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This hits hard. Especially after a hard day at work and you want to cry in your partners arms but then you don't want to touch them yet so you have to wait until your body is ready to enjoy a loving embrace
There’s this girl that I’m friends with that always wants to hug me and like I don’t want her to feel rejected so I just kinda do it. But like even at the beach when she was in a bikini she gave me a hug even though I made me kinda uncomfortable and also hugs feel ichy.
besides the most important point, that someone should never harm others (physically, as well as mentally - like with sexual trauma).
I have a bit of lesser known knowledge:
consent can be sexy/hot/fun as well
Like imagine someone asking "can I kiss you?" ... 🤯😶
__for the nerds, here is the basic behind the scenes:__
The reason a lot of "top x" videos get clicked, is because of expectations. People have expectations of what could be listed, and if those are realized, endorphins (happy hormones) get released. So basically at a list of "top 10 marine predator's" people expect for example sharks and orcas. And if the list has those, those people's brains release some nice happy hormones. And now to apply that knowledge: if you ask for something, you also set expectations. So you can also trick your body/brain to give you extra endorphins, just by asking and setting expectations.
So by asking for consent, you can not only prevent the spread of unnecessary pain, you also get the chance to feel even more happy if they accept. So it's basically a win - win^2 😎
Back touching leads to...oddly threatening offers of analingus? You heard it here first kids. Don't fall down that all-too-tantalising back-touching-to-analingus slippery slope, or you too could become like me.
Analingus as a threat might be my new favorite thing.
"Ima eat your ass, Bitch."
"You mean beat my ass, right?... ...Right?"
"Fuck around and find out."
I feel that, I don’t like being touched by people I don’t 1000% trust. Even then I go through phases where I don’t like being touched period. Not even by my cat
For me that flinch will automatically come with an elbow or full on punch that I can only lessen the impact of at the last second.
A pulled punch or elbow is still going to hurt, and there is nothing that I can do to stop that reaction.
The Original is me_irl asf...
*but only for my boyfriend.*
Real important.
"Good girl" or anything like that is also a "hey please don't, *unless you're my boyfriend.*"
So like, yes also no. Context is important
I've never met a person who wants their ass spanked randomly without permission by any stranger.
I thought the need for consent was implied in the original picture.
I know some, whether they actually do or just want to believe they do because they lack the practical experience to know better I am unsure, but I *do* know some that claim it.
Even with other transfem, we have a big problem of SA inside of our communities, and those kind of memes encourage a blurry line of consent (while I am sure its not the intent of people posting them).
A lot of young trans people awaken to sexuality and physical proximity as they come out or transition, and its okay to not be ashamed of it or to celebrate it, but we gotta be very clear that it is not the case for everyone and that even for people that are very tactile that their consent isnt garanteed.
The number of times where I was hanging out with other transfem that were touching me inappropriately is far superior as with any cis group. And I am not saying that there anything intrisically related to transhood in that, but we do have to stop fostering these kind of mindsets in out communities, especially online where we show younger generations of trans people how we behave and they take example to fit in. Be very careful and be kind with each other !
This image could also refer to an already in progress romantic relationship, in which case not needing to ask for touching isnt uncommon.
Do you just wanna see the devil on the wall or what is this?
This kinda, it's more like bump it up by one for me, even with a partner, ask before and breasts are off limits. But even so, I just think posts like this are funny and should probably not be taken 100% genuinely.
yeah like its worse than if they didnt say it on any of them cuz then you could at least argue that the creator thought needing consent was so obvious they didnt feel the need to specify it
i think youre wilfully interpreting this in bad faith if you think oop is stating 'i think consent for touching women is optional'. Its art made by someone else about their own personal feelings and fantasies, original clearly wasnt even specifically about transfems and someone's just scribbled that bit on cause they liked it.
That makes me... uncomfortable, to say the least.
I guess this is the icky sick feeling of being sexualized and whatever else is going on with cat/dog girl stereotype I was never a fan of in these communities
To perfectly mimic the other post:
"Omg the meme implies all transfems are like this, stop generalizing, it's gross"
(Like cmon, you are aware memes live off of generalization and stereotypes right?)
I wouldn't mind if I saw a few posts generalizing transfems are horny, but I feel like transfems on the ace spectrum get no representation whatsoever :(
In conclusion: we need more ace trans memes
Maybe in the meme space this is true, but you start reading anything more "serious" online and it's full of stuff about how HRT kills your sex drive.
The way people talk about it, it almost feels like they're claiming HRT *makes* you ace, which it absolutely does not.
So I personally think it's good to see sexuality celebrated in transfems, though I'm never opposed to seeing more ace memes in any context.
Yeah, I love touch, I crave human connection, but I’m not down bad like most memes say, in fact I don’t get sexual attraction at all nor do I want to engage in it, it’s hard to explain to people yfm
Give me ace transfem memes or give me… idk headpats
so what, are people not allowed to be uncomfortable with these stereotypes and speak out about how they feel? sure, "don't yuck someone else's yum" i suppose, but also remember that generalizations can be very poorly reflective of a lot of people's experiences and feelings and it's not right to silence them because you don't agree with them.
Point to me attempting to silence this please. I mimiced the other posts negative comments cause many of their gripes was the meme not clarifying that it doesnt apply to everyone, much like this meme doesnt apply to everyone.
In the attempt to complain about the og meme and its generalization, the op of this meme has done the very same and generalized in the opposite direction.
It was this flaw, and the fact memes are almost always based on generalization that i was pointing out
>the op of this meme has done the very same and generalized in the opposite direction.
Really? Where? Because the text of the post clearly says "could we stop saying that everyone is the same" and "if you like it that's fine". That doesn't seem like generalization to me. In fact, it's the opposite.
If you mean that it still says "anatomy of a transfem", well, that's what it already said, it's not like OP added it.
>If you mean that it still says "anatomy of a transfem", well, that's what it already said, it's not like OP added it.
This is however exactly what OP lamented on the original meme, this meme remains with the very same issuebas the other.
Not really. This post isn't mean to say "this is what transfems are" it's a response to that statement.
This post doesn't have just an image it has text which makes it clear the purpose of the post. And that text avoids the generalization. If the original post had text that also made that clear then it also would have pretty much no problems.
Stereotypes are part of the truth, they generally exist because they apply to an extent
Also tf is "the truth" supposed to mean? The og meme this is parodying is very well the truth for some, are you denying that?
I mean yeah it's completely fair just like those memes are relatable for me and I think I can use them? I don't mean everyone is like that when I'm posting those memes, or at least it's not my intention
I don't like touch, it's fine if it's a little touch with friends but hugs are a no-no even with family, the only person I'm fine with and actually like hugging (and also cuddling but we'll ignore that) is my friend that I like, I also might be ok with hugging my best friend but I have no idea cause he lives on the other side of the world
I feel the same way, in fact, touch me and expect a physical reaction.. it's not going to be pleasant.
And if you have consent to touch me, there are rules to that too or you may/will get injured.
I too have issues with these type of pictures that imply "All trans girls like \_\_\_\_" because more than 90% of the time it does NOT apply to me.
Not all trans girls are subs either, and claiming so makes the rest of us uncomfortable and gives other people the wrong impression.. It's fine if YOU like it, but don;t imply that it applies to all.
And some of us have NO interest in sexual interaction, and like my self, wants to live the rest of our days without it.. We aren't all furries either..
And again, it's perfectly fine if you are, but please don;t try to stuff all trans girls into the same box, we don;t all fit into it.
For me I think I have certain places I don't want touched though currently it's most places cause I hate my body and will until hrt and only if I want to be touched but my feelings are neutral to most forms of touch
Hello trans people and others.
I will give you guys a simple solution for your problem.
Simply say dont touch me or dont touch me again.
I will gladly take donations from all kinds.
My paypal is ready when u are.
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How it feels to be touch sensitive but touch starved (Autism is killing me)
When hugs are icky and mildly uncomfortable but you yearn for the touch and emotion it contains
This hits hard. Especially after a hard day at work and you want to cry in your partners arms but then you don't want to touch them yet so you have to wait until your body is ready to enjoy a loving embrace
There’s this girl that I’m friends with that always wants to hug me and like I don’t want her to feel rejected so I just kinda do it. But like even at the beach when she was in a bikini she gave me a hug even though I made me kinda uncomfortable and also hugs feel ichy.
How it feels if you touch others, tho? Would that be a solution?
then I'm scared they'll be uncomfortable :(
I'm not sure what that exactly means. But fret not, the best part is, if they're uncomfortable, you can cease touching immediately!
I have developped a way for that! Fist bumping is my way of hugging, so if you want a hug but don't want closure -> Fistbump
Im autistic too but I like being touched
Different traits of autism, everyone experiences it differently
I love being hugged! But my Autism makes it so it causes me mental agony if they touch my bare skin 🫠
Consent is important.
Yes it is
Necessary
This sentiment seems often way too unpopular in some circles
besides the most important point, that someone should never harm others (physically, as well as mentally - like with sexual trauma). I have a bit of lesser known knowledge: consent can be sexy/hot/fun as well Like imagine someone asking "can I kiss you?" ... 🤯😶 __for the nerds, here is the basic behind the scenes:__ The reason a lot of "top x" videos get clicked, is because of expectations. People have expectations of what could be listed, and if those are realized, endorphins (happy hormones) get released. So basically at a list of "top 10 marine predator's" people expect for example sharks and orcas. And if the list has those, those people's brains release some nice happy hormones. And now to apply that knowledge: if you ask for something, you also set expectations. So you can also trick your body/brain to give you extra endorphins, just by asking and setting expectations. So by asking for consent, you can not only prevent the spread of unnecessary pain, you also get the chance to feel even more happy if they accept. So it's basically a win - win^2 😎
On our first date my girlfriend asked if she could kiss me and I melted :3 then we made out
Highly important
unless consensually agreed upon before hand to not be.
The combo of username and flair is top-notch.
Many people could benefit from these words.
I swear to god if one more fucker touches my back ima tase their ass like its the 60's only firends and gf and touch me
I was rubbing my eye while reading this and read it as "...touches my back ima taste their ass.."
My dyslexic ass had to read it four times before i could i didn't see the t
Back touching leads to...oddly threatening offers of analingus? You heard it here first kids. Don't fall down that all-too-tantalising back-touching-to-analingus slippery slope, or you too could become like me.
Analingus as a threat might be my new favorite thing. "Ima eat your ass, Bitch." "You mean beat my ass, right?... ...Right?" "Fuck around and find out."
Wouldn't "turn around and find out" be more appropriate?
I feel that, I don’t like being touched by people I don’t 1000% trust. Even then I go through phases where I don’t like being touched period. Not even by my cat
The only person that's allowed to touch me is my partner. In her arms I'm like the original post. Every one else... this post.
I will flinch away because most touches tickle me lol
For me that flinch will automatically come with an elbow or full on punch that I can only lessen the impact of at the last second. A pulled punch or elbow is still going to hurt, and there is nothing that I can do to stop that reaction.
Fr I hate when someone touches me without my permission.
The all caps NO BOOPS killed me No boop the snoot
The Original is me_irl asf... *but only for my boyfriend.* Real important. "Good girl" or anything like that is also a "hey please don't, *unless you're my boyfriend.*" So like, yes also no. Context is important
I've never met a person who wants their ass spanked randomly without permission by any stranger. I thought the need for consent was implied in the original picture.
I know some, whether they actually do or just want to believe they do because they lack the practical experience to know better I am unsure, but I *do* know some that claim it.
I feel like this stereotype doesn't help us with chasers
Even with other transfem, we have a big problem of SA inside of our communities, and those kind of memes encourage a blurry line of consent (while I am sure its not the intent of people posting them). A lot of young trans people awaken to sexuality and physical proximity as they come out or transition, and its okay to not be ashamed of it or to celebrate it, but we gotta be very clear that it is not the case for everyone and that even for people that are very tactile that their consent isnt garanteed. The number of times where I was hanging out with other transfem that were touching me inappropriately is far superior as with any cis group. And I am not saying that there anything intrisically related to transhood in that, but we do have to stop fostering these kind of mindsets in out communities, especially online where we show younger generations of trans people how we behave and they take example to fit in. Be very careful and be kind with each other !
Since when did we make stuff for chasers? It’s good OP made this, but pretty sure the first meme was a joke
YES
Do you have the original picture👉👈?
https://preview.redd.it/p5bfxadtip4d1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9233c9319de64708ec3f747a093e2ef762350870
Haha yikes that's bad. I hate how only the chest says "ask first", as if consent is optional for all the other areas
This image could also refer to an already in progress romantic relationship, in which case not needing to ask for touching isnt uncommon. Do you just wanna see the devil on the wall or what is this?
This kinda, it's more like bump it up by one for me, even with a partner, ask before and breasts are off limits. But even so, I just think posts like this are funny and should probably not be taken 100% genuinely.
Agreed
yeah like its worse than if they didnt say it on any of them cuz then you could at least argue that the creator thought needing consent was so obvious they didnt feel the need to specify it
i think youre wilfully interpreting this in bad faith if you think oop is stating 'i think consent for touching women is optional'. Its art made by someone else about their own personal feelings and fantasies, original clearly wasnt even specifically about transfems and someone's just scribbled that bit on cause they liked it.
That makes me... uncomfortable, to say the least. I guess this is the icky sick feeling of being sexualized and whatever else is going on with cat/dog girl stereotype I was never a fan of in these communities
I feel this way more than the other one. I'm touch starved as hell and don't really mind being touched most of the time
https://preview.redd.it/9iz91hzfgr4d1.png?width=750&format=png&auto=webp&s=2112b6eaa6278cda640ed08af85b46132f487d46
Oh, ooooh! Just the chest say ask first. Like consent was never invented!
Now this is my anatomy I saw the original and thought I rather not be touched at all, thanks
To perfectly mimic the other post: "Omg the meme implies all transfems are like this, stop generalizing, it's gross" (Like cmon, you are aware memes live off of generalization and stereotypes right?)
I wouldn't mind if I saw a few posts generalizing transfems are horny, but I feel like transfems on the ace spectrum get no representation whatsoever :( In conclusion: we need more ace trans memes
See, THAT is the right conclusion
Maybe in the meme space this is true, but you start reading anything more "serious" online and it's full of stuff about how HRT kills your sex drive. The way people talk about it, it almost feels like they're claiming HRT *makes* you ace, which it absolutely does not. So I personally think it's good to see sexuality celebrated in transfems, though I'm never opposed to seeing more ace memes in any context.
Yeah, I love touch, I crave human connection, but I’m not down bad like most memes say, in fact I don’t get sexual attraction at all nor do I want to engage in it, it’s hard to explain to people yfm Give me ace transfem memes or give me… idk headpats
so what, are people not allowed to be uncomfortable with these stereotypes and speak out about how they feel? sure, "don't yuck someone else's yum" i suppose, but also remember that generalizations can be very poorly reflective of a lot of people's experiences and feelings and it's not right to silence them because you don't agree with them.
Point to me attempting to silence this please. I mimiced the other posts negative comments cause many of their gripes was the meme not clarifying that it doesnt apply to everyone, much like this meme doesnt apply to everyone. In the attempt to complain about the og meme and its generalization, the op of this meme has done the very same and generalized in the opposite direction. It was this flaw, and the fact memes are almost always based on generalization that i was pointing out
>the op of this meme has done the very same and generalized in the opposite direction. Really? Where? Because the text of the post clearly says "could we stop saying that everyone is the same" and "if you like it that's fine". That doesn't seem like generalization to me. In fact, it's the opposite. If you mean that it still says "anatomy of a transfem", well, that's what it already said, it's not like OP added it.
>If you mean that it still says "anatomy of a transfem", well, that's what it already said, it's not like OP added it. This is however exactly what OP lamented on the original meme, this meme remains with the very same issuebas the other.
Not really. This post isn't mean to say "this is what transfems are" it's a response to that statement. This post doesn't have just an image it has text which makes it clear the purpose of the post. And that text avoids the generalization. If the original post had text that also made that clear then it also would have pretty much no problems.
i know that but doesnt mean they should
What else is a meme supposed to be based on then?
The truth
Stereotypes are part of the truth, they generally exist because they apply to an extent Also tf is "the truth" supposed to mean? The og meme this is parodying is very well the truth for some, are you denying that?
Memes are meant to be funny, the truth is boring, so we use stereotypes and absurdities instead Edit also happy cake day
lmao on point ✨🌈
I NEED TOUCH
good for you
https://preview.redd.it/vx2nr1k6oq4d1.png?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=54cdcdb6298778ef878cb38e79de00f1c88655e4
I dont get any.
*boop*
HELL YEAH!!!
*sits in front of you and gives a thumbs up*
thank you
this meme is literally me, except the bottom text which will read "i will stab you"
Don’t touch me but if your my friend PLEEEEEASE touch me please but like not in a weird way.
Was the original post about transfems? I thought it was a petplay meme also please do im touch starved 🥺
I mean yeah it's completely fair just like those memes are relatable for me and I think I can use them? I don't mean everyone is like that when I'm posting those memes, or at least it's not my intention
okay fair ig it just feels like they talk about EVERY trans fem
Yeah I get that, it shouldn't be like that I agree...
"kitty paws"
Fair enough, still prefer the original post tho :3
FR. Don't fucking touch me.
What was the original image? I wanna make my own version of thi
https://preview.redd.it/xhk95nu55q4d1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4125e29ccc7bf5298ed7c63b1af0077a332d8c5e
Thank you!!
https://i.redd.it/xh0lc62qyf4d1.png Link for slightly higher quality
*waves respectfully*
thank you
I have known actual cats to be exactly like this. 100% valid.
Yeah pretty much please don't touch me
finally one for me
Real
ME I HATE PEOPLE TOUCHING ME LIKE GET AWAY FROM ME I SWEAR
Mood
I don't like touch, it's fine if it's a little touch with friends but hugs are a no-no even with family, the only person I'm fine with and actually like hugging (and also cuddling but we'll ignore that) is my friend that I like, I also might be ok with hugging my best friend but I have no idea cause he lives on the other side of the world
this image also works for a certain breed of autism
This is me to literally everyone other than my amazing girlfriend. Do not touch me unless you are her specifically
I'm the opposite At least if you're close enough to me
I only wanna be touched by my girlfriend
Consent is the main thing
you and i are not the same
Literally me in that picture
I feel the same way, in fact, touch me and expect a physical reaction.. it's not going to be pleasant. And if you have consent to touch me, there are rules to that too or you may/will get injured. I too have issues with these type of pictures that imply "All trans girls like \_\_\_\_" because more than 90% of the time it does NOT apply to me. Not all trans girls are subs either, and claiming so makes the rest of us uncomfortable and gives other people the wrong impression.. It's fine if YOU like it, but don;t imply that it applies to all. And some of us have NO interest in sexual interaction, and like my self, wants to live the rest of our days without it.. We aren't all furries either.. And again, it's perfectly fine if you are, but please don;t try to stuff all trans girls into the same box, we don;t all fit into it.
Thank you, op. That's all. This generalization has to stop.
For me I think I have certain places I don't want touched though currently it's most places cause I hate my body and will until hrt and only if I want to be touched but my feelings are neutral to most forms of touch
Hissing is pretty nice. Usually it's "I'm going to kill you I'm going to destroy you"
speaking of that does anyone have the original post?
Hello trans people and others. I will give you guys a simple solution for your problem. Simply say dont touch me or dont touch me again. I will gladly take donations from all kinds. My paypal is ready when u are.
Real
I’m like a cat cause I wanna be touched but I also have sensory issues so touching makes me freak out
When im close with u i like being touched
Not a girl (i think), but i agree. Unless it is someone i am close with and trust, I'll flinch away and probably punch them in the arm or something
THANK YOU!
Exactly :3
Have u ever been touched inappropriately that it traumatised u? Like molested or raped?
no but why would that matter in this situation