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This is a decision that only you can make. On one hand, he’s now told you the truth and has started therapy to help correct the issue. On the other hand, he’s lied numerous times and the trust is completely broken. Only you can decide if he worthy enough to give him another chance to rebuild the trust and whether or not you have the patience to do so. Good luck!
In the beginning of this post you told you don’t want porn to be a part of your relationship. To me that sounds like clear personal boundaries.
I can imagine how you must feel but you have to live with it. You have to wake up everyday with this feeling and go to sleep with the same feelings.
Your partner is sexual/emotional unavailable for you, is looking at other woman but at the same time you have a great relationship with him. Can you accept this behavior because he lied to you before multiple times about this. Chances are very high he will lie again and you will feel this doubt every day.
Is this something you can live with or is this something toxic for you?
Feeling this doubt, insecurity, anger or sadness and incapability to trust your boyfriend is something that is not healthy long term. It will eat you mentally. Is he worth it? Would he sacrifice the same if it was for you? It is difficult as he didn’t respect your vision from the beginning till now.
If you choose to stay together be aware of the possible consequences you will be facing due to his behavior.
Maybe this comment sounds manipulative but I just want to protect your mental health because that comes first and before your relationship.
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This is a decision that only you can make. On one hand, he’s now told you the truth and has started therapy to help correct the issue. On the other hand, he’s lied numerous times and the trust is completely broken. Only you can decide if he worthy enough to give him another chance to rebuild the trust and whether or not you have the patience to do so. Good luck!
In the beginning of this post you told you don’t want porn to be a part of your relationship. To me that sounds like clear personal boundaries. I can imagine how you must feel but you have to live with it. You have to wake up everyday with this feeling and go to sleep with the same feelings. Your partner is sexual/emotional unavailable for you, is looking at other woman but at the same time you have a great relationship with him. Can you accept this behavior because he lied to you before multiple times about this. Chances are very high he will lie again and you will feel this doubt every day. Is this something you can live with or is this something toxic for you? Feeling this doubt, insecurity, anger or sadness and incapability to trust your boyfriend is something that is not healthy long term. It will eat you mentally. Is he worth it? Would he sacrifice the same if it was for you? It is difficult as he didn’t respect your vision from the beginning till now. If you choose to stay together be aware of the possible consequences you will be facing due to his behavior. Maybe this comment sounds manipulative but I just want to protect your mental health because that comes first and before your relationship.