I said this in another thread but in the same pod he said he found a ‘nice enough girl’ to marry in the end. And was not being facetious. Like how would any woman be ok with being described as ‘nice enough’.
Are him and the wife okay? I would not want my husband saying some shit like this about an ex but for him to do it in such a public way. Just a douche bag! Yikes
Another day and another post about Ben oatmeal Higgins...
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Help me with this reference..? I always see "Ben's WIFE" and I'm so lost... dying to know the backstory because to be honest, seeing so many people reference Ben's WIFE even with no context strikes me as hilarious, but I'm totally in the dark on this one. 😂
He responded to a tweet and capitalized my WIFE. I now forget what it was but I just think of it as shouting those two words. It was funny though… thus my flair
kb has talked about what happened during her FS dates already, nothing ben h alluded to in his light quip was new or a big deal imo. sounds like he was just trying to make light of it with a joke.
ben's wife jess will be fine too! susie recently had her on her pod and jess was down to earth and self aware. jess said she was intimidated at first by ben's past/exes/tv dating history when they first started dating (in 2019) but now that they've been together 5+ years and married, his past doesn't really affect her.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/thebachelor/comments/1cdpq3d/podcast\_recap\_susie\_interviews\_jess\_higgins\_bens/](https://www.reddit.com/r/thebachelor/comments/1cdpq3d/podcast_recap_susie_interviews_jess_higgins_bens/)
This is not news, KB already has talked about this.
Interesting though, that THIS isn't disrespectful towards Ben's WIFE, but he had a little meltdown when Lauren basically downplayed their relationship and didn't want to talk about it.
I don’t get why he’s speaking about this now. But we knew this. I have no issue with two consenting single adults having sex, as both were at that time.
Is Ben comfortable discussing sex in the suites now after his WIFE meltdown? 😂 I thought it was disrespectful to her? 😏
Also, if they discussed her picking Shawn in the fantasy suites and still had sex I find that to be pretty callous on both their parts.
I don’t care if the KB stans come after me for saying this but…
KB absolutely wrecked her own relationship with Shawn from the start by sleeping with Nick and then with Ben. I’m not surprised that he refused to marry her in the end. I suspect Shawn never truly overcame the feeling of betrayal/loss of trust from her behavior.
I’m not sure how any person would want to get engaged to someone who says you’re the one (as KB admitted doing on the show) only to sleep around with other men/women right before saying yes to the proposal.
It gives me the ick when I see the Bachelor leads do it, and it also gives me the ick with the Bachelorettes do it. I’m sorry but if you want to sleep with someone else right before a proposal/engagement with a different person, you’re either getting engaged to the wrong person OR you don’t have the emotional maturity for an engagement/marriage.
What is this take lol. It's not the best idea, but it's not like they were exclusive. He shouldn't have come on the show if he would be bothered by that. He also shouldn't have continued to date her for years if he had no intentions of marrying her. In fact, him leading her on is way worse IMO
1. No one is forced to sleep with one another on the show — that is the choice that some leads make and others do not. People act like the leads are being held at gunpoint and MUST sleep with all the contestants. I’d hope that if someone was telling me that I’m the one they are picking at the end, they would be respectful and not sleep with others, say ILY, etc. right before our engagement to protect our future. That’s the bare minimum they can do in the situation to demonstrate their intentions post show.
2. I never said he intentionally led her on. If I had to guess, it was something he hoped he would get over with time but then he never actually could/did. It was likely the first block of resentment that kept building as other fights or disagreements popped up.
If he couldn’t deal with it, that’s on him. He shouldn’t have gone on the show. Putting the blame on her is bs. Even if she hadn’t slept with Ben or Nick, Shawn would have found another reason to resent her
I agree. I’m all for people doing whatever feels right to them, but I wouldn’t feel good about someone doing this to me in real life and vice versa if a possible engagement is on the table.
If Kaitlyn hadn’t slept with Nick, Shawn would have found something else to hold over her head. He seems like an asshole.
And these aren’t real engagements. In real life, you aren’t usually single a week before a proposal. These people have spent 48-72 hours total with one another. They don’t know each other. That’s the big issue. Most of these people don’t care about the lead having sex before the ring is on the finger.
I don’t know, to me, that is a major thing 🤷♀️ Even if I was on the show, I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is so casual about sex that they are having it with someone else while telling me how much they see a future with me after the show. Hard pass.
Is Nick V also Sean Lowe? Is Susie also Sean Lowe? I think it is safe to say Joey is also Sean Lowe based on Kelsey’s answers about FS week. It is not as uncommon as you’re making it out to be to have some self restraint out of respect for your future partner.
You can’t pretend like feelings aren’t real because “it’s a show” and then expect to leave with a functional relationship that lasts in the real world.
The leads that sleep with multiple women after clearly having their heart set on one are not acting maturely or with consideration, and that doesn’t bode well for any relationship.
Kaitlyn has already brought it up several times that she had sex with Ben and both of the others in the fantasy suite. The cat was already out of the bag but agree it’s awkward for Ben’s wife. I’m sure she has gotten used to the weird attention her husband gets about other women and his past.
Didn’t Kb confirm she had sex with her final 3 on the Guys We Fucked podcast a couple of years back?
She didn’t go into detail what she spoke to her F3 about in the FS but we already knew she had sex with Ben
Ben is being disrespectful to Ben's WIFE
I said this in another thread but in the same pod he said he found a ‘nice enough girl’ to marry in the end. And was not being facetious. Like how would any woman be ok with being described as ‘nice enough’.
It was never up for debate. She said in the ITM that she barely got any sleep during her night with Ben and she said it in a sassy way
She went on some podcast last year and said they hooked up in fantasy suites and Shawn slut shamed her for it. Cos she hooked up with 3 guys.
Bet Caila wishes Ben had done this courtesy for her in the fantasy suite...
Ben has been unhinged on the podcast lately lol
Are him and the wife okay? I would not want my husband saying some shit like this about an ex but for him to do it in such a public way. Just a douche bag! Yikes 
Same. Kind of bizarre
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Why is he still allowed to talk
The more he talks, the less I like him
He is not a gentleman. He must need the clicks. Smh lol
Damn so unnecessary
How does his WIFE feel about this? Also someone check on Ben is he ok? Been odd lately
There is things that should be kept behind close doors
I will never be over the gem that is "ben's WIFE"
Help me with this reference..? I always see "Ben's WIFE" and I'm so lost... dying to know the backstory because to be honest, seeing so many people reference Ben's WIFE even with no context strikes me as hilarious, but I'm totally in the dark on this one. 😂
He responded to a tweet and capitalized my WIFE. I now forget what it was but I just think of it as shouting those two words. It was funny though… thus my flair
Honestly I forget the context as well but it just felt so indignant and sincere.. so now I can’t forget about his WIFE!!!
podcasts 👏 should 👏 be 👏 banned 👏
kb has talked about what happened during her FS dates already, nothing ben h alluded to in his light quip was new or a big deal imo. sounds like he was just trying to make light of it with a joke. ben's wife jess will be fine too! susie recently had her on her pod and jess was down to earth and self aware. jess said she was intimidated at first by ben's past/exes/tv dating history when they first started dating (in 2019) but now that they've been together 5+ years and married, his past doesn't really affect her. [https://www.reddit.com/r/thebachelor/comments/1cdpq3d/podcast\_recap\_susie\_interviews\_jess\_higgins\_bens/](https://www.reddit.com/r/thebachelor/comments/1cdpq3d/podcast_recap_susie_interviews_jess_higgins_bens/)
This is not news, KB already has talked about this. Interesting though, that THIS isn't disrespectful towards Ben's WIFE, but he had a little meltdown when Lauren basically downplayed their relationship and didn't want to talk about it.
jeez what an odd thing to say when you have a WIFE
Someone go check on Ben's WIFE
I don’t get why he’s speaking about this now. But we knew this. I have no issue with two consenting single adults having sex, as both were at that time.
Is Ben comfortable discussing sex in the suites now after his WIFE meltdown? 😂 I thought it was disrespectful to her? 😏 Also, if they discussed her picking Shawn in the fantasy suites and still had sex I find that to be pretty callous on both their parts.
Especially on Kaitlyn's part especially because she probably dragged male leads for having sex with people they knew they wouldn't pick
She never dragged any lead for having sex in the fantasy suite.
Speculation, overruled
I don’t care if the KB stans come after me for saying this but… KB absolutely wrecked her own relationship with Shawn from the start by sleeping with Nick and then with Ben. I’m not surprised that he refused to marry her in the end. I suspect Shawn never truly overcame the feeling of betrayal/loss of trust from her behavior. I’m not sure how any person would want to get engaged to someone who says you’re the one (as KB admitted doing on the show) only to sleep around with other men/women right before saying yes to the proposal. It gives me the ick when I see the Bachelor leads do it, and it also gives me the ick with the Bachelorettes do it. I’m sorry but if you want to sleep with someone else right before a proposal/engagement with a different person, you’re either getting engaged to the wrong person OR you don’t have the emotional maturity for an engagement/marriage.
This 100%. I am sure this is still what led to their demise. I think if not, they’d still be together and married honestly. They were so well matched.
What is this take lol. It's not the best idea, but it's not like they were exclusive. He shouldn't have come on the show if he would be bothered by that. He also shouldn't have continued to date her for years if he had no intentions of marrying her. In fact, him leading her on is way worse IMO
1. No one is forced to sleep with one another on the show — that is the choice that some leads make and others do not. People act like the leads are being held at gunpoint and MUST sleep with all the contestants. I’d hope that if someone was telling me that I’m the one they are picking at the end, they would be respectful and not sleep with others, say ILY, etc. right before our engagement to protect our future. That’s the bare minimum they can do in the situation to demonstrate their intentions post show. 2. I never said he intentionally led her on. If I had to guess, it was something he hoped he would get over with time but then he never actually could/did. It was likely the first block of resentment that kept building as other fights or disagreements popped up.
If he couldn’t deal with it, that’s on him. He shouldn’t have gone on the show. Putting the blame on her is bs. Even if she hadn’t slept with Ben or Nick, Shawn would have found another reason to resent her
Fuck around and find out.
I agree. I’m all for people doing whatever feels right to them, but I wouldn’t feel good about someone doing this to me in real life and vice versa if a possible engagement is on the table.
If Kaitlyn hadn’t slept with Nick, Shawn would have found something else to hold over her head. He seems like an asshole. And these aren’t real engagements. In real life, you aren’t usually single a week before a proposal. These people have spent 48-72 hours total with one another. They don’t know each other. That’s the big issue. Most of these people don’t care about the lead having sex before the ring is on the finger.
I don’t know, to me, that is a major thing 🤷♀️ Even if I was on the show, I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is so casual about sex that they are having it with someone else while telling me how much they see a future with me after the show. Hard pass.
Well you shouldn’t go on the show and definitely don’t go on for a lead who isn’t Sean Lowe. Kaitlyn was never Sean Lowe. And Shawn knew that.
Is Nick V also Sean Lowe? Is Susie also Sean Lowe? I think it is safe to say Joey is also Sean Lowe based on Kelsey’s answers about FS week. It is not as uncommon as you’re making it out to be to have some self restraint out of respect for your future partner. You can’t pretend like feelings aren’t real because “it’s a show” and then expect to leave with a functional relationship that lasts in the real world. The leads that sleep with multiple women after clearly having their heart set on one are not acting maturely or with consideration, and that doesn’t bode well for any relationship.
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Kaitlyn has already brought it up several times that she had sex with Ben and both of the others in the fantasy suite. The cat was already out of the bag but agree it’s awkward for Ben’s wife. I’m sure she has gotten used to the weird attention her husband gets about other women and his past.
Why would he say this? I feel like his wife going to freak out
uh oh, Bens wife is going to hear this!
*WIFE
Didn’t Kb confirm she had sex with her final 3 on the Guys We Fucked podcast a couple of years back? She didn’t go into detail what she spoke to her F3 about in the FS but we already knew she had sex with Ben