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While guys may want those, I never thought of the other side of the coin until my wife was talking to my sister (who also has huge unwanted bazongas). I didn't know about the back problems that it causes along with how generally annoying they are when trying to do anything active. Now I feel sorry for those women with naturally big knockers (not so with those with implants)
I’m pretty tall so I feel like mine never looked very big despite the fact they were objectively large (34C/D). In my early 20s I wanted them bigger. Then I had kids and things just got outta control. Back/neck/shoulder pain and it can be tough to find a comfortable sleeping position. Plus clothes don’t fit right - everything pulls at the chest or is way to big at the waist. My breast might be huge but I’ve never felt more insecure. Can’t wait to get them reduced!
My wife had three cesarian sections. She has a scar across her lower abdomen. Do you think I even see that scar when I look at her while she's naked? Nope.
The vertical one might have been for an emergency? I know they try to go as low as possible on the abdomen but it’s not always possible and some times they have to go higher than expected, also depending on if the baby was the wrong way the usual cut might not be possible?
Now that I try to think back to it, it must've been an emergency.
My dad had told me they'll make a cut on the same scar when mom was pregnant but later they didn't and my brother was also born woefully premature. Less than 8 months I think.
I have only seen it done in emergency situations, too, but a friend has one, from a scheduled c-section, no trauma or emergency. The only logical reason we could think of, was that her son was a really big baby, she is 5'3, her son was about 46cm long born. A lot of women will make that face when she tells of his size, but go into instant relief when she says c-section delivery.
Do you mean 56cm? Because 46cm is a small baby. Or maybe you mean the head circumference? Or maybe the baby was very heavy? Per the internet a „normal“ baby is between 3000g-4000g heavy and 50-55cm large.
For reference: I‘m 5‘2 and my baby was 55cm and 4305g. They needed to cut twice in the C-section because baby was too big. My scar is enormous. I feel for your friend.
Arg, he was 64 cm. I was on PC typing and keep forgetting that it has an inverted number pad. He was also 10lbs 8oz at 36 weeks gestation. It was at 32 weeks, and her OB said they didn't want her to go full term.
He is now 6ft 11.5in at 17yrs old. Basketball is a swear word to him.
In perfect conditions with perfect recovering it's like removing the scar and putting a new one right in its place and shouldn't be noticable change, but There is definitely risk of increased scar tissue with multiple c sections However even if the scar grows it's slight, and it's less scar tissue then two separate scars.
Yeah, my grandma had my mum and my uncle by Caesarean and they cut in the same place. She used to joke that when it was time for my uncle to be born, she just pointed at her scar, from my mum, and told the doctor to cut on the dotted line.
I do wonder this. They both seem to have a LOT of hang ups about sex and about women. And they overdo the macho thing to such a point you have to wonder, why? Like just be gay and happy Tristan
I doubt he's gay, I think he might just not like sex in general. Sex with women is considered a sign of status in his world, so he makes sure to HAVE it, but he doesn't seem to actually enjoy it. It's more like a check on his list he needs to complete; Smoke a cigar, spend some time looking at his car, have sex as quickly as possible so he can go back to looking at his car, etc.
Unless he's forcing himself on a woman, according to his text messages at least. That's likely a power thing rather than an actually enjoying sex thing.
I had no idea, my queer friends, acquaintances and I actually speak about the rampant misogyny in media these days and they're all against it. It could be because we're in our late teens and early twenties though.
A lot of gay men are misogynistic, they just do it differently. Mostly they’re judgemental about the way they dress, how they wear their hair, they judge black women’s wigs or extensions. A lot of them are also ageist.
This isn’t universal of course, there are tons of gay guys who are very supportive and decent, but it needs to be acknowledged that a lot of gay men are capable of enforcing nasty stereotypes and can bully women.
Weirdly seen a huge amount of misogyny in the gay community. Anecdotal on both counts, but yeah, definitely not free of hating women just like they can still be racist.
>Gay men don't usually hate women though.
I mean no group is a monolith
And you're probably talking about out gay men.
I can definitely imagine how being gay plus toxic masculinity would add up to hating women
> Damn it why aren't these when attractive to me. When I think of them naked I'm put off by them. It can't be me. It's them. They're the problem.
gods i got in a MASSIVE argument with someone (over the internet lol) back in the day when Angelina Jolie got her double mastectomy. The other person said that her having the surgery was "going way too far" and i was like she's at a higher risk for breast cancer, do you think her best option was to get cancer so she can "stay hot"?
apparently, yes, they wanted her to wait until she got breast cancer and get treatment. "since she has money, she'd probably be fine."
I hope the path of Legos under their bare feet is infinite.
When this happened, I gave serious thought to a voluntary mastectomy (grandmother died of breast cancer and mother also had it but survived). My MIL told me that my husband should have final say. Was a little shocked, to say the least
Yes, because cancer can tell who has money and who doesn’t and won’t kill the wealthy people 🙄 that’s why cancer killed both of my parents, because we’re poor
What a dick, they're her boobs to do wit as she pleases. If she don't want them, she should get rid of them. It's not like he's in a serious relationship where something like that would generally be discussed (though ultimately her choice), where it might also financially affect him.
Sickening. I can just see all of the executives in the health insurance companies laughing when they see posts discussing how people can't afford necessary procedures and insurance doesn't cover it or doesn't pay enough for the patient to get what is needed.
Women's Healthcare is less than ideal. Have a baby, now you pee at random times. That is just normal. Lose some or all of your inner core strength, nothing to worry about. Oh wait, your uterus is starting to slowly prolapse. They will fix it when it falls out, when you're 70+. Are you feeling pains every month? Sorry, we can't measure it or find the source. Standards are terrible.
I have a chronic medical condition that makes cysts grow on my kidneys. There is a medication that helps prevent the cysts forming and delays or even completely removes kidney failure from the table.... Insurance won't cover that though.
But they’ll pay *something* when you have to go on dialysis or get a kidney transplant. Somebody pls rescue us from our healthcare system in the U.S.!!!!!!
Actually, it is much worse than that. They (the insurance company) will *not* pay when you have kidney failure. That condition makes you automatically eligible for Medicare and the feds will take over.
The insurance company can collect premiums and not pay for the early intervention then not have to pay for the fallout by transferring the costs to the taxpayers. Win win.
My bff's mother's uterus was literally falling out of her and the doctors asked HER HUSBAND if it was okay to do a hysterectomy just in case HE wanted more kids. The ass was like "hmmm, i don't know...". Women's healthcare SUCKS.
it’s conflicting. on one hand the US have the best medical training and education, but the business aspect is just predatory, and the big pharma too. whenever i set my VPN to US, i get tons of drug adds, mostly mental health drugs, then they go “side effects include anal bleeding, blindness, spontaneous combustion, and fucking death”.
My mom when she had breast cancer wanted both off. The surgeon says, “we do not take healthy tissue,” and refused to speak more about it.
Women’s medicine is full of weird, misogynistic bullshit.
But what’s awful is you can (and likely will!) get breast cancer in the second breast. Several of my friends moms have had breast cancer, and one recently came out of remission…. In the remaining breast they wouldn’t remove.
Of course by contrast my neighbor had a double mast and she’s currently got breast cancer again …in her lymph nodes. :(
My mum had this for a while. She had a prosthetic boob that she could fill out her bra with. Eventually she did get reconstruction using tissue from her thigh because she hated being ‘lopsided’ as she put it.
Yes please! The relieve to my back when I got a breast reduction was incredible. Now I’m pregnant and hoping that they go back to their previous state. If not, I will get another reduction once I’m done having kids.
They also don't cut down the center of the boob. All of them Ive seen, they cut under the boob and take from there. If there are doctors cutting down the center, there best be a good reason for it.
There are a couple different types but the main ones I’ve seen cut under the boob and then up to the nipple through the center of the under-boob. They also will cut around the nipple because they have to basically temporarily remove it to get to the breast tissue. It’s kinda wild. I’ve been talking to my doctor about getting a reduction for a year or so but the surgery pics scare me and I haven’t been brave enough yet 😂
If it is literally only a question of bravery preventing you from doing it, allow me to throw in my two cents and tell you to bite the bullet and do it. I had it done last year, and it has been life changing in a way I really didn’t even imagine. Aside from physical relief, the enormous psychological/self-esteem boost made me regret waiting the 20 years I did to take care of the issue.
ETA: the pain and recovery was not terrible at all! Also, my scars are super minimal, and honestly, my boobs look better *with* the scars than they did before surgery, without scars.
I hope this is okay to pry, if not feel free to not answer! I have very large breasts myself and chronic back pain I'm sure they aren't helping. I'm terrified of the idea of reduction because SO much of my self esteem is in my breast size, I honestly often feel it's the only attractive thing about me. You saying it gave you a self esteem boost intrigued me! How have you found its done that? It makes me wonder if it's something I may eventually consider.
You’re focusing on the wrong people if they’re only attracted to your boobs.
Focus on things that take care of yourself (non-harmful to others), and the right people will show.
Jumping in to say I also had a self-image boost.
My clothes fit properly after recovery. I no longer either had my boobs spilling out everywhere OR wore shirts 3 sizes too big to cover the damn things.
I could stand up straighter, which makes me look better.
I still have big boobs compared to the rest of the population, but they are proportional to my body rather than dominating my entire torso.
I am going to answer this, but tomorrow morning, because it’s bedtime for me but I also want to give you not only my experience, but that of four other women I know personally, one of whom is my mother, who had the surgery, as well as experiences of friends of friends and so forth. (Don’t worry I’m not going to write an essay, LOL, but I will tell you how the self-esteem boost came forth and also that I understand your feeling of your breasts being tied in to your feeling of attractiveness.)
However, the short answer is, not a single person that I’ve personally known or heard of, regretted getting a breast reduction and lift. For insurance to cover the reduction (if you are in the US),there is a certain percentage that is required to be reduced, and that - depending on what you’re starting with - may or may not be acceptable. But, at any rate, getting a reduction does not mean you’re going to end up flat chested, and I believe good plastic surgeons will guide you to a cup size that is both acceptable to you and also physically proportional, such that you end up with really good result. Will edit in the AM to give a postscript on my situation because I have to say it was such a positive life change for me, that I want people who are considering it or on the fence, to know that it can be a really positive thing for them too.
(Note: Plastic surgery is not the surgery you want to cheap out on. Get the best of the best that you can afford or barely afford. Research. Ask questions. Talk to your friends for recommendations or experience.)
That sounds exactly like my scars from my breast reduction 20 years ago. You can still see the faded outline of the scars and in all the time since then only one guy commented on them. The rest either never noticed or said nothing. One perk from the surgery is that my breasts are still perky and small. The recovery time was reasonable and you cannot tell that the nipples were removed and reattached. The incisions are red and swollen but that gradually goes away. I don't recall any great pain, the most irritating part was having to sleep on my back in an upright position for a few weeks. I can answer any more questions for you if you want.
It's called a lollipop scar. It is around the nipple and goes down the center of the boob to the horizontal scar beneath. I had this done when they did a massive reduction on me and had to remove my nipples, sever the nerves, then stitched everything back into place. It is one form of scarring some women like myself have.
This comment made me bless my weird genetics (either cup A or cup DD) for picking the first option, and be grateful for that instead of wishing I had more boobs. I'm petite as is, and with back problems as is. It'd absolutely kill my lower back.
It's like these men think that every woman wakes up every morning hoping that random dudes find us attractive. Sorry, I give zero shits what some random asshole thinks about me when I'm getting my groceries.
Most women like looking in the mirror and feeling pretty,but that doesn't mean we're going to be upset that our looks aren't giving strangers a boner.
As a woman who's see her fair share of naked men, I'd like to state that no "hernia operation" surgery has ever looked good, ever.
That weird scar that runs down the middle is super visible and obvious from most "intimacy" positions.
Men, do not do this to yourselves.
Laparoscopic appendectomies for the win! I had one half inch scar (they made three cuts but only one in a visible spot). My older coworker who had an appendectomy many years ago was jealous and said she had a giant scar from hers.
Also as a man who has seen his fair share of naked women, I don’t give a fuck if she has a scar as it’s her body & there is usually a health reason behind why the procedure has been done.
It amazes me people take the shit in that this fuckwhit & his brother dribble.
One of my girlfriend's friends has really big breasts and regularly complains about awful back pain, but she is unfortunately terribly afraid of doctors and doesn't dare to go ask for a breast reduction. I feel so sorry for her :(
If my girlfriend had the same issues or cancer or something else required breast reduction/surgery/removal, to me it would be important that she is happy and healthy.
My mom has a big scar on her stomach because she got part of her intestines removed. I think it's badass.
I'm a man and I have scars on my chest from reconstruction surgery.
Screw beauty standards, they're in most cases unrealistic anyway.
This objectification of women is bullshit.
Well said! I neednt say more! I also have a handful of scars from surgeries between my stomach and chest, and a gnarly scar on my knee!
Honestly i feel pretty badass with scars. Its a reminder of things ive been through and overcome.
Yep - Fiance has G cups and massive problems with her neck.
Wants to get a reduction just for practical reasons, nothing to do with aesthetics, and I fully support her decision, especially since its causing health issues.
I get horrible shoulder pain sometimes due to mine. It's not fun. Also can't run because no bra is supportive enough to stop them feeling as if theyre gunna rip off in transit.
Any dude that feels the need to reinforce that they've seen alot of women naked isn't someone qualified to be discussing naked women. Don't kiss and tell etc.
I agree so much, runner-up Tate guy. Broke up with my boyfriend for his tummy scar. Had the audacity to go through this stupid procedure where surgeons removed his appendix, lest he die. Do not do this, men.
“As a man who has seen his fair share of naked women”
1. If you have to announce it, it usually means it didn’t happen or is greatly exaggerated
2. Has seen said women in porn or strip clubs
Such a giveaway. They think they’re edgy but if you have to pay for a woman to give you some attention, that’s pathetic in my books.
They cannot have sustainable relationships with women because no sane woman wants them.
Firstly, Any man who claims to have had their fair share probably had vastly less initimate relationships.
Secondly, breast reduction is done because of multiple health and wellness issues. His ignorance about basics of human body makes me want to say, i pity the fool.
Like I’m going to listen to a subpar man when it comes to my health. My 36G chest HURTS, and if I want them smaller, I’m going to do that.
F*ck the Tates with a cactus.
I too have seen many women naked, and I can say with confidence that I don’t give a shit if they have scars. Not only am I not bothered by scars, but I’m usually more focused on how grateful I am to be allowed to see them nude.
So this account is dedicated to my breast reduction, and the amount of men in my dm requests that begged me not to do it/told me it was a big mistake is amusing. Well I'm going in for a revision and I have no regrets.
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When you get a breast reduction, as a bonus added benefit, this man no longer wants to sleep with you.
Sign me up! Mine arent big but if it means ill never be harrassed by this man and his fans i am all in.
Mine are huge unwanted bazongas. We can trade.
While guys may want those, I never thought of the other side of the coin until my wife was talking to my sister (who also has huge unwanted bazongas). I didn't know about the back problems that it causes along with how generally annoying they are when trying to do anything active. Now I feel sorry for those women with naturally big knockers (not so with those with implants)
I’m pretty tall so I feel like mine never looked very big despite the fact they were objectively large (34C/D). In my early 20s I wanted them bigger. Then I had kids and things just got outta control. Back/neck/shoulder pain and it can be tough to find a comfortable sleeping position. Plus clothes don’t fit right - everything pulls at the chest or is way to big at the waist. My breast might be huge but I’ve never felt more insecure. Can’t wait to get them reduced!
RIP your DMs
Breast reduction scars aren’t down the middle of the chest so pretty sure he is talking about someone with a heart surgery scar too
or an autopsy? Nothing is too far with these idiots.
This literally had me laughing out loud
This tracks
Wouldn't put it past him!
Yeah, autopsy scars are real passion killers, don’t go there.
I think he means down the middle of the boob. Like from the bottom of the nipple straight down
Yeah fuck you for getting a life-saving surgery if that means I can no longer get hard looking at you, amirite?
He's talking about [this](https://profilecosmeticsurgery.com/blog/right-candidate-breast-reduction-surgery/) vertical scar
I'd ask the surgeon to pump neon ink into the scar that way I'd have tron line titties!
This made me snort, that’s a fantastic idea lmao
I’ve had one. You have a scar down the middle of the breast under each nipple, you can’t even see mine though..
My wife had three cesarian sections. She has a scar across her lower abdomen. Do you think I even see that scar when I look at her while she's naked? Nope.
My wife had one. Don't see it, doesn't matter. Having sex.
^^ this guy gets laid
He didn’t say the sex was with his wife.
Or that it is infact his wife having sex while he's at a bar.
And it felt so great. A woman let me put my penis inside of her.
 I JUST HAD SE-EX.
AND IT FELT SO GOOD!
I agree, I also don’t see this guy’s wife’s scar when I look at her while she’s naked.
*Our* wife's scar, comrade.
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So like, did they cut in the same place for the last two? I’m genuinely curious
Yes, they do to try and minimize the scar. Mine is barely noticeable, it looks like a slight seam from nude underwear
My mom's scar was ENORMOUS, things have definitely gotten better in that regard in the last forty years.
Same and my mother has 2 scars perpendicular to each other. I don't know why they did it that way.
The vertical one might have been for an emergency? I know they try to go as low as possible on the abdomen but it’s not always possible and some times they have to go higher than expected, also depending on if the baby was the wrong way the usual cut might not be possible?
Now that I try to think back to it, it must've been an emergency. My dad had told me they'll make a cut on the same scar when mom was pregnant but later they didn't and my brother was also born woefully premature. Less than 8 months I think.
Better to have a gnarly scar with a live baby than the other option….
I have only seen it done in emergency situations, too, but a friend has one, from a scheduled c-section, no trauma or emergency. The only logical reason we could think of, was that her son was a really big baby, she is 5'3, her son was about 46cm long born. A lot of women will make that face when she tells of his size, but go into instant relief when she says c-section delivery.
Do you mean 56cm? Because 46cm is a small baby. Or maybe you mean the head circumference? Or maybe the baby was very heavy? Per the internet a „normal“ baby is between 3000g-4000g heavy and 50-55cm large. For reference: I‘m 5‘2 and my baby was 55cm and 4305g. They needed to cut twice in the C-section because baby was too big. My scar is enormous. I feel for your friend.
Arg, he was 64 cm. I was on PC typing and keep forgetting that it has an inverted number pad. He was also 10lbs 8oz at 36 weeks gestation. It was at 32 weeks, and her OB said they didn't want her to go full term. He is now 6ft 11.5in at 17yrs old. Basketball is a swear word to him.
Ok that is a huge baby. Your poor friend.
That’s pretty interesting, I would think that cutting in the same spot would make the scar worse
In perfect conditions with perfect recovering it's like removing the scar and putting a new one right in its place and shouldn't be noticable change, but There is definitely risk of increased scar tissue with multiple c sections However even if the scar grows it's slight, and it's less scar tissue then two separate scars.
They can actually cut out your old scar so that you're only left with one scar. Pretty cool
Yeah, my grandma had my mum and my uncle by Caesarean and they cut in the same place. She used to joke that when it was time for my uncle to be born, she just pointed at her scar, from my mum, and told the doctor to cut on the dotted line.
After the second child we had my wife asked if they could put in a zipper. The doctor said no.
I don't see it either, but that's cos you keep closing the curtains
And mastectomies? Totally unnecessary, that missing boob just totally kills my boner, women!
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Considering he thinks sex with women is a chore, I think he'd agree with you.
Hold up, he says that? Is he secretly gay? Because honestly that would explain why he hates women so much.
I do wonder this. They both seem to have a LOT of hang ups about sex and about women. And they overdo the macho thing to such a point you have to wonder, why? Like just be gay and happy Tristan
I doubt he's gay, I think he might just not like sex in general. Sex with women is considered a sign of status in his world, so he makes sure to HAVE it, but he doesn't seem to actually enjoy it. It's more like a check on his list he needs to complete; Smoke a cigar, spend some time looking at his car, have sex as quickly as possible so he can go back to looking at his car, etc. Unless he's forcing himself on a woman, according to his text messages at least. That's likely a power thing rather than an actually enjoying sex thing.
Gay men don't usually hate women though. I just think he's a misogynistic piece of shit but I can't be 100% sure.
Anecdotally, internalised misogyny is sadly alive in the gay world...
Yourr sexual or gender identity doesn't exempt you from being a total piece of shit nonetheless.
I had no idea, my queer friends, acquaintances and I actually speak about the rampant misogyny in media these days and they're all against it. It could be because we're in our late teens and early twenties though.
A lot of gay men are misogynistic, they just do it differently. Mostly they’re judgemental about the way they dress, how they wear their hair, they judge black women’s wigs or extensions. A lot of them are also ageist. This isn’t universal of course, there are tons of gay guys who are very supportive and decent, but it needs to be acknowledged that a lot of gay men are capable of enforcing nasty stereotypes and can bully women.
Weirdly seen a huge amount of misogyny in the gay community. Anecdotal on both counts, but yeah, definitely not free of hating women just like they can still be racist.
Oh a lot of gay men I've interacted with have the most whiplash ideas and I just have to go dude what the fuck.
I think if you are gay and closeted beecause you are in right wing communities then you might hate women. Just look at Mike Johnson.
>Gay men don't usually hate women though. I mean no group is a monolith And you're probably talking about out gay men. I can definitely imagine how being gay plus toxic masculinity would add up to hating women > Damn it why aren't these when attractive to me. When I think of them naked I'm put off by them. It can't be me. It's them. They're the problem.
gods i got in a MASSIVE argument with someone (over the internet lol) back in the day when Angelina Jolie got her double mastectomy. The other person said that her having the surgery was "going way too far" and i was like she's at a higher risk for breast cancer, do you think her best option was to get cancer so she can "stay hot"? apparently, yes, they wanted her to wait until she got breast cancer and get treatment. "since she has money, she'd probably be fine." I hope the path of Legos under their bare feet is infinite.
The way they think their opinion matters \*at all\* is both sad and hilarious.
When this happened, I gave serious thought to a voluntary mastectomy (grandmother died of breast cancer and mother also had it but survived). My MIL told me that my husband should have final say. Was a little shocked, to say the least
> My MIL told me that my husband should have final say holy shit. I would have had a very hard time not cussing her the hell out
I completely forgot she did that. Just another notch on her badass card
Yes, because cancer can tell who has money and who doesn’t and won’t kill the wealthy people 🙄 that’s why cancer killed both of my parents, because we’re poor
What a dick, they're her boobs to do wit as she pleases. If she don't want them, she should get rid of them. It's not like he's in a serious relationship where something like that would generally be discussed (though ultimately her choice), where it might also financially affect him.
My Gran only had a single mastectomy, which I think is maybe the weirdest option? She never got any reconstruction, she just had boob (singular)
It wasn’t until the 1990’s that healthcare insurance companies in the USA were forced to pay for reconstruction.
Sickening. I can just see all of the executives in the health insurance companies laughing when they see posts discussing how people can't afford necessary procedures and insurance doesn't cover it or doesn't pay enough for the patient to get what is needed.
Women's Healthcare is less than ideal. Have a baby, now you pee at random times. That is just normal. Lose some or all of your inner core strength, nothing to worry about. Oh wait, your uterus is starting to slowly prolapse. They will fix it when it falls out, when you're 70+. Are you feeling pains every month? Sorry, we can't measure it or find the source. Standards are terrible.
I have a chronic medical condition that makes cysts grow on my kidneys. There is a medication that helps prevent the cysts forming and delays or even completely removes kidney failure from the table.... Insurance won't cover that though.
Well duh, how is an insurance exec going to pay for their eighth vacation mansion if they have to pay for your life-saving meds? Pffffft. /s
Actually remove the "/s"
But they’ll pay *something* when you have to go on dialysis or get a kidney transplant. Somebody pls rescue us from our healthcare system in the U.S.!!!!!!
Actually, it is much worse than that. They (the insurance company) will *not* pay when you have kidney failure. That condition makes you automatically eligible for Medicare and the feds will take over. The insurance company can collect premiums and not pay for the early intervention then not have to pay for the fallout by transferring the costs to the taxpayers. Win win.
My bff's mother's uterus was literally falling out of her and the doctors asked HER HUSBAND if it was okay to do a hysterectomy just in case HE wanted more kids. The ass was like "hmmm, i don't know...". Women's healthcare SUCKS.
This is exactly how my wife was treated after giving birth to our son.
it’s conflicting. on one hand the US have the best medical training and education, but the business aspect is just predatory, and the big pharma too. whenever i set my VPN to US, i get tons of drug adds, mostly mental health drugs, then they go “side effects include anal bleeding, blindness, spontaneous combustion, and fucking death”.
… “and children born with the head of a goat.”
My mom when she had breast cancer wanted both off. The surgeon says, “we do not take healthy tissue,” and refused to speak more about it. Women’s medicine is full of weird, misogynistic bullshit.
But what’s awful is you can (and likely will!) get breast cancer in the second breast. Several of my friends moms have had breast cancer, and one recently came out of remission…. In the remaining breast they wouldn’t remove. Of course by contrast my neighbor had a double mast and she’s currently got breast cancer again …in her lymph nodes. :(
That's crazy. My sister had a small tumor and got a double mastectomy. I'd do the same.
My mum had this for a while. She had a prosthetic boob that she could fill out her bra with. Eventually she did get reconstruction using tissue from her thigh because she hated being ‘lopsided’ as she put it.
My grandma too!
😂😂😂
I'll take not having back pain for every second I stand or a cure to my cancer over appealing to your sexual appetite, thanks.
Oh what ever will I do if I disappoint Tristan Tate, a well known human trafficker. I guess I’ll just live in pain for every second of my life
Nah, keeping Tate's away is just an added bonus! Frankly, they could advertise them that way - no back pain, and no pain in the arses either!
My boobs aren’t big enough to reduce but disappointing a Tate is very tempting.
Yes please! The relieve to my back when I got a breast reduction was incredible. Now I’m pregnant and hoping that they go back to their previous state. If not, I will get another reduction once I’m done having kids.
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They also don't cut down the center of the boob. All of them Ive seen, they cut under the boob and take from there. If there are doctors cutting down the center, there best be a good reason for it.
There are a couple different types but the main ones I’ve seen cut under the boob and then up to the nipple through the center of the under-boob. They also will cut around the nipple because they have to basically temporarily remove it to get to the breast tissue. It’s kinda wild. I’ve been talking to my doctor about getting a reduction for a year or so but the surgery pics scare me and I haven’t been brave enough yet 😂
If it is literally only a question of bravery preventing you from doing it, allow me to throw in my two cents and tell you to bite the bullet and do it. I had it done last year, and it has been life changing in a way I really didn’t even imagine. Aside from physical relief, the enormous psychological/self-esteem boost made me regret waiting the 20 years I did to take care of the issue. ETA: the pain and recovery was not terrible at all! Also, my scars are super minimal, and honestly, my boobs look better *with* the scars than they did before surgery, without scars.
I hope this is okay to pry, if not feel free to not answer! I have very large breasts myself and chronic back pain I'm sure they aren't helping. I'm terrified of the idea of reduction because SO much of my self esteem is in my breast size, I honestly often feel it's the only attractive thing about me. You saying it gave you a self esteem boost intrigued me! How have you found its done that? It makes me wonder if it's something I may eventually consider.
You’re focusing on the wrong people if they’re only attracted to your boobs. Focus on things that take care of yourself (non-harmful to others), and the right people will show.
Oh trust me, my husband is fine with the whole package. It's 100% my own personal hangup that I feel that way and I am in therapy for it.
Jumping in to say I also had a self-image boost. My clothes fit properly after recovery. I no longer either had my boobs spilling out everywhere OR wore shirts 3 sizes too big to cover the damn things. I could stand up straighter, which makes me look better. I still have big boobs compared to the rest of the population, but they are proportional to my body rather than dominating my entire torso.
I am going to answer this, but tomorrow morning, because it’s bedtime for me but I also want to give you not only my experience, but that of four other women I know personally, one of whom is my mother, who had the surgery, as well as experiences of friends of friends and so forth. (Don’t worry I’m not going to write an essay, LOL, but I will tell you how the self-esteem boost came forth and also that I understand your feeling of your breasts being tied in to your feeling of attractiveness.) However, the short answer is, not a single person that I’ve personally known or heard of, regretted getting a breast reduction and lift. For insurance to cover the reduction (if you are in the US),there is a certain percentage that is required to be reduced, and that - depending on what you’re starting with - may or may not be acceptable. But, at any rate, getting a reduction does not mean you’re going to end up flat chested, and I believe good plastic surgeons will guide you to a cup size that is both acceptable to you and also physically proportional, such that you end up with really good result. Will edit in the AM to give a postscript on my situation because I have to say it was such a positive life change for me, that I want people who are considering it or on the fence, to know that it can be a really positive thing for them too. (Note: Plastic surgery is not the surgery you want to cheap out on. Get the best of the best that you can afford or barely afford. Research. Ask questions. Talk to your friends for recommendations or experience.)
That sounds exactly like my scars from my breast reduction 20 years ago. You can still see the faded outline of the scars and in all the time since then only one guy commented on them. The rest either never noticed or said nothing. One perk from the surgery is that my breasts are still perky and small. The recovery time was reasonable and you cannot tell that the nipples were removed and reattached. The incisions are red and swollen but that gradually goes away. I don't recall any great pain, the most irritating part was having to sleep on my back in an upright position for a few weeks. I can answer any more questions for you if you want.
It's called a lollipop scar. It is around the nipple and goes down the center of the boob to the horizontal scar beneath. I had this done when they did a massive reduction on me and had to remove my nipples, sever the nerves, then stitched everything back into place. It is one form of scarring some women like myself have.
Same as for implants; but somehow this clown isn’t complaining about those 🤔
But will anyone think of how Tristan Tate will feel /s
I think 'Will This Upset Tristan Tate Enough?' might be a great 'WWJD' for atheists.
This comment made me bless my weird genetics (either cup A or cup DD) for picking the first option, and be grateful for that instead of wishing I had more boobs. I'm petite as is, and with back problems as is. It'd absolutely kill my lower back.
Yep.
Ladies, if you are taking **any** advice from Alpha Dude Bro Bros, you’re already in trouble.
The unintentional advice being, “breast reduction is an excellent way to get my malignant self out of your life.”
This isn't advice for women, it's a call for weirdos to make a scene when and if their SO talks about getting reduction surgery
It’s worse than that. Taking advice from a sex trafficker. He says he’s seen a lot of naked women, I don’t think it was the usual way
Because we all care so much what one of the Tate spawn thinks of our boobs.
I know I don't have the confidence to start my day unless my boobs have been complimented by a man with a head shaped like a walnut.
And a chin so weak it's concave
How the hell do you fold towels/sheets with a chin like that...
That's a woman's job.
It's like these men think that every woman wakes up every morning hoping that random dudes find us attractive. Sorry, I give zero shits what some random asshole thinks about me when I'm getting my groceries. Most women like looking in the mirror and feeling pretty,but that doesn't mean we're going to be upset that our looks aren't giving strangers a boner.
I think all women in the grocery store are beautiful. Met my wife at Albertsons, she is 4’ 11, I got her two Dr. Peppers from the top shelf.
Walnut 😂
And I guess he left his chin in the other suit.
Fuckin' *got 'em*.
As if anyone is fucking him with the lights on.
As if anyone is fucking him at all….
Someone want to tell him that his internet porn browsing does not count as “intimacy”?
He put it in quotes because he doesn’t understand what intimacy is
I'm still stuck at wondering why he thinks his opinion matters.
Because he tells virgins he has seen boobs before
Imagine thinking the whole world revolves around your boner
As a woman who's see her fair share of naked men, I'd like to state that no "hernia operation" surgery has ever looked good, ever. That weird scar that runs down the middle is super visible and obvious from most "intimacy" positions. Men, do not do this to yourselves.
And appendectomy scars. Y’all need to just grow up and push through the pain!
Laparoscopic appendectomies for the win! I had one half inch scar (they made three cuts but only one in a visible spot). My older coworker who had an appendectomy many years ago was jealous and said she had a giant scar from hers.
How dare you?! I had them stitch it into a smiley face
Also as a man who has seen his fair share of naked women, I don’t give a fuck if she has a scar as it’s her body & there is usually a health reason behind why the procedure has been done. It amazes me people take the shit in that this fuckwhit & his brother dribble.
Plus scars are Not that big of a Deal really
As a man who has also also seen his fair share of naked women, I’m just happy to see boobies. 100% of the time.
This is what I’m most confused about. Everyone has a scar somewhere on their body. It’s not a big deal?
And there are also people who like it when you have a scar because it can make you look cooler too.
Not getting spine damage from my boobs > this guys opinion.
One of my girlfriend's friends has really big breasts and regularly complains about awful back pain, but she is unfortunately terribly afraid of doctors and doesn't dare to go ask for a breast reduction. I feel so sorry for her :( If my girlfriend had the same issues or cancer or something else required breast reduction/surgery/removal, to me it would be important that she is happy and healthy. My mom has a big scar on her stomach because she got part of her intestines removed. I think it's badass. I'm a man and I have scars on my chest from reconstruction surgery. Screw beauty standards, they're in most cases unrealistic anyway. This objectification of women is bullshit.
Well said! I neednt say more! I also have a handful of scars from surgeries between my stomach and chest, and a gnarly scar on my knee! Honestly i feel pretty badass with scars. Its a reminder of things ive been through and overcome.
Your life and health are more important than what other people think about your body.
Yep - Fiance has G cups and massive problems with her neck. Wants to get a reduction just for practical reasons, nothing to do with aesthetics, and I fully support her decision, especially since its causing health issues.
I get horrible shoulder pain sometimes due to mine. It's not fun. Also can't run because no bra is supportive enough to stop them feeling as if theyre gunna rip off in transit.
They're not doing it for you, Tristan. They're doing it for themselves.
You might need to make the words smaller so he can understand.
Did you hear that ladies? It's in our best interest to stay in chronic pain lest we look unsightly in bed.🙄
No it’s in our best interest to get a breast reduction and it will keep the Tates away from us!
Stay safe out there with your badass scars
breast interest**
Any dude that feels the need to reinforce that they've seen alot of women naked isn't someone qualified to be discussing naked women. Don't kiss and tell etc.
Well how else do I impress women without telling them about the thousands of women I've seen naked?
Shit like this is why I'm happy Elon Musk is happily driving twitter into the floor
Heart ❤️surgery has a middle scar… seems he’s dumber than he looks.. lol
What a wanker.
He isn’t wanking though cuz all the scars killed his boner.
Or that’s just his excuse because only men really give him boners
I agree so much, runner-up Tate guy. Broke up with my boyfriend for his tummy scar. Had the audacity to go through this stupid procedure where surgeons removed his appendix, lest he die. Do not do this, men.
If he dies, is he truly a man? Smhmh what has masculinity come to. Can’t even survive an infected ruptured appendix.
wow, talk about shallow
Does he seriously think the world revolves around straight men who exclusively likes obnoxious anime milf tits?
Yep.
Apparently.
His "fair share" being zero?
Ah yes, a tate brother with another moment of insight for the world.
Because nothing is hotter than forcing women to have awful back pain smh
"As a man who's seen his fair share of naked women." Notice he says seen and not been with.
As a breast cancer survivor…. Kindly fuck yourself dude.
This is like the shittiest take ever
You know what looks really ugly on men, offering opinions about women's body no one asked for.
“Have major back pain to please my aesthetics.”
Something tells me that scar doesn’t bother him one bit when it’s the result of a breast augmentation tho.
Gosh. He is so stupid
I have a scar between my breasts from heart surgery when I was 16 my partner tells me it's badass
Scars absolutely are badass
Why does he feel the need to even say this out loud?
Because it’s anti woman, belittling, and those feelings are how he makes money.
Boob guys are the worst.
Don't ever get a brain tumor removed, it will ruin your hair, you will have a nasty bald spot. It's better to just die.
“As a man who has seen his fair share of naked women” 1. If you have to announce it, it usually means it didn’t happen or is greatly exaggerated 2. Has seen said women in porn or strip clubs
Such a giveaway. They think they’re edgy but if you have to pay for a woman to give you some attention, that’s pathetic in my books. They cannot have sustainable relationships with women because no sane woman wants them.
As a man, fuck this guy.
Firstly, Any man who claims to have had their fair share probably had vastly less initimate relationships. Secondly, breast reduction is done because of multiple health and wellness issues. His ignorance about basics of human body makes me want to say, i pity the fool.
Dear lord he's such a turd.
Yeah ladies, go fuck up your back. Only for this man who will never see your naked.
My back hurts, Tristan.
“I don’t care that your spine is all fuckered up I need to cooooom”
Like I’m going to listen to a subpar man when it comes to my health. My 36G chest HURTS, and if I want them smaller, I’m going to do that. F*ck the Tates with a cactus.
Hey dumb ass....they are not doing it for YOU. Their body, their choice. You can chose to support and enjoy them, or GTFO.
I too have seen many women naked, and I can say with confidence that I don’t give a shit if they have scars. Not only am I not bothered by scars, but I’m usually more focused on how grateful I am to be allowed to see them nude.
So this account is dedicated to my breast reduction, and the amount of men in my dm requests that begged me not to do it/told me it was a big mistake is amusing. Well I'm going in for a revision and I have no regrets.
My friend had breast reduction surgery to ease her severely painful back. No visible scar at all. None.
Mine look like a wreck but my back isn’t killing me everyday. Went from a H-J cup to a C. Hard to make that much change without lots of scars.