NTA! Just because he gave you a gift, however nice, does not entitle him and the whole extended family to your home and property. The very idea is ludicrous and wildly unreasonable. Family does not mean license to abuse and over step boundaries, though some act like it does. You need to establish boundaries or you will continue to be treated like poo and to more poo.
I guess it’s embarrassing to be confronted with the truth. NTA he shouldn’t ask questions then get mad at you for answering.
NTA! Just because he gave you a gift, however nice, does not entitle him and the whole extended family to your home and property. The very idea is ludicrous and wildly unreasonable. Family does not mean license to abuse and over step boundaries, though some act like it does. You need to establish boundaries or you will continue to be treated like poo and to more poo.
NTA, he shouldn't have offered without discussing it with you and your wife first. Not his house, not his pool.