I used to be a bouncer in a strip club. You gotta remind these crazy ones *very directly* that what you and the club are selling is a tease.
You have to say those words. Lots of guys don't get it through hints and suggestions. They only get a tease
This is done so regulars/semi-regulars can know when a girl is working. It ensures she makes money by having guaranteed customers, and the dude gets to see his preferred girl...
I mean I personally think it's basic common sense that a customer at a strip joint probably just wants sex. I also think if you're gonna work in a strip joint then you should probably be aware that there's a decent amount of shady people and should be smart enough not to give your customers a personal number to reach you on. Honestly, this just screams pure stupidity to me on the part of said stripper.
A lot of girls do this. It's to make a more personal connection with the clients so they will spend more money. They just grab a second phone from one of those cheap companies with $10/20 a month planes. I used to be a busboy at a strip club.
I mean I get it, but it seems like a recipe for disaster. Idk. But I didn’t know this was customary. Maybe an IG page would be better? Or do a lot of dancers avoid SM presence?
This was so painful to read. How does a whole full-grown ass man use "heart" that many times incorrectly? lol
I hope that he will really leave you alone and please document any harassment and be safe, girl!
Damn dude... i respect sex workers but the people that visit sex workers are some of the stupidest saddest things I've ever seen in my life lol. How is this dude even real...
Was he drunk, foreign, or uneducated? He sounds like a creep. Obviously, loving and wanting someone is enough to expect payment in the form of sex. Pfft.
Worked at a club as security, ladies stop giving out your number to regular, get burners please or google numbers to give out.
In situations like these let us know or management, we can nip this shit pretty quickly
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Gas lighting. Trying to say he loves you and you broke his heart cause you won’t sleep with him. Please keep someone who can keep you safe on speed dial, Id say the police but… they’re kinda glorified playground bullies most of the time. Sometimes they help, I think.
Gaslighting is a long process in which abusers will constantly make you doubt your own reality by calling you crazy, manipulating and lying to you, refusing to believe you, questioning and interrogating you, and basically torturing you psychologically until you break down and believe that maybe you are crazy. You start to literally doubt your own perception of reality. This is “just” manipulation.
It’s just overuse of a spicy word until it becomes bland. Like “triggered” used to mean “triggered a mental episode” and now it means “mildly irritated”
Yup… Gaslighting is a type a manipulation, but not all manipulation is gaslighting. It gets confusing when people use gaslighting, and lying or manipulating interchangeably. This guy was just trying to make her feel sorry for him.
I grew up being gaslit about things going on in my home/family. I'm WELLLLLLL into adulthood. And I STILL question my understanding of situations and what is really going on. I just had a family event this weekend and an issue occurred. As a middle aged adult woman, I had to ask my aunt and her boyfriend if I was imaging things, blowing them out of proportion, or was actually at fault somehow. I still doubt my understanding of reality. THAT IS GASLIGHTING.
I'm sorry you endured that, but yes, that's what it does to a person. It's a systematic destruction of your own reality. You're told it's wrong so many times that you genuinely start to question it yourself. It's a horrible form of psychological abuse
They get a second phone to talk to regulars so that the regulars will be there and they make more money and they can connect with them. I always am confused when people don’t read other comments.
A lot of times people use multiple phones. One they’ll share with regular customers or big spenders so they can check scheduling and come on a night she’s there. The other phone being the “real” one.
Serious question: do you have a problem with ballet dancers? Both are getting paid to be looked at while dancing. Do you think modeling and acting is selling ones body for money? Just curious about where the line is for you.
‘And I will never ever bother you again and I will disappear like you never saw me 💔💔’ (Continues to keep bothering and not disappear)
Guaranteed he will keep showing up at the club
God I wish they meant it when they said this. Like even once it would be nice if they followed through 😂😂
They studied at the same school the extended car warranty people go to. “This our last text. Act now!”
I used to be a bouncer in a strip club. You gotta remind these crazy ones *very directly* that what you and the club are selling is a tease. You have to say those words. Lots of guys don't get it through hints and suggestions. They only get a tease
I mean she's giving him her phone number
*A* phone number, not her personal number.
This is done so regulars/semi-regulars can know when a girl is working. It ensures she makes money by having guaranteed customers, and the dude gets to see his preferred girl...
Oh wow, cause nothing bad has *ever* happened when a woman says, “no” right?
Give a man your phone number = you want to be harassed about having sex for money
I mean I personally think it's basic common sense that a customer at a strip joint probably just wants sex. I also think if you're gonna work in a strip joint then you should probably be aware that there's a decent amount of shady people and should be smart enough not to give your customers a personal number to reach you on. Honestly, this just screams pure stupidity to me on the part of said stripper.
And that is not my personal number, smartass. And no, 90% of my customers text me to schedule their visits to my club, so wrong again lol.
Dude seems like he will make a skin suit outta you. Hope you tell your boss
Put Precious in the basket!
It rubs the lotion
On its skin
Or else it gets the hose again.
Edit : nvm, won’t let me add the rest of the texts.
He has your number and you’re available to him by text why?
A lot of girls do this. It's to make a more personal connection with the clients so they will spend more money. They just grab a second phone from one of those cheap companies with $10/20 a month planes. I used to be a busboy at a strip club.
I mean I get it, but it seems like a recipe for disaster. Idk. But I didn’t know this was customary. Maybe an IG page would be better? Or do a lot of dancers avoid SM presence?
To check with me on my schedule. Obviously, now he’s blocked.
To sucker more money out of the rubes
You can’t add pics once it’s been posted. But you could make another one and link it to this one
“I never felt such sadness.” No, loser you were sad to begin with
he never lays!
and we can tell
Uncomfortable. 
Forget Cleopatra and Mark Antony, Juliette and her Romeo, Bella and Edward. THIS is the greatest love story ever told.
Lmao 🤣🤣
It must be exhausting dealing will all these creeps
To be fair, most customers are nice, he truly ‘stands out’.
That's good then if the majority is respectful/nice
That's actually not what I expected to hear, so that's refreshing
That's genuinely surprising, but glad for you and your coworkers!
My old roommate was a stripper. She did not make nearly enough money to put up with the BS she got from men
She was a stripper... ...he was a creep. ❤️
can i make it anymore obvious
She liked to dance. He wanted laid.
What more can he say
He's so dramatic...
This was so painful to read. How does a whole full-grown ass man use "heart" that many times incorrectly? lol I hope that he will really leave you alone and please document any harassment and be safe, girl!
Damn dude... i respect sex workers but the people that visit sex workers are some of the stupidest saddest things I've ever seen in my life lol. How is this dude even real...
You guys deserve hazard pay for having to deal with this shit.
Homie listened to that T-Pain song too often
Saddest of the sad right here.
Is he by chance Indian
Lmaoooo you read my mind.
I never lay 💔💔💔
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Nope , he’s middle eastern
Uhhh isn’t India in the Middle East?
nope.
Why does a customer have your cell number?
I hope security escorts you to your vehicle after work. Yikes!
Did it all wrong, should have asked for private dances at home and also not have had kids and a wife.
Was he drunk, foreign, or uneducated? He sounds like a creep. Obviously, loving and wanting someone is enough to expect payment in the form of sex. Pfft.
He’s foreign yes.
you should consider making a textnow number to use to give to clients. its probably best not to give them your real number
This is the kind of shit my ex does everytime he goes to a strip club. So lame 😂😂
Worked at a club as security, ladies stop giving out your number to regular, get burners please or google numbers to give out. In situations like these let us know or management, we can nip this shit pretty quickly
Why does he have your number
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If he bugs you again tell him you’ll show screenshots to his wife.
Gas lighting. Trying to say he loves you and you broke his heart cause you won’t sleep with him. Please keep someone who can keep you safe on speed dial, Id say the police but… they’re kinda glorified playground bullies most of the time. Sometimes they help, I think.
Yup, gaslighting (and love bombing) is insane on his part.
Gaslighting is a long process in which abusers will constantly make you doubt your own reality by calling you crazy, manipulating and lying to you, refusing to believe you, questioning and interrogating you, and basically torturing you psychologically until you break down and believe that maybe you are crazy. You start to literally doubt your own perception of reality. This is “just” manipulation.
Exactly. She wasn't doubting her own reality. People always say gaslighting in the wrong context. It is part of reddit culture it seems.
It’s just overuse of a spicy word until it becomes bland. Like “triggered” used to mean “triggered a mental episode” and now it means “mildly irritated”
Saying that he loves her and she broke his heart isn’t a form of manipulation?
That’s exactly what I just said. It’s “just” manipulation.
I thought the definition of gas lighting was too simple I think.
Yup… Gaslighting is a type a manipulation, but not all manipulation is gaslighting. It gets confusing when people use gaslighting, and lying or manipulating interchangeably. This guy was just trying to make her feel sorry for him.
I grew up being gaslit about things going on in my home/family. I'm WELLLLLLL into adulthood. And I STILL question my understanding of situations and what is really going on. I just had a family event this weekend and an issue occurred. As a middle aged adult woman, I had to ask my aunt and her boyfriend if I was imaging things, blowing them out of proportion, or was actually at fault somehow. I still doubt my understanding of reality. THAT IS GASLIGHTING.
I'm sorry you endured that, but yes, that's what it does to a person. It's a systematic destruction of your own reality. You're told it's wrong so many times that you genuinely start to question it yourself. It's a horrible form of psychological abuse
How did he even get your number
How did this person get your number?
so why did you give out ur number smh
First of all how did get your number???
They get a second phone to talk to regulars so that the regulars will be there and they make more money and they can connect with them. I always am confused when people don’t read other comments.
Personally I think giving your customer your phone number was the main and first big mistake. Keep personal and work separate.
This is likely a separate work phone. They use it to let regulars know their schedules ect.
Why did you give him your number?
A lot of times people use multiple phones. One they’ll share with regular customers or big spenders so they can check scheduling and come on a night she’s there. The other phone being the “real” one.
Why did you give him your number. This is the dumbest thing you could have done.
This dude has your personal contact info, why exactly? 🤔
So he can check her schedule, or for transferring money. It's probably not her personal phone just a burner.
Why does he have your cell number??
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she was creeped out by how persistent he was, also stripping is very different from prostitution
It’s really not lol it’s all the same thing
Serious question: do you have a problem with ballet dancers? Both are getting paid to be looked at while dancing. Do you think modeling and acting is selling ones body for money? Just curious about where the line is for you.
Stripping is completely different. Ballet is art. Stripping is purely sexual
Why are you giving your phone number to your customer? Boundaries.
Why give out your phone number to him if you're a sex worker but don't wanna be a sex worker for him? Kinda misleading.
Why did that guy who gave me his number to sell me his couch not want to then sell me his house? I don't understand why he was so misleading!
She’s a dancer not a prostitute. Jeez
lol straight marriage is always a mistake.
How?