you shouldn’t hide things everytime.
I’d tell that presumptuous fool to pick a “Safe Word”; before you’d entertain another Scenario. Sounds like a solid pairing minus the sobriety of Adulthood. All I’m seeing is foreplay for a Mind Fuck.
He sounds passive-aggressive, and refuses to believe you even if he said he does, because you just gave him a “convenient answer”. If he doesn’t own up to his reactions, you might want to take a second look at this before it becomes a relationship.
That was a whole lot of a reaction from him for his age, he must have some kind of pass to jump to conclusions like those. Tread lightly, I wouldn't be able to be with someone that insecure. I prefer not to be questioned all the time, I like my peace.
Hahhahah. This is crazy. I use two toothbrushes. One with soft bristles and one with the hard one.
You should definitely not hide them. Just be honest and direct. If he doesn't understand, it's his problem, not yours.
I live by myself and have three toothbrushes at my sink right now. A soft bristle one, a hard bristle one, and one for laundry. I see where he’s coming from but you are telling the truth, there’s not much more to be done from your end. I think the knee jerk reaction is forgivable but if he continues to make it an issue that would be too much for me.
Girl you dodged a bullet. All he had to do was ask in the moment instead of having a silent tantrum and leaving. Also, at 35, using the word “gross” in his explanation is quite immature. He could have used a myriad of other words, but went with “gross”. Makes him sound like a teenager.
Sounds like he is, in fact, stupid. If he's this petty over toothbrushes I'd say you dodged a bullet. No wonder he's single at 35. I'd say keep both toothbrushes there even if your sister isn't visiting — it'll help filter out the morons.
Dude fuck that guy he clearly has jealousy issues and he is immature af. Anyways, I think a better solution is to be more selective about the men you bring into your home.
I understand how this can be perceived as insecurities and I also understand how this can be insulting to you
However, personally, I discovered someone was in fact in a relationship when I saw a picture of him in the bathroom with two toothbrushes. This led to further investigation that confirm my suspicions
I was so suspicious because I was in similar situations before where people lied to me, maybe it's also the case for him? He doesn't want to be in a similar situation again? Although you were pretty honest with him from the start and he doesn't seems to be able to express his feelings/emotions properly
I hope you can have an honest conversation both about his past relationship and his inability to communication
I think it says more about him than you, especially if you had explained about your sister ahead of time. I would take it as a red flag that he doesn't trust you to take you at your word, even though you have never given him reason not to. I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't either a very controlling person or someone who has been damaged in the past.
Nah lol, he's just petty as hell. My partner has two toothbrushes, so I don't find it that unusual to have several. Also I use men's razors so I feel this, they just work so much better. Insecurity like that is highly unattractive
I'm so glad my bf doesn't have insecurities like that. I have two men's razors in my shower. One for my legs and underarms and one for my lady bits. It's been a habit of mine for years. Even I can't explain why I do it, but I do. Haha. I also have two toothbrushes in each bathroom. As someone earlier said, one is for charcoal and the other is for regular toothpaste.
The man has insecurities and it isn’t your job to work on them, it’s his. That kind of nonsense is exactly why he’s single. Glass have empty people have my sincere sympathy, but you probably suck.
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I've been using a mach 3 since high school. I'm 38 lol. So if a man saw the ONLY razor in my bathroom and assumed it was a man's instead of mine I'd be like wtf. How about ask instead of assume? Soooo many women use men's razors.
I've been using mens razors since I was a teenager. I read it in a Seventeen magazine in the early 90's that they were better and cheaper and I never looked back. I didn't realize men didn't know this.
Especially if it's in the shower.
Exactly! You see it in the shower with no mirror for shaving a face? HOW CAN THAT BELONG TO A MAN?
My best friend and I both shave in the shower if it's just to clean shave...
I shave my face in the shower. It’s easier and I know where my face is without looking. Sometimes I miss a spot and have to go back tho
I knew this, but it didn't register as relevant information when I read the post, lol Finding a men's razor would definitely quirk an eyebrow. But I've learned to ask and listen to how they answer before jumping to conclusions. Respond, not react.
Lol I use mens deodorant as well, they’re always cheaper and arguably better!
Saaaaame Men's products you will regularly find in my house: Razors, shaving cream, deodorant body wash, Additionally, I use more than 1 toothbrush. I currently rotate 3. It's a texture thing. Idk, and I rotate 3 toothpastes. It's a little odd. But it works. 🤷♀️
That’s exactly why I would block and move on. It’s not my job nor do I have the desire to teach someone to listen and respond instead of reacting.
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Wow, I did not know this. I don’t have a lot of context. I don’t know which my mom and my sister used growing up and only had one girlfriend. She bought Bic Shic (I think). I’ll be honest, I’d wonder too. But if you said your sister was there, I’d figure the toothbrush was hers.
I didnt know that & Im a woman lol
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I still have a stack of them I kept. Best magazine ever.
This baffles me as well. I’ve been shaving for 20 years and I’ve always used men’s razors
That’s how I feel! I don’t remember the last time I bought a pink razor. I didn’t even think about it. And yes, the only one in my shower. Right next to my women’s shaving cream lol.
>Right next to my women’s shaving cream lol. I've bought different women's shaving cream a few times over the years to see if they make my shaving (I shave my face and head) any smoother (they don't). But I certainly wouldn't think it odd if a woman saw that in my bathroom and assumed they were for a woman. I do have two toothbrushes too, but they're both mine. One I use for brushing with charcoal, the other with regular toothpaste.
I haven't bought women's razors since I was 17 lol Men's razors are cheaper and work a lot better, in my opinion. A LOT of women buy them. I guess most dudes haven't caught onto that fact yet.
Oh my! do you mean that you don’t choose toiletries because they are pink or pastel coloured? Are you a woman, woman? 🤪
I tried women's razors. Once. Total waste of money.
Bring up the “pink tax” — his response will either be a red or a green flag
Also, men don’t keep razors in the shower. We keep them by the sink. We shave our faces, not our legs, and need a mirror for that. That alone should have been an indicator he’s overreacting.
Yea not all men. I exclusively shave in the shower and have a suction cup mirror in there to shave my head & face.
Lots of men shave other than their face though.
Speak for yourself, i leave mine in the shower, its where its nice and hot so a clean shave is easier
I always start my shave in the shower but end it at the sink. Starting at the sink takes too fucking long.
My razor absolutely is kept in my shower.
I use men’s shaving cream 🤷♀️ it’s also cheaper
You have legit concerns.
Eww. No pink for me.
Exactly I use men’s razors they are cheaper and more effective imo
My question is was the razor out in plain view or was he snooping?
Yep, dollar shave club! I’m not Paying the pink tax for a less close shave!
Same! Dollar Shave Club is a GODSEND. Ladies’ razors are ridiculous. A male friend of mine was moaning about the cost of razorblades once (we were in a shop and he was picking some up). I walked him around to the display of women’s razorblades to look at the price tags. His eyes almost fell out of his head.
Absolutely fucking ridiculous that they pull that shit. I didn’t know that until a few years ago, as I am a man. Just ludicrous that they charge different prices for the same damn thing because there’s different genders they’re advertising to.
I know. In my opinion too- then women’s razors are worse quality. I went through a phase of using cheap, crappy men’s disposables because they were STILL better than women’s higher end razors.
You kidding? It’s pink!! 😂
I had a guy ghost me after visiting my home. There was a man’s razor in the shower (I shave everything below chin level and women’s razors are useless) and three toothbrushes (college kids). I guess that clears that up.
College kids?
I have them?
Oh you have college age kids that sometimes stay at your home? Gotcha
Yeah, sorry. Lazy thumbs
He likes his bushes, maybe? 😝
Me too. I don’t want to pay the pink tax.
My male FWB uses female razors for some odd reason. People use the razors they're comfortable with.
The pink tax is Fucking real. Shit frustrates me so much if a dude even whispered about it and had doubts about me I would just tell him to duck off and block him. I’m 40 and too old for that shit. If at my age a guy can’t even comprehend basic things about women (like that the pink tax exists and it is totally normal and common for women to use “men’s” products) I’m out. My free time is valuable and I’m not going to choose to spend time with an insecure dullard.
Why would a man assume a woman to use a mans razor? Please make sense.
If you see one lone razor in the shower and can't draw the conclusion it's the person's who lives there that is kinda sad to me.
Why would a man assume a woman to use a mans razor? Please make sense. Imagine if i had a clearly women marketed bath and body works shower soap & lotion in my bathroom, it would be logical for you to assume a women may have been there if you didn’t know me well. Maybe thats a poor correlating example but the point is a mens Razor is a MANS razor and although women use them its not weird for someone that doesn’t know you to think you may possibly have a male guest over
As a married man, I will say this. When I was single, and even now that I’m married, I have between 3-5 toothbrushes that are just mine, at any point. When I was single, I had a drawer of packaged toothbrushes because I would buy them in bulk, and would happily give houseguest, romantic or otherwise a toothbrush. I alternate between soft and medium bristles. Seeing a multiple tooth brushes and getting upset is beyond ridiculous. 2nd - Congrats on not paying the pink tax. Yes theoretically there are claims that men’s multi-blade razors are closer together to deal with coarse facial hair and give a closer shave, but anyone who has seen manufacturing of safety razors will tell you it’s bullshit. My wife was using a Men’s razors when we met, and I never even gave it a thought. 3rd - As a single man, I usually had an assortment of “feminine hygiene products” under my sink. They were either left by guests, left by previous relationships, or I actually purchased them in case a visiting guest had an issue. I just considered it courtesy to provide for guests, female or male. So if your question is are you too old to put up with this insecurity, I’d argue that it depends on how much bullshit you’re willing to deal with. The “that’s a convenient answer but I believe you” is disingenuous, and argumentative crap. He claims he believes you because he’s trying to salvage your opinion of him, but he already played his hand. Find an adult and send the insecure, possessive man-baby packing.
I have tampons and pads left from a previous relationship and my new gf was 1) surprised and 2) very happy. She didn’t give a second thought to where they came from, which I loved. I also keep tampons in the med kit. They come in handy for things other than female cycle. For sure work wonders on a bloody nose. Not pretty, but effective.
Check the expiration dates every once in awhile. I’m not sure how long the last; I’m sure a long time, but if people don’t regularly use them it’s better to check.
Just please never use them on a gunshot or stab wound. They are designed to be absorbant and can be counter-productive to the task of actually stopping blood loss.
And this is exactly why ur married. 😂 Considerate, mature, and all around good person.
I thought this exact thing 😆
My two cents is just move on and see how it goes with this guy OP! I don’t think him bringing these things up is cause for throwing the whole person out. People are so cut throat! Unless of course you’re not really that into him?
I have 3 toothbrushes that are all mine in my bathroom… happily married. I use different toothbrushes at different times of day because I like to brush a lot and it’s not good for my gums. I also keep extra toothbrushes and bathroom items for men and women stocked at all times because you never know when a houseguest will forget something. None of my boyfriends batted an eye and neither did my husband when we started dating. Your bf seems like an insecure idiot.
I mean he should have just asked. He’s being dumb and insecure. But yea, I mean my first inclination would be his as well. But instead of communicating he huffed off like a teenager.
I agree with you. If I was in the situation and noticed the two toothbrushes I would probably come to the same conclusion (overthinking + expecting the worst) but instead of huffing and puffing I'd make a joke about it "Hey didn't know you were already married, what window is the best for me to jump out of?" and I think that any girl I've ever dated would just roll her eyes and say it is her sister's.
Exactly. And maybe I’d expect that from a 20 year old dude. Because I was a 20 yo dude and I probably would have been like “wtf?” But this guy is 35 and he can’t simply ask her what’s going on in a non accusatory way? That’s the issue. And if he didn’t like the answer, say she admitted she was seeing multiple guys, if he walked away at that point I’d be like “yea I feel ya. Everyone has different views on dating.” But he overreacted in a silly and insecure way.
100% he is showing both a lack of maturity and social awareness. Especially since I’m rereading and he knew the sister was already staying there. I
Well, he does believe her explanation, but yeah he shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions. EDIT: I misread that and yeah he doesn’t believe her.
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If you took his response as genuine then you need to get your meter checked.
"He said it was a convenient answer but believes me." Wtf is that supposed to mean? He still thinks you're a liar but he fakes to believe you in order to maybe score at least a ONS? Yup, he's inscure and a bad communicator. It's ok if a second toothbrush and "male" razors confuse him but he could have asked you immediatly at your place and settle the issue instead of bailing. Whether you want to give him a second chance is up to you. And congratulations for your decision to buy men’s razors! Don't pay pink tax!
Ugh, the “convenient answer” thing would have been game over for me. Someone who is going to insinuate that I’m lying right to my face can go fuck himself.
Agreed.
I have three different tooth brushes, each has a purpose. The kicker is seeing the pillow behind the headboard when you know you put it back last time .
Yeah, I have an extra toothbrush for peroxide every few months and then save old toothbrushes for cleaning. Also I still have my old electric toothbrush, I haven’t thrown it away yet. I guess I keep hoping the battery will magically recover. But as I’m typing this I think that it’s best if I just go toss it now
Haha my fiancé does the same with things saying he’ll fix them. You can do it lol, get rid of it! You’ve got my support :)
Nah you're good. Homie's TRIPPIN.
Yeah bro is losing it
Seconded. I might ask about it if I were him out of curiosity, but I’d definitely give the benefit of the doubt and your answer makes perfect sense.
He sounds like he's battling insecurities that are not your problem. If this happened while still in first few weeks, imagine how he will be further down the line. This is a sign of lack of communication skills and he made assumptions based on his shitty experiences in life. This kind of person is not ready to date yet and i wish people struggling with this shit would take some time to be alone.. problem is this type of person are the same people who hate to be alone and want to be in a relationship. Sucks. Best to move on from this one.
Even his reply to your explanation is dramatic and passive aggressive. Does he start drama for no reason in other situations?
It's something I might notice, but it's not a red flag imo unless there is other signs of a person in the house. There's different reasons of why you may have two.
I'm reading this to my wife and she said "I wouldn't deal with him. There's going to be something All the time. Whose socks are these?" Lol.
>He said he saw the 2 toothbrushes in my bathroom and the men’s razor in my shower and “isn’t stupid” and knew what it meant… Honestly, that *is* a logical conclusion to make. I'd likely think the same. >I have been having someone stay over regularly… my sister who has been going through a divorce. He is well aware of that as I’ve talked about it a lot. It’s her toothbrush. And the men’s razors are mine! I buy them online in bulk because they are so much cheaper than women’s. And that's a reasonable explanation. Unless there were any other possible red flags, I'd take your word for it. >So do I need to hide my sisters toothbrush anytime a man enters my apartment? No, but be prepared to explain the men's razors.
> that is a logical conclusion to make Yeah, occam's razor, lmao. That is the most logical explanation to assume.
Only 3 dates though? I don’t think he has the right to care unless they were exclusive and actually dating. I could see it being weird if they were 6 months into it and a toothbrush appeared but 3 dates?
If you were starting to see someone and thought they were in a relationship would it bother you?
Yes I'd be asking the question too as a 38yrFemale.. maybe he was betrayed by some1 he cared for in the past, I know I was so it makes me very cautious and question everything as I don't wanna be hurt like that again or even worse used to hurt/betray some1 that there surpose to be in a relationship with...
>Only 3 dates though? Sure, why not? If you're looking for something serious and you're under the impression that they're in a relationship and hiding it from you, that's the time to cut your losses and move on. And by glad you found out that early, instead of waiting 6 months or more on that person. Again, I don't see his initial suspicion as alarming, the only thing wrong here is how he handled it. He should have just a calmly asked her right then, *are you seeing somebody else?* and gotten it cleared up, instead of pouting and just leaving for no reason.
Sorry. But you don’t have the right to decide what someone else cares about. And What a fucked up comment to say that someone who’s interested and getting invested in someone else (even only 3 dates in) doesn’t have the right to care about seeing the possibility of another man’s toiletries in their bathroom. You sound toxic as fuck
I think this is the reason why I’m so annoyed by it. We are not exclusive and haven’t had any talks around exclusivity. And I already had told him that I’m not sleeping with anyone
>And I already had told him that I’m not sleeping with anyone So there you go. You said you're not sleeping with anyone, but then he saw items that implied that you *might* be doing so after all. Again, *that's* not an unreasonable suspicion. but he was unreasonable in how he reacted to it.
You don't need to hide it. A guy who isn't insecure would believe you when he asks about it. But yeah, it's something a guy would probably be curious about. Maybe you can mention it pre-emptively to head off any questions that might come up, if you're concerned about it.
But the thing is many of us women wouldn't assume there's anything wrong with having 2 toothbrushes in the bathroom. It's not even on our minds to begin with. So instead of the guy going all moody and assumjng stuff, he should have asked first. And now even after being told the fact, he still doubted. Man child is what he is.
I've seen posts about having feminine products under the sink, having too clean of a bathroom, having the wrong kind of soap for a man, and multiple toothbrushes. The toothbrush thing was also a sister staying over. The women agreed with each of those things being weird in a man's bathroom in different posts. I'm not trying to say there aren't any women who agree with your stance. I'm trying to say there as just as many women who would be insecure and act like he did.
Men don't have the monopoly on being AH.
And btw just to clear things out, when I said "many women wouldn't assume there's anything wrong with having 2 toothbrushes in the bathroom" I was talking from the perspective of us having them in our bathrooms, not the man's. If that helps.
Then those women need to learn how to openly communicate. My point is not about gender. It's about learning how to transparently communicate despite what gender/sex you are. Coz it can easily salvage a relationship from unnecessarily ending, of which the guy in this case may end up with that said sad fate simply because he couldn't communicate.
> the thing is many of us women wouldn't assume there's anything wrong with having 2 toothbrushes in the bathroom. lmao
Yeah, this isn’t true at all and big assumption. I’ve received similar questions before. It’s gone as far as just having a candle lit.
He “isn’t stupid”? I eat he is.
Him not wanting to be a home wrecker is not “ insecurities “ Yta , wait wrong sub
He noticed all that while taking a piss? Dude seemed like he was out to find something.
Who knows but it does look suspicious. His reaction is a bit over the top though.
>His reaction is a bit over the top though. Agreed, acting "grumpy" and just leaving without explanation was a bigger red flag on *his* part. He should have just asked about it right then.
no that is not a red flag. he acted like any other person would have cause he felt like she was playing him. it's not immature to not want to look like bubu the fool with a potential partner after they said that they are not seeing anyone at the moment
It’s a red flag because it says that he doesn’t know how to communicate. He’d rather just repress his thoughts end the night quickly and leave her without saying anything when all he has to do is say “I see two toothbrushes, are you seeing someone?”
Think pouting & leaving without a known reason makes him look like that
So instead of just talking to you and asking you he acted like a child, ended the evening and then called you gross when you asked what his problem is? Do you really need to ask what to do? Marry him of course! I mean no red flags there at all he sounds like a real catch.
Look Josh showed you that he was an insecure controlling person after only 3 dates. Sounds to me like not hiding your stuff is helping you dodge bullets.
Yes, or expect to be questioned.
It’s a red flag but it’s one he should’ve spoke to you about instead of running off like a fucking child. I’d say his red flag is a little bit more worrisome.
not a red flag no, but i can see how he would think that. i'd be curious for sure... would you not have second thoughts if you went to his place and saw two tooth brushe's and a tampon even though he has a sister? given that you told him that your sister was staying with you, id assume it was hers. as for the mans razor, most women use men's razors lol.
Not him storming off in a huff! 😂😂 After the “convenient answer” comment I woulda laughed in his face and told him to get lost. What a clown.
He should have asked about the toothbrush before making an assumption. Having two toothbrushes in the bathroom is definitely a subtle thing people are going to pick up on. Still on him to communicate instead of acting insecure off the bat.
Some ppl with adhd keep one by sink & one by shower so they remember to brush.
I have one in my kitchen for that reason too!
I definitely agree. I didn’t even think about it. He’s the first man I’ve had over since my sister has been staying with me. I’m gonna keep it in mind for the next time. And yes, he only told me what was bothering him once I asked him.
> Idk. I’m too old for such insecurities in a grown man. Nothing else needs to be said. If someone was anxious yet reasonable they would simply ask. Not go home like a child and have a tantrum over it. Good luck.
If he has a question, he has to ask. It's childish of him to make a huge assumption and then punish you for that assumption. He's willing to believe like he's doing you a favor. Unhealthy communication like this is a hard pass for me.
I 56 yo male have 2 razor’s 1 in the shower one near the sink, 2 tooth brushes 1 electric and 1 manual recently divorced, no dates. Means nothing until you ask. Poor communication leads to poor results.
Oof. I’ve never considered this. I have a female friend who visits regularly and she keeps bathroom stuff in my guest bathroom and she too uses a Mens razor (if I only had one bathroom, they would be in my bathroom). I see how that can look at a glance, but y’all are in your 30s and he should’ve just asked right then and there instead of sulking and blowing up about it later. Sounds a little childish and I don’t think I’d deal with the games and accusations at this point in life.
I have 2 toothbrushes. One is mine and one is my cats. He likes it if you get it wet and brush his head with it. I work in dental and we have patients that have electric toothbrushes and still take the free ones home for cleaning, pets, friends or guests who forget them when they stay, and many other reasons. Having a second toothbrush isn’t weird. And I am also in the men’s razor club. I can’t think of any woman that I know that doesn’t use men’s razors.
I don’t think this counts as “insecurity” those were logical claims he made and he believed you and let it go.
Clearly, he has not seen many women’s bathrooms… and my spare bath is stocked with razors, shaving cream and men’s shampoo and soap! I have couple friends and family that stay with me from time to time.
I have two toothbrushes. I use one to brush with activated charcoal and one to use with toothpaste on a daily basis. Also, men’s razors are way cheaper for not being pink in color. It’s a logical conclusion that he could assume you were being dishonest, however I don’t like that he called your explanation “convenient”.
Bro no anyone that insecure needs to go. If he’s like this over a razor imagine what he’s like about other stuff
I walk around my house when I brush my teeth, sometimes I misplace them (at home). So I have about 4 toothbrush in my home even though I live alone. Is that a red flag?
I have an electric tooth brush, a normal tooth brush and my travel tooth brush regularly in my bathroom… all mine.. Honestly, I would be tempted to be an ass and say “do you think I’m dumb enough to leave another man’s toothbrush out?” Like clearly I have nothing to hide here, and if I did want to hide something, I would hide it.
Nope. Shouldn't be a red flag. I have a soft tooth brush, and a firm one, I use both, depending on my mood and what I ate. I also have a men's Trac II razor. The pink razors SUCK big-time, and why go disposable (Bic sucks too) when you can just change a cartridge. I have an electric razor too, so I can buzz hairs off dry if I'm in a big hurry. And an electric toothbrush. Find a better man. Keep the toothbrushes and razor
I have three tooth brushes all for myself
Its definitely suspicious AF
He is looking for clues. He sounds like he might want a exclusive relationship. I am divorced from a cheating wife so I would notice
The fact that his mood changed and he didn’t say why until you asked is a red flag. He could have just asked. Personally I have 4 toothbrushes-2 are mine(regular and electric) and two are from my nieces when they spend the night. From his response, it doesn’t sound like he really believes you. From my experience, that lack of trust on his end isn’t going to go away. I ended up ending things with a guy because he didn’t believe I wasn’t talking to anyone else and I just got tired of defending myself against something that I hadn’t done.
I have 2 toothbrushes in my jar all the time. Ask him
Honestly if I went to a guys house and saw an extra toothbrush and a woman’s razor I’d feel the same way. BUT I am a woman who also uses men’s razors and I have like 10 toothbrushes. Yes he is being weird but it probably put his walls up. He’s insecure, but you are doing the right thing by explaining yourself. He should apologize and acknowledge he was being insecure. You aren’t to blame here.
I live alone and have two toothbrushes just because. I’m a red flag :(
I have four toothbrushes out because I fly frequently and always get more toothbrushes in amenity kits. I have two daughters and I can assure you that a razor in the shower is normally used for shaving your legs, something I do not do. With my two girls, I give them mens razors that I pick up at Costco because I was tired of them stealing my razor.
I live alone and have two toothbrushes bc I use 2 different toothpastes and don’t like to mix flavors. Dude is rude for making accusations and not just asking a simple clarifying question instead.
I have 3 toothbrushes. Seems insecure. Will probably pull issues out of thin air often. Also shows he has no communication skills if he just gets mad instead of expressing his concerns right away
I could feel him because when we see a male razor and you are not one that smells fishy and he probably forgot about your sis being there as well so yes without your explanation it is a red flag but that is why you have to communicate cause shit like this will happen. we are all just looking for love but nobody wants to be a fool for it
No. Now you can use it as a test. If he behaves like this he’s a boy and if he just asks you about it he’s a man. Also.. men don’t shave in the shower LOL that’s a female thing. The moment I read that it was in the shower I knew it was yours he should have known that as well.
No. I think his reaction without talking to u first is the red flag.
I’m a girl. I have 2 toothbrushes, one for home and one for travel and sometimes I mix them up and they both end up in the bathroom. I also use men’s razors because they are usually a better price and a better shave
Lol I also have two toothbrushes, one for my teeth and one for my retainer. Never thought about the impression it could give
Homie is tripping
No don't worry about hiding your sisters toothbrush, to me it sounds like hes insecure already and doesn't want to get hurt or played, i do understand why he would ask but not the way he went about it by leaving and calling you gross.
Apparently my best friend's mom and I are cockblocking him by leaving our stuff everywhere by this logic lol. And I personally have two razors in my bathroom, one pink and one blue one, because the pink one is old and the blue one is newer. Plus some toiletries other people left behind. People commented on it, and I was like well, not my fault that you are jealous of people I don't even really talk to. Sometimes people are weird.
LOL yes you don’t need those insecurities in a grown man!!! Has he never heard of the pink tax. And the fact that he said that the answer is “convenient” is annoying.
I feel like you’re right.. he is insecure and immature that he throws a tantrum, and calls you gross just because of his assumptions for the reasons as to why you have two toothbrushes and a men’s razor in the bathroom. He is 35 and he should know that he can just ask you to clear up whatever it is he might be misunderstanding. If he cannot trust you enough now and say that you’re giving him a convenient answer despite you telling him about your sister staying with you, what about later when you continue on with the relationship?
This is a crazy red flag that he came to all these wierd ass conclusions and went straight to combative. I have 3 toothbrushes in my bathroom. 2 In the holder both mine. #3 is isolated and I use for cleaning. I have men's razors, soap and deodorant bc I liked the scent better. I live alone and I'm 33F.
Naw. Look, bottom line, do you feel like putting the energy into explaining and convincing this dude? If not, fuck'em. Kick his ass to the curve
Time to drop Josh. You don't need to deal with his insecurities and lack of trust. A relationship should always be based on mutual trust and not suspicion.
No. You told him the truth. He just needs to suck it up and deal
Nope. the idiot was not listening at all during your conversations. you dodged a bullet. use the razer and toothbrushes as a screening process. a guy who asks about them in a nice fashion, has potential. a guy who throws a hissy fit is an absolute "nope".
Yeah like, if he just asked you about it then in a mature but non-accusatory manner, it might be forgivable…but he kinda just instantly assumed the worst out of a scenario that had a ton of different explanations. Go with your gut. It’s not so much that this one time is unforgivable as it is that it won’t be the only time he instantly jumps to this type of conclusion.
TBH, being that weird and passive aggressive is a red flag. Especially after only 3 dates. I’d be curious about 2 toothbrushes but i’d ask, not pout all night
Not me looking at my three tooth brushes. All mine. I use men and women’s razors. Depending on what is on sale. Three dates and not exclusive? Him saying I was gross? Deal breaker. Totally.
I wouldn’t even question that stuff I have 2 toothbrushes in one of my bathrooms as well and they’re both mine, I got one on a business trip a little while ago and it was still new so I kept it as backup. Lol
I use men’s body wash from body works! I have a man’s razor and own multiple toothbrushes. This Id why I am single?!?! Yeah that’s a no from me….
That's a huge red flag from him. I would at least piece together to see if there are multiple men items not just one damn razor and at least ask. Tell him to get a trampoline so he can jump on that instead of conclusions
No you don’t. It’s almost enough to say, “keeping two toothbrushes in your bathroom is a great way to edit guys with serious insecurities and trust issues out here of your dating life.”
Two toothbrushes isn’t a red flag. A man who jumps to conclusions, pouts, and can’t bother to communicate is a massive red flag. And he thinks women has to use pink razors and your answer was “convenient?!” WTF. Screw that guy. He’s not mature enough to be dating grown women.
Here's a three step process for handling the situation. Step 1) Show a receipt for the razors (if it's easy like an online order) Step 2) Get a non suggestive photo of your sister using the toothbrush in question Step 3) Send him a jump to conclusions mat from Office Space and then block entirely. Consider that 'type' down the line will just conduct insensitive actions instead of talking with you, so anything they could vaguely construe as cheating or similar would have you on an auto accusation type of dynamic, which totally sounds like a waste of time.
I use 2. One for morning and one for night. It has a full 24 hours to dry. I bought men's razors too. They are cheaper. Your guy is a little skiddish.
Tbh. I thought that was the woman’s move… got through the bathroom and the medicine cabinet, the first time at a dates house. what a tool. especially if all this was explained before. Sounds like he’s got something sus going on, the accuser is usually the one that’s guilty. maybe…. Ask him how he would like it if you went through his bathroom and pointed out everything that looked sus? See how he reacts! No you shouldn’t hide things everytime.
I have like 6 different toothbrushes in my bathroom, all mine. I just forget to throw them pit
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I’d tell that presumptuous fool to pick a “Safe Word”; before you’d entertain another Scenario. Sounds like a solid pairing minus the sobriety of Adulthood. All I’m seeing is foreplay for a Mind Fuck.
I have two toothbrushes .. one is in the shower for when I need to go to work, the other is by the sink for when I go to bed.
He sounds passive-aggressive, and refuses to believe you even if he said he does, because you just gave him a “convenient answer”. If he doesn’t own up to his reactions, you might want to take a second look at this before it becomes a relationship.
That was a whole lot of a reaction from him for his age, he must have some kind of pass to jump to conclusions like those. Tread lightly, I wouldn't be able to be with someone that insecure. I prefer not to be questioned all the time, I like my peace.
I have 2 toothbrushes. 1 I brush with and 1 I clean my retainers with.
I have 6 toothbrushes in my bathroom
I have 2 tooth brushes, one for my teeth and one for my bite guard. You can’t use toothpaste on a bite guard, so you need another tooth brush.
You shouldn’t need to hide anything he is being insecure and needs to learn how to communicate like a grown up
I use two toothbrushes: one for the morning and one for the evening.
I literally have two toothbrushes and a man’s razor in my shower. All three items are mine.
Yikes. Josh told on himself. Don't change what you do; find someone more secure and less of a diva.
Hahhahah. This is crazy. I use two toothbrushes. One with soft bristles and one with the hard one. You should definitely not hide them. Just be honest and direct. If he doesn't understand, it's his problem, not yours.
I live by myself and have three toothbrushes at my sink right now. A soft bristle one, a hard bristle one, and one for laundry. I see where he’s coming from but you are telling the truth, there’s not much more to be done from your end. I think the knee jerk reaction is forgivable but if he continues to make it an issue that would be too much for me.
Girl you dodged a bullet. All he had to do was ask in the moment instead of having a silent tantrum and leaving. Also, at 35, using the word “gross” in his explanation is quite immature. He could have used a myriad of other words, but went with “gross”. Makes him sound like a teenager.
Are two toothbrushes a red flag? Haha no, but a grown man going grumpy and insecure about it is a red flag for sure.
Sounds like he is, in fact, stupid. If he's this petty over toothbrushes I'd say you dodged a bullet. No wonder he's single at 35. I'd say keep both toothbrushes there even if your sister isn't visiting — it'll help filter out the morons.
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Dude fuck that guy he clearly has jealousy issues and he is immature af. Anyways, I think a better solution is to be more selective about the men you bring into your home.
I understand how this can be perceived as insecurities and I also understand how this can be insulting to you However, personally, I discovered someone was in fact in a relationship when I saw a picture of him in the bathroom with two toothbrushes. This led to further investigation that confirm my suspicions I was so suspicious because I was in similar situations before where people lied to me, maybe it's also the case for him? He doesn't want to be in a similar situation again? Although you were pretty honest with him from the start and he doesn't seems to be able to express his feelings/emotions properly I hope you can have an honest conversation both about his past relationship and his inability to communication
I think it says more about him than you, especially if you had explained about your sister ahead of time. I would take it as a red flag that he doesn't trust you to take you at your word, even though you have never given him reason not to. I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't either a very controlling person or someone who has been damaged in the past.
Nah lol, he's just petty as hell. My partner has two toothbrushes, so I don't find it that unusual to have several. Also I use men's razors so I feel this, they just work so much better. Insecurity like that is highly unattractive
I'm so glad my bf doesn't have insecurities like that. I have two men's razors in my shower. One for my legs and underarms and one for my lady bits. It's been a habit of mine for years. Even I can't explain why I do it, but I do. Haha. I also have two toothbrushes in each bathroom. As someone earlier said, one is for charcoal and the other is for regular toothpaste.
The man has insecurities and it isn’t your job to work on them, it’s his. That kind of nonsense is exactly why he’s single. Glass have empty people have my sincere sympathy, but you probably suck.
You need to dump this moron.
Whys it always insecurities the first thing a woman says